Ok, Virgo Men.....Please respond. (Page 3)

Thank you all for your answers so far. That is exactly what I find so confusing - having met many of his colleagues and friends, they all told me that they cant recognise him, as all he seems to talk about is me. They also said they never met any of his girlfriends and were amazed at how serious he was about me. I guess he must have been very effecient forewarning some 35 or so people!

I of course now having thought back on the situation feel that perhaps his feelings were hurt (poor thing, whilst I was sitting there like a gooseberry waiting around!) because as far as he was concerned, he asked for commitment, he was giving me enough attention, and here is me complaining!

Anyway, I send him a nice email yesterday morning not mentioning the incident at all, but just saying that I have been thinking about him and that I hope he is ok and feeling better. I also mentioned (which is absolutely true, not a game) that I changed my sim card and stupidly lost his number, so cant call him.

Had no response so far. And yes, you are all right - firstly he would answer my texts (although he was usually texting first) within seconds. Later it becamse hours, and in some instances not at all.

The question is - do these types tend to re-emerge in your life eventually? And does anyone have ANY idea what could have turned him off to the point we are at now?

Again, feeling deeply sympathetic for you all girls out there who are going through the same - hurts like hell. We spoke at length about how he wants to cherish me and protect me (a left a violent husband some time ago). I had nightmares a few nights in a row and he held me tight saying "I am here, I am here" over and over again. He booked tickets for a concert of our favourite band (yes, we like the same music, films, food, wine etc and both lefthanded!) which magically takes place exactly 6 months after the night we met! For Gods Sake! If this is "not into me" then I dont know what would be... As i said, if this was playing me around, what an elaborate way to do it. We were even talking about the fact how spooky everything was about us two - he said a few times that he hopes the bubble doesnt burst. When he first told me about his feelings, I was cautious at first, and I did say that I hope he doesnt burn out as quickly as he ignited.

Thank you all for your answers. Any guidance? x

no he's playing hard to get. trust me.

jeez what a man-what a man-what a mighty man.

doesn't it turn you off? when i was young i used to pursue a guy but it didn't do me any good, my doubts didn't fade away in the long run.

everything's your choice, it's either hang in there forever and wait for answers to all your confusions by pursuing this kind of man or move on with your life without him.

i guard my thoughts and heart in making decisions. if this man doesn't treat me right what the point of loving the person? if he can't keep his word what's the point of having a committed relationship with this kind of person?

in my own opinion. all men are the same, except for my husband. he does things for me without me telling him to do so. he takes responsibility and initiative. that's what loving and caring should be. it's said and done. it's a full time job if your man wants or needs a part time job then he better look for a platonic relationship.

a man can't treat a woman special and treat another woman just the same or treat a woman like a spare tire. these are works of a player. best foot forward when it comes to impressing a woman. they flirt around too much.

he bursted his own bubble. that's ok, girl.

Dearest all,

Thank you so much for all your answers and support! I hope you all have a very Happy Christmas and lovetrouble -free New Year.

I have still not heard anything. so yes, I guess he is playing hard to get. All I know I am certainly not going to sit cross-stitching by the window gazing longignly at the road waiting for him to decide what he is going to do. I have done all I could and I guess whilst there is no question that he will materialise at some point, there is a question what I will decide to do about him...

Have fantastic holidays,

Love,
Hamster