Do you think my Aqua buddy still kinda digs me?

Yours is a sign I know very little about. Maybe you guys are just extraordinarily friendly. My friend and I casually dated for a couple months, but things didn't progress and he started seeing someone else, then we stopped talking for awhile (all this took place in 2014). He has a girlfriend now (they've been together for a year), and I'm very happy for both of them. He and I started talking just as friends again 7 months ago. We have a LOT in common and text almost daily, but other things have happened that are making me wonder. I'm not trying to get back together with him, but I'm curious.

What do you think of this: he never talks about his girlfriend to me (all I see of their relationship is through fb), and when I ask if he'd like to do something he always says yes. You'd think he'd say maybe in case she wants to do something with him, but he doesn't.
We were supposed to go to a concert together, but I couldn't go, and only then did he invite his gf to join him (but she also doesn't seem to be into the same stuff he and I are, so that could explain that).
Anytime our bands are coming to town he mentions it and asks if I'm going. We exchange bands all the time cuz we have nearly identical taste in music, so again that may be nothing.
We went to a haunted house a couple weeks ago, and when we went through the dark tunnels I felt his hands on my hips. He may have just been trying to feel where I was so he didn't step on me, but he's a tall guy (6'1, and I'm 5'7) and could've touched my back or shoulders for that same purpose.
I've jokingly said something about me being cute a couple of times and he called me hot both times (not with a straight-up "You're hot," but "That's the price you pay for being a hot rock chick" when I was upset about missing a show because it isn't safe for chicks to go alone. The other time I was complaining because my client's wife is suspicious of me because I commented on his fb posts, and I told my Aqua buddy it's stupid because tons of people comment on his posts because he's a rock star, and he said, "Not tons of hot massage chicks though, lol." He also jokingly said I should tell my client's wife that her husband isn't Metal enough for me anyway, knowing he himself is).
When I say I'm gonna watch a movie, he asks which one. If neither of us has seen it he always texts me the next day asking how it was. Maybe he just wants to know if it's any good.
He knows I'm into horror and tells me when he's about to watch one, what it is, and asks if I've seen it. This also may be nothing.
Again, we only "dated" for a couple months and went about a year without talking, but when I couldn't go to that concert I mentioned he was gonna buy my ticket from me with a gift card to my favorite store. I couldn't believe he remembered what my favorite store is after all that time. He even tells me when he goes there.

Are you guys just that nice to your friends where you take such an interest in their activities, likes, an

Stupid thing cut me off.

*Are you guys just that nice to your friends where you take such an interest in their activities, likes, and dislikes? Or do you think he may still kinda like me a little bit?

Again, this is just to satisfy my curiosity.

Yes absolutely! Many times I've mistakenly lead people on

Shame on you, haha. Just kidding. I feel better now - thanks!

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Shame on you, haha. Just kidding. I feel better now - thanks!

I remember I had a cancerians room mate and even though she knew I was gay kinda thought we were in a relationship of some sorts all because I kiss her on the cheek every time I see her lol, she kind of mentioned it loosely and I instantly had alarm bells go off in my head, still didn't stop me from fantasising our future together and what could have been, I know our babies would have been cute.

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Yes absolutely! Many times I've mistakenly lead people on

I thought so, that he was being the great friend he is to her, but how would someone know if an aqua is really into them?

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To be honest I would go up to one and ask "do you like me"? I remember a hot guy came up to me once and said that with the cutest look on his face and I jumped him then and there ahhah

One of my closest friends is an Aqua (guy + girl) and I am a Cancer too, he is just super nice and outgoing. He is like that with everyone, don't know maybe you can inquire if your aqua is like that with everyone.

And I think the movie is not a big deal, neither is the mentioning "you're hot," and aquas I know have good memories- a lot of my guy friends do this and mean nothing by it.

Yea OP we can be really friendly because we are humanatarian. But if you try to stick close & enter that bottle u will see the reaction is instant change. Probably he likes u very much as a friend so he wants to stay around.

Well maybe that's just cuz I want to do things he does as well, but she may not be into them, like haunted houses, burlesque shows, or when our bands come to town.

NEW INFO & CURIOSITY INCREASING:
Aqua buddy and I went to a haunted house Friday night, and I forgot my jacket, so I was freezing. The girls standing in front of us were sharing a jacket and he said to me, "They have the right idea." I agreed and he opened up his jacket and held me close to keep me warm while we stood in line. As we were about to enter the haunted house a staff member asked if we were on a date and I shook my head no, but I could've sworn I heard Aqua buddy tell the guy, "You could call it that." Not sure if I heard that correctly. Saturday night he invited me to join him to see a tribute band, and he paid for me to get in when I told him I didn't have any money. I was wearing boots with my costume and my feet started to hurt, so I held his arm to balance while I took some of the weight off each foot, and he placed his other hand on mine while I held his arm, then at one point went from letting me hold his arm to holding my hand in his. He even wrapped his arm around my waist for a bit. When I went to sit down he sat so close to me that I had to lean back to look in his eyes. He looked like he wanted to kiss me (in fact, I thought he went in for a kiss when I hugged him goodbye after the haunted house the previous night - but again could've been wrong). Later on we were going to leave but it was pouring, so I asked if we could hang out inside until it calmed down. When we returned inside, he was standing directly in front of me - as in the whole front side of his body was touching mine. I had to ask if he was still seeing his gf, and that's when he stood back and told me they're pretty much going through a breakup. He told me everything that had been going on between them, even showed me a text message she had sent him. I was really surprised by that because I've heard you guys are pretty private. He wasn't affectionate with me again after spilling his guts about the breakup except to hug me goodbye and thank me for going with him to the show. He's continued texting me daily, though.
So again, he doesn't still dig me at least a little bit if he's being that affectionate like when we were "dating" and confiding in me such personal details?? Cuz I'm extremely confused.

A guy that does this sort of stuff while having a girlfriend is not the guy you're looking for. I am sorry but this is one bad aqua i suppose. Such close contact he's definitely flirting with u. We are very loyal to our partner & will not flirt or date or do those stuff while attached. We can be very friendly but we have our boundaries, not the sort of body touching body intimacy. Who can tell whether he will be loyal to u in the future?

At the very least i can see that he felt guilty after u mentioned his gf because he knows he shouldnt be doing that with you but still...

So, do you want to be his rebound?

Angmodurian, they're breaking up. He is extremely loyal and not the cheating or player type. I don't think he felt guilty after mentioning her, I think I brought up something painful which changed his mood from possibly flirtatious to more serious. As he discussed their problems with me, he leaned against the wall, folded his arms over his chest, and looked down. This body language is from someone hurting and feeling the need to protect himself.

Aquarius09, of course I don't want to be his rebound. I want to understand what's going on so I know how to proceed. If be lying if I said I don't still have some feelings for him, but I don't want to do anything that would jeopardize our friendship. I like knowing where I stand with people so I know how to behave around them.

I think he does like you more than just a friend.

He might take his time to make a move on you after he breaks up with his current girlfriend but that could be because he values your friendship together so much that he's probably afraid to cross that line and possibly risk his friendship with you.

Also he might not be sure if the feeling is mutual so he'll probably play it cool maybe even detach from you while he figures it all out.

On the verge of breaking up still means he's bound by the relationship, by right he should abstain from any forms of intimacy until it is formally over. I do not believe an aqua can enter another relationship so fast after a break up. Lets just be honest we look calm collected, detached but within us is a storm of emotions & as brittle as any emotional signs. Once a relationships turn sour, it needs a certain amount of healing time.

He's definitely guilty because well we are rational before emotional so he knows full well he should set boundaries with you but he has overstepped it. So hope you can be rational too & not plainly listen to your heart. You asked so much about him because you are interested & wanted him to court u in the first place but u felt uneasy so u need our suggestions. That's my honest advice.

I am not plainly accusing that he is not a loyal lover but are concerned whether does he really like you or he treats u as emotional dump right now. Its best to be friends with him first until his break up & observe him. He's emotionally weak right now so he probably needs more emotional support thats all. In fact this is just normal human nature, not an aqua thing.

I completely agree with you that he may be emotionally weak and needing support, and also that being his friend is the best thing I can do for him.
Thank you all for taking the time to read my story and offer your input. I feel less confused and more sure of what is the right thing to do.