@Cajunspirit
17 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
The Dreaded Bleeding
How to Support Your Partner During Her Menstrual Cycle
During menstruation, women may experience heightened emotions and sensitivity. Showing patience, listening without judgment, and offering comfort can help her feel supported. Understanding that hormonal changes affect mood can foster better communication and reduce frustration for both partners.
I want to snuggle and be babied during that time. Not too much picking at me because I already notice every flaw in myself. Lots of hugs and kisses. Do something sweet for me. If I want to be left alone, leave me alone but check on me. I crave chocolate and salt (like chips) lol That's all I've got.
Posted by 69virgo
I stay aa far away as I can..😉
Haha, I was hoping you would give the best advice!
That's exactly what I think I should do...
We had a talk about this long ago now she doesn't lose all logic and reason.
Brass Knuckles
When in doubt..Just smile,nod & offer a hug.. 😄
Don't even MENTION sex until like the last couple days.
lol. "ritual".
the craziness is the week before it starts. during, i'm at my most logical and emotionally together.
Fuck that, what do you do the other three weeks with the crazy ho?
Have sex in the shower. Simple.
Why men do not trust women? No one can trust creature that bleeds each month but never die.
Posted by 69virgo
I stay aa far away as I can..😉Haha, I was hoping you would give the best advice!
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Wrong, wrong, wrong. We are more sensitive but staying far away is the worst you can do. We need understanding and support, do not take too personal our overreactions. But be there for us more than ever during the month.
Posted by ArticleL
We had a talk about this long ago now she doesn't lose all logic and reason.
Lucky you....
Wrong, wrong, wrong. We are more sensitive but staying far away is the worst you can do. We need understanding and support, do not take too personal our overreactions. But be there for us more than ever during the month.
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Taking unprovoked and illogical crap is most unpleasant.
Posted by bluesky
Why men do not trust women? No one can trust creature that bleeds each month but never die.LOL!
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Muhahahahahahahahahah.
Posted by ArticleL
We had a talk about this long ago now she doesn't lose all logic and reason.Lucky you....
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Communication is the key some people just fail to realize it. Idiots.
Posted by ArticleL
We had a talk about this long ago now she doesn't lose all logic and reason.Lucky you....
Wrong, wrong, wrong. We are more sensitive but staying far away is the worst you can do. We need understanding and support, do not take too personal our overreactions. But be there for us more than ever during the month.
Taking unprovoked and illogical crap is most unpleasant.
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Hahahaha!
My Cappy says "The Mayor is in town" LMAO!
LOL @ "Mayor in town".
Seriously Caj, dependent on how bitchy she gets ( despite your eloquent wording on such a 'delicate matter' ) the best course of action is to just be objective. Grit your teeth and try not to strangle her. If she flies at you like a woman possessed and is irrational just hold her. She knows she's psycho once a month. If she's got horrid cramps that exacerbates things. Massage her lower back. Provide a heating pad for her middle. There are OTC medications to ease symptoms, herbals if you'd ( she'd ) rather go that route. Oh, and keep your fingers back, she might bite. Some women get extremely aroused during their menstrual cycle, don't know what your stance is on that. Mine is everything washes.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Here's a classic. What has two legs and bleeds ?Half a cat 🙂
hahaha ewwwwww!!
my thing is, don't talk to me. don't even look at me. thanks
And may I just impart... "THANK #@ $ @!#!! GAWD I DON'T DO THAT ANY MORE!" *tap dancing across window*
Posted by venusianbull
LOL @ "Mayor in town".Seriously Caj, dependent on how bitchy she gets ( despite your eloquent wording on such a 'delicate matter' ) the best course of action is to just be objective. Grit your teeth and try not to strangle her. If she flies at you like a woman possessed and is irrational just hold her. She knows she's psycho once a month. If she's got horrid cramps that exacerbates things. Massage her lower back. Provide a heating pad for her middle. There are OTC medications to ease symptoms, herbals if you'd ( she'd ) rather go that route. Oh, and keep your fingers back, she might bite. Some women get extremely aroused during their menstrual cycle, don't know what your stance is on that. Mine is everything washes.
Yep!!! 😄
You give them cranberry juice with a mix of tranquilizer (elephant tranquilizer). 😛
Communication is the key some people just fail to realize it. Idiots.
Sigh... Tell me about it.
Posted by venusianbull
the best course of action is to just be objective. Grit your teeth and try not to strangle her. If she flies at you like a woman possessed and is irrational just hold her. She knows she's psycho once a month. If she's got horrid cramps that exacerbates things. Massage her lower back. Provide a heating pad for her middle. There are OTC medications to ease symptoms, herbals if you'd ( she'd ) rather go that route. Oh, and keep your fingers back, she might bite. Some women get extremely aroused during their menstrual cycle, don't know what your stance is on that. Mine is everything washes.click to expand
Agreed, it is no easy task though.
I relish washing 😉
Communication is the key some people just fail to realize it. Idiots.
Sigh... Tell me about it.
Posted by venusianbull
the best course of action is to just be objective. Grit your teeth and try not to strangle her. If she flies at you like a woman possessed and is irrational just hold her. She knows she's psycho once a month. If she's got horrid cramps that exacerbates things. Massage her lower back. Provide a heating pad for her middle. There are OTC medications to ease symptoms, herbals if you'd ( she'd ) rather go that route. Oh, and keep your fingers back, she might bite. Some women get extremely aroused during their menstrual cycle, don't know what your stance is on that. Mine is everything washes.Agreed, it is no easy task though.
I relish washing 😉click to expand
Well done you. 😉
Communication is the key some people just fail to realize it. Idiots.
Sigh... Tell me about it.
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😛
So let me get this straight ..... you can't handle a natural part of life, and so then just dread that it's a natural part of life.
And let me guess ... you think that for you to dread it, rather than learn to deal with it .. is logical and reasonable?
questions to cajunspirit as a creator of the topic ,but other virgo gentlemen could state their opinion as well
is the sexual experience during monthly ladies period different than in the other days?
if you not have a sex when a girl is in the red period,how does it affect you?
/well,considering you guys are more lucky,because you have another option-to have an oral sex ,so you have no much reasons to complain 🙂/
and even if you practice a normal sex during the girl's cycle ,i imagine you could do it only under the shower,otherwise you wouldn't keep the sheets clean- practicality ,you follow trough
Honestly, periods aren't that bad. It depends on the woman, IMO. Some women lash the fuck out; I'm pretty chill.
I maybe been lucky! but never had major hormonal mood swings on a monthly basis but one thing for sure I am at my most horniest around that time not sure why but true...anyone else?
Yeah, I've never had any crazy hormonal changes. I also get super horny around the middle/towards the end of my cycle. That's when I'm like, "FML" because I just want to get it in, but I don't allow myself too.
I get super irritated during pms and over sensitive. I'm always reminded when my period is coming because something really stupid will make me start crying.
Cajun if you can just either give her some space or be a bit more passive if she makes issues out of dumb things that would probably be nice for her.
Also I heard that regularly eating flaxseed helps against PMS. Maybe you should give her 2 Tblspoons of ground flaxseed a day and see if next month is better. I've been trying it so I'll know soon.....
ohh yeah I get extremely horny during that time..and being horny and not having it leads to irritation. I refuse to have sex though... Even if he says he wants to in the shower.. I can't get past the idea that he might just be *that horny* and would think about it every time afterwards and possibly be grossed out and want sex less.
Thinking about it, if our Moon sign dictates our emotions, how does this relate to "how" we PMS as individuals? (or, if you feel you do at all)
Posted by Eris
ohh yeah I get extremely horny during that time..and being horny and not having it leads to irritation. I refuse to have sex though... Even if he says he wants to in the shower.. I can't get past the idea that he might just be *that horny* and would think about it every time afterwards and possibly be grossed out and want sex less.
That's a hell of a mental block... most guy's would'nt care.
Want sex less? lmao
Posted by 25thDecan
In all seriousness, though...cajun....let her be who she is during "the time" and don't fight it. This isn't something that can be controlled...nor should it be manipulated for OUR comfort, dig? If possible..be suttle and make her comfortable.....VERY SUTTLE and don't expect anything out of that.Do it because you care.
I don't fancy being lashed out at when I have not done anything wrong.
That's my issue.
Posted by P-Angel
So let me get this straight ..... you can't handle a natural part of life, and so then just dread that it's a natural part of life.
I had no problems with it before, the previous women I have dealt with had some sense of self control and did not lash out.
And let me guess ... you think that for you to dread it, rather than learn to deal with it .. is logical and reasonable?
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This is new to me, hence my asking for advice.
The word dreaded was used because both I and my girlfriend both don't like what happens to her at this time.
Also I heard that regularly eating flaxseed helps against PMS. Maybe you should give her 2 Tblspoons of ground flaxseed a day and see if next month is better. I've been trying it so I'll know soon.....
I'll have to look into that then, thanks 🙂
is the sexual experience during monthly ladies period different than in the other days?
Yes
if you not have a sex when a girl is in the red period,how does it affect you?
No effect.
and even if you practice a normal sex during the girl's cycle ,i imagine you could do it only under the shower,otherwise you wouldn't keep the sheets clean- practicality ,you follow trough
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Towels on the bed to lay on can help that problem.
First of all, you posted it as a general question, across the board, and not specifically an issue by one particular girl. If she has problems dealing with her hormonal changes, then why would you ask other men what they do?
They aren't with your woman ... they don't know her personality, her disposition.
And what the hell does sex have to do with it .... are you suggesting that you cannot go 5 fucking days without fucking?
If you put such a burden on this, that you view it as an impending dread ... then by your energy projection, itself, you've made her period 100 times worse than it is.
Jesus Christ Virgos ..... can you not let ANY part of life run its course without making it critical?
It's no big fucking deal, and the only reason it is to you is because you make it one by the sheer fact that you put energy into building a mountain out of it.
her getting on the rag is nothing, and if you presented yourself to her as if it is nothing but a thing, then she will follow suit.
Gandof said:
Good people will try to measure up to the level of responsibility you give them.
Gandalf
LOL @ this thread
Posted by P-Angel
First of all, you posted it as a general question, across the board, and not specifically an issue by one particular girl. If she has problems dealing with her hormonal changes, then why would you ask other men what they do?
To see if there is any advice out there that can help me in my situation.
And what the hell does sex have to do with it .... are you suggesting that you cannot go 5 fucking days without fucking?
I don't recall addressing anything of the such to you.
If you put such a burden on this, that you view it as an impending dread ... then by your energy projection, itself, you've made her period 100 times worse than it is.
She told me she has always dreaded it, that is causes her to say mean things and she has no control.
The dread started with her and when I began experiencing her lashing out, I began share her sentiment towards it.
It's no big fucking deal, and the only reason it is to you is because you make it one by the sheer fact that you put energy into building a mountain out of it.
You are projecting there.
her getting on the rag is nothing, and if you presented yourself to her as if it is nothing but a thing, then she will follow suit.
I do, until she starts giving me crap, that's when instinct takes over and offense is taken.
It's what I am working on actively to improve.
I don't fancy being lashed out at when I have not done anything wrong.
That's my issue.We have a saying here: charge it to her head and NOT her heart...
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You've been there before, I'm sure most guys don't get "it" off the bat.
Appreciate the advice.
Glac? d'horreur!
It's no big fucking deal, and the only reason it is to you is because you make it one by the sheer fact that you put energy into building a mountain out of it.
You are projecting there.
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People like to use the word, "Projecting" alot when they don't know what to say in response.
You are making a mountain of nothing .. and being on the rag is no big deal .. if it is one to you then it's because you are making it a big deal .. that's not projecting, that's tellling you that you are taking something that's a natural part of life, and making an issue out of it because you aren't using logical and reasonable sense.
The same thign you accuse her of, actually.
. if you don't believe me.
her getting on the rag is nothing, and if you presented yourself to her as if it is nothing but a thing, then she will follow suit.
I do, until she starts giving me crap, that's when instinct takes over and offense is taken.
It's what I am working on actively to improve.click to expandBy your own admission, you stop using your brain and rely on instincts to deal with someone else when you feel offended.
Now lets here you justify how that makes you being logical and reasonable.
... how do you guys deal with a woman during the monthly ritual when she has lost all logic and reason...?
You come in here to make the assertion that women lose all logic and reason when they are on the rag and how are you suppose to deal with that ... and then when put to the test, you admit that you use instinct rather than logic and reason to relate back to her with.
How does that make you more rational than her?
It doesn't
For a person to REACT with instincts rather than THINK = you flying off the handle also because you were offended.
Again, when you said I was projecting because you weren't able to understand what I was telling you and you therefore had to attempt to make it sound like I'm just in error and projecting irrationally upon you ... I will say it again.
This time, listen ..... It's no big fucking deal, and the only reason it is to you is because you make it one by the sheer fact that you put energy into building a mountain out of it.
You are putting upset and reactionary energy into intensifying her lack of logic and reason, which by the virtue of you reacting with this emotional energy, intead of being rational yourself .... you make it into somethign bigger than it is.
I can't believe people have to be told these things .. really.
It's like if you had a kid and he fell down and skinned his knees ... you aren't suppose to freak the fuck out and rush around screaming with him in your arms ranting and raving because the ambulance has to be called.
No. You pick him up, brush off his knee, kiss him the forehead and telling him he's ok.
If you PROJECT hightened emotional urgency, then you make matters worse for him.
Same fucking principal .. and I can't believe, since you think you are the epitome of logic and reason, that you cannot figure this simple concept out for yourself.
If you act rather than react, and in so doing make it no big deal, that this is a natural function and nothing to get upset about .... then she will try to measure up to that level of responsibility.
Jesus Christ ...... dude
Posted by P-Angel
See below ... if you don't believe me.her getting on the rag is nothing, and if you presented yourself to her as if it is nothing but a thing, then she will follow suit.
I do, until she starts giving me crap, that's when instinct takes over and offense is taken.
It's what I am working on actively to improve.By your own admission, you stop using your brain and rely on instincts to deal with someone else when you feel offended.
Now lets here you justify how that makes you being logical and reasonable.
Its HEAR, not here.
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If you act rather than react, and in so doing make it no big deal, that this is a natural function and nothing to get upset about .... then she will try to measure up to that level of responsibility.
Thank you for taking as much time as you did to go through what I said.
I will keep trying.
and how do you femme recommend us men behave towards you during this troubling time?
I never really thought about it. I mean, it's all good. He doesn't have to adjust to my "periods". Everything is
copesetic. 😉
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Just wondering... how do you guys deal with a woman during the monthly ritual when she has lost all logic and reason...?
and how do you femme recommend us men behave towards you during this troubling time?