Aquarius guy is mad at me? What should I do? HELP!

Last night, He yelled at me in the car that he wanted to be alone...So I hugged him ... he cooled down alittle bit, and told me in a normal tone that he wanted to be alone.

So I haven't talked with him since last night.

Should I message him to ask if he's okay now OR just leave him alone?

He's aquarius sun, Pisces moon.

Give him his space or you'll push him away.

I agree with Lildoll, if he's angry, give him time to cool down. Whatever happened to upset him, if it was you, you may apologize but he'll want that apology backed up by actions. So it'll take time for him to see that you're truly sorry for what happened. However, for now, don't stress out, if he cares for you, he'll come back once he gets over his anger. You'll just annoy him immensely if you keep picking at him while he's angry.

Why do people do that?

If someone wants space, leave them alone. Don't call them asking if they still want to be left alone.

When they are done needing space they will contact you.

Rule of Thumb: Whether you are in a relationship, marriage or single...HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE.

You got a aqua/pisces to yell at you? Good job!!

Posted by aquasnoz
You got a aqua/pisces to yell at you? Good job!!

She must have pissed him off real good!

He came back already... I didn't contact him at all.

He yelled at me because I kept asking him if he's mad at me. I'm a libra/leo.. If someone is mad at me, I need to know why and solve it right away.
And the reason he's mad at me is stupid. I let myself down to apologize to him even I didn't do anything wrong.

Anyway, he came back and talk with me... but he still hasn't apologize from what he had done to me last night.

Should I just forget it then and pretend everything is the same?

Posted by 1thgirls
He came back already... I didn't contact him at all.

He yelled at me because I kept asking him if he's mad at me. I'm a libra/leo.. If someone is mad at me, I need to know why and solve it right away.
And the reason he's mad at me is stupid. I let myself down to apologize to him even I didn't do anything wrong.

Anyway, he came back and talk with me... but he still hasn't apologize from what he had done to me last night.

Should I just forget it then and pretend everything is the same?

I wouldn't dwell on it any longer.

You two need a better way of communicating with each other instead of going through these childish hysterics.

How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

Posted by 1thgirls
He came back already... I didn't contact him at all.

He yelled at me because I kept asking him if he's mad at me. I'm a libra/leo.. If someone is mad at me, I need to know why and solve it right away.
And the reason he's mad at me is stupid. I let myself down to apologize to him even I didn't do anything wrong.

Anyway, he came back and talk with me... but he still hasn't apologize from what he had done to me last night.

Should I just forget it then and pretend everything is the same?

I'm a Libra but my sister is a Leo so i understand both sides to your reaction. However, as a Libra, I can tell you that when an Aqua is irritated or thoughtful, to keep asking them if they're mad at you WILL make them angry. Because in their eyes, you aren't letting them have their "inner me" time. Or if they were angry, by picking at him, you turned his anger towards you. Also, he probably saw it as a little selfish, he probably thought: "Not everything is about you". I can totally understand your reaction, I'm just explaining what i believe is "his" side of the argument, don't know if it helps.

My suggestion would be to ask him to please explain his feelings that evening. After you do the same, you both will probably realize it was just a misunderstanding.

Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

Damn, I hate being forced to speak up. That would literally turn me into a monster, and you'd regret you ever asked lol!

Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

I know that It was my fault that I kept asking him if he was mad at me... but the reason he was mad at me was stupid.
he forgot to release the hand-brake of his car and be blamed me because I kept talking with him.
And it was the reason he's mad at me. I kept apologizing to him in the car 100 times... and he yelled at me that he wanted me to leave him alone.

but yet here you are posting about it to see what you can do to solve it.

Disregarding the details, my advice is to drop it and continue on that thing called life.

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Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

Damn, I hate being forced to speak up. That would literally turn me into a monster, and you'd regret you ever asked lol!

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Same, I've only done that a few times usually with those who don't know me so well or TOO well. I get that it's sort of just their way of caring but when you insist you don't want to talk about it and for them to drop it, it gets irritating real quick when they keep bringing it back up.

As a Aqua/Pisces myself it's hard. People KNOW I'm in a foul mood, it's on my face. I should just keep a sign that says "speak to me and I'll cut you".

Posted by aquasnoz
but yet here you are posting about it to see what you can do to solve it.

Disregarding the details, my advice is to drop it and continue on that thing called life.

Yes.. That's why I'm asking here if I should mention to him that he didn't respect me last night by yelling to me and he needs at least apologize to me OR should I just pretend nothing happen and move on.

Posted by 1thgirls

Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

I know that It was my fault that I kept asking him if he was mad at me... but the reason he was mad at me was stupid.
he forgot to release the hand-brake of his car and be blamed me because I kept talking with him.
And it was the reason he's mad at me. I kept apologizing to him in the car 100 times... and he yelled at me that he wanted me to leave him alone.

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Hmmm... He probably got even more defensive because he knows it wasn't actually your fault. Another thing you have to realize with Aquas is that if an argument arises that they initiated, believe me, they KNOW it's their fault. They're brain process things faster than you can imagine, he probably replayed the whole thing and knows you weren't responsible for starting it. BUT, he will hold you responsible for making him even more angry by being pushy. Again, I'm just trying to explain things from his point of view. They're not big on verbal apologies, but the fact that he cooled down so quickly shows he's aware he contributed.

And I told you from my perspective given your story, he's done nothing wrong. If you're demanding an apology you are not going to get one. In fact you will create more drama.

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Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

I know that It was my fault that I kept asking him if he was mad at me... but the reason he was mad at me was stupid.
he forgot to release the hand-brake of his car and be blamed me because I kept talking with him.
And it was the reason he's mad at me. I kept apologizing to him in the car 100 times... and he yelled at me that he wanted me to leave him alone.

Hmmm... He probably got even more defensive because he knows it wasn't actually your fault. Another thing you have to realize with Aquas is that if an argument arises that they initiated, believe me, they KNOW it's their fault. They're brain process things faster than you can imagine, he probably replayed the whole thing and knows you weren't responsible for starting it. BUT, he will hold you responsible for making him even more angry by being pushy. Again, I'm just trying to explain things from his point of view. They're not big on verbal apologies, but the fact that he cooled down so quickly shows he's aware he contributed.

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Thank you very much for your comment... I think I should let it go and be a normal friend.. pretending that nothing happened last night.

Posted by aquasnoz
And I told you from my perspective given your story, he's done nothing wrong. If you're demanding an apology you are not going to get one. In fact you will create more drama.

Thanks for your advice. I won't talk about what happened to him last night anymore.

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Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

I know that It was my fault that I kept asking him if he was mad at me... but the reason he was mad at me was stupid.
he forgot to release the hand-brake of his car and be blamed me because I kept talking with him.
And it was the reason he's mad at me. I kept apologizing to him in the car 100 times... and he yelled at me that he wanted me to leave him alone.

Hmmm... He probably got even more defensive because he knows it wasn't actually your fault. Another thing you have to realize with Aquas is that if an argument arises that they initiated, believe me, they KNOW it's their fault. They're brain process things faster than you can imagine, he probably replayed the whole thing and knows you weren't responsible for starting it. BUT, he will hold you responsible for making him even more angry by being pushy. Again, I'm just trying to explain things from his point of view. They're not big on verbal apologies, but the fact that he cooled down so quickly shows he's aware he contributed.

Thank you very much for your comment... I think I should let it go and be a normal friend.. pretending that nothing happened last night.

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Your welcome :-) My advice would be to let it go AND don't let you Leo side get you to do it again lol if he's in a bad mood, don't push him, it'll make him explode.

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Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

I know that It was my fault that I kept asking him if he was mad at me... but the reason he was mad at me was stupid.
he forgot to release the hand-brake of his car and be blamed me because I kept talking with him.
And it was the reason he's mad at me. I kept apologizing to him in the car 100 times... and he yelled at me that he wanted me to leave him alone.

Hmmm... He probably got even more defensive because he knows it wasn't actually your fault. Another thing you have to realize with Aquas is that if an argument arises that they initiated, believe me, they KNOW it's their fault. They're brain process things faster than you can imagine, he probably replayed the whole thing and knows you weren't responsible for starting it. BUT, he will hold you responsible for making him even more angry by being pushy. Again, I'm just trying to explain things from his point of view. They're not big on verbal apologies, but the fact that he cooled down so quickly shows he's aware he contributed.

Thank you very much for your comment... I think I should let it go and be a normal friend.. pretending that nothing happened last night.

Your welcome :-) My advice would be to let it go AND don't let you Leo side get you to do it again lol if he's in a bad mood, don't push him, it'll make him explode.

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Hahahaha! Thanks dear... I will try to control my Leo's mood

I'm a big fan of picking your battles. However, I'm also a big fan of always speaking up whenever feelings are hurt regarding a matter that is important to you. Remember the old cliche saying that "Communication is everything/important?" Well, remember that being able to sit down and talk things out when upset is also considered communication.

Don't start the trend of suffering in silence in your relationships. It'll lead to resentment on both ends.

Anywho, on to your original question...When he asked you for space, he meant that. Space is not, "Ok ok I'll leave you alone, but wait can I get you anything? Are you ok!?" That is not space. When a person needs space, try not to make them needing space about you. Don't use their moment of needing alone time to be selfish, meanwhile subliminally making them feel guilty for needing time to themselves.

Even a relationship void of arguments at the moment still involves 1 or 2 people who occasionally need space. Even the happiest of men will need space sometimes. Space sometimes from you personally. And other times b/c they're pissed off and are doing you a favor by making sure you're nowhere in the danger zone for folks to get told off if they say/do the wrong thing lol!

Although I don't condone being disrespectful to a woman/partner, I do however understand why you annoyed the hell out of him. There's nothing worse than needing space and having someone keep popping up bothering you as if they didn't get the memo that you needed space lol

I get it, I get it. You meant no harm, but again, the 1 thing he needed to see from you in that moment was that you were a good listener, and not that you were concerned about him. He knows that you love him & were concerned. He knew that before he asked you for space. What he needed from you in that moment was solitude, distance, and patience. You instead gave him things he didn't ask for, and then further made it about you when you took the rejection personal.

If you feel disrespected or if he said/did something deal-breaking to you in the moment of him getting that space, then yes he needs to apologize & that is worth addressing. But if he was just being human, and showing annoyance b/c you kept bothering him, then honey pick your battles & get off of that man's back! lol Doing so is not 'pretending' anything. It's called being the bigger person sometimes and picking your battles vs. keeping score & making a man pay for your negative feelings 24/7

Posted by aquasnoz
You got a aqua/pisces to yell at you? Good job!!

Shut your face. As if that would be very complicated.

Posted by aquasnoz
How did you not do anything wrong? I hate it when someone presses me for things that I just don't want to talk about just yet. To the point where you have to yell at someone it probably means you were pushing his buttons all over. Nothing wrong? you bet you did something wrong.

What about you? What about what you did wrong? That's the problem with Aquarius: your fixed sign bs all the time. You come up with shot, you push away people for the sake of it, you will yell at someone and say your done with him/her to appear very courageous and then run away. That's why you don't like when people confront because you're acting cowardly. Just face things and put your mind into something the Tango isn't danced in a pair. Plus in this case she's a Libra she would sort things out in the best and most peaceful way. Suck that mango!