Men, Why don’t you guys listen?

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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
lol girl good luck with that one !
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
lol girl good luck with that one !
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Lmao it is so annoying to repeat myself. It is, not gone crazy yet but i might soon go crazy.

Idk what to do or how to communicate this
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Too busy looking at boobies.

Seriously though my memory is rubbish so I might have been listening at the time but forgot. Some people drone on for ages and you tune out what they’re saying.
Well for those who talk a lot yeah true. But then how do you please your partners if you’re not listening ?

Isn’t that the entire point , you guys are difficult lol
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Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.

I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.

At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol

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Yes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢
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Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.

I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.

At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol


Yes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢
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But then the message your s/o is passing across may be detrimental to your relationship, yet you guys seem to not care until the relationship isn’t redeemable and you’re feeling bad like “.what went wrong, oh my!
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Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.

I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.

At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol


Yes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢
But then the message your s/o is passing across may be detrimental to your relationship, yet you guys seem to not care until the relationship isn’t redeemable and you’re feeling bad like “.what went wrong, oh my!

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I know. That's why we end up here on dxp - for only $ 12.. 😢
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?
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IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
They just pretend not to listen.

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Again I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?

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Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.

It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽‍♀️
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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
It's "selective hearing" . Women are chatterboxes. It is biologically impossible for a man to absorb information at the rate women spit it out.

So, we tune you out until it's important. We just nod and say "uh huh" to everything else
That’s what’s funny, I don’t talk a lot. Lol he does the talking I always listen .

Just concerned it may affect us down the line when it’s not all fairytales anymore and reality sets in
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IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
They just pretend not to listen.


Again I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.
Keep pretending you don't pretend. 😑😑

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You sounds frustrated smidgy 😂
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Sooo, how do we get you men to talk?

Also, is it safe to say that there’s an initial power struggle in relationships that may make you guys pretend deaf just to dominate? or why?

What is it really?


Oops, just realized I'm typing in the "man cave".

Does your guy talk a lot or not? If he talks a lot, he might not be hearing you because he's planning what he's going to say next. If he's the more typical type of man he's just flat not used to so much chatter, and it's hard to take in.
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That might be it. He talks a lot and for the both of us, he’s going to keep talking and not hear me and i keep quiet and he’ll say I didn’t say it lmao 😂

He talks more than i do, I don’t like to talk a lot. How do we fix his issue lol 😂
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Posted by Seleukos
Active listening is hard.

The reality is that I see more women failing at it than men.

Add to that that most women don't want you to listen but merely want to hear certain things.

+ Plus us men often troll you when it comes to that.
I listen attentively, hence the reason I don’t speak over people. So when people can’t do the same it really surprises me . I really need a solution
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IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
They just pretend not to listen.


Again I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.
Keep pretending you don't pretend. 😑😑


You sounds frustrated smidgy 😂
Actually, I'm sick so I've been in the house all day

Maybe you're right 😬😬
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Get well soon 😷
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?


Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.

It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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When it’s your turn put your one finger on his lips while saying shhhhh!
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It's "selective hearing" . Women are chatterboxes. It is biologically impossible for a man to absorb information at the rate women spit it out.

So, we tune you out until it's important. We just nod and say "uh huh" to everything else
That’s what’s funny, I don’t talk a lot. Lol he does the talking I always listen .

Just concerned it may affect us down the line when it’s not all fairytales anymore and reality sets in
Cry. Most men hate to see their woman cry. We may not take anything seriously, but when a woman cries we typically start to listen. Use that selectively lol
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Lmao i sure will use this from now
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?


Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.

It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽‍♀️




When it’s your turn put your one finger on his lips while saying shhhhh!
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Lmfaooooo that’s hard
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?


Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.

It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽‍♀️


It is still being presented as an opinion, with free option, without consequence.

In your example It bothers me when you keep talking over me and won't let me say anything. He's not sorry for doing it. He's sorry it bothers you. As crazy as that sounds it's pretty self evident by the fact he continues with the action.

Change the opinion into a statement, remove the options, add (and stand by) consequences.

Using the same example Do not speak over me when I am speaking. I do not do it. I do not like it. If you continue to do so I will consider it an act of disrespect, and will respond accordingly.

I mean... it probably doesn't have to be to that degree, but it may.

Post Edit - I should have said 'apply parameters to the options', and not 'remove the options'.
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our voice is music to their ears

so if they get lost in the song,

that's really not their fault..

people listen to music and zone out

it happens

probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..

coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices

Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁
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our voice is music to their ears

so if they get lost in the song,

that's really not their fault..

people listen to music and zone out

it happens

probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..

coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices

Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁


Lmfao I'm dead
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Lmaoooo
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our voice is music to their ears

so if they get lost in the song,

that's really not their fault..

people listen to music and zone out

it happens

probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..

coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices

Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁

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Caw caw caw coo coo!

Like that? I’d rather quack, more annoying 😊
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen

i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”

ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.

Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?


This would be one of those things...That could be reversed and asked why women dont listen to the simplest most sensible "advice" and input. But its perspective I guess. Many Men think women are hard headed too and dont listen. But whats the point of mentioning it just quietly take it into account..so is there an answer? I dont think so except once your grown try to put yourself in a position where it doesnt matter. A "thats on that person not me" type of thing because I doubt there would be a consensus on this type of thing.

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Definitely.

Then again, if i got into a position where it wouldn’t matter the communication would cease because it won’t matter and I wouldn’t have to bother talking anymore. I’m just interested in how else i can communicate that makes it easier to comprehend , i bet if a male friend said the same thing to him he would listen. I’m not looking for everyone to say “..yes they don’t.” I’m looking for suggestions on communication
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He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳

I'm the same.

And I have a vagina.

Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.

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Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.

I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!

Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
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He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳

I'm the same.

And I have a vagina.

Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.


Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.

I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!

Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!


You have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?

You trying to change him, he will leave you.
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Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!

Right, got it.

Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid

Cheers
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He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳

I'm the same.

And I have a vagina.

Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.


Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.

I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!

Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!


You have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?

You trying to change him, he will leave you.
Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!

Right, got it.

Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid

Cheers


Then change for yourself to stepped up in the game by talking over him too while he's talking if you also wanted to say something too.
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Lmaooo that would be so nice to do but then weird
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Lol at he will leave you.

Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake

😩
Who the fuck wants to be with someone that nags. Why don't u leave him if he talks over u?

Seems stupid to stay
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You’re the one who sounds stupid tbh! That you cannot analyse the situation without dragging one party?

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He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳

I'm the same.

And I have a vagina.

Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.


Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.

I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!

Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!


You have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?

You trying to change him, he will leave you.
Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!

Right, got it.

Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid

Cheers


Then change for yourself to stepped up in the game by talking over him too while he's talking if you also wanted to say something too.
Lmaooo that would be so nice to do but then weird


Nah thats just standing up for yourself.
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Lol thats true too
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Lol at he will leave you.

Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake

😩
Who the fuck wants to be with someone that nags. Why don't u leave him if he talks over u?

Seems stupid to stay
You’re the one who sounds stupid tbh! That you cannot analyse the situation without dragging one party?

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Whatever, toxic bytch
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Lol probably why your husband left you.

Unfortunate.

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