
Stargurl
@Stargurl
8 Years
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Posted by Stargurllol girl good luck with that one !
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?

Posted by tctaoLmao it is so annoying to repeat myself. It is, not gone crazy yet but i might soon go crazy.Posted by Stargurllol girl good luck with that one !
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?click to expand

Posted by StargurlThis is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

Posted by Mr_Pinchydon't you mean before sex lolPosted by StargurlThis is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
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Posted by tctaoNo.Posted by Mr_Pinchydon't you mean before sex lolPosted by StargurlThis is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
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Posted by TheRabbitDon’t do this 😩😩
Yes, dear.

Posted by FantumSo what do you do and how do you handle it ?
I hate to say this, but I say a lot of shit my husband doesn't care about, so he tunes out until he thinks it's important.
Jagazzz

Posted by TheSagBut yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.
I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂


Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsWell for those who talk a lot yeah true. But then how do you please your partners if you’re not listening ?
Too busy looking at boobies.
Seriously though my memory is rubbish so I might have been listening at the time but forgot. Some people drone on for ages and you tune out what they’re saying.

Posted by StargurlYes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢Posted by TheSagBut yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.
I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
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Posted by Mr_PinchyI cannot with air signs , i think they talk a whole lot, this blokes got a lot of gemini in his chart and he can talk. Heck, he talks for the both of us lol
You can date an aquarius tho.
He will tell you to stop nagging and just go away if you don't. That way you will know precisely what he has memorized. 😄


Posted by TheSagBut then the message your s/o is passing across may be detrimental to your relationship, yet you guys seem to not care until the relationship isn’t redeemable and you’re feeling bad like “.what went wrong, oh my!Posted by StargurlYes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢Posted by TheSagBut yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.
I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
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Posted by Mr_Pinchy Thanks for the tip. 🙂Posted by StargurlThis is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
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Posted by AerialViewNot every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.

Posted by StargurlI don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.Posted by AerialViewNot every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
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Posted by StargurlI know. That's why we end up here on dxp - for only $ 12.. 😢Posted by TheSagBut then the message your s/o is passing across may be detrimental to your relationship, yet you guys seem to not care until the relationship isn’t redeemable and you’re feeling bad like “.what went wrong, oh my!Posted by StargurlYes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢Posted by TheSagBut yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.
I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
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Posted by StargurlWhat things are you trying to convey to him?
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?


Posted by SmidgeAgain I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.Posted by AerialViewThey just pretend not to listen.Posted by StargurlI don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.Posted by AerialViewNot every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
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Posted by STILLWhenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.Posted by StargurlWhat things are you trying to convey to him?
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
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Posted by The_Mad_HatterThat’s what’s funny, I don’t talk a lot. Lol he does the talking I always listen .
It's "selective hearing" . Women are chatterboxes. It is biologically impossible for a man to absorb information at the rate women spit it out.
So, we tune you out until it's important. We just nod and say "uh huh" to everything else

Posted by SmidgeYou sounds frustrated smidgy 😂Posted by AerialViewKeep pretending you don't pretend. 😑😑Posted by SmidgeAgain I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.Posted by AerialViewThey just pretend not to listen.Posted by StargurlI don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.Posted by AerialViewNot every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
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Posted by FantumPosted by StargurlOops, just realized I'm typing in the "man cave".
Sooo, how do we get you men to talk?
Also, is it safe to say that there’s an initial power struggle in relationships that may make you guys pretend deaf just to dominate? or why?
What is it really?
Does your guy talk a lot or not? If he talks a lot, he might not be hearing you because he's planning what he's going to say next. If he's the more typical type of man he's just flat not used to so much chatter, and it's hard to take in.click to expand

Posted by SeleukosI listen attentively, hence the reason I don’t speak over people. So when people can’t do the same it really surprises me . I really need a solution
Active listening is hard.
The reality is that I see more women failing at it than men.
Add to that that most women don't want you to listen but merely want to hear certain things.
+ Plus us men often troll you when it comes to that.

Posted by SmidgeGet well soon 😷Posted by AerialViewActually, I'm sick so I've been in the house all dayPosted by SmidgeYou sounds frustrated smidgy 😂Posted by AerialViewKeep pretending you don't pretend. 😑😑Posted by SmidgeAgain I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.Posted by AerialViewThey just pretend not to listen.Posted by StargurlI don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.Posted by AerialViewNot every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
Maybe you're right 😬😬click to expand

Posted by StargurlPosted by STILLWhenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.Posted by StargurlWhat things are you trying to convey to him?
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
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Posted by The_Mad_HatterLmao i sure will use this from nowPosted by StargurlCry. Most men hate to see their woman cry. We may not take anything seriously, but when a woman cries we typically start to listen. Use that selectively lolPosted by The_Mad_HatterThat’s what’s funny, I don’t talk a lot. Lol he does the talking I always listen .
It's "selective hearing" . Women are chatterboxes. It is biologically impossible for a man to absorb information at the rate women spit it out.
So, we tune you out until it's important. We just nod and say "uh huh" to everything else
Just concerned it may affect us down the line when it’s not all fairytales anymore and reality sets inclick to expand

Posted by The_Mad_HatterCancer , Gemini Dominant
What's his sign?

Posted by STILLLmfaooooo that’s hardPosted by StargurlPosted by STILLWhenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.Posted by StargurlWhat things are you trying to convey to him?
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
When it’s your turn put your one finger on his lips while saying shhhhh!click to expand

Posted by Arielle83Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.

Posted by ApparitionPosted by StargurlIt is still being presented as an opinion, with free option, without consequence.Posted by STILLWhenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.Posted by StargurlWhat things are you trying to convey to him?
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
In your example It bothers me when you keep talking over me and won't let me say anything. He's not sorry for doing it. He's sorry it bothers you. As crazy as that sounds it's pretty self evident by the fact he continues with the action.
Change the opinion into a statement, remove the options, add (and stand by) consequences.
Using the same example Do not speak over me when I am speaking. I do not do it. I do not like it. If you continue to do so I will consider it an act of disrespect, and will respond accordingly.
I mean... it probably doesn't have to be to that degree, but it may.
Post Edit - I should have said 'apply parameters to the options', and not 'remove the options'.click to expand


Posted by sierra_Lmao they’re crazy then
our voice is music to their ears
so if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices

Posted by sierra_
our voice is music to their ears
so if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices


Posted by oxSunQueenxoLmaooooPosted by Nightcap-Lmfao I'm deadPosted by sierra_
our voice is music to their ears
so if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices
Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁
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Posted by Nightcap-Caw caw caw coo coo!Posted by sierra_
our voice is music to their ears
so if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices
Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁
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Posted by RedbullDefinitely.Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
This would be one of those things...That could be reversed and asked why women dont listen to the simplest most sensible "advice" and input. But its perspective I guess. Many Men think women are hard headed too and dont listen. But whats the point of mentioning it just quietly take it into account..so is there an answer? I dont think so except once your grown try to put yourself in a position where it doesnt matter. A "thats on that person not me" type of thing because I doubt there would be a consensus on this type of thing.
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Posted by Arielle83Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.Posted by StargurlPosted by Arielle83Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
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Posted by Arielle83Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!Posted by StargurlYou have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?Posted by Arielle83Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.Posted by StargurlPosted by Arielle83Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
You trying to change him, he will leave you.click to expand


Posted by NevamoreLmaooo that would be so nice to do but then weirdPosted by StargurlThen change for yourself to stepped up in the game by talking over him too while he's talking if you also wanted to say something too.Posted by Arielle83Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!Posted by StargurlYou have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?Posted by Arielle83Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.Posted by StargurlPosted by Arielle83Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
You trying to change him, he will leave you.
Right, got it.
Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid
Cheers
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Posted by Arielle83You’re the one who sounds stupid tbh! That you cannot analyse the situation without dragging one party?Posted by StargurlWho the fuck wants to be with someone that nags. Why don't u leave him if he talks over u?
Lol at he will leave you.
Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake
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Posted by NevamoreLol thats true tooPosted by StargurlNah thats just standing up for yourself.Posted by NevamoreLmaooo that would be so nice to do but then weirdPosted by StargurlThen change for yourself to stepped up in the game by talking over him too while he's talking if you also wanted to say something too.Posted by Arielle83Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!Posted by StargurlYou have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?Posted by Arielle83Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.Posted by StargurlPosted by Arielle83Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
You trying to change him, he will leave you.
Right, got it.
Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid
Cheers
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Posted by Arielle83Lol probably why your husband left you.Posted by StargurlWhatever, toxic bytchPosted by Arielle83You’re the one who sounds stupid tbh! That you cannot analyse the situation without dragging one party?Posted by StargurlWho the fuck wants to be with someone that nags. Why don't u leave him if he talks over u?
Lol at he will leave you.
Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake
😩
Seems stupid to stay
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i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?