How long does it take.. (Page 2)

Im just going to assume you know when a man likes you and Im going to work off that assumption.
I've recently had a situation with a coworker similar to yours, shes even younger than me too. She slips her number on my desk, a few days go by and I havent called or sent a txt and she confronts me in front of mutual friends. Asking me why I havent used her number, I give some bs reply and she of course knew it was bs. But I used the number that same day. I was interested but I had hangups about the situation, which seem like they could be echoed in your story. I thought she had ulterior motives and wanted to use me to make her recent ex jealous and I was reluctant to deal with a coworker especially one younger than me. I'd recommend just bluntly approaching him about it, none of the passive shit is going to help, speaking up will give him some reassurance about your intentions and possibly turn him on.

Posted by RomancingA


You can't "make" someone like you or want you....no one is going to give you tips on how to trap a Virgo. They are far more evolved than your average penis lol...they have insane killer instincts that marvel any American Psycho and they don't appreciate hidden agendas.


Start off my relaxing a little....you gave him your number, let's see what he does with it. If the guy doesn't call...then he's obviously got a full life and doesn't see the reason in calling you. Don't get hurt over it.....just move on, not every man is mesmerized at the chance to get laid.

Just let it play out....it's the start of contact that counts, if you can be chill and not get up his ass about every piece of info you share or contact or how often....he might relax around you enough to be able to just be himself and chat whenever, and more often.

Trust takes time......it's human nature.

I agree with you 100% . I think I'm more worked up about this post then I am him. I have an extremely full life.. work, kids, friends.. etc.

I'm really not sweating it. Even though it may appear that way.

Like stated in another post I'm still in the phase of getting my life back together. The only reason I gave him my number is because I didnt want too much time to pass and then have regrets later. To be honest I'd prefer it if he gave me a few months.

understand wanting to be vague but this is the virgo forum..we like details lol
So he also doesnt know you are separated? Sounds to me like he found out that you're married and probably thought by the way you were acting towards him ..you were single.
So was leaving your husband all ready in the works or did you decide because of your feelings for this guy?

uote>Posted by HungVirgo
Im just going to assume you know when a man likes you and Im going to work off that assumption.
I've recently had a situation with a coworker similar to yours, shes even younger than me too. She slips her number on my desk, a few days go by and I havent called or sent a txt and she confronts me in front of mutual friends. Asking me why I havent used her number, I give some bs reply and she of course knew it was bs. But I used the number that same day. I was interested but I had hangups about the situation, which seem like they could be echoed in your story. I thought she had ulterior motives and wanted to use me to make her recent ex jealous and I was reluctant to deal with a coworker especially one younger than me. I'd recommend just bluntly approaching him about it, none of the passive shit is going to help, speaking up will give him some reassurance about your intentions and possibly turn him on.

I do feel like he wants me say something about it. But I am not. I feel like I've done enough and if he doesnt contact me I can go on with no regret.

Posted by LostinmyMind11
understand wanting to be vague but this is the virgo forum..we like details lol
So he also doesnt know you are separated? Sounds to me like he found out that you're married and probably thought by the way you were acting towards him ..you were single.
So was leaving your husband all ready in the works or did you decide because of your feelings for this guy?

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My relationship with my husband was fast. Engaged in 4 months after meeting and before I new it I was pregnant. Soon after it became a real life version of the movie sleeping with the enemy. I walked away from everything with just a suitcase. I did it for no one but me.

Yikes ...well good thing you got out of that!

I honestly would say move on from this guy...if he hasn't contacted you by now...he probably wont.

Posted by PinkCancer10

Posted by LostinmyMind11

So was leaving your husband all ready in the works or did you decide because of your feelings for this guy?

My relationship with my husband was fast. Engaged in 4 months after meeting and before I new it I was pregnant. Soon after it became a real life version of the movie sleeping with the enemy. I walked away from everything with just a suitcase. I did it for no one but me.

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You ignored answering the question.

Posted by PinkCancer10

To be honest I'd prefer it if he gave me a few months.

There you go acting like you are all that again. You make the assumption that he's coming, but, you'd prefer that he wait a few months before getting his prize.

Posted by CluelessCancer

You're a cancer of course he wants you .....

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The inflated ego appears to be a Cancer quality, they are full of themselves .. and obviously too ignorant to even realize it.

We see here another Cancer acting the same way as you ... and she is completely clueless to the fact that the Virgo doesn't want her .. at all.


I would suggest that you get over yourself, first ... then perhaps, your vision will clear up and you'll be able to see reality for what it is.