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I think I'm gonna end up cussing him out and I'm trying to avoid that
LOL not saying that I want that to happen, but sorry this was kind of funny. And it's actually a really good question. Call them out on anything, then you get the "But I'm right - You're wrong" foaming at the mouth BS. Sign ruled by communication my ass 🤣
I think that if you did it back to him, tbh he couldn't handle that.
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I'm thinking that too 😢 But I don't criticize people and wouldn't even think of doing this. This is why it's kind of hard to accept on my end. I accept people for who they are, If I like you, then I like you. Flaws and all.
I'm gonna have to figure this out soon.- Like by the next time he criticizes me 😆
No time for that.
The women are great I love their humour and their discernment but the males are mysognist megalomaniacs who resort to intrapsychic attacks.
Seen it in the young and old.
Every one I’ve met talks women down. Minisation is their ‘go to’
My spirit is pretty hard to break because I have a good sense of my self and high self esteem, as well as a hearty ego.
So I will let him go if he talks down to me or disrespects me. That will not be tolerated at all.
What do you think would happen— Lol.
That's what I'm looking forward to... 😄
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Yeah, this doesn't sound good at all if he's starting out this way. My virgo-ness comes out when I start cooking and cleaning for you, not criticizing. Tell him straight up he's being a douche next time he does it, maybe he doesn't realize what it sounds like? If that doesn't work dump him...
I think he is aware, I think he enjoys the behavior. I'm so chill and laid back, it just seems like he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of me. He does cook for me btw. He's a great cook. He's actually not even a clean freak, he has maids that clean for him.
But you know what they say about playing with fire,
No time for that.
The women are great I love their humour and their discernment but the males are mysognist megalomaniacs who resort to intrapsychic attacks.
Seen it in the young and old.
Every one I’ve met talks women down. Minisation is their ‘go to’
My spirit is pretty hard to break because I have a good sense of my self and high self esteem, as well as a hearty ego.
So I will let him go if he talks down to me or disrespects me. That will not be tolerated at all.
He’s already goading you into insecurities though.
I’d walk before the mask is off but I know it’s not easy when everything else works
Humour, intellect, aesthetics which they have plenty of
Good luck
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Gir! I don't have any insecurities lol You either deal with me or you don't, cause it's just that easy! We aren't having any kids together or planning marriage, so it will never be too late to walk away! 🙂
I think I'm gonna end up cussing him out and I'm trying to avoid that
LOL not saying that I want that to happen, but sorry this was kind of funny. And it's actually a really good question. Call them out on anything, then you get the "But I'm right - You're wrong" foaming at the mouth BS. Sign ruled by communication my ass 🤣
I think that if you did it back to him, tbh he couldn't handle that.
I'm thinking that too 😢 But I don't criticize people and wouldn't even think of doing this. This is why it's kind of hard to accept on my end. I accept people for who they are, If I like you, then I like you. Flaws and all.
I'm gonna have to figure this out soon.- Like the next time he criticizes me 😆
You seem like a person who has good boundaries, so I know you won't let it go too far. Try not to explode though. I know how that is... I have cancer mars opposite my moon so I am a slow burn but downright vicious when I am pushed too far. I am curious to know how he will react if/when you choose to call him out on this, so please update the thread with the result!
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I will, Although we have Cancer moons, which make us give excuses for our bad behaviors and pretend like it's for your own good lol I will let you know what he says when I am pushed too far and give him a piece of my mind. He will probably just ignore me for a while lol
I usually just wait it out if someone is mad, I give all the space in the world and will just end up giving up on the person and moving on.
Yeah the "work on this too" just sounds like he's trolling you, as you said.
Everything is so new that I'm trying to see where he's coming from on certain issues. We've known each other for a very long time, just not intimately, so everything is pretty new. He was a friend of a family member that isn't related to me.
So we just know each other in passing.
I've pretty much shot down those types of digs. I'll end up just blunting telling him to stop fuccing with me then.
That type of thing always throws guys off for some reason and makes them nervous lol It's actually pretty fun for me to do 😆
There's a 50/50 chance it will happen and I'll be good either way lol It's less of a headache to deal with!
Yeah the "work on this too" just sounds like he's trolling you, as you said.
Everything is so new that I'm trying to see where he's coming from on certain issues. We've known each other for a very long time, just not intimately, so everything is pretty new. He was a friend of a family member that isn't related to me.
So we just know each other in passing.
I've pretty much shot down those types of digs. I'll end up just blunting telling him to stop fuccing with me then.
That type of thing always throws guys off for some reason and makes them nervous lol It's actually pretty fun for me to do 😆
There's a 50/50 chance it will happen and I'll be good either way lol It's less of a headache to deal with!
you see, didn't I tell you?
You're living the "friend of the family" dream! It's the ideal romance.
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Huh? What do you mean? I didn't know him at all before just grew up with him on social media lol
Yeah the "work on this too" just sounds like he's trolling you, as you said.
Everything is so new that I'm trying to see where he's coming from on certain issues. We've known each other for a very long time, just not intimately, so everything is pretty new. He was a friend of a family member that isn't related to me.
So we just know each other in passing.
I've pretty much shot down those types of digs. I'll end up just blunting telling him to stop fuccing with me then.
That type of thing always throws guys off for some reason and makes them nervous lol It's actually pretty fun for me to do 😆
There's a 50/50 chance it will happen and I'll be good either way lol It's less of a headache to deal with!
you see, didn't I tell you?
You're living the "friend of the family" dream! It's the ideal romance.
Huh? What do you mean? I didn't know him at all before just grew up with him on social media lol
Remember we talked about long term friends turning to lovers, and I spoke about a friend of the family.
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No lol I must of conveniently forgot lol It doesn't look like it will be one of those things that lasts long, if it continues to go like this!! 😆
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes. I get along with him extremely well but we butt heads a lot too lol.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
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Haha...I should have but he responded pretty well to me telling him to fuck off 😂
He must really like you!
We usually criticize when we like/love/ care about someone...we don't do it to be mean or annoying. If he not criticizing...then it's time to worry because basically he's given up on the situation.
I would either ignore him and do what you want or just talk to him about it. He may not even be aware that he's doing it since its so natural for us to do so lol.
I don’t even know how to approach the subject. I’m gonna end up blowing up on him. 😩😬
I don’t understand why he has to talk to me about improving myself. I’m fine with how I am! I am quiet and do try to ignore him but my passive aggressive side comes out and I start being petty.
I sent a text to him and said I had a great time with him and that he’s a cool person and he’s starting to be one of my favorite things in my life.
You know what he sent me? A meme that said “Friend of the year” so I sent another text telling him “Good thing the year is almost up!” Smh. The the next morning I got a “Good Morning, baby” text. 😏
Lol you will end up cursing 🤬 his ass one way or the other. One thing sags hate most is negativity and also being told what to do.
EXACTLY! 😆
lol virgos like things their way or the highway. That’s an automatic NO with sags lol
This is why it may not work lol I'm pretty stubborn.
Be gentle with him when you cuss him out lol
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Hahahaha I usually am. I am very logical and know-it-all-y, just like a Virgo, so he has met his match. lol Especially when I am talking about myself! I am my own best cheerleader! 😛
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
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Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
Haha...I should have but he responded pretty well to me telling him to fuck off 😂
mine is a tru fr33k & keeps the hair that comes out in the brush lmao. theres a lil pocket in his backpack stuffed w/ my hair
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What's his Venus and Mars? Cause that's like some Scorpio shit right there lol. He's making a voodoo doll in case shit goes sideways 😂
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes. I get along with him extremely well but we butt heads a lot too lol.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
I just commented on that! My issue is I give compliments outright, not backhanded. I don't lie either. If I say you're hair looks nice, then it does.
I won't add anything extra to make a person wonder. This is actually what I'm having a little bit of an issue with too.
He thinks there is something lurking just underneath a compliment that I've given him. He doesn't take things at face value at all. I am very literal, so if I say you fucced me really good last night, then I fuccing mean it! 😆 I don't need him analyzing and comparing some technique trying to figure out why one night he got a compliment and the other night he didn't. I just would like to get fucced again! THAT IS ALL 😆
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
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This is actually pretty cute 🙂
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes. I get along with him extremely well but we butt heads a lot too lol.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
I just commented on that! My issue is I give compliments outright, not backhanded. I don't lie either. If I say you're hair looks nice, then it does.
I won't add anything extra to make a person wonder. This is actually what I'm having a little bit of an issue with too.
He thinks there is something lurking just underneath a compliment that I've given him. He doesn't take things at face value at all. I am very literal, so if I say you fucced me really good last night, then I fuccing mean it! 😆 I don't need him analyzing and comparing some technique trying to figure out why one night he got a compliment and the other night he didn't. I just would like to get fucced again! THAT IS ALL 😆
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😂😂
Yeah we don't take compliments well at all. If someone tells me I'm pretty ...I aways come back with something negative to say...idk why but I've been consciously working on that and now I just say thank you. Take it as it is.
But on the other hand...we don't dish out compliments left and right...when we give them it's because we legit mean them. Some people want to be fawned all over and we just can't do it as it seems fake...we like to be genuine.
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
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I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
hay 🙂 thanks for responding!
ya i told him the way i show liking someone, is by giving them my time & effort. if i start being inconsistent & breaking plans, etc im losing interest.
when i tell him forthrightly if i like him, it for whatever reason, puts pressure on him & he gets quiet. so i usually say things like “its really good to see you, so glad you came over”. im always affectionate & making sure he is comfy.
we had a convo... late sept (about a week into seeing each other intimately) where i said i liked him a lot & he got weird &said shit like “i feel bad bc your are sweet on me, lets just have no expectations”. i think from that point, something clicked that i just shouldnt directly say my like for him bc it stresses him out (like it puts self imposed pressure on him). so, i’ll do it in a small gift, buying his fave booze or snack & always always proving physical attention (ie hand holding, back rubbing, cheek stroking, etc). so, it should be bery clear very clear that i enjoy him a lot.
i mean we hang out 4 times a week!!! isnt that a lot?!?
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Sounds like he is afraid of commitment a little. He was probably hurt in the past (who hasn't been) and he's being cautious. If he's spending that much time with you though...I'd say he's pretty keen on you. Maybe in a past relationship...the other person never told him what was going on and just up and left. He might figure asking you to criticize him...helps him feel more aware of how he is coming off. I hope that makes sense?!
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
This is actually pretty cute 🙂
last time he said he wanted to wash it for me lol
i must be a dirty ass bitch who needs alotta grooming
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Hahahaha Maybe he can wash and caress both heads of hair! 😆
we also dont call what we do dating so - i let a lot of shit slide bc im not sure we’re bith on the same page investment wise - which i should prob ask him
also!! sorry OP about my long ass response LOL i thiught @lostinmymind11 responded in the thread i made yesterday lmao
not tryna derail xx
Don't worry about it, I'm in the same boat. I'm not really dating the Virgo either. I'm fine without the criticism and the title 😆 We are both trying to figure these Virgo men out!
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
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We probably do...all that damn nervous energy. It has to go somewhere or create something to get it to calm down.
😂😂 Smh...guys. They are a weird bunch!
Yes they seem to be best with each other when it comes to handling criticism. How you can approach is simply take his suggestions or not, just don't get all worked out about them. That's the only thing that can create an issue. They want to fix and improve anyone, so no reason to think he doesn't like the way you are, he does, he just wants an improved you lol I let mine do some improvements lol and some I didn't accept cause I didn't like them so I said that. They like to help and be acknowledged for helping, that's pretty much it
Thanks. So I will pretty much be telling him curtly, "Thanks, but no thanks, I'm good! " 😆
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
yes!!!! they get so worked up in their own heads & start projecting!!!
my virgo will go deep in a self imposed spiral & start projecting it onto me as if I AM the one putting pressure on him. i stop him & say na booboo, yr not putting this on me if you cant communicate whats going on in yr sick lil head
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LOL I'm gonna have to start using that line 😆
He sounds more controlling than criticizing.
It's one thing to be a yapping chihuahua which Virgos are and earmuffs solve that...it's another to be so insecure that you must jump at the opportunity to control someone.
If it's the latter, I'd start backing off this guy. Off-putting is you being nice and putting it mildly.
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
We probably do...all that damn nervous energy. It has to go somewhere or create something to get it to calm down.
😂😂 Smh...guys. They are a weird bunch!
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Whats funny is that I can feel him looking at me from behind and it's a huge turn on, I just wait there with my back turned, ready for him to reach out and touch me and he just stares at me and makes loud sounds so I can turn around, then still does nothing until I make a move.
I hope this isn't a continuous thing. I actually like being "taken" Schooch close and let me have it! 😆
Yes they seem to be best with each other when it comes to handling criticism. How you can approach is simply take his suggestions or not, just don't get all worked out about them. That's the only thing that can create an issue. They want to fix and improve anyone, so no reason to think he doesn't like the way you are, he does, he just wants an improved you lol I let mine do some improvements lol and some I didn't accept cause I didn't like them so I said that. They like to help and be acknowledged for helping, that's pretty much it
Thanks. So I will pretty much be telling him curtly, "Thanks, but no thanks, I'm good! " 😆
As long as you don't make a fuss abput him doing that you're good. And don't criticize him back, they don't take it well lol they see thier criticism simply in different way. You can do what you want and you should ofc. Just take note that they get super satisfied if they see you accept and take their suggestions into count😁
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Good! I will play nice If I get rewarded 😛
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
hay 🙂 thanks for responding!
ya i told him the way i show liking someone, is by giving them my time & effort. if i start being inconsistent & breaking plans, etc im losing interest.
when i tell him forthrightly if i like him, it for whatever reason, puts pressure on him & he gets quiet. so i usually say things like “its really good to see you, so glad you came over”. im always affectionate & making sure he is comfy.
we had a convo... late sept (about a week into seeing each other intimately) where i said i liked him a lot & he got weird &said shit like “i feel bad bc your are sweet on me, lets just have no expectations”. i think from that point, something clicked that i just shouldnt directly say my like for him bc it stresses him out (like it puts self imposed pressure on him). so, i’ll do it in a small gift, buying his fave booze or snack & always always proving physical attention (ie hand holding, back rubbing, cheek stroking, etc). so, it should be bery clear very clear that i enjoy him a lot.
i mean we hang out 4 times a week!!! isnt that a lot?!?
Sounds like he is afraid of commitment a little. He was probably hurt in the past (who hasn't been) and he's being cautious. If he's spending that much time with you though...I'd say he's pretty keen on you. Maybe in a past relationship...the other person never told him what was going on and just up and left. He might figure asking you to criticize him...helps him feel more aware of how he is coming off. I hope that makes sense?!
total sense. we dont talk much about past relationships bc that stuff doesnt really matter to me - just him & i in the present is what i care about.
he has DEF mentioned that love makes you do stupid stupid shit & i think there are times he has put himself out there for someone & he got shot tf down. so, i am happy to help show him it isnt gonna be like that w/ me. i am ALWAYS happy to talk & try to work things out. i also have committment issues af so we’re inna same boat together
he has venus leo in 1st poor baby... i think he wears his heart on his sleeve but wears the sleeve rolled up so the other person cant see it too clearly lol
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Yeah I could see that. Now he seems to be taking a different approach but eventually he ain't gonna be able to hide that Leo Venus and especially from a Scorpio lol. My Venus is in Leo too...so I know a little bit lol.
You seem to have a pretty good read on him though...I wouldn't worry too much about it.
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
We probably do...all that damn nervous energy. It has to go somewhere or create something to get it to calm down.
😂😂 Smh...guys. They are a weird bunch!
Whats funny is that I can feel him looking at me from behind and it's a huge turn on, I just wait there with my back turned, ready for him to reach out and touch me and he just stares at me and makes loud sounds so I can turn around, then still does nothing until I make a move.
I hope this isn't a continuous thing. I actually like being "taken" Schooch close and let me have it! 😆
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I'm with you on that. Being timid is a no no with me...I like someone who is dominant myself but I get in my moods where Im a little more aggressive. It's all give and take honestly.
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
hay 🙂 thanks for responding!
ya i told him the way i show liking someone, is by giving them my time & effort. if i start being inconsistent & breaking plans, etc im losing interest.
when i tell him forthrightly if i like him, it for whatever reason, puts pressure on him & he gets quiet. so i usually say things like “its really good to see you, so glad you came over”. im always affectionate & making sure he is comfy.
we had a convo... late sept (about a week into seeing each other intimately) where i said i liked him a lot & he got weird &said shit like “i feel bad bc your are sweet on me, lets just have no expectations”. i think from that point, something clicked that i just shouldnt directly say my like for him bc it stresses him out (like it puts self imposed pressure on him). so, i’ll do it in a small gift, buying his fave booze or snack & always always proving physical attention (ie hand holding, back rubbing, cheek stroking, etc). so, it should be bery clear very clear that i enjoy him a lot.
i mean we hang out 4 times a week!!! isnt that a lot?!?
Sounds like he is afraid of commitment a little. He was probably hurt in the past (who hasn't been) and he's being cautious. If he's spending that much time with you though...I'd say he's pretty keen on you. Maybe in a past relationship...the other person never told him what was going on and just up and left. He might figure asking you to criticize him...helps him feel more aware of how he is coming off. I hope that makes sense?!
total sense. we dont talk much about past relationships bc that stuff doesnt really matter to me - just him & i in the present is what i care about.
he has DEF mentioned that love makes you do stupid stupid shit & i think there are times he has put himself out there for someone & he got shot tf down. so, i am happy to help show him it isnt gonna be like that w/ me. i am ALWAYS happy to talk & try to work things out. i also have committment issues af so we’re inna same boat together
he has venus leo in 1st poor baby... i think he wears his heart on his sleeve but wears the sleeve rolled up so the other person cant see it too clearly lol
Yeah I could see that. Now he seems to be taking a different approach but eventually he ain't gonna be able to hide that Leo Venus and especially from a Scorpio lol. My Venus is in Leo too...so I know a little bit lol.
You seem to have a pretty good read on him though...I wouldn't worry too much about it.
thanks for easing my obsessive mind lol!!
he just texted & now we’re going to dinner 🙂
ciao ladies! xoxxoo
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Glad I could help! Have fun!! 😁
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
We probably do...all that damn nervous energy. It has to go somewhere or create something to get it to calm down.
😂😂 Smh...guys. They are a weird bunch!
Whats funny is that I can feel him looking at me from behind and it's a huge turn on, I just wait there with my back turned, ready for him to reach out and touch me and he just stares at me and makes loud sounds so I can turn around, then still does nothing until I make a move.
I hope this isn't a continuous thing. I actually like being "taken" Schooch close and let me have it! 😆
I'm with you on that. Being timid is a no no with me...I like someone who is dominant myself but I get in my moods where Im a little more aggressive. It's all give and take honestly.
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Thanks, I appreciate your insights! I will keep struggling along until I figure it out. He says he's really good at reading people but he's not so good with me lol I think he's the type that wouldn't agree with me if I read him, so I try to let him lead as much as I can. But I am pretty dominant, so he will just have to get used to it and see if he wants to put up with it or not. I can't change that part of my personality.
this is so weird... im having thee opposite issue with my virgo - asking ME to criticize him...
so strange
We're an enigma lol
i just made a thread about it yesterday- asking ye virgos wtf it meant!!!! i thiught he was supposed to be criticizing me!!
been waiting for it actually lol
Does he know how you feel about him? If not, he could be asking as a way to gauge your thoughts on him. You scorps like to hide your shit and he probably can't read you. If yes, then maybe he senses some tension and thinks he's done something wrong? It's hard to say...cause I've never asked someone to criticize me...I do that enough to myself lol
I think you guys make up your own tension, when there is none. The Virgo was huffing and puffing at like 6 am in the morning and I knew what he wanted. lol I asked him if he was ok and if he was restless. He said he was fine and continued to pout. When I couldn't go back to sleep and turn to him again and asked, he said part of the reason was this, and lead my hand to his package. 😆 I've told him before that I'm ready to go whenever, yet he still doesn't try on his own. Mutables lol
We probably do...all that damn nervous energy. It has to go somewhere or create something to get it to calm down.
😂😂 Smh...guys. They are a weird bunch!
Whats funny is that I can feel him looking at me from behind and it's a huge turn on, I just wait there with my back turned, ready for him to reach out and touch me and he just stares at me and makes loud sounds so I can turn around, then still does nothing until I make a move.
I hope this isn't a continuous thing. I actually like being "taken" Schooch close and let me have it! 😆
I'm with you on that. Being timid is a no no with me...I like someone who is dominant myself but I get in my moods where Im a little more aggressive. It's all give and take honestly.
Thanks, I appreciate your insights! I will keep struggling along until I figure it out. He says he's really good at reading people but he's not so good with me lol I think he's the type that wouldn't agree with me if I read him, so I try to let him lead as much as I can. But I am pretty dominant, so he will just have to get used to it and see if he wants to put up with it or not. I can't change that part of my personality.
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You're welcome!
I hear you on that. I'm pretty much all fire...so it's hard to get my dominant side to calm the fuck down which makes me glad I have a more feminine Sun...I can use that and work my feminine charm if need be lol.
Just ignore his criticisms.
I can't if I don't agree with them, especially if it has to do with ME. He can criticize how clouds look and I would listen and not care, but about me.
I am a loud mouth when I don't agree and like proving someone wrong. I have let him slide so far, but I'm not sure I can do it anymore. You Aquas never criticize, I'm surprised you say this.
It's easy for you to ignore them huh?
Just ignore his criticisms.
I can't if I don't agree with them, especially if it has to do with ME. He can criticize how clouds look and I would listen and not care, but about me.
I am a loud mouth when I don't agree and like proving someone wrong. I have let him slide so far, but I'm not sure I can do it anymore. You Aquas never criticize, I'm surprised you say this.
It's easy for you to ignore them huh?
Understandable, but it's probably better to look at his behaviour as a means to control the situation and/or learn more about you. Meaning that whenever you react in any way or form you give him informations and encourage his behaviour. By not reacting however you change the rules and he would adapt. This or the way he adapts will tell you something about him in turn. Including the reason why he acted that way.
Aquas only criticize openly if you ask them but if asked it can be very harsh and brutal.
It depends on the context and set up of the criticism for me but Virgo criticism can be downright laughable and should just be ignored.
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Rude! 😜
Just ignore his criticisms.
I can't if I don't agree with them, especially if it has to do with ME. He can criticize how clouds look and I would listen and not care, but about me.
I am a loud mouth when I don't agree and like proving someone wrong. I have let him slide so far, but I'm not sure I can do it anymore. You Aquas never criticize, I'm surprised you say this.
It's easy for you to ignore them huh?
Understandable, but it's probably better to look at his behaviour as a means to control the situation and/or learn more about you. Meaning that whenever you react in any way or form you give him informations and encourage his behaviour. By not reacting however you change the rules and he would adapt. This or the way he adapts will tell you something about him in turn. Including the reason why he acted that way.
Aquas only criticize openly if you ask them but if asked it can be very harsh and brutal.
It depends on the context and set up of the criticism for me but Virgo criticism can be downright laughable and should just be ignored.
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Thank you lol I actually cracked up at that last line! 😆 I will see how much I can look past without the dirty looks! 😄
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
Haha...I should have but he responded pretty well to me telling him to fuck off 😂
mine is a tru fr33k & keeps the hair that comes out in the brush lmao. theres a lil pocket in his backpack stuffed w/ my hair
What's his Venus and Mars? Cause that's like some Scorpio shit right there lol. He's making a voodoo doll in case shit goes sideways 😂
lmao i didnt see this comment!!
lolololollllllll
he is leo venus 1st / aries mars rx 9th
i think its cute & endearing he keeps my hair lol
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That has to be the Aries Mars!! The Aries I was with a long tome ago was into “ownership” behavior lol
They will never change, it’s the way they are, they born to criticize others, and hate it when someone criticize them.
They will never change, it’s the way they are, they born to criticize others, and hate it when someone criticize them.
I just will have to see how much I can put up with lol.
They will never change, it’s the way they are, they born to criticize others, and hate it when someone criticize them.
I just will have to see how much I can put up with lol.
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Good luck with that 😅💀
They will never change, it’s the way they are, they born to criticize others, and hate it when someone criticize them.
I just will have to see how much I can put up with lol.
Good luck with that 😅💀
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😂🤣😩 Thanks lol
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
Haha...I should have but he responded pretty well to me telling him to fuck off 😂
mine is a tru fr33k & keeps the hair that comes out in the brush lmao. theres a lil pocket in his backpack stuffed w/ my hair
What's his Venus and Mars? Cause that's like some Scorpio shit right there lol. He's making a voodoo doll in case shit goes sideways 😂
lmao i didnt see this comment!!
lolololollllllll
he is leo venus 1st / aries mars rx 9th
i think its cute & endearing he keeps my hair lol
That has to be the Aries Mars!! The Aries I was with a long tome ago was into “ownership” behavior lol
do you think so— i wondered where it came from. i have never ever dated someone w/ a chart like his! never virgos or fire venus/mars so this is completely uncharted territory!
i have a lotta aqua placements so the weird shit he does is really hot to me...
like he licked my hairy armpit (i dont shave) the other night & i was so ABOUT ITTTTTTTT
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Yes. I like weird stuff like that too. lol. My mars is in the 11th Aqua house.
I think it is the Aries sign. The Aries I was with used to lick the sweat all over my body while we were having sex too, his favorite area was along the back of my neck where my “scent” was. The ownership thing I mentioned was peeing on me while we were on the shower. 😬🤭🤫 I let him since it all went down the drain anyways and I could use soap to wash it after lol.
Ugh. My Scorpio placements are showing! 🙈😝
When I was dating the sag with the Virgo moon. One date he mentioned how he liked my hair. I was like ok...thanks (it was a little straighter than normal) lol. Then he asked if I brushed it today 😂😂. I laughed it off and told him to fuck off...my hair does what it wants. Even though...I think he was kidding mostly...I know he was criticizing me too. The younger me would have been hurt and analyzed it for days but I just don't give a fuck anymore. What you see if what you get lol. The Sag atty I work with, who has a Gem moon...is the same way with shit sometimes.
The know it all attitude some saggies can have, might be taken as condescending and critical as well.
you should have made him brush yr hair for you.
thats what i do w/ virgo sun sag moon. i whip out a brush & he brushes away contently lol
Haha...I should have but he responded pretty well to me telling him to fuck off 😂
mine is a tru fr33k & keeps the hair that comes out in the brush lmao. theres a lil pocket in his backpack stuffed w/ my hair
What's his Venus and Mars? Cause that's like some Scorpio shit right there lol. He's making a voodoo doll in case shit goes sideways 😂
lmao i didnt see this comment!!
lolololollllllll
he is leo venus 1st / aries mars rx 9th
i think its cute & endearing he keeps my hair lol
That has to be the Aries Mars!! The Aries I was with a long tome ago was into “ownership” behavior lol
do you think so— i wondered where it came from. i have never ever dated someone w/ a chart like his! never virgos or fire venus/mars so this is completely uncharted territory!
i have a lotta aqua placements so the weird shit he does is really hot to me...
like he licked my hairy armpit (i dont shave) the other night & i was so ABOUT ITTTTTTTT
Yes. I like weird stuff like that too. lol. My mars is in the 11th Aqua house.
I think it is the Aries sign. The Aries I was with used to lick the sweat all over my body while we were having sex too, his favorite area was along the back of my neck where my “scent” was. The ownership thing I mentioned was peeing on me while we were on the shower. 😬🤭🤫 I let him since it all went down the drain anyways and I could use soap to wash it after lol.
Ugh. My Scorpio placements are showing! 🙈😝
dont hide yr scorp placements from me 😈😈😈
my mars / rising is aqua & my venus conjunct jup in 11th.
i always likened sag to aqua bc sag’s are fuuuuucking weirdos too!!!
i have a sag stellium in 10th/mc so my love for the true ass freaks is v v v real
he is virgo sun but ALL fire. sag moon/leo venus & rising / aries mars... he plays coy though... i sometimes have to ask for kisses & he gets really shy when he gives them to me. im waiting for the passionate fire to devour me mmkaay
one thing i find is that he isnt too big on PDA (... yet?) we just came back from dinner & fiiiiinally on the car ride home, he put his hand on my leg 🙄 like nah baby, rubbb meee dooowwnnnnn
i want that 1st house leo to show me PDA DAMNIT 😤😤
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Hahahaha. I can’t help you there cause I’m all about PDA in private lol. That’s when I devour. 😝 I love the freedom of doing whatever I want in private and him taking it. Nothing is off limits. It’s best when I know it only between the two of us and no one is watching 😅😂
I actually don’t even like being touched really unless it will lead somewhere. I like being teased only when the end result is within my grasp. 😄
He has a go getter Venus and Mars. You can probably just let him know what you like. I have a Leo Mars so I aim to please. His placements in Leo and Aries are pretty forward too. I think his sun is holding him back. Go ahead and tell him so he can release on you! 😈
How dare he 😬😄
Hello! 🙂
I'm not trying to rag on you guys but I'm really just wondering how you expect someone to act when a Virgo criticizes. I'm currently dating a Virgo male and we get along great, except for when he has some snide remark about things that I do, or wear, really it could be anything. It's really off putting.
He says Sag women are his kryptonite but they ghost him a lot. I can see why 😢 We don't really like negativity and a lot of what he says is negative. I actually want to be blunt right back and tell him to stop doing this so much but I don't know how to approach the situation.
Do you Virgos date each other? Is it just a big criticizing fest? What exactly are you expecting the other person to say?
I'm not trying to rag on you guys but I would just like to be able to handle the situation better. He let's me in on a lot that could be improved, without me asking. It has to do with my personality, the way I handle situations, really just a form of not accepting my personality and trying to build a different person. I don't see the point to it. If I accept him, I feel he should accept me.
I could be wearing thin socks and he would tell me the next time I buy socks, that they need to be thicker and a different color. It's so annoying!!!!!
I think I'm gonna end up cussing him out and I'm trying to avoid that. I don't want to hurt his feelings. HELP PLEASE!!!
Just be done with it and tell him to stop. It's a good way to really know if he likes you also. If he does he will stop doing it. Stand up for yourself. — At least he's in your head.... +++
Y’all probably don’t match. The foundation of the relationship isn’t even set in stone if he doesn’t already accept your personality.
You could talk to him about it and see what happens. If you cuss him out, he may respect you. Or the relationship may end idk you’ll just have to see
Yeah, this doesn't sound good at all if he's starting out this way. My virgo-ness comes out when I start cooking and cleaning for you, not criticizing. Tell him straight up he's being a douche next time he does it, maybe he doesn't realize what it sounds like? If that doesn't work dump him...
I think he is aware, I think he enjoys the behavior. I'm so chill and laid back, it just seems like he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of me. He does cook for me btw. He's a great cook. He's actually not even a clean freak, he has maids that clean for him.
But you know what they say about playing with fire,
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Since he likes "teaching", next time wear a full-on school girl outfit, plaid skirt, braids, the whole thing...
I agree with those saying he’s controlling.. You guys are still getting to know each other and he’s already telling you what you should do, and not in a suggestive way either.
Is he even trying to get to know you or is he molding you into whatever he wants you to be?
Hello! 🙂
I'm not trying to rag on you guys but I'm really just wondering how you expect someone to act when a Virgo criticizes. I'm currently dating a Virgo male and we get along great, except for when he has some snide remark about things that I do, or wear, really it could be anything. It's really off putting.
He says Sag women are his kryptonite but they ghost him a lot. I can see why 😢 We don't really like negativity and a lot of what he says is negative. I actually want to be blunt right back and tell him to stop doing this so much but I don't know how to approach the situation.
Do you Virgos date each other? Is it just a big criticizing fest? What exactly are you expecting the other person to say?
I'm not trying to rag on you guys but I would just like to be able to handle the situation better. He let's me in on a lot that could be improved, without me asking. It has to do with my personality, the way I handle situations, really just a form of not accepting my personality and trying to build a different person. I don't see the point to it. If I accept him, I feel he should accept me.
I could be wearing thin socks and he would tell me the next time I buy socks, that they need to be thicker and a different color. It's so annoying!!!!!
I think I'm gonna end up cussing him out and I'm trying to avoid that. I don't want to hurt his feelings. HELP PLEASE!!!
Just be done with it and tell him to stop. It's a good way to really know if he likes you also. If he does he will stop doing it. Stand up for yourself. — At least he's in your head.... +++
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lol I guess, but in a negative sense isn't a good thing. I avoid negativity like the plague. I don't like feeling out of my natural element, which is happy. I will have a talk with him the next time he does it.
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It's not that we ghost people, we just don' handle lots of drama well. We tell you the things we ddon't like and if you continue doing them, then you must not want us sticking around. We put up with A LOT and then when we have enough, we are OUT!
I hang on to people who hang on to me. I am a big believer in treating people how I want to be treated, so if I am being treated badly, I wont want to be bothered by the person. I hardly ever ghost someone with out them knowing the reason though. I do try.