@Whitemoon18
8 Years
My Aquarius husband constantly chats with women. Is this normal in Aquarius men?
Understanding Aquarius Men and Social Behavior in Relationships
Aquarius men are known for being social and friendly but may struggle with boundaries in marriage. Their tendency to chat with many women can be part of their social nature, but it can also raise concerns about commitment. Open communication and setting boundaries are key to understanding his behavior and ensuring mutual trust.
i'm a lesbian. 99% of my friends are female. i legit have 2 male friends.
some of my friends are also gay like me.
this thread makes me feel super uncomfortable.
Why? It’s shit straight married people shit! Lol
How does it get all the way to marriage and now it’s an issue. Why didn’t you speak up 3 years ago before the marriage
Because she wanted to get married!!!
He's disrespecting the fuck out of your marriage.
Also. Have you ever once said anything about how uncomfortable this makes you feel?
Apparently not! It was like last night conversation why women date men for 16 years?
Because they don’t give a fuck...they just want some fuck to marry them! Doesn’t matter how fucked Up he is! If he marrying her - mission accomplished! She is married!!!
Status of married woman on a paper!
I would wring his neck and crash his computer over his fucking head so he bleed to death and let h call 911 himself...if blow wasn’t hard enough’
Stupid OP!
It made you uncomfortable before marriage. You should have been able to talk to him about it before marriage.
You can talk to him about it now, but more than likely he’s going to either 1. Say he was like this before you got married to him. Or 2. Say he will stop and then go back to his old self before you know it.
Before we got married I let him talk to his female friends as a way of not looking insecure and possessive.
But I really thought he was mature enough to know what a marriage is about and that it's something serious. My husband is 40 years old, he should know better. I guess they didn't teach him to respect like me. I talked to him about it but he says he doesn't do anything wrong.
You're right that I rushed into getting married but at least someone who's smart should know that there's boundaries but apparently he's not that smart. He can have friends but if he's obsessed with meeting new women, there's something wrong.
There are limits and I believe this is out of line!
Imagine it was the other way around, he wouldn't like it.
Step on your ground and be firm and tell him it's wrong.
No. That is not an Aquarius thing.
And you say that he is meeting them? I think you need to put your foot down and tell him that that’s not acceptable if you are not happy with it.
Wtf
This is insane. How’d you let it go on so long. Who cares if You appeared jealous and possessive?!
They hate to feel captured or tied down, so maybe you bear that in mind
11th house=groups not one to one
That's who he is.....I doubt he will change
Why would u marry someone and expect them to change for you?
Yup. Never expect anything or just assume. Had you talked to him before getting married to him, maybe you wouldn't have gotten married to him at all. But what's done is done. Talk to him now. All you can do.
There are limits and I believe this is out of line!
Imagine it was the other way around, he wouldn't like it.
Step on your ground and be firm and tell him it's wrong.
Maybe he would though. Not all people are equally possesive and/or has the same views on marriage. Maybe his differs.
Why would u marry someone and expect them to change for you?
Yup. Never expect anything or just assume. Had you talked to him before getting married to him, maybe you wouldn't have gotten married to him at all. But what's done is done. Talk to him now. All you can do.
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I doubt he will change.....not fundemntally anyway and that is who he is
"Oh but he will change"
Will he hell....😬
There are limits and I believe this is out of line!
Imagine it was the other way around, he wouldn't like it.
Step on your ground and be firm and tell him it's wrong.
Maybe he would though. Not all people are equally possesive and/or has the same views on marriage. Maybe his differs.
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That’s true also, it’s shame that she has to go through this.
There’s this Aquarius dude that I know, married and does the same thing.. He doesn’t even bother to hide it and full on flirts with every woman he can on Facebook. It’s really embarrassing.
His wife is really sweet as well and in a way I feel sorry for her but at the end of the day we allow people to treat us the way they do.
You should talk to him about it. If it is a deal breaker you need to make that clear to him, and reinforce those boundaries.
One of the reasons I don't date Aqua men, they love globally not locally...
And this should have been a discussion before marriage, not 3 years into it.
Why you marry this joker?
He is so unAquarius.
One in a million. You're just unlucky.
Before we got married I let him talk to his female friends as a way of not looking insecure and possessive.
But I really thought he was mature enough to know what a marriage is about and that it's something serious. My husband is 40 years old, he should know better. I guess they didn't teach him to respect like me. I talked to him about it but he says he doesn't do anything wrong.
You're right that I rushed into getting married but at least someone who's smart should know that there's boundaries but apparently he's not that smart. He can have friends but if he's obsessed with meeting new women, there's something wrong.
how did you met? throu facebook or online? what does it mean you rushed into getting married?
I mean, if he is chatting on facebook to other women, its a superficial problem, the underlying problem is, in my opinion, that your marriage is not exciting enough.... maybe he thinks he rushed into marriage as well...
I dont think to sit him down to tell him not to flirt on social media is going to solve your underlying issues.... sitting him down will not help anything, imho..... see the bigger picture and work on your marriage
"apparently he's not that smart." yeah, I can see why this Aqua is talking to others
maybe he is disappointed in your marriage as well
just my 2 cents
PS. we dont know anything about the circumstances of this marriage or about him.... I think its unfair to call him names, imho
or anybody here know the OP in real life?
He's disrespecting the fuck out of your marriage.
Also. Have you ever once said anything about how uncomfortable this makes you feel?
"He's disrespecting the fuck out of your marriage."
how exactly?
shot-gun marriages in Hollywood style to online strangers are going to last, right Mudra?
He's disrespecting the fuck out of your marriage.
Also. Have you ever once said anything about how uncomfortable this makes you feel?
"He's disrespecting the fuck out of your marriage."
how exactly?
shot-gun marriages in Hollywood style to online strangers are going to last, right Mudra?
Lol. I wouldn't know. I've never married an online stranger. I did get married to a childhood friend and it didn't work out, though. Thanks for bringing that up like a cunt, pandora.
Condone his behavior and make it seem like it's her fault he's being an ass and disrespecting her. If there's something wrong, he could have the balls to sit down and talk to her about it instead of getting attention from countless others.
Don't bother writing back to me. I won't read it because I won't engage in your back and forth trolling. You randomly pop up out of nowhere with fucked up, below the belt things to say to me. Never positive. Now when I see your name, I'll know right away to delete the comment notification because it just isn't worth it.
Good day.
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I followed your story and your posts, because I just read what is on
if you want to live in your bullshit forever, you can
off topic:
I cant be positive with somebody, who doesnt acknowledge their share of fault
which is the theme of this topic
that means he's confident as hell ;p
ok on a serious note.
you need to find out the cause of this. are you emotionally fulfilling him?? giving him enough love and stuff like that?
cause men won't go seeking other women on the side if they happy and FULFILLED in the marriage or relationship.
thats how it is ...
i was with an aquarius man in the past, he was EXTREMELY charismatic and women threw themselves at him...true story. Plutonic too, ambitious, and super smart..
and he was possessive with me. to the point of abusive.
any man can be super faithful, monogamous and only want one woman but you have to be the one that makes him only want u...obsessed like cray.
or just find yourself a decent man, who wont stray at all. you know a guy that isn't gonna hurt u ...good decent background and into routine and check out his way of talking with women. Is he charismatic??
those are the types you need to STAY the hell away from...
The aqua who i know is also like this and the other aqua i know isnt like that. But mostly aquas i know ... well, similar to this opinion below.
There’s this Aquarius dude that I know, married and does the same thing.. He doesn’t even bother to hide it and full on flirts with every woman he can on Facebook. It’s really embarrassing.
His wife is really sweet as well and in a way I feel sorry for her but at the end of the day we allow people to treat us the way they do.
You should talk to him about it. If it is a deal breaker you need to make that clear to him, and reinforce those boundaries.
Yes, it’s a very common thing for douchey Aquas to entertain people virtually. I know quite a few Aquas like that who do it out of boredom and they don’t consider that cheating because they aren’t exactly acting on it, aside from using their fingers to type away.
Why would u marry someone and expect them to change for you?
I mean...you really thought a piece of paper was gonna change who he was? Really??
You played yourself. People don’t change.
Ok I’ll give you some advice.
Check his Facebook profile and see if it says “married”.... if it doesn’t say “married” then that’s a red flag.
Secondly start adding the women he’s chatting to and become “friends” with them and then gauge his reaction to you doing so. If he’s got a problem with it then that’s a red flag too.
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Wut
I was going to agree with you and writing a post which got deleted. The post says nothing. LOL
Yes, it’s a very common thing for douchey Aquas to entertain people virtually. I know quite a few Aquas like that who do it out of boredom and they don’t consider that cheating because they aren’t exactly acting on it, aside from using their fingers to type away.
I read this is something Aqua Mars is into. Having the fantasy in the head or online. They don’t really want it in person, they enjoy the mental aspect of it.
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This is a mercury in Aqua thing. The one thing people in my life who do this have in common is mercury in Aqua. It’s that mind of theirs needing constant stimulation. They even entertain people who they have zero interest in. I would do this too if I didn’t have a picky venus where I feel only certain people are worth my time. Otherwise I got my friends and books to occupy my mind.
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Hi
I'm married to an Aquarius man and I just want some advice regarding his behavior. When he was my boyfriend he had a lot of female friends on Facebook with whom he used to chat. I tried not to be a jealous girlfriend at that time but I thought after marriage he was going to be a little more serious. After all, marriage is about commitment.
Now we've been married for almost 3 years and he always has a new female friend. He can't stop meeting new girls. Like he randomly meets a girl and when they add each other on Facebook he starts chat conversations with her because he wants to meet her on a more intimate level it seems. He has done this with a lot of girls and it makes me feel like I'm not the only woman in his life. I don't know what he talks about with them but I feel like he shouldn't be talking to a BUNCH of girls when he's married. I'm not saying he can't be social but chatting with them seems a little weird. Can he talk to 1 or 2 girls— Why so many— Does this behavior make him a player—
If he starts flirting should I be worried—