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I have my topic in the Cancer forum about this guy but I decided to post here in hopes that I can learn more about the Aquarius side of him on his moon sign. It has taken me sooo long & sooo much patience to get a little ahead of where we ever reached before but I finally set off on an emotional outburst again & I'm not sure if I have killed this opportunity again.

To cut it short, I realise how he finally has started 'pursuing' me which typically reflects his Scorpio Mars. I realise how big a step this must be for him to open up & trust me. He talked about getting sexual with me, asking me all the intimate & private questions & setting rules for us both. It was a very animated conversation & I've never experienced him so lively & passionate 🙂 but the next day he went back to his usual self of ignoring me the whole day & I blew up. I accused him of just wanting to sleep with me & disillusioning me. At the end of it, I told him this wasn't what I want - if he doesn't love me I won't sleep with him. Then I asked him does he love me? He has been quiet ever since.

So I have seen his Mars in Scorpio in action but I don't know if he is actually in love with me. How do you tell how a Moon in Aquarius is when he is in love?
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oh god, that combo Cancer/Aqua......*shudder*

This really has nothing to do with you but with him. You take two signs that reflect the exact opposite of each other, Cancers suns are just moody and it drives the detached Aqua moon side batshit crazy. You are going to get a lot of push/pull. A lot of "today I want to be with you, tomorrow I want my space, the next day lets go hang with friends, then space, then 4 days of wanting to wallow in your company etc etc" Even if he is COMPLETELY in love with you, this will be his pattern behavior unless he's done some evolving. If you can't handle his need for space to process emotions, get out now, it will only get uglier.

I'm not saying hes fucked up, I'm saying hes going to need more space than the usual Aqua Moon to process how he feels and he is compatible with someone who can give him that. If it's not the way you handle close relationships then don't do it.

What are his other placements?
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oh god, that combo Cancer/Aqua......*shudder*

This really has nothing to do with you but with him. You take two signs that reflect the exact opposite of each other, Cancers suns are just moody and it drives the detached Aqua moon side batshit crazy. You are going to get a lot of push/pull. A lot of "today I want to be with you, tomorrow I want my space, the next day lets go hang with friends, then space, then 4 days of wanting to wallow in your company etc etc" Even if he is COMPLETELY in love with you, this will be his pattern behavior unless he's done some evolving. If you can't handle his need for space to process emotions, get out now, it will only get uglier.

I'm not saying hes fucked up, I'm saying hes going to need more space than the usual Aqua Moon to process how he feels and he is compatible with someone who can give him that. If it's not the way you handle close relationships then don't do it.

What are his other placements?
Yes, it's been a lot of push/pull. I've been dealing with him on-and-off, never yet in a committed relationship, for the past 2 years. It's a very slow process between pushing/pulling, but I'm slowly seeing the light of it after learning more about each other, with each passionate conversation followed by frustrated silence on his part, that perhaps, he does truly want me/love me, but he works on a very different level/approach than we are conventionally expecting. I'm willing to work it out & be patient as I have faith that it'll be all worth it. I myself may need space once in a while so I do not have problem understanding that need. However, currently, I'm still flipping out a lot when he ignores me as I'm still unsure if I'm reading the signs right, whether he is really interested or just fooling around with me. At least I'd expect him to offer some assurance but he doesn't, he just keeps quiet to no end, until I'd concede & initiate contact with him again.

He has Mercury & Venus in Leo, & have I mentioned Mars in Scorpio... While I am Taurus Sun, Leo Moon, Aries Mercury, Aries Venus & Gemini Mars. I've found that we have a very close Venus-Moon conjunction in Leo & I've read that this is pretty significant & supportive in a close relationship 🙂
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Yeah Aquarius moon is a fixed air sign so it can be confusing to some on how their emotions run. Intense and straightforward. You will know where they stand more. So to water sign and air sign creates tornado weather.
What you said is interesting. I can see how he is straightforward but the expression is detached, I don't understand the intensity, if there is. It does create tornado, a whole lot of tornado... I'm just left confused... :/
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Yeah Aquarius moon is a fixed air sign so it can be confusing to some on how their emotions run. Intense and straightforward. You will know where they stand more. So to water sign and air sign creates tornado weather.
What you said is interesting. I can see how he is straightforward but the expression is detached, I don't understand the intensity, if there is. It does create tornado, a whole lot of tornado... I'm just left confused... :/
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cancer guy in my life is Cancer sun/Aqua moon but it works for us because i'm Aqua sun.

I think if he was the more super emo/clingy cancer types it would drive me bat shhit crazy and i have enough fire that it makes me super warm instead of cold/detached, so he gets that side of me to nurture his cancer need for that.

It's a tough ride, not going to lie.

He goes into his shell at times still, but so do i, so when i start feeling like whats going on, thats when i reach out to him or vs versa...

You need to get your emotions in check though and really decide if this is for you, it's a roller coaster and crabbies need the reasurance that you are in it for the long haul. Crab give their own type of reasurance, which over time you will learn to read ( hopefully) if not then it may not be the guy for you.

His Aqua moon may seem detached but he really isn't, it's just burried deep inside waiting for the right person.


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Yeah just sit back and chillax and if it meant to be for you like both to change then do it and if not too much hot and cold for an air moon can detach and feel less intense and more cold even if we do like you. Air signs communicate alot, need it to survive. Because no one is perfect. And we are put here to contact adapt, but not feel miserable trying to be happy.
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Well, I can tell you, its not going to be a conventional no matter what his cancer sun or venus leo wants. That Aqua moon is going to make him stick to his guns about feeling completely secure with you until he lets go.
It is hard to get him to communicate. Conventionally, guys who are interested in me would die to engage in conversations with me. Him, on the contrary, just kept his silence. I had to initiate the conversation all the time. Yet, he told me he had been interested since long ago. Yet, he admitted he like me. Yet, he assured me he misses me too. I want to engage in conversations, sharing our days, getting to know each other more, at times just random & trivial stuff. But he doesn't. Is this typical of the Aquarius moon? I thought Aquarius would be interested in communication. Does he feel burden by my 'expectation' of replies from him?
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Yeah Aquarius moon is a fixed air sign so it can be confusing to some on how their emotions run. Intense and straightforward. You will know where they stand more. So to water sign and air sign creates tornado weather.
What you said is interesting. I can see how he is straightforward but the expression is detached, I don't understand the intensity, if there is. It does create tornado, a whole lot of tornado... I'm just left confused... :/
cancer guy in my life is Cancer sun/Aqua moon but it works for us because i'm Aqua sun.

I think if he was the more super emo/clingy cancer types it would drive me bat shhit crazy and i have enough fire that it makes me super warm instead of cold/detached, so he gets that side of me to nurture his cancer need for that.

It's a tough ride, not going to lie.

He goes into his shell at times still, but so do i, so when i start feeling like whats going on, thats when i reach out to him or vs versa...

You need to get your emotions in check though and really decide if this is for you, it's a roller coaster and crabbies need the reasurance that you are in it for the long haul. Crab give their own type of reasurance, which over time you will learn to read ( hopefully) if not then it may not be the guy for you.

His Aqua moon may seem detached but he really isn't, it's just burried deep inside waiting for the right person.


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I'm glad mine was not the overly emo/clingy type cos I can't stand these type of people too. However, I like that he has this emotional depth that immediately connects me towards his intensity I physically felt of warmth & fuzziness. He is the only 1 ever to make me feel like this. I asked the same thing in my comment a while ago. I felt the detachment cos he doesn't seem to want to engage in conversations with me whereas I'm eager to share my days, or just talking more to get to know each other, or sometimes just casual, random, trivial chats. I'd think an Aquarius moon is keen on this. But he doesn't, & most of the time he just ignores me.
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Yeah just sit back and chillax and if it meant to be for you like both to change then do it and if not too much hot and cold for an air moon can detach and feel less intense and more cold even if we do like you. Air signs communicate alot, need it to survive. Because no one is perfect. And we are put here to contact adapt, but not feel miserable trying to be happy.
I'm a Taurus sun, a fixed Sun too. If 0428 is your birthday, then we share the same birth date 🙂 I want to sit back & chilled but sometimes I feel like I have the time I want to use it practically to communicate with Cancer guy & get to know each other more. I expect him to communicate a lot too having an air sign but no, he doesn't seem eager to. Sometimes it's this kind of non-responsiveness that makes me flipped out as I start wondering whether he actually likes me or not. It's hard.
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Well, I can tell you, its not going to be a conventional no matter what his cancer sun or venus leo wants. That Aqua moon is going to make him stick to his guns about feeling completely secure with you until he lets go.
It is hard to get him to communicate. Conventionally, guys who are interested in me would die to engage in conversations with me. Him, on the contrary, just kept his silence. I had to initiate the conversation all the time. Yet, he told me he had been interested since long ago. Yet, he admitted he like me. Yet, he assured me he misses me too. I want to engage in conversations, sharing our days, getting to know each other more, at times just random & trivial stuff. But he doesn't. Is this typical of the Aquarius moon? I thought Aquarius would be interested in communication. Does he feel burden by my 'expectation' of replies from him?
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The Moon is about emotion. The talky Aquas are Mercs, Suns, Venus, Mars. Aqua moons with their partners are difficult with communication, especially about anything emotional. They are shy, introverted and have a tendency to people watch, not people talk. A truly deep fear of rejection runs through the heart of Aqua moons and if not nurtured out of nature, can make it hard truly be emotionally intimate with someone.

The upswing is that:

snippet - The Aquarian tendency to be humanitarian shows up powerfully in Moon in Aquarius. However, their kindness and concern for others is generally more a broad philosophy of life. With people close to them, Moon in Aquarius natives can seemingly lack compassion, as they often fully expect others to be as independent and detached as they are! In close, personal relationships, however, Lunar Aquarians generally give others a lot of personal freedom, and they will tolerate and enjoy all kinds of idiosyncrasies in people around them.

An Aqua will back your dream even when no one else will. An Aqua has a deep need to help the others around them flourish on their own. The Aqua Moon philosophy is to teach a person to fish, to provide for a lifetime, rather than handing you a fish for the day.
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I have my topic in the Cancer forum about this guy but I decided to post here in hopes that I can learn more about the Aquarius side of him on his moon sign. It has taken me sooo long & sooo much patience to get a little ahead of where we ever reached before but I finally set off on an emotional outburst again & I'm not sure if I have killed this opportunity again.

To cut it short, I realise how he finally has started 'pursuing' me which typically reflects his Scorpio Mars. I realise how big a step this must be for him to open up & trust me. He talked about getting sexual with me, asking me all the intimate & private questions & setting rules for us both. It was a very animated conversation & I've never experienced him so lively & passionate 🙂 but the next day he went back to his usual self of ignoring me the whole day & I blew up. I accused him of just wanting to sleep with me & disillusioning me. At the end of it, I told him this wasn't what I want - if he doesn't love me I won't sleep with him. Then I asked him does he love me? He has been quiet ever since.

So I have seen his Mars in Scorpio in action but I don't know if he is actually in love with me. How do you tell how a Moon in Aquarius is when he is in love?
i'm not fond of too many aquares in the chart. only a tiny bit, but too much . yuck. However, you are Lucky he is trine mars to cancer sun, with an air moon.

i dont see a problem with cancer/aqua combo, i didnt see it as a problem when researching...however their emotional side takes over and if it's not nurtured, they will go into DEEP depression.
and unfortunately ADDICTIONS.


look what happened to cancer sun/aqua moon,
Philip Seymour Hoffman, great actor, but sadly, he was secretly depressed.

also, aqua sun/cancer moon Misha barton.

their watery parts ALWAYS takes over. Yes, still aquarius energy in there,but the water NEEDS to be nurtured. no matter what.


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Well, I can tell you, its not going to be a conventional no matter what his cancer sun or venus leo wants. That Aqua moon is going to make him stick to his guns about feeling completely secure with you until he lets go.
It is hard to get him to communicate. Conventionally, guys who are interested in me would die to engage in conversations with me. Him, on the contrary, just kept his silence. I had to initiate the conversation all the time. Yet, he told me he had been interested since long ago. Yet, he admitted he like me. Yet, he assured me he misses me too. I want to engage in conversations, sharing our days, getting to know each other more, at times just random & trivial stuff. But he doesn't. Is this typical of the Aquarius moon? I thought Aquarius would be interested in communication. Does he feel burden by my 'expectation' of replies from him?
The Moon is about emotion. The talky Aquas are Mercs, Suns, Venus, Mars. Aqua moons with their partners are difficult with communication, especially about anything emotional. They are shy, introverted and have a tendency to people watch, not people talk. A truly deep fear of rejection runs through the heart of Aqua moons and if not nurtured out of nature, can make it hard truly be emotionally intimate with someone.

The upswing is that:

snippet - The Aquarian tendency to be humanitarian shows up powerfully in Moon in Aquarius. However, their kindness and concern for others is generally more a broad philosophy of life. With people close to them, Moon in Aquarius natives can seemingly lack compassion, as they often fully expect others to be as independent and detached as they are! In close, personal relationships, however, Lunar Aquarians generally give others a lot of personal freedom, and they will tolerate and enjoy all kinds of idiosyncrasies in people around them.

An Aqua will back your dream even when no one else will. An Aqua has a deep need to help the others around them flourish on their own. The Aqua Moon philosophy is to teach a person to fish, to provide for a lifetime, rather than handing you a fish for the day.
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i notice that too, it's more powerful in moon,
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Oooh my boyfriend of 5 years was this combo!! Wooo. Best bf ever and only one who really "got" me. Passion, passion, passion.wed love eachother 90 percent of the time fight 10 percent.
I'm Sag sun scorpio moon.
Nice to hear that. Are you no longer together?
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No longer together, I was too young at the time and curious about the world. But he was my best relationship.
He had a leo venus too.
Anyway we both would be passionately love eachother and passionately hate eachother when we fought, then we'd passionately make up.
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Well, I can tell you, its not going to be a conventional no matter what his cancer sun or venus leo wants. That Aqua moon is going to make him stick to his guns about feeling completely secure with you until he lets go.
It is hard to get him to communicate. Conventionally, guys who are interested in me would die to engage in conversations with me. Him, on the contrary, just kept his silence. I had to initiate the conversation all the time. Yet, he told me he had been interested since long ago. Yet, he admitted he like me. Yet, he assured me he misses me too. I want to engage in conversations, sharing our days, getting to know each other more, at times just random & trivial stuff. But he doesn't. Is this typical of the Aquarius moon? I thought Aquarius would be interested in communication. Does he feel burden by my 'expectation' of replies from him?
The Moon is about emotion. The talky Aquas are Mercs, Suns, Venus, Mars. Aqua moons with their partners are difficult with communication, especially about anything emotional. They are shy, introverted and have a tendency to people watch, not people talk. A truly deep fear of rejection runs through the heart of Aqua moons and if not nurtured out of nature, can make it hard truly be emotionally intimate with someone.

The upswing is that:

snippet - The Aquarian tendency to be humanitarian shows up powerfully in Moon in Aquarius. However, their kindness and concern for others is generally more a broad philosophy of life. With people close to them, Moon in Aquarius natives can seemingly lack compassion, as they often fully expect others to be as independent and detached as they are! In close, personal relationships, however, Lunar Aquarians generally give others a lot of personal freedom, and they will tolerate and enjoy all kinds of idiosyncrasies in people around them.

An Aqua will back your dream even when no one else will. An Aqua has a deep need to help the others around them flourish on their own. The Aqua Moon philosophy is to teach a person to fish, to provide for a lifetime, rather than handing you a fish for the day.
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I appreciate your insights here. How can I assure him out of his fear of rejection & nurture him?

I'm seeing clear how his Aquarius moon has been expressed in giving personal freedom. When we talked about getting to sleeping with each other, he didn't ask for me to not sleep with others. He appeared to be open about it, only asking that if I do sleep with others, to let him know. I ask him what'd he do if I tell him. He said he'll do the same then (sleep with others). Prior to this, we promise w
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Oooh my boyfriend of 5 years was this combo!! Wooo. Best bf ever and only one who really "got" me. Passion, passion, passion.wed love eachother 90 percent of the time fight 10 percent.
I'm Sag sun scorpio moon.
Nice to hear that. Are you no longer together?
No longer together, I was too young at the time and curious about the world. But he was my best relationship.
He had a leo venus too.
Anyway we both would be passionately love eachother and passionately hate eachother when we fought, then we'd passionately make up.
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I had been young once & lost someone dear too. I moved on from him & am happy to know he's doing well now. Hopefully you're moving on well too.
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Don't smother him. Just simply state that you appreciate him being so open sexually, but you don't want to be with anyone else but him. Aqua moons are like that weird loner kid in the playground, wanting to be picked but too proud to say so. In this relationship, it will be up to you to be the rock he can count on. You have to be mature enough to accept that it may always be so, but it may also bring out the best Taurus qualities in you.
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@Gennie your advice seems accurate & very helpful for me in understanding the peculiar Aquarius side of him. I made amends with him a few days later after my outburst. Well, he said he couldn't deal with me for being very needy. He has a lot on his mind. Previously I have said I didn't like to be ignored & I guess he did his best to be responsive... That was before my outburst cos he started ignoring again. So he told me he didn't need to talk & share (my demands) & asked me to think carefully if this is indeed what I want. I had a few days to think before I initiated amends with him & I came to understand that I need to be very patient with him. We are currently apart from each other & he's pursuing a professional degree which I think he needs to be committed to for the sake of his father (he has briefly shared about this with me long time ago). So I assured him that yes I have no problem with this. It makes him a happy kid again 🙂

In most relationships, it is very easy to satisfy another's emotional needs by sharing, listening, acknowledging & constantly communicating. But he feels bothered by this. What is the way to satisfy his Aquarius emotional needs?
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@Gennie your advice seems accurate & very helpful for me in understanding the peculiar Aquarius side of him. I made amends with him a few days later after my outburst. Well, he said he couldn't deal with me for being very needy. He has a lot on his mind. Previously I have said I didn't like to be ignored & I guess he did his best to be responsive... That was before my outburst cos he started ignoring again. So he told me he didn't need to talk & share (my demands) & asked me to think carefully if this is indeed what I want. I had a few days to think before I initiated amends with him & I came to understand that I need to be very patient with him. We are currently apart from each other & he's pursuing a professional degree which I think he needs to be committed to for the sake of his father (he has briefly shared about this with me long time ago). So I assured him that yes I have no problem with this. It makes him a happy kid again 🙂

In most relationships, it is very easy to satisfy another's emotional needs by sharing, listening, acknowledging & constantly communicating. But he feels bothered by this. What is the way to satisfy his Aquarius emotional needs?
Give him space. Aqua moons, we just don't do emotional coddling. We don't like it, we don't do it to others, we prefer companionable silence. If I'm focused on something, I don't want to be bothered. The problem with Aqua moons is that we just aren't reassured like other people or signs. You want to feed his emotional needs?

Stop texting him so much.
Don't blow your temper if he doesn't respond right away, but you should be able to ask him if he finished what he was focused on.
Put the ball in his court and explain that you need at least 1-2 days a week where you have his attention to fulfill your needs, and ask him if that what he wants, and he needs to make it happen
Remind him to eat, we always forget to eat.
With a Cancer sun he should like cuddling, so netflix and chill.