Aquarius does not recognize our anniversary.

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When I meet my sexy AF Aquarius I was still with my ex. We met online. I was lonely and in an unhappy relationship with a (laZy homebody) Taurus. I never told him I was in a relationship. Yes I lied but still the friendship blossomed. I lived for his good morning

beautiful texts. We talked for 2 months and when we met in person he still had no idea that I was lying about a lot of stuff.

It was so surreal. We had so much chemistry and complete connection. For about 2 months when I could get away from home we would make out like two teenagers and have these fun hangouts that left me smiling for days. Also during this whole time I would start fights with him and try to distance myself but he would just reel me back in. I was hooked. When he told me he loved me my knees went weak, I had never been happier.

I was in love but I had too much to lose by continuing this charade (a home/ security). So I finally told him the whole truth. He was furious and hurt and said some very hurtful things to me. I really thought that was it. He did not call, text or email for a few days.

Then he contacted me. What really hit home is when he asked me if I really wanted to live this comfy life with out the love and passion that we had abundant amounts of. For a couple of days I thought about his words and I came to the conclusion that this man is the love of my life and I wanted to be his % 100.

I have a daughter who was in her last year of high school at the time. I did not want to disrupt her life. He understood and agreed to continue as we had until she was away at college. It was after this that we had sex for the first time. Two months of sexual desire and tension (Taurus and I had not been intimate for months) were released. If I had any doubts that day cured me of them.

Fast forward. >>Taurus ex found out about everything. He tried to use manipulation and my daughter to get me to stay. My daughter has just finished her first year of college, house is under contract to sell, ex has moved on and with a new GF (who looks a lot like me I might add).

So after all that, here is my question: I've always considered the day we met in person as our anniversary but he says that it's not because we met under false pretenses. I asked him what he considered our anniversary and he had no definitive answer. What the heck. Every couple has a date that they can celebrate as an anniversary. Why not us? I think he is being unreasonable about this.

how about the day you told him the truth?

How about it seems after all you've been trough - that's simply nuts of you?

Who cares?

Pick the day! Or are you going to brake up over this shit? Are you out of your frikking mind woman?

Posted by AerialView
how about the day you told him the truth?

When I asked him what day he thought of as our anniversary he said he had no answer. He just left it at that. I didn't want to make it a big deal but it's been on my mind a lot.

Posted by Gemitati
How about it seems after all you've been trough - that's simply nuts of you?

Who cares?

Pick the day! Or are you going to brake up over this shit? Are you out of your frikking mind woman?

We've been through way to much for me to let this one get away. I know I'm much more sentimental than he is about stuff like this. But things like anniversaries and special days mean a lot to me. It almost feels like a punishment.

I've been with my Aqua for 27 years, he seems to think it was less than that but I don't know by how much. We don't have an anniversary. Who cares?

On the day that I consider our anniversary I gave him a gift that he loved and a card. It wasn't an anniversary card, just a card that talked about how much I loved him. I also wrote a beautiful inscription telling him that he is "home" for me. He didn't open the card, said that he would open it later. That was Friday ( we are together every weekend) and for two days he didn't open the card. Sunday morning while he was in the shower, I slipped the card out of the gift bag and took it back. Sunday night as he was packing his stuff he asked where the card was. I told him I took it back and that I didn't think he wanted it. He got mad. He then said "if I didn't want the card I wouldn't be asking for it." He then tells me that I can be childish sometimes. I gave him back the card and he took it with him when he left. Next day he doesn't mention the card nor the inscription. I let it alone, until I couldnt take it any more. I asked him flat out why he didn't read the card while he was with me. He states that I like to put him on the spot. Says reading a card is personal and private. What?

Although this whole situation gives me the cold clammies, I can relate to dude about the card. I hate reading cards and opening gifts in front of people. I don't give people the reactions they probably want and I know it.

Haa, this was a good one !

Great morning coffee story ! I hope he manages to fix his errors hehe hehe heh

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Posted by AerialView
how about the day you told him the truth?

lol !!!! what a day to remember 😛

sorrry to be blunt,

so you thought anniversary is a big deal when lying to him wasn't?

man, you need to prioritise whats important whats not...

though aqua i have a question for you,,

you don't mind being lied to —

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Posted by saweetz1988
sorrry to be blunt,

so you thought anniversary is a big deal when lying to him wasn't?

man, you need to prioritise whats important whats not...

though aqua i have a question for you,,

you don't mind being lied to —

No she's not the aqua her dude is, who she was lying too.

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Yay I c that. Just curious of why he did forgive... that's why I wonder arr aquas ok with being lied to? They r fixed sign, I didn't expect that

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Posted by -Flo-

Posted by saweetz1988
sorrry to be blunt,

so you thought anniversary is a big deal when lying to him wasn't?

man, you need to prioritise whats important whats not...

though aqua i have a question for you,,

you don't mind being lied to —

No she's not the aqua her dude is, who she was lying too.

Yay I c that. Just curious of why he did forgive... that's why I wonder arr aquas ok with being lied to? They r fixed sign, I didn't expect that

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It was a long road to him truly forgiving me. He says that he knows that I am a good woman and that a trashy affair is not what I am all about. At the time we started talking he was going through a lot of emotional turmoil and I helped him through all of it. Aqua said if it was anyone else he probably wouldn't of been able to forgive the lies.

He did not forget the lie. Actually, he is in a big stress right now. But he caught feelings for you before that. What is your situation now?

Posted by compy
He did not forget the lie. Actually, he is in a big stress right now. But he caught feelings for you before that. What is your situation now?

Other than the issue with the anniversary and the not reading the card, our life together is terrific. There are no secrets or lies any more so when we are together everything flows. We are each others best friend. For the most part he knows that he can come to me with anything and I won't judge and that goes ditto for me. I don't know if this thing of not wanting to establish an anniversary date is something deep seeded on his part.

Facts speak louder than words. The degree of intimacy depends. They can have a totally different intimate world away from you. Building trust is a must. Once shattered, it's difficult to build it back. What was the most intimate thing he said to you after the incident? You don't have to name it here, just think of it. How much of his schedule do you know?

Posted by compy
Facts speak louder than words. The degree of intimacy depends. They can have a totally different intimate world away from you. Building trust is a must. Once shattered, it's difficult to build it back. What was the most intimate thing he said to you after the incident? You don't have to name it here, just think of it. How much of his schedule do you know?

I agree, I don't know for me trust is sooooo important and honestly I keep telling the Aqua that. I says I do not care who u r seeing n if it makes u happy. BUT you need to b honest with me, no lies bullshits! Treat me like ur best friend. He knows that.. I hate lies !!!

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Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by -Flo-

Posted by saweetz1988
sorrry to be blunt,

so you thought anniversary is a big deal when lying to him wasn't?

man, you need to prioritise whats important whats not...

though aqua i have a question for you,,

you don't mind being lied to —

No she's not the aqua her dude is, who she was lying too.

Yay I c that. Just curious of why he did forgive... that's why I wonder arr aquas ok with being lied to? They r fixed sign, I didn't expect that

That's the problem when we fall, we fall hard.. and sometimes we will put up with bs from people we care about, BUT the day we've had enough that's when it's gets bad.

1. Ice you out

2. Start playing mind game

3. revenge

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Yeah I agree. So I think she has his second chances hopefully she won't blow it

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Reading this story was like hearing someone talk about how someone got murdered and then immediately asking what flavor creamer goes best with coffee.



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