Libra woman has a huge crush on a cancer coworker.

Hey everyone! I need some serious help because i think I messed up my chances with my cancer coworker who I have a crush on. I’m fairly new to the job and he always helped me work through things that I didn’t know and even things that I knew just because he loved helping me. He’s also very touchy, not in a creepy, pervert way but in a “make you fall in love” type of way, 😂 he’d be like “my hands are so cold for some reason,” and then touch my arm with his hand. Honestly, i feel like his love languages are acts of service and physical touch because he never misses a chance to help me(even when I don’t need help). He even has a nickname for me and he teases me all the time and tries to make me laugh. He also tries to indirectly know more about me. To some people, the only problem might be that he is about 8 years older than me. I’m 20 and he’s 28. I don’t necessarily care about the age difference.

Today, I messed up real bad. I was unintentionally avoiding him because my mind goes blank whenever he talks to me and I stutter, however, I was talking to everybody else, especially to this new guy at work, who’s my age. I, being a libra, can be over-friendly without realizing and it might have came out to be a little sketchy to my crush because he completely ignored me. He talked to me when it was necessary but the usual teasing and flirting was totally not there today. Even when i told him, I was done for the day and I was about to leave, he just said bye without a smile, whereas at the beginning of the work day, he was high fiving me and joking around.

I know he likes me, and i think i messed up my chance with him without realizing. Is there a way to get things back to normal with my cancer? 🥲

Posted by Wizardz2

How did you mess up? You were being yourself and he got jealous.

Think deeper... if he's not being friendly it doesn't mean he's not interested in you anymore. Just as you talking to everyone else except him didn't mean you weren't interested in him

You can't go on as friendly work colleagues for ever anyway if you want something to happen between you

Any tips on how to take the next step?

Dipping ones pen in the office ink never ends well.

If you like him tell him because I assume you are 100% sure he is single.

So your last line says that you know he likes you, yet you’re flirting all over the office and want him to give you attention and ignore your red flags but he ain’t with it.

8 years is a difference that he probably didn’t mind till you showed who you really were around the office and it gave him a reality check.

You can tell a lot about someone based off how they interact with others

Why libras such trash bags at work?

Y’all easy?

I could never light the dumpster fire that is dating a coworker. But you do you. Shoot your shot, make the first move.

Men are more chicken shit then we give them credit for.

Posted by DMV

So your last line says that you know he likes you, yet you’re flirting all over the office and want him to give you attention and ignore your red flags but he ain’t with it.

8 years is a difference that he probably didn’t mind till you showed who you really were around the office and it gave him a reality check.

You can tell a lot about someone based off how they interact with others

I wasn’t actually flirting with anybody? 😅 I was just being friendly with people which might have come off as flirting to him, which is why I want to fix this situation because it wasn’t my intention in the first place.

Posted by Moloko_vellocet

Why libras such trash bags at work?

Y’all easy?

Uhhhh no

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Dipping ones pen in the office ink never ends well.

If you like him tell him because I assume you are 100% sure he is single.

I know he’s single. My consciousness is not letting me tell him anything yet.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Dipping ones pen in the office ink never ends well.

If you like him tell him because I assume you are 100% sure he is single.

I know he’s single. My consciousness is not letting me tell him anything yet.

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Ok. Think carefully before you willing to to mix business with pleasure.

Best of luck

Work is the best place to find love! Committed love even. It doesn't mean it should be with this Cancer, but you are not on the wrong path. Your productivity will increase as well when trying to impress your SO.

Just be discreet and professional at work.....almost like a role play......Mmmmm.......how hot is that?

https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/dating-someone-at-work-research-says-you-could-be-headed-towards-marriage.html

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Dipping ones pen in the office ink never ends well.

If you like him tell him because I assume you are 100% sure he is single.

I know he’s single. My consciousness is not letting me tell him anything yet.

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Your...conscience.

Take your time observing and finding things about him. It gives you an advantage that none of the online dates will have.

He can’t even take you to a bar

As was mentioned a few times, don't shit where you eat.

In the end it will only cause conflict at work for you.

It will make it harder for you to be there if you continue to focus on creating a relationship with this person and it doesn't go as planned.

Posted by Plague

As was mentioned a few times, don't shit where you eat.

In the end it will only cause conflict at work for you.

It will make it harder for you to be there if you continue to focus on creating a relationship with this person and it doesn't go as planned.

Are you comparing building a relationship with shitting?

Well, good luck with your shit then...may you swim in it 😉

OP, do not listen to all the crap on this thread. If it's about dating someone at work, there is plenty of advice online, here is one from a good source : https://www.wsj.com/articles/dating-a-co-worker-is-it-worth-it-11610748850

As you see, serious relationships are recommended at work, flings are not. I never heard of a company that prohibited its employee from having serious private relationships with each other ...if such companies still exist, they should be taken to court for infringing the human rights.

Since you are so young, ask yourself if you'd not be better flirting and having fun --in your spare time, obviously--with people of your age instead. If that cancer froze over your "friendliness" with the opposite sex, his behaviour should be a red flag to you. If this is what your Libra heart likes doing, perhaps you too are incompatible.

Anyway, there is no rush. Learn the secrets of your job first, and also how to act confidently in front of a "crush". Otherwise you may end up with people praying on your vulnerability wherever you are...There are idiots out there, even if in minority.

You'll see him at work again anyways. That's the beauty of work relationships, they can't go nowhere lol

So if you unintentionally avoided him one day, then be intentional and talk to him the next time you see him.

Cancers are super forgiving, so he will probably like you showing an effort. It's pretty simple.

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Posted by Plague

As was mentioned a few times, don't shit where you eat.

In the end it will only cause conflict at work for you.

It will make it harder for you to be there if you continue to focus on creating a relationship with this person and it doesn't go as planned.

Are you comparing building a relationship with shitting?

Well, good luck with your shit then...may you swim in it 😉

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Shut up dumb bitch I'm not talking to your deluded ass

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Posted by Undine

Posted by Plague

As was mentioned a few times, don't shit where you eat.

In the end it will only cause conflict at work for you.

It will make it harder for you to be there if you continue to focus on creating a relationship with this person and it doesn't go as planned.

Are you comparing building a relationship with shitting?

Well, good luck with your shit then...may you swim in it 😉

Shut up dumb bitch I'm not talking to your deluded ass

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OP, this is the type of loser you better avoid. Easily offended after being called out, and resorting to personal insults

This type would gossip the shit out of you and stab you in the back at work.

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Posted by Plague

As was mentioned a few times, don't shit where you eat.

In the end it will only cause conflict at work for you.

It will make it harder for you to be there if you continue to focus on creating a relationship with this person and it doesn't go as planned.

Are you comparing building a relationship with shitting?

Well, good luck with your shit then...may you swim in it 😉

Shut up dumb bitch I'm not talking to your deluded ass

OP, this is the type of loser you better avoid. Easily offended after being called out, and resorting to personal insults

This type would gossip the shit out of you and stab you in the back at work.

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Haha

You wrote to me first because my comment didn't fall in line with what you believe.

Go role play in your cubicle.

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Posted by Plague

As was mentioned a few times, don't shit where you eat.

In the end it will only cause conflict at work for you.

It will make it harder for you to be there if you continue to focus on creating a relationship with this person and it doesn't go as planned.

Are you comparing building a relationship with shitting?

Well, good luck with your shit then...may you swim in it 😉

Shut up dumb bitch I'm not talking to your deluded ass

OP, this is the type of loser you better avoid. Easily offended after being called out, and resorting to personal insults

This type would gossip the shit out of you and stab you in the back at work.

Haha

You wrote to me first because my comment didn't fall in line with what you believe.

Go role play in your cubicle.

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Don't forget to flush yours and wipe your arse and mouth too 😉

Posted by DMV

He can’t even take you to a bar

What’s that gotta do with me liking him? 🙄 I’m turning 21 next year

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Posted by Oknoti1234

I’m turning 21 next year

That explains it all...

*facepalm*

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I literally mentioned it on my post that there’s 8years difference. That explains nothing😅

You're young and you're a Libra. From my experience with Libras, you guys are open to finding love anywhere, comes with the territory of being a Leeb. You guys usually go through a lot of heartbreaks too. This experience will most likely not be any different. You will make lots of mistakes, it could possibly even cost you your job. But hey, it's okay, eventually you will have to learn from your mistakes! I encourage you to wear your heart on your sleeves and see where it takes you! Just stay away from taken people.

Cancers be like that. All about passive aggressive approach aka "crab dance". If you like to take the lead, this is your guy. Also, if you start dating, he will become more possessive and jealous about you talking to colleagues. Might turn ugly.