Gemini for Virgo who’s gone from 100 to 0

Okay guys I’m usually a very strong woman. I’ve never chased a guy to a point of looking desperate and now that is the very thing that I’m doing. Being attracted to a Virgo is an addiction and I can’t srop, have nobody to speak to about it and don’t know what to do. Let me start from the beginning and please don’t judge.

I met a guy through through work. Not in the same office but the same company. He kept messaging me so much and showed so much interest. I was in a lon term relationship with a guy that hurt me and cheated on me. Together for 16yearsmso I’ve never been with anyone since then. Anyway this guy showed so much interest, said all the right things, very smooth etc.

I feel so hard for him. Didnt tell him that but O did tell him that I liked him. After spending an amazing day, I would want to text him and he would want his own space so wouldn’t reply. We went from msgng and calling everyday to not hearing from him.

It’s ripped my heart because (please don’t judge) but I slept with him within a month. I’ve never in my life done this. He wanted it and so did I. I feel stupid because I feel like I shouldn’t have given in. I didn’t think he’d do this to me and I’m so hurt.

I don’t know where we stand. I’ve sent him a msg on Saturday after we spoke for a short while telling him that I was proud of him for trying to quit smoking. While on the phone I asked if I’ll see him again and he said of course because he has my Tupperware.

Then I sent a msg on Saturday night flirting asking if is too early to drunk text. Still no reply.

On Sunday I asked him to call me if he was up for a chat and when I didn’t get a reply after a few hrs I said that the least he could do was be there as a friend as I need that right now. I asked what’s going on in his head right now And the prick didn’t reply.

Tonight I msgd him saying that I’ll see him tomorrow or Wednesday, whatever works best but if I don’t hear from him I’ll just see him tomorrow. And that it would be nice for him to call or msg. No reply so far.

As I’m typing this I realise that I’m sounding too full on but I don’t know what to do.

He’s said before in the early days that he liked all the msgs. Then even on Saturday night he said to me that he loved hanging out with me (after I said it to him first) and he ended it saying call me.

I am so fckn confused if I should keep chasing or leave him alone.

Like a loser I cried myself to sleep last night. I am usually not emotional but I haven’t cared about anyone like this in a long time and it’s only been a short time.

At the beginning he used to say how easy it was to talk to me. And even though we used to msg everyday, when I stopped one day, he asked if I was sick and then I left the reply until the next day and was cold. He then kept texting me because he said he doesn’t want to be alone and needs to change.

Now I thought I’d give him space and we rarely msg or speak. The last 2 weeks we have gone like 3days in a row without texting and then I just give in.

Please help me on what to do. It’s killing me.

Oh and last week I admitted that I really liked him and that I wish he felt the same. He said he wish he did too. Or I think he said something along those lines. Basically I want to know. Should i keep trying? Do I pursue this? Do I ask him? What do I do? Will it annoy him if I keep texting or just leave it? Can I text him and tell him that I miss him? Arghhhh

Gemini & Virgo are one of the worst matches I can think of.

Virgos need their space to recharge their mental & emotional batteries. They might go radio silent for hours, days or even weeks, and often it doesn't have anything to do with you or how much they like you. They just need their solitude.

The more you push it, the longer he stays away. I think you've done his head in.

Posted by Jessss
I realise that I’m sounding too full on

Lol, do you have fire in your chart and/or an Aqua moon?

Too much, just back off a little (well a little more) so you can see a bird's eye perspective on all this. You'll know what's going on then.

We all sit and wait for a response from the Virgo. Not until I found this place did I even understand it.

Hot and heaving early... then it slows down as the feelings set in for them. LEO male here with the Virgo lady.

To this day, I have no idea....hahaha

When they stop replying within 24 to 48 hours... then there is trouble.

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Posted by ufo
pls stop



he said he wished he felt the same way too, wait for him to come around he needs space and time to wrap his head around it, right now you're suffocating him with the constant pressure of a response perhaps that's why he isn't giving you any even as a friend

^^ This. Listen to her.



Stop texting him and leave it at that. What's done can never be undone. You gotta pull yourself together and learn some self control. It hurts, yes, but you have done your part. Just do your own thing and be happy.



Being a Gemini, I have learned a lot. I managed to detach myself better now. You have chased and did all you can but he's not responding. That's more than enough, love. Please STOP.

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I couldnt work out how to reply on this, hence the delay. Yes I know, I sent another message before I saw these replies BUT have stopped messaging. I honestly have never been like this and I think he is driving me crazy with these mind games. Each time I see him, I leave thinking, I am never seeing him again.

I have just found out that he hasnt been at work all week because his kid is apparently which I totally respect to put his kids first but one message since Saturday is not a big ask!

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Gemini & Virgo are one of the worst matches I can think of.



Virgos need their space to recharge their mental & emotional batteries. They might go radio silent for hours, days or even weeks, and often it doesn't have anything to do with you or how much they like you. They just need their solitude.



The more you push it, the longer he stays away. I think you've done his head in.

I have also read this but I think some people can make it work. I have given so much into this and even happy to give as much space as he needs, the only thing which is common courtesy to anyone is to at least communicate and let them know they need some time, not just ignore them completely. And the thing about this is that he was the one at me ALL the time before, like too much and reeled me into liking him.

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pls stop



he said he wished he felt the same way too, wait for him to come around he needs space and time to wrap his head around it, right now you're suffocating him with the constant pressure of a response perhaps that's why he isn't giving you any even as a friend

I have now left him alone and not messaging him at all. He can now come to me. The only awkward thing about this is that I have to visit his office tomorrow and will see him and then we have a function on Saturday as a company so will definitely have to see him. I dont even know how I should act towards him. I am thinking just being extra nice and professional. So hard when all I want to do is scream at him lol

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Okay guys I’m usually a very strong woman. I’ve never chased a guy to a point of looking desperate and now that is the very thing that I’m doing. Being attracted to a Virgo is an addiction and I can’t srop, have nobody to speak to about it and don’t know what to do. Let me start from the beginning and please don’t judge.

I met a guy through through work. Not in the same office but the same company. He kept messaging me so much and showed so much interest. I was in a lon term relationship with a guy that hurt me and cheated on me. Together for 16yearsmso I’ve never been with anyone since then. Anyway this guy showed so much interest, said all the right things, very smooth etc.

I feel so hard for him. Didnt tell him that but O did tell him that I liked him. After spending an amazing day, I would want to text him and he would want his own space so wouldn’t reply. We went from msgng and calling everyday to not hearing from him.

It’s ripped my heart because (please don’t judge) but I slept with him within a month. I’ve never in my life done this. He wanted it and so did I. I feel stupid because I feel like I shouldn’t have given in. I didn’t think he’d do this to me and I’m so hurt.

I don’t know where we stand. I’ve sent him a msg on Saturday after we spoke for a short while telling him that I was proud of him for trying to quit smoking. While on the phone I asked if I’ll see him again and he said of course because he has my Tupperware.

Then I sent a msg on Saturday night flirting asking if is too early to drunk text. Still no reply.

On Sunday I asked him to call me if he was up for a chat and when I didn’t get a reply after a few hrs I said that the least he could do was be there as a friend as I need that right now. I asked what’s going on in his head right now And the prick didn’t reply.

Tonight I msgd him saying that I’ll see him tomorrow or Wednesday, whatever works best but if I don’t hear from him I’ll just see him tomorrow. And that it would be nice for him to call or msg. No reply so far.

As I’m typing this I realise that I’m sounding too full on but I don’t know what to do.

He’s said before in the early days that he liked all the msgs. Then even on Saturday night he said to me that he loved hanging out with me (after I said it to him first) and he ended it saying call me.

I am so trtrkn confused if I should keep chasing or leave him alone.

Like a loser I cried myself to sleep last night. I am usually not emotional but I haven’t cared about anyone like this in a long time and it’s only been a short time.

At the beginning he used to say how easy it was to talk to me. And even though we used to msg everyday, when I stopped one day, he asked if I was sick and then I left the reply until the next day and was cold. He then kept texting me because he said he doesn’t want to be alone and needs to change.

Now I thought I’d give him space and we rarely msg or speak. The last 2 weeks we have gone like 3days in a row without texting and then I just give in.

Please help me on what to do. It’s killing me.

Oh and last week I admitted that I really liked him and that I wish he felt the same. He said he wish he did too. Or I think he said something along those lines. Basically I want to know. Should i keep trying? Do I pursue this? Do I ask him? What do I do? Will it annoy him if I keep texting or just leave it? Can I text him and tell him that I miss him? Arghhhh

Gemini,



When your asked a question, you should answer it, for ignoring for the hell of it will not get you no where. Especially when the virgo guy knows you hath no reason not to answer.



So how is this the virgo guys fault? Yea he does feel the same about you...you just don't see. Nor does any one else.



Keep trying because a persistent woman wins. Non persistent woman fail. Talk to him in person.



Break the pattern, Break the chain?

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I love this! That persistent woman never fails, but I feel like virgo's hate persistence.

I am always replying to his messages but on this occasion I replied the next day. He then must have clicked and told me that he is going to smash my inbox with messages because he may have felt that he was losing me, I dont know.

HE is the one that will pick and chose what he replies to and that's not right. Before he would always message me non stop. Its just frustrating. Honestly these mind games are tiring yet I am so addicted to him, why?

Posted by Toti
First of all stop judging yourself for sleeping with him within the month. Passion happens. Desire overwhelms. It happens and it is something you should own and not be ashamed of it.



Second, stop obsessing as to why he doesn't answer. This is probably your insecurity talking again after being hurt by someone you loved. Relax and take a deep breath and stop texting him.



Give it some time. Give him some time. After that, talk to him in person. Say to him how you feel and see how things will unfold. Don't overthink it. He is just a guy you have great time with and you should became to make it work. All the best!

You are lovely, thank you. I AM judging myself because I havent slept with many men and would most certainly never sleep with them so soon. I was in such a long term relationship that it was weird to sleep with someone new. I just wish I waited because I feel like he got sex and that's it now, there is nothing left to chase. WHY could I not have controlled myself more?

Funny enough I am not an insecure person but this guy has brought that out in me. Whenever he doesnt reply to me for a day, I start thinking about why, but again its common courtesy to reply back to someone when they message you.

I am seeing him tomorrow for work but I wont be bringing anything up. Will be polite and friendly even though it will be awkward but I have no other choice.

I wanted to make sure I looked amazing tomorrow but I am feeling bloated and horrible so that wont happen 😢

Also I would happily meet him to speak with him face to face IF he bothered replying. I think I have pushed him away for good this time with the back to back messages but oh well. Better to hurt now than kill me later I guess

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Posted by Jessss
I realise that I’m sounding too full on

Lol, do you have fire in your chart and/or an Aqua moon?



Too much, just back off a little (well a little more) so you can see a bird's eye perspective on all this. You'll know what's going on then.

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I dont even know if I have fire or an aqua moon? Well I definitely have backed off 😢

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We all sit and wait for a response from the Virgo. Not until I found this place did I even understand it.



Hot and heaving early... then it slows down as the feelings set in for them. LEO male here with the Virgo lady.



To this day, I have no idea....hahaha



When they stop replying within 24 to 48 hours... then there is trouble.

And even when they respond, you don't know what to expect and when their famous mood will hit again.

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OMG YES YES and YES!!!

And the worst part is that they reply so casually like nothing happened and you only spoke to them yesterday. And then they somehow reel you back in and make you go crazy for them.

I havent felt like this about anyone. I am not saying I am in love with him or anything but the way he drives me crazy, I think thats why I am constantly crazy about him.

The feelings just suck. One minute I am crazy about him and then I dont know where we stand, and then we argue but then I cant wait to see him again. Its horrible. I;ve not been like that with anyone before.. Ever.

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First of all stop judging yourself for sleeping with him within the month. Passion happens. Desire overwhelms. It happens and it is something you should own and not be ashamed of it.



Second, stop obsessing as to why he doesn't answer. This is probably your insecurity talking again after being hurt by someone you loved. Relax and take a deep breath and stop texting him.



Give it some time. Give him some time. After that, talk to him in person. Say to him how you feel and see how things will unfold. Don't overthink it. He is just a guy you have great time with and you should became to make it work. All the best!

You are lovely, thank you. I AM judging myself because I havent slept with many men and would most certainly never sleep with them so soon. I was in such a long term relationship that it was weird to sleep with someone new. I just wish I waited because I feel like he got sex and that's it now, there is nothing left to chase. WHY could I not have controlled myself more?

Funny enough I am not an insecure person but this guy has brought that out in me. Whenever he doesnt reply to me for a day, I start thinking about why, but again its common courtesy to reply back to someone when they message you.

I am seeing him tomorrow for work but I wont be bringing anything up. Will be polite and friendly even though it will be awkward but I have no other choice.

I wanted to make sure I looked amazing tomorrow but I am feeling bloated and horrible so that wont happen

Also I would happily meet him to speak with him face to face IF he bothered replying. I think I have pushed him away for good this time with the back to back messages but oh well. Better to hurt now than kill me later I guess click to expand

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Virgo men confuse me too

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pls stop



he said he wished he felt the same way too, wait for him to come around he needs space and time to wrap his head around it, right now you're suffocating him with the constant pressure of a response perhaps that's why he isn't giving you any even as a friend

I have now left him alone and not messaging him at all. He can now come to me. The only awkward thing about this is that I have to visit his office tomorrow and will see him and then we have a function on Saturday as a company so will definitely have to see him. I dont even know how I should act towards him. I am thinking just being extra nice and professional. So hard when all I want to do is scream at him lol click to expand

nah dont be nice, ignore him

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Really? See. Virgos are so hard to read. Wouldn’t it better to be nice to him? So he realised that he fckd up and I’m being the mature one

Well, I was always there for mine. I was steady and consistent until now. Last two days, she is looking for me and I have done nothing and not responded. She is wondering alright.

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pls stop



he said he wished he felt the same way too, wait for him to come around he needs space and time to wrap his head around it, right now you're suffocating him with the constant pressure of a response perhaps that's why he isn't giving you any even as a friend

I have now left him alone and not messaging him at all. He can now come to me. The only awkward thing about this is that I have to visit his office tomorrow and will see him and then we have a function on Saturday as a company so will definitely have to see him. I dont even know how I should act towards him. I am thinking just being extra nice and professional. So hard when all I want to do is scream at him lol click to expand

nah dont be nice, ignore him

Really? See. Virgos are so hard to read. Wouldn’t it better to be nice to him? So he realised that he trtrkd up and I’m being the mature one click to expand

no that won't work, he'll see right thru that now if you ignore him and act like there's nothing to acknowledge then it'll make him wonder what's going on with you

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I used to always be nice to him even when he’s ignored me and only been cold once and that turned him right off. As stupid as this sounds, I don’t want to lose him. I keep saying that’s it I’m not speaking to him again as this has really hurt me. Like cmon it’s been 5days and I’m not good enough to text back. Or even say I’m sorry my kids are sick I’ll speak to u in a few days. Screw him. But at he same time, I love having him in my life.

And as others have done, I’ve stupidly cooked for him a few times, hoping he’d realise how great it is to be with someone that genuinely cares about him and will treat him right, bought him drinks as I’ve come over to his place, bought him smokes, etc. just to make him happy yet all I’ve asked for in return is communication.

ufo you are 100% right 😢 I have never been this desperate idiot who has set themselves up to be that someone when you can be bothered seeing them. Not trying to toot my own horn but it has always been the other way around, the guy will always chase me, and that's a great old fashion thing that I love. He used to chase me until I showed him that I liked him. I would tell him that I didnt think he was ready for a relationship and he would say he thhought he was, as soon as I expressed that I liked him, he freaked out. There was no love spoken but just that I liked him and that's it. It all turned. Now, I'm lucky to see him once a week. I guess it's over, I just have to face reality 😢

4evercharm how long have you been with your girl for? Good on you, be strong! I have been strong and have him off my mind.. until I see him tomorrow and Saturday.

The worst part about it was that he knows I'm going away in a few days and wont see him for at least 3 or 4 weeks. If that was me, and I liked someone who was going away, I'd want to see him as much as I could. Or bloody hell even 1 or 2 times that week.

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4evercharm how long have you been with your girl for? Good on you, be strong! I have been strong and have him off my mind.. until I see him tomorrow and Saturday.

The worst part about it was that he knows I'm going away in a few days and wont see him for at least 3 or 4 weeks. If that was me, and I liked someone who was going away, I'd want to see him as much as I could. Or bloody hell even 1 or 2 times that week.

For me seven months.

TurquoiseArrow I don’t understand what you mean

Turquoisearrow I don’t get the below. Do u mean that he has multiple people that he is probably chatting to?

What would make you think you are just another person that he just wanted to interact [1] with?

[1] interact: only chatting, only talking, no visits.

LittleStar it’s the confusing things he does and says. He was so full on at the start and then backed off. When we see each other it’s amazing, it’s the in between that sucks. And maybe I’ve pished him away by telling him that I liked him which is so silly for any grown adult. I’m not 18 so don’t need to play these games about holding back feelings, waiting to call him etc.

Toti I went to his office today and he wasn’t in. I actually knew he wouldn’t be in on the way there and my heart sunk. He actually hasn’t been at work the whole week. The first days he told them that his kids were sick but then he changed it a personal issue on Friday. He’s obviously going through something at the moment and now I feel even worse for sending those few msgs. He probably hates me more.

What’s lovely is that he has a good relationship with his ex (as they have two kids). I know it breaks his heart that he isn’t living or raising his kids up full time but what’s frustrating is that his ex has cheated on him a few times, he said they’d never get back together because they don’t work yet they are in daily contact and feel like that contact is hurting him even more and won’t allow him to try and even move on a little bit.

I’ve made no contact since that Wednesday morning which feels like a very long time to me. I miss him so much and I’m genuinely heartbroken as I thought we could’ve given this a go.

He hates being lonely yet he is pushing me away and I’ve just given up on what to do. I want to be there for him so much yet he hasn’t made any contact with me so I’m just at a point that I need to completely let it go.

If I don’t see him tomorrow at this even then I won’t see him for another few weeks so fingers crossed that he’ll be there. Even if we don’t speak, I just want to see him.

''Oh and last week I admitted that I really liked him and that I wish he felt the same. He said he wish he did too'' uhhh...Am I reading this wrong or did he just say he just admit that he doesn't like you the same as you like him? That right there should be a clue that it's just not going to work out (unless im reading wrong of course)



Stop texting. Stop being needy. It's not cute to virgo. Believe me, this WAS me when he was pushing and pulling in the very beginning. It drove me crazy how someone can act interested but then dip out like it was nothing. I wasn't emotionally mature at the time enough to have the confidence to just say ''fuck it'' and do my own thing until he decided what he wanted. Let him come to you. Let him see that you are the independent women that you are. Dont give him the option to play games with your heart because you're going to be screwed in the end.If he doesnt want something more, talk about it and be upfront with everything during the talk. we are all too old to be playing little jr high games!

My mom is Gemini, dad a Virgo. Been married almost 30 years I believe. Everyday I have to pray for them because holy shit is that relationship bipolar.

And wow here is an update. I saw him at this event and as soon as I saw him, I politely smiled and said hello, he asked if I did my hair, I said that I didn’t, he then asked me about the drinks that were on offer, I politely told him and then said okay I better keep going around the room to speak to others. The entire night he kept staring at me and we kept talking. While I was on stage he made a comment about the more that he looks at me, the prettier I get. This sounds awkward reading it back but it’s a lovely compliment. Anyway see how he can text when he wants to?

After our event a few of us continued with drinks and him/I kept talking. We made a few comments about meeting up after but kinda left it at that.

After the night, I was going home and he was too but then, we messaged and he said for me to go over, I wanted to but thought I should think about my heart and not give in. Well I was weak. I gave in because I’m away for a few weeks and really wanted to see Hom. Long story short.We slept together a few times, he kept telling me that he missed me and kept saying that he loved me and in the end he was saying that he is going to kiss me so much, what’s he going to do etc. even when I was there he was saying that it was so nice for me to be there and some comment about liking me etc.

Now I’m confused and it seems we are back to great.. but long will that last? Counting down the hours or weeks that we get back to his mood swings..

UnicornSaq I really don’t know tbh. He keeps giving men mixed signals. When we are together it’s awesome and just sparks but it’s the in between that’s an issue. He is selfish in a way because he’s done nothing for me. I don’t mean money wise but even small things. As I said too, the other night he kept telling me he loved me and asked me to say it back (yes we were both drinking though) and he asked a few times so I said it. It’s the first tome that’s exhanged but I think was just feeling needy so maybe didn’t mean it. As much as t sounds like I’m suffocating, I’m actually not. I just become like that when I don’t hear from him.

I don’t know. My idea of a relationship or even seeing someone is to have regular contact with them. Not doing so is just too hard on me.

Also he kept saying he is going to miss me cause he won’t see me for ages. And kept hugging me. Do u think the alcohol made him say that stuff? I thought u say what I feel when u drink. I’m even more confused now

So guys here’s the update 😢

Things were back to great. Last weekend when he was drinking, he kept telling me that he loved me and wanted me to say it to him. He kept asking me to say to to him and said we’d just say it for the night. I was fine with that. He even said that every time I get a text from him, his heart skips and he gets excited.

I honestly don’t know what to think. Are all virgos a head f**k—

We were back to flirty for the week. Everything has been amazing and I’m away so won’t see him for a few weeks and knowing that I won’t see him makes me miss him more. I’d text once and if he replied and seemed to want to msg or ask a question, I’d keep texting. In other words I’ve cut back on msgng.

Two nights ago he msgd me asking to please call him after 40mins then texted saying he’d call. After about an hour I called but he didn’t answer. I was sitting outside in the cold waiting for him to call for over an hr and a half. And he didn’t. His msg seemed like something was wrong so I msgd asking if everything was ok and to text me as I’d check my ph thru the night. Got nothing. In the morning I asked if everything was ok. Got nothing. Then at night I msgd asking if he could speak but again nothing.

So after that I clicked. I msgd him saying;

“I have no idea why u aren't speaking to me again and if I've done something. U wanted to chat last night and now u are back to ignoring me. Unless that msg to call u was for someone else.. Can u please just tell me if somethings up and I can leave u alone if that's what u want. I'm too old to play these games especially when u know how I feel. I miss u. I want to speak with u.”

I don’t know what to do because we are 100% so compatible and get along so amazing when we see each other. We never want to leave each other when we are together. As soon as t guys about a week of not seeing each other, his moods start and we stop talking until the next time I see him again and then he wants to spend tome with me again, it’s a continuous cycle.

I’ve decided to leave it and not text him anymore. I’m so hurt. I care about him so much and honestly have compromised so much yet I always work around this selfish person when it suits him.

I’ve heard virgos are amazing people once they fall in love but I feel like this will never happen with him because of his moods. Any advice or any words would be appreciated 😭