2 years and some definite confusion

I am (sag sun, cancer moon :’( and Capricorn rising)

He is an Aqua sun, Gemini moon (rising unknown)



Have been friends with aqua man for 2 years, we lived in the same neighborhood and almost 2-3 times week all the neighborhoods hang out and have a drink, unwind if you will.

I started hanging out a year after my ex husband and I moved in. The ex was anti-social, he only went for for a very short time once a week (Pisces sun, Scorpio moon, Virgo rising) and me being the social butterfly loved the ideas that once the kids were in bed we could cut lose for an hour or two before bed so I was there almost every night.

The group was both men and women, most in relationships. A few singles.

After about a year I noticed what I thought was flirting from an Aquarius male (Aqua Sun, Gemini moon) 3 years my senior.

We got along smashing, at times I felt a connection and could have possibly flirted back.

Apparently everyone else noticed our chemistry and some of his single male friends would ask if he was interested in me. He would always reply “Come on dude, she’s married”

He would make me feel so happy and the magnetized between us was incredible. He chased me for a while but would never actually try to do anything physical. It was all conversation and mental stimulation.

When I first moved to this neighborhood I cought wind of my husband at the time, possibly cheating with a woman from his work.

Had no real proof but my gut could tell otherwise.

Anyhow my marriage did not last. Two people who both fell out of love...

Now the aqua has expressed interest after I expressed I had a dream about him and was embarrassed to see him in person (it was a not so innocent dream)

So we have recently messed around a little and he seemed happy and overcome with joy when we finally made contact with each other.

Well a few weeks have gone by and we still hang out every night now and we still text a couple times every couple days.

Now all of the sudden he’s gone cold, texting wise. I still see him (he doesn’t run for me) every night and we still have great conversations and flirt. He still walks by and try’s to annoy me by touching my face (I hate that lol)

Only problem is our text were the only ways we would express any deep emotions with each other and now he has stoped replying all together (I don’t text often. 1-2 every few days)



Is he pulling back because he’s getting too close? Or could it possibly be I am not his typical “type” and he might be embarrassed?

Why you'd think you're not he's typical type?

I think for some aquas it’s easier for them to live in fantasy land because there’s no pressure. Now it’s getting real and he’s a little afraid of the possible future. But he’s still there so I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be consistent and don’t go crazy.

Posted by AerialView

Why you'd think you're not he's typical type?

He has told the group and myself multiple times that he is looking for a “hot blonde, with blue eyes and is very thin” I am NOT anywhere near that description.... I would say I’m the exact opposite

Although I still catch him checking me out. He told me he didn’t want anyone to know about us messing around...

Posted by pinkbird03

I think for some aquas it’s easier for them to live in fantasy land because there’s no pressure. Now it’s getting real and he’s a little afraid of the possible future. But he’s still there so I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be consistent and don’t go crazy.

I have kept myself in a positive mind set and have been keeping it consistent. Although I momentarily wanted to lose it (Venus in Scorpio) I realized if I did that I would probably scare him off forever. So I just said if I stay positive, it will be positive.

I smile, crack jokes and talk some trash (nothing too harsh) and so far he seems to be slowly coming back around. Although he did go out to the club the other night and the next day talked about these girls he was talking too...but didn’t want anything to do with... supposedly

I just acted as if I wasn’t burning up on the inside!

Smiled and brushed it off (my Sag sun for the save)

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by pinkbird03

I think for some aquas it’s easier for them to live in fantasy land because there’s no pressure. Now it’s getting real and he’s a little afraid of the possible future. But he’s still there so I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be consistent and don’t go crazy.

I have kept myself in a positive mind set and have been keeping it consistent. Although I momentarily wanted to lose it (Venus in Scorpio) I realized if I did that I would probably scare him off forever. So I just said if I stay positive, it will be positive.

I smile, crack jokes and talk some trash (nothing too harsh) and so far he seems to be slowly coming back around. Although he did go out to the club the other night and the next day talked about these girls he was talking too...but didn’t want anything to do with... supposedly

I just acted as if I wasn’t burning up on the inside!

Smiled and brushed it off (my Sag sun for the save)

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After reading about how he talks about other girls to you and how he wants a specific type of girl and doesn’t want anyone to know about you, it was me questioning his interest in you. It seems more friendly than romantic. What do you think?

That he doesn’t want anyone to know is a bad sign. Aquarius when they want you and you are important to them they don’t mind everyone to know.

And he telling you about other girls, I don’t know, in my opinion, I think he is letting you know that you are not the only one.

Posted by MadBrody

I am (sag sun, cancer moon :’( and Capricorn rising)

He is an Aqua sun, Gemini moon (rising unknown)



Have been friends with aqua man for 2 years, we lived in the same neighborhood and almost 2-3 times week all the neighborhoods hang out and have a drink, unwind if you will.

I started hanging out a year after my ex husband and I moved in. The ex was anti-social, he only went for for a very short time once a week (Pisces sun, Scorpio moon, Virgo rising) and me being the social butterfly loved the ideas that once the kids were in bed we could cut lose for an hour or two before bed so I was there almost every night.

The group was both men and women, most in relationships. A few singles.

After about a year I noticed what I thought was flirting from an Aquarius male (Aqua Sun, Gemini moon) 3 years my senior.

We got along smashing, at times I felt a connection and could have possibly flirted back.

Apparently everyone else noticed our chemistry and some of his single male friends would ask if he was interested in me. He would always reply “Come on dude, she’s married”

He would make me feel so happy and the magnetized between us was incredible. He chased me for a while but would never actually try to do anything physical. It was all conversation and mental stimulation.

When I first moved to this neighborhood I cought wind of my husband at the time, possibly cheating with a woman from his work.

Had no real proof but my gut could tell otherwise.

Anyhow my marriage did not last. Two people who both fell out of love...

Now the aqua has expressed interest after I expressed I had a dream about him and was embarrassed to see him in person (it was a not so innocent dream)

So we have recently messed around a little and he seemed happy and overcome with joy when we finally made contact with each other.

Well a few weeks have gone by and we still hang out every night now and we still text a couple times every couple days.

Now all of the sudden he’s gone cold, texting wise. I still see him (he doesn’t run for me) every night and we still have great conversations and flirt. He still walks by and try’s to annoy me by touching my face (I hate that lol)

Only problem is our text were the only ways we would express any deep emotions with each other and now he has stoped replying all together (I don’t text often. 1-2 every few days)



Is he pulling back because he’s getting too close? Or could it possibly be I am not his typical “type” and he might be embarrassed?

he sounds really shy, i would keep at it. if you are interested, dont lose hope with this one. you've already ended your relationship with the ex, sadly. Time to move on.

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by pinkbird03

I think for some aquas it’s easier for them to live in fantasy land because there’s no pressure. Now it’s getting real and he’s a little afraid of the possible future. But he’s still there so I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be consistent and don’t go crazy.

I have kept myself in a positive mind set and have been keeping it consistent. Although I momentarily wanted to lose it (Venus in Scorpio) I realized if I did that I would probably scare him off forever. So I just said if I stay positive, it will be positive.

I smile, crack jokes and talk some trash (nothing too harsh) and so far he seems to be slowly coming back around. Although he did go out to the club the other night and the next day talked about these girls he was talking too...but didn’t want anything to do with... supposedly

I just acted as if I wasn’t burning up on the inside!

Smiled and brushed it off (my Sag sun for the save)

After reading about how he talks about other girls to you and how he wants a specific type of girl and doesn’t want anyone to know about you, it was me questioning his interest in you. It seems more friendly than romantic. What do you think?

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Thought the same, then he does things like talk to me about how he talks to his mom about me. He is very close to his mother. He said he didn’t want anyone to know because the maturity levels of some of the younger guys in the group and didn’t want any drama from them.

He gets jealous if any of his guy friends come near or talk to me for an extended period of time, he tries his best not to show it but it’s written all over his face and reactions to any convo he’s not involved in. Everyone else picks it up also.

He tells me about his past relationship and wants to talk about personal things only when we are alone, which makes me thing he just wants to keep things private?

He constantly teases me, I mean constantly. Trying to make physical contact anytime he has to hand me anything and is always concerned about what I am doing... confusing to say the least.

When we first hooked up he said he felt bad because the ex and I were still technically married and he said he fought his self in deciding whether to see me or not (he said he wants to live the right way in the eyes of god)

Posted by pisceswoman123

That he doesn’t want anyone to know is a bad sign. Aquarius when they want you and you are important to them they don’t mind everyone to know.

And he telling you about other girls, I don’t know, in my opinion, I think he is letting you know that you are not the only one.

Exactly my thoughts then he talks about his conversations with his mom about me. He says he isn’t talking to anyone and when we hooked up he was so ecstatic, hugging me tightly, telling me “I’ve known you for two years, what happened why now?” I think he was reluctant to have anyone know because I was still technically married and he was scared of my crazy ex

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by pisceswoman123

That he doesn’t want anyone to know is a bad sign. Aquarius when they want you and you are important to them they don’t mind everyone to know.

And he telling you about other girls, I don’t know, in my opinion, I think he is letting you know that you are not the only one.

Exactly my thoughts then he talks about his conversations with his mom about me. He says he isn’t talking to anyone and when we hooked up he was so ecstatic, hugging me tightly, telling me “I’ve known you for two years, what happened why now?” I think he was reluctant to have anyone know because I was still technically married and he was scared of my crazy ex

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I see.

Well your responses shows a very different thing.

He teasing you and wanting to make physical contact is a good sign, lol.

I think you just have to be patient and see. If that is the reason he doesn’t want anyone to know then their is hope for sure

Early days and you’ve just come out of a divorce. Enjoy his company and don’t put too much pressure and expectations there.

Posted by HeartofTopazz

It sounds friendly. What do you mean when you say “deep emotions”? There could be potential for more, but I would just back off for now and let him do his thing. He’ll come back around.

When an Aquarius man is pursuing you it will be hard to ignore. They are great at that lol

Deep emotions being what he felt for his ex and how bad she hurt him. How he feels he waisted 5 years of his life and how he doesn’t want to do that ever again. He tells me the things that make him sad and the things that make him cry.

He’s told me a lot about his past and about his late father and his emotional issues because the breakup with the ex and passing of his father were within weeks of each other.

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by pinkbird03

I think for some aquas it’s easier for them to live in fantasy land because there’s no pressure. Now it’s getting real and he’s a little afraid of the possible future. But he’s still there so I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be consistent and don’t go crazy.

I have kept myself in a positive mind set and have been keeping it consistent. Although I momentarily wanted to lose it (Venus in Scorpio) I realized if I did that I would probably scare him off forever. So I just said if I stay positive, it will be positive.

I smile, crack jokes and talk some trash (nothing too harsh) and so far he seems to be slowly coming back around. Although he did go out to the club the other night and the next day talked about these girls he was talking too...but didn’t want anything to do with... supposedly

I just acted as if I wasn’t burning up on the inside!

Smiled and brushed it off (my Sag sun for the save)

After reading about how he talks about other girls to you and how he wants a specific type of girl and doesn’t want anyone to know about you, it was me questioning his interest in you. It seems more friendly than romantic. What do you think?

Thought the same, then he does things like talk to me about how he talks to his mom about me. He is very close to his mother. He said he didn’t want anyone to know because the maturity levels of some of the younger guys in the group and didn’t want any drama from them.

He gets jealous if any of his guy friends come near or talk to me for an extended period of time, he tries his best not to show it but it’s written all over his face and reactions to any convo he’s not involved in. Everyone else picks it up also.

He tells me about his past relationship and wants to talk about personal things only when we are alone, which makes me thing he just wants to keep things private?

He constantly teases me, I mean constantly. Trying to make physical contact anytime he has to hand me anything and is always concerned about what I am doing... confusing to say the least.

When we first hooked up he said he felt bad because the ex and I were still technically married and he said he fought his self in deciding whether to see me or not (he said he wants to live the right way in the eyes of god)

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I worry that he’s keeping you on his radar until he finds that hot blonde he’s looking for. He doesn’t completely want you, but doesn’t want anyone else to have you so he keeps you on the hook. I think it might be best to try to talk to him and have a serious conversation about your relationship.

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by AerialView

Why you'd think you're not he's typical type?

He has told the group and myself multiple times that he is looking for a “hot blonde, with blue eyes and is very thin” I am NOT anywhere near that description.... I would say I’m the exact opposite

Although I still catch him checking me out. He told me he didn’t want anyone to know about us messing around...

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I don't think you should take seriously that hot blonde blue eyes thing lol

Posted by AerialView

Posted by MadBrody

Posted by AerialView

Why you'd think you're not he's typical type?

He has told the group and myself multiple times that he is looking for a “hot blonde, with blue eyes and is very thin” I am NOT anywhere near that description.... I would say I’m the exact opposite

Although I still catch him checking me out. He told me he didn’t want anyone to know about us messing around...

I don't think you should take seriously that hot blonde blue eyes thing lol

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Everyone has a type that they are very sexually attracted to. My type is dark hair. I’ve never dated a blonde. And I think in this modern day, not that many people settle until they find what they want. Tinder, bumble, etc gives them these options and makes it easier to find them. Plus this guy seems to meet girls easily. I’d take his comment as the truth to what he really wants. But that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t settle for something different.