Is my Taurus girlfriend cheating?

Hi guys. I'm Aquarius. I've dated this taurus girl for 18months now. We're actually serious but recently she has been behaving funny in ways i dont understand. I work from 8am to 6pm most days so there is little chance for us to see frequently on week days, but we communicate frequently on phone.

She's mostly a good girl but I'm confused.

On monday out of no where, she asked and i quote "Do you doubt me in anyway?"

I answered her NO that i dont doubt her at all. I asked her why she asked, she said "nothing" that she only wanted to know.

On wednesday morning, she sent me a text professing her undying love for me. I also reaffirmed my love for her. In the evening of the same day, i asked to see her that she should come my house. She refused with the excuse that she is "weak" and sleepy. This she has never done before. She always comes whenever i ask her to come or she can come by herself.

Later that night, i jokingly told her i dreamt of her in another mans house, she laughed it off, i was angry and asked her why she will play with stuff like that. We talked things over and put that to bed.

Today friday, she told me she was going to make hair, i said ok I'm off to work. When she was done, she video chatted me and we talked on video for a while. This evening now, i asked her again to come to my house, so we can spend tonight and tomorrow together all day as i wont be going to work she refused, telling me she is sick. I told he i will get tablets for her that i need her presence. She agreed to come.

Called her back in 30minutes to be sure she's on her way, she told me she wont be coming again that she's not ok. I requested to go see her in her house, she told me not to come that she wont follow me to my house. I asked why, she said "nothing" but that she just don't want to come.

I still headed to her house with the tablets i bought for her, she didnt look any sick to me. I asked her what is the problem as she has been acting strange, that shw should tell me if there is another guy in the picture, she said there is no one else that she just don't feel like coming to my house.

I gave her the tablets and left her place, over 30minutes later, she never called to find out if i got home, while she was online on facebook. I was the one who called her to ask why she never called me while she was online, she said she wasnt online that hwr data was turned on, and she slept off while planning on calling me. I waived it.

We started chatting about her refusal to come see me, she said if its now am beginning to show I really love her, when i dont have time to spend with her before because of work, that she has adapted to staying without me and said in quote:

"I'm not used to spending time together anymore"

I told her I'm trying to work hard to make us comfortable, she replied "You are trying to work to make your own self comfortable not me...

You haven't made me comfortable before and I'm used to it".

I asked her if she doesnt want to spend time with me anymore, she replied

"that is not what i mean...Look let's end this here ok..

I'm sorry very sorry

For declining your request, please forgive me".

I told her i wanted us to improve how we spend time together, she said i should improve it, she will join me. I told her, but thats what i wanted us to do tonight and tomorrow all day, she said it just occured to her at that moment, that it is strange to her.

I was shocked, asked her if we're still truly dating, she said yes. Asked her if she doesn't trust me, she said she does and is sorry IF she disappointed me.

Told me she loves me and said she needs to go to sleep.

I want to ask... is this girl still in love with me or is just mere talk cos of these attitudes... I'm 31, she's 24.

Nothing indicates cheating, but she doesn’t seem as interested in you. Pull away a little. See if she starts putting more effort in.

Posted by pinkbird03

Nothing indicates cheating, but she doesn’t seem as interested in you. Pull away a little. See if she starts putting more effort in.

Or could she be about to break up and cant just say it yet?

I've never been insecure around her, its just the last few days that made me so. Is there a way to salvage this?

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Posted by Princely

I've never been insecure around her, its just the last few days that made me so. Is there a way to salvage this?

By not tryna salvage it at all.

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Like not trying to push things anymore?

Less is more. Let the relationship scale rebalance.

However, she hinted at the issue: I told her I'm trying to work hard to make us comfortable, she replied "You are trying to work to make your own self comfortable not me...

You haven't made me comfortable before and I'm used to it".

Not sure why she backtracked, but that seems to be an issue.

Posted by Princely

Like not trying to push things anymore?

This.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Less is more. Let the relationship scale rebalance.

However, she hinted at the issue: I told her I'm trying to work hard to make us comfortable, she replied "You are trying to work to make your own self comfortable not me...

You haven't made me comfortable before and I'm used to it".

Not sure why she backtracked, but that seems to be an issue.

If you dont mind, can you explain more on letting the relationship scale rebalance... please

Posted by Princely

If you dont mind, can you explain more on letting the relationship scale rebalance... please

Well you're the one constantly asking to spend time together, does she ever initiate contact? Be present, but allow her to initiate the time you spend together. When you're the only one pushing to spend time together, the scales (aka energy/dynamic) become unbalanced.

Are you the one that usually initiates?

It seems she's fed up by your busy schedule... take her on special dates. A Taurus girl values herself and would expect you to value her the same way, treating her like a princess, not a dating buddy. Cause it seems that this relationship is going stale.

"i asked to see her that she should come my house. She refused with the excuse that she is "weak" and sleepy. This she has never done before. She always comes whenever i ask her to come or she can come by herself."

Why don't you try to make some effort next time? surprise her and do something different, fun, special that would make good memories with you, that when you are busy with work/life she'd remember those special times and appreciate the relationship you have.

This is my opinion anyway.. also my leo ex with aqua moon was always busy with work and I think I can relate to your girlfriend's issue here

^^^^OP when you do spend time together, what do you do? Netflix and Chill (aka half assin' it) or make it a romantic/fun time together (aka makes her feel special and like you miss her)?

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Posted by pinkbird03

Nothing indicates cheating, but she doesn’t seem as interested in you. Pull away a little. See if she starts putting more effort in.

Or could she be about to break up and cant just say it yet?

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Anything is possible honestly. No way to know for sure. Focus on how you’re coming across. It’s a turn off. Give her space and don’t act so emotional.

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Posted by Princely

If you dont mind, can you explain more on letting the relationship scale rebalance... please

Well you're the one constantly asking to spend time together, does she ever initiate contact? Be present, but allow her to initiate the time you spend together. When you're the only one pushing to spend time together, the scales (aka energy/dynamic) become unbalanced.

Are you the one that usually initiates?

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no before now she initiates sometimes and sometimes wants to comw over by her self. Most times i do

I like this girl lol

I think she is feeling neglected. Do something special to make her feel special. Step your game up in that department, I think it will be fine.

there is more to this story. either you are unaware of it or you are not saying what it is.