@Jardsi
10 YearsAries
Just making a fool of myself...
Aries
Posted by busyeyes88
Bye!!! 😄 😄 and you are glad for "that" acknowledgement?!! Lol lol lolYou should have done a "Scorpio" or a "Taurus" and completely blanked him as if he did not exist.....
Hahaha, well at least it was something.
You mean do a Sagittarius?? haha
Posted by busyeyes88
Bye!!! 😄 😄 and you are glad for "that" acknowledgement?!! Lol lol lolYou should have done a "Scorpio" or a "Taurus" and completely blanked him as if he did not exist.....
maybe it was the drunk and the Aries that just couldn't hold back ...
Posted by Jardsi
Oh god it was awful!
I saw my Sagittarius ex at a mini fest, we haven't been in contact for two years. I was pretty confident that I could just say hi, everything would be fine and we could be friends. BUT I left it a little bit too long before I said something and then it got harder and weirder... and then I got drunk. I met him at the toilets, turned to him to make conversation (didn't realise it was him so it was a bit of a shock). I was totally wrong when I thought I could pull it off, I just literally talked at him, he didn't say anything the whole time, he just laughed and nodded his head, he looked a bit uncomfortable to be honest... it was so horrible!! Then I just kinda staggered off.
After that though, he literally avoided me the whole weekend. We were hanging out in the same circle, but he wouldn't even make eye contact with me. We'd all be chatting and laughing, then I'd start talking and he'd just disconnect and look away. If we happened to walk passed each other, I'd look at him and try to share a smile but he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude! But yeah, for sure I felt like a fool the whole weekend. I only wanted to be friends, I guess that's not gonna happen anytime soon. Ugh.
Saying that though, he did say bye to me when he was leaving.
sorry for your pain, don't worry too much - it's over and you did the best you could - under the circumstances ...
aww! don't feel foolish 😢
He's probably feeling like a dumb ass for acting like a hermit
screw him, the selfish beast
Posted by Explicit
Oh my God what an asshole. He probably thought you were trying to get back with him.
I thought he might think that.
I think he was kinda seeing a girl that was there as well, maybe he felt awkward. The girl wouldn't leave me alone though, kept chatting to me, nice enough girl, bit intense though.
Hmmmmm, he's Saggy and you're Aries. Normally when Aries severs ties that's it! They don't want anything to do w/you. But I'm assuming you didn't do the breaking up or you didn't quite close that door behind you. He was just as embarrassed by listening to you slur. Most of the time, Saggys never stop talking! All they do is talk, talk, talk, put you down, give in their 2 cents worth, etc., but again, he realized you were slurring due to drinking.
At LEAST he said, "Good-bye". Life teaches us a lesson. You'll learn; just like I have learned. 🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
Posted by Jardsi
Oh god it was awful!
I saw my Sagittarius ex at a mini fest, we haven't been in contact for two years. I was pretty confident that I could just say hi, everything would be fine and we could be friends. BUT I left it a little bit too long before I said something and then it got harder and weirder... and then I got drunk. I met him at the toilets, turned to him to make conversation (didn't realise it was him so it was a bit of a shock). I was totally wrong when I thought I could pull it off, I just literally talked at him, he didn't say anything the whole time, he just laughed and nodded his head, he looked a bit uncomfortable to be honest... it was so horrible!! Then I just kinda staggered off.
After that though, he literally avoided me the whole weekend. We were hanging out in the same circle, but he wouldn't even make eye contact with me. We'd all be chatting and laughing, then I'd start talking and he'd just disconnect and look away. If we happened to walk passed each other, I'd look at him and try to share a smile but he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude! But yeah, for sure I felt like a fool the whole weekend. I only wanted to be friends, I guess that's not gonna happen anytime soon. Ugh.
Saying that though, he did say bye to me when he was leaving.Why would you want to be friends with your ex?
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We have the same friends, we hang out in the same places, this kinda thing is going to happen constantly, I'd rather be friends with him than have to go through all that shit multiple times over. We get along well too, there's no reason why we can't be friends.
How was he supposed to act?
He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
I guess so. I'm not entirely certain they're dating though.
Posted by EvatheDiva
Hmmmmm, he's Saggy and you're Aries. Normally when Aries severs ties that's it! They don't want anything to do w/you. But I'm assuming you didn't do the breaking up or you didn't quite close that door behind you. He was just as embarrassed by listening to you slur. Most of the time, Saggys never stop talking! All they do is talk, talk, talk, put you down, give in their 2 cents worth, etc., but again, he realized you were slurring due to drinking.At LEAST he said, "Good-bye". Life teaches us a lesson. You'll learn; just like I have learned. 🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
I broke up with him. I don't hate him and as far as I know he has no reason to hate me. :/
Chances are, him being a sag, he's already forgotten it.
Posted by EvatheDiva
Hmmmmm, he's Saggy and you're Aries. Normally when Aries severs ties that's it! They don't want anything to do w/you. But I'm assuming you didn't do the breaking up or you didn't quite close that door behind you. He was just as embarrassed by listening to you slur. Most of the time, Saggys never stop talking! All they do is talk, talk, talk, put you down, give in their 2 cents worth, etc., but again, he realized you were slurring due to drinking.At LEAST he said, "Good-bye". Life teaches us a lesson. You'll learn; just like I have learned. 🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
I broke up with him. I don't hate him and as far as I know he has no reason to hate me. :/
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I never used the word "hate". To sever all ties means when you break up with someone you don't speak to them, call/text/IM/send morse code messages to them, etc. I guess this "new" generation you MUST and WANT to stay friends w/your ex so when you bump into them at a festival; get drunk as a skunk, come up to them and slurr, your ex doesn't respond, walks away, but when one is in a pow wow and you speak, he looks away, you wonder, "Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm"
🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
Posted by Mohini
Chances are, him being a sag, he's already forgotten it.
If they loved each other, not true at all.
Did you break up with him? Or what?
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Exactly! I'm sorry OP but you come across as butthurt because you didn't get the attention you wanted when he has no obligation to do so...plus you probably embarrassed him. Hence why he's avoiding you or any potential situations like the one you described but yet he gets called an asshole when in fact he was acting like a gentleman and keeping the peace. It's common sense.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed that he was uncomfortable says that it wasn't about being friends, it's about you trying to see what you can still get out of him...which he is aware of. Again, distancing himself. Smh
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Exactly! I'm sorry OP but you come across as butthurt because you didn't get the attention you wanted when he has no obligation to do so...plus you probably embarrassed him. Hence why he's avoiding you or any potential situations like the one you described but yet he gets called an asshole when in fact he was acting like a gentleman and keeping the peace. It's common sense.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed that he was uncomfortable says that it wasn't about being friends, it's about you trying to see what you can still get out of him...which he is aware of. Again, distancing himself. Smh
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I never said he was an asshole. Maybe I was a little bit hurt, I thought we could be friends, maybe we still can. I've been away for a long time and now that I'm back we're going to see each other constantly as he now hangs out with my friends, I don't want it to be this awkward every time I see him, this is my main reason for wanting to chat with him.
If you're sitting in a small group, having a group conversation, you're gonna notice when somebody is being weird with you, ex boyfriend or not, don't tell me that you wouldn't. So, this is not anything more and if it comes across that way you're picking me up wrong.
Posted by Mohini
Chances are, him being a sag, he's already forgotten it.If they loved each other, not true at all.
Did you break up with him? Or what?
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I broke up with him, it was something I had to do, for the most part he understood.
Posted by EvatheDiva
Hmmmmm, he's Saggy and you're Aries. Normally when Aries severs ties that's it! They don't want anything to do w/you. But I'm assuming you didn't do the breaking up or you didn't quite close that door behind you. He was just as embarrassed by listening to you slur. Most of the time, Saggys never stop talking! All they do is talk, talk, talk, put you down, give in their 2 cents worth, etc., but again, he realized you were slurring due to drinking.At LEAST he said, "Good-bye". Life teaches us a lesson. You'll learn; just like I have learned. 🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
I broke up with him. I don't hate him and as far as I know he has no reason to hate me. :/
I never used the word "hate". To sever all ties means when you break up with someone you don't speak to them, call/text/IM/send morse code messages to them, etc. I guess this "new" generation you MUST and WANT to stay friends w/your ex so when you bump into them at a festival; get drunk as a skunk, come up to them and slurr, your ex doesn't respond, walks away, but when one is in a pow wow and you speak, he looks away, you wonder, "Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm"
🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
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I never meant that you used the word 'hate' sorry I worded it so it kinda sounded like that. That was just an add on, like I don't believe he has any reason to be mad.
Oh yeah, for sure we cut all ties for two years, we both respected that and never contacted each other, but when you're going to see each other 2-3 times a week you kinda have to accept that and try a little, I think at least. But at the same time it was our first meeting after 2 years, I can't really expect something from him immediately... and I was quite drunk, yes haha.
I never meant that you used the word 'hate' sorry I worded it so it kinda sounded like that. That was just an add on, like I don't believe he has any reason to be mad.
Oh yeah, for sure we cut all ties for two years, we both respected that and never contacted each other, but when you're going to see each other 2-3 times a week you kinda have to accept that and try a little, I think at least. But at the same time it was our first meeting after 2 years, I can't really expect something from him immediately... and I was quite drunk, yes haha.
Been there, done that (gotten drunk as a skunk), tee, hee, hee! 🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
Posted by Mohini
Chances are, him being a sag, he's already forgotten it.If they loved each other, not true at all.
Did you break up with him? Or what?
I broke up with him, it was something I had to do, for the most part he understood.
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Ok, and in response to your post regarding my comment, try to put yourself in his shoes given you broke up with him. Do you remember what you said? Your behavior made him uncomfortable...which you acknowledge. So why the misindetstanding about his behavior?
Ex girlfriend, friend, or even our family members, if someone makes us feel uncomfortable, we're going to distance ourselves from them. It's only natural. I know you didn't call him an asshole, but you co signed to a lot of the misgivings about him when he didn't even cause the problem. Nine times out of 10, what you said to him wasn't pleasant.
Good luck
Posted by Mohini
Chances are, him being a sag, he's already forgotten it.If they loved each other, not true at all.
Did you break up with him? Or what?
I broke up with him, it was something I had to do, for the most part he understood.
Ok, and in response to your post regarding my comment, try to put yourself in his shoes given you broke up with him. Do you remember what you said? Your behavior made him uncomfortable...which you acknowledge. So why the misindetstanding about his behavior?
Ex girlfriend, friend, or even our family members, if someone makes us feel uncomfortable, we're going to distance ourselves from them. It's only natural. I know you didn't call him an asshole, but you co signed to a lot of the misgivings about him when he didn't even cause the problem. Nine times out of 10, what you said to him wasn't pleasant.
Good luck
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I remember what I said yeah, I apologized for not saying 'hello' earlier and explained that I was going to, but I left it it too late. Then I rambled on about the festival and how everybody had done a good job. Most of it was nonsense really, trying to fill the gap of awkwardness and then I told him I was going to wet myself if I didn't go to the toilet and that's when I stumbled off. It was a pretty pleasant conversation actually, except he didn't really say anything so, it wasn't much of a conversation.
So yeah... :/
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Exactly! I'm sorry OP but you come across as butthurt because you didn't get the attention you wanted when he has no obligation to do so...plus you probably embarrassed him. Hence why he's avoiding you or any potential situations like the one you described but yet he gets called an asshole when in fact he was acting like a gentleman and keeping the peace. It's common sense.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed that he was uncomfortable says that it wasn't about being friends, it's about you trying to see what you can still get out of him...which he is aware of. Again, distancing himself. Smh
I never said he was an asshole. Maybe I was a little bit hurt, I thought we could be friends, maybe we still can. I've been away for a long time and now that I'm back we're going to see each other constantly as he now hangs out with my friends, I don't want it to be this awkward every time I see him, this is my main reason for wanting to chat with him.
If you're sitting in a small group, having a group conversation, you're gonna notice when somebody is being weird with you, ex boyfriend or not, don't tell me that you wouldn't. So, this is not anything more and if it comes across that way you're picking me up wrong.click to expand
I think all you were trying to do is be civil? Yeah alcohol was involved, it makes things clumsy etc etc... But at least you tried. Ignore him from now on, if he approaches you then you two will deal with it. If he doesn't, then you'll get used to not paying that much attention to him (in the best case scenario... It can backfire too).
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Exactly! I'm sorry OP but you come across as butthurt because you didn't get the attention you wanted when he has no obligation to do so...plus you probably embarrassed him. Hence why he's avoiding you or any potential situations like the one you described but yet he gets called an asshole when in fact he was acting like a gentleman and keeping the peace. It's common sense.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed that he was uncomfortable says that it wasn't about being friends, it's about you trying to see what you can still get out of him...which he is aware of. Again, distancing himself. Smh
I never said he was an asshole. Maybe I was a little bit hurt, I thought we could be friends, maybe we still can. I've been away for a long time and now that I'm back we're going to see each other constantly as he now hangs out with my friends, I don't want it to be this awkward every time I see him, this is my main reason for wanting to chat with him.
If you're sitting in a small group, having a group conversation, you're gonna notice when somebody is being weird with you, ex boyfriend or not, don't tell me that you wouldn't. So, this is not anything more and if it comes across that way you're picking me up wrong.I think all you were trying to do is be civil? Yeah alcohol was involved, it makes things clumsy etc etc... But at least you tried. Ignore him from now on, if he approaches you then you two will deal with it. If he doesn't, then you'll get used to not paying not that much attention to him (in the best case scenario... It can backfire too).
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For sure that's all I wanted but I think I was being a little naive to think it would just be fine, like DMV said 'how was he supposed to act?'... it was a strange situation to be in for both of us and I kinda just ran at it heads on like a silly little ram haha. You're right, I should leave it be for a while. 😉
I just hope it's not super awkward next time because I don't deal with awkwardness well, it makes me too uncomfortable. can't deal.
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Exactly! I'm sorry OP but you come across as butthurt because you didn't get the attention you wanted when he has no obligation to do so...plus you probably embarrassed him. Hence why he's avoiding you or any potential situations like the one you described but yet he gets called an asshole when in fact he was acting like a gentleman and keeping the peace. It's common sense.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed that he was uncomfortable says that it wasn't about being friends, it's about you trying to see what you can still get out of him...which he is aware of. Again, distancing himself. Smh
I never said he was an asshole. Maybe I was a little bit hurt, I thought we could be friends, maybe we still can. I've been away for a long time and now that I'm back we're going to see each other constantly as he now hangs out with my friends, I don't want it to be this awkward every time I see him, this is my main reason for wanting to chat with him.
If you're sitting in a small group, having a group conversation, you're gonna notice when somebody is being weird with you, ex boyfriend or not, don't tell me that you wouldn't. So, this is not anything more and if it comes across that way you're picking me up wrong.I think all you were trying to do is be civil? Yeah alcohol was involved, it makes things clumsy etc etc... But at least you tried. Ignore him from now on, if he approaches you then you two will deal with it. If he doesn't, then you'll get used to not paying not that much attention to him (in the best case scenario... It can backfire too).
For sure that's all I wanted but I think I was being a little naive to think it would just be fine, like DMV said 'how was he supposed to act?'... it was a strange situation to be in for both of us and I kinda just ran at it heads on like a silly little ram haha. You're right, I should leave it be for a while. 😉
I just hope it's not super awkward next time because I don't deal with awkwardness well, it makes me too uncomfortable. can't deal.click to expand
Tbh the only thing I can think of, it's been 2 years - you don't have a problem with trying to be friends with him, so why does he have a problem?
Posted by DMV
How was he supposed to act?He has a girlfriend, he supposed to avoid entanglements
Exactly! I'm sorry OP but you come across as butthurt because you didn't get the attention you wanted when he has no obligation to do so...plus you probably embarrassed him. Hence why he's avoiding you or any potential situations like the one you described but yet he gets called an asshole when in fact he was acting like a gentleman and keeping the peace. It's common sense.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed that he was uncomfortable says that it wasn't about being friends, it's about you trying to see what you can still get out of him...which he is aware of. Again, distancing himself. Smh
I never said he was an asshole. Maybe I was a little bit hurt, I thought we could be friends, maybe we still can. I've been away for a long time and now that I'm back we're going to see each other constantly as he now hangs out with my friends, I don't want it to be this awkward every time I see him, this is my main reason for wanting to chat with him.
If you're sitting in a small group, having a group conversation, you're gonna notice when somebody is being weird with you, ex boyfriend or not, don't tell me that you wouldn't. So, this is not anything more and if it comes across that way you're picking me up wrong.I think all you were trying to do is be civil? Yeah alcohol was involved, it makes things clumsy etc etc... But at least you tried. Ignore him from now on, if he approaches you then you two will deal with it. If he doesn't, then you'll get used to not paying not that much attention to him (in the best case scenario... It can backfire too).
For sure that's all I wanted but I think I was being a little naive to think it would just be fine, like DMV said 'how was he supposed to act?'... it was a strange situation to be in for both of us and I kinda just ran at it heads on like a silly little ram haha. You're right, I should leave it be for a while. 😉
I just hope it's not super awkward next time because I don't deal with awkwardness well, it makes me too uncomfortable. can't deal.click to expandTbh the only thing I can think of, it's been 2 years - you don't have a problem with trying to be friends with him, so why does he have a
I have no idea where my post went just then ^^^, oh well it wasn't that important haha. I have no idea, I'm just gonna leave it and see what happens... maybe I'll do an update when I see him again, which will be this weekend.
Just give him some space.
I used to have a great aries guy friend who royally pissed me off with his juvenile selfishness. This was in 2012 and he still contacts me from time to time on FB. Testing the waters by asking surface questions, playing the victim card, explaining his shitty behaviour before etc.
Somehow I just cannot go back to the way it was. I avoid him tbh. The aries selfishness is a huge turnoff. Sorry. I wish I could forgive him but I just don't want to deal with him anymore.
You can try ignoring him this time, but I doubt it will make much difference...keep us posted.
Posted by SunMoonStars
Just give him some space.I used to have a great aries guy friend who royally pissed me off with his juvenile selfishness. This was in 2012 and he still contacts me from time to time on FB. Testing the waters by asking surface questions, playing the victim card, explaining his shitty behaviour before etc.
Somehow I just cannot go back to the way it was. I avoid him tbh. The aries selfishness is a huge turnoff. Sorry. I wish I could forgive him but I just don't want to deal with him anymore.
No no, I'll be keeping my distance for sure.
In all fairness though, your friend probably feels really bad, you should at least forgive him but tell him that's it, you don't want to be part of his life anymore.
Posted by LittlePieces62
Do you want or need him as a friend? Perhaps it wasn't awkwardness but the guy has moved on and does not bother anymore. You may have felt uncomfortable when in reality he just does not feel you anymore.
I don't need him as a friend no, it would just be nice for it to be comfortable between us. I'm sure he has moved on yeah, but if he has then I feel there's no reason we can't be civil.
he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude!
You got what you deserved.
here you are saying he's rude, based on him not making you feel better after you made an ass out of yourself. Which means, you weren't really willing to carry your own bullshit, and expected him to pamper your feelings so you wouldn't feel so stupid.
he wasn't being rude .. you were
he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude!
You got what you deserved.
here you are saying he's rude, based on him not making you feel better after you made an ass out of yourself. Which means, you weren't really willing to carry your own bullshit, and expected him to pamper your feelings so you wouldn't feel so stupid.
he wasn't being rude .. you were
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Fair enough.
he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude!
You got what you deserved.
here you are saying he's rude, based on him not making you feel better after you made an ass out of yourself. Which means, you weren't really willing to carry your own bullshit, and expected him to pamper your feelings so you wouldn't feel so stupid.
he wasn't being rude .. you were
Fair enough.
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That went over well.
he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude!
You got what you deserved.
here you are saying he's rude, based on him not making you feel better after you made an ass out of yourself. Which means, you weren't really willing to carry your own bullshit, and expected him to pamper your feelings so you wouldn't feel so stupid.
he wasn't being rude .. you were
Fair enough.
That went over well.
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Too well.
Posted by Mohini
Chances are, him being a sag, he's already forgotten it.
This may have been overseen.
But let it go.
Life teaches us to not depend on others.
But there will come a time when you can. Have faith in that.
But yes. He probably forgot all about it.
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Oh god it was awful!
I saw my Sagittarius ex at a mini fest, we haven't been in contact for two years. I was pretty confident that I could just say hi, everything would be fine and we could be friends. BUT I left it a little bit too long before I said something and then it got harder and weirder... and then I got drunk. I met him at the toilets, turned to him to make conversation (didn't realise it was him so it was a bit of a shock). I was totally wrong when I thought I could pull it off, I just literally talked at him, he didn't say anything the whole time, he just laughed and nodded his head, he looked a bit uncomfortable to be honest... it was so horrible!! Then I just kinda staggered off.
After that though, he literally avoided me the whole weekend. We were hanging out in the same circle, but he wouldn't even make eye contact with me. We'd all be chatting and laughing, then I'd start talking and he'd just disconnect and look away. If we happened to walk passed each other, I'd look at him and try to share a smile but he'd put his head down and just walk passed... like DUDE, wtf. So rude! But yeah, for sure I felt like a fool the whole weekend. I only wanted to be friends, I guess that's not gonna happen anytime soon. Ugh.
Saying that though, he did say bye to me when he was leaving.