Wife best friend coming on to me? (Page 4)

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So my Venus is the problem? I feel like a doormat to her too strangely

Posted by iVirgo
So my Venus is the problem? I feel like a doormat to her too strangely

Stop. Your Venus is not "The Problem."

Just go to therapy and take your wife. Don't feel like you need to rush into any decisions.

Guess who is at my door

.... wife's friend & her husband , I really hope it's No BS on me.I just put the kids to sleep, and I dnt Want deal with anymore drama,

I just want go away to another world, before I snap and go crazy

And they are still knocking ....

I'll be back in a few

Posted by iVirgo
Guess who is at my door

.... wife's friend & her husband , I really hope it's No BS on me.I just put the kids to sleep, and I dnt Want deal with anymore drama,

I just want go away to another world, before I snap and go crazy

And they are still knocking ....

Omg.. so crazy. I hope they don't murder you. jfc.

Probably they mean no harm. They're supposedly your "friends" too right?

Anyways. Holy cow. I just remembered. The astrological weather relating to the current Mercury Retrograde is very Pluto heavy.. so digging up past secrets, lovers, betrayals, etc.

Whoa.

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Posted by duchesslibro
Probably they mean no harm. They're supposedly your "friends" too right?

Anyways. Holy cow. I just remembered. The astrological weather relating to the current Mercury Retrograde is very Pluto heavy.. so digging up past secrets, lovers, betrayals, etc.

Whoa.

See, I would have the same mindset as you, but the fact that they showed up without calling or warning AND it's right after he forwarded those messages to the husband earlier today Tells me that their intentions showing up together are not good at all.

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I posted just above that my initial reaction,

Posted by iVirgo
I'll be back in a few

A few beers?

My big concern, now that it's at the point of no return thanks to the contacting of the husband, is the kids who at the very least might overhear something disturbing if OP has a discussion with the friends within earshot, and of course violence is always possible too. I wouldn't let the husband and wife into my home at the very least to spare the kids from that.

Moon moves into Aries in twenty minutes or so. Yikes.

Posted by exo
iviggo never came back. everyone's dead.

It's only been about 40 minutes or so.. Maybe they're.. just talking......?

^^^ sexy lol

i hope you come back alive op.

you are a drama queen (not king) though. you made bad decisions and brought drama into your life. based on this, i would draw a conclusion that you also contributed to the issue you are having with your wife.

i didn't read the whole thread but if your wife cheated before you were married in college when you started dating a decade ago, again, i think you are a drama queen kicking her out with the youngest kid. were you even in a committed relationship when you were in college?

now you and your wife is separated, she is fee to fuck any man she want, without the title of being a cheater. thanks to you.

Posted by iVirgo
Life sucks, I just want the routine I had back, it was simple it was no drama, now everybody is either gossiping or trying to call and find out details. I really hate things being so public.

My wife so called friend has not contacted me, which is good.

her husband finally responded with "oh really " but I know he got the text earlier because he must have called her because she text me upset.

Picking the kids up, and cook dinner (KFC) and watch a movie (ON-DEMAND)

now, who made it pubic? YOU and YOU. brilliant

you should only make it public when you have made a decision that it is a point of no return. divorce without a doubt. but no, you talked about this is just a punishment and you really do not want a divorce.

you are an idiot

That was crazy.

He went from 1 to 100, he asked me what's going on between us. I told him "Nothing" she then interrupted me and said "why r u trying to stir up problem because your wife is a cheater, and that I'm a joke-With her arms crossed -her husband then said we're is your proof because what u r accusing my wife of is serious ..(says the man who cheats on her because it was a rainy day and he need a ride home from work so he banged his Co worker for ride home)

Soooooo I pulled my phone out...

I showed him the 1st text I sent him directly, the text to inform him, that his wife is asking to see me late at night while he is at work which she's never done,

Also the compliment about how nice and attractive I am, and the few text about leaving him because he is a no good cheater, he is a no good liar, how much my wife messed up a good man, and how her husband messed up a good women.

He read the text, his eyes wide and eye brows roled up, he read everything.....e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g.....

he looked at her, his words not mines" you f......g B.....h I made my mistakes but you said u forgave me, you said this is all passed us and to focus on the future but you r planning to leave me, and cheat with my friend
(why he called me friend IDK)
She looked at me and said "I cant believe u just did that to me. All I could see in her eyes was rage and hate, my God.

His last words ...you want to be a slut punta go be 1 with him since you like him so much, she just stood there head down , as he yelled at her. He left few moments later, he drove up the street with out her, then did a u turn and pulled back and honked..She walked away and got in his car.

@aquapisces

I dnt drink beer at home, only at bars.

As the world turns....

Oh yay you're alive!

Posted by iCloud9
you should only make it public when you have made a decision that it is a point of no return. divorce without a doubt. but no, you talked about this is just a punishment and you really do not want a divorce.

you are an idiot

OP didn't make it public to his real-life acquaintances and friends. Someone else did and his wife was afraid someone would tell him so she came clean finally.

I wanted call my wife, but she hasn't called me first , she has been calling me first for past few days to talk. So when she doesn't call me I'm wondering if she is crying at home, or has she crept away to meet somebody SMH. But I'm not going to call her, she needs to initiate conversation not me. She told me once if she decides it's over she accepts it and there will be no going back...I just said O.K that's nice and I'll be fine with it, I didn't mean it tho.

Wow I'm tired i'm usually up late til 2am, but my kids had me going all day.

And i have to be at work in the Am, kids school daycare , and I m meeting my wife tomorrow to drop the kids off for the weekend,

I wounder how that's gonna turn out......

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Posted by SensitiveBlues
It's mercury Retrograde ...I would really make every decision slow!

Now they knocking on his door! Damn man

How long is retrograde?

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I think Jan 25th, but the "shadow" lasts like 2-3ish weeks after that.

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Posted by Goldigold

Posted by SensitiveBlues
It's mercury Retrograde ...I would really make every decision slow!

Now they knocking on his door! Damn man

How long is retrograde?

I think Jan 25th, but the "shadow" lasts like 2-3ish weeks after that.

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Oh oops. CC already answered.

Posted by iVirgo
3 guys yep but it was all in the first 6months of our relationship only...

3 guys were

Ex boyfriend
(who she still liked but was not who she vision a future with)
FWB
(who was crazy about her and gave her attention)
Classmate
( in her college class one time when I we had argument and I disappeared for 2 weeks)

Yea i finally caught up on the other thread and this one..

so i am still going to ask again, had you guys discussed being exclusive? Cause not once have you said that you had. When dating that does not give others any rights to know who you may or may not be sleeping with.( Mind you i would share that if i am being intimate, but not everyone does). You even admit you disappeared a lot on her the first year of dating, breaking up, getting back together. etc. The above all happened during that time from what you have shared. Honestly, it seems as if you are nailing her to the cross for her past sexual encounters (assuming it was not exclusive between you two yet).

I get being upset for her not telling you earlier, i really do. But tbh, she really didn't need to ( if this was all during your causal dating phase) and perhaps she feared exactly what is happening. You holding her to choices she made before you even committed 100% exclusivly to each other. Granted i am assuming you guys had not discussed being just the two of you, if you had, well then yes she cheated and yikes!

No i do not condone cheating, no i do not condone lies.. but there seems to be much more to all of this.

Now all this with the Scorpio friend, whom you casually dated prior to marrying the Aqua.. it's just odd.

Oh geez. Just read everything.

I didn't let him inside, I kept them both outside the door way, I told him, because she should have told him, he isn't innocent anyway , he isn't perfect, he cheated too he is a pig, he belittled her that was wrong, I hope he's not abusive towards her I would feel bad about that,

Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut.

But she can't use me to get back at him, also she knew what my wife did years ago for years, but she continued to lie to me too everytime she visited my wife, and expect me to relate to her

Hell No.

@sensitiveblue
&
@Alicia

I feel bad now, it didn't do what I was hoping I feel like a jerk, she wasn't nasty towards me, her actions were immoral and probably a sign of some bad relationship symptom.

But I feel bad, and I hope I didn't put her in any danger, he was upset.

I m tempted to call the cops and have them pay them a visit to make sure she is o.k

I hope she does reveal some secrets I dnt know about, I need a push towards the decision I really should be making...

Posted by iVirgo
I wanted call my wife, but she hasn't called me first , she has been calling me first for past few days to talk. So when she doesn't call me I'm wondering if she is crying at home, or has she crept away to meet somebody SMH. But I'm not going to call her, she needs to initiate conversation not me. She told me once if she decides it's over she accepts it and there will be no going back...I just said O.K that's nice and I'll be fine with it, I didn't mean it tho.

Wow I'm tired i'm usually up late til 2am, but my kids had me going all day.

And i have to be at work in the Am, kids school daycare , and I m meeting my wife tomorrow to drop the kids off for the weekend,

I wounder how that's gonna turn out......

Harpy iCloud predicts it will turn out like what you have been concentrated on - wife leaves for another man. for real. you make your future.

OK I won't call them

OK I'm trying

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by iCloud9

Posted by iVirgo
I wanted call my wife, but she hasn't called me first , she has been calling me first for past few days to talk. So when she doesn't call me I'm wondering if she is crying at home, or has she crept away to meet somebody SMH. But I'm not going to call her, she needs to initiate conversation not me. She told me once if she decides it's over she accepts it and there will be no going back...I just said O.K that's nice and I'll be fine with it, I didn't mean it tho.

Wow I'm tired i'm usually up late til 2am, but my kids had me going all day.

And i have to be at work in the Am, kids school daycare , and I m meeting my wife tomorrow to drop the kids off for the weekend,

I wounder how that's gonna turn out......

Harpy iCloud predicts it will turn out like what you have been concentrated on - wife leaves for another man. for real. you make your future.

If she leaves her loss!!! She's the one lying and sheet!

If she really loves him she would work on her marriage

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Truth.

She just text me
"good night, I love u and I'm sorry I hope we can fix this, and to give the kids a kiss for her.

I replied
" so why didn't u call and talk to them, they would have liked that better

Her response
" I've been sick all day, I had some NyQuil around 3pm I just woke up and you are the first and only person I contacted, my mother has the baby in her room. I had a dream about us fighting, then floor gave in on the both of us and we were falling, it felt like it was forever then I woke up and it was 11

Filipino mother, white father who is a retired APD cop.

I need some NyQuil my self eyes getting heavy but this empty spot on my bed just don't feel right inside.

I'm cap moon

Scorpio made her bed , she tried to cheat and get revenge on her husband, and use a man who is hurt, and play her friend in the process,

With my wife cheating, I chose to separate until I can make mind up.

I wan't her back I miss her

I dont want her back she cheated

I want her back I love her

I don't want her back she lied to me

That's the battle in my head

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Posted by iVirgo
I need some NyQuil my self eyes getting heavy but this empty spot on my bed just don't feel right inside.

Dude just get your wife back! All this hem hawing is ridiculous

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Yeah. Cheating during early college dating is not really grounds for divorce 10 years later, in my opinion.. I just think you two need to go to therapy together. Swallow your pride.

Posted by iVirgo
Filipino mother, white father who is a retired APD cop.

Who is this the wife or the scorp?

Are you asian too?

@duchesslibro

I m considering asking her to go to therapy, she has asked me hundreds of times but I never really went along because I felt we could handle it our selves.

Posted by iVirgo
@duchesslibro

I m considering asking her to go to therapy, she has asked me hundreds of times but I never really went along because I felt we could handle it our selves.

Just do it.

@greentea

My wife is Filipino mix

Scorpio is Colombian her husband is from Ecuador both were raised in U.S since they were kids so Americanized to the T.

Posted by SuperMercurial

Posted by iVirgo
I'm cap moon

That actually makes sense. The cap moons are always the ditziest virgos. They're all like adhd too.

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Fuck you dude, don't be dissing Cap anything, we're better than you.

Posted by iVirgo
@greentea

My wife is Filipino mix

Scorpio is Colombian her husband is from Ecuador both were raised in U.S since they were kids so Americanized to the T.

You asian or white or black... what's your background

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I have a really bad therapist she tells me ask the time the Virgo isn't worthy and I'm way above his grade!

She compliments me all the time! Thinks I'm a great person! Witty funny interesting.

Lol I'm keeping her

lol omg

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Posted by iVirgo
I'm cap moon

That actually makes sense. The cap moons are always the ditziest virgos. They're all like adhd too.

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That doesn't even make any astrological sense.

I give in I'm tired I can't divorce, I'll do therapy, but I can't have her here under the same roof right now.

Posted by iVirgo
I give in I'm tired I can't divorce, I'll do therapy, but I can't have her here under the same roof right now.

That's a good choice. I think you two can work this out.