Why, why Taurus are you so hard to understand—

That's true. I'm a Cancer in a relationship with a Taurus. We struggle severely with the ways we expressing how we care. I'm emotional and want a man to express his emotions and be affectionate. My Taurus shows his feelings by doing, which is ok but I really want a man that will expressed his feelings and be more focused on my emotional needs. It's frustrating to say the least.

hey PiscesLeoAquarius .. could u explain more , im in a relation with Pisces female and i think i know wat u talking about! but i would say the key to understanding a taurus is to watch his actions not his words... and try to communicate better with him!

hey starfish, indeed we speak different love language.. anyway .. why don't u trust us?? how is it possible to gain ur trust?

PiscesLeo, I'm in a relationship with a Taurus and have been for about a year and a half. I??ve learned the hard way they are not communicators unless they are a fault and trying to make things right. They feel their actions tell you how they feel, their fear of rejection and being vulnerable keeps them at a distance. As long as I??ve been with my Taurus I still question how he feels even though he calls me 3-4 times a day, we??re together all the time and he doesn't do the Taurus —disappearing acts?? because he's not verbal with how he feels his actions seem less. When we first started dating I use to pressure him to tell me what he thought about us and me, but he would always push back. He later told me one of his female friends told him never tell a woman everything because if it doesn't work out she??ll know how you truly felt. I could smack whoever told him this..lol But that on top of him telling a woman in his past he loved her and she told him he was soft, has prevented me for hearing anything close to how he feels. If you like him and think he's worth it, fall back on asking him to tell you things and see what he does.

Starfish, I'm a Cancer. I??ve come to realize it will be a long time before he actually tells me how he feels. But yes I know he cares for me deeply just by his actions and as I said I applied the pressure the first 3 mths that we were dating. It all came from me not wanting to get attached to a man that was taking up so much of my time and not going to commit. He definitely needs to grow more and probably feel more comfortable in our relationship due to past hurts. At some point the risk of losing someone good should be far greater than the fear of rejection..

Oddly to me, Taurus men and women seem to react similarly in relationships moreso than some of the other male/female signs. Whether it's a male or a female Taurus, if they are in to you; you will know it. They may not make large proclamations of their undying love for you, but if you need them -- they will ALWAYS be there for you; as long as you don't deceive them in anyway. Once they feel that they can't trust you, they may stay for a little while, but they will eventually leave. Trust is a HUGE thing with me, and most other Taureans I know. Some may argue that trust is big with everyone, but that's not the case. And yes, communication is huge. I think as humans, we all communicate differently, so that's why it's important to become self-less, and not be so selfish; meaning, really listen and watch what the other is saying and doing. If you do that, then the communication can be a little easier. LOL, I'm not saying perfect, but when people stop trying to always be right, or thinking their feelings are being hurt and just "be still" like Starfish said, then everything is revealed.
Good luck w/your Taurus, PiscesleoAquarius

This is odd that all these pisces have problems communicating with taurus. I'm a taurus & I think I get along great with fellow earth signs & water signs follow close behind. In fact, there is almost a psychic connection that I've had with water sign people that I've known. Like thinking about the same things or writing about the same things as a pisces friend at the same time. I've dated a Scorp & it's been the oddest relationship because I've felt as if I know him like "really" know him without him saying anything, it's an unspoken knowledge that we have with eachother & we also think the same thoughts/finish eachothers sentences often. I have a cap & an aqua who are my 2 best girlfriends. I call the aqua my soul sista 🙂 because we have such similiar personalities & sense of humors. In fact her boyfriend told her he didn't think it was possible to have another person as crazy as she was in the world...referring to me 🙂

BUT I do know what you mean when you talk of speaking different languages & I, a Taurus female have always had that problem with air sign people. I DO NOT get them at all, funny thing is my moon is in gemini YUCK which is probably why I'm so confused with myself. My feet are planted firmly but my emotions are all over the place & I'm exhausted trying to rangle them all back in & ground them 😢 But seriously, I dated a gem for 4 horrible years LOL I didn't get him at all, he was too all over the place for me, physically & emotionally. I semi-dated a Libra for 6 months & he took the cake. He would send me some emails sometimes & I would seriously look at them like "HUH?" It was like he was seriously speaking a different language, they made no sense to me. My brother is a Gem & he infuriates me, I don't get him either.

But I love me some water people 🙂

Jiyo, I have the same thing with my Taurus. I have never had a connection like I have with my Taurus. That's not to say he doesn't drive me nuts. But its like I can sense when he's about to say something and a lot of times what he says is what I just thought but he beat me to saying it, it can be very scary..

Taurus' has a unique way of showing love & their way of showing love is usually misunderstood by the ones they are trying to love. Taurus is emotional, but yet not. They are stubborn & greedy one minute & the next they'll be willing to give you their last dollar just to see you content & smiling. One minute they appear to need lots of affection & assurance, and the next they'll appear standoffish or like your sweet words in their ear doesn't faze them. And half of the time, you shouldn't take it personal b/c believe it or not, the average Taurus is so afraid of rejection and/or losing their companion, that they often switch personalities just in case their partners get too bored or start to dislike one of their "sides" or personalities.

Taurus' like to be the providers. They like for others to depend on them emotionally & physically. And some signs just don't like whole submissive thing & don't have time for the flip-floppiness that Taurus takes THEMSELVES through more than they take their partners through. Taurus' thinks with all logic & tries their hardest not to function from emotions, which can explain why 1 moment your Taurus is so sweet & affectionate, while the next minute seem to suddenly detach & appear to be the ones who look at you crazy for needing/wanting those very same things. Taurus likes to wear the pants & be the head of the household. Their main goals are status, reputation & financial stability. And if a Taurus doesn't feel that you need them to survive or that you are not impressed by who they are & what they've achieved, then the road with them will be VERY BUMPY UNTIL YOU DO. It's that simple

Taurus' tend to be attracted to those they can control and/or to those who will be awed by who they are & what they do for others & for themselves. Taurus' are easily turned on by a woman who is emotionally sure, but yet can be just as turned-off by someone who is too emotionally sure, b/c it doesn't give them the assurance that their partners need them or that they are appreciated for anything. This is the part about Taurus' that most people don't understand.

Plus, Taurus' main goal in life is STRUCTURE & STABILITY. If they're with a partner that they do not trust 100% (for whatever reason) they may not let you go necessarily; no, they'll just hold on but yet make the ride a very bumpy one, assuming that you'll get the point & conform into what they thought you were and/or who they wanted you to be. They are very possessive & have a hard time having smooth & drama-free relationships with people that are uncontrollable or unatainable. And they are not bad people. They just always want to keep tabs on who they've invested their time in, no different than how someone keeps close tabs on thier purse or their wallet b/c of how much of their life is in it.

Krysrenee you are right on. I've been dating a Taurus for a year and a half. He's trying to find himself and get his finances in order. I am a little more stable, I've always felt he was more critical with me because he brought less to the table, some of the things he'd say to me seemed harsh.My friend told me because my Taurus had less he found ways to be critical or negative towards me to bring me down to his level and feel better about himself. He's a decent guy but I've told him he needs someone who has less so he can be more in control, he of course disagrees. I really see if I had less and needed him more financially he'd do more and feel better as a man..

I always felt my Taurus was moody, but you explained it perfectly with their different personalites. One minute he's fun, laid-back and easy going, the next he's super critical, controlling, and argumentative. Its draining and I'm saying this as a Cancer!

PiscesLeo, the worst is when I'm totally done and he knows it he'll be really sweet and buy me little gifts as a peace offering.

I have never met a man that showed so little emotion. If we don't see each other for awhile I tell him I missed him or I can tell he missed me and instead of telling me back he'll say "why do u say I missed you?." In the end he still won't confirm so I just stop waiting to hear it.

Cancer and Taurus I've always read are a great match, we seem to have a connection with each other and our thoughts but the stubborness is like they'd rather bite their nose to spite their face, its amazing and I've never experienced anything like it.

methinks they are hard to understand because they are so primitive. don't think too much when around them, because they don't think alot - they depend alot on instinct. verbalization isnt their forte or interest much. They block things out alot because they prefer to gravitate to things of greater stimulus.

hit or miss?

I'm a Taurus...but I have the similar problem with understanding a Pisces. I also don't know what's wrong with this Pisces and Taurus pairing. I can never understand a Pisces...they are also "hot-cold-hot-cold" and "in-out-in-out" all the time.

"We have known each other for over a year and he keeps swaying between really into me and then really ignoring me, but we have never been in a relationship, only on the brink of one."

I would honestly admit that this is me. And this is me right now. As to why I behave like that is because I'm "undecided and insecure". I know I really like my Pisces. I really do...but I keep battling with the fear of rejection and loving him. He didn't give me sure signs that he likes me too. I've been giving him enough hints that I like him and I can tell he really digs me too.

But what actually is stopping us from being together...I do not know. I only know on a good day when I feel confident, I will approach him. And on a bad day when my self-esteem is low and it's really not a good time, I will ignore him...not to the point when he talks to me, I won't talk to him. But I'll hide in my little corner and not pay attention to him at much.

And this swaying from happy to sad...it's really driving me nuts...and sometimes I do feel like giving up..because of all these insecurity...but sometimes I still feel I should be determined and continue. And hence, this hot and cold. We are really very persistent people, but we also won't want to be hurt...till a point, we can't really take it anymore, we probably will give up cos' we valued security very much.

So what have you done or not done that make your Taurus so insecure? I just have to say...when a Taurus feels secure in a relationship...they can be very loyal and loving. =)

"naBully just simply sounds like to me that he is mirroring your behavior..Get your self-esteem together.."

I think there might be a possibility that he is mirroring my behavior. But it could also be that he has low self-esteem.

Taurus and Pisces are not so different in some ways. We are both shy...both fear of rejection and both careful about approaching each other. I can see his hesitation. We both have been sending each other mixed reactions and feeling.

Sometimes, I really get frustrated and low and don't know what to do.

But I know I have to get my self-esteem together...someone has to break out from this loop. I've been trying very hard and struggling to be the best for him and myself...until sometimes I just feel exhausted and want to give up. Yep, sometimes, I feel maybe we aren't meant to be together and someone with a better self-esteem may be more suitable for him and for me.

However, I really think we have a connection. You see my struggle. Thanks for giving me a platform to vent my frustration. Yes, I'll keep trying. =)

PiscesLeo,

I think you should let this one go. It's one thing to sense someone is being cautious and careful in how they handle you, but he seems down right rude. Taurus men can be very direct and insensitive at times but his comment about your dancing was uncalled for. If you know you want a relationship, then move on, when a Taurus man wants you, he wants you and he wont ignore your calls. Also in the beginning stages, most men want to chase you, you calling asking him if he wants to do this or that makes you as super available, which will cause any man to lose interest. You deserve better and a man to put in work to show you he wants you and your time.

I understand, I use to be just like that. Try to find someone else to call if you want to go out and just want to do something. The women that get the good guys are the women that act like they could care less if the guy shows interest. One of my guy friends said —no man wants a woman to call him and ask him if he wants to hang out?? men are wired to chase women. Even though I'm still learning, I??ve learned men even like to chase their girlfriends, which is still baffling to me but I am realizing it is true, I think them chasing strokes their ego it's only when they finally have you totally available to them that they get bored.

Hey PiscesLeoAquarius,

What you had describe is so "me". I would ignore my Pisces guy in social setting...for me, he's my colleague you see, and I won't sit next to him. Everytime, I went back to the office, I will tell myself today I'll sit next to him and in the end I will always sit far away from him. Also when we are out dinner with other colleague, I won't talk to him. That's me. I only talk to him when we are alone.

But my situation is a little bit different...cos' we are closet gays. So I do not want to make it so obvious to all my other colleagues that I like him. And pisces people are very attractive people, they have a lot of friends and I don't want to fight with them for his attention. And sometimes it's because of my low self-esteem and insecurity...when he talk to everyone else except me and he will say bye to everyone else except me just like in your case. I feel neglected...I feel maybe he doesn't like me as much as I think he likes me.

Whenever I see his frustration when I ignore him,I do feel regretful. But this is how Pisces and Taurus are like, we both are passive and we both need someone else to approach us first. Otherwise, we may feel that the other party is not interested in us.

I don't like to ignore him. But that's me...and I really dislike public display of affection. I prefer to leave the cuddling behind closed doors...one-to-one privacy and affection.

Making him a bit jealous won't help in a Taurus case. We are famous for being jealous! When I see my Pisces guy having fun with others and not me. I will definitely feel jealous, trust me. I feel also feel sad that he doesn't want to me. But I will pretend to ignore him, do my own thing...pretend I don't care...so I don't seem like a loser in front of other people. However, if he isn't jealous about you, why would he chase after you when you left? He could have gone home and pretend not to care.

You are making an insecure Taurus even more insecure by making him jealous. I do think what he says to you is really uncalled for. If you can't make him secure, then I think it's better to break off with him once and for all. Be very clear you won't want a relationship with him. He may feel sad, angry and/or depressed...but once it's over. He will be a happy taurus again. Taurus are the most nasty when they are insecure, especially in a relationship.

So that's the problem with both signs. Both need assurance that the other party are in love with him/her before

...before they can be committed in love and nutured each other.

So similar...I think we need to share tips. haha...

"The dancing comment was a bit random cause I am def not a bad dancer, I used to dance for my country's national ballet company, which is why it was a stupid comment."

Can't you tell he's being jealous that you rather dance with other people first then him. He doesn't want you to dance with others...that's why he says you are horrible dancer.

"Exactly exactly exactly exactly!!! Alone he is so sweet and lovely, but when we are with others, he over-pretends that there is nothing going on."

Taurus isn't very good at expressing feelings and emotions in front of others. Many a times, I care for others...I'll just hide it and do not show it. And people will think I'm cold and aloof. Taurus is actually one of the most misunderstood sign! And I thought pisces who are sensitive will be able to tell that we are cold on the outside but soft and cuddly like a teddy in the inside. =) Just that, we have different defensive mechanism from pisces, he act cool and distant on the outside...because we afraid that people will take advantage of our kind-natured. But once you get to know us well enough..the exterior melts away and we are that caring and loyal people.

If you really want to be in a relationship with this Taurus or with other Taurus in the future, I tell you what we need. We need kindness and understanding from our partner...accept who we are...accept our stubborn nature. We need to be in a stable 1-1 relationship. We don't like to feel jealous cos' it makes us insecure and unstable. If we feel jealous, it'll make us weigh if it's still worth it to be with you in the long run. As much as they like you, they also want to be stable emotionally and relationship wise...so don't make them choose between the two.

Really I thought pisces will know all these things about Taurus. Guess I'm wrong. U mean that my pisces guy has been thinking I'm not interested all this time. I thought it's very easy to understand. hee...I even ask him out for 1-1 lunch before. U mean he couldn't tell?!!! haha. Taurus won't even waste their time on people they are not interested.
I've been putting in extra effort to talk to him in office context and email etc. You know how difficult it was for me to open my mouth. haha...

I wish I can tell him I love him so much so much right now...=)

This is a nice thread. =)

Now I have a better understanding as to why my Pisces is unwilling to start a relationship with me. It's the mixed signals I've been giving out. I'll change for the better and hopefully time is one my side.

Im a Taurus woman and I cant figure Taurus men out, good luck to you all. lol

Now I myself dont feel like im hard to understand. I tend to over analyze and worry about things that sometimes arent even factors so I might seem high strung..I just like to cover my bases. I am poetic and I try to compensate for our less communicative nature, but I find that most guys think a woman is a playa if shes a smooth talker....who knew

"I have to be careful around you, because I could really fall in love with you."

There you have it. Taurus aren't so difficult to understand...they are pretty straightforward. haha... But I have the same problem too...everytime, I say something people think it's a joke when it's not. And when sometimes, it's meant to be a joke, everyone took it so seriously. haha.

"I love people to be straightforward (maybe my mercury in aquarius), but if ages ago he had just sat me down and was straight about it all and said look I have feelings for you, I'd like to see if we could be something more than just friends" everything would be so much better now."

I doubt taurus will do such a thing...unless maybe they are very confident the other party likes them a lot too. Why? Taurus are passive and not chaser...but most importantly, they are afraid of changes. They fear that if it doesn't work out, things will be akward and we may not even become friends. In fact, after having a crush on my ex-Pisces for 2 yrs previously, I decided to tell him I like him. I became so insecure after reavealing my emotions to him that I become stalky and irritated him...and things become rather nasty. But glad it's all over...and we are still polite to each other.

"Also you should be persistent. I like it when someone is really into me. Sometimes I may reject someone, cause I just don't see it happening and then they keep pursuing me (in a nice way not too crazy). It makes me think that they really do care for me enough to try to convince me to be with them and I give them a go. "

I definitely know what you mean by "not too crazy". haha. Thanks for the info...I'll be persistent. =)

O M G, this describes my exact same situation with this taurus gut I've dealt with... weird

"You are all so right, that is how I feel about the Taurus guy I like. We have known each other for over a year and he keeps swaying between really into me and then really ignoring me, but we have never been in a relationship, only on the brink of one. In person he is clearly into me and has been trying to kiss me and is always touching me, but then me being mercury in Aquarius and a mushy mushy pisces wants to talk about it all and what it means before anything really happens, so I initiate so many conversations, do you like me, what is happening and will we be together and he then runs away and denies it all. Then I wait a while and ignore him and he comes back again and it starts all over again. I can't stand it. He is really bad at communicating and is so silent. It seems that he wants something to happen, but doesn't want to say it's happening, but to me that makes it not real or like fake."

so true

We have known each other for over a year and he keeps swaying between really into me and then really ignoring me

You sure he's not a Capricorn or a Gemini? I thought only these guys did the hot/cold thing

"We have known each other for over a year and he keeps swaying between really into me and then really ignoring me

You sure he's not a Capricorn or a Gemini? I thought only these guys did the hot/cold "

-Maybe he has these in his chart?

I actually knew a Taurus with Cap and Gem in his chart and he was definitely a hot/cold person always appearing then disappearing...