When a virgo ignores you on purpose

Is it passive aggressive backllash? You've offended him/her and he/shes letting you figure it out on your own...?

Tried sending a text to see what was up and then hours later left a voicemail to see if that would help ease things over. Still nothing.

it is impossible to ignore other than on purpose ... since the word means to refuse to acknowledge

have some fucking dignity and step away from a person who ignores you



however, here you are showing us how clingy you are to a person who would rather not communicate with you ... so the reality of my first sentence is far beyond your ability to comprehend.


If you could comprehend it, then this thread wouldn't exit

* exist

Posted by P-Angel

have some fucking dignity and step away from a person who ignores you



however, here you are showing us how clingy you are to a person who would rather not communicate with you ... so the reality of my first sentence is far beyond your ability to comprehend.


If you could comprehend it, then this thread wouldn't exit

I did I backed off- Im just confused

It really pisses me off when people, mainly women, use the word "confused" to mean, insecure.

Posted by imoanbackwards
Is it passive aggressive backllash? You've offended him/her and he/shes letting you figure it out on your own...?

Tried sending a text to see what was up and then hours later left a voicemail to see if that would help ease things over. Still nothing.

😆 😆 😆 hahahaahahaha give me a minute, HAHAHAAHA *wipes eyes* 😆 okay okay, not a Virgo, but I've been there done that. In fact, didn't do anything. He didn't 'feel' it anymore, and didn't want to 'hurt' me...I didn't feel it to begin with so I didn't really get too worked up. But I say, if you did say something harsh and the Virgo started acting strange, their hurt....whereas if nothing happened and they started acting weird and then ignored you, it might be a loss of interest and they don't want to be bothered and don't know what to say....and lastly, if they were cool and straight out of the blue started ignoring you...well they can either just be busy, want time alone, or really aren't interested anymore. Virgos are the kinds of people who will care about you a lot, but when it comes to their personal time, let them have it, and don't intrude. They don't always feel like replying and it could last a while, and if that's not for you, I say don't go for virgos. That's what I do....stay away if I can. Hope this helped!

It doesn't matter why a person doesn't want you.

What matters is that you don't lower yourself to his regard of you by giving him credit enough for you to exert yourself (any part of you) on his behalf.


wtf? .. I have no clue why people do that.


Hey, look - he doesn't want me .. I'm nothing to him --- let me chase him down so I can pity myself some more.

Posted by P-Angel

It really pisses me off when people, mainly women, use the word "confused" to mean, insecure.

Hey hey hey! Fuck off...you don't know how it feels. It's very confusing wondering what you did. Personally I didn't give a rats ass if I hurt the guy, I was just curious as to what I did, and why he wouldn't talk. Finally he told me he didn't have the balls to break up, but it's very confusing and curious people and restless people need the stability of closure.

Posted by P-Angel

have some fucking dignity and step away from a person who ignores you



however, here you are showing us how clingy you are to a person who would rather not communicate with you ... so the reality of my first sentence is far beyond your ability to comprehend.


If you could comprehend it, then this thread wouldn't exit

What should my response be when they do come back around? One of my best friends is like this. Her also being a virgo. When we get in an argument or I've upset her she gets defensive and doesn't talk to me. I let it go and go on with life. She will later end up sending me a text of something funny like a week or two later. We rarely ever talk about what happened again or if we do we apologize and laugh hard about how stupid we were being. Its easier with her because were friends. I just give her space and let her come back to me. Should I take the same approach with someone I am dating? The thing with her is I know why she is mad or upset. Vice versa if I am upset with her she knows why. I have no idea what he is mad and upset about- or if he even is. I didn't know I was being clingy but what should I do? Back off and let him come to me.

I would at least like to know what I did so I can prevent it from happening again.

You're not confused.

People learn at the age of where they start to recollect 4/5 years old, in how to deal with other people. This starts with siblings, when they fight with you, or hug you, and everywhere inbetween.

The sooner you learn to own your feelings, the better off you are.

Posted by P-Angel

It really pisses me off when people, mainly women, use the word "confused" to mean, insecure.

I can tell

Posted by imoanbackwards

What should my response be when they do come back around?

The thing with her is I know why she is mad or upset.
I have no idea what he is mad and upset about- or if he even is.

I would at least like to know what I did so I can prevent it from happening again.

There shouldn't be an "again" ... ever

Why would you even use an example of friendship and try to correlate it to a bf ... are you a child here?

A woman of integrity and pride isn't still standing there should he decide to choose her.

None of this has ever been about him and his reasons .. it's about you, and what you decide for yourself as being acceptable.

Why doesn't every adult know that .. is my question?

Posted by P-Angel

You're not confused.

People learn at the age of where they start to recollect 4/5 years old, in how to deal with other people. This starts with siblings, when they fight with you, or hug you, and everywhere inbetween.

The sooner you learn to own your feelings, the better off you are.

That I can understand and you are 100% correct about it too. It goes back to the only person you can control or know about is yourself.

Posted by imoanbackwards

Posted by P-Angel

have some fucking dignity and step away from a person who ignores you



however, here you are showing us how clingy you are to a person who would rather not communicate with you ... so the reality of my first sentence is far beyond your ability to comprehend.


If you could comprehend it, then this thread wouldn't exit

What should my response be when they do come back around? One of my best friends is like this. Her also being a virgo. When we get in an argument or I've upset her she gets defensive and doesn't talk to me. I let it go and go on with life. She will later end up sending me a text of something funny like a week or two later. We rarely ever talk about what happened again or if we do we apologize and laugh hard about how stupid we were being. Its easier with her because were friends. I just give her space and let her come back to me. Should I take the same approach with someone I am dating? The thing with her is I know why she is mad or upset. Vice versa if I am upset with her she knows why. I have no idea what he is mad and upset about- or if he even is. I didn't know I was being clingy but what should I do? Back off and let him come to me.

I would at least like to know what I did so I can prevent it from happening again.

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Yes yes yes! I too have a Virgo best friend. But she disappears randomly, we don't even have to get in a fight, it's just her and I accept it and love her regardless. But what this other one is doing..it's a big no no and not okay. Speaking of Virgo best friends....I should tell her happy bday lol brb

And of course you're being clingy.

If a person doesn't want you, and you are texting him, posting on forums about him, and wasting your love on it ... then that means you are clinging to the fantasy that you might be loved.


Because in reality .... he doesn't love you .. he doesn't even regard you with enough respect to care about responding to you.


So why the fuck does this thread even exist?

so you can sit there an glorify over how wonderful it is to embrace feeling hurt?



:::: shakes head ::::

What are your signs?

Posted by imoanbackwards

... the only person you can control or know about is yourself.

Apply that now, and with your whole life.

You are your life's director .... you make you

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by imoanbackwards

What should my response be when they do come back around?

The thing with her is I know why she is mad or upset.
I have no idea what he is mad and upset about- or if he even is.

I would at least like to know what I did so I can prevent it from happening again.

There shouldn't be an "again" ... ever

Why would you even use an example of friendship and try to correlate it to a bf ... are you a child here?

A woman of integrity and pride isn't still standing there should he decide to choose her.

None of this has ever been about him and his reasons .. it's about you, and what you decide for yourself as being acceptable.

Why doesn't every adult know that .. is my question?

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I do struggle with that because I let fear get in the way of seeing the bigger picture. At the end of the day I am a person too and I shouldn't stand there like a child waiting to get picked again. In my head its not acceptable and I should make that clear. I get what you are saying. I wasn't looking at it in that way. I was staying focoused on him and when he'll be back and what I can do better instead of looking and putting me first. What he is doing is not okay with me.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by imoanbackwards

... the only person you can control or know about is yourself.

Apply that now, and with your whole life.

You are your life's director .... you make you

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Thank you P-Angel, that helped me this morning. I know it drives you crazy but I wasn't focused on the right thing.

It does drive me crazy when people let their minds slip ... but, you didn't drive me crazy this morning.


and you're welcome

*sigh* dating is hard lol

EVERYTHING P-Angel is saying is true!

I know I need to apply this in my life. I've learned to chase men when my dad wasn't interested , I had to call and text him. Then hear him tell me he loves me then mistreats my sisters and I. So the pain gets easy to acustome to. Something I really need to work on.

Posted by imoanbackwards
Is it passive aggressive backllash? You've offended him/her and he/shes letting you figure it out on your own...?

Tried sending a text to see what was up and then hours later left a voicemail to see if that would help ease things over. Still nothing.

It is absolutely on purpose. There is no doubt about it. While this action may come across as being non proactive, it absolutely is an active gesture. Anyone who gives you the silent treatment for any reason knows exactly what they are doing. And in some cases, it's an absolute cruel action.

I understand what P angel is saying about being insecure etc. if you are the ignored and try pursuing someone without any response, in THIS scenario, it can come across as clingy. But it's human nature to want open communication with someone you care about etc.

Now here's where I completely differ with P angel. There are SOME scenarios where an explanation at the very least is warranted when someone coldly cuts off another, especially in a relationship that has been close, whether it's BF/GF or a very close friend.

I have been the "ignored" one for 4 months. I was invited to meet with an individual at an outside sports event. He personally invited me and asked me to "Please Come." I showed up and not only did he barely acknowledge me, he didn't call me by my name, which was a first in 34 years, and he gave me the silent treatment for the time I was there before I decided I had had enough and left.

Some would say in regards to this scenario that I should have ignored him and moved on. In MOST cases, that is what I would have done. However, this was a 34 long rapport. We were close. So I felt obligated to call him out and simply ask for an explanation as to his reasoning for ignoring me. I sent him a concise and non emotional email. That was 4 months ago. I have not heard from him since. He meant a lot to me. It's hard for me to cut people out of my life that coldly.

I realize Virgo men need a lot of time to "think" and "analyze." However, I truly believe they have no idea how much they hurt someone they cared about for a long time. While some like P angel may believe this is "clingy", I view it as a man who is insecure. It takes fortitude to be honest. It takes very little to run away and hide.