@2LoV3
7 Years
What do you need for reassurance?
How to Gain Reassurance in a Relationship
Reassurance varies but generally involves clear communication and consistent actions. Contacting occasionally or daily can provide comfort, but excessive contact may seem clingy. Finding a balance that suits both partners helps build trust and reassurance without overwhelming each other.
Most important for me is reliability.
If we text even once every day or two but then I go three days without hearing. But if you still have a few dates up your sleeve or a FWB you need two phones and only give me number for one and leave it at home.. Because if I don't see or hear from you on Friday my imagination will start wondering and I will be a texting pest while you are having wild crazy sex with FWB. I will try to be mature and the more reliable you are the more I can deal with reality. That's what I keep telling myself.
Honesty, Clear Communication, Pure Intent.
Posted by sweetpea2977
Honesty, Clear Communication, Pure Intent.
THIS.....
All of the above will make me feel safe.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Posted by sweetpea2977
Honesty, Clear Communication, Pure Intent.
THIS.....
All of the above will make me feel safe.
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Does it take you a long time to feel safe? I have been calling my bull a few times a week and he has become very chatty but yesterday he still seemed surprised that when I called it was just to have a chat and not ask anything specific.
Posted by Shy_Taurus
Most important for me is reliability.
If we text even once every day or two but then I go three days without hearing. But if you still have a few dates up your sleeve or a FWB you need two phones and only give me number for one and leave it at home.. Because if I don't see or hear from you on Friday my imagination will start wondering and I will be a texting pest while you are having wild crazy sex with FWB. I will try to be mature and the more reliable you are the more I can deal with reality. That's what I keep telling myself.
Thanks for this. This is interesting because I have been not wanting to bombard him with contact but clearly you need regular contact. Because I am always initiating it that’s why I spread it out a bit. To be fair he always talks A LOT when I call tells me everything that’s happening, where he is going and who with. I’m just not used to initiating it all that’s all.
Do you tend to hold off a bit and let the person come to you until you’re sure?
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Just a general one for you. I know you all need reassurance from your person of interest before taking the next step but what works for you?
Contact multiple times a day or is that clingy?
Contact daily is ok?
A few times a week is enough or other?