Told Virgo that I'm going to date other men

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by isthistheone on Monday, January 13, 2014 and has 24 replies.

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@isthistheone
12 Years

What do you think is going through his mind?

Honestly, tired of the "talk", need "action". He goes in out and out distant all the time, and I'm fed up. I know he likes me, but what is the deal. Tired of the crap. So when I told him over the phone my friend is hooking me up with a friend that is older, for a date etc. etc., he laughed like we were friends and made fun of him etc, played it off, but quickly got off the phone. What's going on in his head?

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@justagirl
12 Years25,000+ Posts

Why play games? Because that's exactly what you are doing. You expect him to come running after you? Think again. I don't understand women or even men that play these games.

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@GemStar05
14 Years1,000+ Posts

If you wanted more you should have just stated it up front. Then if he's still all talk tell him that you're dating others and mean it--move on. Don't just say it to get a reaction from him. Won't work. They're as perceptive as Gems when it comes to recognizing bullshyt.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

As mentioned, you did go to your previous thread and try to hide evidence ... that in itself, shows you're full of shit because if you were an honest person, there would be nothing to hide. But, enough people quoted you, to show readers just how much of a manipulator you are ... that is to say, if this post isn't enough to convince them.

Hysterical laughter at how stupid you are, in that you think you're fooling someone .... is what is going through his head.

Lucky for you, though, you're too dumb to realize that you're the joke.

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@houstonpeach74
20 Years5,000+ Posts

What do you think is going through his mind?

Unfortunately, he probably right through your plot and figured good riddance. Men, regardless of sign, don't care to be manipulated or purposely tried to be jealous of something or someone. If your friend is fixing you up with someone, then go out with him - no need to tell this Virgo your intentions. I didn't read your other posts, but if the two of you never defined your relationship, then he wasn't ready to commit. I've learned you must be patient with these fellows.

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@isthistheone
12 Years

Posted by houstonpeach74
What do you think is going through his mind?

Unfortunately, he probably right through your plot and figured good riddance. Men, regardless of sign, don't care to be manipulated or purposely tried to be jealous of something or someone. If your friend is fixing you up with someone, then go out with him - no need to tell this Virgo your intentions. I didn't read your other posts, but if the two of you never defined your relationship, then he wasn't ready to commit. I've learned you must be patient with these fellows.

I guess. I agree your second part, but it's not a manipulation, it was a I'm telling you whats up scenario. But I agree move on and go on the date! And yes bad timing. He still is testing me this morning, I don't have time for silly games to be honest and no i'm not trying to manipulate him, I'm telling him flat out the truth.

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@isthistheone
12 Years

Posted by justagirl
Why play games? Because that's exactly what you are doing. You expect him to come running after you? Think again. I don't understand women or even men that play these games.

no I'm telling him what's up and that I'm not waiting around for him. It's not a manipulation, it's honesty. I expect nothing from it really.

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@isthistheone
12 Years

Posted by GemStar05
If you wanted more you should have just stated it up front. Then if he's still all talk tell him that you're dating others and mean it--move on. Don't just say it to get a reaction from him. Won't work. They're as perceptive as Gems when it comes to recognizing bullshyt.

I did, he knows I want a relationship, but he can't give that right now. Agree and that's exactly what I'm doing. I'm just understand what's he's thinking that's all.

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@isthistheone
12 Years

Posted by P-Angel

As mentioned, you did go to your previous thread and try to hide evidence ... that in itself, shows you're full of shit because if you were an honest person, there would be nothing to hide. But, enough people quoted you, to show readers just how much of a manipulator you are ... that is to say, if this post isn't enough to convince them.

Hysterical laughter at how stupid you are, in that you think you're fooling someone .... is what is going through his head.

Lucky for you, though, you're too dumb to realize that you're the joke.

no, I didn't want anything to do with the post, because too many judgements and incorrect pieces of advice were being made, it was rediculous.

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@isthistheone
12 Years

Posted by Damnata
^Liar.

You didn't tell him what's up just because you're friends casually talking about each other's life.

You told him that to elicit a response/reaction.

Actually it was, and it was something I've been wanting to tell him since last week, because I try to be as fair as possible, and yes I wanted to tell him what's up. And maybe it has a hidden meaning like I don't have patience any longer. Sure I was hoping for a reaction/attention from it, who wouldn't be, but it's more of, I'm not dealing with this bull anymore./

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@Nala13
14 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

I am a proponent of love me or leave me the hell alone.

I for one applaud your decision to take action. I do not know what other threads you have made or anything about this situation but far too may women on here make posts about...

Will he..
Does he...
Can we...

At least you did something. So what he is going to see through it and call your bluff. At least, you are an active participant in your own life. Good for you. It is only a guy. There will be others. Life goes on.

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@justagirl
12 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by isthistheone
Posted by justagirl
Why play games? Because that's exactly what you are doing. You expect him to come running after you? Think again. I don't understand women or even men that play these games.

no I'm telling him what's up and that I'm not waiting around for him. It's not a manipulation, it's honesty. I expect nothing from it really.

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That's not what you said or told him. Honesty would have been, "dude I like you, but we aren't on same page, I have wanted more but you can't give it so I am moving on and am dating other people."

You played a game with him, because you think he is going to chase you know. There was no point behind telling him what you did, period. Perhaps you can't even see your own manipulation. 😢

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@TaurusBull1977
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by isthistheone

Sure I was hoping for a reaction/attention from it, who wouldn't be, but it's more of, I'm not dealing with this bull anymore./

No.
Actually.
The
Game
Just
Got
Started....

Posted by isthistheone
What do you think is going through his mind?
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You made the first chess move.
Now you're waiting on his next chess move.

Post a continuation thread in the next two weeks.
We will tell you who called 'checkmate.'

And then you can tell us "How did that work out for you."

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@Nebulous_Cloud9
16 Years

Wonder if she is heavily influenced?

Although, I can totally see a Libra female acting in this way. Many Libra females, though sweet and beautiful as they are, can be very spiteful if slighted in any way.