Taurus Man/ virgo lady

Ok sooo.. I've been friends with this t guy for almost 3yrs. When I first met him I was in a relationship. He always invited me out and I flaked up because of my relationship..

Fast forward, I'm single and we've been hanging. It's just so refreshing. He's so smart and artistic. The conversation flows naturally with no awkward silences. Can touch bases on all topics. He loves to eat and drink. On our first date he took me riding on his bicycle through time square. On his handle bars and I wasnt scared lol. Probably the best date I had! We stayed out drinking and eating all the way till the morning..

I think this is the first guy I'm falling for without being lusty or having sex with.

With that being said, I went back to his apartment that night. I felt like maybe we coulda had sex but his apartment was really dirty. He knew I didnt like it but I didnt criticize him. We just looked at each other and laughed. I happen to be a messy virgo myself but damn lol...

So later that week, he texts me. He's like what happened, you seem into me. I told him I was still hurt by my ex. We continue to go on dates. Just having a really good time..

Ok with all that being said. He doesn't pick up my calls when I call. Then texts days later. He's always in control of when we go out. Which I understand because I flaked for 2yrs straight.

Do y'all think he's still hurt from my past flakiness??

Oh yea I'm blk and he's white. We attract alot of unwanted and negative energy sometimes.. it just hurt my heart how mean people can be..

Any thoughts—

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

Where do you live? Not specific but I just wanted to see because you said that you’ve been told some negative comments because you’re black and he’s white

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

Where do you live? Not specific but I just wanted to see because you said that you’ve been told some negative comments because you’re black and he’s white

Surprisingly NYC... the looks and the things people say is shocking..

Yet if I was a man would it be the same

Posted by MissKrabs

you didn't flaked him you were with someone else and if anything he should think that as a plus. doubt that's an issue at all.

as for the other, no idea really. maybe an old story as the time, taurus takes their time.

Exactly, this.

He most likely respects you more because you were loyal to your relationship and kept things platonic.

He might be worried about yr ex.. Feeling insecure or something.. Also tauruses are notorious for going non communicado whenever they please

Posted by jeane

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

totally - you keep flaking even now as you stated ... give it some time and make up your mind about what you want and in which direction you want you life to go

Posted by maiden

@ELIGAB how physical have you been w him? sometimes taurus needs some physical reassurance or he may think you're only interested as friends

We hug each and yesterday we went out on a date and he kissed me on my forehead... lol 😍

I cried with him and he hugs me and rub my shoulders.

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Posted by ELIGAB

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

Where do you live? Not specific but I just wanted to see because you said that you’ve been told some negative comments because you’re black and he’s white

Surprisingly NYC... the looks and the things people say is shocking..

Yet if I was a man would it be the same

new yorkers have zero filter you could be wearing socks that dont quite match your jeans or something and walk around and get looks and comments allday.

strong taurus placements draw unsolicited BS from strangers as well

not dismissing that ppl arent racist, they probably are, but there may also be other factors

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Another night out last night. We was looking at graffiti in between two buildings. Its was like a dark hall between 2 buildings and it just caught our attention. So I turned on my flashlight and proceeds to walk in. I didnt because I was scared but I provided lights for him.

As soon as we come out, cops stop and frisk him!!! I'm like wtf!!!! Never in my life have I ever been harassed my cops. They thought we was spray painting.

So I go to the cops, like this illegal. They got so mad and defensive. He told me to back up. Not only back up but by the light.. idk.. I felt so sad. Like we're not criminals, simply admiring art. It just is so strange. Next time we're gonna hang in Brooklyn..

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Posted by jeane

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

totally - you keep flaking even now as you stated ... give it some time and make up your mind about what you want and in which direction you want you life to go

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Yeaa... idk. I feel like he can be the one. Like I could see myself with him for the next 10yrs or longer. Its scary... lol. I've never felt like this my whole life..

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Posted by virgoop

my convos with tauruses go nowhere. there's too much respect haha.

food and nap ?

"sorry late reply fell asleep"

"haha me too."

"whatchu up to?"

"eating. you?"

"same haha."

just trust me, snoozefest asf.

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Yea, same usually. But not this one. Like we can stay up talking till 8am, eating and drinking.. lmaoo.. indulging in life pleasures. It feels so good to have a guy understand the importance of good food.... lol... So earthy huh!

But on the flip side. I think I like fixed moons. He's a leo moon and I'm aqua..

I know I'm gonna have sex with him.. it's just building up lol...

Posted by ELIGAB

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Posted by jeane

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

totally - you keep flaking even now as you stated ... give it some time and make up your mind about what you want and in which direction you want you life to go

Yeaa... idk. I feel like he can be the one. Like I could see myself with him for the next 10yrs or longer. Its scary... lol. I've never felt like this my whole life..

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then stop dilly dallying and grab him before he becomes disinterested and you lose him to someone else

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Posted by jeane

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

totally - you keep flaking even now as you stated ... give it some time and make up your mind about what you want and in which direction you want you life to go

Yeaa... idk. I feel like he can be the one. Like I could see myself with him for the next 10yrs or longer. Its scary... lol. I've never felt like this my whole life..

then stop dilly dallying and grab him before he becomes disinterested and you lose him to someone else

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Yea ima grab him alright..

Right by the horns and ride him like a rodeooo lol

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Posted by jeane

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

totally - you keep flaking even now as you stated ... give it some time and make up your mind about what you want and in which direction you want you life to go

Yeaa... idk. I feel like he can be the one. Like I could see myself with him for the next 10yrs or longer. Its scary... lol. I've never felt like this my whole life..

then stop dilly dallying and grab him before he becomes disinterested and you lose him to someone else

Yea ima grab him alright..

Right by the horns and ride him like a rodeooo lol

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giddy up go

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Posted by jeane

at this point you're not a safe bet for him so he is holding back.

totally - you keep flaking even now as you stated ... give it some time and make up your mind about what you want and in which direction you want you life to go

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it's also that she said she is still recovering from her ex.