Taurus man talking to another girl

I found flirty messages between my bf and this girl i havent met before, i confronted him about it and he said he'll stop talking to her, that he doesnt like her, they were just friends talking.. When i asked him before if he was talking to anyone because i felt like his attention was elsewhere these days, he said no. He lied. I have lost trust in him, i held him in such high regards as an honest person but he flirted with her behind my back. What should i do? Should i give this taurus man a chance? He said he wont hurt me anymore. Why did he do it in the first place?? Please help

Taurus males have female friends, that's par for the course. They're usually popular amongst the chicks. Doesn't mean they're fucking every single one of them.

You're paranoid to begin with, and his little white lie didn't do any favors either.

Posted by Impulsv

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Taurus males have female friends, that's par for the course. They're usually popular amongst the chicks. Doesn't mean they're fucking every single one of them.

You're paranoid to begin with, and his little white lie didn't do any favors either.

Really paranoid lolhe got caught red-handed

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No he didn't, she's the paranoid type to begin with. Sag with Scorp placements and Gemini moon = crazy overdrive.



But he's not helping with his white lies either. He makes it worse so if he wakes up tied to the bed with electrical cord and his testicles hooked upto a car battery, he got only himself to blame.

Over thinking

You can call me paranoid, but as of lately he hasnt been replying to my msgs as often so i got suspicious, and therefore found msgs between them, when he didnt reply to me he was actually talking to her...

I have Sagittarius Venus. My response would be to quit the so-called relationship ASAP. The story does not say that you are married for decades.

How long have you been together?

how long had it been before his last relationship before you got together?

What sort of things were they saying?

How did you happen to "find" these messages?

Posted by jeane
How long have you been together?

how long had it been before his last relationship before you got together?

What sort of things were they saying?

How did you happen to "find" these messages?

1.5 years together, his last relo was 3 months before we got together. He gave me his passcode to his phone, but i never snooped until recently due to suspicion. They met at an event 2 weeks ago, he invited her out twice to karaoke with his boys. Said he liked her indirectly in one of the msgs he sent her.

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Posted by jeane
How long have you been together?

how long had it been before his last relationship before you got together?

What sort of things were they saying?

How did you happen to "find" these messages?

1.5 years together, his last relo was 3 months before we got together. He gave me his passcode to his phone, but i never snooped until recently due to suspicion. They met at an event 2 weeks ago, he invited her out twice to karaoke with his boys. Said he liked her indirectly in one of the msgs he sent her.

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Hmmm. Do you trust him?

Yes and no. Im conflicted, thats why im here at 2:30am lol

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Posted by Impulsv

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
Taurus males have female friends, that's par for the course. They're usually popular amongst the chicks. Doesn't mean they're fucking every single one of them.

You're paranoid to begin with, and his little white lie didn't do any favors either.

Really paranoid lolhe got caught red-handed

No he didn't, she's the paranoid type to begin with. Sag with Scorp placements and Gemini moon = crazy overdrive.



But he's not helping with his white lies either. He makes it worse so if he wakes up tied to the bed with electrical cord and his testicles hooked upto a car battery, he got only himself to blame.

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Thanks for making me giggle haha

Posted by Yamanashi
Yes and no. Im conflicted, thats why im here at 2:30am lol

I think you have to consider how much of this assessment are you contributing to; your suspicions, your snooping, you own personality traits. And how much you can put things into context. How many messages to this other woman, what was her response, how have you two been getting on lately, if you felt ye was ready to start another relationship when his one started with you.

If you feel you have something good here, then it is worth a frank and open conversation, conducted calmly. You can prise this back but if you don't think it's all that great, then your lack of trust (deserved or not) will spell the end.

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Posted by Yamanashi
Yes and no. Im conflicted, thats why im here at 2:30am lol

I think you have to consider how much of this assessment are you contributing to; your suspicions, your snooping, you own personality traits. And how much you can put things into context. How many messages to this other woman, what was her response, how have you two been getting on lately, if you felt ye was ready to start another relationship when his one started with you.

If you feel you have something good here, then it is worth a frank and open conversation, conducted calmly. You can prise this back but if you don't think it's all that great, then your lack of trust (deserved or not) will spell the end.

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Thankyou very much, i will think over your advice. Its good as always.

Posted by Impulsv
Wow I can't believe people think this behavior is normal

He meet her two weeks n has started dating her

Telling he likes her.

I bet new girl doesn't know about his 1,5 years commitment

I'd dump him

That's just me

it's not normal but after 1.5 years together, he deserves a chance to explain to her his point of view.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Yamanashi
Yes and no. Im conflicted, thats why im here at 2:30am lol

I think you have to consider how much of this assessment are you contributing to; your suspicions, your snooping, you own personality traits. And how much you can put things into context. How many messages to this other woman, what was her response, how have you two been getting on lately, if you felt ye was ready to start another relationship when his one started with you.

If you feel you have something good here, then it is worth a frank and open conversation, conducted calmly. You can prise this back but if you don't think it's all that great, then your lack of trust (deserved or not) will spell the end.

This is damn good advice.

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cheers tiz. it means a lot coming from you!

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Posted by Impulsv
Wow I can't believe people think this behavior is normal

He meet her two weeks n has started dating her

Telling he likes her.

I bet new girl doesn't know about his 1,5 years commitment

I'd dump him

That's just me

Exactly! He's bringing her out with his friends. Why are you not going out to karaoke night with his friends?

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Because it was suppose to be a boys night out...

Thats true. My brain is telling me to dump him, but my heart is saying to give him another chance. As he also did ask for one. I know taurus guys are popular amongst the females, but do they always do this with all of them? He now thinks im forbidding him frm talking to other girls. When its not the the case. Its how he talks to them.

Posted by Impulsv
Wow I can't believe people think this behavior is normal

He meet her two weeks n has started dating her

Telling he likes her.

I bet new girl doesn't know about his 1,5 years commitment

I'd dump him

That's just me

She knows he has a gf, apparently she just got out of one because she didnt want to settle down with her long term bf. I really question her as a person.

He took her out... ?

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Posted by Montgomery
He took her out... ?

Yes Monty, on a suposive "guys night out"

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I wouldn't put up with that for a hot minute.

There is no situation in which it would be

alright, if we were dating, exclusively.

'We're just friends... '

No, you're not.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Impulsv
Wow I can't believe people think this behavior is normal

He meet her two weeks n has started dating her

Telling he likes her.

I bet new girl doesn't know about his 1,5 years commitment

I'd dump him

That's just me

it's not normal but after 1.5 years together, he deserves a chance to explain to her his point of view.

Yeah that he's looking for a side piece and was caught red handed. Now he has to lie to save face

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maybe. but i dont know him. i wouldnt recommend op exchange her judgement for my own when i am not an active participant in their relationship.

i've learnt that assumptions are often wrong so i may be foolish but i don't come from a place where i automatically assume my partner is an arsehole.

If he isn't cheating...

He's about to.

He invited her out to karaoke without giving his girlfriend that same invitation?

Man, I would check his @ss!

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Posted by Impulsv
Wow I can't believe people think this behavior is normal

He meet her two weeks n has started dating her

Telling he likes her.

I bet new girl doesn't know about his 1,5 years commitment

I'd dump him

That's just me

it's not normal but after 1.5 years together, he deserves a chance to explain to her his point of view.

Yeah that he's looking for a side piece and was caught red handed. Now he has to lie to save face

maybe. but i dont know him. i wouldnt recommend op exchange her judgement for my own when i am not an active participant in their relationship.

i've learnt that assumptions are often wrong so i may be foolish but i don't come from a place where i automatically assume my partner is an arsehole.

True but a man who looks outside the relationship and lies to his partner, is looking for either a way out or a side piece. She's trying to hold on to a man who is deceiving and untrustworthy.

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Looks like he is looking to jump. Or it could be something else. Neither they will be able to work out if they don't have a frank and open conversation.

But after 1.5 years together rather than a knee jerk reaction, of everything must be perfect all the time, there is a maturity in realising our partner's are sometimes going to be less than what we want them to be. In a lifetime together, people will lie, people will deceive their partners. It's unrealistic to think that doesn't happen. What do you do when your wife lies about the number of shoes she bought or your husband lies about how many drinks he had or did he ever think about what life would have been like if he stayed with an old girlfriend?

This is what is meant when people say relationships take work. If she feels there is something to fight for then she try her best to get to the bottom of this issue. Relationships are at times, difficult and trying and no fun but you stay in it if you believe the end is worthwhile.

From the looks of it, he hasn't cheated yet. There is a way for them to work on their relationship now, address their issues and make their connection stronger if she wants to.

^he hasnt cheated yet. He said he will never cheat but he said flirting and talking is okay, as long as it doesnt turn physical.. Ofc i know it's just talk to save his own ass.

All my friends are telling me to give him a chance, if he does it again i should leave him. i believe he thought it was okay because his circle of friends does it aswell, even though they have a Gf / fiance / wife. I have told it was not okay for guys to do that. Told him to delete her off his social media and block her number, he agreed. I asked if he was to run into her, what should he do? He replied "run away". To clarify, the times he was trying to get her to come out to karaoke, she didnt come out.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by jeane

Posted by Yamanashi
Yes and no. Im conflicted, thats why im here at 2:30am lol

I think you have to consider how much of this assessment are you contributing to; your suspicions, your snooping, you own personality traits. And how much you can put things into context. How many messages to this other woman, what was her response, how have you two been getting on lately, if you felt ye was ready to start another relationship when his one started with you.

If you feel you have something good here, then it is worth a frank and open conversation, conducted calmly. You can prise this back but if you don't think it's all that great, then your lack of trust (deserved or not) will spell the end.

This is damn good advice.

Very "libran" lol lol

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Yesssss it is. I used to think like that.

UPDATE! (If anybody wanted to know)

So i gave him a chance. There were some other issues that came up months after, e.g him not being open/honest about things like how there were strippers at his friend's bday or how his ex kept msging him for advice, talking here and there with her. I've told him if this keeps up i dont see a future for us. He said he'll CHANGE and that he's "clean" now, theres nothing more i need to find out.

You're too controlling. Picking irrelevant battles. I still talk to exs. I'm definitely not planning on cheating. The reasons ex's are ex's are because a relationship didn't work with them, not because yall can't be friends in every case.

My dude is a Pisces but he's fucking sexy. Of course women will flirt with him and he may flirt back. Just like I do. He even found himself in a situation where he walked in a room with a completely naked woman. Lol she wasnt naked for him, but he looked (even if he tried to make me feel better and say he didnt, I KNOW he did). It doesn't make us any less faithful. He gives me everything I've ever wanted in friendship and love.

If he does everything you need, don't sweat the small stuff. If he isn't giving everything you need, pick that battle.

He's got to go..

Posted by SweetestFatale
You're too controlling. Picking irrelevant battles. I still talk to exs. I'm definitely not planning on cheating. The reasons ex's are ex's are because a relationship didn't work with them, not because yall can't be friends in every case.

My dude is a Pisces but he's fucking sexy. Of course women will flirt with him and he may flirt back. Just like I do. He even found himself in a situation where he walked in a room with a completely naked woman. Lol she wasnt naked for him, but he looked (even if he tried to make me feel better and say he didnt, I KNOW he did). It doesn't make us any less faithful. He gives me everything I've ever wanted in friendship and love.

If he does everything you need, don't sweat the small stuff. If he isn't giving everything you need, pick that battle.

Hahahahaha you may be comfortable with your significant other talking to their exs but there are plenty of people who aren't! You may be trustworthy person and her bf is already proven himself to be shady . Personally I'd never entertain an ex or flirt with another guy and I'd expect the same out of my boyfriend. Some are just more old school and that's ok.

Good luck op! Don't let her sway you into thinking you're just insecure! You're insecurities are his problem

"You're insecurities are his problem."

He isn't the one complaining about her insecurity, she is. It is her problem. She can either choose to cut him loose because its ALREADY obvious they don't have the same boundaries or she can keep running into the wall.

I think the main issue here, and for many relationships, is a lack of mutual respect. The real question you should be asking him is would he be okay if you were messaging with another man you only met 2 weeks ago and inviting him out with your friends when you don't invite your own boyfriend? I'm pretty certain your boyfriend would not be okay with this, so your next questions should be "Then why is it okay for you to do that?".

People seem to make excuses for their inappropriate behaviour, until the shoe is on the other foot. A relationship should be about mutual respect. As a child we were told by our mothers and teachers and the people who guided us into adulthood "treat others how you would like to be treated" but for some reason it just doesn't sink in.

In a relationship there seems to be a blurred line between what people think is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. In most cases people will make excuses for their actions and proclaim them to be innocent, but when the shoe is put on the other foot they suddenly realise that hey this is not okay, I am not okay with that level of disrespect, which I believe your boyfriend has been disrespectful.

At the end of the day, for me personally when trying to decide what is right and wrong, I ask myself if I would be okay if my partner did that to me, if the answer is no then I will not do it. Would I be okay with him giving his number to another woman? No, then I'm certainly not going to do it. Would I be okay with him hanging out with a girl who he barely knows just as "friends"? No, then I am not going to do it.

Your partner has done these things but would he be okay if those things were done to him? If he would not be then I think your real issue here is an understanding of mutual respect.

Ask him his reasonings behind not being okay with you doing what he has done? When he answers then tell him that for those very reasons, you too don't feel comfortable or that it is acceptable for him to be doing it.

Personally though I think the behaviour is very shady. I'm also curious as to what exactly his friends reactions would have been when a random woman rocks up to their guys karaoke night who isn't his girlfriend. The fact that that doesn't seem odd and that he doesn't seem to think that his friends would be questioning what is going on, tells me this kind of thing happens all the time.

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He took her out... ?

omg prince!

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You just now seeing this?

"Personally though I think the behaviour is very shady. I'm also curious as to what exactly his friends reactions would have been when a random woman rocks up to their guys karaoke night who isn't his girlfriend. The fact that that doesn't seem odd and that he doesn't seem to think that his friends would be questioning what is going on, tells me this kind of thing happens all the time."

^ right on the dollar there scorpvixen! I believe it is very normal for them thats why he thinks its okay to talk to other girls because his friends also does that. I call that pack mentality. I wont tell him to either pick his friends or me, because i know theyre his friends since forever. His past relos only lasted 8 months the longest- he broke up with them) therefore i think he doesnt know how to maintain a longterm relationship because this relo is the longest he's ever been in 1.5 yrs. I've made it known i will not tolerate any more deceit, this is his last chance or i will leave him. This isnt to say everytime he goes hang out with his boys i wouldnt be anxious. I still am but i carefully pick my battles now.

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He took her out... ?

omg prince!

You just now seeing this?

OMG i miss him. He has so many amazing faces, why does a person have to die before we really see their amazingness fully

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I didn't appreciate him til I hit my 30s... I think

he's amazing.

Starlover @mystarsshine posted this a while

ago, and watching him at the end-- I don't think

it's a far reach to say we get a glimpse of the

supernatural. ??