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Responsive but not initiating
Understanding a Responsive But Not Initiating Taurus
It is common for Taurus individuals to be responsive and cautious about initiating contact. They often prefer to wait until they feel comfortable before taking the lead. This behavior doesn't necessarily indicate disinterest but reflects their need for stability and security in communication.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
He most likely wants to check you are really interested in him, really want him around and isn’t a nuisance to you. That’s why he responds quickly if you initiate.
I think once he is more sure of where he stands he will do more of the initiating.
Thank you! I love your answers...so practical Taurus like, funny that 🤣
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
At some point I angrily and specifically asked him to call me every day.. 🙂
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
He most likely wants to check you are really interested in him, really want him around and isn’t a nuisance to you. That’s why he responds quickly if you initiate.
I think once he is more sure of where he stands he will do more of the initiating.
It’s also interesting you should say that because just this weekend I felt like I was bothering him as he was away working and I needed help with something. He did respond said he would check and get back to me but in the end I think was too busy or forgot to get back to me. I felt really bad for disturbing him and I thought he would be annoyed if I msged to remind him.
Would that have annoyed you?
I ask because I’m really trying to understand your way of thinking
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
At some point I angrily and specifically asked him to call me every day.. 🙂
Really?!! 🤔🤔
It does drive you crazy. I didn’t know if I was coming or going or if he didn’t want to hear from me so didn’t call
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
This.
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
He most likely wants to check you are really interested in him, really want him around and isn’t a nuisance to you. That’s why he responds quickly if you initiate.
I think once he is more sure of where he stands he will do more of the initiating.
It’s also interesting you should say that because just this weekend I felt like I was bothering him as he was away working and I needed help with something. He did respond said he would check and get back to me but in the end I think was too busy or forgot to get back to me. I felt really bad for disturbing him and I thought he would be annoyed if I msged to remind him.
Would that have annoyed you?
I ask because I’m really trying to understand your way of thinking
If you need to message him about something do it but I wouldn’t phrase it as a ‘reminder’ or necessarily say ‘you forgot to text me’. He may apologise if you message him anyway.
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Should have asked you this yesterday! I ended having to pick the images myself as they needed them by a certain time but told him afterwards that... I waited as late as I could but had run out of time so had to pick them
I feel like telling him after was probably not the best idea. You seem very straight forward and black and white. If I needed to know I should have just mentioned it again.
I feel like you’ll tell me that...
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
This.
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Wow! You are so very cautious all the time but I feel like my bull needs a lot of reassurance. Even when I think I’m giving it to him he doesn’t interpret it as such and I find he needs more
Is it the reassurance aspect for you?
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
When you call him 'my bull' does that mean you are married? Dating? bf/gf? Just talking?
This is so funny to read. I see my self. As an Aries Venus I am quite direct but my Taurus moon and Mars always think that I am going to bother him so I don’t initiate until I know the person very well and I know they really want me
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
He most likely wants to check you are really interested in him, really want him around and isn’t a nuisance to you. That’s why he responds quickly if you initiate.
I think once he is more sure of where he stands he will do more of the initiating.
Lol my Taurus moon and Mars is exactly like that. I never thought about it until reading this 🙈😄
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
I completely agree... and that goes for the bull, also.
Meekness can be cute every now and then, but for fukssake! Someone take charge
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I prefer the man to take charge 😄
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
I completely agree... and that goes for the bull, also.
Meekness can be cute every now and then, but for fukssake! Someone take charge
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One aspect I did not like about Taurus man
He is the Man after all and should be initiating and taking lead
Well that will explain why I have never been with a Taurus man Hahaha
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
Thanks for this. You are right! I am treading on eggshells. His lack of initiating has made me second guess myself a lot! I should just get on because then at least I’ll know the situation.
One aspect I did not like about Taurus man
He is the Man after all and should be initiating and taking lead
why should women wait to be chosen?
why can't women be the choosers?
why can't we be empowered to go after what we want? or are we to remain powerless, leaving the direction of our lives in the hands of someone else? fuck that. i create my own life. i'm not hanging around until someone spots me to give me their time.
i saw what i wanted and i went for it. i think if i had been coy and waited, i might still be waiting now.
When you call him 'my bull' does that mean you are married? Dating? bf/gf? Just talking?
We are just talking. We were previously in a relationship. Many years ago
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
Thanks for this. You are right! I am treading on eggshells. His lack of initiating has made me second guess myself a lot! I should just get on because then at least I’ll know the situation.
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second guessing is the natural reaction. underneath we all doubt ourselves but there comes a time in your life where you just have to say fuck it. enough games. i am me.
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
Thanks for this. You are right! I am treading on eggshells. His lack of initiating has made me second guess myself a lot! I should just get on because then at least I’ll know the situation.
second guessing is the natural reaction. underneath we all doubt ourselves but there comes a time in your life where you just have to say fuck it. enough games. i am me.
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I LLOOVVEEE THIS SONG! Lol!
i'm not a taurus but do you know what i think is really unattractive? a lack of confidence.
have confidence in yourself. have swagger. be passionate. have belief in what you have to offer.
stop walking around like a shy mouse that has to scurry into the corner every time someone turns the light on.
at some point you just have to be yourself and not apologise for it. if he doesn't like it well, oh well. i have a feeling that taurus men like a woman who knows what she wants, knows who she is and is no pushover.
I completely agree... and that goes for the bull, also.
Meekness can be cute every now and then, but for fukssake! Someone take charge
Exactly. Bull also lacks confidence, swagger & passion.... eeek.
It's best when the "taking charge" are expressed by both parties. That is when it sizzles.
But just one party taking charge all the time? How boring...
Nah, this isnt a sign thing... this is just a backwards ass dude.. I'm a bull and I've never had any of these problems.. I have zero problems with confrontation.
I do agree both sides need to inspire the passion from each other... but you cannot do that if you're constantly worried about whether or not the other side is going to reciprocate or not.. just be you.. if they're boring.. cut 'em.. I hate wasting time more than anything, if they dont like me let's get to that point as soon as possible so we arent wasting each other's time.
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So true, it’s so tiring the constant worrying! I need to regroup
One aspect I did not like about Taurus man
He is the Man after all and should be initiating and taking lead
why should women wait to be chosen?
why can't women be the choosers?
why can't we be empowered to go after what we want? or are we to remain powerless, leaving the direction of our lives in the hands of someone else? fuck that. i create my own life. i'm not hanging around until someone spots me to give me their time.
i saw what i wanted and i went for it. i think if i had been coy and waited, i might still be waiting now.
Not a 100 percent
If you are ok with you doing it all n him just going with it
But does that mean That would work with you or any Whatever woman, work with anyone who’d put that much effort
Nothing to
Do with you
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no, he too has a choice. he is not a robot. he could have shot me down if he wasn't interested.
if finds that attribute attractive in general and found it attractive in other women then why would that be a problem? he finds things inherently attractive that have nothing to do with me. i don't feel threatened by it. i happen (along with other women) to possess it.
Well as long as you don’t feel like you didn’t force yourself on another due to doing all
It works👍
no (hmm, i may have forced myself on him a little bit lol) but on the whole i just made my intentions clear that i had chosen him. i'll admit, i stood on the sidelines for a good 6 months. it drove me nuts. then one night i just said what i felt and what i wanted. i was tired of waiting. i was tired of staring at the phone, feeling disappointed if few days went by and he hadn't text me. i was tired of my mind turning over and over, never settling on a single emotion or direction (stay or walk away?). so i told him. he questioned me, not really believing that that's how i felt and i stopped the pretence. it was terrifying and liberating at the same time.
i was the one to flirt outrageously and shamelessly. i was the one that said if you approach, you will not get rejected. i was the one who kissed him first.
after that i couldn't get rid of him. initiative and passion wasn't a problem.
we've been together years now. i'd like to believe that our longevity isn't solely down to my dogged pursuit of him but i can easily see that i would have most likely walked away just thinking he wasn't interested and he wouldn't have pursued me because in his words, he didn't have the confidence to do so. had that been the case, that would have been one of my life's tragedies.
Yeah you create your life
But when you did it all
Did he create anything really or just following anyone’s lead just happens to be you because you forced yourself in ?
The above is in general terms
i just saw this. i suppose you need to ask the converse. if you are asking that a man does all the initiating, are you only with him because he took the lead and "forced his way in"? would you be with any man who takes the lead regardless of the rest of his traits?
Taurus dont want to bother someone or appear clingy, though they're secretly a bit of a possessive sign. They back off to seem chill and also test if youre interested in them. In a third instance, if you did something to piss them off they may back off but wont tell you...they will cool off and come back usually in those instances.
Well as long as you don’t feel like you didn’t force yourself on another due to doing all
It works👍
no (hmm, i may have forced myself on him a little bit lol) but on the whole i just made my intentions clear that i had chosen him. i'll admit, i stood on the sidelines for a good 6 months. it drove me nuts. then one night i just said what i felt and what i wanted. i was tired of waiting. i was tired of staring at the phone, feeling disappointed if few days went by and he hadn't text me. i was tired of my mind turning over and over, never settling on a single emotion or direction (stay or walk away?). so i told him. he questioned me, not really believing that that's how i felt and i stopped the pretence. it was terrifying and liberating at the same time.
i was the one to flirt outrageously and shamelessly. i was the one that said if you approach, you will not get rejected. i was the one who kissed him first.
after that i couldn't get rid of him. initiative and passion wasn't a problem.
we've been together years now. i'd like to believe that our longevity isn't solely down to my dogged pursuit of him but i can easily see that i would have most likely walked away just thinking he wasn't interested and he wouldn't have pursued me because in his words, he didn't have the confidence to do so. had that been the case, that would have been one of my life's tragedies.
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I’m so glad you wrote this!! Some of it sounded like my story. I got so fed up that in January I insisted we talked! We met up and I told him what I thought and how I felt. I was interrogated lol! I had to keep checking I was still in a restaurant and not jail haha! It was the scariest thing but like you said so refreshing and liberating. He switched by the next day and became so much more responsive! I think for me though I’ve only taken one step forward whilst you took two, hence why Things are better but not quite there yet. I need to just go all out like you did! I thought I’d done enough by telling him
Taurus dont want to bother someone or appear clingy, though they're secretly a bit of a possessive sign. They back off to seem chill and also test if youre interested in them. In a third instance, if you did something to piss them off they may back off but wont tell you...they will cool off and come back usually in those instances.
I think this is what can be misunderstood. Being that they can be possessive, you think they will be that way early on to and if they’re not you wonder if they’re interested. When in fact it’s the complete opposite!
Well as long as you don’t feel like you didn’t force yourself on another due to doing all
It works👍
no (hmm, i may have forced myself on him a little bit lol) but on the whole i just made my intentions clear that i had chosen him. i'll admit, i stood on the sidelines for a good 6 months. it drove me nuts. then one night i just said what i felt and what i wanted. i was tired of waiting. i was tired of staring at the phone, feeling disappointed if few days went by and he hadn't text me. i was tired of my mind turning over and over, never settling on a single emotion or direction (stay or walk away?). so i told him. he questioned me, not really believing that that's how i felt and i stopped the pretence. it was terrifying and liberating at the same time.
i was the one to flirt outrageously and shamelessly. i was the one that said if you approach, you will not get rejected. i was the one who kissed him first.
after that i couldn't get rid of him. initiative and passion wasn't a problem.
we've been together years now. i'd like to believe that our longevity isn't solely down to my dogged pursuit of him but i can easily see that i would have most likely walked away just thinking he wasn't interested and he wouldn't have pursued me because in his words, he didn't have the confidence to do so. had that been the case, that would have been one of my life's tragedies.
I’m so glad you wrote this!! Some of it sounded like my story. I got so fed up that in January I insisted we talked! We met up and I told him what I thought and how I felt. I was interrogated lol! I had to keep checking I was still in a restaurant and not jail haha! It was the scariest thing but like you said so refreshing and liberating. He switched by the next day and became so much more responsive! I think for me though I’ve only taken one step forward whilst you took two, hence why Things are better but not quite there yet. I need to just go all out like you did! I thought I’d done enough by telling him
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just put all of your cards on the table. you either get a favourable answer or you don't.
at the beginning there was a lot of negotiation, a lot of each discussing our feelings and expectations. sometimes this was done calmly and sometimes by arguing but you have to get things clear and understand where the other is coming from. it's not very romantic but knowing what is expected (of and for each of you) is important.
if you feel unsure of his feelings, ask him.
if you worry that you are bothering him, tell him.
if he says something you don't understand or don't feel happy about, discuss it.
you're building a foundation. it takes effort.
my partner and i had a very rocky start but i knew once we could iron out kinks and settle into the kind of relationship we each wanted, where we both felt secure and knew how it was going to work then we'd be ok.
Wow! You are so very cautious all the time but I feel like my bull needs a lot of reassurance. Even when I think I’m giving it to him he doesn’t interpret it as such and I find he needs more
Is it the reassurance aspect for you?
Yes, but. Some think of this as a weakness. "He needs reassurance". But for me I am cautious, looking for confirmation. Again this is not meant as weakness. I need to be sure. It is no fun when you enthusiastically reach out or respond and have misinterpreted. "That's not what I meant", or "why you text so much, were just friends". Translation, "YOU WERE WRONG" or "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU".
Wow! You are so very cautious all the time but I feel like my bull needs a lot of reassurance. Even when I think I’m giving it to him he doesn’t interpret it as such and I find he needs more
Is it the reassurance aspect for you?
Yes, but. Some think of this as a weakness. "He needs reassurance". But for me I am cautious, looking for confirmation. Again this is not meant as weakness. I need to be sure. It is no fun when you enthusiastically reach out or respond and have misinterpreted. "That's not what I meant", or "why you text so much, were just friends". Translation, "YOU WERE WRONG" or "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU".
Ok I see! I think I need to make it clearer what I want so he can feel more confident to come forward.
Taurus dont want to bother someone or appear clingy, though they're secretly a bit of a possessive sign. They back off to seem chill and also test if youre interested in them. In a third instance, if you did something to piss them off they may back off but wont tell you...they will cool off and come back usually in those instances.
I think this is what can be misunderstood. Being that they can be possessive, you think they will be that way early on to and if they’re not you wonder if they’re interested. When in fact it’s the complete opposite!
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Yep! My taurus self is like this...people think im super aloof and not interested when in reality I just dont wanna appear clingy or bother haha
Taurus dont want to bother someone or appear clingy, though they're secretly a bit of a possessive sign. They back off to seem chill and also test if youre interested in them. In a third instance, if you did something to piss them off they may back off but wont tell you...they will cool off and come back usually in those instances.
I think this is what can be misunderstood. Being that they can be possessive, you think they will be that way early on to and if they’re not you wonder if they’re interested. When in fact it’s the complete opposite!
Yep! My taurus self is like this...people think im super aloof and not interested when in reality I just dont wanna appear clingy or bother haha
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Aloof is the word! I had msged mine today about midday to talk but he didn’t get back to me for 7 hours then called me just now. I just thought he couldn’t really be bothered to talk but I realised he waited until he could really talk. One thing I also noticed is instead of sending odd msgs he will wait until the right time to respond. It’s funny how this can be misunderstood as lack of interest
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
At some point I angrily and specifically asked him to call me every day.. 🙂
Really?!! 🤔🤔
It does drive you crazy. I didn’t know if I was coming or going or if he didn’t want to hear from me so didn’t call
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My impression is that they expect you to come to them. That's not necessarily bad. In my case it's actually great because he is always there for me, always wants to see me. He has literally never, ever told me 'no' and he has given me the freedom to impose on him as much as I want 🙂 I can tell he likes the fact that I always look for him. He has even complimented my reliability as a turn-on. It's as taurus as it gets, a bit passive but actively so.
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
At some point I angrily and specifically asked him to call me every day.. 🙂
Really?!! 🤔🤔
It does drive you crazy. I didn’t know if I was coming or going or if he didn’t want to hear from me so didn’t call
My impression is that they expect you to come to them. That's not necessarily bad. In my case it's actually great because he is always there for me, always wants to see me. He has literally never, ever told me 'no' and he has given me the freedom to impose on him as much as I want 🙂 I can tell he likes the fact that I always look for him. He has even complimented my reliability as a turn-on. It's as taurus as it gets, a bit passive but actively so.
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I really like this actually thank you. You are completely right! I need to just see it from a different angle I think. I can really impose myself on him and unless he is busy he is totally accommodating. I need to just focus on what he is ok with as opposed why he doesn’t call first!
Well as long as you don’t feel like you didn’t force yourself on another due to doing all
It works👍
no (hmm, i may have forced myself on him a little bit lol) but on the whole i just made my intentions clear that i had chosen him. i'll admit, i stood on the sidelines for a good 6 months. it drove me nuts. then one night i just said what i felt and what i wanted. i was tired of waiting. i was tired of staring at the phone, feeling disappointed if few days went by and he hadn't text me. i was tired of my mind turning over and over, never settling on a single emotion or direction (stay or walk away?). so i told him. he questioned me, not really believing that that's how i felt and i stopped the pretence. it was terrifying and liberating at the same time.
i was the one to flirt outrageously and shamelessly. i was the one that said if you approach, you will not get rejected. i was the one who kissed him first.
after that i couldn't get rid of him. initiative and passion wasn't a problem.
we've been together years now. i'd like to believe that our longevity isn't solely down to my dogged pursuit of him but i can easily see that i would have most likely walked away just thinking he wasn't interested and he wouldn't have pursued me because in his words, he didn't have the confidence to do so. had that been the case, that would have been one of my life's tragedies.
I’m so glad you wrote this!! Some of it sounded like my story. I got so fed up that in January I insisted we talked! We met up and I told him what I thought and how I felt. I was interrogated lol! I had to keep checking I was still in a restaurant and not jail haha! It was the scariest thing but like you said so refreshing and liberating. He switched by the next day and became so much more responsive! I think for me though I’ve only taken one step forward whilst you took two, hence why Things are better but not quite there yet. I need to just go all out like you did! I thought I’d done enough by telling him
just put all of your cards on the table. you either get a favourable answer or you don't.
at the beginning there was a lot of negotiation, a lot of each discussing our feelings and expectations. sometimes this was done calmly and sometimes by arguing but you have to get things clear and understand where the other is coming from. it's not very romantic but knowing what is expected (of and for each of you) is important.
if you feel unsure of his feelings, ask him.
if you worry that you are bothering him, tell him.
if he says something you don't understand or don't feel happy about, discuss it.
you're building a foundation. it takes effort.
my partner and i had a very rocky start but i knew once we could iron out kinks and settle into the kind of relationship we each wanted, where we both felt secure and knew how it was going to work then we'd be ok.
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This really helped actually. After I read this I just called and said what I had to say. And after all the hesitation and drama he was totally fine with everything 🙄 so thanks for getting me out of my weird funk!
This really helped actually. After I read this I just called and said what I had to say. And after all the hesitation and drama he was totally fine with everything 🙄 so thanks for getting me out of my weird funk!
i'm glad you got it sorted.
i've found that 9 times out of 10 things can be resolved by effective communication.
My taurus drove me crazy in the beginning in the exact same way. It was a combination of thinking he may disturb me and that I may grow bored of him.
At some point I angrily and specifically asked him to call me every day.. 🙂
Really?!! 🤔🤔
It does drive you crazy. I didn’t know if I was coming or going or if he didn’t want to hear from me so didn’t call
My impression is that they expect you to come to them. That's not necessarily bad. In my case it's actually great because he is always there for me, always wants to see me. He has literally never, ever told me 'no' and he has given me the freedom to impose on him as much as I want 🙂 I can tell he likes the fact that I always look for him. He has even complimented my reliability as a turn-on. It's as taurus as it gets, a bit passive but actively so.
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This is a great way to look at things actually! It is that feeling that I’m imposing on him but he lets me do really I should just be glad I guess☺️
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Happy Sunday everyone!
My bull is being very responsive to all messages, calls etc but just doesn’t initiate any of it. It does make me feel a bit strange as I sometimes wonder whether he really wants us to talk. It doesn’t make me angry or anything but at first I thought it was good that he was being so responsive but now I’m getting a bit concerned that he isn’t initiating anything is this normal?