Need help with a Taurus Guy

This is going to be a long post, and I’m sorry to the kind souls who would read it. But I really want to know if there’s anything I can do.

I met this guy while at work when he was an intern here. He seemed very relaxed and chill and I somehow decided to tease him sometimes to get some reaction. Despite knowing it was wrong and extremely unprofessional to do so at a workplace, I would ‘accidentally’ graze his fingers while he passed me things, or would lean in towards his shoulder and arm while talking to him (did this twice). Every time these happened, he didn’t seem fazed. During the last 2-3 weeks of his internship, I realised that I was looking forward to the days that I get to work with him. I didn’t think much of it, just simply thought that I was happy to get to work with people around my age group as my colleagues were more than ten years older. Then on the last week, I was sad that we were counting down to the days he end his internship. It was on the night of his last day that I cried when I realised I wouldn’t be seeing him around anymore. I didn’t understand why I would be so upset, and told my Friend about it, to which she asked if I had feelings for him. I gave it a good thought for about a week. I really did. And came to the conclusion that maybe I like him. And I also decided to tell him, because if I were to text him it would feel like I have a motive. So I asked him if I could meet him and have a talk, but since he is back to school and I still have work, we had conflicting schedules and decided to ask if I could call him instead. And so I did. At the start, i said that I hope after what I’m going to tell him, we can still remain as friends. Then I told him ‘ I think I like you ‘. He kept quiet and didn’t say anything, so I asked if he heard what I said. He just replied that he wasn’t sure if he heard wrongly, and I said that I didn’t think he did. He then asked if this was all that I wanted to tell him, and I said yes. He became quiet again, so I asked if he had anything to say to me, twice, before he finally said ‘ just for the record, I’m not interested’. After the call, his replies to my texts were a few words or no replies at all. I felt that this wasn’t going anywhere, so I asked if he was awkward with texting me to which he replied of course. I tried to tell him that I hope we could put the awkwardness aside and continue to be friends, and he simply replied that he will try. But even after that it was the same. So I just stopped texting him. I didn’t want to annoy him and have him end up hating me. During this period, I went for a short trip overseas and bought some snacks back. I passed it to another ex-intern and had her pass along his share to him when they meet in school. He texted me that day to thank me for it. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up and have a meal together, and he said he don’t mind if it’s a group. I asked the other ex-intern and we have arranged to meet sometime next month for a meal (whether he’s going to turn up is another thing).

I’m not pushing for any miracle out of it, but I would like to at least maintain a friendship. I’m afraid I might come across as being aggressive if I were to continuously try and contact him, and he might get fed up with me. The other reason is that I’m four years older than him (and I’m a Scorpio 16/11, and he’s a Taurus 27/4). I don’t really know how to go about this too. If any of you have any advice or thought, please do share! Thanks.

I will say this...taurus are blunt. They don't beat around the bush. He said he's not interested, he means it.

He might even have a girlfriend or someone he is interested in.

I know you keep saying you are looking for friendship... is that true, or do you have a motive you can convince him otherwise? Taurus know these tricks and don't appreciate them.

Also you already stated you're feelings for him. Too tricky now to be friends.

My Taurus guy said he's only friends with females if He is interested, otherwise he has no other reason .

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

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Then again I told my guy a bunch of times it was "never going to happen" "you're off the table" and even "sorry. I'm really not attracted to you in the least bit"

...*insert foot in mouth here*

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

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yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I appload to every one who keep pursuing after been told ‘not intereated’...

However he might had been shocked at revelation of the feelings. Then couldn’t shake off those thoughts. And started thinking and remembering. His ego got inflated. He started feeling good knowing someone into him.

And that ‘innocent’ jesture of sweets passing made him realize that...’maybe’...or ‘wow! there is a chance’...

Honestly I don’t see why man who is still not interested instead of munching all the sent goodies and forget about a sender would reply and suggest daring? Anyone?

Yeah...call me Missis King!

I have a dream...

Posted by jeane

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

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Cringy...

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Posted by Jayeeas

This is going to be a long post, and I’m sorry to the kind souls who would read it. But I really want to know if there’s anything I can do.

I met this guy while at work when he was an intern here. He seemed very relaxed and chill and I somehow decided to tease him sometimes to get some reaction. Despite knowing it was wrong and extremely unprofessional to do so at a workplace, I would ‘accidentally’ graze his fingers while he passed me things, or would lean in towards his shoulder and arm while talking to him (did this twice). Every time these happened, he didn’t seem fazed. During the last 2-3 weeks of his internship, I realised that I was looking forward to the days that I get to work with him. I didn’t think much of it, just simply thought that I was happy to get to work with people around my age group as my colleagues were more than ten years older. Then on the last week, I was sad that we were counting down to the days he end his internship. It was on the night of his last day that I cried when I realised I wouldn’t be seeing him around anymore. I didn’t understand why I would be so upset, and told my Friend about it, to which she asked if I had feelings for him. I gave it a good thought for about a week. I really did. And came to the conclusion that maybe I like him. And I also decided to tell him, because if I were to text him it would feel like I have a motive. So I asked him if I could meet him and have a talk, but since he is back to school and I still have work, we had conflicting schedules and decided to ask if I could call him instead. And so I did. At the start, i said that I hope after what I’m going to tell him, we can still remain as friends. Then I told him ‘ I think I like you ‘. He kept quiet and didn’t say anything, so I asked if he heard what I said. He just replied that he wasn’t sure if he heard wrongly, and I said that I didn’t think he did. He then asked if this was all that I wanted to tell him, and I said yes. He became quiet again, so I asked if he had anything to say to me, twice, before he finally said ‘ just for the record, I’m not interested’. After the call, his replies to my texts were a few words or no replies at all. I felt that this wasn’t going anywhere, so I asked if he was awkward with texting me to which he replied of course. I tried to tell him that I hope we could put the awkwardness aside and continue to be friends, and he simply replied that he will try. But even after that it was the same. So I just stopped texting him. I didn’t want to annoy him and have him end up hating me. During this period, I went for a short trip overseas and bought some snacks back. I passed it to another ex-intern and had her pass along his share to him when they meet in school. He texted me that day to thank me for it. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up and have a meal together, and he said he don’t mind if it’s a group. I asked the other ex-intern and we have arranged to meet sometime next month for a meal (whether he’s going to turn up is another thing).

I’m not pushing for any miracle out of it, but I would like to at least maintain a friendship. I’m afraid I might come across as being aggressive if I were to continuously try and contact him, and he might get fed up with me. The other reason is that I’m four years older than him (and I’m a Scorpio 16/11, and he’s a Taurus 27/4). I don’t really know how to go about this too. If any of you have any advice or thought, please do share! Thanks.

If a guy were to touch a woman at work place...

Smh

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They were, they are and they will continue...and you can shake your head until it falls off! It’s an animal instinct! Lol

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

"He didn't seem fazed"

He wanted it, your honour.

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he giggled and laughed your honour. i swear, i saw nothing improper in my behaviour.

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Squishy

Posted by Jayeeas

This is going to be a long post, and I’m sorry to the kind souls who would read it. But I really want to know if there’s anything I can do.

I met this guy while at work when he was an intern here. He seemed very relaxed and chill and I somehow decided to tease him sometimes to get some reaction. Despite knowing it was wrong and extremely unprofessional to do so at a workplace, I would ‘accidentally’ graze his fingers while he passed me things, or would lean in towards his shoulder and arm while talking to him (did this twice). Every time these happened, he didn’t seem fazed. During the last 2-3 weeks of his internship, I realised that I was looking forward to the days that I get to work with him. I didn’t think much of it, just simply thought that I was happy to get to work with people around my age group as my colleagues were more than ten years older. Then on the last week, I was sad that we were counting down to the days he end his internship. It was on the night of his last day that I cried when I realised I wouldn’t be seeing him around anymore. I didn’t understand why I would be so upset, and told my Friend about it, to which she asked if I had feelings for him. I gave it a good thought for about a week. I really did. And came to the conclusion that maybe I like him. And I also decided to tell him, because if I were to text him it would feel like I have a motive. So I asked him if I could meet him and have a talk, but since he is back to school and I still have work, we had conflicting schedules and decided to ask if I could call him instead. And so I did. At the start, i said that I hope after what I’m going to tell him, we can still remain as friends. Then I told him ‘ I think I like you ‘. He kept quiet and didn’t say anything, so I asked if he heard what I said. He just replied that he wasn’t sure if he heard wrongly, and I said that I didn’t think he did. He then asked if this was all that I wanted to tell him, and I said yes. He became quiet again, so I asked if he had anything to say to me, twice, before he finally said ‘ just for the record, I’m not interested’. After the call, his replies to my texts were a few words or no replies at all. I felt that this wasn’t going anywhere, so I asked if he was awkward with texting me to which he replied of course. I tried to tell him that I hope we could put the awkwardness aside and continue to be friends, and he simply replied that he will try. But even after that it was the same. So I just stopped texting him. I didn’t want to annoy him and have him end up hating me. During this period, I went for a short trip overseas and bought some snacks back. I passed it to another ex-intern and had her pass along his share to him when they meet in school. He texted me that day to thank me for it. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up and have a meal together, and he said he don’t mind if it’s a group. I asked the other ex-intern and we have arranged to meet sometime next month for a meal (whether he’s going to turn up is another thing).

I’m not pushing for any miracle out of it, but I would like to at least maintain a friendship. I’m afraid I might come across as being aggressive if I were to continuously try and contact him, and he might get fed up with me. The other reason is that I’m four years older than him (and I’m a Scorpio 16/11, and he’s a Taurus 27/4). I don’t really know how to go about this too. If any of you have any advice or thought, please do share! Thanks.

If a guy were to touch a woman at work place...

Smh

They were, they are and they will continue...and you can shake your head until it falls off! It’s an animal instinct! Lol

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animal instinct? can't help themselves?

I'd move on if I were you and let the friendship happen naturally (if it even does) rather than force the issue.

I didnt pick up on the creep factor...maybe I'm a creep, I'm a weirdo? What the he'll am I doing here?...

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Squishy

Posted by Jayeeas

This is going to be a long post, and I’m sorry to the kind souls who would read it. But I really want to know if there’s anything I can do.

I met this guy while at work when he was an intern here. He seemed very relaxed and chill and I somehow decided to tease him sometimes to get some reaction. Despite knowing it was wrong and extremely unprofessional to do so at a workplace, I would ‘accidentally’ graze his fingers while he passed me things, or would lean in towards his shoulder and arm while talking to him (did this twice). Every time these happened, he didn’t seem fazed. During the last 2-3 weeks of his internship, I realised that I was looking forward to the days that I get to work with him. I didn’t think much of it, just simply thought that I was happy to get to work with people around my age group as my colleagues were more than ten years older. Then on the last week, I was sad that we were counting down to the days he end his internship. It was on the night of his last day that I cried when I realised I wouldn’t be seeing him around anymore. I didn’t understand why I would be so upset, and told my Friend about it, to which she asked if I had feelings for him. I gave it a good thought for about a week. I really did. And came to the conclusion that maybe I like him. And I also decided to tell him, because if I were to text him it would feel like I have a motive. So I asked him if I could meet him and have a talk, but since he is back to school and I still have work, we had conflicting schedules and decided to ask if I could call him instead. And so I did. At the start, i said that I hope after what I’m going to tell him, we can still remain as friends. Then I told him ‘ I think I like you ‘. He kept quiet and didn’t say anything, so I asked if he heard what I said. He just replied that he wasn’t sure if he heard wrongly, and I said that I didn’t think he did. He then asked if this was all that I wanted to tell him, and I said yes. He became quiet again, so I asked if he had anything to say to me, twice, before he finally said ‘ just for the record, I’m not interested’. After the call, his replies to my texts were a few words or no replies at all. I felt that this wasn’t going anywhere, so I asked if he was awkward with texting me to which he replied of course. I tried to tell him that I hope we could put the awkwardness aside and continue to be friends, and he simply replied that he will try. But even after that it was the same. So I just stopped texting him. I didn’t want to annoy him and have him end up hating me. During this period, I went for a short trip overseas and bought some snacks back. I passed it to another ex-intern and had her pass along his share to him when they meet in school. He texted me that day to thank me for it. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up and have a meal together, and he said he don’t mind if it’s a group. I asked the other ex-intern and we have arranged to meet sometime next month for a meal (whether he’s going to turn up is another thing).

I’m not pushing for any miracle out of it, but I would like to at least maintain a friendship. I’m afraid I might come across as being aggressive if I were to continuously try and contact him, and he might get fed up with me. The other reason is that I’m four years older than him (and I’m a Scorpio 16/11, and he’s a Taurus 27/4). I don’t really know how to go about this too. If any of you have any advice or thought, please do share! Thanks.

If a guy were to touch a woman at work place...

Smh

They were, they are and they will continue...and you can shake your head until it falls off! It’s an animal instinct! Lol

Right!

And let's not forget that people get up and go to work to make a living so they can live their life with dignity. Not everyone wants to get "grazed" by creepos.

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Where have I said they want?

I said it past, present and future no matter how punishable itnis by law!

Posted by jeane

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Squishy

Posted by Jayeeas

This is going to be a long post, and I’m sorry to the kind souls who would read it. But I really want to know if there’s anything I can do.

I met this guy while at work when he was an intern here. He seemed very relaxed and chill and I somehow decided to tease him sometimes to get some reaction. Despite knowing it was wrong and extremely unprofessional to do so at a workplace, I would ‘accidentally’ graze his fingers while he passed me things, or would lean in towards his shoulder and arm while talking to him (did this twice). Every time these happened, he didn’t seem fazed. During the last 2-3 weeks of his internship, I realised that I was looking forward to the days that I get to work with him. I didn’t think much of it, just simply thought that I was happy to get to work with people around my age group as my colleagues were more than ten years older. Then on the last week, I was sad that we were counting down to the days he end his internship. It was on the night of his last day that I cried when I realised I wouldn’t be seeing him around anymore. I didn’t understand why I would be so upset, and told my Friend about it, to which she asked if I had feelings for him. I gave it a good thought for about a week. I really did. And came to the conclusion that maybe I like him. And I also decided to tell him, because if I were to text him it would feel like I have a motive. So I asked him if I could meet him and have a talk, but since he is back to school and I still have work, we had conflicting schedules and decided to ask if I could call him instead. And so I did. At the start, i said that I hope after what I’m going to tell him, we can still remain as friends. Then I told him ‘ I think I like you ‘. He kept quiet and didn’t say anything, so I asked if he heard what I said. He just replied that he wasn’t sure if he heard wrongly, and I said that I didn’t think he did. He then asked if this was all that I wanted to tell him, and I said yes. He became quiet again, so I asked if he had anything to say to me, twice, before he finally said ‘ just for the record, I’m not interested’. After the call, his replies to my texts were a few words or no replies at all. I felt that this wasn’t going anywhere, so I asked if he was awkward with texting me to which he replied of course. I tried to tell him that I hope we could put the awkwardness aside and continue to be friends, and he simply replied that he will try. But even after that it was the same. So I just stopped texting him. I didn’t want to annoy him and have him end up hating me. During this period, I went for a short trip overseas and bought some snacks back. I passed it to another ex-intern and had her pass along his share to him when they meet in school. He texted me that day to thank me for it. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up and have a meal together, and he said he don’t mind if it’s a group. I asked the other ex-intern and we have arranged to meet sometime next month for a meal (whether he’s going to turn up is another thing).

I’m not pushing for any miracle out of it, but I would like to at least maintain a friendship. I’m afraid I might come across as being aggressive if I were to continuously try and contact him, and he might get fed up with me. The other reason is that I’m four years older than him (and I’m a Scorpio 16/11, and he’s a Taurus 27/4). I don’t really know how to go about this too. If any of you have any advice or thought, please do share! Thanks.

If a guy were to touch a woman at work place...

Smh

They were, they are and they will continue...and you can shake your head until it falls off! It’s an animal instinct! Lol

animal instinct? can't help themselves?

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No...just going with an instinct...WOW! An ass! Gotta slap!

I don’t think at that time any brain cells are doing their job! Lmao

personally I think you did what you could.

you recognized you liked him, you told him you liked him.

he said he wasn't interested, but he is still friendly which appears to be what you hope for after all.

I think he never considered you liked him until you said it, he most likely just was completely professional and it never crossed his mind. he is as well in school which can be very challenging for anyone trying to start a "relationship" and If I know bulls, they are focused on ONE thing at a time. and his focus is probably on his career because they are also stability motivated. his career gives him stability and that is his focus not on establishing a relationship. he just doesn't want to pull more to this plate. so I would say although you are aggressive for sure (which I love and he might unknowingly love as well) keep reaching out on occasion. just don't reach out obsessively. take no for an answer, allow him time to get to know you more on a less professional level. if it happens allow time to play its part but continue to live your own life, don't let this mask other great things. all in all if it doesn't happen at least you can be cool

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

Then again I told my guy a bunch of times it was "never going to happen" "you're off the table" and even "sorry. I'm really not attracted to you in the least bit"

...*insert foot in mouth here*

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LOL

Posted by Boots1313

I will say this...taurus are blunt. They don't beat around the bush. He said he's not interested, he means it.

He might even have a girlfriend or someone he is interested in.

I know you keep saying you are looking for friendship... is that true, or do you have a motive you can convince him otherwise? Taurus know these tricks and don't appreciate them.

Also you already stated you're feelings for him. Too tricky now to be friends.

My Taurus guy said he's only friends with females if He is interested, otherwise he has no other reason .

I know he is interested in someone, he never told her but friends made it obvious and she avoided him. He said it once while we were chatting.

As for wanting to be friends, I don’t know how to put it. When I decided to tell him how I feel, it was because I didn’t think it was right for me to try and text him while keeping it from him because it would seem like I have a motive and keeping it from him. I wasn’t expecting a positive answer, since he didn’t show any interest at all. But now as things are, I haven’t texted him after that. Responsibility of arranging the meal became the other ex-intern’s, because her new internship schedule and school schedule clashed and she will arrange for a day she is free.

Side tracking abit, I do have a Taurus guy Friend whom I liked many years back. We’ve never gotten together, but maintained a friendship. We text each other often, go out together for meals and movies, and sometimes talk on the phone for hours. I’ve also went to his house before, met his parents and sibling(I’m Asian, and bringing a girl/guy whom you are not together with is just... complicating. LOL). We even talked about this years later, like it was a good thing we were never together, else I would never have such a great Friend like you. There’s no lingering feelings or anything. We share with each other who we like and all that (I told him about this and he advised me to just move on and forget about him and even called him a coward T.T)

Posted by jeane

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

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I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

Posted by Jayeeas

Posted by jeane

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

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maybe. just put yourself in his shoes. how would this this look to you?

without question, your intention is not to be predatory but it could be perceived this way.

Posted by Gemitati

I appload to every one who keep pursuing after been told ‘not intereated’...

However he might had been shocked at revelation of the feelings. Then couldn’t shake off those thoughts. And started thinking and remembering. His ego got inflated. He started feeling good knowing someone into him.

And that ‘innocent’ jesture of sweets passing made him realize that...’maybe’...or ‘wow! there is a chance’...

Honestly I don’t see why man who is still not interested instead of munching all the sent goodies and forget about a sender would reply and suggest daring? Anyone?

Yeah...call me Missis King!

I have a dream...

I admit that I am someone who tend to think too much, but for this I would say courtesy. Isn’t it only right for you to thank someone when they give you something?

Posted by earlorg16

I'd move on if I were you and let the friendship happen naturally (if it even does) rather than force the issue.

This is what I think the logical way is too, but sometimes we don’t always follow what’s right, right? Haha

Posted by Boots1313

I didnt pick up on the creep factor...maybe I'm a creep, I'm a weirdo? What the he'll am I doing here?...

I didn’t think I was creepy too... so maybe I’m a creep and weirdo too haha

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Posted by jeane

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Posted by Squishy

Posted by Jayeeas

This is going to be a long post, and I’m sorry to the kind souls who would read it. But I really want to know if there’s anything I can do.

I met this guy while at work when he was an intern here. He seemed very relaxed and chill and I somehow decided to tease him sometimes to get some reaction. Despite knowing it was wrong and extremely unprofessional to do so at a workplace, I would ‘accidentally’ graze his fingers while he passed me things, or would lean in towards his shoulder and arm while talking to him (did this twice). Every time these happened, he didn’t seem fazed. During the last 2-3 weeks of his internship, I realised that I was looking forward to the days that I get to work with him. I didn’t think much of it, just simply thought that I was happy to get to work with people around my age group as my colleagues were more than ten years older. Then on the last week, I was sad that we were counting down to the days he end his internship. It was on the night of his last day that I cried when I realised I wouldn’t be seeing him around anymore. I didn’t understand why I would be so upset, and told my Friend about it, to which she asked if I had feelings for him. I gave it a good thought for about a week. I really did. And came to the conclusion that maybe I like him. And I also decided to tell him, because if I were to text him it would feel like I have a motive. So I asked him if I could meet him and have a talk, but since he is back to school and I still have work, we had conflicting schedules and decided to ask if I could call him instead. And so I did. At the start, i said that I hope after what I’m going to tell him, we can still remain as friends. Then I told him ‘ I think I like you ‘. He kept quiet and didn’t say anything, so I asked if he heard what I said. He just replied that he wasn’t sure if he heard wrongly, and I said that I didn’t think he did. He then asked if this was all that I wanted to tell him, and I said yes. He became quiet again, so I asked if he had anything to say to me, twice, before he finally said ‘ just for the record, I’m not interested’. After the call, his replies to my texts were a few words or no replies at all. I felt that this wasn’t going anywhere, so I asked if he was awkward with texting me to which he replied of course. I tried to tell him that I hope we could put the awkwardness aside and continue to be friends, and he simply replied that he will try. But even after that it was the same. So I just stopped texting him. I didn’t want to annoy him and have him end up hating me. During this period, I went for a short trip overseas and bought some snacks back. I passed it to another ex-intern and had her pass along his share to him when they meet in school. He texted me that day to thank me for it. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up and have a meal together, and he said he don’t mind if it’s a group. I asked the other ex-intern and we have arranged to meet sometime next month for a meal (whether he’s going to turn up is another thing).

I’m not pushing for any miracle out of it, but I would like to at least maintain a friendship. I’m afraid I might come across as being aggressive if I were to continuously try and contact him, and he might get fed up with me. The other reason is that I’m four years older than him (and I’m a Scorpio 16/11, and he’s a Taurus 27/4). I don’t really know how to go about this too. If any of you have any advice or thought, please do share! Thanks.

If a guy were to touch a woman at work place...

Smh

They were, they are and they will continue...and you can shake your head until it falls off! It’s an animal instinct! Lol

animal instinct? can't help themselves?

No...just going with an instinct...WOW! An ass! Gotta slap!

I don’t think at that time any brain cells are doing their job! Lmao

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The more I read this the more I think I’m a creep... T.T

Posted by sagittariusxo

personally I think you did what you could.

you recognized you liked him, you told him you liked him.

he said he wasn't interested, but he is still friendly which appears to be what you hope for after all.

I think he never considered you liked him until you said it, he most likely just was completely professional and it never crossed his mind. he is as well in school which can be very challenging for anyone trying to start a "relationship" and If I know bulls, they are focused on ONE thing at a time. and his focus is probably on his career because they are also stability motivated. his career gives him stability and that is his focus not on establishing a relationship. he just doesn't want to pull more to this plate. so I would say although you are aggressive for sure (which I love and he might unknowingly love as well) keep reaching out on occasion. just don't reach out obsessively. take no for an answer, allow him time to get to know you more on a less professional level. if it happens allow time to play its part but continue to live your own life, don't let this mask other great things. all in all if it doesn't happen at least you can be cool

Thank you, I will keep in mind what you suggest. I mean like since we’re already apart I hope it will help me to have a clearer mind and make better decisions instead of just going with whatever I feel. Haha

Posted by LadyLuna19

I think if you just want to have a friendship with him, just be blunt and honest. Let it be clear that there are no feelings, no chase, no ulterior motives and wait and see for his response. He'll probably take the time to think on it or give you another blunt answer. Regardless, it shows you're not hiding away, he might respect you for the honesty l, and you might keep some self dignity

I will think about what you said, though I feel like he would think I’m lying just to get close to him and shut me out. I don’t want him to end up hating on me.

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i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

maybe. just put yourself in his shoes. how would this this look to you?

without question, your intention is not to be predatory but it could be perceived this way.

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Right... now I’m totally regretting what I did. But what’s done is done. I would only hope that my actions from now on will not make it seem like I’m unsound.

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Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

maybe. just put yourself in his shoes. how would this this look to you?

without question, your intention is not to be predatory but it could be perceived this way.

Right... now I’m totally regretting what I did. But what’s done is done. I would only hope that my actions from now on will not make it seem like I’m unsound.

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don't worry too much about it. it's a fine line out there. well intentioned men have been missing the cues for decades now.

for another guy, your aggression could have been welcomed. i would say however, that invading someone's personal space (ie repeatedly and deliberately grazing their fingers) is probably not the best thing to do until you are certain that feelings are reciprocated and that gesture is welcomed. particular notice has to be taken when they are a junior to you as well.

i might seem like a bit of a snowflake here but i've been on the receiving end of this and especially at work, it's an awkward position to find yourself in.

I’m a Taurus woman so idk how a Taurus man would feel I’m just speaking for myself.. being in situations like those I would feel betrayed because I’d frel as if the guy was pretending to be my friend to get close to me, and my friendship isn’t valued

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Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

maybe. just put yourself in his shoes. how would this this look to you?

without question, your intention is not to be predatory but it could be perceived this way.

Right... now I’m totally regretting what I did. But what’s done is done. I would only hope that my actions from now on will not make it seem like I’m unsound.

don't worry too much about it. it's a fine line out there. well intentioned men have been missing the cues for decades now.

for another guy, your aggression could have been welcomed. i would say however, that invading someone's personal space (ie repeatedly and deliberately grazing their fingers) is probably not the best thing to do until you are certain that feelings are reciprocated and that gesture is welcomed. particular notice has to be taken when they are a junior to you as well.

i might seem like a bit of a snowflake here but i've been on the receiving end of this and especially at work, it's an awkward position to find yourself in.

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I’m so sorry to hear about that... I do feel like I have done something really wrong since I think I myself would freak out a bit if it happens to me. Are you still working there with the person ?

Posted by Taurooo

I’m a Taurus woman so idk how a Taurus man would feel I’m just speaking for myself.. being in situations like those I would feel betrayed because I’d frel as if the guy was pretending to be my friend to get close to me, and my friendship isn’t valued

Any input would be appreciated, thank you for sharing!

So you mean that there is a possibility he feels betrayed after I told him how I feel? Or he wouldn’t want to be friends because it seems like I only wanted to get close and wouldn’t value the friendship?

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Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

maybe. just put yourself in his shoes. how would this this look to you?

without question, your intention is not to be predatory but it could be perceived this way.

Right... now I’m totally regretting what I did. But what’s done is done. I would only hope that my actions from now on will not make it seem like I’m unsound.

don't worry too much about it. it's a fine line out there. well intentioned men have been missing the cues for decades now.

for another guy, your aggression could have been welcomed. i would say however, that invading someone's personal space (ie repeatedly and deliberately grazing their fingers) is probably not the best thing to do until you are certain that feelings are reciprocated and that gesture is welcomed. particular notice has to be taken when they are a junior to you as well.

i might seem like a bit of a snowflake here but i've been on the receiving end of this and especially at work, it's an awkward position to find yourself in.

I’m so sorry to hear about that... I do feel like I have done something really wrong since I think I myself would freak out a bit if it happens to me. Are you still working there with the person ?

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no.

it wasn't a big deal. i was young, stupid, naive. i didn't know how to handle the situation.

it puts you on the back foot and the whole thing just becomes incredibly awkward. you want to be nice because you like the person and you don't want to piss anyone off at work but likewise, you don't want to encourage it either.

being subordinate and in that position leaves you feeling somewhat powerless.

I don't think you're being honest about only now wanting a friendship with this guy.

I think you did start to like him but I would also suggest you feel more of a loss. Someone who was there is now not there. It can leave a hole of some description.

The presence of someone. Taken for granted they will be there. A habit. A change to routine and peopke. An expected but also an unexpected change due to his internship. Wanting to maintain the connection on some level.

You're a Scorpio. You may have found this person more important to you in some ways such as the calming effect you described. You felt a slow burn of what you think are romantic feelings for him instead of the usual explosive energy Scorpios are used to. It crept up on you and you don't know what to do with it other than try to pursue something and/or maintain that connection.

What's your chart? You might have Venus in Scorpio. In which case, the above is likely to resonate. Almost an obsession.

He's been exceptionally clear and exceptionally fair to you. He's stated his terms. He's not interested. He doesn't believe you now just want to be friends. He probably knows you can't just forget you like him in that way and successfully turn off your feelings. He would be correct. Taurus and Scorpio are quite similar here. For him, if the situation were reversed, he would not be able to turn off his feelings and maintain a friendship. He is judging this by his own standards. He sounds sensible. He understands himself, and also you better than you probably know yourself for this topic. Be happy he told you straight and didn't lead you on. Top man right there. Leave him alone. Don't pursue him, don't text or call him, don't buy him food, don't attend this dinner as it will just be awkward. If he wants to contact you then he will.

Don't waste your time pining for your perceived loss. Move onto someone who will reciprocate your interest. There's plenty of others out there.

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Posted by jeane

i wonder how this would read if the op was a man and the taurus was a woman?

To me it wouldn't even be a question.

Everything seems pretty obvious. I think men are better at moving on after being told "not interested"

yes, true.

i think if the taurus was a woman it would read as pretty creepy. some guy grazing her intern fingers at work, then after being told i'm not interested, more texts even though they are not being reciprocated. then after op (rightly) stops the texts, there is food given to her when she is back at school and then an invite out for a meal in which she has to make it clear, only if it's in a group setting all the while while op is trying to persistently construct a "friendship".

I’ve never thought I would come across as creepy. Maybe that’s why he’s like this? Like I came across to him as a crazy woman..

maybe. just put yourself in his shoes. how would this this look to you?

without question, your intention is not to be predatory but it could be perceived this way.

Right... now I’m totally regretting what I did. But what’s done is done. I would only hope that my actions from now on will not make it seem like I’m unsound.

don't worry too much about it. it's a fine line out there. well intentioned men have been missing the cues for decades now.

for another guy, your aggression could have been welcomed. i would say however, that invading someone's personal space (ie repeatedly and deliberately grazing their fingers) is probably not the best thing to do until you are certain that feelings are reciprocated and that gesture is welcomed. particular notice has to be taken when they are a junior to you as well.

i might seem like a bit of a snowflake here but i've been on the receiving end of this and especially at work, it's an awkward position to find yourself in.

I’m so sorry to hear about that... I do feel like I have done something really wrong since I think I myself would freak out a bit if it happens to me. Are you still working there with the person ?

no.

it wasn't a big deal. i was young, stupid, naive. i didn't know how to handle the situation.

it puts you on the back foot and the whole thing just becomes incredibly awkward. you want to be nice because you like the person and you don't want to piss anyone off at work but likewise, you don't want to encourage it either.

being subordinate and in that position leaves you feeling somewhat powerless.

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I guess I should be happy that he is done with his internship here and didn’t have to be in such a situation any longer. I will reflect upon my actions, too, since having you shared your perspective does make me think that what I did was totally inappropriate....

Posted by AgentP911

I don't think you're being honest about only now wanting a friendship with this guy.

I think you did start to like him but I would also suggest you feel more of a loss. Someone who was there is now not there. It can leave a hole of some description.

The presence of someone. Taken for granted they will be there. A habit. A change to routine and peopke. An expected but also an unexpected change due to his internship. Wanting to maintain the connection on some level.

You're a Scorpio. You may have found this person more important to you in some ways such as the calming effect you described. You felt a slow burn of what you think are romantic feelings for him instead of the usual explosive energy Scorpios are used to. It crept up on you and you don't know what to do with it other than try to pursue something and/or maintain that connection.

What's your chart? You might have Venus in Scorpio. In which case, the above is likely to resonate. Almost an obsession.

He's been exceptionally clear and exceptionally fair to you. He's stated his terms. He's not interested. He doesn't believe you now just want to be friends. He probably knows you can't just forget you like him in that way and successfully turn off your feelings. He would be correct. Taurus and Scorpio are quite similar here. For him, if the situation were reversed, he would not be able to turn off his feelings and maintain a friendship. He is judging this by his own standards. He sounds sensible. He understands himself, and also you better than you probably know yourself for this topic. Be happy he told you straight and didn't lead you on. Top man right there. Leave him alone. Don't pursue him, don't text or call him, don't buy him food, don't attend this dinner as it will just be awkward. If he wants to contact you then he will.

Don't waste your time pining for your perceived loss. Move onto someone who will reciprocate your interest. There's plenty of others out there.

I’m not sure about my chart, any way I can get to know about it?

I do know that having him telling me straight that he isn’t interested was better than having him stringing me along. And I’m working on not contacting him anymore now and hope that I can hold out on it. I did think of deleting his contact actually, but I just didn’t have the heart to do it.

I’m not actively looking for someone to be with, so I’ll just focus on getting over this one first. It wouldn’t be fair to the guy if I were to invest my time to him just because I want to forget another one, right?

I didn't mean find someone now. I just meant in general. Whenever you're ready, find someone who is interested in you and who will proactively pursue you.

You can find your chart on astro.com.

Put in your birth date, time and place. It will give you your sun sign of Scorpio but also which signs the other planets such as Mercury, Venus, Mars and also the moon etc were in at the time of your birth. Being a Scorpio is just one very small element of your birth chart.

Come back and post the info, mainly out of interest. You can do the same for the Taurus if you know his info. The astro data is time and place sensitive though but if you know his birth date and roughly where he was born then that would be interesting to see too.

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I didn't mean find someone now. I just meant in general. Whenever you're ready, find someone who is interested in you and who will proactively pursue you.

You can find your chart on astro.com.

Put in your birth date, time and place. It will give you your sun sign of Scorpio but also which signs the other planets such as Mercury, Venus, Mars and also the moon etc were in at the time of your birth. Being a Scorpio is just one very small element of your birth chart.

Come back and post the info, mainly out of interest. You can do the same for the Taurus if you know his info. The astro data is time and place sensitive though but if you know his birth date and roughly where he was born then that would be interesting to see too.

Thank you!!

These are the results for mine:

Sun Sco

Moon Leo

Mercury Sco

Venus Sag

Mars Sag

Jupiter Sag

Saturn Pis

Uranus Cap

Neptune Cap

Pluto Sag

True Node Lib

Chiron Lib

This is his, without birth time:

Sun Tau

Moon Vir

Mercury Ari

Venus Gem

Mars Sco

Jupiter Ari

Saturn Tau

Uranus Aqu

Neptune Aqu

Pluto Sag

True Node Leo

Chiron Sag

dat leo moon doe