Caplady05
@Caplady05
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Confused....Virgo men please help me!!
I know exactly how you feel!! I'm in a very similar situation, being a Capricorn woman in love with a Virgo guy. For the first time today, I also made a post on here (under Virgo man... do i tell him how I feel?) hoping to get some help, because the feelings I have for this Virgo guy are so deep and I don't know what to do. I have never felt like this before. We have known each other for some time, have slept together 3 times, and we're still incredibly shy around each other. And we have argued a few times. I haven't told him how I really feel about him (actually have told him that I'm not after anything heavy, just some fun and games), in fear of rejection and being hurt. So I came on here today to ask for some help and advice.
So from one Cap lady to another, I wish you the very best of luck with your Virgo, and I hope we both get some sound advice and help here 🙂
So from one Cap lady to another, I wish you the very best of luck with your Virgo, and I hope we both get some sound advice and help here 🙂
I'm not a virgo but here's what i learned from my experience and from what i read. The don't just go on and say "i love you "or "i want to be committed to you " if they don't mean it. Let me explaing this in a libran way ( goodluck) The virgo man likes and IS interested with you ( which for me is already an accomplishment on our part since they have this keen eye for imperfections hahaha because if your not the best they wont waste their time on you ) thats why they gave you time and effort to flirt or get to know you. The thing is we're like the new car models they've been eyeing for months now but since money ( or heart) is something they value the most they demand a test drive. Yes they love the feel of you but then they're double checking if you run smoothly, efficient and most of all worth the risk. So now they had the test drive but they wont buy it immediately ( this is when the im-not-sure-about-this-yet-ill-be-gone-for-a-bit-ill-call-you-when-im-ready phase). He will be detaching himself from you completely as if you don't exist.
How to know if he'll come back? You won't. LET HIM BE but HERE'S WHAT YOU CAN DO in the meantime he goes blowing his mind if wants you or not : if you know yourself well enough and know what was this " THING" in you that he finds so interesting that made him approach you then you have your sort of solution. Cultivate that " THING" like for example he finds you artistic then go draw, paint, write a story just make its something positive and it isn't about him and then go show it to the world like facebook .yes facebook can either make or break this relationship so don't delete him just yet hehehe. remember don't tag him or make something that's about him. Pretend he didnt exist. Its much more effective if you did this from first 3 days he went AWOL. im sure he's still glancing at your wall because this is his safe way of knowing how you are and nitpick on things that would convince him of your worth . . if you dont have facebook or not his neighbor or any way to let him see you have a life without contacting him directly then sorry i cant help you hahaha.
Love yourself for who you are that's what made him notice you. The more you pretend that you're happy the more you feel its real.
How to know if he'll come back? You won't. LET HIM BE but HERE'S WHAT YOU CAN DO in the meantime he goes blowing his mind if wants you or not : if you know yourself well enough and know what was this " THING" in you that he finds so interesting that made him approach you then you have your sort of solution. Cultivate that " THING" like for example he finds you artistic then go draw, paint, write a story just make its something positive and it isn't about him and then go show it to the world like facebook .yes facebook can either make or break this relationship so don't delete him just yet hehehe. remember don't tag him or make something that's about him. Pretend he didnt exist. Its much more effective if you did this from first 3 days he went AWOL. im sure he's still glancing at your wall because this is his safe way of knowing how you are and nitpick on things that would convince him of your worth . . if you dont have facebook or not his neighbor or any way to let him see you have a life without contacting him directly then sorry i cant help you hahaha.
Love yourself for who you are that's what made him notice you. The more you pretend that you're happy the more you feel its real.
Posted by Caplady05
.... please be gentle with me ...
The second you said he told you he loved you, even though you guys have never really met up...I was wary. You should have been too. If he's talking kids and marriage before you've even met, that's another red flag.
Trust me, I know where you're at--feeling as if your feelings for each other can transcend the internet, but just as they say you never really know a person until you live with them, you also really never know a person until you MEET with them, hang with them, make love to them. It's about seeing what they're saying in their eyes.
As scary as the words "I love you" are, they mean nothing if you can't see it in someone's eyes. They could just be saying they love the fantasy they've created between you two. It's easy to do.
I'm sorry things never progressed to an actual meet up with you two, but it seems he built things too high too quickly, before even taking the much needed first steps (physical meet up) of any relationship. It would have been nice if he had kept it sweet and friendly until after you two had done the face-to-face...but yeah...the fantasy talk started and...yeah...
I agree with libra08--let him be. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make the effort to do so. If not, look at it this way--do you REALLY want to be both the male AND female of the relationship? The one initiating things, keeping them going, mending every broken fence, catering to his every whim and need? What about YOUR needs? What YOU need is a real man, and a real man will not base his future with you on fantasies he doesn't have the balls to make into reality.
Trust me, I know where you're at--feeling as if your feelings for each other can transcend the internet, but just as they say you never really know a person until you live with them, you also really never know a person until you MEET with them, hang with them, make love to them. It's about seeing what they're saying in their eyes.
As scary as the words "I love you" are, they mean nothing if you can't see it in someone's eyes. They could just be saying they love the fantasy they've created between you two. It's easy to do.
I'm sorry things never progressed to an actual meet up with you two, but it seems he built things too high too quickly, before even taking the much needed first steps (physical meet up) of any relationship. It would have been nice if he had kept it sweet and friendly until after you two had done the face-to-face...but yeah...the fantasy talk started and...yeah...
I agree with libra08--let him be. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make the effort to do so. If not, look at it this way--do you REALLY want to be both the male AND female of the relationship? The one initiating things, keeping them going, mending every broken fence, catering to his every whim and need? What about YOUR needs? What YOU need is a real man, and a real man will not base his future with you on fantasies he doesn't have the balls to make into reality.
Posted by Caplady05
Being a Capricorn I'm very cautious when it comes to my heart and feelings ...
... we haven't met in person but I've seen him around my town ....
... I contacted him on FB which was in Dec. Well he was asking me to be his lady and told me he loved me ....
... so I gave in and decided we can be a couple
He was talking marriage and kids and moving in with him ...
He made me feel so good and giving me the love I deserved.
Sadly all that ended ..... saying how he isnt ready fro a relationship and doesnt want one ..I was devastated....
Its killing me because I love this man so much and I know he cares for me and loves me just as much ....
wow .... you said that he gives you the love you deserve.
Careful what you ask for.
When you get out of high school ... you will begin to see things through a different scope of reference.
That's as gentle as I can be.
I posted awhile back with my first virgin experience and i'm libra so yeah it fucking blew my brains when he pursued me and then he left like i was the one who made the first move so you can imagine how shitty that was. Yeah I like him he was a great person to be with when he's not demanding and stuff. What i attracted to me the most about him was he has this emotional wall . . im crazy i like busting walls 🙂), He loves his wall ( if it was a real wall he'ld scrub it with a tootbruh 3 times a day . It was also the reason he went away. I was too spot on when i tell him i know he feels sad or feels something that makes him uneasy. One conversation went like this
After sex ( yes after sex w/o alcohol thats when you feel/ read more emotions )
Libra ( while gazing through virgo's eyes thats been staring at her intensely ) : Stop thinking enjoy the feeling
Virgo ( eyes wide open more like shock ) : I wasn't thinking
Libra: Ok fine then stop choosing between am i gonna be a good girlfriend or should you stay away from me after this. Coz im not thinking about it. I'm happy with what we have whatever this is.
Virgo: hahaha ( laugh seemed like panic but eyes trying to blink trying to think next move . . . putting some backup with his wall)
Libra: Don't be too hard on yourself try to relax.
Virgo: I am I am ( then stared at the ceiling)
Libra made a move for second round . . .
After a few days he told me he sometimes can't be in control when his with me. He said he doesn't know if i have this energy that makes him do/feel the things I told him he might do/feel that makes his mind cluttered. He doesn't like the way i make him feel emotions because he's an emotional guy.( thats an intense word for a virgo )
So when i felt he needed space i gave him space. Yes i was sad that i even had my own pity /binge eating party for a couple of days ( hey i am a libra im entitled to waste 1 million tears on every person i slept with hahaha) but of course i wouldnt let him know about it. I downloaded all the hate songs from take bow to rihanna to gives you hell to all american rejects that i played the whole day while posting positive facebook statuses ( bipolar much? )at least once a day and asked guy friends ( who are actually gay and knew my situation ) to tag me with their videos of rnb sex/love songs. And yeah posted some recent pics of mine ( yes perfect makeup perfect smile perfect getup . . NOTE: virgos dont like sleazy pics)
Posted by sunnycap
I know exactly how you feel!! I'm in a very similar situation, being a Capricorn woman in love with a Virgo guy. For the first time today, I also made a post on here (under Virgo man... do i tell him how I feel?) hoping to get some help, because the feelings I have for this Virgo guy are so deep and I don't know what to do. I have never felt like this before. We have known each other for some time, have slept together 3 times, and we're still incredibly shy around each other. And we have argued a few times. I haven't told him how I really feel about him (actually have told him that I'm not after anything heavy, just some fun and games), in fear of rejection and being hurt. So I came on here today to ask for some help and advice.
So from one Cap lady to another, I wish you the very best of luck with your Virgo, and I hope we both get some sound advice and help here 🙂
If a guy told you, after sleeping with you, that he was only looking to have fun with you (whether he said it out of fear of rejection or not), how would you feel? Sounds like you're playing games, and hoping for the best. Doesn't work that way.
I pretended for a few days i was happy that i woke up one morning i was smiling on my own. I never needed any help and went back to my life. I went back to poetry and photography and shared it for everyone to see. I am now a bit stable haha but definitely more happy. Its been a month last sunday since we last saw each other.
So did it work on my Virgo guy? Well he out of the blue send me a personal message last night " How are you Ive been missing you nowadays" the message surprised me not that i didn't expected it ( why do you think i made the posts,pics and tags ) It felt good that he misses me but then that was it I don't want to go back and start a relationship because ive already accepted the fact we will not work out adventure and control doesn't mix and I love him that i want him to find someone who can make him feel happy and not me who can drive him crazy .
Don't make a virgo fall in love with you if you cant stand up to his standards or get used to his way of life ( you know he complains 100 times a day even before he said he loves you ). He takes good care of his heart so take good care of yours.
So did it work on my Virgo guy? Well he out of the blue send me a personal message last night " How are you Ive been missing you nowadays" the message surprised me not that i didn't expected it ( why do you think i made the posts,pics and tags ) It felt good that he misses me but then that was it I don't want to go back and start a relationship because ive already accepted the fact we will not work out adventure and control doesn't mix and I love him that i want him to find someone who can make him feel happy and not me who can drive him crazy .
Don't make a virgo fall in love with you if you cant stand up to his standards or get used to his way of life ( you know he complains 100 times a day even before he said he loves you ). He takes good care of his heart so take good care of yours.
@CLCNY30
If a guy told you, after sleeping with you, that he was only looking to have fun with you (whether he said it out of fear of rejection or not), how would you feel? Sounds like you're playing games, and hoping for the best. Doesn't work that way.
I know what you mean, but the reason I did it was because he pulled away and had already told me that the other women he'd been with had started to be a bit clingy and pushy. I did not want to appear like that or scare him, so pretended I was cool about everything. We have been together twice since then (but he has also been with a couple of other women), so I've kept up the charade of being cool and pulling away.
I've posted my own string on here called "Virgo man... do I tell him the truth?" I know it's a bit long, but I would love to hear anyones advice.
If a guy told you, after sleeping with you, that he was only looking to have fun with you (whether he said it out of fear of rejection or not), how would you feel? Sounds like you're playing games, and hoping for the best. Doesn't work that way.
I know what you mean, but the reason I did it was because he pulled away and had already told me that the other women he'd been with had started to be a bit clingy and pushy. I did not want to appear like that or scare him, so pretended I was cool about everything. We have been together twice since then (but he has also been with a couple of other women), so I've kept up the charade of being cool and pulling away.
I've posted my own string on here called "Virgo man... do I tell him the truth?" I know it's a bit long, but I would love to hear anyones advice.
Posted by sunnycap
@CLCNY30
If a guy told you, after sleeping with you, that he was only looking to have fun with you (whether he said it out of fear of rejection or not), how would you feel? Sounds like you're playing games, and hoping for the best. Doesn't work that way.
I know what you mean, but the reason I did it was because he pulled away and had already told me that the other women he'd been with had started to be a bit clingy and pushy. I did not want to appear like that or scare him, so pretended I was cool about everything. We have been together twice since then (but he has also been with a couple of other women), so I've kept up the charade of being cool and pulling away.
I've posted my own string on here called "Virgo man... do I tell him the truth?" I know it's a bit long, but I would love to hear anyones advice.
Then it sounds like gameplaying on both sides, and two wrongs never make a right.
Do you mind me asking how old you both are?
Again I agree. Two wrongs never make a right. It just feels like we're both very scared of rejection and of being hurt. He's virgo sun, capricorn moon with venus in virgo. I've read that this combination often makes you terrified of rejection. They way he's acted when we've been together really does confirm this in a way. We can have spent the whole night together, but he's still so incredibly shy to make a move the following morning, and so am I. He had a bad breakup with his long term girlfriend 15 months ago, and my marriage of 18 years ended just under a year ago.
He's 31 and I'm 42.
He's 31 and I'm 42.
tell him how you feel without being to dramatic but be ready for the consequences . .coz this might make him run away and if he did say yes can you handle him the long run?. But if you don't tell him you get to keep him as a booty call but there would be no security as long as the sex is good why complain. Test the waters but not with both feet that would be syupid . . virgos hates stupidity ( yes i know thats what you get for loving the sexy virgo )
syupid
Posted by sunnycap
Again I agree. Two wrongs never make a right. It just feels like we're both very scared of rejection and of being hurt. He's virgo sun, capricorn moon with venus in virgo. I've read that this combination often makes you terrified of rejection. They way he's acted when we've been together really does confirm this in a way. We can have spent the whole night together, but he's still so incredibly shy to make a move the following morning, and so am I. He had a bad breakup with his long term girlfriend 15 months ago, and my marriage of 18 years ended just under a year ago.
He's 31 and I'm 42.
Oh, okay--no offense intended, but I thought you were going to say you were both in your teens. I'd understand this behavior then, but wow--you're both MORE than old enough to know these games are a no no...
Bottomline? If you can't be yourself with someone (this goes for both you AND him), how would a relationship work?? Either you both have to agree to keep the lies going (which will get real old real quick...) or you need to pull away from this sham of a relationship, and go find yourselves people who you don't need to be "extra" for in order to keep. Best you can do is be yourself in a relationship--beginning, middle, end, and if that person likes who you are, that'll be enough to keep them with you, but once games/lies/deception of any sort enter that "relationship"...it's pretty much a wrap.
And I know it's easier said than done, as we ALL act a little extra in order to get someone's attention when we like them (wearing makeup--or more than usual, dressing up, dipping our bodies into tubs of perfume, lol) but that doesn't compare to the extras that include lies, false intentions, saying something one day then another the next...
If you can't be yourself with someone, they're not The One.
@libra08
Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it! The thing is, I can't keep him as a booty call any longer, as he pulled away from me when he was back home this time around (he works abroad for 2-3 months at the time). I made it quite clear that I was keen to be with him again, but he simply pulled away. He slept with a couple of other women (who'm he's been with before he and I met up in the summer), but didn't want to do that with me. I know it's not because he doesn't find me attractive, because the attraction between us is there in spades. He spent 6 hours with me in a bar (after an awkward situation between us a couple of days before). But when it was time to go home, he walked away very fast, even thought it would have been more natural for us to end up together.
I just don't get it. Why have no problems with other women, but pull away from me. Surely if all he wants is casual sex (which is what I've told him I'm happy with), why turn someone you've had a very good time with away?
Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it! The thing is, I can't keep him as a booty call any longer, as he pulled away from me when he was back home this time around (he works abroad for 2-3 months at the time). I made it quite clear that I was keen to be with him again, but he simply pulled away. He slept with a couple of other women (who'm he's been with before he and I met up in the summer), but didn't want to do that with me. I know it's not because he doesn't find me attractive, because the attraction between us is there in spades. He spent 6 hours with me in a bar (after an awkward situation between us a couple of days before). But when it was time to go home, he walked away very fast, even thought it would have been more natural for us to end up together.
I just don't get it. Why have no problems with other women, but pull away from me. Surely if all he wants is casual sex (which is what I've told him I'm happy with), why turn someone you've had a very good time with away?
@CLCNY30
I know.... we behave like a couple of shy 16 year olds!!! It's unbelievable! We do not have a relationship. We've just slept together 3 times and have spent some time together socialising with mutual friends (and on our own). I have not told him how I feel because I'm so terrified that he will reject me, and I don't know if I could cope with it. It sounds crazy, but I have never, ever felt like this about anyone ever before! There is this incredible chemistry between us. We have known each other for 8 years via mutual friends, but never really spoke much with each other. However, he would always stare at me, stand right next to me or behind me and follow me around, even when we were both in relationships. The first time we were together in bed, he said that we've always had chemistry. He's a man of few words, so to say something like that is quite a big thing.
I've had to start reading astrology to try and make some sort of sense of it all. It turns out we're such an incredible match on most combinations: sun/sun, sun/moon, venus/mars, ascendant/ascendant to name a few. I'm utterly confused and feel so much for him that I simply can't let go. Yet, I have not told him how I feel. It's very painful!
I know.... we behave like a couple of shy 16 year olds!!! It's unbelievable! We do not have a relationship. We've just slept together 3 times and have spent some time together socialising with mutual friends (and on our own). I have not told him how I feel because I'm so terrified that he will reject me, and I don't know if I could cope with it. It sounds crazy, but I have never, ever felt like this about anyone ever before! There is this incredible chemistry between us. We have known each other for 8 years via mutual friends, but never really spoke much with each other. However, he would always stare at me, stand right next to me or behind me and follow me around, even when we were both in relationships. The first time we were together in bed, he said that we've always had chemistry. He's a man of few words, so to say something like that is quite a big thing.
I've had to start reading astrology to try and make some sort of sense of it all. It turns out we're such an incredible match on most combinations: sun/sun, sun/moon, venus/mars, ascendant/ascendant to name a few. I'm utterly confused and feel so much for him that I simply can't let go. Yet, I have not told him how I feel. It's very painful!
sometimes its also a reaction of how you acted on that particular moment. . how were you when you were at the bar. Did you say something or didnt you say something at all.
If you felt you didnt do anything wrong then you didnt do anything wrong. Its his problem. You made already made the effort so if he doesnt react or appreciate it then the hell with him baby girl.
Stop ounsihing yourself.If he wants you he'll come back . Best way to deal with it is not to expect anything. Leave him alone there's nothing you can do about it right now. If you need closure then Have a good cry by yourself. Be fair to yourself . and SMILE. even if you dont want to smile. At least you're not that into deep of shit you can still pull yourself out of that mess.
If you felt you didnt do anything wrong then you didnt do anything wrong. Its his problem. You made already made the effort so if he doesnt react or appreciate it then the hell with him baby girl.
Stop ounsihing yourself.If he wants you he'll come back . Best way to deal with it is not to expect anything. Leave him alone there's nothing you can do about it right now. If you need closure then Have a good cry by yourself. Be fair to yourself . and SMILE. even if you dont want to smile. At least you're not that into deep of shit you can still pull yourself out of that mess.
Posted by sunnycap
@CLCNY30
I know.... we behave like a couple of shy 16 year olds!!! It's unbelievable! We do not have a relationship. We've just slept together 3 times and have spent some time together socialising with mutual friends (and on our own). I have not told him how I feel because I'm so terrified that he will reject me, and I don't know if I could cope with it. It sounds crazy, but I have never, ever felt like this about anyone ever before! There is this incredible chemistry between us. We have known each other for 8 years via mutual friends, but never really spoke much with each other. However, he would always stare at me, stand right next to me or behind me and follow me around, even when we were both in relationships. The first time we were together in bed, he said that we've always had chemistry. He's a man of few words, so to say something like that is quite a big thing.
I've had to start reading astrology to try and make some sort of sense of it all. It turns out we're such an incredible match on most combinations: sun/sun, sun/moon, venus/mars, ascendant/ascendant to name a few. I'm utterly confused and feel so much for him that I simply can't let go. Yet, I have not told him how I feel. It's very painful!
But...if you've had sex already, have you not put yourself out there for rejection as it is?
@libra08
The thing is, though, that he is very enclosed and terrified of rejection. His famous Virgo wall is quite tall, I think. I have not been honest about my feelings for him for fear of being rejected. Should I perhaps give it a try to let him know how I feel, so at least he know where he stands with me? The pull back and get on with my life?
And believe you me, I have cried many tears about this already over the last few months.
The thing is, though, that he is very enclosed and terrified of rejection. His famous Virgo wall is quite tall, I think. I have not been honest about my feelings for him for fear of being rejected. Should I perhaps give it a try to let him know how I feel, so at least he know where he stands with me? The pull back and get on with my life?
And believe you me, I have cried many tears about this already over the last few months.
@CLCNY30
He's never rejected me about sex before this time around. The last time we slept together it was so good in a connection type of way. We spent 10 hours together. We chatted as I drove him home, it felt like we were almost like a couple. He asked me if I was going out that evening to a concert in town, which I said I was going to attend, When I saw him that evening, I barely spoke to him. Not because I wanted to avoid him, but because I was so scared of coming on too strongly and push him away.
He followed me around, waited for me, bought me drinks, stood with me, and I got a bit drunk and flittered around chatting and hugging a lot of people (including guys I went to college with years ago), while I left him on his own in the bar.. In the end he walked away from me and sat with another woman he knows whom he subsequently walked home with that night.
I have thought about this evening so many times. If he had done this to me, I would have thought he was not interested at all, especially after we'd been together the whole previous night. It's really complicated and I wish I had been a bit braver.
He's never rejected me about sex before this time around. The last time we slept together it was so good in a connection type of way. We spent 10 hours together. We chatted as I drove him home, it felt like we were almost like a couple. He asked me if I was going out that evening to a concert in town, which I said I was going to attend, When I saw him that evening, I barely spoke to him. Not because I wanted to avoid him, but because I was so scared of coming on too strongly and push him away.
He followed me around, waited for me, bought me drinks, stood with me, and I got a bit drunk and flittered around chatting and hugging a lot of people (including guys I went to college with years ago), while I left him on his own in the bar.. In the end he walked away from me and sat with another woman he knows whom he subsequently walked home with that night.
I have thought about this evening so many times. If he had done this to me, I would have thought he was not interested at all, especially after we'd been together the whole previous night. It's really complicated and I wish I had been a bit braver.
Thank you all for your comments and opinions.....
Let me elaborate more on he and I.. we have seen each other through Skype and have spoken thru there to see each other. And he told me he loved me thru skype when we would speak via webcam.. I can tell he meant it.. very true a physical interaction is better than online.. we both knew that. He's been overseas so it wasn't like I could just hop in my car and go see him. So I thought we were taking our time and getting to know each other... I wasn't doing the talk of marriage and kids that was all him with bringing that up and writing stuff like that all on my fb wall..
I've given the relationship talk a rest.. I just don't understand how he can go from wanting so much with me to being scared and not wanting a relationship after he got my feelings hooked in this. Its not so easy to pick up and move on like some have said.. easier said than done! Because I had such a strong connection with him its not easy to just walk away...
For Virgos is he truly scared.. did he mean everything he said to me? Is this normal Virgo behavior to get scared.—?
Let me elaborate more on he and I.. we have seen each other through Skype and have spoken thru there to see each other. And he told me he loved me thru skype when we would speak via webcam.. I can tell he meant it.. very true a physical interaction is better than online.. we both knew that. He's been overseas so it wasn't like I could just hop in my car and go see him. So I thought we were taking our time and getting to know each other... I wasn't doing the talk of marriage and kids that was all him with bringing that up and writing stuff like that all on my fb wall..
I've given the relationship talk a rest.. I just don't understand how he can go from wanting so much with me to being scared and not wanting a relationship after he got my feelings hooked in this. Its not so easy to pick up and move on like some have said.. easier said than done! Because I had such a strong connection with him its not easy to just walk away...
For Virgos is he truly scared.. did he mean everything he said to me? Is this normal Virgo behavior to get scared.—?
do you want to tell him just for the sake of telling him and be done with it or you want to tell him so you want to see if he feels the same way too? because i feel he wont tell you he also feels the same way too . . but that's just me . . tell him but be ready. . . but if i were you ild rather pull back and leave the thinking to him . . throw the baggage away makes you lighter 🙂)
Oh by the way i dont know if you know my story but My virgo and i are cheating partners. I have my own shit he has his own. My virgo's gf is a cappy just so you know.
Also....
He doesn't like speaking on his feelings..
He feels like he can do things on his own and be his own support system..
He doesn't like getting too close to ppl because they always leave him...
Which I've gotten him to open up lil by lil on his feelings before
I've told him he needs some support and that's what I was there for to be on his team and have his back
And I told him I wasn't going anywhere to leave him...
But yet he still didn't wanna take it what I had to offer..
He doesn't like speaking on his feelings..
He feels like he can do things on his own and be his own support system..
He doesn't like getting too close to ppl because they always leave him...
Which I've gotten him to open up lil by lil on his feelings before
I've told him he needs some support and that's what I was there for to be on his team and have his back
And I told him I wasn't going anywhere to leave him...
But yet he still didn't wanna take it what I had to offer..
then what are you still thinking about. Then its a no. at least you offered right? no more what ifs for you so now the ball in his hands. I know its hard but you have to get over him. He hasnt giving anything worth fighting for. Having been fucked is no excuse for being fucked up.
He just so damn selfish!
Thinking he knows what's best.. giving up before we could've seen what we could've been..
I'm sorry it just makes me so mad that he would do this!
Maybe I'm being stupid or to blinded.. idk..
I wanna tell him so bad on how I feel but I don't wanna upset him or make him feel uncomfortable with my emotions.. I just wish he knew how I felt.. this isn't a easy pick up and move on especially when he comes back home to the states!
Thinking he knows what's best.. giving up before we could've seen what we could've been..
I'm sorry it just makes me so mad that he would do this!
Maybe I'm being stupid or to blinded.. idk..
I wanna tell him so bad on how I feel but I don't wanna upset him or make him feel uncomfortable with my emotions.. I just wish he knew how I felt.. this isn't a easy pick up and move on especially when he comes back home to the states!
Posted by Caplady05
He just so damn selfish!
Thinking he knows what's best.. giving up before we could've seen what we could've been..
I'm sorry it just makes me so mad that he would do this!
Maybe I'm being stupid or to blinded.. idk..
I wanna tell him so bad on how I feel but I don't wanna upset him or make him feel uncomfortable with my emotions.. I just wish he knew how I felt.. this isn't a easy pick up and move on especially when he comes back home to the states!
YEY Hating him for it hahaha now maintain the hate . . hate him so much youll get tired of hating him and you will move on and learn to accept for what it is . Yes you were blinded but tahts because you care for him and you want him to feel happy. But happiness only happens if the person itself wants to be happy.
Oh and he spoke to and seen my mother too and spoke of all the future with me to her too!
But do I hang in there as his friend?? Is it worth it.. he said he doesn't want me outta his life but this hard! Cuz I know I want more with him..
But do I hang in there as his friend?? Is it worth it.. he said he doesn't want me outta his life but this hard! Cuz I know I want more with him..
@ Sunnycap:I have not told him how I feel because I'm so terrified that he will reject me, and I don't know if I could cope with it. It sounds crazy, but I have never, ever felt like this about anyone ever before! There is this incredible chemistry between us.
I know exactly how you feel, the chemistry between cap and virgo is very strong and hard to explain...i felt the same to my ex capi bf...
"I'm utterly confused and feel so much for him that I simply can't let go. Yet, I have not told him how I feel. It's very painfu!"...
It is Painful!, but it feels soooo good...everyday, i prayed that one day that "Strange Feelings" of mine towards my Cap will disappear...The last time i spoke with him i told him how i feel and cut the ties at the same time....I hate the feelings but i am addicted to it...after i told him my feelings i run very fast...and never look back...lol!! sounds crazy really but i don't know what to do...—he is hard to read...he's moon is in Aqua and venus in capri....gezzz...
I know exactly how you feel, the chemistry between cap and virgo is very strong and hard to explain...i felt the same to my ex capi bf...
"I'm utterly confused and feel so much for him that I simply can't let go. Yet, I have not told him how I feel. It's very painfu!"...
It is Painful!, but it feels soooo good...everyday, i prayed that one day that "Strange Feelings" of mine towards my Cap will disappear...The last time i spoke with him i told him how i feel and cut the ties at the same time....I hate the feelings but i am addicted to it...after i told him my feelings i run very fast...and never look back...lol!! sounds crazy really but i don't know what to do...—he is hard to read...he's moon is in Aqua and venus in capri....gezzz...
^^^ Co-sign.
I abhor these types of situations between boy and girl. *SIGH*
It hurts so good.
I abhor these types of situations between boy and girl. *SIGH*
It hurts so good.
Funny,
SassyVirgo was saying something similar. Weird.
I totally get you in terms of cutting ties after spilling feelings. Why are we like this? LOL. One word: SCARY.
SassyVirgo was saying something similar. Weird.
I totally get you in terms of cutting ties after spilling feelings. Why are we like this? LOL. One word: SCARY.
Girls can I ask, pv and VV? I'm genuinely interested, what are you scared of? That he might not give those feelings back? If you've had the balls to tell him how you feel why run? A Virgo did this to me twice but never gave me the chance to really reply...kinda felt like I'd been hit with a hammer (him bein a Virgo, totally out of blue as I'm sure you will identify with!)I was floored and needed time to digest so in meantime I think he took that as rejection!!! But hell I loved that guy but his "Cutting ties" made me act cold 'cos it felt like a mind freak! Your feedback would be greatly appreciated
^^^Hi seadream,
See continuation thread on board. Don't want to hijack the OP's thread any longer.
See continuation thread on board. Don't want to hijack the OP's thread any longer.
@preciousvirgin
Thanks so much for your comments! I agree, the chemistry between cap and virgo is incredibly strong! Capricorns are also so afraid of rejections and can appear aloof and cold, so we're very much alike in that respect! Both earth signs, so solid ground, perhaps🙂
However, I was in a relationship with another virgo for 2 years, and I did not feel anything like this. Because I simply couldn't understand how it's possible to have such strong feelings for someone I've only been with a few times, I had to start reading astrology to try and make sense of it all. It turns out we have an incredible match on so many planets - our sun/sun, sun/moon, venus/mars, ascendant/ascendant to name a few. I have never really been into astrology before, but when reading what it said about our combinations, it was like I had written it myself! Incredible.
Could it be that he also feels this and is very scared because he's gone through a painful breakup just over a year ago, and because I have said what I've said (just wanting fun and games, not looking for anything serious etc.)? I mean, he knows I've just come out of a 18 year relationships (he even knows my ex and I know his), so he might think I'm just on the rebound and will hurt his feelings if it carries on?
What do you think?
Thanks so much for your comments! I agree, the chemistry between cap and virgo is incredibly strong! Capricorns are also so afraid of rejections and can appear aloof and cold, so we're very much alike in that respect! Both earth signs, so solid ground, perhaps🙂
However, I was in a relationship with another virgo for 2 years, and I did not feel anything like this. Because I simply couldn't understand how it's possible to have such strong feelings for someone I've only been with a few times, I had to start reading astrology to try and make sense of it all. It turns out we have an incredible match on so many planets - our sun/sun, sun/moon, venus/mars, ascendant/ascendant to name a few. I have never really been into astrology before, but when reading what it said about our combinations, it was like I had written it myself! Incredible.
Could it be that he also feels this and is very scared because he's gone through a painful breakup just over a year ago, and because I have said what I've said (just wanting fun and games, not looking for anything serious etc.)? I mean, he knows I've just come out of a 18 year relationships (he even knows my ex and I know his), so he might think I'm just on the rebound and will hurt his feelings if it carries on?
What do you think?
i've never felt of had the strange feelings with anyone else before except with my capi man....its very very strange...i know he likes me yet he didn't say it right...so am i...that makes me more crazyyy.....we do push and pull thing too...lol!!
i mean we did....that was almost 1 year now, but the weird thing is, it seems like we can still feel each other....at that time, it seems like we are one...you know what i mean??i know hes mad at me because of what i did to him....i hope you get some idea what to do with your virgo man SUNNYCAP........
Ive never felt or had*** -correction-
I know exactly what you mean, preciousvirgin! I'll let you know the extent of how I can feel him:
He works thousands of miles away for 2-3 months at the time. When he's there, I have been able to predict 99.5% of the time when he will be on Facebook. There's no pattern to when he will write or do something on there due to his job, and we do not communicate while he's away, so I have not been told that he's having time off to be on there or anything like that. Yet, I get a physical sensation on the day he writes something on there (hours before he actually does), and I've been right 99.5% of the time!
Once, I had this incredible feeling in my body all day. I just knew he would be on Facebook. At 11 o'clock at night he had still not been on there, and I thought I'd got it wrong for once. I went to bed to read my book, and was completely consumed with reading. Suddenly, out of the blue, I had this very strong urge to check Facebook. I couldn't concentrate and had a physical sensation in my stomach and chest. I opened my laptop, logged on to Facebook and he'd been on there 1 minute earlier!!!!
This has happened a few times.... a very strong feeling and then realising he's been on FB one or two minutes earlier. What is that all about??
He works thousands of miles away for 2-3 months at the time. When he's there, I have been able to predict 99.5% of the time when he will be on Facebook. There's no pattern to when he will write or do something on there due to his job, and we do not communicate while he's away, so I have not been told that he's having time off to be on there or anything like that. Yet, I get a physical sensation on the day he writes something on there (hours before he actually does), and I've been right 99.5% of the time!
Once, I had this incredible feeling in my body all day. I just knew he would be on Facebook. At 11 o'clock at night he had still not been on there, and I thought I'd got it wrong for once. I went to bed to read my book, and was completely consumed with reading. Suddenly, out of the blue, I had this very strong urge to check Facebook. I couldn't concentrate and had a physical sensation in my stomach and chest. I opened my laptop, logged on to Facebook and he'd been on there 1 minute earlier!!!!
This has happened a few times.... a very strong feeling and then realising he's been on FB one or two minutes earlier. What is that all about??
Posted by sunnycap
I know exactly what you mean, preciousvirgin! I'll let you know the extent of how I can feel him:
He works thousands of miles away for 2-3 months at the time. When he's there, I have been able to predict 99.5% of the time when he will be on Facebook. There's no pattern to when he will write or do something on there due to his job, and we do not communicate while he's away, so I have not been told that he's having time off to be on there or anything like that. Yet, I get a physical sensation on the day he writes something on there (hours before he actually does), and I've been right 99.5% of the time!
Once, I had this incredible feeling in my body all day. I just knew he would be on Facebook. At 11 o'clock at night he had still not been on there, and I thought I'd got it wrong for once. I went to bed to read my book, and was completely consumed with reading. Suddenly, out of the blue, I had this very strong urge to check Facebook. I couldn't concentrate and had a physical sensation in my stomach and chest. I opened my laptop, logged on to Facebook and he'd been on there 1 minute earlier!!!!
This has happened a few times.... a very strong feeling and then realising he's been on FB one or two minutes earlier. What is that all about??
OMG!!!that is exactly how i feel till now...i don't know how long it will take this...Go get your Virgo Guy...forget the ego pride!!! lol,
If the Intense feelings attacking me and then ill go check his Fb wall he wrote something in there...he's doing it 1's in month...but i did not added him on my FB lol....and blocked him on my ym and skype.....i know i'm crazy but that's the way i am...dont get me wrong i am not that bad hahaha...
maybe he feel the same as you do...My capi man acted as a womanizer but still coming back to me and spent more time to be with me...he always made me jelous...first i didn't say anything...but he kept pushing me to my boundary....till i treated him as how he treated me till i gave up!!!
This has happened a few times.... a very strong feeling and then realising he's been on FB one or two minutes earlier. What is that all about??
I Don't know, as i have said from my first comment...its hard to explain....the only thing i know is tell him How you feel and what do you want for you both, maybe that will help your emotions or feelings to calm down....—?
I Don't know, as i have said from my first comment...its hard to explain....the only thing i know is tell him How you feel and what do you want for you both, maybe that will help your emotions or feelings to calm down....—?
I can't believe you have the same sensation too! How very strange!
The thing is, it's not my ego pride that's holding me back, it's he's recent actions that make me a bit scared about opening up to him. He's walked away with another women in front of me twice now. I know I've said that I only want fun and games and that he can be with whomever he wants to. Also, we're not in a relationship, so he can do what he wants. It just hurts me so badly because I have such strong feelings for him, which is why I'm thinking about telling him how I feel.
I do get quite a bit of attention from other men, which he has seen. The last time was about a week ago. We were in a bar. We made eye contact, I was having fun with some guys, nothing flirty or heavy, just laughs and chats. Virgo guy and I did not talk to each other or stand next to each other, but we were both at the bar where we could easily see each other. He saw me having a good time with these other guys, and he suddenly became very serious and thoughtful and then walked off.
Now he's gone back to work, and I really wish I had said something to him while he was here!
The thing is, it's not my ego pride that's holding me back, it's he's recent actions that make me a bit scared about opening up to him. He's walked away with another women in front of me twice now. I know I've said that I only want fun and games and that he can be with whomever he wants to. Also, we're not in a relationship, so he can do what he wants. It just hurts me so badly because I have such strong feelings for him, which is why I'm thinking about telling him how I feel.
I do get quite a bit of attention from other men, which he has seen. The last time was about a week ago. We were in a bar. We made eye contact, I was having fun with some guys, nothing flirty or heavy, just laughs and chats. Virgo guy and I did not talk to each other or stand next to each other, but we were both at the bar where we could easily see each other. He saw me having a good time with these other guys, and he suddenly became very serious and thoughtful and then walked off.
Now he's gone back to work, and I really wish I had said something to him while he was here!
I like your approach 25thDecan, very concise and straightforward.
Take a stand, you're wasting your time fantasizing about what ifs. You're already in pain pining over him anyway, why not find the real truth and get it over with?
Take a stand, you're wasting your time fantasizing about what ifs. You're already in pain pining over him anyway, why not find the real truth and get it over with?
Posted by 25thDecan
Tell a guy...any guy it's just fun and games and that will be what it is. Tell a guy about feelings..have him pour his heart to you..and then flirt with other dudes around you while making eye contact? Deleted...immediately. if it was me I would've approached you and asked you about the last time we were together...loudly. because you gave me eye contact and acted as if(perception is HUGE HERE) you're taunting me to make me jealous. I'm going to nip it in the bud and be rid of you. Sorry. If you want this to change, the ball is in your court.
We have not talked about feeling at all, either of us, and he has certainly not poured his heart out. He also walked off with another woman in front of me twice, once just 15 hours after we had spent the whole night together. So, me chatting and laughing with a couple of other guys (not even flirting, just having a good time) is not that bad compared to what he's done, I think!
After we had spent the whole night together the last time, I did slightly ignore him the following night. Not maliciously, I was just so scared of coming on too strongly because I have such strong feelings for him. I didn't want to scare him off and it was a self-protective mechanism as I I'm so scared of getting hurt. I know there's been a few other women in his life before he and I hooked up, so I was scared of rejection. So I pulled away. He on the other hand was following me around that night, waiting for me, standing by me and buying me drinks. I got drunk and flitted around chatting and hugging a lot of other people (including guys I knew at college), leaving him on his own. In the end he just walked away with someone else.
Posted by MedullaOblongata
I like your approach 25thDecan, very concise and straightforward.
Take a stand, you're wasting your time fantasizing about what ifs. You're already in pain pining over him anyway, why not find the real truth and get it over with?
This is what I'm trying to decide, whether I should tell him how I feel or not. On one hand I think it might be best to just get it out in the open, at least he knows how I fell and where he stands with me. On the other hand I'm thinking that perhaps it's just best to take it slow. To build a stronger bond/friendship and see where it leads. The problem with that is that I get jealous if I see him with anyone else, which he might sense.
I know Virgos can be very slow when it comes to matters of the heart, that they need to think and analyse about everything in detail. So, a part of me thinks that I should just not say anything and just wait and see.
Ohhhh, I just don't know what to do!
No matter what anyone says to you .... you have yourself believing that he loves you and there is no indication that common sense or practical reason exists in your brain.
So, suffer as you wish because that's exactly what you are going to do regardless ....
So, suffer as you wish because that's exactly what you are going to do regardless ....
My question is for all virgo men. why is it that when cancer women share our deepest secrets with yall in the mix of an argument you throw it back in our face knowing that it gonna hurt us. Why are virgo men so critical with there words towards women is it that there trying to intentionally hurt us in the worse possible way. How do virgo men really feel about a cancer woman. Sometime i feel that virgo men dont appreciate a good cancer woman who does any and everything for them and this is why we get crushed at the end. Why do virgo men feel that cancer women are sneaky and that we are cheaters, like do they really misunderstand cancer woman because we are sometimes shy or we hold back alot? i need answers.
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