@brianafay
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Signs You're Still Happy in a Long-Term Relationship
Feeling satisfied in a long-term relationship often involves ongoing emotional connection, mutual enjoyment, and shared intimacy. If you still like your partner, enjoy spending time together, and maintain physical intimacy, it indicates a healthy and fulfilling relationship that can last.
And no this isn’t about me. Just a very depressing trend I’ve noticed
(Together 16+ years now and married for almost 4 years and I personally still really like my husband and I still really like doing it with him!)
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And no this isn’t about me. Just a very depressing trend I’ve noticed
(Together 16+ years now and married for almost 4 years and I personally still really like my husband and I still really like doing it with him!)
Congratulations
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I just hear a lot of people in long term relationships or married bitching about their partner lately and talking about “ughhh I have to sleep with them” or talking about them in general disgust and it’s depressing me. I really don’t know why I thought there was hope on DXP
Maybe this thread will bring @lisabethur8 back
I was shocked to learn recently that 1x per week is considered a healthy sex life.
I would be seriously worried if he only wanted to fuck once a week. Like damn, real worried.
Once a month after 10 years when I was married… duty calls. Everyone complains but bet they stay and just keep complaining. Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t in a lot of circumstances, just consider yourself lucky you picked someone that still does it for you. Everyone has their own story.
This isn’t just about sex though
I mean the divorce rate being as high as it is I guess I’m just a little surprised how many people aren’t getting divorced when they feel that way too
And no this isn’t about me. Just a very depressing trend I’ve noticed
(Together 16+ years now and married for almost 4 years and I personally still really like my husband and I still really like doing it with him!)
Congratulations
I just hear a lot of people in long term relationships or married bitching about their partner lately and talking about “ughhh I have to sleep with them” or talking about them in general disgust and it’s depressing me. I really don’t know why I thought there was hope on DXP
And those who are bitching, what's the gender breakdown? That may speak volumes.
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Haha stop that
Yeah it’s all women essentially 😅
Once a month after 10 years when I was married… duty calls. Everyone complains but bet they stay and just keep complaining. Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t in a lot of circumstances, just consider yourself lucky you picked someone that still does it for you. Everyone has their own story.
Duty calls !? 😳😔
And no this isn’t about me. Just a very depressing trend I’ve noticed
(Together 16+ years now and married for almost 4 years and I personally still really like my husband and I still really like doing it with him!)
Congratulations
I just hear a lot of people in long term relationships or married bitching about their partner lately and talking about “ughhh I have to sleep with them” or talking about them in general disgust and it’s depressing me. I really don’t know why I thought there was hope on DXP
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I read a really great article of married couples that have slept in separate bedrooms and it did wonder for their relationship. When I was married, I think our graveyard/ morning shift is what keep us together so long. We used to get alone time when we could but for the most part slept together in bed on our days off.
I had a long term marriage and it was great, I'm sure the next one will be too. Half of the solution to the issue is YOU ❤️
There really isn't much out there once you get used to married life. I enjoyed being part of a couple. I don't want to have to learn how to be content being by myself. That is the most boring thing in the world to me lol
Don't let the bad or bored marriages get you down. Just enjoy yours and be glad it's not like theirs!
Me and my ex used to gossip privately and be like "Can you imagine if that was us! Thank god it's not!"
I was shocked to learn recently that 1x per week is considered a healthy sex life.
I would be seriously worried if he only wanted to fuck once a week. Like damn, real worried.
You'd be surprised at the men that think this is a lot. It's 4 damn times a month! That's practically none in my book! 😆
I WANT THE D!!!!!
I was shocked to learn recently that 1x per week is considered a healthy sex life.
I would be seriously worried if he only wanted to fuck once a week. Like damn, real worried.
Really? I find that pretty standard, at least on my own terms 😅 people float on different boats anyway ha (and I'm a female, yes)
Once a month after 10 years when I was married… duty calls. Everyone complains but bet they stay and just keep complaining. Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t in a lot of circumstances, just consider yourself lucky you picked someone that still does it for you. Everyone has their own story.
Duty calls !? 😳😔
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Wifely duties … it happens, some do and some refuse.
been together 7 years.
yes i still very much like him. i couldn't imagine my life without him.
yes the sex is still great. im not naturally a very touchy feely person. i don't really like hugs or other people touching me but he is so tactile. i find myself constantly touching him whenever he is near.
I was shocked to learn recently that 1x per week is considered a healthy sex life.
I would be seriously worried if he only wanted to fuck once a week. Like damn, real worried.
You'd be surprised at the men that think this is a lot. It's 4 damn times a month! That's practically none in my book! 😆
I WANT THE D!!!!!
Saaaammmmmme
I was teasing the gem cause we went from once sometimes twice a day to 4/5 ex a week. Like dude, is home ownership killing our libido? Should we just get married 🤢 and I’ll stop giving you mouth parties all together?
And no this isn’t about me. Just a very depressing trend I’ve noticed
(Together 16+ years now and married for almost 4 years and I personally still really like my husband and I still really like doing it with him!)
Congratulations
I just hear a lot of people in long term relationships or married bitching about their partner lately and talking about “ughhh I have to sleep with them” or talking about them in general disgust and it’s depressing me. I really don’t know why I thought there was hope on DXP
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That’s sad. Well my marriage is no longer, but 20 years together & I never felt that way. Seriously why are they together if that’s how they feel?
Married for almost 3 years and yeah I still like the weirdo and doin’ them 🥰
1. Been in long term relationship for 4 years.
2. Yes I still like and love who they are as a person.
3. I do.
I was shocked to learn recently that 1x per week is considered a healthy sex life.
I would be seriously worried if he only wanted to fuck once a week. Like damn, real worried.
Probably due to work schedules and work itself. I feel like it varies but I'd say the normal would be 1x-3x a week which would incline they try to squeeze it in which is better than not trying. Some people's libidos don't match up, sometimes one can be too full, birth control side effects, period week, there's depression, and trauma. I feel like if you're at least having sex 1x a week it's better than the other option of not existing. Sometimes you can have a sexy ass week the next could be stressful and sad.
20 years.
Yes
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To stay in a healthy relationship the secret is to : either not get in a long term rship because this isn't for everybody and the current times makes it really difficult, or if you really want to, make sure you don't take your partner for granted. That's it, don't ever get too familiar. Keep them a stranger. Don't try to become your mom and dad.
As for sex, it's inevitable that it will become more difficult and less interesting after a period between 2 and 5 years.
I'd recomend to keep it interesting and varied right from the start, look for fun things to do and don't evr let it become a routine. Don't be affraid to roleplay.
Maybe avoid living together all the time if it's possible, IDK.
Or do the total opposite of what I just said and become your mom and dad. Lol, IDK. It works for some people too. But honestly it's normal to stop having sex a fter a while
Married for almost 3 yrs, before marrying together with him for 1 yr-ish. I still like him. I dreamt of getting separated with him last night and I felt awful in the dream. So it kinda proves I still want him.
If I only have sex once a week, I feel something is wrong although I don't feel as aroused as I felt in our earlier times. I still enjoy the sex with him.
The marriage of my parents was a sort of nightmare…..from my point of view. Serial cheating, daily rows and drama, separation, insults by the hour, belittling, accusations, narcissistic rages, just awful stuff. Apart from cheating, who was my father’s “expertise”, the rest came from my Taurus mother.
It took me decades to understand that they had exactly the marriage they wanted and were, in fact, besotted with each other and addicted to their drama. They were inseparable and sometimes like in a world of their own.
Got to spend 6 days last summer with my father and without my mother, which was a first. This happened because my mother didn’t agree with my holidays plans (she probably wanted to work my butt off convincing her, but I had none of it). After a few days of harmony, validation and the lofty stuff that two Aqua Venuses and Mercuries, father and daughter, would discuss with each other, I was taken abac when father asked that we go to see my mother. “But dad, she’ll join us in a few days”. He felt like he had too, and I obliged. She started insulting him as soon as she saw him, from a distance.
People have exactly the marriages they want, until they don’t, and then they divorce. It doesn’t matter what we think of them, and how they come across. It doesn’t matter how they talk about their spouse with us. Most people exaggerate the shit rather than bragging about the bliss! What matters is what they really have, and it’s often not something we get to hear, see or comprehend. My point is that rumours about unhappy long term marriages are, in fact, just rumours. If they lasts for decades, it’s because they are good marriages, providing those involved with what they really need.
My own marriage provided me with exactly what I needed at that time: a handsome husband, freedom, travels all over the world, fresh start in a new country and a new language, job opportunities, new pair of wonderful parents (the in-laws), a couple of brothers, a ready made social circle.
Sex was meh, the daily 3 minutes, but would not happen without what I wanted first, which was an hour long of having my hair and skin caressed, stroked, gently touch….goosebumps and pure bliss! There was no arguing, simply because each time I started something, husband would leave the house and come back after a few hours, looking at me till I stopped ignoring him, and then laughing! Yep, my marriage was good.
Well I've known my significant other for 16 years and we just started a romantic relationship in october. Do i still like him after all these years? Fuck yes! He is the best! Our sex life is... How do i describe? Magical! I love having sex with him! He feels so good! If I would have known he was so sensational in bed, we would have had sex a long time ago!
The marriage of my parents was a sort of nightmare…..from my point of view. Serial cheating, daily rows and drama, separation, insults by the hour, belittling, accusations, narcissistic rages, just awful stuff. Apart from cheating, who was my father’s “expertise”, the rest came from my Taurus mother.
It took me decades to understand that they had exactly the marriage they wanted and were, in fact, besotted with each other and addicted to their drama. They were inseparable and sometimes like in a world of their own.
Got to spend 6 days last summer with my father and without my mother, which was a first. This happened because my mother didn’t agree with my holidays plans (she probably wanted to work my butt off convincing her, but I had none of it). After a few days of harmony, validation and the lofty stuff that two Aqua Venuses and Mercuries, father and daughter, would discuss with each other, I was taken abac when father asked that we go to see my mother. “But dad, she’ll join us in a few days”. He felt like he had too, and I obliged. She started insulting him as soon as she saw him, from a distance.
People have exactly the marriages they want, until they don’t, and then they divorce. It doesn’t matter what we think of them, and how they come across. It doesn’t matter how they talk about their spouse with us. Most people exaggerate the shit rather than bragging about the bliss! What matters is what they really have, and it’s often not something we get to hear, see or comprehend. My point is that rumours about unhappy long term marriages are, in fact, just rumours. If they lasts for decades, it’s because they are good marriages, providing those involved with what they really need.
Wow! Thanks for sharing!
My own marriage provided me with exactly what I needed at that time: a handsome husband, freedom, travels all over the world, fresh start in a new country and a new language, job opportunities, new pair of wonderful parents (the in-laws), a couple of brothers, a ready made social circle.
Sex was meh, the daily 3 minutes, but would not happen without what I wanted first, which was an hour long of having my hair and skin caressed, stroked, gently touch….goosebumps and pure bliss! There was no arguing, simply because each time I started something, husband would leave the house and come back after a few hours, looking at me till I stopped ignoring him, and then laughing! Yep, my marriage was good.
Thank you again for sharing
Well I've known my significant other for 16 years and we just started a romantic relationship in october. Do i still like him after all these years? Fuck yes! He is the best! Our sex life is... How do i describe? Magical! I love having sex with him! He feels so good! If I would have known he was so sensational in bed, we would have had sex a long time ago!
You’re still in the honey moon 🙂
Enjoy! May it last for a lifetime!
Well I've known my significant other for 16 years and we just started a romantic relationship in october. Do i still like him after all these years? Fuck yes! He is the best! Our sex life is... How do i describe? Magical! I love having sex with him! He feels so good! If I would have known he was so sensational in bed, we would have had sex a long time ago!
You’re still in the honey moon 🙂
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Yes, I'm enjoying it
Long marriages don’t equal happiness
Thousands of women are beaten and abused on the daily
They’re not happy, they’re trapped
Long marriages don’t equal happiness
Thousands of women are beaten and abused on the daily
They’re not happy, they’re trapped
And thousands of men are abused by their female partners daily as well. They are also unhappy and feel trapped.
Think twice before you try to take this down some bullshit feminist route.
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I concur
Thousands of women and men are beaten and abused on the daily
Long marriages don’t equal happiness
Thousands of women are beaten and abused on the daily
They’re not happy, they’re trapped
Feeling "trapped" in this day and age for anyone who is not born in a muslim country is due to their own stupidity. School dropouts breeding with the first idiot crossing their way and then indulging any form of abuse, like they are waiting to receive a medal...... Even then, at least in the UK, these women and their children will get a place to live for free and emergency shelter.
For anyone who is an adult: wakey-wakey, get a fucking job, change the locks or get your own place in a town you could afford. As for "abused' men...for fucks sake, grow a pair, you are a laughing stock and a bad example for your children. They will despise you as much as they hate their mother, because instead of protecting them, you are acting like a coward.
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This isn’t just about sex though
I mean the divorce rate being as high as it is I guess I’m just a little surprised how many people aren’t getting divorced when they feel that way too
I can swear that the divorce rate is high because of BAD sex.
There are millions of men jumping at every opportunity as soon as they hear a woman says 'sex' because women they are with D NOT WANT THEM!!! Because they are bad and women are just performing the duty with ZERO satisfaction.
BUT men, in general, THINK they are good. And its women's fault. We dont tell them the truth. So they dont try to improve.
Long marriages don’t equal happiness
Thousands of women are beaten and abused on the daily
They’re not happy, they’re trapped
Yesss. But lately I am hearing about vicious women and scared to death of them men...
Wondering if feminism actually working.
My own marriage provided me with exactly what I needed at that time: a handsome husband, freedom, travels all over the world, fresh start in a new country and a new language, job opportunities, new pair of wonderful parents (the in-laws), a couple of brothers, a ready made social circle.
Sex was meh, the daily 3 minutes, but would not happen without what I wanted first, which was an hour long of having my hair and skin caressed, stroked, gently touch….goosebumps and pure bliss! There was no arguing, simply because each time I started something, husband would leave the house and come back after a few hours, looking at me till I stopped ignoring him, and then laughing! Yep, my marriage was good.
Dying to know WHY in past?
I was shocked to learn recently that 1x per week is considered a healthy sex life.
I would be seriously worried if he only wanted to fuck once a week. Like damn, real worried.
Well. I bet everyone made a mental check 'Lady_Neptune gets fucked a lot"
Is that what you wanted?
Is this why you date younger?
(Guns back to holsters...lmao)
Long marriages don’t equal happiness
Thousands of women are beaten and abused on the daily
They’re not happy, they’re trapped
And thousands of men are abused by their female partners daily as well. They are also unhappy and feel trapped.
Think twice before you try to take this down some bullshit feminist route.
I concur
Thousands of women and men are beaten and abused on the daily
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I will re-do this:
Thousands of women and men are beaten and abused on the daily but nobody suffers like Gobbie.
(insert pic of me peeing my pants and its NOT due to the age)😉)
To stay in a healthy relationship the secret is to : either not get in a long term rship because this isn't for everybody and the current times makes it really difficult, or if you really want to, make sure you don't take your partner for granted. That's it, don't ever get too familiar. Keep them a stranger. Don't try to become your mom and dad.
As for sex, it's inevitable that it will become more difficult and less interesting after a period between 2 and 5 years.
I'd recomend to keep it interesting and varied right from the start, look for fun things to do and don't evr let it become a routine. Don't be affraid to roleplay.
Maybe avoid living together all the time if it's possible, IDK.
Or do the total opposite of what I just said and become your mom and dad. Lol, IDK. It works for some people too. But honestly it's normal to stop having sex a fter a while
Normal? 😢
Opposite to Mom and Dad meaning they fked and you dont?
Unfasten those sandals. They seem cutting your blood circulation to your dzeek...
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