Our lovers don't like us to criticize but they use the info after the break up

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by virgoking on Monday, August 26, 2019 and has 24 replies.

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Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

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Posted by Erinelda

I think because I got a Virgo moon, I point out behaviour I don't like as it happens. If they bail, they bail. My own mental health is more important to me. Ain't nothing flying out in fights if it is coming out of your mouth in more productive ways :p

I hear you but alot of people do not want to hear about them self especially women.

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Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

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There is this thing called choices. There is a way to offer help, but criticism isn’t going to be taken very well. Cuz you are trying to invalidate their choice. But offer of help definitely is taken differently. In my experience with Virgos it’s all in the way presented. Virgo suns, Virgo moons, and the latest Virgo Venus.

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Posted by dilettante

lol why criticize someones hair?

like tf is the point who cares

I bought a gorgeous dining set. Cheap af...my mother still saying every time possible how much she hates this furniture...point? Bitching. Nothing else.

So are hair.

Watch your own ass and it would be great...ever seen anyone taking THAT into consideration?

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

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I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

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Posted by virgoking

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Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

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If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

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Posted by saggurl88

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

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I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

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It always baffles me when men (or women) chose to pursue someone only to try and change them once they are in a relationship. @saggurl88 is right, you catch more flies with honey.

The new bf of the op’s ex was prolly all, babe I bet this hair style would look dope af on you. Made her smile and she went out and got it done. It really is that simple.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

It always baffles me when men (or women) chose to pursue someone only to try and change them once they are in a relationship. @saggurl88 is right, you catch more flies with honey.

The new bf of the op’s ex was prolly all, babe I bet this hair style would look dope af on you. Made her smile and she went out and got it done. It really is that simple.

try that doesn't work women only care about what other women think about their hair. If her friend says that she will do it.

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Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

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I respect honesty over everything else but I'm not a typical female either. That's the problem, you just need to get to know someone and once you're comfortable with them, you can be yourself. I need to see the real "you" in order to make a proper assessment of whether it will work or not. I am the same at opening up slowly, but if a person opens up and I don't like what I see, then it just means we aren't compatible. Its not a big deal. People are more accepting of negative traits when they love someone and can accept all of their flaws. You just have to find that person.

This is how I know I am in love. If I'm in love, nothing they say will affect me, it just gets addressed and taken care of. So I'd rather him treat me as the individual that I am, instead of grouping me into a category that hasn't worked for him in the past.

Edited to add that I never or try not to criticize anyone, other then saying what the truth is. I don't say mean things just cause a person is mean to me.

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

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I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

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Posted by virgoking

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

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What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

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Nothing crazy my girl is a sag as well so she always asking for my opinion and than when I say it she takes it left. So I just don't say anything. I once said she should change her major because she doesn't like kids and I told her that it will kill her in the long run. She got mad but she knew I was right and she changed it.

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Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

Nothing crazy my girl is a sag as well so she always asking for my opinion and than when I say it she takes it left. So I just don't say anything. I once said she should change her major because she doesn't like kids and I told her that it will kill her in the long run. She got mad but she knew I was right and she changed it.

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lol That's funny, but you see, she loves you, so it wasn't a big deal and she knew you were right. Wow changing a whole career, that's kind of huge.

What's her major now and is it a better fit? - I realize this is off topic, but I'm a curious creature 😄

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

Nothing crazy my girl is a sag as well so she always asking for my opinion and than when I say it she takes it left. So I just don't say anything. I once said she should change her major because she doesn't like kids and I told her that it will kill her in the long run. She got mad but she knew I was right and she changed it.

lol That's funny, but you see, she loves you, so it wasn't a big deal and she knew you were right. Wow changing a whole career, that's kind of huge.

What's her major now and is it a better fit? - I realize this is off topic, but I'm a curious creature 😄

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She is studying in the medical field for x ray tech

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It always baffles me when men (or women) chose to pursue someone only to try and change them once they are in a relationship. @saggurl88 is right, you catch more flies with honey.

The new bf of the op’s ex was prolly all, babe I bet this hair style would look dope af on you. Made her smile and she went out and got it done. It really is that simple.

try that doesn't work women only care about what other women think about their hair. If her friend says that she will do it.

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True. We don't dress for men, we dress for each other.

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Posted by virgoking

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It always baffles me when men (or women) chose to pursue someone only to try and change them once they are in a relationship. @saggurl88 is right, you catch more flies with honey.

The new bf of the op’s ex was prolly all, babe I bet this hair style would look dope af on you. Made her smile and she went out and got it done. It really is that simple.

try that doesn't work women only care about what other women think about their hair. If her friend says that she will do it.

True. We don't dress for men, we dress for each other.

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whyyyyy your man like you natural with the red dress wear the red dress don't fight him

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Posted by virgoking

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by virgoking

Posted by LadyNeptune

It always baffles me when men (or women) chose to pursue someone only to try and change them once they are in a relationship. @saggurl88 is right, you catch more flies with honey.

The new bf of the op’s ex was prolly all, babe I bet this hair style would look dope af on you. Made her smile and she went out and got it done. It really is that simple.

try that doesn't work women only care about what other women think about their hair. If her friend says that she will do it.

True. We don't dress for men, we dress for each other.

whyyyyy your man like you natural with the red dress wear the red dress don't fight him

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My man likes me for me. He didn't get with me in order to change everything about me.

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Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

Nothing crazy my girl is a sag as well so she always asking for my opinion and than when I say it she takes it left. So I just don't say anything. I once said she should change her major because she doesn't like kids and I told her that it will kill her in the long run. She got mad but she knew I was right and she changed it.

lol That's funny, but you see, she loves you, so it wasn't a big deal and she knew you were right. Wow changing a whole career, that's kind of huge.

What's her major now and is it a better fit? - I realize this is off topic, but I'm a curious creature 😄

She is studying in the medical field for x ray tech

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I almost went into that field. It's a great choice!

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoking

Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

Nothing crazy my girl is a sag as well so she always asking for my opinion and than when I say it she takes it left. So I just don't say anything. I once said she should change her major because she doesn't like kids and I told her that it will kill her in the long run. She got mad but she knew I was right and she changed it.

lol That's funny, but you see, she loves you, so it wasn't a big deal and she knew you were right. Wow changing a whole career, that's kind of huge.

What's her major now and is it a better fit? - I realize this is off topic, but I'm a curious creature 😄

She is studying in the medical field for x ray tech

I almost went into that field. It's a great choice!

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it is she just has to stay focus she is a good worker cap mars. she almost has the exact same chart as nicki minaj she is just younger lol.

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Am I the only one that notice this... I don't like to criticize I try to hide this but when people make me mad it just flys out lol. But I always notice what ever I criticize they change with some one else lol like their hair

Why are you waiting until you’re upset to say something? Why not openly discuss it in a casual manner so it’s taken well?

Of course it will be taken wrong with the way you are presenting it. There isn’t a need to hide a criticism if it’s offered as a suggestion.

I say some things but I hate repeating myself and I don't like when people try to act like their stuff don't stick.

If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is! 😆

I see your point but there is a difference in having an actual discussion about the matter at hand vs saying something casually or in passing. I'm not sure how you present things outside of an argument.

I've asked the current Virgo what he sees that I can improve on and he keeps ignoring my question. I know he sees something lol I want to know what it is, so I can tell him No and to shove it! 😛

Even if I do hear the criticism and may not like it and even have a smart ass response to it, I am a people pleaser in the end and will work on it if I love you and it really bothers you. I'm very flexible and adaptable. But the delivery will sway my decision. There's a reason why the saying "You catch more flies with honey" is around.

Someone has to want to do something for you,- demanding it, isn't the way to go.

I wouldn't answer ether he probably knows like I do women don't like to be criticize any answer you give will be bad. I tell you the truth you will get mad and than criticize me for something or if I lie and say your perfect you get mad. The only way to win the game is not to play.

correction: NO ONE likes to be criticized. not just women.

this isnt a male vs female issue lmao wtf

if yr a dick going around saying you hate people’s hair style s, no one is gonna like you.

I criticize my male friends all the time but women no matter how you say it... its bad.

What type of stuff have you said in the past that is taken wrong? I'm not gonna attack you for it, but I am just curious. You mention hair style s, which isn't a big deal at all to me, but I change my hair color and style a lot.

Does it always have to do with grooming/outside appearances?

Nothing crazy my girl is a sag as well so she always asking for my opinion and than when I say it she takes it left. So I just don't say anything. I once said she should change her major because she doesn't like kids and I told her that it will kill her in the long run. She got mad but she knew I was right and she changed it.

lol That's funny, but you see, she loves you, so it wasn't a big deal and she knew you were right. Wow changing a whole career, that's kind of huge.

What's her major now and is it a better fit? - I realize this is off topic, but I'm a curious creature 😄

She is studying in the medical field for x ray tech

I almost went into that field. It's a great choice!

it is she just has to stay focus she is a good worker cap mars. she almost has the exact same chart as nicki minaj she is just younger lol.

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Oh ok, so she has a Virgo Moon? If I remember correctly? Nice.