My Taurus husband cheating on me (Page 6)

Posted by jeane

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Hello everyone, thank you again for being here offering advice, words of wisdom and also trying to knock some type of sense into me. @dontgiveup had asked me have I went through his phone and I had not until this morning when he left in a huge rush to pick up breakfast for me and the kids.

From the looks of things, he spent Sunday all day with her, when he told me he had to go to his office for a run-through for new procedures when they start back in the office. He SPENT ALL DAY SUNDAY WITH HER!!!!!!! How is it that he spent a weekend with me and throws himself back with her——? She expressed her discontent and he told her he understood and that he went because I had planned it and how I had told everyone what we were doing and he was only "obliged" to go! HOW DOES HE SAY HE WAS OBLIGED TO GO———? It's as if I pulled his leg or something!!!!!! If he didn't want to go he should have so! To me, I thought he was having a good time! I know I am not that delusional to think that we had a good time unless he is a great fucking actor!!!!!!!!! He told her that to him it was NOTHING romantic. I guess at that point, they had a phone conversation and the next text mesages were from Monday morning, him sending her pictures from their Sunday together.

And this all day Sunday event, she decorated a whole backyard possibly hers like it was a major event, at-home massages, pictures of a chef and an omelet station and other things, pictures of them snuggled up, videos. Him praising her and telling her, she is always where he wants to be and I can't even type all of the other shit I saw.

@jeane it looks like you were right, because they were very explicit text messages and him telling her how tired he was and her response was "don't act up again and I won't give you 16 rounds maybe just 10 in that time frame" His response was "you are perfect for me and you know I am always ready for you, I am yours and he is yours too"

How can he do a weekend with me and go run to her———? And then act as if our weekend was a drop in a hat for him,nothing special just an ordinary thing.

I really thought our weekend meant something to him!!!!!!!!!!!

i'm sorry you saw that. i can't really blame you for holding out hope that things would go your way. i think any of us in your situation would find it hard to let go after all the years you had together.

i hope now you can see that as things stand he is unwilling to let her go and she is unwilling to let go of him.

i can only repeat an earlier post, you either have to accept the situation or confront him with what you know.

i hope you can also see that it's not about what you do now in terms of tying yourself up in knots trying to be the woman you think he wants. without a frank conversation about the reality that you find yourself in, no weekends away, changing your clothes, sleeping without the kids in bed, sex from the chandelier will alter his connection with her. she is embedded in his life. it may be time for a difficult conversation between the two of you.

or as others have said, get your finances in order and have that conversation when you are stable enough should the worst happens and he choses to leave the marital home.

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Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by Sagoxa

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Thank you everyone who has commented.

His birthday was Friday. I took someone's advice and took full control of his birthday weekend. I planned a trip, bought tickets for just the two of us, no children. We left Thursday night and came back Sunday night. A weekend for just us two to celebrate. He was very attentive and we had a great time. We took lots of pictures to keep and these are memories we will always share. He was very appreciative of the impromptu trip.

Was this a move for us in the right direction? I feel pretty confident that after this weekend together, she won't be in the picture.

Thank you again.

Yes, you're moving in the right direction 🙂

I have to be honest here, I muted you because your post were annoying but now i know i was projecting a lot on to you with my previous post. I am sorry if I was too harsh. I was projecting. Shouldnt have done that 🙂

There are 2 types of people who cheats.

1. Because theyre a cheater. You see them cheating consistently with multiple partner.

2. Because theyre lonely in the relationship.

I think your husband falls in the 2nd category. He has been with that scorpio woman for 3 years. It wasnt the sex that he was looking for, it was someone to fill the void.

I think once youve had your children, you forgot to nurture the romance in the relationship and focus solely on the children. You forgot to date your partner again.

You're doing the right thing by trying to relive the romantic aspect of the relationship. I wont be too sure that he will drop the scorpio woman right away. But you are moving in the right direction 🙂

I suggest you go to a relationship counsellor. Read more books. It is possible to work on marriage after an affair.

I just saw it few days ago, it gave me a new perspective. 5 years ago my bestfriend's parent were on the verge of divorce because the dad had an affair for 10 years.

They went to counsellors, both of them were committed to make their marriage work, and few days ago i saw how deep their love is for one another, they were like teenagers who were head over heel with one another lol. So yes it is possible. But look for professional help..

Thank you Sagoxa! I do truly believe he wasn't worried about that woman and was focused on us. That makes me extremely hopeful for our future as a marital couple!

Happy to hear that 🙂

Keep on nurturing your relationship. I think your husband was just lonely in the marriage. Cuddle him for min 5 mins a day. And set some days where you 2 have a quality time together. Plan some dates, be more experimental in bed, compliment him a lot, study and be interested in his interest.

I hope everything will work out well for you and your family ❤

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Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Thank you to everyone that has been here. I am still in shock from the last update and I have wanted to see with the new reality I saw from his birthday weekend how he would act. I have not confronted him. YET. I don't know if I am still questioning everything, trying to gather as much evidence as possible or just being stupid. I do know that my heart hurts and it is confused and fucking mad. I wanted to see what would happen on Mother's Day and how he would be. I know that she is a mother and has children, so I wanted to know how he would juggle. For Mother's Day, him and the kids took me to brunch, just us, and he set up a photo shoot with a professional photographer. I will say the photographer was amazing. He also packed a bag for our wardrobe changes and we took "engagement photos" so lots of love photos, kissing, photos of rings, couple things. That was on Saturday and Sunday he set up a family BBQ at our house which I did enjoy.

As you all have become my counselors, I will say that I did love all of it, I never asked him for any of it and I will not lie and say I didn't enjoy our "engagement photos" I loved them and they came out marvelous.

Why do you think he did that? He could of kept out the "engagement photos".

I have had a brief opportunity to look at his phone, and I did see he talked to her the weekend of. I have an opportunity to look at his phone actually now and wondering should I do it. He is still working from home and has been in meetings but his phone is here on the charger.

I have been thinking of confronting him at the end of the month as I should be able to gather screenshots maybe.

This is fucking worrisome. His actions are saying this and saying that.

Thank you again.

I would like to tag a couple of people that I really read their posts over and over again @dontgiveup @jeane

@sagoxa again thank you for trying to uplift the matter

I have been in situations where it is a hard pill to swallow, it consumes you. You almost are in disbelief. But they evidence is right in front of you. If you keep waiting for "more" this will just consume you more then one day you will just blow up. Or tuck your tail and live a life of feeling worthless, this will knock you down low. Standing up for yourself regardless of how painful will give you a sense of Dignity!

I know nothing about this situation is easy, and no one can put a timeline on this for you.

But, you are procrastinating the inevitable.

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Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How do you confront this? I am too worried about the how and really should just do it!

I keep thinking about our kids, his reaction, will he lie? Probably. That's why I need everything to show him, I know.

Just tell him you know, no need to say anything else. Just say you know about the other woman. Make your statement come across confident. He will instantly believe you since he would feel guilt.

If he tried to lie or deny. Simply ask to see his phone (you dont necessarily have to say youve gone through it)

Say if you are not lying then let me see your phone and if you cannot do that then my point is proven.

Say I know you have gone away with her for your birthday and other occasions. Time is up, own up to your betrayal!

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Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How do you confront this? I am too worried about the how and really should just do it!

I keep thinking about our kids, his reaction, will he lie? Probably. That's why I need everything to show him, I know.

Just tell him you know, no need to say anything else. Just say you know about the other woman. Make your statement come across confident. He will instantly believe you since he would feel guilt.

If he tried to lie or deny. Simply ask to see his phone (you dont necessarily have to say youve gone through it)

Say if you are not lying then let me see your phone and if you cannot do that then my point is proven.

Say I know you have gone away with her for your birthday and other occasions. Time is up, own up to your betrayal!

Thank you again dontgiveup. I may need to practice sounding confident, I am terrified to start this conversation and now that my friend has said all the things she has said, I am in a space.

What has this friend said?

Don’t let this friend influence you and confuse you.

So what’s right for YOU.

Even we can’t tell you what’s right for you.

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Posted by Hypnotoad

If your friend told you to come to dxp they are not your friend.

Posted by OnigenZ

He's juggling. Leave or stay played. Taurus can provide a comfy front, but all it is is just that. A front. Of course he'll pour it on thick in order to keep you in the dark. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. It's up to you to let him keep playing games or not. This isn't justan affair. He is HEAVILY invested in the other woman. Take your sanity and leave.

Posted by thatlibralife

The lengths to which he goes to deceive you into believing he cares is just mind boggling. So much deception it’s like one of those made for TV movies. Ugh....

Posted by thatlibralife

But it’s HE that has already torn the family apart.

It would make me angrier than a hornet at the nice things he does yet knowing he is sneaking around.

I dunno maybe I’m crazy but it’s love AND loyalty or nothing at all.

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by OnigenZ

He's juggling. Leave or stay played. Taurus can provide a comfy front, but all it is is just that. A front. Of course he'll pour it on thick in order to keep you in the dark. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. It's up to you to let him keep playing games or not. This isn't justan affair. He is HEAVILY invested in the other woman. Take your sanity and leave.

Thank you OnigenZ. My friend is convinces that no one can put on as this and that his actions dictate his true feelings for me. I can't get his birthday weekend out of my head that after our weekend, he ran to her on his actual birthday. I can't get it out of my mind.

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Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How do you confront this? I am too worried about the how and really should just do it!

I keep thinking about our kids, his reaction, will he lie? Probably. That's why I need everything to show him, I know.

Just tell him you know, no need to say anything else. Just say you know about the other woman. Make your statement come across confident. He will instantly believe you since he would feel guilt.

If he tried to lie or deny. Simply ask to see his phone (you dont necessarily have to say youve gone through it)

Say if you are not lying then let me see your phone and if you cannot do that then my point is proven.

Say I know you have gone away with her for your birthday and other occasions. Time is up, own up to your betrayal!

Thank you again dontgiveup. I may need to practice sounding confident, I am terrified to start this conversation and now that my friend has said all the things she has said, I am in a space.

What has this friend said?

Don’t let this friend influence you and confuse you.

So what’s right for YOU.

Even we can’t tell you what’s right for you.

Thank you dontgiveup. She thinks his Mother's Day actions showed and proved just how much he loves me and cares about me. She thinks I would be making a mistake to blow up my family knowing that he is still here with me and doing things to show me he cares. "That anyone with two eyes can see he loves you and wants to be with you, he would leave and wouldn't do the things he does like brunch, photographers, and the main thing, he stays here at home with you"

Of course, I do not want my family torn apart but this is not right. My friend spent the majority of the weekend telling me not to blow up my world over "measly sex because he may have gotten bored".

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Hello everyone, thank you again for being here offering advice, words of wisdom and also trying to knock some type of sense into me. @dontgiveup had asked me have I went through his phone and I had not until this morning when he left in a huge rush to pick up breakfast for me and the kids.

From the looks of things, he spent Sunday all day with her, when he told me he had to go to his office for a run-through for new procedures when they start back in the office. He SPENT ALL DAY SUNDAY WITH HER!!!!!!! How is it that he spent a weekend with me and throws himself back with her——? She expressed her discontent and he told her he understood and that he went because I had planned it and how I had told everyone what we were doing and he was only "obliged" to go! HOW DOES HE SAY HE WAS OBLIGED TO GO———? It's as if I pulled his leg or something!!!!!! If he didn't want to go he should have so! To me, I thought he was having a good time! I know I am not that delusional to think that we had a good time unless he is a great fucking actor!!!!!!!!! He told her that to him it was NOTHING romantic. I guess at that point, they had a phone conversation and the next text mesages were from Monday morning, him sending her pictures from their Sunday together.

And this all day Sunday event, she decorated a whole backyard possibly hers like it was a major event, at-home massages, pictures of a chef and an omelet station and other things, pictures of them snuggled up, videos. Him praising her and telling her, she is always where he wants to be and I can't even type all of the other shit I saw.

@jeane it looks like you were right, because they were very explicit text messages and him telling her how tired he was and her response was "don't act up again and I won't give you 16 rounds maybe just 10 in that time frame" His response was "you are perfect for me and you know I am always ready for you, I am yours and he is yours too"

@Sagoxa it looks like it wasn't what I thought it was!

How can he do a weekend with me and go run to her———? And then act as if our weekend was a drop in a hat for him,nothing special just an ordinary thing.

I really thought our weekend meant something to him!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by jeane

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Hello everyone, thank you again for being here offering advice, words of wisdom and also trying to knock some type of sense into me. @dontgiveup had asked me have I went through his phone and I had not until this morning when he left in a huge rush to pick up breakfast for me and the kids.

From the looks of things, he spent Sunday all day with her, when he told me he had to go to his office for a run-through for new procedures when they start back in the office. He SPENT ALL DAY SUNDAY WITH HER!!!!!!! How is it that he spent a weekend with me and throws himself back with her——? She expressed her discontent and he told her he understood and that he went because I had planned it and how I had told everyone what we were doing and he was only "obliged" to go! HOW DOES HE SAY HE WAS OBLIGED TO GO———? It's as if I pulled his leg or something!!!!!! If he didn't want to go he should have so! To me, I thought he was having a good time! I know I am not that delusional to think that we had a good time unless he is a great fucking actor!!!!!!!!! He told her that to him it was NOTHING romantic. I guess at that point, they had a phone conversation and the next text mesages were from Monday morning, him sending her pictures from their Sunday together.

And this all day Sunday event, she decorated a whole backyard possibly hers like it was a major event, at-home massages, pictures of a chef and an omelet station and other things, pictures of them snuggled up, videos. Him praising her and telling her, she is always where he wants to be and I can't even type all of the other shit I saw.

@jeane it looks like you were right, because they were very explicit text messages and him telling her how tired he was and her response was "don't act up again and I won't give you 16 rounds maybe just 10 in that time frame" His response was "you are perfect for me and you know I am always ready for you, I am yours and he is yours too"

How can he do a weekend with me and go run to her———? And then act as if our weekend was a drop in a hat for him,nothing special just an ordinary thing.

I really thought our weekend meant something to him!!!!!!!!!!!

i'm sorry you saw that. i can't really blame you for holding out hope that things would go your way. i think any of us in your situation would find it hard to let go after all the years you had together.

i hope now you can see that as things stand he is unwilling to let her go and she is unwilling to let go of him.

i can only repeat an earlier post, you either have to accept the situation or confront him with what you know.

i hope you can also see that it's not about what you do now in terms of tying yourself up in knots trying to be the woman you think he wants. without a frank conversation about the reality that you find yourself in, no weekends away, changing your clothes, sleeping without the kids in bed, sex from the chandelier will alter his connection with her. she is embedded in his life. it may be time for a difficult conversation between the two of you.

or as others have said, get your finances in order and have that conversation when you are stable enough should the worst happens and he choses to leave the marital home.

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Posted by OnigenZ

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How can he do a weekend with me and go run to her———? And then act as if our weekend was a drop in a hat for him,nothing special just an ordinary thing.

I really thought our weekend meant something to him!!!!!!!!!!!

It's because he has compartmentalized the relationship. You are his wife and the mother of his kids. It would cost him too much to leave you. Not just including the money and property he would have to cough up but more importantly the fact that he would lose being with his kids under the same roof. Even if he is no longer in love with you he will always love them and be a part of their life. He doesn't want to lose that connection. She is his fun thing who he can have freaky sex with and not have to discuss boring things like bills, kids problems, in laws and all the other crap that goes along with marriage. He feels entitled to have both of you and since you never let him know you are aware of how he treats you and give him consequences, he won't stop. Why would he when you allow him to have it all? My Libra sister-in-law lost my Taurus brother (who was head over hills in love with her) to a Scorpio woman. Once he met the Scorpio it was game over and now he and the Scorpio are married.

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Posted by OnigenZ

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How can he do a weekend with me and go run to her———? And then act as if our weekend was a drop in a hat for him,nothing special just an ordinary thing.

I really thought our weekend meant something to him!!!!!!!!!!!

It's because he has compartmentalized the relationship. You are his wife and the mother of his kids. It would cost him too much to leave you. Not just including the money and property he would have to cough up but more importantly the fact that he would lose being with his kids under the same roof. Even if he is no longer in love with you he will always love them and be a part of their life. He doesn't want to lose that connection. She is his fun thing who he can have freaky sex with and not have to discuss boring things like bills, kids problems, in laws and all the other crap that goes along with marriage. He feels entitled to have both of you and since you never let him know you are aware of how he treats you and give him consequences, he won't stop. Why would he when you allow him to have it all? My Libra sister-in-law lost my Taurus brother (who was head over hills in love with her) to a Scorpio woman. Once he met the Scorpio it was game over and now he and the Scorpio are married.

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Posted by thatlibralife

The lengths to which he goes to deceive you into believing he cares is just mind boggling. So much deception it’s like one of those made for TV movies. Ugh....

Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How do you confront this? I am too worried about the how and really should just do it!

I keep thinking about our kids, his reaction, will he lie? Probably. That's why I need everything to show him, I know.

Just tell him you know, no need to say anything else. Just say you know about the other woman. Make your statement come across confident. He will instantly believe you since he would feel guilt.

If he tried to lie or deny. Simply ask to see his phone (you dont necessarily have to say youve gone through it)

Say if you are not lying then let me see your phone and if you cannot do that then my point is proven.

Say I know you have gone away with her for your birthday and other occasions. Time is up, own up to your betrayal!

Thank you again dontgiveup. I may need to practice sounding confident, I am terrified to start this conversation and now that my friend has said all the things she has said, I am in a space.

What has this friend said?

Don’t let this friend influence you and confuse you.

So what’s right for YOU.

Even we can’t tell you what’s right for you.

Thank you dontgiveup. She thinks his Mother's Day actions showed and proved just how much he loves me and cares about me. She thinks I would be making a mistake to blow up my family knowing that he is still here with me and doing things to show me he cares. "That anyone with two eyes can see he loves you and wants to be with you, he would leave and wouldn't do the things he does like brunch, photographers, and the main thing, he stays here at home with you"

Of course, I do not want my family torn apart but this is not right. My friend spent the majority of the weekend telling me not to blow up my world over "measly sex because he may have gotten bored".

This isn’t your friends marriage!

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Posted by jeane

maybe...and just theorising here...maybe all the gifts and trips are to justify his actions to himself?

just in the sense of

"what else could she need? i gave her a photography session. i gave her gifts on mother's day. i treat her very well. she wants for nothing. i'm fulfilling my obligation/duty to her."

Posted by OnigenZ

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by OnigenZ

He's juggling. Leave or stay played. Taurus can provide a comfy front, but all it is is just that. A front. Of course he'll pour it on thick in order to keep you in the dark. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. It's up to you to let him keep playing games or not. This isn't justan affair. He is HEAVILY invested in the other woman. Take your sanity and leave.

Thank you OnigenZ. My friend is convinces that no one can put on as this and that his actions dictate his true feelings for me. I can't get his birthday weekend out of my head that after our weekend, he ran to her on his actual birthday. I can't get it out of my mind.

The more you act like you don't know, the more he's going to milk this infidelity, fake love on you, and play games. You're the mother of his children so there is some love there, but as for being in love and honoring what you have, that's long gone. He's invested in her, which means this isn't just a fling. He'll butter you up to keep the front of family; tauruses hate to look bad when it comes to appearances. But deep down, they'll risk everything just to have what they want. Your friend isn't seeing this right. Real love and care would mean stopping this foolishness and being faithful to his wife. Of course he's gonna play with the kids and pretend to be daddy of the year. Of course he's gonna buy you off with trips and gifts. He's gonna pour on the affection and sex. You are his possessions. He's gonna keep a nice shiny polish on you all to avoid any telling on himself. The quicker you address this the faster you'll stop living a lie. Unless you want to keep up this charade. Love yourself first, woman.

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Posted by Truemara

Embrace your current life. It will continue with both

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

How do you confront this? I am too worried about the how and really should just do it!

I keep thinking about our kids, his reaction, will he lie? Probably. That's why I need everything to show him, I know.

Just tell him you know, no need to say anything else. Just say you know about the other woman. Make your statement come across confident. He will instantly believe you since he would feel guilt.

If he tried to lie or deny. Simply ask to see his phone (you dont necessarily have to say youve gone through it)

Say if you are not lying then let me see your phone and if you cannot do that then my point is proven.

Say I know you have gone away with her for your birthday and other occasions. Time is up, own up to your betrayal!

Thank you again dontgiveup. I may need to practice sounding confident, I am terrified to start this conversation and now that my friend has said all the things she has said, I am in a space.

What has this friend said?

Don’t let this friend influence you and confuse you.

So what’s right for YOU.

Even we can’t tell you what’s right for you.

Thank you dontgiveup. She thinks his Mother's Day actions showed and proved just how much he loves me and cares about me. She thinks I would be making a mistake to blow up my family knowing that he is still here with me and doing things to show me he cares. "That anyone with two eyes can see he loves you and wants to be with you, he would leave and wouldn't do the things he does like brunch, photographers, and the main thing, he stays here at home with you"

Of course, I do not want my family torn apart but this is not right. My friend spent the majority of the weekend telling me not to blow up my world over "measly sex because he may have gotten bored".

When you get bored with sex, you spice it up with your spouse. You dont go cheat. She's not a good friend. She's looking at the material and physical aspects, telling you to be grateful for his front and mere presence while he plays you for a fool. He spent his birthday with who he really wanted to spend it with. I'm sorry, not trying to be mean. But the truth will set you free.

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Posted by Truemara

Embrace your current life. It will continue with both

Thank you for your response Truemara. Both me and that woman? I know this may mean nothing but he really was focused on me for this trip. Of course I think, this is his way of relinquishing that woman, and holding on to what he knows he really wants and that is me and our family.

Why would he relinquish? He’s getting best of both worlds.

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Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

Posted by Truemara

Is he purposely leaving it out so you find out and puts him in a place we’re you be breaking up instead of him? Seems to convenient to leave evidence behind.Taurus don’t like to get dirty.

Posted by jeane

Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

i think this is the best advice.

you're happy with him, despite the existence of other woman. i say accept her presence and enjoy your life with him. i think you get a lot from this relationship. embrace it and try to put her out of your mind. often the little lies we tell ourselves get us through the day. maybe just accept that her being in his life is the price you have to pay to be with him.

but do put some cash away! you don't want the rug puled out from under you once those kids are grown.

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Posted by Truemara

Embrace your current life. It will continue with both

Thank you for your response Truemara. Both me and that woman? I know this may mean nothing but he really was focused on me for this trip. Of course I think, this is his way of relinquishing that woman, and holding on to what he knows he really wants and that is me and our family.

Why would he relinquish? He’s getting best of both worlds.

Thank you xiongmao. Deep down, I'm thinking he will realize he wants our world. To be honest, I can take this answer vs the fake love. In this, I can understand he loves me and he may have some type of feelings for that woman but nothing sustainable vs. thinking he is faking with me.

Well, until he has to choose between the two worlds, that realization is probably not likely to happen. It's like...if I can have both chocolate and ice cream, I'm gonna choose both and not think about which one I like more, if that makes sense.

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Posted by bmoon8"The pictures I take with her is like standing next to my co worker, let me handle things over here, everything I tell you is everything that I am. You have me. Just handling this for a little more. I'm not building with you just because. I don't build with anyone for nothing."

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Does this not tell you everything you need to know? Good lord.

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Posted by bmoon8"The pictures I take with her is like standing next to my co worker, let me handle things over here, everything I tell you is everything that I am. You have me. Just handling this for a little more. I'm not building with you just because. I don't build with anyone for nothing."

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Does this not tell you everything you need to know? Good lord.

Hello bmoon8. Thank you as I appreciate your approach. I actually don't get the play on words here. Its like standing next to your co worker? Where does the co worker come in? And kissing, holding me, affectionate moments is like standing next to your co worker—?? I DONT FUCKING GET IT.

But we just talked about buying a damn house!

Did he bring up the house out of the blue?

That was below the belt. He seems to have split personalities. No limit to his lies.

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

Thank you sweethearts. He doesn't know I have his code. So he leaves it thinking its "safe". Thank you for the advice about the saving some money. I did look at the phone and he made sure to "check in" with her everyday we were on our trip. UNBELIEVABLE. The last text I saw was him telling her this morning "The pictures I take with her is like standing next to my co worker, let me handle things over here, everything I tell you is everything that I am. You have me. Just handling this for a little more. I'm not building with you just because. I don't build with anyone for nothing."

This mofo still found time to check in every fucking day we were gone.

“Just handling this for a little more”...

This sounds like he’s getting ready to divorce you...or something else? It’s eerie how he’s sure to praise you to everyone looking but dogs you to her. He’s plotting...

You better wake up now before it’s too late...

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

Thank you sweethearts. He doesn't know I have his code. So he leaves it thinking its "safe". Thank you for the advice about the saving some money. I did look at the phone and he made sure to "check in" with her everyday we were on our trip. UNBELIEVABLE. The last text I saw was him telling her this morning "The pictures I take with her is like standing next to my co worker, let me handle things over here, everything I tell you is everything that I am. You have me. Just handling this for a little more. I'm not building with you just because. I don't build with anyone for nothing."

This mofo still found time to check in every fucking day we were gone.

Wow. He is trying to trick you, what a bastard! I told you to save your money.

He is worse than I thought. I thought he was a polygamist… but he not. He’s a con-artist… and he is planning to con YOU.

Save Your money and get yourself a LAWYER!!!! WAKE UP!!!

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

Thank you sweethearts. He doesn't know I have his code. So he leaves it thinking its "safe". Thank you for the advice about the saving some money. I did look at the phone and he made sure to "check in" with her everyday we were on our trip. UNBELIEVABLE. The last text I saw was him telling her this morning "The pictures I take with her is like standing next to my co worker, let me handle things over here, everything I tell you is everything that I am. You have me. Just handling this for a little more. I'm not building with you just because. I don't build with anyone for nothing."

This mofo still found time to check in every fucking day we were gone.

Wow. He is trying to trick you, what a bastard! I told you to save your money.

He is worse than I thought. I thought he was a polygamist… but he not. He’s a con-artist… and he is planning to con YOU.

Save Your money and get yourself a LAWYER!!!! WAKE UP!!!

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Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

i think this is the best advice.

you're happy with him, despite the existence of other woman. i say accept her presence and enjoy your life with him. i think you get a lot from this relationship. embrace it and try to put her out of your mind. often the little lies we tell ourselves get us through the day. maybe just accept that her being in his life is the price you have to pay to be with him.

but do put some cash away! you don't want the rug puled out from under you once those kids are grown.

Hello jeane. Thank you again for your advice! I read your posts often to get myself in line. I just want him with me jeane. I do not accept this woman and I keep thinking she will go. Stupid of me to think throughout our whole trip he didn't contact her, but he did, every single damn day! Not big conversations but text like "hey baby just checking in how are you" " hey beautiful I love you more than you could ever love me" "I don't give myself or my love openly and you have all of it" I am DISGUSTED! He told her this morning that pictures with me is like standing next to his co worker. Kissing, touching, displays of affection photos is like standing to his co worker—" What kind of co worker do you have if you are saying I am like your co worker with those types of photos?? Is this a play on words— "You have me and I am just handling this for a little more, I am not building with you just because, I don't build with anyone."

I just want him to tell me its over if that is HOW HE FEELS!!!!!!! But I know I also need to say something. I really did think this week alone and away meant something.

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by sweethearts

Wow, I don’t know how you do it but yes leave the phone alone now, it’s just pure torture for you.

Looks like you are happy enough to accept he has you and her and you can live your life that way as long as he comes home to you. ( makes me wonder if he leaves his phone around for you to read it... that way both you and his gf accept his double life ) 🤔

It does sound like he loves you both and he’s comfortable, very comfortable living with the best of both worlds.

The only thing I urge you to do is tuck away a little bit of cash just in case your world comes crashing down one day out of the blue. Just enough to set you and the kids up on your own into another place where you can breathe.

Thank you sweethearts. He doesn't know I have his code. So he leaves it thinking its "safe". Thank you for the advice about the saving some money. I did look at the phone and he made sure to "check in" with her everyday we were on our trip. UNBELIEVABLE. The last text I saw was him telling her this morning "The pictures I take with her is like standing next to my co worker, let me handle things over here, everything I tell you is everything that I am. You have me. Just handling this for a little more. I'm not building with you just because. I don't build with anyone for nothing."

This mofo still found time to check in every fucking day we were gone.

“Just handling this for a little more”...

This sounds like he’s getting ready to divorce you...or something else? It’s eerie how he’s sure to praise you to everyone looking but dogs you to her. He’s plotting...

You better wake up now before it’s too late...

SHE ASKED THE SAME THING- "WHAT DOES HANDLING IT FOR A LITTLE MORE MEAN?" I'm looking at the fucking phone while he sleeps. She asked him that and he said "Playing the supporting role"

He praises me in front of everyone. EVERYONE. OUR FAMILY. FRIENDS. OUR CHILDREN. EVERYONE.

Yeah he’s up to something for sure.

I’d be wary. Please take care of yourself. This guy really is a con whether you’d like to believe it or not. Don’t rationalize his behavior away. At the very least it’s clear from that text he’s eventually planning to leave.

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