Taurus man hurt by my actions

I have had this friend for 17 years. Love and respect him always have. Been through hell and back with DOMESTIC VIOLENCE with my sons dad been free from him for 2 and half years my sons 3 and half. Any way me and my friend 3 months ago decided to make a go of this. It’s been great he moved in my son loves him and he loves my son like his own and is absolutely amazing! With him as he has autism. Fast forward last Thursday, a person I used to see shown up at the door I rang my bf and he came right away the guy was gone but I ended up having a drink that night and my bf left me for good took every thing out the house. I’d ruined what we have. I was on FaceTime with my friends and male ones laughing at him because he had shouted at me while raising his voice I was just being a drunk idiot. So any way he moved out and said he can’t forgive me as now he doesn’t trust me and that I have laughed and humiliated him. He rings every day still and tells me he loves me but it’s over and he can’t move forward but then some days he says maybe in the future but he can’t ever get over what I’ve done. Please help I’m a Leo woman

What exactly did you do? He came over and the guy was gone. You had something to drink and got drunk. And something about face time and guys laughing at him.

Did you face time other people while drunk, and you all laughed at him? And you were drunk being an idiot?

And this is what he can't forgive——

So my man lived with me, I cooked him and his cousin dinner. Got drunk but while he was out dropping his cousin off I was on FaceTime to my lad best friend who we talk to every day. My man. Was being a dick so I was insinuating for him to go a suck a dick to my friend whilst laughing. He then thought I was doing it to my friend and now he can’t trust me. He has moved out and is still extremely mad but took me for lunch yesterday and food shopping. I can’t stop thinking about him it’s making me bad

It is…. He’s been hurt before so potential he doesn’t want someone that he’s loved for 17years to break his heart because then he will have no control over his feelings. We went and got food but he’s sooo mad still I’m giving him time he told me he may never get over it.

You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.

The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.

In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?

You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.

But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.

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You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.

The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.

In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?

You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.

But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.

He thinks that I was cheating on him by doing this behind his back to my male friend whilst he was packing his stuff.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.

The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.

In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?

You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.

But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.

He thinks that I was cheating on him by doing this behind his back to my male friend whilst he was packing his stuff.

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That’s abusive behavior on his part.

Him accusing you of cheating because you have a male friend. He was that male friend for the better part of 2 decades!! He knows first hand that you have the capacity to have platonic male friends.

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Posted by Abbie132018

Posted by LadyNeptune

You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.

The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.

In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?

You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.

But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.

He thinks that I was cheating on him by doing this behind his back to my male friend whilst he was packing his stuff.

That’s abusive behavior on his part.

Him accusing you of cheating because you have a male friend. He was that male friend for the better part of 2 decades!! He knows first hand that you have the capacity to have platonic male friends.

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Omfgggggg I know. But I was super drunk. He’s never questioned me before, he left and came back and was obvs trying to get a rise out of him because I shouted abort mission 3 times. I’m just so confused fused because I’ve fell for him massively and I feel as tho I’ve ruined something that was great. He feels humiliated and said he would be a mug to ever take me back. I’m so glad you think it’s over reacted. Especially when he says he loves me so much but he can’t ever come back and love me how he originally did. I know he wants to but for his own sanity and stubbornness he’s choosing not too 😩

Posted by Abbie132018

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Posted by Abbie132018

Posted by LadyNeptune

You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.

The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.

In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?

You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.

But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.

He thinks that I was cheating on him by doing this behind his back to my male friend whilst he was packing his stuff.

That’s abusive behavior on his part.

Him accusing you of cheating because you have a male friend. He was that male friend for the better part of 2 decades!! He knows first hand that you have the capacity to have platonic male friends.

Omfgggggg I know. But I was super drunk. He’s never questioned me before, he left and came back and was obvs trying to get a rise out of him because I shouted abort mission 3 times. I’m just so confused fused because I’ve fell for him massively and I feel as tho I’ve ruined something that was great. He feels humiliated and said he would be a mug to ever take me back. I’m so glad you think it’s over reacted. Especially when he says he loves me so much but he can’t ever come back and love me how he originally did. I know he wants to but for his own sanity and stubbornness he’s choosing not too 😩

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Let him go. Its not worth chasing after someone who chooses to be butt hurt and accusatory over something so inconsequential. He shouts and is cruel to you! This is not someone you should debase yourself to be with. The first few months of any relationship is always great. Then reality sets in. Sounds like the honeymoon period is over and you are meeting who he really is in a relationship.



"he says he loves me so much but he can’t ever come back and love me how he originally did"

Love is unconditional. He never really TRUELY loved you if this is all it takes for him to turn it off.

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Posted by Abbie132018

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Abbie132018

Posted by LadyNeptune

You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.

The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.

In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?

You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.

But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.

He thinks that I was cheating on him by doing this behind his back to my male friend whilst he was packing his stuff.

That’s abusive behavior on his part.

Him accusing you of cheating because you have a male friend. He was that male friend for the better part of 2 decades!! He knows first hand that you have the capacity to have platonic male friends.

Omfgggggg I know. But I was super drunk. He’s never questioned me before, he left and came back and was obvs trying to get a rise out of him because I shouted abort mission 3 times. I’m just so confused fused because I’ve fell for him massively and I feel as tho I’ve ruined something that was great. He feels humiliated and said he would be a mug to ever take me back. I’m so glad you think it’s over reacted. Especially when he says he loves me so much but he can’t ever come back and love me how he originally did. I know he wants to but for his own sanity and stubbornness he’s choosing not too 😩

Let him go. Its not worth chasing after someone who chooses to be butt hurt and accusatory over something so inconsequential. He shouts and is cruel to you! This is not someone you should debase yourself to be with. The first few months of any relationship is always great. Then reality sets in. Sounds like the honeymoon period is over and you are meeting who he really is in a relationship.



"he says he loves me so much but he can’t ever come back and love me how he originally did"

Love is unconditional. He never really TRUELY loved you if this is all it takes for him to turn it off.

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Thank you so much sweetheart this is what I needed to hear.

Posted by Abbie132018

So my man lived with me, I cooked him and his cousin dinner. Got drunk but while he was out dropping his cousin off I was on FaceTime to my lad best friend who we talk to every day. My man. Was being a dick so I was insinuating for him to go a suck a dick to my friend whilst laughing. He then thought I was doing it to my friend and now he can’t trust me. He has moved out and is still extremely mad but took me for lunch yesterday and food shopping. I can’t stop thinking about him it’s making me bad

Well I don't know about not trusting you. That makes no sense. Yet.

But on second thought I think I would have left you too, for being such an annoying drunken idiot.

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Posted by Abbie132018

So my man lived with me, I cooked him and his cousin dinner. Got drunk but while he was out dropping his cousin off I was on FaceTime to my lad best friend who we talk to every day. My man. Was being a dick so I was insinuating for him to go a suck a dick to my friend whilst laughing. He then thought I was doing it to my friend and now he can’t trust me. He has moved out and is still extremely mad but took me for lunch yesterday and food shopping. I can’t stop thinking about him it’s making me bad

Well I don't know about not trusting you. That makes no sense. Yet.

But on second thought I think I would have left you too, for being such an annoying drunken idiot.

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Left for good?? I would have forgiven something so silly! Nooo?

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Posted by Abbie132018

So my man lived with me, I cooked him and his cousin dinner. Got drunk but while he was out dropping his cousin off I was on FaceTime to my lad best friend who we talk to every day. My man. Was being a dick so I was insinuating for him to go a suck a dick to my friend whilst laughing. He then thought I was doing it to my friend and now he can’t trust me. He has moved out and is still extremely mad but took me for lunch yesterday and food shopping. I can’t stop thinking about him it’s making me bad

Well I don't know about not trusting you. That makes no sense. Yet.

But on second thought I think I would have left you too, for being such an annoying drunken idiot.

Left for good?? I would have forgiven something so silly! Nooo?

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Well it doesn’t sound silly and I have a low tolerance for drunken fools. But I wasn’t there, so.

Telling a man to suck duck is totally disrespectful

Taurus don’t like to be the bud of the joke