london_libra
@london_libra
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Taurus man led me on and I'm heartbroken :(
Thanks but no thanks. This isn't helpful at all. I didn't know he was seeing someone for an extended period of time, that she was recently divorced, moving to the other side of the country and was using him for sex while she got over her divorce. I found all of this out LAST WEEK when we returned from our trip. Trust me, I don't actually enjoy wasting my time. If I'd known he was hung up on someone else, no way would I have gone on a trip with him just one on one. How fucking uncomfortable.
We have a lot of mutual friends and NONE OF THEM knew about this girl. I've asked a few of them over the past week if they knew about him and this girl and they all were all just as shocked as I was.
We have a lot of mutual friends and NONE OF THEM knew about this girl. I've asked a few of them over the past week if they knew about him and this girl and they all were all just as shocked as I was.
Do the last one - move on. The thing is you developed feelings for a guy that was never available. That he didn't try to jump your bones should have been a really big clue.
Either way, it's all said and done. find someone who is interested in you and only you.
Either way, it's all said and done. find someone who is interested in you and only you.
Posted by SimsimiHe mentioned when I asked him what he did the other night back in Feb. He said he was 'hanging out with someone lovely and beautiful' but that was all. He did not say I'M BONING THIS WOMAN.
How did you know he was dating someone else prior, did he mention this or you stalked ?
Sometimes some men say this when they really don't want a relationship but don't want to hurt you in return.
I feel the getaway was him needing company to forget whomever he was dating, but it didn't work out in the long run. To be fair these excuses are so good because its honesty with a twist and saves you a lot down the road.
When you say 'these excuses', what do you mean? From him or me?
Hahaha! I mean, that's pretty much my question. Do Taurus dudes do this a lot? Why wouldn't he even let me contribute some money to the trip? That's what platonic friends do, right? Split the bill? I know he has no money right now and is behind on his rent, so why make this grand gesture of whisking me away? Would he insist on paying if I was a male friend?
Move on girl
He's not over his ex yet
You don't want to be a temporary solace... Taurus would seek his comfort in all possible ways to numb the turmoil.
Also, him spending money on you means nothing. It's in Taurus nature to do it regardless of how important the woman is to him.
However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved.
And hey me knows your little heart will be full again ?
He's not over his ex yet
You don't want to be a temporary solace... Taurus would seek his comfort in all possible ways to numb the turmoil.
Also, him spending money on you means nothing. It's in Taurus nature to do it regardless of how important the woman is to him.
However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved.
And hey me knows your little heart will be full again ?
Posted by jeane
you're not being strung along, you're just reading too much into things.
the jealousy bit? they are possessive. it doesn't necessarily mean that they are interested.
the friend line? i found that is really common. they find comfort in basing their relationships on a solid friendship. my own relationship came from a being friends for a while first.
it doesn't mean that your relationship can't develop now that you are friends.
but in the meantime, don't wait around for him. he probably does have someone else, likely someone he has been grooming for a while now. just be friends and see where it goes from there.
Posted by jeanePosted by london_libraUnfortunately they always go at their own pace. He might not be asking you out because he isn't sure about you yet or has other things ie the other woman.
but ask me out..because i like you!
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From 4 months ago.
Posted by MaidemarilynDidn't mean that. Was trying to say he's still in love with his ex girlfriendPosted by Fragrance"However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved. "
Move on girl
He's not over his ex yet
You don't want to be a temporary solace... Taurus would seek his comfort in all possible ways to numb the turmoil.
Also, him spending money on you means nothing. It's in Taurus nature to do it regardless of how important the woman is to him.
However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved.
And hey me knows your little heart will be full again ?
He was never in love with the OP.click to expand
He's not in love with the OP, but judging by what was said in the post, I don't think he's entirely indifferent towards her either
Thanks Fragrance and confusedaries7513, I really appreciate your comments.
I agree that he's not over his ex yet. He is 28, by the way. I think he was kidding himself that it would work out between them, however. She was only in town for a couple of months to visit family and friends and already had her return flight booked from the moment she arrived. He knew it wasn't going to be long-term but I think he allowed himself to fall for this reason. It was safe - he knew it couldn't work out so he always held back. He could've gone to her city to try and be with her but he didn't, he stayed here and did nothing. That tells me he knew it wasn't to be. Not to say that he didn't have really strong feelings for her, I think he did. And he's still not over it. But I also think this is indicative that confusedaries7513 is right and that he's confused and doesn't know what he wants.
I mean, I'm a pretty confused person as you can tell from all this but if a recently divorced guy came into town for a couple of months to visit I wouldn't go pinning hopes on him as a sure bet.
Jeane, looks like I've got a stalker, eh? I'm flattered you went through my old posts to help me understand my situation. Bless you.
I mean, I'm a pretty confused person as you can tell from all this but if a recently divorced guy came into town for a couple of months to visit I wouldn't go pinning hopes on him as a sure bet.
Jeane, looks like I've got a stalker, eh? I'm flattered you went through my old posts to help me understand my situation. Bless you.
Posted by london_libraHe took all the expenses on himself probably because he knows he was on the vacation with you just to feel better. To me he seems like a gentleman.
Hahaha! I mean, that's pretty much my question. Do Taurus dudes do this a lot? Why wouldn't he even let me contribute some money to the trip? That's what platonic friends do, right? Split the bill? I know he has no money right now and is behind on his rent, so why make this grand gesture of whisking me away? Would he insist on paying if I was a male friend?
Posted by london_libraNot a stalker love. I'm just a clever person with a good memory.
I agree that he's not over his ex yet. He is 28, by the way. I think he was kidding himself that it would work out between them, however. She was only in town for a couple of months to visit family and friends and already had her return flight booked from the moment she arrived. He knew it wasn't going to be long-term but I think he allowed himself to fall for this reason. It was safe - he knew it couldn't work out so he always held back. He could've gone to her city to try and be with her but he didn't, he stayed here and did nothing. That tells me he knew it wasn't to be. Not to say that he didn't have really strong feelings for her, I think he did. And he's still not over it. But I also think this is indicative that confusedaries7513 is right and that he's confused and doesn't know what he wants.
I mean, I'm a pretty confused person as you can tell from all this but if a recently divorced guy came into town for a couple of months to visit I wouldn't go pinning hopes on him as a sure bet.
Jeane, looks like I've got a stalker, eh? I'm flattered you went through my old posts to help me understand my situation. Bless you.
You really should stop reading so much into things. It might save yourself a lot of trouble.
Posted by MaidemarilynShrug. People are always going to do what they want to do. I think all these threads and everyone who comments do it for selfish endeavours.Posted by jeaneExactly.Posted by london_libraNot a stalker love. I'm just a clever person with a good memory.
I agree that he's not over his ex yet. He is 28, by the way. I think he was kidding himself that it would work out between them, however. She was only in town for a couple of months to visit family and friends and already had her return flight booked from the moment she arrived. He knew it wasn't going to be long-term but I think he allowed himself to fall for this reason. It was safe - he knew it couldn't work out so he always held back. He could've gone to her city to try and be with her but he didn't, he stayed here and did nothing. That tells me he knew it wasn't to be. Not to say that he didn't have really strong feelings for her, I think he did. And he's still not over it. But I also think this is indicative that confusedaries7513 is right and that he's confused and doesn't know what he wants.
I mean, I'm a pretty confused person as you can tell from all this but if a recently divorced guy came into town for a couple of months to visit I wouldn't go pinning hopes on him as a sure bet.
Jeane, looks like I've got a stalker, eh? I'm flattered you went through my old posts to help me understand my situation. Bless you.
You really should stop reading so much into things. It might save yourself a lot of trouble.
Jeane, you have also managed to lock down a taurus for over three years and these girls should be grateful that you are even here to give them good advice, but it is never appreciated.click to expand
I just figured she is a Libra, I'm a libra. She wants to know about Taurus men, I have a little experience. The story stuck out to me.
People will only take away the advice when it clicks for them.
Thanks tho' 🙂
Wow, it was a joke! Maybe it's my British sense of humour? I am genuinely appreciative of your advice, Jeane, and impressed you remembered my post from months ago - wasn't trying to sound bitchy. But there's no inflection on the internet so you can't tell how I meant it.
Really didn't mean to offend you.
Maidemarilyn, calm your farm. Not trying to start drama with anyone, just trying to understand.
Really didn't mean to offend you.
Maidemarilyn, calm your farm. Not trying to start drama with anyone, just trying to understand.
Posted by london_libra
Wow, it was a joke! Maybe it's my British sense of humour? I am genuinely appreciative of your advice, Jeane, and impressed you remembered my post from months ago - wasn't trying to sound bitchy. But there's no inflection on the internet so you can't tell how I meant it.
Really didn't mean to offend you.
Maidemarilyn, calm your farm. Not trying to start drama with anyone, just trying to understand.
Im British too.
Implying I am stalking you came off condescending and sarcastic. Whatever. Bygones.
AneemA08, thanks for your support. I agree that some of the responsibility is his as well. I doubt he'd have taken a male friend on a romantic break, spooned him in the bed and put his hard-on against their thigh. Can you see two full grown straight men with their arms wrapped around each other in bed? I can't.
He said he'd invite other people on the trip but didn't. He mentioned it to our other friends (both male and female) in my presence but never invited them. When I asked him why, he said he simply forgot.
Yes, I have cut contact with him. Not planning to start talking to him again soon but we run in the same circles and have a lot of mutual friends so I'll run into him again sooner or later.
"He has shown her no sign of any physical attraction whatsoever." - well, this isn't true. He's always been touchy-feely with me, has told me I'm beautiful and attractive and has admitted feeling attraction to me. So, yes he has. I was actually not expecting to sleep with him on our trip (that sounds like an outright lie, I realise, but it's not), but the longer it went on and the more romantic it became the more I expected him to say he had feelings for me. Which he did after he'd already said he was freshly heartbroken and not ready to get involved with someone.
He said he'd invite other people on the trip but didn't. He mentioned it to our other friends (both male and female) in my presence but never invited them. When I asked him why, he said he simply forgot.
Yes, I have cut contact with him. Not planning to start talking to him again soon but we run in the same circles and have a lot of mutual friends so I'll run into him again sooner or later.
"He has shown her no sign of any physical attraction whatsoever." - well, this isn't true. He's always been touchy-feely with me, has told me I'm beautiful and attractive and has admitted feeling attraction to me. So, yes he has. I was actually not expecting to sleep with him on our trip (that sounds like an outright lie, I realise, but it's not), but the longer it went on and the more romantic it became the more I expected him to say he had feelings for me. Which he did after he'd already said he was freshly heartbroken and not ready to get involved with someone.
"PS. From what i can tell (above statement), it is obvious that a taurus put their horns into you too and toss you aside. Your view is biased. Stop projecting." - maidemarilyn, you're hilarious!
Why do some women do this goofy shit?
So many of you, go into friendships with men, with ulterior motives from the start. It's gross.
So many of you, go into friendships with men, with ulterior motives from the start. It's gross.
"You did go with other people on the trip" - sorry, what? Who are the other people who came on the trip with us? It was just the two of us for three days, we met up with his friends who live in that town on one night for about 2 hours. We did not go with other people on the trip.
Posted by AneemA08OHHHH snap! 😉Posted by MaidemarilynOh I have a different problem. But you can say it has same ambiance. At least I come with my sounding bitter right on point at the situation she's having. I won't go to a thread which talks about happiness in relationships and sound bitter. That's just inneffective.Posted by AneemA08Sure. Why do you sound so bitter then?Posted by MaidemarilynLol, last time I checked, they're the ones who are always trying to get back with something from me. So.Posted by AneemA08"If I were you, I would just be gone out of his sight. I think it would be easy for you to get other men who are not a bunch of bs like him as well"Posted by MaidemarilynBut I think the taurus takes more of the responsibility. I mean, he's a complete bs, isn't he? Saying he wanted to work on his rs with the "main chick" yet he went to that distance with the factual admittance from his end that it was his intention to make it romantic.
Libra, dont pretend to be innocent because you knew he was seeing someone else. U thought you could crouch in on the other's girl's territory and you would have been successful had the taurus guy been interested in you in a romantic way ie if he fancied you but NEWSFLASH he doesnt.
The taurus is not at all romantically interested in you or fancies you and you know it.
You dont want a friendship with him you want a relationship with him and he does not see you in this way so you are feeling hurt and rejected and now you are sounding bitter because you did not get what you want.
Do not interefere with him and the girl that he actually does want. You sort yourself out and keep your business out of his personal business.
You have two options
1) PLATONIC friendship - we no nothing more will happen as the taurus has shared a bed with you and was not even tempted to lay a hand on you.
2) Walk away. As to whether you speak to him again, that's your choice.
You have been here on these forums before with regards to the same taurus and nothing has changed and nothing will change. Sorry, it is what it is.
U were not blindsided. U a shot and you failed. Time to move on.
How can you possibly blame her for that. It's the taurus fault 50% as well. Taurus has ways and libra has certain weaknesses over some matters.
Both signs speak of heavy need of romance.
But to @london_libra
If I were you, I would just be gone out of his sight. I think it would be easy for you to get other men who are not a bunch of bs like him as well.
PS. From what i can tell (above statement), it is obvious that a taurus put their horns into you too and toss you aside. Your view is biased. Stop projecting.
Keep saying that to yourself often enough and you may even believe it. I certainly dont.click to expand
Posted by AneemA08I am going to step in on this discussion because I see you trying to be subjective about it, but I also believe your comments are just as biased as you claim MM's to be. I remember a post awhile back, from Terra where he made some weird comment about how you admitted that you couldn't have a platonic friendship with a guy, because for you, you only befriended men that you were romantically interested in. Please correct me, if this was not true. Because this is the basis of why I believe you are biased as well. (By the way, I am not trying to talk shit, just being my usual factual self)Posted by MaidemarilynOh I have a different problem. But you can say it has same ambiance. At least I come with my sounding bitter right on point at the situation she's having. I won't go to a thread which talks about happiness in relationships and sound bitter. That's just inneffective.Posted by AneemA08Sure. Why do you sound so bitter then?Posted by MaidemarilynLol, last time I checked, they're the ones who are always trying to get back with something from me. So.Posted by AneemA08"If I were you, I would just be gone out of his sight. I think it would be easy for you to get other men who are not a bunch of bs like him as well"Posted by MaidemarilynBut I think the taurus takes more of the responsibility. I mean, he's a complete bs, isn't he? Saying he wanted to work on his rs with the "main chick" yet he went to that distance with the factual admittance from his end that it was his intention to make it romantic.
Libra, dont pretend to be innocent because you knew he was seeing someone else. U thought you could crouch in on the other's girl's territory and you would have been successful had the taurus guy been interested in you in a romantic way ie if he fancied you but NEWSFLASH he doesnt.
The taurus is not at all romantically interested in you or fancies you and you know it.
You dont want a friendship with him you want a relationship with him and he does not see you in this way so you are feeling hurt and rejected and now you are sounding bitter because you did not get what you want.
Do not interefere with him and the girl that he actually does want. You sort yourself out and keep your business out of his personal business.
You have two options
1) PLATONIC friendship - we no nothing more will happen as the taurus has shared a bed with you and was not even tempted to lay a hand on you.
2) Walk away. As to whether you speak to him again, that's your choice.
You have been here on these forums before with regards to the same taurus and nothing has changed and nothing will change. Sorry, it is what it is.
U were not blindsided. U a shot and you failed. Time to move on.
How can you possibly blame her for that. It's the taurus fault 50% as well. Taurus has ways and libra has certain weaknesses over some matters.
Both signs speak of heavy need of romance.
But to @london_libra
If I were you, I would just be gone out of his sight. I think it would be easy for you to get other men who are not a bunch of bs like him as well.
PS. From what i can tell (above statement), it is obvious that a taurus put their horns into you too and toss you aside. Your view is biased. Stop projecting.
Keep saying that to yourself often enough and you may even believe it. I certainly dont.click to expand
Correct me if I am wrong, but I am reading you placing the blame on the Taurus more than the OP.
And I am going to side with MM on this one, because this is what I see in the OP's comments myself. From the start, this OP had ulterior motives with the Taurus. It is written plan as day, that she saw him and was interested in him romantically. To me, the start of the friendship was done under false pretenses. To me, the OP began a friendship with the hopes of becoming closer to the Taurus, so that she could get closer to him in order to showcase herself as relationship worthy to him. Even before this vacation, she was digging for information on his dating life. If friendship was her goal, asking about his dating life and whom he is dating would not be a paramount question she would ask. Given that she posted about him being "cagey" signifies that she asked him this question repeatedly. She knew there was a significant other or that he was dating someone, and it didn't stop her from still trying to meddle in his relationship.
And in my opinion, she went on this trip with him under the pretense of trying to evolve this friendship into more. Chances are, she was the one that suggested they sleep on the same bed. Because any girl that solely wants a friendship, doesn't sleep in the same bed as a guy friend. She romanticized the trip in her head, because that was her end goal since the very beginning. It is plan as day.
Now she is on here, posting this thread.
This is heartbreaking and highlights why the taurus/libra combination is so wrong on so many levels. They are totally this type, emotionally irresponsible, selfish and gluttonous. London_libra, you're too good for him by the fact that you went into this with wholehearted faith, whereas he had a whole other agenda. Sad times, but now you know to so him only in an unromantic light.
Unfortunately, for a lot of taurus men, their nature appeals to a lot of women even when they are just being friendly. They are natural gentlemen which can be mistaken for more and in this case, used against them which is what the OP is trying to do. But I smell the bs straight from the OP's ass.
They have a nature that is full of shit..try turning that on them, they can't even handle it!
They have a nature that is full of shit..try turning that on them, they can't even handle it!
She didn't know he was attached as per his shady behaviour. Funny how they always warp the truth to suit their agenda at the expense of other people's emotions.
Posted by AneemA08I see and read almost everything and file it away in my head, I just don't always comment on it. lolPosted by nikkistarOhh finally I've got you to see me 🙂Posted by AneemA08I am going to step in on this discussion because I see you trying to be subjective about it, but I also believe your comments are just as biased as you claim MM's to be. I remember a post awhile back, from Terra where he made some weird comment about how you admitted that you couldn't have a platonic friendship with a guy, because for you, you only befriended men that you were romantically interested in. Please correct me, if this was not true. Because this is the basis of why I believe you are biased as well. (By the way, I am not trying to talk shit, just being my usual factual self)Posted by MaidemarilynOh I have a different problem. But you can say it has same ambiance. At least I come with my sounding bitter right on point at the situation she's having. I won't go to a thread which talks about happiness in relationships and sound bitter. That's just inneffective.Posted by AneemA08Sure. Why do you sound so bitter then?Posted by MaidemarilynLol, last time I checked, they're the ones who are always trying to get back with something from me. So.Posted by AneemA08"If I were you, I would just be gone out of his sight. I think it would be easy for you to get other men who are not a bunch of bs like him as well"Posted by MaidemarilynBut I think the taurus takes more of the responsibility. I mean, he's a complete bs, isn't he? Saying he wanted to work on his rs with the "main chick" yet he went to that distance with the factual admittance from his end that it was his intention to make it romantic.
Libra, dont pretend to be innocent because you knew he was seeing someone else. U thought you could crouch in on the other's girl's territory and you would have been successful had the taurus guy been interested in you in a romantic way ie if he fancied you but NEWSFLASH he doesnt.
The taurus is not at all romantically interested in you or fancies you and you know it.
You dont want a friendship with him you want a relationship with him and he does not see you in this way so you are feeling hurt and rejected and now you are sounding bitter because you did not get what you want.
Do not interefere with him and the girl that he actually does want. You sort yourself out and keep your business out of his personal business.
You have two options
1) PLATONIC friendship - we no nothing more will happen as the taurus has shared a bed with you and was not even tempted to lay a hand on you.
2) Walk away. As to whether you speak to him again, that's your choice.
You have been here on these forums before with regards to the same taurus and nothing has changed and nothing will change. Sorry, it is what it is.
U were not blindsided. U a shot and you failed. Time to move on.
How can you possibly blame her for that. It's the taurus fault 50% as well. Taurus has ways and libra has certain weaknesses over some matters.
Both signs speak of heavy need of romance.
But to @london_libra
If I were you, I would just be gone out of his sight. I think it would be easy for you to get other men who are not a bunch of bs like him as well.
PS. From what i can tell (above statement), it is obvious that a taurus put their horns into you too and toss you aside. Your view is biased. Stop projecting.
Keep saying that to yourself often enough and you may even believe it. I certainly dont.
Correct me if I am wrong, but I am reading you placing the blame on the Taurus more than the OP.
And I am going to side with MM on this one, because this is what I see in the OP's comments myself. From the start, this OP had ulterior motives with the Taurus. It is written plan as day, that she saw him and was interested in him romantically. To me, the start of the friendship was done under false pretenses. To me, the OP began a friendship with the hopes of becoming closer to the Taurus, so that she could get closer to him in order to showcase herself as relationship worthy to him. Even before this vacation, she was digging for information on his dating life. If friendship was her goal, asking about his dating life and whom he is dating would not be a paramount question she would ask. Given that she posted about him being "cagey" signifies that she asked him this question repeatedly. She knew there was a significant other or that he was dating someone, and it didn't stop her from still trying to meddle in his relationship.
And in my opinion, she went on this trip with him under the pretense of trying to evolve this friendship into more. Chances are, she was the one that suggested they sleep on the same bed. Because any girl that solely wants a friendship, doesn't sleep in the same bed as a guy friend. She romanticized the trip in her head, because that was her end goal since the very beginning. It is plan as day.
Now she is on here, posting this thread.
I like your comment whoever you're siding with.
Yeah I have this tendency to boyfriend a friend. That, if I catch feelings yes. But what Terra doesn't know, is that he was also being friendly and actually act caring with other gals and oh gawd don't get me start it, but terra did a lot of talking about the women in the past and one of them is you. And he was going about being jealous?? He can gtfo. I was just making my point.
Okay so let's get back on the original topic. But it was as plain as day too that the taurus ended up stating that he was trying to work out his relationship with the woman. Which speaks about again, him being a bs. If he did try to save his rs, why would he find comfort from other women. So for OP to be unfairly judged is just .... Idk, I can't even find the word for it.
Yes the part of her romanticized the trip can be her downside but the taurus were willing to pay all the cost, right? And there, it speaks the deception on his side as well. And therefore she was deceiving as well.
I may sound emo but I think that's pretty on point as well.
I still love you, Nikki ?click to expand
I am not absolving the Taurus for his actions. It is evident that he used the OP as a "pick me up" because of his heartbreak. It is pretty obvious he knew the OP liked him, as I doubt she hid it well. And the cuddling during the trip, it was obvious he used her for the physical comfort that he missed with his ex. It is what it is. He isn't a gem either.
But I also she her motives behind everything she has done, and it was nefarious from the start. She is just as culpable to me, if not more in my opinion. For me, I find her actions more abhorrent, for the simple fact that she went in trying to manipulate the situation for her own benefit from the start.
Posted by SolaStop talking about yourself like that. Ms. WHY DOESN'T MY FWB CONTACT ME ALL THE TIME AND ONLY WANTS TO HIT ME UP WHEN HE WANTS TO GET IT WET.
She didn't know he was attached as per his shady behaviour. Funny how they always warp the truth to suit their agenda at the expense of other people's emotions.
Posted by london_libra
Wow, it was a joke! Maybe it's my British sense of humour? I am genuinely appreciative of your advice, Jeane, and impressed you remembered my post from months ago - wasn't trying to sound bitchy. But there's no inflection on the internet so you can't tell how I meant it.
Really didn't mean to offend you.
Maidemarilyn, calm your farm. Not trying to start drama with anyone, just trying to understand.
British humour is better than that...
Busy, is that really you??!!
He's an asshole, plain and simple.
Hahahah!!! This is great 🙂
Im confused and in my defense, it's a lot to read on a phone but where did he say, y'all were in a relationship? Why didn't you ask him, what he felt and thought about being more than just friends with you before you put all your feelings into him?
Live and learn and next time maybe try being more upfront with the guy and getting clear on his intentions, so you don't feel so used and hurt.
Live and learn and next time maybe try being more upfront with the guy and getting clear on his intentions, so you don't feel so used and hurt.
Posted by AneemA08If you are interesting in someone, from the start, you let them know.Posted by nikkistarUhm.. Because of the same interests, same activities... In case of men and women mingling in communities or circle of friends. It's pretty normal, you know..
Why do some women do this goofy shit?
So many of you, go into friendships with men, with ulterior motives from the start. It's gross.
Also for the fact I want my lover to be my friend too, so it would better if finding it in friendship setting.
What's goofy about that?click to expand
Trying to low-key slide into the DMs, while pretending you only want friendship is goofy shit.
Posted by AneemA08You aren't understanding the context. Feelings CAN grow from friendship down the line. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.Posted by nikkistarWhat if at first you don't have feels but then somehow somewhere at some point it just happens.Posted by AneemA08If you are interesting in someone, from the start, you let them know.Posted by nikkistarUhm.. Because of the same interests, same activities... In case of men and women mingling in communities or circle of friends. It's pretty normal, you know..
Why do some women do this goofy shit?
So many of you, go into friendships with men, with ulterior motives from the start. It's gross.
Also for the fact I want my lover to be my friend too, so it would better if finding it in friendship setting.
What's goofy about that?
Trying to low-key slide into the DMs, while pretending you only want friendship is goofy shit.
Yeah i'm still confused now which is more important, friend or lover.. Which do you think weighs more to me?click to expand
However, if from the very start and moment you meet someone, and you doing this goofy shit, you a goofy bitch. Plan and simple.
Posted by AneemA08Posted by nikkistarOhh i see. I didn't know the OP wanted that specific from the start, did she? Do you know?Posted by AneemA08You aren't understanding the context. Feelings CAN grow from friendship down the line. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.Posted by nikkistarWhat if at first you don't have feels but then somehow somewhere at some point it just happens.Posted by AneemA08If you are interesting in someone, from the start, you let them know.Posted by nikkistarUhm.. Because of the same interests, same activities... In case of men and women mingling in communities or circle of friends. It's pretty normal, you know..
Why do some women do this goofy shit?
So many of you, go into friendships with men, with ulterior motives from the start. It's gross.
Also for the fact I want my lover to be my friend too, so it would better if finding it in friendship setting.
What's goofy about that?
Trying to low-key slide into the DMs, while pretending you only want friendship is goofy shit.
Yeah i'm still confused now which is more important, friend or lover.. Which do you think weighs more to me?
However, if from the very start and moment you meet someone, and you doing this goofy shit, you a goofy bitch. Plan and simple.
I'm too lazy to look at her prev threads ?
Posted by london_libra
Caught feelings pretty much instantly
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Posted by NevermoreOh I completely agree, men can do this goofy shit too. They are goofy bitches to me too. lolPosted by nikkistarThat's sadly happen to men too towards female. Pretending to be friends while ultimate motives to get the girl..
Why do some women do this goofy shit?
So many of you, go into friendships with men, with ulterior motives from the start. It's gross.
But yeah. It's mainly like trying to get the trophy because of their ego while wearing red shaded glasses.click to expand
Posted by MaidemarilynThis was a post about his woman he had lost!Posted by Fragrance"However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved. "
Move on girl
He's not over his ex yet
You don't want to be a temporary solace... Taurus would seek his comfort in all possible ways to numb the turmoil.
Also, him spending money on you means nothing. It's in Taurus nature to do it regardless of how important the woman is to him.
However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved.
And hey me knows your little heart will be full again ?
He was never in love with the OP.click to expand
And why ta heck you are so much on OPs case? Yes she loves him, yes she wants him and she might get him after all.
What's your problem? Someone stole your man?
Why can't woman love someone who is AVAILABLE because he isn't married!
While dating all is right in love and war!
And if he is preoccupied with woman who dumped him - why OP can't be another woman whom he will learn to love?
Everyone is so right in here! No flaws people advice 'idiots' and them later come to dry about the same love problems...
Knock it off with your know it all at this age. You don't know shit if it was running down your face from your head!!!
Let OP figure out on her own. I wouldn't even think about man who hadn't try to have sex with me on such trip! It would be too obvious he isn't into me. But hey! New age...whatever you do - your way is ok.
Posted by london_libraGirl, just thank your lucky stars you didn't sleep with him. If this is how you feel when he did NOT sleep w/you; think about how you would have felt IF he DID. I don't see anything wrong in him having feelings for another woman. It's the other woman that hurt his heart and he's still on the rebound. HE has to take time to "heal". HE'S the one that made an err and asked you out for a holiday (we call it vacation in the states) and he was very kind, a gentleman, paid for the meals, etc. ANYTHING he comes across will remind him of HER (a certain smell/odor, food, seeing a painting, listening to a train whistle, etc., etc, etc) so again, HE has to erase her from his heart and mind. You did NOTHING wrong. To me, it was as if you were his little sister and nothing sexually happened; you were his "friend". Why not allow this "friendship" to turn to something special? I wouldn't diss him so fast. Keep us posted.
Met this Taurus 8 months ago. Caught feelings pretty much instantly but was new to the city so didn't want jump into anything. We danced around each other for a long time, a LOT of mutual flirting was going on. I knew he was briefly dating someone back in February but he never told me about it, never brought it up, was always cagey about the topic.
Over the last couple of months we started to get a lot closer, everyone has been asking us (separately) if we're dating and saying it's only a matter of time before we get together. He's stayed over at mine a few times (platonically, separate beds) and he asked me to go on a trip with him, just the two of us.
We did, to a very romantic location by the coast, staying in a forest cabin. The whole trip was like a honeymoon; double dates with his friends, forest walks, watching sunsets on the beach, sharing a bed (there was only one bed in the cabin and it was cold so we both slept in it). He never tried anything on or made a move but he spooned me in bed, wrapped his arms around me, kissed me on the cheek each night before bed, put his arm around me when we walked down the street together. The whole thing was extremely romantic, but he never crossed a line. Never kissed me or anything, the closest we got was me feeling his boner on my leg in the bed, haha.
On the last morning of our trip I asked him why he's been so down lately and he said "I've recently had my heartbroken. I was seeing someone, she moved away but I was still hoping for us to make it work but I found out last week she has someone new."
I knew NONE of this before we went on our trip. I didn't know his fling in February was remotely serious, or that he was hanging on for someone, or that it was still going on. He claims that we are really close friends but didn't tell me anything about this.
After we returned, I asked him if I could contribute any money to the trip as he had paid for everything (and it wasn't cheap). He said no, it was his pleasure to take me away but "I'm sorry if I gave the impression this was meant to be a romantic getaway". I was pretty blindsided. I've never been so deeply romanced by someone who didn't actually want to romance me. He said he "felt attracted to me in a lot of ways but not in others so we wouldn't work romantically" also gave me the old bullshit line of "you could do better than me".
Obviously, I'm gutted. I feel like he spent 3 days making me fall deeply in love with him only so he could have the pleasure of rejecting me at the end of it. I wonder if he did this on purpose to punish a woman after his recent heartbreak? To get an ego-boost/validation?
I'm so hurt. I think of him as a really good friend but a) he didn't tell me about his relationship and b) manipulated my obvious feelings for him. He claims he had no idea that I had feelings for him but there's no way that's not true. I never said anything but it's written all over my face, I'm not that subtle, lol.
I have told him I need some time away from him to figure out how I feel. Should I encourage him to go after this girl he loved, even though she says she's moved on? Should I wait for his heartbreak to subside and try again? Should I move the fuck on and never speak to him again?
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Posted by MaidemarilynSaid who?Posted by GemitatiI know at her age when a man is not into me. That's a fact.Posted by MaidemarilynThis was a post about his woman he had lost!Posted by Fragrance"However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved. "
Move on girl
He's not over his ex yet
You don't want to be a temporary solace... Taurus would seek his comfort in all possible ways to numb the turmoil.
Also, him spending money on you means nothing. It's in Taurus nature to do it regardless of how important the woman is to him.
However, don't suppose now that you're no one to him. I suspect he actually likes you, yet it takes ages for le bulls to forget (if ever?) a woman they truly loved.
And hey me knows your little heart will be full again ?
He was never in love with the OP.
And why ta heck you are so much on OPs case? Yes she loves him, yes she wants him and she might get him after all.
What's your problem? Someone stole your man?
Why can't woman love someone who is AVAILABLE because he isn't married!
While dating all is right in love and war!
And if he is preoccupied with woman who dumped him - why OP can't be another woman whom he will learn to love?
Everyone is so right in here! No flaws people advice 'idiots' and them later come to dry about the same love problems...
Knock it off with your know it all at this age. You don't know shit if it was running down your face from your head!!!
Let OP figure out on her own. I wouldn't even think about man who hadn't try to have sex with me on such trip! It would be too obvious he isn't into me. But hey! New age...whatever you do - your way is ok.
She knew he was attached to someone else. She played her cards and she lost. Time to move on. End of.click to expand
She can continue as long as she want!
You led yourself on. He was never under any obligation to tell you about this other girl. It was your own responsibility to make both your intentions clear from the get-go, but even then, some men will lie. It's naive to assume that people will have your best interest in mind, no matter how genuine they may appear.
Next time, don't give anyone the benefit of the doubt so early in the (dating) game. Control your emotions and wait until the person professes exclusivity before handing over your heart.
Just be glad he never felt your insides and move on.
Next time, don't give anyone the benefit of the doubt so early in the (dating) game. Control your emotions and wait until the person professes exclusivity before handing over your heart.
Just be glad he never felt your insides and move on.
Posted by MaidemarilynLOL, well, damn. *starts reevaluating my Taurus friendships* 😆Posted by AneemA08Yes we can if you are not good looking or beautiful.
I still don't think taurus can have female friends tho ?click to expand
Posted by Scorpio123So, people are trolls that don't buy this shit? And you are telling her to play mind games?
OP, firstly you need to block the trolls. That way they won't get in the way of you getting decent advice.
Secondly, I think jeane means well and made a good point. Hi jeane!
Thirdly, I would give that guy distance, when you're hung up on someone and a new love interest comes on, it's a very confusing feeling, and bulls are so so slow. Chances are this thing with that other girl won't work out, but you don't want to be friend zoned while he figures that out, right? So distant yourself, make him think he's the one missing out and effing up by losing a great opportunity with someone HE CAN HAVE NOW.
GTFO
You make Scorpios look stupid as fuck.
May I give you an advice? I have personally never dated a Taurus. However, reading through the comments, it seems that being gentlemanly and courteous is very important for them (high standards for themselves). But that at times, they hide behind their chivalrous impulses.
I think the best thing to do is indeed to move on. And that one way of doing so is by paying him back for the trip. Look up how much the trip might have cost and pay your part. That way you know you are not indebted to him or that in exchange of giving him comfort, you received some type of compensation. It gives you at least some freedom and a little boost to truly move onto someone who will reciprocate your feelings.
I think the best thing to do is indeed to move on. And that one way of doing so is by paying him back for the trip. Look up how much the trip might have cost and pay your part. That way you know you are not indebted to him or that in exchange of giving him comfort, you received some type of compensation. It gives you at least some freedom and a little boost to truly move onto someone who will reciprocate your feelings.
Gawd, you sound like my Libra friend who also chooses to keep her head firmly lodged up her ass and blatantly ignores the obvious.
The fact he was "cagey" about discussing the chick should have been a big indicator. But you were to fixated on your lady boner for this dude and chose to ignore it, hoping in lala land delusion that he'd want you. You read into the trip and misled yourself.
Stop living in fucking fantasy land like so many Libras choose to do. Always crying about being the victim when it boils down to them being fucktards obsessed with the "R" word.
Lesson learned, move on. Next time, don't be a tard about it, think like an adult and not a teenage girl pining over some dude who couldn't give two fucks about her.
The fact he was "cagey" about discussing the chick should have been a big indicator. But you were to fixated on your lady boner for this dude and chose to ignore it, hoping in lala land delusion that he'd want you. You read into the trip and misled yourself.
Stop living in fucking fantasy land like so many Libras choose to do. Always crying about being the victim when it boils down to them being fucktards obsessed with the "R" word.
Lesson learned, move on. Next time, don't be a tard about it, think like an adult and not a teenage girl pining over some dude who couldn't give two fucks about her.
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