How to help Aquarius man destress

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Posted by ACsquarepluto

Hope he feels better soon. Congrats on your happiness (: all I can advise is to be there for him as someone he can rely on, and make efforts to be sweet and attentive. I'm sure he'll recognize and appreciate all of your efforts.

Thank you! 🙂 I will be all that will the balance of not smothering. That’s my biggest worry is how much is too much

Posted by LostinmyMind11

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Main plan tonight 😉

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Posted by kmi924

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Hope he feels better soon. Congrats on your happiness (: all I can advise is to be there for him as someone he can rely on, and make efforts to be sweet and attentive. I'm sure he'll recognize and appreciate all of your efforts.

Thank you! 🙂 I will be all that will the balance of not smothering. That’s my biggest worry is how much is too much

Might just take the risk of seeming overenthusiastic about him and ask him to let you know when to give him space, and ask if there's anything you can do currently to make him more comfortable... that's what I do anyway.

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I will do that, thank you again!

Anybody else out there?

Posted by tiziani

You said you already planned sex so job done.

Fair enough. Didn’t get to he fell asleep as soon as he got to my house

In my experience when they are stress they need time alone, so my advice would be not to take it personally, do your thing, don’t pressure him and be there if he needs you.

Posted by pisceswoman123

In my experience when they are stress they need time alone, so my advice would be not to take it personally, do your thing, don’t pressure him and be there if he needs you.

Yes that is kind of what I’ve been learning. Just watch tv in complete silence. He was very good yesterday and actually apologized for being so “weird” lately but no apology needed of course. Just glad he’s his happy self again 🙂

So things have gone to shit. I’ve really been trying to help him destress and I feel like I’ve been completely unappreciated. I’ve kept this to myself as I do not want to rock the boat. Anyway, we haven’t had sex in like a month and it’s been driving me crazy. He knows it too, yet makes no effort to pretend to even care to be intimate with me.

This past Sunday, we had a nice day. And I guess I just pushed it too much and said something about cheating (I mean who wouldn’t even slightly suspect that) and he flipped the fuck out. Did not want to spend the night with me. Did not want to talk to me. Called me every bad name under the book (as well as the C word) and just kept saying he’s not going through that shit again, as his previous gfs always did. Now I’ve heard stories about one ex and he keeps comparing me. He did not want to see me last night because he was still too pissed. And today I have no idea I’m not even going to try to contact him.

I guess I just need advice. Last night he screamed at me on the phone in front of his friends. I think he even had me on speaker while I just bawled maybe eyes out

He also keeps going between yes we are broken up no we’re not broken up. One thing he said was “I hope you find the Pussy that does everything you need/want”

Very immature aqua and prob he’s a a bit overhelmrd by ur need of caringless. Sometimes I fall into that trap too but with aqua u just need to let them be . Seriously these creature r funny Being. He sounds rude and unappreciative. What makes you think he’s cheating? I have not had a good experience with one so I can’t say if they cheat or not u can’t base these things on sun signs alone . But, why Wud he act that upset and now blaming eveything on you. A bit strange to me. Don’t put up with that bullcrap and tell him u need space. He will get the hint and grow up a bit

Posted by saweetz1988

Very immature aqua and prob he’s a a bit overhelmrd by ur need of caringless. Sometimes I fall into that trap too but with aqua u just need to let them be . Seriously these creature r funny Being. He sounds rude and unappreciative. What makes you think he’s cheating? I have not had a good experience with one so I can’t say if they cheat or not u can’t base these things on sun signs alone . But, why Wud he act that upset and now blaming eveything on you. A bit strange to me. Don’t put up with that bullcrap and tell him u need space. He will get the hint and grow up a bit

Thank you for the reply. In this case he wants the space I just gotta give it to him. The cheating thing is my own fault as this has happened to me before, no sex for a month means getting it elsewhere. I haven’t done that, but 2 previous bfs have. We were both a bit drunk on Sunday but I don’t think I was as rude as he was. He was just awful last night when I was trying to be civil. I just don’t understand how you can claim to love someone and purposely try to hurt them. His ex was a psycho and he thinks I’m being the same way. The stories I’ve heard don’t come close to how I was

I’m just so conflicted. Like I assume I’ll most likely hear from him again but should I tell him to fuck off if/when I do? He’s being even worse than my ex used to be if we’d get into an argument. I want to see him to defuse the situation. He doesn’t want to see me cause he thinks I’m gonna blow it up more like his ex used to. I’ve tried explaining I’m nothing like his ex but still fuck me

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Jumping to conclusions and making uninformed accusations tends not to accomplish much. Hope things get better, all you can do now is apologize, be sweet and work on patience

Yes patience is def not my forte (Aries moon here) but I’m just not gonna contact him from here on out. I just wish he wasn’t so nasty with me

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Posted by kmi924

So things have gone to shit. I’ve really been trying to help him destress and I feel like I’ve been completely unappreciated. I’ve kept this to myself as I do not want to rock the boat. Anyway, we haven’t had sex in like a month and it’s been driving me crazy. He knows it too, yet makes no effort to pretend to even care to be intimate with me.

This past Sunday, we had a nice day. And I guess I just pushed it too much and said something about cheating (I mean who wouldn’t even slightly suspect that) and he flipped the fuck out. Did not want to spend the night with me. Did not want to talk to me. Called me every bad name under the book (as well as the C word) and just kept saying he’s not going through that shit again, as his previous gfs always did. Now I’ve heard stories about one ex and he keeps comparing me. He did not want to see me last night because he was still too pissed. And today I have no idea I’m not even going to try to contact him.

I guess I just need advice. Last night he screamed at me on the phone in front of his friends. I think he even had me on speaker while I just bawled maybe eyes out

Wow what a douche. I hope you leave him

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I’m not sure what to do but I’m just giving him the silent treatment back

Does anyone think he’ll ever come back? We were a bit civil yesterday and I explained how I was feeling. Just thought I was doing great and I felt everything I was doing was going unappreciated. He said everything I was doing was more than good enough and he apologized that he didn’t show appreciation. I figured we were making up but he still didn’t want to see me. Is this really over?

Also, his mom would have been 57 today. She passed away in 2012. I was close to her. Should I say something to him? I just don’t know ☹️

When I'm unsure whether to do it or not, i just do it.

That way I'm having less regrets than not doing anything but wandering.

Posted by AerialView

When I'm unsure whether to do it or not, i just do it.

That way I'm having less regrets than not doing anything but wandering.

I agree 😊

Posted by AerialView

When I'm unsure whether to do it or not, i just do it.

That way I'm having less regrets than not doing anything but wandering.

I don’t think I will cause he asked me to leave him alone. If he wants to talk to me the ball is in his court. If he’s upset then 🤷🏼‍♀️ I was just doing what he asked. That sounds petty but he was horrible last night. Why should I have to say something to him when I can wish her a happy birthday myself. Always did before the past few years

Posted by tiziani

sounds like he massively overreacted and you're aware of your part in it. I actually think its easier to do nothing that just keep making something worse but hey.

My thoughts too. Just let him enter his own mind and realize how much of a jerk he was being without my influence of telling him he’s being really mean. It’s like he was getting off on hurting me

He just texted me asking if I want to hang out tonight

Hi all! So something really funny happened over the weekend. This is not an “I need advice” post but more for your entertainment. So it was my bf and his brother (for those who don’t know, his brother is my ex) fathers birthday this weekend. We went out to dinner. Now, this is the first encounter I’ve had with the ex since I started dating his brother. It was soo, painfully, hilariously awkward. Where we were positioned, I had to sit next to my exes child (whose almost 4... and we broke up almost 6 years ago he got with my obviously now former BFF), as well as my ex.

I shit you not, at one point the kid looked up at me and was like “who are you?” I just thought to myself “almost was your mommy but now possibly your auntie” 😂😂😂😂😂. At one point, the mother (who made NO interaction with me whatsoever) had my ex take the kid and put him between them.

When we got our food, ex asked waitress for fork and knife. Clearly he was as nervous as me, cuz he had an unwrapped set in front of him. I simply placed it in front of him. He was like “do you have a fork” and thought to myself “oh shit wait I think I do” 😂😂

At one point, waitress asked me if I wanted another coke. “Yes please.” Got another coke. A bit after that, she got him a new coke without asking if he wanted one. A bit after that, with my coke half gone he asks me “is that full coke yours or mine?” “Yours”

Here’s the kicker. We’re all done eating getting ready to pay and leave. Kid says to my bf “uncle Matt I wanna go to your house tonight” Matt says “sorry buddy, I’m going right to sleep when I get home. Ex responds “yeah I’m sure you’re going RIGHT to sleep when you get home”

I am still laughing hope y’all enjoy

Posted by kmi924

Hi all! So something really funny happened over the weekend. This is not an “I need advice” post but more for your entertainment. So it was my bf and his brother (for those who don’t know, his brother is my ex) fathers birthday this weekend. We went out to dinner. Now, this is the first encounter I’ve had with the ex since I started dating his brother. It was soo, painfully, hilariously awkward. Where we were positioned, I had to sit next to my exes child (whose almost 4... and we broke up almost 6 years ago he got with my obviously now former BFF), as well as my ex.

I shit you not, at one point the kid looked up at me and was like “who are you?” I just thought to myself “almost was your mommy but now possibly your auntie” 😂😂😂😂😂. At one point, the mother (who made NO interaction with me whatsoever) had my ex take the kid and put him between them.

When we got our food, ex asked waitress for fork and knife. Clearly he was as nervous as me, cuz he had an unwrapped set in front of him. I simply placed it in front of him. He was like “do you have a fork” and thought to myself “oh shit wait I think I do” 😂😂

At one point, waitress asked me if I wanted another coke. “Yes please.” Got another coke. A bit after that, she got him a new coke without asking if he wanted one. A bit after that, with my coke half gone he asks me “is that full coke yours or mine?” “Yours”

Here’s the kicker. We’re all done eating getting ready to pay and leave. Kid says to my bf “uncle Matt I wanna go to your house tonight” Matt says “sorry buddy, I’m going right to sleep when I get home. Ex responds “yeah I’m sure you’re going RIGHT to sleep when you get home”

I am still laughing hope y’all enjoy

I enjoyed 😄

Honestly though I thought that last thing was kinda weird, the more I think about it. Like if I was his gf and heard it I would have been like “wtf?” But we were respectful. Like me and bf weren’t all over each other and I realized how “quiet” he was keeping everything like sleeping at my house often, as he only talked to the dad about it quietly

Posted by kmi924

Honestly though I thought that last thing was kinda weird, the more I think about it. Like if I was his gf and heard it I would have been like “wtf?” But we were respectful. Like me and bf weren’t all over each other and I realized how “quiet” he was keeping everything like sleeping at my house often, as he only talked to the dad about it quietly

As an example, their dad asked my bf “did you get a lot of trick or treaters?” My bf responded “idk I wasn’t home that night” and like quietly pointed he spent the night at my place. I think ex might be pissed. Like it was finalized yes we’re dating

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Wouldn't give any thought to what the ex thinks beyond common courtesy. Glad things are happy with the aqua though, be good to him and appreciate him. (:

That’s a better way of looking at it. Thank you and of course daily 🙂

Ok y’all advice time please.

So I really can’t with this dude sometimes. One day everything is peachy the next day it’s shitty. So Tuesday night, I kind of quit my job due to them lying about what my pay would be. I was told minimum wage + commission. Just got minimum wage. I do have other things lined up. I told him I’m stressed and just asked for advice. The advice wasn’t very nice. So I said “geeze I could have just used a big hug.” “Oh ok.” No hug. So I kind of just didn’t talk to him for the night and went to sleep, he fell asleep on the couch.

So last night things good whatever he came to my place. I kind of brought it up again and he was saying he was pissed I was saying he doesn’t support me. He was basically putting words in my mouth and painted me to be an asshole. He said I was painting him to be an asshole. I was not. So I go to the bathroom, come out and he’s gone. I’m PISSED. I asked him to come back. He didn’t. I think he broke up with me? I’m really mad and not sure if I want to continue to do this. He knows leaving is the one thing that drives me insane. This is his third time doing so if the conversation isn’t going his way.

Wtf Aquarius men?

Like I didn’t even know we were fighting!! And I’m 95% he would have had to run out in his socks and carry his boots to be gone by the time I got outta the bathroom. My goddess I really hate him right now. I don’t think he’s worth it

I post this thread for advice on how to help him unstress, and he can’t even give me a fucking hug when I’m stressed and literally ask for a hug?!? Fuck him!!

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Sounds like he lives by a principle of honesty which he won't compromise, wants to be free to be himself without suffering attempts to be manipulated into sugar-coating his beliefs. Pays to think of the good times and adjust to his individuality. I'm sure he didn't mean you harm and was frustrated when misunderstood.

I wish you luck, wouldn't assume you were broken up with until he states this directly.

I agree but I don’t think he likes listening either. He kept saying “who are you to talk about how much you wanna get paid” when all I really said was “when they ask if I have any questions, I wanna ask what the pay will be and if it’s no weekly”. I know what you mean and I agree, but it’s like he has his own reality of what’s going on.

It wasn’t direct, but last thing he said to me was “you said you weren’t like the others and here you are being crazy. If I’m so awful then fuck this”

And by that point I wasn’t even saying he was being awful! I was telling him I love him please come back. It’s like he knows he’s being awful and just doesn’t care

When something like this happens, he usually texts me the next day asking to talk during his lunch break. He did not do that today so guess it’s over

That’s all folks 🤷🏼‍♀️ Thanks for all the advice and enjoying the good stories I’m moving forward

So we “got back together” and it’s been rocky. I’ve tried to tread littley and slowly. He just beat me up and left.

He physically assulted you— Umm call the fucking cops...fuck this douche nozzle!!

Posted by kmi924

So we “got back together” and it’s been rocky. I’ve tried to tread littley and slowly. He just beat me up and left.

Are you a Libra?