Virgo Woman - Words do not match actions

So I met this Virgo woman online. We have been actively chatting (skype) for 6 months now. Since I am a Leo, we have had at least one big blow-up a month. My issue with her is here I am to chat with you but you cant be found. I can write the nicest words to her first thing in the morning and not even get a thank you. Maybe she will respond at 5pm with something. Then, I will ask, did you like with i wrote this morning? She will respond oh yes...thank you so much.

To be to the point, if I did not find this site and read about Virgos, I would have ended it with her. I am exhausted with lack of constant communication. My approach is now changed and everything is running smooth. So, I had to ask her straight out, what does this all mean to you?

This was her response, your love is everything to me; I want to have you forever; that's all I know; This is what I know, this is what I need and this is what I want; I do not need anything else.

Before her, if a woman said these same words to me, they would be chasing me and blowing up my phone. To me, the words do not exactly match the actions but this is a Virgo, so perhaps this is the best they can do. I am interested in your thoughts.

Dave is that you?

jk.

Do you see each other in person at all?

This not Dave,,, we have not met in person but we talk about it often.

Posted by 4evercharm
This not Dave,,, we have not met in person but we talk about it often.

Yeah, it was my bad attempt at a joke. lol

So what do you think of her comments and actions?

She may just be busy and not able to respond right away. As far as the nice things you say...me personally, I don't like all that fluff and depending on how thick you are laying it on...she might not believe it is genuine. Yes, it is nice and all but it also tends to make me uncomfortable...especially if its something I'm not use to. I also don't like to chase guys...I can be totally into them but my actions wont show until I know for sure where they/we stand.

You're a Leo...correct? So you're wanting that ego stroked and maybe she can sense that....Usually, again this is just me, but when someone is fishing for compliments or praise, I tend to ignore it. I don't have time to stroke someone ego.

I think chatting on skype needs to end and you need to get together in person and see how she is.

This makes sense.... agreed

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
Why do you need a response?

He's a Leo...do you really have to ask?! lol

Oh no, virgos are not the mushy kind that communicate through beautiful words (not sure how much they even appreciate it lol) the way Leos do. Their communication style is way different, more practical, and that can come across as cold or detached when not face to face.

My sister is a virgo and my dad, who lives in a different country, complains she's always busy when he tries to contact her-- like, she'll answer the phone and tell him hi, I'm busy, emergency? we can talk later, and hang up. Very efficient and nothing extra. One time, he called her and she put him on speaker while she cleaned the bathroom lol As a cancer, he got all hurt and felt disrespected but that was not her intention. In person, it's different.

As a fellow Leo, meet her in person and determine what she's truly like. From my Virgo experience with women, Virgos are more in person, intimate, and slow burn types--handle with gentle care and patience because they're within their heads half the time with gears constantly spinning. Writing her the nicest words in the morning AND expecting a "thank you" will not get you anywhere with a Virgo. It occurs to me that your Leo Ego has yet to be humbled and tamed.

Imagine a lion loudly trampling through a forest and a deer just steering clear of all that ruckus and brashness or just keeping it's distance from afar observing you. The deer is Virgo. You may not have created an environment for her to comfortably come to you, honestly communicate effectively, and let you entirely into her world and train of thought. Get rid of the fluff and keep it simple because she's not with you for fluff or flattery.

There must still be something your Virgo values because I'm surprised she is still around after having monthly blow-ups. I'm curious as to her placement as well as yours.

well... I am on my last chance with the blow-ups. She asked that I be more patient with her. So, I am working on it. Yes, we LEO's have interesting expectations. I will think about the deer.

Update - she just opened up and told me I am not most wonderful man.

Yes - we LEO's expect some type of response and I am fully prepared for her to ignore me tomorrow. That is my issue with her...hot and cold.

She said... I am the most Wonderful Man....

Posted by 4evercharm
Update - she just opened up and told me I am not most wonderful man.

Yes - we LEO's expect some type of response and I am fully prepared for her to ignore me tomorrow. That is my issue with her...hot and cold.

You're gonna have to get use to it.....it will get better though down the road! 🙂

She needs to know you are going to be sticking around before she really opens up.

Posted by 4evercharm
This not Dave,,, we have not met in person but we talk about it often.

Until you meet in person everything is just noise.

I have been much more patient and she is clearly watching for this. I have been very open to her and have no issues with expressing my feelings. I gave her 10+ reasons when she asked what do you see in me.. Then, I gave her two more yesterday... she replied... added....hahahaha....

I know she flirts with other guys and this is what causes the blow-ups.

Posted by 4evercharm
I have been much more patient and she is clearly watching for this. I have been very open to her and have no issues with expressing my feelings. I gave her 10+ reasons when she asked what do you see in me.. Then, I gave her two more yesterday... she replied... added....hahahaha....

I know she flirts with other guys and this is what causes the blow-ups.

Yeah but if you have never met in person...how do you know that is what she is doing?

Sounds to me like assumptions and you letting your imagination run.

time to get off skype and get together with her in person.

Yes... lots

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Posted by 4evercharm
Yes... lots

Would you do us a favor and follow this link to file a formal complaint?

We would greatly appreciate it.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/why-is-no-one-ever-upset-with-virgo-women--10627551/?p=29

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Posted by 4evercharm
She said... I am the most Wonderful Man....

Bro, did she have a monotone? Thas how u know it's for reelz.

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So let me ask everyone this question, if i send a text and ask how is everything? Why does she not respond to that one? It truly is a hit and miss with her. Yesterday was a hit....today...who knows.

Posted by 4evercharm
So let me ask everyone this question, if i send a text and ask how is everything? Why does she not respond to that one? It truly is a hit and miss with her. Yesterday was a hit....today...who knows.

Like how do you mean? Does it take her awhile to respond? Or does she ignore that text but answer other texts?

You have to meet her in person. Otherwise she'll get bored with your texts and she will eventually leave you.

I will write in early AM and she will respond 5pm. Sometimes not at all and other times a bit earlier.

This is the first woman that does not respond all the time.

So, this is a new world to me with her.

I get all of this now and making adjustments accordingly.

Indeed... she is smart for sure....

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
Why do you need a response?

...so you have something to do with your life I guess...like responding! Lol

So let me give you an example of her reaction during the last blow up. She said, I do not want this anymore and I said fine with me. I then said... I have nothing more to day...she replied...great. So at 10pm that night, she send me a text...so its really over? I did not respond. Then 12pm the next day, she said... if its over, am deleting my skype as I do not need it. We did get back together a week later.

I think some form of a response is the right thing to do.

How do you think she will like me to play her game on her?

So the moral of the story is she is NOT being a VIRGO and more of game going down here?

I do not like games and will end this faster than you can say: Cat in a Hat!!

Posted by 4evercharm
So let me give you an example of her reaction during the last blow up. She said, I do not want this anymore and I said fine with me. I then said... I have nothing more to day...she replied...great. So at 10pm that night, she send me a text...so its really over? I did not respond. Then 12pm the next day, she said... if its over, am deleting my skype as I do not need it. We did get back together a week later.

I think some form of a response is the right thing to do.

abort!!! abort abort!!!!

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Posted by 4evercharm
So let me give you an example of her reaction during the last blow up. She said, I do not want this anymore and I said fine with me. I then said... I have nothing more to day...she replied...great. So at 10pm that night, she send me a text...so its really over? I did not respond. Then 12pm the next day, she said... if its over, am deleting my skype as I do not need it. We did get back together a week later.

I think some form of a response is the right thing to do.

Serious question: are you a fucking bird?!? Cockatiel?!? African Grey?!? Moluccan?!? Parakeet?!?

She's breadcrumbing your fucking ass ...

Shut. It. The. Fuck. Down. NOW!!

It's this simple and not complicated ...

Breadcrumbing + Gaslighting =

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exactly!!! shes playing for sure! shut. that shit down!

Recently, I got dumped by a Virgo. I was just like you to the point I got irritated. She told me she could n't reciprocate with my affection. Just like you I have a Leo moon and my relationship with her was mostly online. I was too demanding, I would text her every now and then to the point she got irritated.

The best you can do right now is try to meet her in person. Right now she is over thinking your relationship with her. You have to give her details that you truly love her. This can either be through actions (recommended) or words. After this she will stop playing games with you. She is only doing it to test you. You have to be honest with her.

I have had great success with two Scorpios. They too disappear often and are really terrible in responding. This Virgo will respond eventually. Sometimes its a wonderful response and other times its a one liner. This is why I called it hot and cold.

LMFAOO just wait until she allows herself to be comfortable with you. Or more comfortable w you than she is now.

It took me a few months to warm up to my Leo ex. I remember when I told him upfront that I wanted to SUCC the everlasting soul outta him, he was S H O O K

Ahhhh good times

In most cases, she will respond same day.

I am listening.....Thanks!

So my next question is how to talk to her or work with her to change behavior? She asked me to be more patient with her and I did. How do i get her to meet me in the middle? To improve communication?

Posted by 4evercharm
So my next question is how to talk to her or work with her to change behavior? She asked me to be more patient with her and I did. How do i get her to meet me in the middle? To improve communication?

See her in person and talk.

i was thinking every hour....

Okay... I will stop posting... i get the point.

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
Sync your Google calenders so she knows to text/call you every 2 hours.

Yessss. Virgo women love this!

Make sure you erase all of her reminders though...that way yours only shows up. You don't want her to miss the 2 hour intervals. Safe bet is to set a reminder for the reminder.



Man....I can't wait till someone syncs my Google calendar with theirs.

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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
Sync your Google calenders so she knows to text/call you every 2 hours.

Yessss. Virgo women love this!

Make sure you erase all of her reminders though...that way yours only shows up. You don't want her to miss the 2 hour intervals. Safe bet is to set a reminder for the reminder.





Man....I can't wait till someone syncs my Google calendar with theirs. click to expand

It's very efficient and organized.. click to expand

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It really is! It's a virgals dream..

OP...make sure you color code.

Red for phone calls

Green for texts.

We like pretty colors.

Yes - i get it.... keep the comments coming....

What color for skype?

Posted by 4evercharm
Yes - i get it.... keep the comments coming....

What color for skype?

Pink...hot pink. You want her to be able to see it.

I like pink.... but she likes orange too. We can use orange for the next wonderful idea.

Maybe she needs an apple watch as back up.

Posted by 4evercharm
I like pink.... but she likes orange too. We can use orange for the next wonderful idea.

Maybe she needs an apple watch as back up.

She does...see, now you're thinking.

Orange for either snap chat or WhatsApp (you need a backup in case skype is down)

i am thinking two apple watches one for each arm.

This is going to get expensive but money is no object for me.

Posted by 4evercharm
i am thinking two apple watches one for each arm.

This is going to get expensive but money is no object for me.

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Well, she ended it today out of the blue. I guess her actions were spot to reality after all.

Yes - i was not happy...trying to understand her....but as soon as she ended it... then she wrote to me 1/2 later

All of my friends want to me end it with her and move on... its been a messy situation.