VirgoGuyy
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Aquarius Women - What to do when they give you the silent treatment?
you just leave
they are crazy psychos lol
they are crazy psychos lol
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
Posted by -Flo-If I didn't like Aquas at all I wouldn't be here. I love to "hate" you. 😉Posted by TheSagYou don't like aquas, but your always on the aqua forum? The irony.
you just leave
they are crazy psychos lol
Actually can you give me a count of how many times I've stepped on the sag forum?click to expand
I am just saying how things are.
Some of my best friends are Aquas though.
Posted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).
@Chuckcem
That first part is really good, l never saw Aquarius like that, of course, they hold their emotions in a jug, it can spill out, they have to put a lid on it...very good and 100% what Aquariuses are like.
The rest tho, it's just obvious she felt like a slag, he brought that shit up in front of everybody. He completely fucked himself on that one, there's no way she's gonna let him touch her body ever again. Imagine how she feels.
That first part is really good, l never saw Aquarius like that, of course, they hold their emotions in a jug, it can spill out, they have to put a lid on it...very good and 100% what Aquariuses are like.
The rest tho, it's just obvious she felt like a slag, he brought that shit up in front of everybody. He completely fucked himself on that one, there's no way she's gonna let him touch her body ever again. Imagine how she feels.
Posted by bricklemarkYeah, I think you're right. Some Aquas can be more open with their sex lives, so it's hard for me to call it without knowing this girl's placements or much about her personality.
@Chuckcem
That first part is really good, l never saw Aquarius like that, of course, they hold their emotions in a jug, it can spill out, they have to put a lid on it...very good and 100% what Aquariuses are like.
The rest tho, it's just obvious she felt like a slag, he brought that shit up in front of everybody. He completely fucked himself on that one, there's no way she's gonna let him touch her body ever again. Imagine how she feels.
Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
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Posted by bricklemarkLMAOPosted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
click to expand
Posted by bricklemarkLol! regardless of the sign, that's crazy.Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
click to expand
Posted by ChuckcemI am an Aqua, currently giving someone "the silent treatment" but is not to test him whether he wants to be with me or not. Is for me to know how I feel about him, everyday I feel differently, some days calm, some days I miss him, and trying to put together the things I want to address with him so we don't fall back into the same issues, that's if we find a common ground to continue with what we have.Posted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).click to expand
I agree with what you said.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).click to expand
First of all thank you for the input I kind of preventively took your advice & tossed her an olive branch to say I am here to talk & apologised again & made it clear that her concerns were valid & I understood them. (Better late than never?) she replied to me hours later saying:
Hey! I don't really know what to say in response. I honestly thought this time would have been it but something else has came up again ☹️ I think we might just be best staying as friends. We get on really well and I'd hate is not to be able to get on. I'm sorry.'
Not sure how I should respond to this as I know Aquarius like you to be friends first. But I feel I'm always going to want more than just friends with her so I don't want to lie to her. I feel I should ask her to give it time and that I'm cool with taking things at her own pace but I'm not cool with being just friends?
Posted by ChuckcemAqua whisperer.... Guys read this lolPosted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).click to expand
Posted by justagirlLol I thought the same.Posted by ChuckcemAqua whisperer.... Guys read this lol
(Sorry this is going to be long...)
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).click to expand
Hell he explained things so well he helped me understand bits of myself. 😛
Posted by -Flo-Lol only HE can answer that! ??Posted by justagirlIs he the pussy whisperer too?Posted by ChuckcemAqua whisperer.... Guys read this lolPosted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).
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Posted by justagirlHahaha I've been told that as well.Posted by -Flo-Lol only HE can answer that! ??Posted by justagirlIs he the pussy whisperer too?Posted by ChuckcemAqua whisperer.... Guys read this lolPosted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).
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Posted by VirgoGuyyIf you're not looking to just be friends, never lie about it. That will only result in hurt feelings down the line. Ending a friendship is a big NO NO for an Aquarius, but you have to let her know that you care about her too much to be "just friends". Let her know that the door is always open if she decides to change her mind. Let her know that you'd love to see her and leave it at that. Give her the space to come back to you if she wants.Posted by ChuckcemPosted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).
First of all thank you for the input I kind of preventively took your advice & tossed her an olive branch to say I am here to talk & apologised again & made it clear that her concerns were valid & I understood them. (Better late than never?) she replied to me hours later saying:
Hey! I don't really know what to say in response. I honestly thought this time would have been it but something else has came up again ☹️ I think we might just be best staying as friends. We get on really well and I'd hate is not to be able to get on. I'm sorry.'
Not sure how I should respond to this as I know Aquarius like you to be friends first. But I feel I'm always going to want more than just friends with her so I don't want to lie to her. I feel I should ask her to give it time and that I'm cool with taking things at her own pace but I'm not cool with being just friends?click to expand
Posted by AerazoYes it was the most intense relationship ever, probably, l've been avoiding her all this time. We chatted once in 2012 on fb. She gave me the silent treatment. Now we've rekindled our flame somewhat, with a long intense discussion and she's given me the silent treatment again, it's been 2 weeks. But it doesnt feel like she's playing, it's more like she's trying to figure herself out.Posted by bricklemarkLol! regardless of the sign, that's crazy.Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
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Posted by MagicMona
how about leaving her alone and letting her be? sounds about right. you can't do anything or force her to talk to you. learn to let go
Hey it's not that easy, Aquarius have a way of getting you hooked, and then they drop you.
Posted by bricklemarkWhat sign are you?Posted by AerazoYes it was the most intense relationship ever, probably, l've been avoiding her all this time. We chatted once in 2012 on fb. She gave me the silent treatment. Now we've rekindled our flame somewhat, with a long intense discussion and she's given me the silent treatment again, it's been 2 weeks. But it doesnt feel like she's playing, it's more like she's trying to figure herself out.Posted by bricklemarkLol! regardless of the sign, that's crazy.Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
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I know we do that but also she would be happy if you at least check in with her, just say that you hope she's doing well.
🙂
We doubt many times of your real feelings and actions and if we are considering whether or not we should be with you, then remind her that you have her in your mind. She will be happy to know.
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Posted by AerazoPosted by bricklemarkWhat sign are you?Posted by AerazoYes it was the most intense relationship ever, probably, l've been avoiding her all this time. We chatted once in 2012 on fb. She gave me the silent treatment. Now we've rekindled our flame somewhat, with a long intense discussion and she's given me the silent treatment again, it's been 2 weeks. But it doesnt feel like she's playing, it's more like she's trying to figure herself out.Posted by bricklemarkLol! regardless of the sign, that's crazy.Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
I know we do that but also she would be happy if you at least check in with her, just say that you hope she's doing well.
🙂
We doubt many times of your real feelings and actions and if we are considering whether or not we should be with you, then remind her that you have her in your mind. She will be happy to know.
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Im a cancer, she has Mars in cancer...theres a huge physical attraction...with an ocean's worth of emotion behind it...
It's unsurprising for me as well because shes married with two kids, so it's no easy decision. We both said we missed each other. She initiated it this time (venus retro) by sending a messenger request. She also said she's trying to understand her past, she feels like she's missing something, she had/has severe father issues. I want to be with her but l remember the long term being very hard to handle...she's extremely needy and moody. I would want to move past it, it's not like it just" bothers "me and it's a bit annoying, it's that it's physically impossible, it's incredibly draining.... So l'm hoping to at least talk to her and help her find peace, or stability...
you brought her back to reality. Never take those air signs seriously man they are fickle. She can't deal with who she is, and she sure doesn't want u bringing up her mistakes. Aquarians have ego trip because they don't want to feel weak or vulnerable. When u mentioned that guy she felt like a whore, and for her to not see her self as such she had to cut u off. By cutting u off she never has to come to the realization that she made a mistake.
Posted by ChuckcemYup.Posted by VirgoGuyyIf you're not looking to just be friends, never lie about it. That will only result in hurt feelings down the line. Ending a friendship is a big NO NO for an Aquarius, but you have to let her know that you care about her too much to be "just friends". Let her know that the door is always open if she decides to change her mind. Let her know that you'd love to see her and leave it at that. Give her the space to come back to you if she wants.Posted by ChuckcemPosted by VirgoGuyy(Sorry this is going to be long...)
So as title suggests I'm just looking for some advice on how long I should wait before attempting to contact her or if I should meet silence with silence and allow her to message me again when she's ready?
Now for those interested the situation is this:
I dated this girl casually for 6 months a year ago & we were going strong for 6 months just casually seeing each other once a week or so until I ended up saying the wrong thing & hurting her. We went no contact for 8 months & spoke again & we hit it off again until we met up for some drinks last weekend were everything (I thought) went great & even got to finally meet some of her family. (We happened to run into some of her aunts/uncles at the bar). Who all sang my praises & everything seemed to be on track. We had a heart to heart at the end of the night & we both agreed we had missed each other & it was what we both wanted to make things work this time.
4 days later I wake up to a text message from her saying she had been a bit annoyed about something I had said on Saturday & needed to get it off her chest. So she told me the comment I had made which was laughing about how many women a close friend of mine had slept with. (She slept with him 8 years ago). I can understand why she would think it was aimed but I sincerely never even thought about that when I made the remark. Long story short I explain this to her & she accepts my apology & we shouldn't bring up the past again however, then goes on to say she feels now she may not be ready for this & we may have jumped back into things too quickly as she put it because there are still "underlying issues".
I reassure her of everything & my feelings still being strong for her but she just simply says "I don't know, I had high hopes for us this time round I'm not so sure anymore." I replied with "I've explained I didn't mean it in the way it sounded & I've apologised to you which you accepted. So I don't understand what the drama is?" to which she gave the silent treatment to & has been acting as if I don't exist now.
We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢
Nada. In this particular situation there's really nothing you can do. Here's what you have to remember, Aquarius are both detached from emotion (including their own) but also feel VERY deeply. They are the fixed air sign, the water-bearer. Water symbolizes emotion. So while they are an air sign, meaning their tools are their intellect and communication (their words basically), they also hold on to this jug of emotion. As you already know water can fall out and splash everywhere. The nature of an Aquarius is to keep the water in the jug and not soak everything. Once the water comes out, there's no stopping it, until the Aquarius manages to put a lid on it.
In your scenario the two of you dated for 6 months a year ago, then had a fight, then went no contact. Then you rekindled things, you met her family, and everything seemed good. Then 4 days later she informs you things are not all good after all because a remark you made upset her.
This is no small thing. Aquarius generally approach situations very logically and aren't the best at expressing or understanding their own emotions. So her expressing this to you was a lot bigger than you probably thought (water in the jug remember?). The good thing is, you apologized and let her know that you didn't aim that comment at her maliciously. The problem though is, now she feels that the two of you aren't on the same page. Aquarius' can be suuuuper picky with those they care about and trust. They keep very few people close to them and are looking for that one true soul mate. This is where an Aquarius' sensitivity starts to peek through.
As a Virgo you are generally practical and direct. Both Virgos and Aquarius' can be very blunt. The big difference is, Virgos can come across as being judgmental which rubs the Aquarius the wrong way. Aquarius are all about being rebellious and having freedom of expression. They are looking for people who understand that and won't judge them for it. Aquarius are also notorious for living in the present moment, which can be hard for a Virgo who forgets NOTHING and may bring up the past.
Fortunately she accepted your apology with the addendum that the past shouldn't be brought up again. She however was still a bit nervous because she hasn't made sense of her feelings for you entirely. So she backpedaled a bit and said that the two of you may have rekindled things a bit too fast? This is normal because again Aquarius aren't the best with emotions.
This is where you messed up though. Astrology aside, most guys fail to realize that when women bring up an issue, it's not so that we can find a solution and reassure them. Really women want to know that we can open them up emotionally. They want to know that we truly understand them. They want to know as men that we can take the problems they give us and break them down into nothing.
When she brought up "underlying issues" the best response would have been, "Tell me more, what's on your mind, don't leave anything out. What issues would you like to address?" This let's her know you're really listening by having her express her feelings and acknowledging them. She will then trust that you actually understand her.
Unfortunately you were still in logic mode and tried to explain how you just apologized to her. You tried using logic and reason in an emotional conversation (I know this is confusing because Aquas aren't overtly emotional). Then to seal the nail in the coffin you said, "So I don't understand what the drama is?" I totally understand what you were saying here, but never say that to a woman if you want them to open up to you. Saying "I don't understand..." proved to the Aqua that you two weren't on the same page. Again Aqua's need their partners to be on the same page, to understand them fully.
As Virgo man your approach was very logical and "technically" correct. Unfortunately you are dealing with a somewhat emotional Aquarius woman. She's not looking for reassurance and logic, she can do that herself. Aqua is a masculine DIY sign after all. She needs to know that you understand her soul. In all honesty I think she may have also been testing you, kicking the tires so to speak to see if you two could make the distance. That's not to say that she wasn't being honest, I think she was.
So what do you do? Nothing. If she's not responding to you, leave her alone. There's nothing to do at this point. Give her space. Chasing her will only make things worse. At some point you can even let her know that you are available when she wants to talk, but really she'll get back to you on her own time. When she does, DO NOT bring up the past. I will also say that since she hasn't blocked you, that's a good sign. Generally Aquas will block people they are trying to get over (not all of them, but a lot do this).
First of all thank you for the input I kind of preventively took your advice & tossed her an olive branch to say I am here to talk & apologised again & made it clear that her concerns were valid & I understood them. (Better late than never?) she replied to me hours later saying:
Hey! I don't really know what to say in response. I honestly thought this time would have been it but something else has came up again ☹️ I think we might just be best staying as friends. We get on really well and I'd hate is not to be able to get on. I'm sorry.'
Not sure how I should respond to this as I know Aquarius like you to be friends first. But I feel I'm always going to want more than just friends with her so I don't want to lie to her. I feel I should ask her to give it time and that I'm cool with taking things at her own pace but I'm not cool with being just friends?click to expand
Posted by AerazoVery true. Over analyze everything and start questioning if someone is truly interested, especially if there has been no contact. I don't make the move in those cases and I will have all sorts of bs in my head.Posted by bricklemarkWhat sign are you?Posted by AerazoYes it was the most intense relationship ever, probably, l've been avoiding her all this time. We chatted once in 2012 on fb. She gave me the silent treatment. Now we've rekindled our flame somewhat, with a long intense discussion and she's given me the silent treatment again, it's been 2 weeks. But it doesnt feel like she's playing, it's more like she's trying to figure herself out.Posted by bricklemarkLol! regardless of the sign, that's crazy.Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
I know we do that but also she would be happy if you at least check in with her, just say that you hope she's doing well.
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We doubt many times of your real feelings and actions and if we are considering whether or not we should be with you, then remind her that you have her in your mind. She will be happy to know.
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Just reach out and say hi.
Posted by bricklemarkShe's married? Dang dude. Ignore my other advise. Don't get sucked in.Posted by AerazoPosted by bricklemarkWhat sign are you?Posted by AerazoYes it was the most intense relationship ever, probably, l've been avoiding her all this time. We chatted once in 2012 on fb. She gave me the silent treatment. Now we've rekindled our flame somewhat, with a long intense discussion and she's given me the silent treatment again, it's been 2 weeks. But it doesnt feel like she's playing, it's more like she's trying to figure herself out.Posted by bricklemarkLol! regardless of the sign, that's crazy.Posted by AerazoMy Aquarius ex is telling me she misses me....17 years later...Posted by bricklemarkWe base everything on the connection between us and the other person. Whatever they do, say or don't say, if we don't feel that connection with the other person we will Not be there.
Agree with the Sag lol....they're crazy. You will never be good enough they idealise men too much...
I have been in cases where I stopped seeing someone and then try to reconnect after months or years but we meet so many people that if you aren't constantly there, we lose the connection and we might connect with someone else, differently but it's a different experience.
We need someone who is capable of giving us different types of experiences throughout the relationship otherwise we will keep moving on our own.
I know we do that but also she would be happy if you at least check in with her, just say that you hope she's doing well.
🙂
We doubt many times of your real feelings and actions and if we are considering whether or not we should be with you, then remind her that you have her in your mind. She will be happy to know.
❤
Im a cancer, she has Mars in cancer...theres a huge physical attraction...with an ocean's worth of emotion behind it...
It's unsurprising for me as well because shes married with two kids, so it's no easy decision. We both said we missed each other. She initiated it this time (venus retro) by sending a messenger request. She also said she's trying to understand her past, she feels like she's missing something, she had/has severe father issues. I want to be with her but l remember the long term being very hard to handle...she's extremely needy and moody. I would want to move past it, it's not like it just" bothers "me and it's a bit annoying, it's that it's physically impossible, it's incredibly draining.... So l'm hoping to at least talk to her and help her find peace, or stability...click to expand
Posted by -Flo-That @Secret guy must be a horrible person...
Sometimes when I'm giving silent treatment, it just me sorting out my feelings towards that person and/or situation. Unless you Pissed me off like @secret did..
Posted by justagirlWhy didn't you quote me? My notifications for tags are off because of @-Flo-.
Yes he is... he won't show his balls.
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Posted by Secret*shrug* it worked since you quoted me...Posted by justagirlWhy didn't you quote me? My notifications for tags are off because of @-Flo-.
Yes he is... he won't show his eyeballs.
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Posted by justagirlI didn't quote a quote you quoted, i quoted a post you posted. It's different...Posted by Secret*shrug* it worked since you quoted me...Posted by justagirlWhy didn't you quote me? My notifications for tags are off because of @-Flo-.
Yes he is... he won't show his balls.
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Posted by SecretPosted by justagirlI didn't quote a quote you quoted, i quoted a post you posted. It's different...Posted by Secret*shrug* it worked since you quoted me...Posted by justagirlWhy didn't you quote me? My notifications for tags are off because of @-Flo-.
Yes he is... he won't show his eyeballs.
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We're still friends on Facebook & she still views my snapchat Story if I put up anything.
What do I do? 😢