Virgo's do not show any Emotions (Page 2)

Im very interested in a this Virgo. On our first date he was very shy and it was adorable. But when he dropped me off, he texted me immediately and said "You're a bad ass, Im pretty pumped to continue this". Im a Sag w a Sag rising, btw. I have a very strong and open personality but I stay classy and down to earth. I feel like he and I share a lot of similar outlooks on life and future goals in general.. but heres the thing.. When things seemed like they were going great.. he introduced me to everyone he knows and they all loved me and he'd text me every morning and when he was just hanging out etc... but then I decided I liked this guy enough that I wanted to explain to him wut I do for a living, BC HE NEVER ASKED. I have no problem with what I do, but most guys do. So, I told him Im a solo performing webcam girl. Have been for a long time, but I dont advertise because when I tell guys they immediately think its ok to be sexual and dirty with me because they view me differently after they know. After 3 dates and one month, we finally slept together and it was AMAZING. It was 2 hours and even had an intermission of him playing guitar for me..which im not at all mushy, but that was pretty cute. Hes a bar tender, and when I told him he said "well at least its not stripping. I understand I do body shots and flirt for tips". So I thought we were ok. He was always pretty vague when we talked before.. but after our third time sleeping together, it just got to like one word answers. Then he started saying a lot of sexual and dirty things randomly via text instead of sweet like they used to be.. it broke me a bit. So I stoped talking to him for a lil over a month. Out of no where I decided to go to his bar and chil with some friends and he gave me free beer and said "hello" etc. Was very sweet. So when I left i texted him and said thank u for the beer... and he started flirting with me again. In a nut shell, I told him I liked him, and that I know neither of us want or need a relationship after hat we went through with our ex's.. but asked him to get out of his comfort zone and just hang out with me instead of sex like it always is. He asked me wut I like about him, and I told him its his goals and morals and how once burned it takes a lot to regain trust, if at all.. bc hes a lot like me. So he said ok lets do sushi sometime. Never happened.... we slept together the other days and it was amazing like always... but i seriously have no idea wut to think at this po

Be upfront with your desires ShareBear23. Thats all.

I have been. I told him Im not wanting to commit, but def am not the type to play games or sleep with just anyone habitually. I told him I wasnt guna go jump off a cliff but I would like him to get to know me and vice versa. And thats when he said we should go for sushi sometime. Then after a few times of him asking me to come over for a movie late at night, knowing I like him, and saying im too busy every time... then caving the other night wanting to see him and thinking we were just going to hang out. It was amazing, thats not the point lol. I just want more with him, not a serious committed anything! I would even settle knowing if he even liked me a little! I just don't get it because he acts like it. Hes shy around me and used to be very very sweet and romantic. Like he wanted to sit at the same spot in the restaurant from our first date. Played guitar for me and laughed for a bit in between hrs of sex. Texted me every morning "good morning beautiful". His entire family of friends adore me and talk to me and give me free drinks every time I go into his bar, yet he will NEVER talk to me or barely even acknowledge me when I go in there.. which is seldom. Except once recently which sparked us seeing each other again. Im so confused....lol sry

Posted by ShareBear23
I have been. I told him Im not wanting to commit,

^^This^^ Maybe he wants more from you than you can give. Maybe he had thoughts of a serious relationship...

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Because nothing ventured is nothing gained 64.192. Im totally sprung over a Virgo girl. Ive never met anyone who is so perfect in my eyes. We converged harmonically and complement each other incredibly, however I think we may have gotten too close , much faster than she expected which aroused her fear of being hurt, and she became distant.. This combined with her Virgo tendency to suppress her feelings almost led me to believe that she'd grown totally indifferent. Then I realized that even though she'd distanced herself, she continued to affirm her love for me, just not so much verbally. It was the little things she did that I alone could percieve which left me no doubt that she loved me , just as much as I do her. We needed to avoid unwanted friction and meddling from our respective families, so our relationship developed undercover. Circumstance dictates that it remain that way (but not for long!!!). Due to our individual living situations ,we dont have much freedom to be with each other in person whenever we want, but we supplement this by being in constant contact through other means. We both know that each of us is there for the other........ and always will be.

And Lol at the beginning of this thread! 2 Unregisters talking to each other?

Sugar coated version; he is shy and he is feeding off the signals that you have been sending him.Being okay with his dirty txts and still continuing seeing him on his timetable.You said yourself that you don't want a committment but you want more of him.Sometimes the two are separate,sometimes they are not.Seeing more of each other + catching feelings = committment.Suggest some daytime activity to get to know him and he can get to know you.Explain to him what you are looking for and asks him what he wants.Talking will take it to the next step.Talk about what type of relationship you two can have.If you label it,the ground rules will be clear ,stick to them and no one gets hurt.


Big girl version;he figures you're all about the sex,as soon as you said,non committed night time visiting,you've set the tone for you two.He introduced you so his family can put a name to the face.If you get your friends to go in there without you,you'll be able to know whether he is giving away free drinks to anyone else.Bartenders are about the socializing because that's how they make money.That's a pretty exciting enviroment to try to get someone to be an exclusive anything.Dodge sleeping with him until you have a daytime date confirmed.If you act like a fwb girl,he'll treat you that way.It's hard to move things out of that box into anything deeper more.I know you didn't say deeper,you said more.Treat yourself well ,and he will too or leave you for his target type.That is the chance you take whn you speak up to step it up to the next level.Cook a meal together,you two won't be dehydrated from hours of amazement.You have got to let him see you as a potential and not just a psst hey there.

Either way good luck.

^^^ "The Closer". Nuff said.

VLass-- I completely agree. I just want to ask the Male Virgo, what do u prefer? Someone thats hard to get and doesnt tolerate the push and pull, up and down mixed signals? Or a girl that will not be persistent or pushy, but def up front and honest. I know Virgos dont like to express their feels especially after being burned, and he had mentioned he didnt want a relationship because he doesnt want to put the energy in it like he did his ex.. which ended "horribly" he says. IDK wut that means, he wont open up to me. And I dont volunteer info either, and since he doesnt ask me anything about me, he knows nothing except my profession. I like your idea about cooking together... I appreciate that! I think thats a great way to talk yet be doing something together. 🙂

I understand and respect that, but he will stop and say hi and chat with almost anyone right in front of me and ignore me completely other wise. Everyone else at his work LOVES and talks to me a lot when im there... he can do it here and there too, he chooses not to 😢 Hes super super shy around me...

I showed him a link to the new Musical Instrument Museum here in Phoenix, because he loves guitar and music like I do.. and said Ive been wanting to go and asked if he'd ever been. He said hed never gone but it looks cool. So I said, u should go with me. And he just never responded. I honestly am so confused. He treats me like a gf when people arent around, and then is totally stand offish to me in public or even through anything phone related. I just want to know if he likes me or seriously doesnt want ne thing more than sex.

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why show emotion? there has to be a need because there has to be a reason

i love psychoanalysis, who wants to play?

i guess when there is injustice, i will show emotion. when there is virtue, i will show emotion. otherwise i dont see a need

Define what virtue means to you...? You're a Virgo I assume? Im trying to get this guy to branch out of his comfort zone of pushing me away, and actually get to know me and hang out. But idk if hes already dead set on not going there. I asked why he didnt like me one time and he said "I dont? Im sorry hun, I just dont want to put in the effort and my last relationship ended terribly" .... so does that pretty much seal the deal? Or is he trying to get me to chase him..? Because he thne asked me what I like about him. And when I said we share similar views on life, music, and morals.. he said "ok lets do sushi".. never happened.

Posted by ShareBear23
Define what virtue means to you...? You're a Virgo I assume? Im trying to get this guy to branch out of his comfort zone of pushing me away, and actually get to know me and hang out. But idk if hes already dead set on not going there. I asked why he didnt like me one time and he said "I dont? Im sorry hun, I just dont want to put in the effort and my last relationship ended terribly" .... so does that pretty much seal the deal? Or is he trying to get me to chase him..? Because he thne asked me what I like about him. And when I said we share similar views on life, music, and morals.. he said "ok lets do sushi".. never happened.

moral excellence, holiness, that kind of thing

if he wont come out of his comfort zone (and you wonder why) your best strategy is to get into his comfort zone (and you wonder why)

It just takes time and patience.

Zeo- could you elaborate 😛 ?

Pandybear- Please, do enlighten me then. I have noticed the signs differ with gender. I know the female Virgo well. I need to learn the Male side

I get that, but we waited after almost 2 months a 3 dates to have sex for the first time. We've only hooked up a few times in the last few months. I try to see him when I can of if he'll see me, but thats rare unless we're hooking up. Ive also noticed this Virgo does NOT like to communicate. Every time I say anything non-vague via writing of ne kind he asks me to use cliff note versions. I know the Virgo is critical, but if I am trying to get some kind of point across it takes more than 3 words for me unfortunately. And I think its real messed up that he doesnt care to read ne thing i say. He said its too long to read. I thought Virgos were supposed to be intellectuals and love conversation. This guy is vague and shy and apparently doesnt even like to listen. IDK... i think im done with him

Posted by ShareBear23
Zeo- could you elaborate 😛 ?

Pandybear- Please, do enlighten me then. I have noticed the signs differ with gender. I know the female Virgo well. I need to learn the Male side

seriously??

if you are operating outside his comfort zone, good luck, you are working with a deactivated substrate

you must work inside his comfort zone because the substrate is activated and a reaction will happen

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Posted by ShareBear23
Zeo- could you elaborate 😛 ?

Pandybear- Please, do enlighten me then. I have noticed the signs differ with gender. I know the female Virgo well. I need to learn the Male side

seriously??

if you are operating outside his comfort zone, good luck, you are working with a deactivated substrate

you must work inside his comfort zone because the substrate is activated and a reaction will happen

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This is a very sci-fi type answer Zeo...lol

its chemistry, sorry i'm a chemist

Posted by zeoblade
its chemistry, sorry i'm a chemist

Of course! *smacks palm to forehead* Should've paid more attention in Chem class...🙂

Sometimes people perceive you as being "weak" when you're too emotional. Unfortunately emotions can rule over your life if you let them. You have to control them. Most virgos know how to do this. I'm one so I know.

that is correct, we virgo rule our emotion instead

The head rules the heart, and surely not the other way 'round.

k i wuna say something about that Pandy. I think you're right! My guy Virgo seems controlling in some ways, and has openly admitted how he likes to be in control. He tells others how he feels like if he were with ne one it would be me, but treats me like he doesnt need nor want me to keep me at arms reach to protect himself I think. What are ur thoughts? He also only talks about sexual stuff w me and said he doesnt want to hang out or get to know me because he wants to focus on other things right now. So im very confused, but I think I get it. Either way, I dont play games, and this is too much for me.

Posted by Pandybear
No way.. Sometimes your heart rules and you just cant help it. Thats why I dont understand why we get pegged as emotionless or cold.. Sometimes we choose not to acknowledge or relate to someones emotions in order to have the upper hand in the situation and be clear headed enough to maneuver both of us back to safety in such situations. We can sort of disconnect but in no way does that mean that we dont have a heart.

when does your heart rule and you cant help it? i know when there is a lot of positive emotional energy, the only situation when i dont suppress it is when the action doesnt result in some sort of error or detriment. otherwise i will use it as an excellent driving force, especially when i am alone and practicing. when you are in control of our earth element, you have to know when, where, how, why, who to achieve the what

you can send an email if you dont want to tell everyone

also sometimes suppression can build up that potential to be the driving force at a later stage to get you further. dont prematurely use it when you can use it more productively in another situation

Virgos do show lots of emotion. They turn into quivering piles of nervousness from overwhelming emotions. They just don't know how to express it well is all. It's cute 🙂

I agree Pandy, total doucher. Even with trust issues the first month we dated he did a lot to show his interest in me. Took me out for sushi our first date, our second he wanted to go bak to the same place and sit right where we sat the first time and payed attention to what i said about what makes me happy and would do little things like text me every morning and say "morning gorgeous" or whatever. He took me to petsmart one time because I told him its like my playground bc i love animals.. just out of no where, and then bought a movie i wanted to see and we just had a great night. One time I went into his bar and it was busy and he asked a mutual friend to make sure i wasnt getting hit on, like he was protective. The first time we had sex it was like 2 hours with an intermission of him playing guitar for me, which i dont usually do sappy but that was cute.. he was impressed how i knew every song he played.. we seemed to be really hitting ti off. He even said the first month he was "pumped to continue this" . But, I think after I told him wut i did for a living, it was like he turned into this perv w me from then on. And I had thought he understood it was work, not a life style . In case u didnt see that part, I am a webcam model. Its solo and im at home and its completely private so no one knows i do it. So I told him if i DIDNT like him, he'd never know. Its just very confusing...

i am sensitive to wolves in sheep's clothing

i cant stand fake people, either send them into exile or eliminate them

justice must be maintained and injustice must be stamped out

what do you mean? maybe its because you are girly and i am a good boy...zeo is a good boy...

Posted by Pandybear
I find sometimes im much more sensitive than my Cancer sister & my Pisces friends (twins) (who cry alot 😢) but I try to keep my emotional outbursts under wraps

Yeah my sister is a pisces and she cries when watching certain movies. I'm sitting there like are you effing serious? I have a hard time crying in front of my own mother & I'm her baby!! I just can't do the emotional outbursts like that...and on top of all of that she does that annoying as fuck "waving of the hands" thing that chicks do...OMG I sooooo hate that...

Posted by Unregistered
M He seemed to move on quickly, while I had to put back together a very broken heart.

Im a Virgo and that made me sad. Thats kind of an emotion.
I cant speak for all Virgo males but for me, there was one time when I wanted to talk about what I felt but I was told to just get over shit and move on, so I figured thats the normal thing to do, especially as a male.

At least now, I talk to myself about how I feel and i realized that everyone gets hurt and sometimes there is no magic once someone who loved you has begun loving someone else.
In my opinion the most powerful things on Earth are Love and your Dreams.
If you dont have a dream to pursue when Love leaves....you could be in big trouble. Because pursuing your dreams are a HUGE sign that you really Love yourself enough to be able to pick yourself up if you fail even when you know there wont be anyone else there.

And thats the 411, chica.

Posted by zeoblade
what do you mean? maybe its because you are girly and i am a good boy...zeo is a good boy...

I'm not sure if the reference you made was intentional or not but I am greatly humoured by your post Zeo!

Sorry, I didn't read through all the posts here but in my opinion which is rather worthless on the internet virgos guard their emotions to an extent and make up for it in randomness/hyperness and that is one of the reasons why I love virgos! Seriously amazing people under this sign!

sometimes i want to play because everyone always depends on me to be serious and high work throughput

so i often play to relax and exercise my right brain, especially around other virgo

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Posted by zeoblade
what do you mean? maybe its because you are girly and i am a good boy...zeo is a good boy...

I'm not sure if the reference you made was intentional or not but I am greatly humoured by your post Zeo!

Sorry, I didn't read through all the posts here but in my opinion which is rather worthless on the internet virgos guard their emotions to an extent and make up for it in randomness/hyperness and that is one of the reasons why I love virgos! Seriously amazing people under this sign!

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Love your profile. LOL.
Funny stuff.

I want more. lol.

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I find sometimes im much more sensitive than my Cancer sister & my Pisces friends (twins) (who cry alot 😢) but I try to keep my emotional outbursts under wraps

Yeah my sister is a pisces and she cries when watching certain movies. I'm sitting there like are you effing serious? I have a hard time crying in front of my own mother & I'm her baby!! I just can't do the emotional outbursts like that...and on top of all of that she does that annoying as fuck "waving of the hands" thing that chicks do...OMG I sooooo hate that...

lol you mean when shes wailing? im not quite sure i know what you mean.

zeo, yeah it must be the hormones 😛.

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When some women start to cry, they wave their hands back & forth near their face. IDK if that's some kind of motion to dry the tears or what but whenever I see it...it makes my skin crawl.

Are Virgo Males Jealous?

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Posted by Pandybear
I find sometimes im much more sensitive than my Cancer sister & my Pisces friends (twins) (who cry alot 😢) but I try to keep my emotional outbursts under wraps

Yeah my sister is a pisces and she cries when watching certain movies. I'm sitting there like are you effing serious? I have a hard time crying in front of my own mother & I'm her baby!! I just can't do the emotional outbursts like that...and on top of all of that she does that annoying as fuck "waving of the hands" thing that chicks do...OMG I sooooo hate that...

lol you mean when shes wailing? im not quite sure i know what you mean.

zeo, yeah it must be the hormones 😛.

When some women start to cry, they wave their hands back & forth near their face. IDK if that's some kind of motion to dry the tears or what but whenever I see it...it makes my skin crawl.

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LMFAO! I think it's done for theatrical effects, but it's some weird attempt to stop the tears from coming (fanning them?) to keep their makeup from running. Mostly theatrical, I'm guessing, lol.

When interested in a male Virgo, Ive read that the one of the worst things to do is to be to available. Does that translate to, don't text or call HIM? let HIM contact ME? Virgo men, please explain to me what intrigues you.. Are you guys that like what you cant have as long as she's a smart classy gal? The "hard-to-get, sexy yet intelligent woman" ?

Ok Ok im so freaken confused!!!!!!! How th hell do you persue a virgo woman already in this withdrawn state of mind. I mean im crazy about her but she has suddenly just stop textin and letting me see her for th past month, Im a gemini and this is killing me because we are all about communication but i cant get her to open up SOOO frustrating!!!!!!!

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M He seemed to move on quickly, while I had to put back together a very broken heart.

Im a Virgo and that made me sad. Thats kind of an emotion.
I cant speak for all Virgo males but for me, there was one time when I wanted to talk about what I felt but I was told to just get over shit and move on, so I figured thats the normal thing to do, especially as a male.

At least now, I talk to myself about how I feel and i realized that everyone gets hurt and sometimes there is no magic once someone who loved you has begun loving someone else.
In my opinion the most powerful things on Earth are Love and your Dreams.
If you dont have a dream to pursue when Love leaves....you could be in big trouble. Because pursuing your dreams are a HUGE sign that you really Love yourself enough to be able to pick yourself up if you fail even when you know there wont be anyone else there.

And thats the 411, chica.

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that was a very beautiful thing to say.
you speak with doves in your mouth; poetry.

I'm involved with a Virgo ( with Sag moon) and he is overly emotional. Plus he confuses me with his feeling because one day, he'll be really flirty, the other suddenly too quiet it sometimes drives me nuts. But I guess, it's because they need time to think as they are always overly analytical of their emotions plus the situation. Nevertheless, I feel in my heart that he wants to assure me that he is capable of loving and committing through his actions and the way he let's me in his life by sharing the intense emotions that he feels and shares it only with me. Virgos are wonderful people. They just need someone who is flexible, not too clingy and patient who will understand that things come in the right time. They will let you in, in the perfect time when they are ready to express what they feel.

I'm married to a Virgo: Virgo Sun, Aries Ascendant, Cancer Moon, Mercury Leo, Venus Libra, Mars Taurus. We were married 14 years; divorced 4 years; reconciled 1 year. He never ever stopped trying, never gave up. He is very emotional and possessive.

Am I the unattainable smart classy gal, the hard-to-get, sexy yet intelligent woman? Maybe.

Huh?

Posted by twinkee77
I have mixed feeling about virgos emotions. I think that virgo men can be extremely emotional,but the women have little emotion.

Virgo women gets a lot of attention from a virgo male perspective they seem pretty selfish because dude blow their heads up way out of proportion. Virgo men don't really show people how they feel besides their mate which could be pretty harsh how give all our world's problem to one particular person. Virgo men do have baggage yes, and I believe that yes virgo women are self aware. But I'm pretty overgeneralizing.

blah, blah, blah .... your emotional outpours are insufferable