So 11 years ago my ex Taurus girlfriend and I got together we dated for around 4 years. It was pretty intense relationship and we did discuss marriage but over time we grew apart. When we first started to date, we had very little in common and I guess over time those differences just moved us in different paths. As a person I still think she is amazing she just wasn’t the right person for me. We split up in 2011 and around 6 months after the break up we became friends with benefits and this lasted for over a year and she told me that she was getting engaged. It was an initial shock but I was happy for her as she always wanted to settle down.
My ex gets married and I just continued with my life until about 6 months ago when she got into contact with me asking for training and nutritional advice. I was happy to hear from her (I don’t have feelings for her anymore) and we caught up and had a laugh and it was nice. Prior to that I didn’t not hear from that girl at all except the odd Happy birthday or Merry xmas message. So my initial question is after so many years of not talking, why did she make contact with me? I know I can ask her but I know I wont get a straight forward response.
My ex knows I am seeing someone and will be getting engaged soon and she is happy for me. However when I ask her to meet up for a coffee as friends she always declines so I don’t ask anymore. She also gives me alot of relationship and marriage advice when I don’t ask for it and when I ask her how her life is and what she has been up to etc, she tells me she just goes to work, comes home and looks after her family.
Its almost like she has me in her life but keeps me at arms length, from my end I don’t have any feelings for her but would like to be mates with her.
Can any Taurus women help in shedding light on her behaviour. Thanks in advance.
@queenaries2 - I am not sure and I cant exactly remember her date of birth to confirm it. I know her birthday is tomorrow. If I find out how old she is, I will update it here.
@pathos - I don't mind my ex talking to me as the feelings are resolved, its the nature of how its done and the restrictions. I have other ex;s who I meet up with and hangout and there is nothing between us except friendship. In fact one is even dating my cousins, cousins and everything is cool. It just the way she does it, that I find a bit weird.
@nevamore -I have asked in the past in an indirect way and I get a very wishy washy answer. Sometimes she just doesn't respond, I leave it and then a few weeks later I hear from her via text. Saying that in the last 6 months we have only spoken on the phone once, most of the communication is via text.
As a Taurus female, I always seem to keep the door open. I also never forget a love and often times I live in the past because of it. I never fully get over a person if I loved them. Doesn't necessarily mean I want to be with you or ruin whatever you have going on in your life but it's nice to know there is a plan b or an option, just in case.... Or merely she enjoys your advice and just wants to keep things civil. Might not be any hidden motive
@boots1313 - I understand your point of view. Its not that there is anything hidden, I am not saying that, her behaviour to me is weird. Theres no issue with being proper friends with no hidden agendas and motives. Being mates means sharing stuff, meeting up and having a laugh but respecting the boundaries.
She is married and I doubt I am an option, I don't want to be one either. Its the advice she gives without me even asking for it lol.