my aqua dropped a bomb on nye.. wtf..

so i've been dating this guy for a month. every thing has been great...we have a million things in common, get along great.. i have a lot of trust issues that i've talked to him about, and he's always been supportive. he's always pursuing me and telling me how he feels about me. there has never been any question. we went out on nye... had a great time! then i assumed we'd go home together (we have before)... and he started making weird ass excuses and i was like huh? finally walking home he said something like " i have to have feelings to do this, or emotions" something along those lines. i couldnt understand wtf he meant so i said ok seeya. and walked away crying. this makes absolutely no sense to me.. there was nothing weird leading up to it. i don't get it. can someone help me understand? is he just satan? oh i'm a pisces. a very stoic one. thanks!

Have you been intimate before?

Posted by FutureSeeker
Did you misunderstand what he said? Aquas are very misunderstood- and we struggle with putting our feelings into words. from what you typed- I'm wondering if you responded too quickly? Did you ask him to clarify?

We don't waste our time with people we don't care about- especially NYE...

also- an emotional response like that would definitely push us away...

you say he has been telling you how he feels about you- what has he actually said?

My first instinct is that you misunderstood then freaked out...

i didnt ask.. cuz i was shock after what he said to me. it was like a stab in the heart. he didnt see me overreact at all. cuz i cried later. he says i drive him crazy that he thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, etc etc etc etc...

Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

he's actually quite good at expressing himself. he emotes well. i'm not sure how that couldve been misconstrued..

Nye and he didn't have feelings or emotions for you?

At important days like christmas, nye, ny etc you'll know who really cares about you and who doesn't.

Sure he spent time with you, but I'm thinking he realized (though very late) that you're not the one. How could he not feel anything on nye? And I bet a bunch of users gonna explain his actions away. Should come up with a name for them. Aquasplainers or something

Posted by Ophiuchus
Nye and he didn't have feelings or emotions for you?

At important days like christmas, nye, ny etc you'll know who really cares about you and who doesn't.

Sure he spent time with you, but I'm thinking he realized (though very late) that you're not the one. How could he not feel anything on nye? And I bet a bunch of users gonna explain his actions away. Should come up with a name for them. Aquasplainers or something

yea i dunno. its been non stop compliments til then. he obliterated me on nye. why not til the next day?? i feel like he filled my head full of lies for a month. why waste so much time telling someone stuff you don't really feel only to break their heart... sigh.

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Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

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He may not feel like he's ready to make all the necessary changes (emotionally) to be in a real relationship. A NYE sexing might feel like something "big" to him, or may sense that it is for you and doesn't want to get entangle in a lot of deep feelings.

If you enjoy his company and can handle a more casual sexual relationship, then I would let his reaction slide and not respond to it. He may be reading too much into it and realize it later, and never act like that again.

Sounds to me like he's still getting to know you amd likes having fun with you, including the occasional private moments. If you feel the same, then I wouldn't sweat the NYE thing.

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Nye and he didn't have feelings or emotions for you?

At important days like christmas, nye, ny etc you'll know who really cares about you and who doesn't.

Sure he spent time with you, but I'm thinking he realized (though very late) that you're not the one. How could he not feel anything on nye? And I bet a bunch of users gonna explain his actions away. Should come up with a name for them. Aquasplainers or something

yea i dunno. its been non stop compliments til then. he obliterated me on nye. why not til the next day?? i feel like he filled my head full of lies for a month. why waste so much time telling someone stuff you don't really feel only to break their heart... sigh.

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That's really weird... What are his placements?

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Did you misunderstand what he said? Aquas are very misunderstood- and we struggle with putting our feelings into words. from what you typed- I'm wondering if you responded too quickly? Did you ask him to clarify?

We don't waste our time with people we don't care about- especially NYE...

also- an emotional response like that would definitely push us away...

you say he has been telling you how he feels about you- what has he actually said?

My first instinct is that you misunderstood then freaked out...

i didnt ask.. cuz i was shock after what he said to me. it was like a stab in the heart. he didnt see me overreact at all. cuz i cried later. he says i drive him crazy that he thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, etc etc etc etc...

So what you are saying doesn't align with him saying he doesn't have feelings.

Call him (don't text!) and tell him you are thinking of him and confused. Communicate.

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exactly it doesnt. but ive dealt with many men who lie and lie and have no conscience. this isnt that different. i feel like it's his responsibility to contact me. otherwise i'd just be begging for scraps and it'd be embarrassing. 😢

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Posted by Ophiuchus
Nye and he didn't have feelings or emotions for you?

At important days like christmas, nye, ny etc you'll know who really cares about you and who doesn't.

Sure he spent time with you, but I'm thinking he realized (though very late) that you're not the one. How could he not feel anything on nye? And I bet a bunch of users gonna explain his actions away. Should come up with a name for them. Aquasplainers or something

yea i dunno. its been non stop compliments til then. he obliterated me on nye. why not til the next day?? i feel like he filled my head full of lies for a month. why waste so much time telling someone stuff you don't really feel only to break their heart... sigh.

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They're kinda ok with friendship and shallow interactions, but when it comes to relationships and bonding emotionally, aquas drop the ball. He probably thought getting intimate with you on nye would seal the deal and make things official, realized that's the last thing he wants, and bailed.

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Nye and he didn't have feelings or emotions for you?

At important days like christmas, nye, ny etc you'll know who really cares about you and who doesn't.

Sure he spent time with you, but I'm thinking he realized (though very late) that you're not the one. How could he not feel anything on nye? And I bet a bunch of users gonna explain his actions away. Should come up with a name for them. Aquasplainers or something

yea i dunno. its been non stop compliments til then. he obliterated me on nye. why not til the next day?? i feel like he filled my head full of lies for a month. why waste so much time telling someone stuff you don't really feel only to break their heart... sigh.

That's really weird... What are his placements?

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his chart is mostly pisces.. mine is mostly aqua. there is nothing in his chart that gives me any red flags... that i can remember anyway..

How weird.

Have you spoken to him yet today?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

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Maybe this is where the answer is.

Not often? Why? Not compatible?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

Maybe this is where the answer is.

Not often? Why? Not compatible?

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no.... he acts like he wants to. its usually situational, like the wrong time or work or whatever..it's only been a month..

Oh just ask him. That's the only way to know.

Posted by Montgomery
How weird.

Have you spoken to him yet today?

have not spoke since.

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Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

Maybe this is where the answer is.

Not often? Why? Not compatible?

no.... he acts like he wants to. its usually situational, like the wrong time or work or whatever..it's only been a month..

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So what happened since NY until now?

Posted by pinkbird03
Oh just ask him. That's the only way to know.

true true.. i'm just kinda torn up and don't wanna feel any more pain at the mo...

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Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

Maybe this is where the answer is.

Not often? Why? Not compatible?

no.... he acts like he wants to. its usually situational, like the wrong time or work or whatever..it's only been a month..

So what happened since NY until now?

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nothing. not a word.

Posted by pinkbird03
Oh just ask him. That's the only way to know.

Lol are you kidding? You can ask men until you old and if they don't want to answer - they won't! 🙂

I don't know how they are doing it? Lol

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Oh just ask him. That's the only way to know.

true true.. i'm just kinda torn up and don't wanna feel any more pain at the mo...

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Ok better idea. Go out tonight and post a good selfie. Show him you're happy without him. That's how Kate Middleton got her man back

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Posted by Montgomery
How weird.

Have you spoken to him yet today?

have not spoke since.

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Damn.

I'm mystified due to all the things he said

prior to New Year's and the fact that it seems

like you both had a great time nye.

But I *do* agree with you that its his

responsibility to contact you, and that it would

not be a good idea for you to contact him.

If you're certain of his meaning then yeah--

dont call him crying ffs.

I'm really sorry it happened like that.. wish

I had a better answer.

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Did you misunderstand what he said? Aquas are very misunderstood- and we struggle with putting our feelings into words. from what you typed- I'm wondering if you responded too quickly? Did you ask him to clarify?

We don't waste our time with people we don't care about- especially NYE...

also- an emotional response like that would definitely push us away...

you say he has been telling you how he feels about you- what has he actually said?

My first instinct is that you misunderstood then freaked out...

i didnt ask.. cuz i was shock after what he said to me. it was like a stab in the heart. he didnt see me overreact at all. cuz i cried later. he says i drive him crazy that he thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, etc etc etc etc...

So what you are saying doesn't align with him saying he doesn't have feelings.

Call him (don't text!) and tell him you are thinking of him and confused. Communicate.

exactly it doesnt. but ive dealt with many men who lie and lie and have no conscience. this isnt that different. i feel like it's his responsibility to contact me. otherwise i'd just be begging for scraps and it'd be embarrassing. 😢

Well- I know this may seem blunt- but you ran off.. you didn't clarify. So- if you don't want to do these things and you want to think he is doing the same thing as "all those other me" then you are creating that reality... adulting is getting past the hurts. Communicating. If you think it's his responsibility that is Kind of immature...

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would you not feel anything for someone you're into at nye and ny? Not sure why you're victim blaming here

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Posted by sultrykitty
Have you been intimate before?

yes we have. but not that often.

Maybe this is where the answer is.

Not often? Why? Not compatible?

no.... he acts like he wants to. its usually situational, like the wrong time or work or whatever..it's only been a month..

So what happened since NY until now?

nothing. not a word.

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Well my dear. It's great it had been short period of your life.

I posted once how I was 18 and I was mad for this guy who came to take me to a concert and while waited for me fell asleep with his foot positioned weirdly...

I walked into the room and looked at him and WHO knows what almost cried!

He looked so stupid - I could never explain to him why!!!

So I had to make up crap like I can't...

Because I am busy.

Love comes from nowhere and goes nowhere and it can be none of your fault at all! Or some of it was like he thought you looked at someone. You might never find out!

But if you do - please let us know.

Best of all!

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Did you misunderstand what he said? Aquas are very misunderstood- and we struggle with putting our feelings into words. from what you typed- I'm wondering if you responded too quickly? Did you ask him to clarify?

We don't waste our time with people we don't care about- especially NYE...

also- an emotional response like that would definitely push us away...

you say he has been telling you how he feels about you- what has he actually said?

My first instinct is that you misunderstood then freaked out...

i didnt ask.. cuz i was shock after what he said to me. it was like a stab in the heart. he didnt see me overreact at all. cuz i cried later. he says i drive him crazy that he thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, etc etc etc etc...

So what you are saying doesn't align with him saying he doesn't have feelings.

Call him (don't text!) and tell him you are thinking of him and confused. Communicate.

exactly it doesnt. but ive dealt with many men who lie and lie and have no conscience. this isnt that different. i feel like it's his responsibility to contact me. otherwise i'd just be begging for scraps and it'd be embarrassing. 😢

Well- I know this may seem blunt- but you ran off.. you didn't clarify. So- if you don't want to do these things and you want to think he is doing the same thing as "all those other me" then you are creating that reality... adulting is getting past the hurts. Communicating. If you think it's his responsibility that is Kind of immature...

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i hear what yr saying, but he did kinda gut me. i just didnt wanna stick around. we had plans to get a hotel room that night actually, but didnt have enough dough. i assumed it was a given we'd be spending the night... but not to him i guess.

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Posted by Montgomery
How weird.

Have you spoken to him yet today?

have not spoke since.

Damn.

I'm mystified due to all the things he said

prior to New Year's and the fact that it seems

like you both had a great time nye.

But I *do* agree with you that its his

responsibility to contact you, and that it would

not be a good idea for you to contact him.

If you're certain of his meaning then yeah--

dont call him crying ffs.

I'm really sorry it happened like that.. wish

I had a better answer.

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thanks. also mystified...

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Posted by FutureSeeker
Did you misunderstand what he said? Aquas are very misunderstood- and we struggle with putting our feelings into words. from what you typed- I'm wondering if you responded too quickly? Did you ask him to clarify?

We don't waste our time with people we don't care about- especially NYE...

also- an emotional response like that would definitely push us away...

you say he has been telling you how he feels about you- what has he actually said?

My first instinct is that you misunderstood then freaked out...

i didnt ask.. cuz i was shock after what he said to me. it was like a stab in the heart. he didnt see me overreact at all. cuz i cried later. he says i drive him crazy that he thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, etc etc etc etc...

So what you are saying doesn't align with him saying he doesn't have feelings.

Call him (don't text!) and tell him you are thinking of him and confused. Communicate.

exactly it doesnt. but ive dealt with many men who lie and lie and have no conscience. this isnt that different. i feel like it's his responsibility to contact me. otherwise i'd just be begging for scraps and it'd be embarrassing. 😢

Well- I know this may seem blunt- but you ran off.. you didn't clarify. So- if you don't want to do these things and you want to think he is doing the same thing as "all those other me" then you are creating that reality... adulting is getting past the hurts. Communicating. If you think it's his responsibility that is Kind of immature...

would you not feel anything for someone you're into at nye and ny? Not sure why you're victim blaming here

Not victim blaming. Are you being defensive?

We all can take personal responsibility in a situation (for the most part). He isn't posting in DXP- so we can't all ask him what is going on. So either she can wonder for the rest of her life- or attempt to clairify.

I honestly don't care- I'm just a person who is watching Gilmore Girls and scrolling DXP. My opinion doesn't matter.

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i'm not gonna wonder..i'm just gonna move on. just wasnt sure if this was some typical aqua thing i was unaware of.. cest la vie..

Posted by narayana
Mostly Pisces? Kinda makes sense then. I can't really explain why, maybe I'm the rare one who gets the idea....

Like being suddenly hit by an invisible lightning and someone whispers 'run', and you just teleport yourself, at least mentally, and then, when you're somewhere far away and all alone, you start re-thinking everything over and over again..

and maybe you had to run away because you fell for an illusion and the feeling of love itself, not the real person. And it has nothing to do with them.

It's the perception of life that is flawed.

well i'm a pisces that's what i do, so i get it. you meant thats what he did??

For a moment I thought you were gonna say he's pregnant.

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Did you misunderstand what he said? Aquas are very misunderstood- and we struggle with putting our feelings into words. from what you typed- I'm wondering if you responded too quickly? Did you ask him to clarify?

We don't waste our time with people we don't care about- especially NYE...

also- an emotional response like that would definitely push us away...

you say he has been telling you how he feels about you- what has he actually said?

My first instinct is that you misunderstood then freaked out...

i didnt ask.. cuz i was shock after what he said to me. it was like a stab in the heart. he didnt see me overreact at all. cuz i cried later. he says i drive him crazy that he thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, etc etc etc etc...

So what you are saying doesn't align with him saying he doesn't have feelings.

Call him (don't text!) and tell him you are thinking of him and confused. Communicate.

exactly it doesnt. but ive dealt with many men who lie and lie and have no conscience. this isnt that different. i feel like it's his responsibility to contact me. otherwise i'd just be begging for scraps and it'd be embarrassing. 😢

Well- I know this may seem blunt- but you ran off.. you didn't clarify. So- if you don't want to do these things and you want to think he is doing the same thing as "all those other me" then you are creating that reality... adulting is getting past the hurts. Communicating. If you think it's his responsibility that is Kind of immature...

would you not feel anything for someone you're into at nye and ny? Not sure why you're victim blaming here

Not victim blaming. Are you being defensive?

We all can take personal responsibility in a situation (for the most part). He isn't posting in DXP- so we can't all ask him what is going on. So either she can wonder for the rest of her life- or attempt to clairify.

I honestly don't care- I'm just a person who is watching Gilmore Girls and scrolling DXP. My opinion doesn't matter.

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You are victim blaming, saying she didn't clarify, she's being immature, etc. No attacks were launched at me so no I wasn't being defensive. Your opinion should matter on this topic because you're an aqua and the thread is about an aqua, though now I'm not sure. And I don't know what you watching Gilmore Girls has to do with anything but thanks for sharing.

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Mostly Pisces? Kinda makes sense then. I can't really explain why, maybe I'm the rare one who gets the idea....

Like being suddenly hit by an invisible lightning and someone whispers 'run', and you just teleport yourself, at least mentally, and then, when you're somewhere far away and all alone, you start re-thinking everything over and over again..

and maybe you had to run away because you fell for an illusion and the feeling of love itself, not the real person. And it has nothing to do with them.

It's the perception of life that is flawed.

well i'm a pisces that's what i do, so i get it. you meant thats what he did??

Well, maybe he felt that way... I'd ask him anyway. What can you possibly lose?

And if you get it, then you should try not to take it personally, many weird things happen, don't dwell on this, at least it was just a month... That is nothing really

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yea just a bunch of pretty lies.. i dont lie to people tho.. i never say it unless i mean it, and its gonna last. we even spent xmas together. he seemed very much like he was in love with me. shrug

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Mostly Pisces? Kinda makes sense then. I can't really explain why, maybe I'm the rare one who gets the idea....

Like being suddenly hit by an invisible lightning and someone whispers 'run', and you just teleport yourself, at least mentally, and then, when you're somewhere far away and all alone, you start re-thinking everything over and over again..

and maybe you had to run away because you fell for an illusion and the feeling of love itself, not the real person. And it has nothing to do with them.

It's the perception of life that is flawed.

well i'm a pisces that's what i do, so i get it. you meant thats what he did??

Well, maybe he felt that way... I'd ask him anyway. What can you possibly lose?

And if you get it, then you should try not to take it personally, many weird things happen, don't dwell on this, at least it was just a month... That is nothing really

yea just a bunch of pretty lies.. i dont lie to people tho.. i never say it unless i mean it, and its gonna last. we even spent xmas together. he seemed very much like he was in love with me. shrug

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I don't read it like that at all (lies). I think you read him right, but Aquas need much more time to figure out their feelings.

Wait for him to contact you and see what happens.

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" i have to have feelings to do this, or emotions" something along those lines.

Somehow it seams that he wasn’t actually talking to you, like he was just thinking aloud, wondering about his feelings: ‘I have to have feelings to do this… I am doing this, apparently I do have feelings’. I could be wrong though. Instead of silent drama you should ask directly what he meant.

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well.. except that he kept making excuses not to.. and then that was his final excuse, not to.

How deep do you expect his feelings to be, in a month?

I know my Aqua had a lot of what I would have classified as casual sex. But he has told me that he can't do it if he doesn't have some kind of emotional connection. Looking back at some of his relationships, I wouldn't have called them very deep.

So maybe he IS starting to put you in that category of deeper feelings and wants to make sure that neither of you get too far ahead of yourselves so that one or both of you don't get hurt.

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How deep do you expect his feelings to be, in a month?

I know my Aqua had a lot of what I would have classified as casual sex. But he has told me that he can't do it if he doesn't have some kind of emotional connection. Looking back at some of his relationships, I wouldn't have called them very deep.

So maybe he IS starting to put you in that category of deeper feelings and wants to make sure that neither of you get too far ahead of yourselves so that one or both of you don't get hurt.

i dont expect anything at all... other than what he's already told me. that he's crazy about me, thinks about me all the time, i'm the only girl he cares about, isnt sleeping with anyone else.. etc.. etc...i dont know if he said that cuz he wanted ME to say I had feelings.. i dont know.. it doesnt make sense.i'm the casual sex person, not him. :/ i see what yr saying in your last paragraph for sure...

Wow that really sux, what a party pooper .. He got scared , doesn't want to lead u on so he was like peace. If u want this confirmed all u have to do is ask.. If u don't need the closure then it's done .. I would be so upset & I would ask him straight up wtf his problem was

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Wow that really sux, what a party pooper .. He got scared , doesn't want to lead u on so he was like peace. If u want this confirmed all u have to do is ask.. If u don't need the closure then it's done .. I would be so upset & I would ask him straight up wtf his problem was

agreed. i've been thru this so many times, closure isnt an issue for me anymore.. just wanna move on... UGH.. gross. perhaps i'll have words with him at a later date when i'm not so upset.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Wow that really sux, what a party pooper .. He got scared , doesn't want to lead u on so he was like peace. If u want this confirmed all u have to do is ask.. If u don't need the closure then it's done .. I would be so upset & I would ask him straight up wtf his problem was

agreed. i've been thru this so many times, closure isnt an issue for me anymore.. just wanna move on... UGH.. gross. perhaps i'll have words with him at a later date when i'm not so upset.

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Yea it's gross smh .. That wasn't very manly of him to do .. That's good u don't need closure

Why would his actions that night make you think it was over? Just because he didn't want to sleep with you on NYE?

No judging you if that's how you feel, but I do think you'd be making the wrong assumption.

Posted by sultrykitty
Why would his actions that night make you think it was over? Just because he didn't want to sleep with you on NYE?

No judging you if that's how you feel, but I do think you'd be making the wrong assumption.

why do you think it's the wrong assumption? we had a romantic night planned out and he bailed and told me he couldnt cuz the feelings werent there.... how else should i interpret that? serious question.

OP,

Maybe he's really falling for you and as Aquas tend to do, testing you. I used to date an Aqua-whom I've talked about some on here, and I've learned that the more intense their feelings, sometimes the more they pull back and/or test you. As you have a ton of Aqua in your chart I'm sure you may be able to relate. I think you should clearly ask him what exactly he meant. I'm a Pisces as well so I can certainly sympathize with you as I'm pretty emotional and have had my share of tears, but for all you know while you're here telling us about this, upset and ready to move on he probably doesn't consider as big a deal. If it's one thing that I've learned through being on this site; don't let things fester-just communicate.

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OP,

Maybe he's really falling for you and as Aquas tend to do, testing you. I used to date an Aqua-whom I've talked about some on here, and I've learned that the more intense their feelings, sometimes the more they pull back and/or test you. As you have a ton of Aqua in your chart I'm sure you may be able to relate. I think you should clearly ask him what exactly he meant. I'm a Pisces as well so I can certainly sympathize with you as I'm pretty emotional and have had my share of tears, but for all you know while you're here telling us about this, upset and ready to move on he probably doesn't consider as big a deal. If it's one thing that I've learned through being on this site; don't let things fester-just communicate.

I just feel like it's up to him to make the first move since he kinda destroyed my new years...communication is good and i'm all for..only if i feel the other person is open to it. And he hasnt said a peep to me.

Wow, that's rude as heck. If I did that to someone I'm dating, something must have thrown me off and I wouldn't be able to express that so I would just leave the situation asap. If you care about him you can ask him how he's doing, something very light and casual, but if it's too much hassle I would just ignore him completely....

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Posted by sultrykitty
Why would his actions that night make you think it was over? Just because he didn't want to sleep with you on NYE?

No judging you if that's how you feel, but I do think you'd be making the wrong assumption.

why do you think it's the wrong assumption? we had a romantic night planned out and he bailed and told me he couldnt cuz the feelings werent there.... how else should i interpret that? serious question.

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Jezzz....the most obvious interpretation would be that he was not up for a fuck at that moment. That he was getting tired, had enough fun, wanted to go home and have a good night sleep on his own. He was not "feeling it". Someone could be having a certain feeling (or the lack of it) at one given moment, and it MAY HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!

Alternatively, he might have chosen the NTE to dump you. New year, new girlfriend. If this were the case, he would have told you so to begin with, not on the way back home. Did you mention looking for a "cheap" room ? Does it sound like someone breaking up to you? Maybe the fact that he couldn't afford a hotel room made his dick shrink with embarrassment!

Learn to control your impulses (in this case to run away) and communicate! It takes only a few seconds to clarify what someone means. Use your brain, not your legs!

Oh, and forget him. If I were him, your reaction would be put me off. In fact, put yourself in his shoes...the best way to understand what someone is thinking and to predict what will happen next. Imagine someone pushing you to have sex at a moment you were not up to it and then running away in a huff, without a HNY or a proper good night!

I've been reading a lot about mercury in retrograde. This part is about aqua suns.

There are several things that sun in Aquarius needs to be mindful of in order not to set themselves up during the Mercury Retrograde Cycle. Often the issue is about the need to re-establish a sense of autonomy and freedom when there is a sense of feeling caught, trapped, held back or challenged.

If the response towards protecting freedom is reactive, willful, rebellious or confrontational, then the risk is that better judgment is cast aside and important details are overlooked because of the heated exchange or the need to re-assert the will.

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by sultrykitty
Why would his actions that night make you think it was over? Just because he didn't want to sleep with you on NYE?

No judging you if that's how you feel, but I do think you'd be making the wrong assumption.

why do you think it's the wrong assumption? we had a romantic night planned out and he bailed and told me he couldnt cuz the feelings werent there.... how else should i interpret that? serious question.

Jezzz....the most obvious interpretation would be that he was not up for a fuck at that moment. That he was getting tired, had enough fun, wanted to go home and have a good night sleep on his own. He was not "feeling it". Someone could be having a certain feeling (or the lack of it) at one given moment, and it MAY HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!

Alternatively, he might have chosen the NTE to dump you. New year, new girlfriend. If this were the case, he would have told you so to begin with, not on the way back home. Did you mention looking for a "cheap" room ? Does it sound like someone breaking up to you? Maybe the fact that he couldn't afford a hotel room made his dick shrink with embarrassment!

Learn to control your impulses (in this case to run away) and communicate! It takes only a few seconds to clarify what someone means. Use your brain, not your legs!

Oh, and forget him. If I were him, your reaction would be put me off. In fact, put yourself in his shoes...the best way to understand what someone is thinking and to predict what will happen next. Imagine someone pushing you to have sex at a moment you were not up to it and then running away in a huff, without a HNY or a proper good night!

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Sorry but yr really off base and taking things out of context. The hotel was discussed days prior. And it wasnt cuz he wasnt up to it. Im not STUPID. My reaction was totally normal. I simply said all right and left. The crying i did alone without him..Jeeeeeeezzzz

Posted by aquanib
Ayyyyyyyy

If i cant spend my day without thinking of you.....i for sure wont bail right when we get to the sex part.

This is a given, from the only male aqua that answered.

The only other explanation is that he felt bad you two(him) didnt have money for hotel room and didnt want to spend it somewhere gross and called it a night.

Other than that........no way, if he was telling the truth about what he feels for you....

Thanks.

So whats the problem? He has told you what his is, do you not believe him or...??

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Posted by Undine

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by sultrykitty
Why would his actions that night make you think it was over? Just because he didn't want to sleep with you on NYE?

No judging you if that's how you feel, but I do think you'd be making the wrong assumption.

why do you think it's the wrong assumption? we had a romantic night planned out and he bailed and told me he couldnt cuz the feelings werent there.... how else should i interpret that? serious question.

Jezzz....the most obvious interpretation would be that he was not up for a fuck at that moment. That he was getting tired, had enough fun, wanted to go home and have a good night sleep on his own. He was not "feeling it". Someone could be having a certain feeling (or the lack of it) at one given moment, and it MAY HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!

Alternatively, he might have chosen the NTE to dump you. New year, new girlfriend. If this were the case, he would have told you so to begin with, not on the way back home. Did you mention looking for a "cheap" room ? Does it sound like someone breaking up to you? Maybe the fact that he couldn't afford a hotel room made his dick shrink with embarrassment!

Learn to control your impulses (in this case to run away) and communicate! It takes only a few seconds to clarify what someone means. Use your brain, not your legs!

Oh, and forget him. If I were him, your reaction would be put me off. In fact, put yourself in his shoes...the best way to understand what someone is thinking and to predict what will happen next. Imagine someone pushing you to have sex at a moment you were not up to it and then running away in a huff, without a HNY or a proper good night!

#truth

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Sorry but this has barely anything to do with what actually happened. Also sex really wasnt that big of a deal. It was just spending the night after a super fun evening. It couldve just been snuggling. This reads like it was written for a dofferent person. That just wasnt what actually went down.