Stpatrickspisces
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Posted by P-AngelPosted by Stpatrickspisces
If the advice would've been given in a more constructive criticism way then maybe I would've been able to see the POV she was expressing more effectively. Even when I tried to have a truce and thought our squabble was water under the bridge she attacked me again.
Translation = I saw what P-Angel was saying and took a pic of just my ass, and posted it. The two days later, I made new pics of my old pose because I liked that better and P-Angle mentioned what she observed and it hurt my feelings that she was looking at me, eventhough I am actually gussying myself up to take amazing pics of myself for everyone to see.
It's just horrible that she mentioned that I took my ass pic off ... **** cries ****click to expand
See...even now you are showing your true colors as you remember each time (except the first time I guess) that you made comments to me and I put up the "ass" pic just for you as I was not "crying" but just irritated at how mean you can be. So basically I was saying "kiss my ass" with that picture since you felt the need to insult my pics out of absolutely nowhere. I changed it when I felt I didn't need to make that statement anymore and I don't get all gussied up to take pics for DXP b/c I actually have a RL as well and in that life I get dressed up and pics are taken. One little comment I make in this thread and not even in a horrible way and you go on these rants and bring up all of this stuff again and make assumptions that I am so "hurt" by it but really I am more irritated at how you treat people on here that you don't even really know. You have never taken the time to know me but instead you just like to insult and demean me. Of course, that's your prerogative.
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You are superficial, StPat .. have fun with that
Its not really about my past. I already forgave them and don't hold them in contempt. Its about my anxieties. The now. Not then.
I already know all of what you said.
Social Anxiety is not a "shit" that one can grow out of. This shit stays with a person for life and can only be "managed".
I already know all of what you said.
Social Anxiety is not a "shit" that one can grow out of. This shit stays with a person for life and can only be "managed".
Okay then, I take back saying you have amazing pics, because you obviously are so focused on the negative that me complimenting how you look slipped your superficial awareness .. and you apparantly want me to hate you so fucking bad that you are crying about it even still.
So, take back what I said .. instead, I say ...
.. you take horrible fucking pics ... you're so ugly, goddam
Is that better? Are you satisfied now and will stop crying?
Because I certainly wouldn't want you to realize that by you saying, "I actually have a RL as well and in that life I get dressed up and pics are taken" ... is the same thing as me saying you get gussyied up for pics because then that would negate your desire in believing that I'm against you some way, since you apparantly remind yourself of it every chance you get.
So, take back what I said .. instead, I say ...
.. you take horrible fucking pics ... you're so ugly, goddam
Is that better? Are you satisfied now and will stop crying?
Because I certainly wouldn't want you to realize that by you saying, "I actually have a RL as well and in that life I get dressed up and pics are taken" ... is the same thing as me saying you get gussyied up for pics because then that would negate your desire in believing that I'm against you some way, since you apparantly remind yourself of it every chance you get.
Posted by P-Angel
You are superficial, StPat .. have fun with that
Again P-Angel...you don't know me. Your loss.
Posted by Stpatrickspisces
See...even now you are showing your true colors
I always show my true colors numbnuts .. what you think I don't know when I'm being sarcastic or an asshole? You think your witty and clever that you are pointing me out to me?
You don't even know that a person telling you you take amazing pics is like them.
Of course my true colors are showing .... and the only reason that would astound a person is because they hide theirs and can't imagine why another would actually be real in public.
Jesus Fucking Christ ....... people are so fucked up !!!!!!!
Whatever, StPat .. I gave up on you a long time ago .... because you can put on make up, you can get cosmetic surgery .. but, you just can't fix stupid, no matter how hard you try.
Posted by 69virgoPosted by Amandus
Its not really about my past. I already forgave them and don't hold them in contempt. Its about my anxieties. The now. Not then.
I already know all of what you said.
Social Anxiety is not a "shit" that one can grow out of. This shit stays with a person for life and can only be "managed".
You think growing up without a father is easy to get over? If all i had to worry about was not being able to socialize....that's nothing dude...I forgot how young you are...you can grow out of it...just try hard..click to expand
Honestly... I have to agree with Jason that things like that can't be just kicked to the curb. Like he said, you manage it. People have these things late into their years; it's possibly to completely stop it, but you have to be on it to change it like every second of your life. It is very hard to change something about yourself that cripples you to some extent; you can relapse, something can trigger it that you wouldn't expect, and people may even make it harder for you. It's difficult... not impossible... but difficult. And age also doesn't have everything to do with it, either.
Posted by P-Angel
Okay then, I take back saying you have amazing pics, because you obviously are so focused on the negative that me complimenting how you look slipped your superficial awareness .. and you apparantly want me to hate you so fucking bad that you are crying about it even still.
So, take back what I said .. instead, I say ...
.. you take horrible fucking pics ... you're so ugly, goddam
Is that better? Are you satisfied now and will stop crying?
Because I certainly wouldn't want you to realize that by you saying, "I actually have a RL as well and in that life I get dressed up and pics are taken" ... is the same thing as me saying you get gussyied up for pics because then that would negate your desire in believing that I'm against you some way, since you apparantly remind yourself of it every chance you get.
Well P-Angel, to be honest I was just thinking that you were just being facetious with that comment since none of the previous comments you have made about my pics have been nice. I really don't care what you think of my pics but again...made me mad b/c you felt the need to say something negative about me out of the blue on that thread.
The thing about my friends and my party was that I just wish they could get over it when it comes to mutual friend's get together b/c they have so many. Of course it was about me at that time since it was my birthday party. I am not going to apologize for wanting my party to be happy and that meant having two very close friends of mine to both be there. And again, not always about the specific advice/things you say but about the "deliverance" method. If you want to keep feuding with me so be it. It doesn't affect me or who I am so keep disliking me if it floats your boat. 🙂
Posted by Amandus
Its not really about my past. I already forgave them and don't hold them in contempt. Its about my anxieties. The now. Not then.
I already know all of what you said.
Social Anxiety is not a "shit" that one can grow out of. This shit stays with a person for life and can only be "managed".
You know what? Something I told my husband to try, but, I guess he doesn't have the confidence to do ... I really think it might help ...
Take on a little acting part in a play .. be the villian .... face being an asshole publicly just to try it on and see how it feels, and this way, it's you doing it, it's the character, so there can't be any anxieties about how you present yourself.
* not
it's not you doing it, it's the character
it's not you doing it, it's the character
A person doesn't grow out being damaged, Mr. MyEmotionsGetStuck
Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboomPosted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
I remember the only time I saw a pic of p-angel like 3 years ago.
Lets say Ive never been able to sleep peacefully ever since.
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Posted by P-Angel
Take on a little acting part in a play .. be the villian .... face being an asshole publicly just to try it on and see how it feels, and this way, it's you doing it, it's the character, so there can't be any anxieties about how you present yourself.
Being a villian in a play sounds like a very good idea.
Haha. But much like your husband I lack in the confidence department. Theres always the video games that I have where I get to kill people and feel good about it.
I did find though that when I'm using my heart for anything that isn't dark I forget that I have any anxiety. Like when I'm writing romances I feel wonderful.
Thats what I should be doing right now actually. I still didn't finish that story I came here to do research for. Made the good mistake of signing myself up.
Thank you...everyone who gave me support and tried to help. You guys are great.
I've performed in front of the whole school thrice before. A Christmas dance concert and two Japanese cultural dances. I did gain confidence after each of them. But there was never a want or need to do them. For me it was either participate and do it perfectly or disappoint good friends or my parents.
Then whatever confidence gained from those experiences was quickly emptied when the anxiety attack happened (Chemistry demonstration).
Then whatever confidence gained from those experiences was quickly emptied when the anxiety attack happened (Chemistry demonstration).
Posted by Amandus
Thank you...everyone who gave me support and tried to help. You guys are great.
Of course. Again, you are a genuinely nice person and if there is anything I can do or answer from my situation then please don't hesitate to ever ask me.
I agree with P-Angel and 25thdecan about the performing thing. I played a very evil person in a production in 1996 and I was still having some real issues with my social anxiety then and it really did help. I was able to get into character and actually be mean to people!!! That was so not me AT ALL at that time. It was a real release and it also gave me confidence in my acting ability as well.
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Posted by gemtaur
Eastern culture, modesty, shyness and introversion are valued.
Western culture, being confident = loud, opinionated, extraverted, etc...
You're not a people pleaser. If anyone interprets your qualities as a lack of self-confidence, that's their own cultural-centric ignorance. Stop expecting yourself to be something you're not and recognize the value in the qualities that you possess.
Western culture interprets extroversion as a virtue when it's not, it's just a different way of being. Introvert or extrovert, there's no right or wrong, no one better way of being than another. What matters is being yourself, no matter the surroundings.
The need to please the parents will subside as you get older and leave the nest. Don't focus on it. Just keep on keeping and being you.
You are a gentle, humble, wise soul. Anyone should be PROUD and LUCKY to be you.
Thank you.
You're right on with the need to please the parents subsiding. I'm at the stage where I'm finally a bit rebellious and testing my parents from time to time. Part of me--the darker side that is still feeling guilty for not being what they want me to be. I needed to let that go and you guys helped me.
I'm so happy right now.
Posted by AmandusPosted by P-Angel
Take on a little acting part in a play .. be the villian .... face being an asshole publicly just to try it on and see how it feels, and this way, it's you doing it, it's the character, so there can't be any anxieties about how you present yourself.
Being a villian in a play sounds like a very good idea.
Haha. But much like your husband I lack in the confidence department. Theres always the video games that I have where I get to kill people and feel good about it.
I did find though that when I'm using my heart for anything that isn't dark I forget that I have any anxiety. Like when I'm writing romances I feel wonderful.
Thats what I should be doing right now actually. I still didn't finish that story I came here to do research for. Made the good mistake of signing myself up.
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I had crippling social anxiety when I was younger, not so crippling anymore but, definitely hasn't gone completely away. The only way I know how to deal with it and the only thing that has helped (I've never done counseling or taken meds for it) is to just put myself out there. Work jobs where I have to interact with people. Again, this is what I've found works for me, better than drinking, which I had done in the past. Anyway, that's just my two cents
Posted by Prince_Pisces
Social anxiety has never made sense to me LOL! You're scared to talk to people?
Not the act of talking to people. The negativity that can be associated with social situations is what can get to me.
The ironic part is that there is usually no negativity to begin with and its all self-induced.
Thats what makes it irrational and perhaps even funny to people.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Amandus
Its not really about my past. I already forgave them and don't hold them in contempt. Its about my anxieties. The now. Not then.
I already know all of what you said.
Social Anxiety is not a "shit" that one can grow out of. This shit stays with a person for life and can only be "managed".
You know what? Something I told my husband to try, but, I guess he doesn't have the confidence to do ... I really think it might help ...
Take on a little acting part in a play .. be the villian .... face being an asshole publicly just to try it on and see how it feels, and this way, it's you doing it, it's the character, so there can't be any anxieties about how you present yourself.click to expand
Still flipping through this thread. This is very good advice.
Posted by AmandusPosted by Prince_Pisces
Social anxiety has never made sense to me LOL! You're scared to talk to people?
Not the act of talking to people. The negativity that can be associated with social situations is what can get to me.
The ironic part is that there is usually no negativity to begin with and its all self-induced.
Thats what makes it irrational and perhaps even funny to people.
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I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes, my husband will start to feel .. it's hard to explain, it's like a wave of panic that isn't the same feeling as adrenalin rushing, it's like experiencing extremely severe embarassment .. and it can come from things that most other people wouldn't even notice is even present. Like, what if someone said something that he thought was funny, while everyone else was stone face .. eventhough he didn't let out a chuckle or even wore a smile, so nobody would even know he would be the only one finding it humorous .. so, what is this anxiety for then?
It's there because .... what if .... someone noticed?
yeah, it can be that bad.
PP, it's not the other people that he, and my husband would get distressed about ..... it's not the other people ... it's their own sense of how they look, how they react, how they might be regarded/viewed.
I hate typos .. I wish they would make computers that corrected it for you, so you wouldn't even have to edit yourself.
Posted by P-Angel
I hate typos .. I wish they would make computers that corrected it for you, so you wouldn't even have to edit yourself.
google chrome or firefox will do that for you
Posted by Layna
Chinese parents, Jason?
Which generation of your family was it that decided to moved to the States?
Filipino.
My dad was born in 1952. Mom was born in 1962.
Posted by CLCNY30
Reading Is Fundamental,
Damn, you stole my line. I say this shit all of the time. Bitch.
Posted by cancergem
I had crippling social anxiety when I was younger, not so crippling anymore but, definitely hasn't gone completely away. The only way I know how to deal with it and the only thing that has helped (I've never done counseling or taken meds for it) is to just put myself out there. Work jobs where I have to interact with people. Again, this is what I've found works for me, better than drinking, which I had done in the past. Anyway, that's just my two centsclick to expand
Yeah, I also had bouts of bad social anxiety, especially at high school. It was more so at the peak of my depression, and I couldn't even look people in the eye. Like, when walking through the halls, I'd walk really fast and look down because I was convinced that if I looked at someone, they would judge me immediately. I would get really tense around a lot of people, mainly in the cafeteria during lunch. Like cancergem, I never had counseling even though my mother tried to make me go; I'm not exactly sure how I slowly got over it. I think when I joined my high school's literary club and I became editor, I began to open up more because I was in my element reading and writing poetry, and everyday we would have to read our work to our peers (it was a small classroom, so it made it easier). We had to work on being able to speak in front of others, and the class was big on not judging others; eventually, when it came time to have literary festivals, we would have to speak in front of a large student body. Needless to say, I was petrified because not only was I going to have to speak in front of peers I always tried to avoid, but with a microphone and reading some of my most personal work while making eye contact. But with a lot of practice, it became easier. I still have some trouble looking people in the eye, but I can do it more now, and I've gotten so much better at getting in front of people.
So, while I don't know exactly what you enjoy Jason, although I have a feeling you might enjoy poetry, that is a good way to sort of deal with social anxiety. If you can find an intimate group of people who you know will not judge you, perhaps you can practice being around them, being up front and in the spotlight with them. I know someone mentioned this too, but getting involved with an acting group is a good example.
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It was waaayyy before that P-Angel as it was when I first joined last November or so. I never cried a river and I am not doing so now. The thing about even the picture comment is that it was in a thread not having anything to do with pictures and you just found it necessary to be mean about mine. So what if I had the same pose in a thousand pictures as I am not and never claimed to be a model. It was the way you brought it up out of nowhere like you were just looking for a jab at me. I didn't cry at all though just realized you really aren't a nice person to a lot of people on here is all. I do see that you are a nice person to some though so I will give you that and when you are it's really nice.