Sad, Dark, Shy, Depressed Guys?

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..well? Do you like such guys? 😄

Personally, IDK.. I like all types/temperaments/moods/blah blah blah :p

Hell no! (to a sad/depressed/dark guy). My ex-bf (Saggy) was an Air Force veteran that has medical issues. He all of a sudden went from happy to BOOM! Depressed the next as when you watch tv and then it goes to a commercial. I couldn't understand how/why he got depressed and I couldn't be in that relationship anymore. He gained over 20lbs and I tried to talk to him about calories, foods he ate, etc., but the guy didn't; want to change!

Sorry, but I'm not an RN, psychiatrist, therapist, nor his mother (he didn't listen to the latter and didn't listen to me). He had high cholesterol and I discussed w/him what he could/could not eat and I pointed to him the roasted peanuts he was eating he said, "I'm gonna eat what I want to". THAT was enough for me to bounce. Let another woman take care of him (I visualized him on a wheel chair still eating his roasted peanuts while being admitted to the ER). I bounced! (or swam away). Again, I will NOT settle for less than the best!

A shy guy? I cannot stand them! Get some balls dude! Ask me to dance! (it's just a dance for God's sake, not a marriage proposal). On line, they just send hearts and not answer my questions. I "unmatched" us....next!

Good discussion. Cyber hug! 🤗

Love,

Eva

Posted by EvatheDiva
Hell no! (to a sad/depressed/dark guy). My ex-bf (Saggy) was an Air Force veteran that has medical issues. He all of a sudden went from happy to BOOM! Depressed the next as when you watch tv and then it goes to a commercial. I couldn't understand how/why he got depressed and I couldn't be in that relationship anymore. He gained over 20lbs and I tried to talk to him about calories, foods he ate, etc., but the guy didn't want to change!

Sorry, but I'm not an RN, psychiatrist, therapist, nor his mother (he didn't listen to the latter and didn't listen to me). He had high cholesterol and I discussed w/him what he could/could not eat and I pointed to him the roasted peanuts he was eating he said, "I'm gonna eat what I want to". THAT was enough for me to bounce. Let another woman take care of him (I visualized him on a wheel chair still eating his roasted peanuts while being admitted to the ER). I bounced! (or swam away). Again, I will NOT settle for less than the best!

A shy guy? I cannot stand them! Get some balls dude! Ask me to dance! (it's just a dance for God's sake, not a marriage proposal). On line, they just send hearts and not answer my questions. I "unmatched" us....next!

Good discussion. Cyber hug! 🤗

Love,

Eva

Posted by EvatheDiva
Hell no! (to a sad/depressed/dark guy). My ex-bf (Saggy) was an Air Force veteran that has medical issues. He all of a sudden went from happy to BOOM! Depressed the next as when you watch tv and then it goes to a commercial. I couldn't understand how/why he got depressed and I couldn't be in that relationship anymore. He gained over 20lbs and I tried to talk to him about calories, foods he ate, etc., but the guy didn't; want to change!

Sorry, but I'm not an RN, psychiatrist, therapist, nor his mother (he didn't listen to the latter and didn't listen to me). He had high cholesterol and I discussed w/him what he could/could not eat and I pointed to him the roasted peanuts he was eating he said, "I'm gonna eat what I want to". THAT was enough for me to bounce. Let another woman take care of him (I visualized him on a wheel chair still eating his roasted peanuts while being admitted to the ER). I bounced! (or swam away). Again, I will NOT settle for less than the best!

A shy guy? I cannot stand them! Get some balls dude! Ask me to dance! (it's just a dance for God's sake, not a marriage proposal). On line, they just send hearts and not answer my questions. I "unmatched" us....next!

Good discussion. Cyber hug! 🤗

Love,

Eva

Cyber hug back 🤗

Posted by EvatheDiva

Posted by EvatheDiva
Hell no! (to a sad/depressed/dark guy). My ex-bf (Saggy) was an Air Force veteran that has medical issues. He all of a sudden went from happy to BOOM! Depressed the next as when you watch tv and then it goes to a commercial. I couldn't understand how/why he got depressed and I couldn't be in that relationship anymore. He is over 20lbs over weight (considered obesity) and I tried to talk to him about calories, foods he ate, etc., but the guy didn't want to change!

Sorry, but I'm not his RN, doctor, dietician, psychiatrist, therapist, nor his mother (he didn't listen to the latter and didn't listen to me). He had high cholesterol and I discussed w/him what he could/could not eat (since he has thyroid problems) and I pointed to him the roasted peanuts he was eating (because it triggers his thyroid gland) and he said, "I'm gonna eat what I want to". THAT was enough for me to bounce. Let another woman take care of him (I visualized him on a wheel chair still eating his roasted peanuts while being admitted to the ER). I bounced! (or swam away). Again, I will NOT settle for less than the best!

A shy guy? I cannot stand them! Get some balls dude! Ask me to dance! (it's just a dance for God's sake, not a marriage proposal). On line, they just send hearts and not answer my questions. I "unmatched" us....next!

Good discussion. Cyber hug! 🤗

Love,

Eva

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No. They're emotional leeches.

Fuck all you bitches. Keep chasing perfection, then watch that prick break your stupid little heart.

Least I don't have to bend down and suck cock to get ahead in life.

Posted by starwars
I love cheeky Rumi!

Me too!!! 😄 ..cheeky, funny, sarcastic, witty... I like all types xD

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I love cheeky Rumi!

Me too!!! 😄 ..cheeky, funny, sarcastic, witty... I like all types xD

noo, i was referring to you as cheeky.

I love you

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Ohh..mee?! Thankyouuu star!

I love you too ˜

Posted by starwars
I dont have a type, there was two must have in all the guys i was with and liked

1) they need to be nice-kind at heart
2) can take a joke-have a sense of humor, if its a dark one then that's a plus

if hes depressed and an asshole then its a big dude no no no no

Same same.. I like all types...beauty in diversity 😄

But yeah. I love it when guys can laugh at them selves 🙂 ..

Ha. You know, maybe if you gave that depressed looking sap a chance you'd find you bring out the best in him and he brings out the best in you. Maybe you could save each other. No one ever told us what the cover of our soul mate would look like.

But instead you want Mr fucking perfect. A sunny happy fake pos that doesn't give a damn about you. And that's what you always end up with. So enjoy your illusions, because there are much better women then some of you judgy fuckers in here.

Posted by Soul
Ha. You know, maybe if you gave that depressed looking sap a chance you'd find you bring out the best in him and he brings out the best in you. Maybe you could save each other. No one ever told us what the cover of our soul mate would look like.

But instead you want Mr fucking perfect. A sunny happy fake pos that doesn't give a damn about you. And that's what you always end up with. So enjoy your illusions, because there are much better women then some of you judgy fuckers in here.

Tch...calm down : D ..they aren't wrong for desiring a man with certain temperament 🙂 it is afterall a mere desire. but life is bigger.. You can never say you want this or that quality in man because, a man is much more than the labels we give to his traits... It's just a fun silly thread (:

My Leo sun ego cant deal with the reality of who I truly am thanks to my Scorpio moon. My ego is too dead for this thread, so in that light none of it matters anyway.

Posted by Soul
My Leo sun ego cant deal with the reality of who I truly am thanks to my Scorpio moon. My ego is too dead for this thread, so in that light none of it matters anyway.

Why.. Is it a conflict between sunny happy Leo temperament and .....scorpio temperament??

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Posted by Soul
Ha. You know, maybe if you gave that depressed looking sap a chance you'd find you bring out the best in him and he brings out the best in you. Maybe you could save each other. No one ever told us what the cover of our soul mate would look like.

But instead you want Mr fucking perfect. A sunny happy fake pos that doesn't give a damn about you. And that's what you always end up with. So enjoy your illusions, because there are much better women then some of you judgy fuckers in here.

no need to get worked up over this, everyone have their own preferences.
like if someone like and prefer dudes with dark hair that doesn't mean people with light hair suck..simple as that.
and being happy doesn't always equal fake and being depressed doesn't always equal nice.

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It just started a chain reaction of negative thoughts. It's no one's fault I can't control my anger or emotions. I wouldn't like my type either if I was you. And that's the problem.

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Posted by Soul
My Leo sun ego cant deal with the reality of who I truly am thanks to my Scorpio moon. My ego is too dead for this thread, so in that light none of it matters anyway.

Why.. Is it a conflict between sunny happy Leo temperament and .....scorpio temperament??

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It's defiantly a conflict between me and myself.

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Ha. You know, maybe if you gave that depressed looking sap a chance you'd find you bring out the best in him and he brings out the best in you. Maybe you could save each other. No one ever told us what the cover of our soul mate would look like.

But instead you want Mr fucking perfect. A sunny happy fake pos that doesn't give a damn about you. And that's what you always end up with. So enjoy your illusions, because there are much better women then some of you judgy fuckers in here.

no need to get worked up over this, everyone have their own preferences.
like if someone like and prefer dudes with dark hair that doesn't mean people with light hair suck..simple as that.
and being happy doesn't always equal fake and being depressed doesn't always equal nice.

It just started a chain reaction of negative thoughts. It's no one's fault I can't control my anger or emotions. I wouldn't like my type either if I was you. And that's the problem.

Don't sweat, same here. No matter of finding the light I'm always falling into the vicious cycle of dark pandemonium.

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Right? It would be great if the first negative thought just went away, but it calls in like 10 more and turns into a negative wrecking ball of fuck everything. And it's not over everything in life. Just some things trigger a snowball effect for reasons I can't explain. I'll just call it a bad day, like most crazy people would say.

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Ha. You know, maybe if you gave that depressed looking sap a chance you'd find you bring out the best in him and he brings out the best in you. Maybe you could save each other. No one ever told us what the cover of our soul mate would look like.

But instead you want Mr fucking perfect. A sunny happy fake pos that doesn't give a damn about you. And that's what you always end up with. So enjoy your illusions, because there are much better women then some of you judgy fuckers in here.

no need to get worked up over this, everyone have their own preferences.
like if someone like and prefer dudes with dark hair that doesn't mean people with light hair suck..simple as that.
and being happy doesn't always equal fake and being depressed doesn't always equal nice.

It just started a chain reaction of negative thoughts. It's no one's fault I can't control my anger or emotions. I wouldn't like my type either if I was you. And that's the problem.

Don't sweat, same here. No matter of finding the light I'm always falling into the vicious cycle of dark pandemonium.

Right? It would be great if the first negative thought just went away, but it calls in like 10 more and turns into a negative wrecking ball of fuck everything. And it's not over everything in life. Just some things trigger a snowball effect for reasons I can't explain. I'll just call it a bad day, like most crazy people would say.

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In the end there is a lesson to be learned, and something for each side to obtain.

Posted by Soul
Fuck all you bitches. Keep chasing perfection, then watch that prick break your stupid little heart.

Least I don't have to bend down and suck cock to get ahead in life.

Oh shut it, Salty McSalterson.

I more so gravitate towards people who have a side to them they normally don't show to the world. When they can be happy and light on the outside but a weight of something tying them from the inside. I love being the one that discovers their 'Diamond in the rough' personality, and no one else! My Diamond.

I actually find these guys attractive. There is something about a shy sensitive, slightly depressed and moody guy. I can't explain it. It draws me to them. I find it intriguing. And sexy.
My first love was like that. He is Scorpio. He had major issues involving his weight as he was overweight. He had confidence issues with girls and lots more.
Anyway I met another guy a few years after that r'ship was over and he too was shy sensitive and moody. And a Cancer.
Lastly..A few years after that I met a guy who was shy sensitive quiet, very mysterious and had a moody look about him but in a sultry way. And he got depressed. He is Pisces.
I seem to attract Water sign men but then, I am Earth - Capricorn and with Pisces Venus.
I love Water signs so very sensitive and sexy.
Yes okay their moods and depression can get me down whether it's a friend or partner but I think that you just need to be there for them and let them know you care.

Posted by RumiL
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..well? Do you like such guys? 😄

Personally, IDK.. I like all types/temperaments/moods/blah blah blah :p

Maaaaybe.
I'd probably be curious... If I could turn that frown 😢 upside down 🙂 I'd definitely be interested.
I'd certainly try, but if it was just his default setting 24/7 I'd need some major recharge time away from someone like that 😕
As a fellow occasional thunder-cloud I can relate a little 😆
But there's nothing wrong with being any old mood, dark, dreary, sad, shy...
We've all been there I'm sure.

Depends on how you define depressed
Though I would like them even depressed... hoping to help them recover (if they want help from someone else)

I do like shy, dark, sad/melancholic guys
They are probably not depressed. They are most likely a bit cynical, odd, thoughtful and pensive.
They're just different in that they have the courage to be their authentic self and not the typical alpha male :-)

And they're cute : D

Posted by Reincarnation
You women are just looking for a man you can nurture.

I've thought about that, but I don't entirely agree. Joyful, energetic or self-confident guys need nurturing too from time to time, everybody does.
But some of us rather like someone who has something atypical about them - shy people can even be eccentric.
An introspective guy with integrity and principles... I've noticed they're usually shy or more quiet than others

Posted by Reincarnation
You women are just looking for a man you can nurture.

I agree with fragrance.. Every person irrespective of their temperament needs nurturing (:

These types of guys tend to gravitate towards me. I like them though. Most are just pretty misunderstood and I can relate to that.

My best friend was like the description when I met him (still kind of is) and so is another that I adore. Both are great men and though they appear this way to the world, if you take time and get to know them these guys are amazing people.

hurt people hurt people