Virgo Men & Sex

Do Virgo Men Like Directness About Sex

Virgo men often appreciate honesty and clear communication about sex, but they may prefer subtle cues over direct requests. Their focus tends to be on emotional connection and fidelity rather than frequent sex. Understanding their individual needs and health factors can improve intimacy and satisfaction in the relationship.

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allluv72
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I have a question for you virgo men.. Is it a turn off for a woman to flat out ask for sex? I dont mean someone you pass walking on the street, but someone you're dating/seeing. Some men (non-Virgos) have said thats a HUGH turnoff. Married men have even told me their wifes never ask for sex, but give subtle clues that they want to have sex..

Also what are your views on sex, is it not a very important part of the relationship?? I read Virgos have low passion and sex is not really a top priority when seeking a mate, honestly and faithfulness are the main things Virgo men look for. I'm experiencing with my Virgo he's more into cuddling and holding and being held then sex. If I ask he says there are times when we'll be together when we wont have sex, me being in my 30's my sex drive is thru the roof, and I wonder if this is how it's going to be. Granted he's overweight and has told me he gets tired easily which I've witnessed, if we dont have sex before we eat, it's a done deal, he falls asleep quickly afterward and I'm left mad and hurt. I think the issue is more with his weight and inability to stay up long enough to have sex then his lack of interest in sex, but I just wanted to get some of the virgo men views on sex.
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allluv72
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Thanks Branh. I appreciate it. I think my friend is too into what men and women roles should be. He's born and raised in the south and believes the man should initiate and the woman never ask or even mentions it.. I guess I just feel instead of me waiting for him to make a move and him wondering if I want to, I just ask, but not in a raunchy way. Which I thought would be a turnon to must men. But I do sense in my Virgo his initating skills are lacking. If I dont take charge by asking or jumping his bones it usually doesnt happen, which is discouraging to me, if I try to wait him out, I definitely lose..But once I get him going it's great...
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"Virgos do not lack passion for their partners, and they are willing to go the limit with people they are interested in sexually."

It doesn't work that way. Passion isn't something that is handed out to whomever is deserving, or not. It's not something that can be reserved and then let out to extreme limits depending on the person.

Either you have passion, or, you don't. Either your hot, or, your not. If a person believes that passion for your partner can be stored and only divied out with rising interests . . then that person is a lousy lover. Passion is an uncontrollable feeling, like anger. A better example is like fear. You can't help the feeling that pounds through your body with an adrenlin rush . . that's passion. It can't be stopped and then let out when the owner of the body decides the other person might be interesting enough.

If that's how you process it, Branh, then, you know not about what other people expect. Just knowing the moves means nothing. My vibrater knows that, for christ's sake.
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"my Virgo his initating skills are lacking. If I dont take charge by asking or jumping his bones it usually doesnt happen, which is discouraging to me"

Allluv, it's because everything has to be thought about to the extreme. He's probably not finished deciding whether your his right partner, or not. Once he has completed his analysis of you, he'll probably be more initiative. Sadly, a lot of times, it's too late and the Virgo finds himself alone again because most people can't wait for the Virgo to DECIDED whether they are wanted sexually. Most people want to feel wanted and feel like the union of their bodies together is the most remarkable, exciting, and satisfying sensation on the universe.

If something has to be pondered to the extreme, then it's lacking in desire. Desire just hits you like a frieght train, it can't be decided upon. And that's how you are feeling. You want him to want you, and to want to take you to the clouds in esctasy wiht passion. Unfortunately, Virgo's don't take anything like that. Even just a movie that you've been so excited about, you couldn't wait until it came to the theatre, he'll have to think about, to the point where you don't even want to go with him any longer because he's not feeling the thrilling excitment.

That is a lack of passion. It's not just sexually. It's everything you want to do because it seems fun and is spontaneous . . he has to think about whether it's frugal, or not, he has to think about whether it's the right thing to do . . that just inflates your bubble because then the moment is gone and now the thing you wnated to do no longer holds the same interest.

Think about that . . . if EVERYTHING has to be thought about, then that makes everything that's done mechanical because it's organized and planned.

Feelings are chaotic, they surge through you with no control: excitment, fear, anger, joy, jealousy . . all of them. If they aren't expressed and they are suppressed, then that means the person isn't passionate about their emotions and how they feel.

If he isn't passionate about how he feels for you and so won't take you to paradise, then eventually, you'll walk away, just like everybody else . . . they take it for awhile and then realize that their man isn't making them feel desirable.

We have to feel desired, wanted, cherished . . or, all is lost.
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Pisces know no definition. The real and surreal is mingled.

Allluv, it's likely that your man's unwillingness to initiate sexual contact has nothing at all to do with where he was raised. It's more likely that he is still pondering on whether your worthy of his efforts, or not.

It's not fair, though, to say that all Virgo's are that way. Many do understand that random feelings surface and should be expressed, even if they seem chaotic and out of control. However, most feel that their emotions should be kept in check . . they must have complete control, so, will therefore ignore what they can't organize within themselves. It's this that makes people believe that Virgo's are cold. They aren't cold, they just have a fear of being out-of-control. Unfortunately, this also includes their sexual desire.

Even Branh has said, numerous times, that he MUST maintain total control of all of his emotions . . he therefore is probably a lousy lover because he's not making the woman feel desired. There are several other Virgo's in here who maintain the same notion and likely, they are lousy lovers too.
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allluv72
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Thanks Dyr, you're right on clue... Since you're little vacation from DXP my Virguy and I have been getting along pretty good, he's stepped the calling and visits up a lot, I see him at least 4 times a week. His nephew is no longer living with him so I think that was a hugh stress reliever.. We had a HUGH fight about the topic of this discussion, right before I left to go out of town. But as soon as I left I missed him dearily, but surprisingly he's called every day since I've been gone (even told me he missed me!).. It's weird, I wonder if this was the same cold person I meant less then 3 months ago.. Wish me luck!!