JuzzWifey
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I hate being aqua somedays.... Help me understand how to be loving and warm
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
your quote:
(I am 3 parts aqua sun, moon, mercury and sag and Aries in my charts btw)
-- you are a triple aqua, where is your sag and aries?
(I am 3 parts aqua sun, moon, mercury and sag and Aries in my charts btw)
-- you are a triple aqua, where is your sag and aries?
Wait but I thought it’s the Gemini that’s fickle? That’s how you paint it in the other thread.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Wait but I thought it’s the Gemini that’s fickle? That’s how you paint it in the other thread.
Here's how I read it after seeing the Gem board post:
I hate being a aqua because I'm not loving and warm but I did know it when I was with a Libra but now I choose not to believe in it because Gems are Gems can they really change because I need to get laid.
Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
click to expand
Yeah I'm sure most Aquas are fixed in that way even if my chart is completely mutable there's just that part of me (I've tried mind you) to change to accommodate for others but just never works out and I can't help it.
As for the OP she seems pretty set in her ways while this Gem is probably wondering if she'll ditch him for a Libra again. Gotta love these inner turmoils.
Posted by aquasnozPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
Yeah I'm sure most Aquas are fixed in that way even if my chart is completely mutable there's just that part of me (I've tried mind you) to change to accommodate for others but just never works out and I can't help it.
As for the OP she seems pretty set in her ways while this Gem is probably wondering if she'll ditch him for a Libra again. Gotta love these inner turmoils.click to expand
i can adapt very very well if my significant other has what i NEED/ desire/love, (my personal planets) and it works awesomely though. (I had to adapt alot to my husband because he gives me what i want/desire/need) soooo yeah ..you betcha!! otherwise, pfftt forget it. lol so i get you there ;p
you might not have found your jackpot yet.
What are scared of?
Posted by lisabethur8
your quote:
(I am 3 parts aqua sun, moon, mercury and sag and Aries in my charts btw)
-- you are a triple aqua, where is your sag and aries?
Mars and Venus
Posted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.
Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.click to expand
That's fair. Do you know who he truly is?
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnozPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
Yeah I'm sure most Aquas are fixed in that way even if my chart is completely mutable there's just that part of me (I've tried mind you) to change to accommodate for others but just never works out and I can't help it.
As for the OP she seems pretty set in her ways while this Gem is probably wondering if she'll ditch him for a Libra again. Gotta love these inner turmoils.
i can adapt very very well if my significant other has what i NEED/ desire/love, (my personal planets) and it works awesomely though. (I had to adapt alot to my husband because he gives me what i want/desire/need) soooo yeah ..you betcha!! otherwise, pfftt forget it. lol so i get you there ;p
you might not have found your jackpot yet.
click to expand
I think I did. I was telling my family and friends, I broke it off because I felt vulnerable. Like I hate that feeling. Whether aquas want to admit it not, we have an ego. We have a drive to win in secrecy. We hunger for perfection (which is our problem). Perfection to me is truth. Owning your truth no matter what. He does that so to me that’s perfect. However, his truth may not be as truthful because I have seen him lie. I have seen him fold. I know him. And Hell gates will open up the first time he does it to me. So apart of me want to let go and let the vulnerability ride, but lol he test certain waters he will see the other side I never show, my fire and brimstone- with some ice cold veins. We have had a marvelous run as friends but boy oh boy I fear what can happen on a serious front - he is a Gem. They like to conquer. They like the chase. They like to chase butterflies. My thing is: it appears to be a Gem of substance today - with his new self. But with all the reinventing he does over the years (for the better) - it will truly hurt and crush my soul he decide to chase butterflies 5 years in. 🤦🏾♀️
It my protection talk. Flings are protection from having to actually “feel” anything. I love the great feelings and highs and lows as long as we are together. A breakup- nah I wouldn’t be able to handle it.
Posted by Sag898Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.
That's fair. Do you know who he truly is?click to expand
Yes! That’s the scarier part. Because he shows typical Gemini ways. I know a lot of them. But some are “somewhat” devoted to their partners. He feel like I’m the “one” truly. But I don’t have time for how he feeling and viewing life today and then he has new views tomorrow. Like know yourself and make up your mind. The things are stubborn on are of true value. I love that! But he doesn’t always come to terms with his romantic partners. Like they are everything today and nothing f tomorrow. He couldn’t explain that to me but I messed up with this one truly. That one eh we could have work but she was like this. And I am like... I wonder if you will run through me the same. He swears our relationship is “different”. We have been going strong continuously. He asked his family for blessings about us ( he doesn’t do that typically). He feel in a way he has earned me. Keep in mind, he is not all that financially where he wants to be. No he will not use me for money. But for our little level in life, I am a bit of a high bar. I asked him, well you only feel this way because of the the type of women you have encountered. Most of them uneducated, financially unstable, wrecklesa, rude, etc. I also explained to him that this is what he currently attracts and are in those “environments”. But once he change environments he will see that there are far more options. Truly- I have them too. I just drawn to him. My attempts have been to get him to see the bigger picture- like commitment doesn’t mean because I am the best option you have now. It’s in the face of even more options and in different environments, he will have room to roam with women who are educated and self sufficient. That’s pretty normal. So then, what?
Gems have ways of like what they see depending on what they access to as well. With more exposure, he may not even care the same. And aquas we are different. You can put us next to anyone with anyone in any situation. We love you, that’s it! Nobody can come in between that- period. Our stubborn ways makes that all possible for people who hate it. But that stubbornness is what creates that loyalty. Gems arent typically as stubborn.
Posted by aquasnozPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
Yeah I'm sure most Aquas are fixed in that way even if my chart is completely mutable there's just that part of me (I've tried mind you) to change to accommodate for others but just never works out and I can't help it.
As for the OP she seems pretty set in her ways while this Gem is probably wondering if she'll ditch him for a Libra again. Gotta love these inner turmoils.click to expand
You are so critical... I love it! Hold back no punches. 😂😂😂 what are aquas for though 🤷🏾♀️. He is but he is no longer worried because we buried him Saturday. He was killed by his friend. I haven’t been with the libra in years since 2016. But I was his last and only true girlfriend ever. He had flings before us and after. I was responsible for the funeral. The Gem guy came to support me. Then he thought about us being together finally (I guess seeing a guy in the casket- sparked this notion of life it too short). My thing is, I have been saying that for years. There were periods I wanted more and declined me. So I don’t know if he being real
Or just in a damn state of shock. Whereas, I felt the way he is now feeling. He dragged his feet. Played around. Now screaming a change. I feel like his change (come off as) sincere. But when I look at the bigger picture, I grow cold. I can’t help that it. I have analyze it real good. Maybe it’s just me... that’s a factor to consider too.
Posted by Impulsv
Is it really ur aqua placements
Or unhealed issues?
Sister aqua has no problem in her 9 yr relationship
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Mixture of both. My aqua friends who aren’t as cold, hasn’t been damaged. But my ones who have truly loved even just once- all hell in future relationships. We’re cold because it won’t happen again. We are thinkers before feelers. So I can feel one way, but if my mind don’t say it’s cool. I’m going with my mind. That’s what I trust.
Aquas can be in great relationships, it’s more less not seeing the ugly. Mind you we are never nasty or verbal about it. You just get distance or no action.
I am here to make up my mind. Lol warm and loving or friend zoned forever 🤷🏾♀️
Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by aquasnozPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
Yeah I'm sure most Aquas are fixed in that way even if my chart is completely mutable there's just that part of me (I've tried mind you) to change to accommodate for others but just never works out and I can't help it.
As for the OP she seems pretty set in her ways while this Gem is probably wondering if she'll ditch him for a Libra again. Gotta love these inner turmoils.
You are so critical... I love it! Hold back no punches. 😂😂😂 what are aquas for though 🤷🏾♀️. He is but he is no longer worried because we buried him Saturday. He was killed by his friend. I haven’t been with the libra in years since 2016. But I was his last and only true girlfriend ever. He had flings before us and after. I was responsible for the funeral. The Gem guy came to support me. Then he thought about us being together finally (I guess seeing a guy in the casket- sparked this notion of life it too short). My thing is, I have been saying that for years. There were periods I wanted more and declined me. So I don’t know if he being real
Or just in a damn state of shock. Whereas, I felt the way he is now feeling. He dragged his feet. Played around. Now screaming a change. I feel like his change (come off as) sincere. But when I look at the bigger picture, I grow cold. I can’t help that it. I have analyze it real good. Maybe it’s just me... that’s a factor to consider too.click to expand
Well I meant another Libra a possible other libra (or insert whichever sign).
You know there's a study about the unlikelihood of finding love over a certain age and it all has to do with exactly what you wrote about. People say trust can be made but I say trust just keeps slipping away lol. Look I think you know what SHOULD happen if you don't let this happen now it may never happen again but who knows life tends to have its weird cyclic ways.
Being critical is OKAY imo (not me but our similar outlooks) because it may not bother us that much but I think the major difference between us is that I make that commitment regardless and I'll always try to approach it as a new relationship everytime. Trial and error I guess for me, it's just a shame no 2 people are ever the same so I guess it's more trial and trial.
Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.
That's fair. Do you know who he truly is?
Yes! That’s the scarier part. Because he shows typical Gemini ways. I know a lot of them. But some are “somewhat” devoted to their partners. He feel like I’m the “one” truly. But I don’t have time for how he feeling and viewing life today and then he has new views tomorrow. Like know yourself and make up your mind. The things are stubborn on are of true value. I love that! But he doesn’t always come to terms with his romantic partners. Like they are everything today and nothing f tomorrow. He couldn’t explain that to me but I messed up with this one truly. That one eh we could have work but she was like this. And I am like... I wonder if you will run through me the same. He swears our relationship is “different”. We have been going strong continuously. He asked his family for blessings about us ( he doesn’t do that typically). He feel in a way he has earned me. Keep in mind, he is not all that financially where he wants to be. No he will not use me for money. But for our little level in life, I am a bit of a high bar. I asked him, well you only feel this way because of the the type of women you have encountered. Most of them uneducated, financially unstable, wrecklesa, rude, etc. I also explained to him that this is what he currently attracts and are in those “environments”. But once he change environments he will see that there are far more options. Truly- I have them too. I just drawn to him. My attempts have been to get him to see the bigger picture- like commitment doesn’t mean because I am the best option you have now. It’s in the face of even more options and in different environments, he will have room to roam with women who are educated and self sufficient. That’s pretty normal. So then, what?
Gems have ways of like what they see depending on what they access to as well. With more exposure, he may not even care the same. And aquas we are different. You can put us next to anyone with anyone in any situation. We love you, that’s it! Nobody can come in between that- period. Our stubborn ways makes that all possible for people who hate it. But that stubbornness is what creates that loyalty. Gems arent typically as stubborn.click to expand
Ah yes the fixedness. I have a venus In Aqua, I can relate somewhat. I am a mutable sign too though. Something I had to do was lower my standers a bit. I totally hear what your saying but the truth is relationships are nothing but a gamble in all reality. You just really have to hope for the best and that what you invested in is a good pay off from your best judgment. The future is not for us to know down at 60 years old. I just think if you keep looking for a perfect situation you won't get to live. Sorry, I don't mean to get all philosophical on you, just I have had these very thoughts and this is what helped me sort through them...idk.
Posted by Sag898Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.
That's fair. Do you know who he truly is?
Yes! That’s the scarier part. Because he shows typical Gemini ways. I know a lot of them. But some are “somewhat” devoted to their partners. He feel like I’m the “one” truly. But I don’t have time for how he feeling and viewing life today and then he has new views tomorrow. Like know yourself and make up your mind. The things are stubborn on are of true value. I love that! But he doesn’t always come to terms with his romantic partners. Like they are everything today and nothing f tomorrow. He couldn’t explain that to me but I messed up with this one truly. That one eh we could have work but she was like this. And I am like... I wonder if you will run through me the same. He swears our relationship is “different”. We have been going strong continuously. He asked his family for blessings about us ( he doesn’t do that typically). He feel in a way he has earned me. Keep in mind, he is not all that financially where he wants to be. No he will not use me for money. But for our little level in life, I am a bit of a high bar. I asked him, well you only feel this way because of the the type of women you have encountered. Most of them uneducated, financially unstable, wrecklesa, rude, etc. I also explained to him that this is what he currently attracts and are in those “environments”. But once he change environments he will see that there are far more options. Truly- I have them too. I just drawn to him. My attempts have been to get him to see the bigger picture- like commitment doesn’t mean because I am the best option you have now. It’s in the face of even more options and in different environments, he will have room to roam with women who are educated and self sufficient. That’s pretty normal. So then, what?
Gems have ways of like what they see depending on what they access to as well. With more exposure, he may not even care the same. And aquas we are different. You can put us next to anyone with anyone in any situation. We love you, that’s it! Nobody can come in between that- period. Our stubborn ways makes that all possible for people who hate it. But that stubbornness is what creates that loyalty. Gems arent typically as stubborn.
Ah yes the fixedness. I have a venus In Aqua, I can relate somewhat. I am a mutable sign too though. Something I had to do was lower my standers a bit. I totally hear what your saying but the truth is relationships are nothing but a gamble in all reality. You just really have to hope for the best and that what you invested in is a good pay off from your best judgment. The future is not for us to know down at 60 years old. I just think if you keep looking for a perfect situation you won't get to live. Sorry, I don't mean to get all philosophical on you, just I have had these very thoughts and this is what helped me sort through them...idk.click to expand
My Scorpio cousin said the same thing. She is a sucker for Love so I was critical about her opinion. My best friend is a Taurus, they like the whole ride of romance and stuff. They like this idea of letting chips fall where they may. You are 100% right. If I don’t just try it, I won’t know. And I need to get the feeling while it’s hot 😂😂😂. He may change Juan mind Monday 🤣🤣🤣.
Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.
That's fair. Do you know who he truly is?
Yes! That’s the scarier part. Because he shows typical Gemini ways. I know a lot of them. But some are “somewhat” devoted to their partners. He feel like I’m the “one” truly. But I don’t have time for how he feeling and viewing life today and then he has new views tomorrow. Like know yourself and make up your mind. The things are stubborn on are of true value. I love that! But he doesn’t always come to terms with his romantic partners. Like they are everything today and nothing f tomorrow. He couldn’t explain that to me but I messed up with this one truly. That one eh we could have work but she was like this. And I am like... I wonder if you will run through me the same. He swears our relationship is “different”. We have been going strong continuously. He asked his family for blessings about us ( he doesn’t do that typically). He feel in a way he has earned me. Keep in mind, he is not all that financially where he wants to be. No he will not use me for money. But for our little level in life, I am a bit of a high bar. I asked him, well you only feel this way because of the the type of women you have encountered. Most of them uneducated, financially unstable, wrecklesa, rude, etc. I also explained to him that this is what he currently attracts and are in those “environments”. But once he change environments he will see that there are far more options. Truly- I have them too. I just drawn to him. My attempts have been to get him to see the bigger picture- like commitment doesn’t mean because I am the best option you have now. It’s in the face of even more options and in different environments, he will have room to roam with women who are educated and self sufficient. That’s pretty normal. So then, what?
Gems have ways of like what they see depending on what they access to as well. With more exposure, he may not even care the same. And aquas we are different. You can put us next to anyone with anyone in any situation. We love you, that’s it! Nobody can come in between that- period. Our stubborn ways makes that all possible for people who hate it. But that stubbornness is what creates that loyalty. Gems arent typically as stubborn.
Ah yes the fixedness. I have a venus In Aqua, I can relate somewhat. I am a mutable sign too though. Something I had to do was lower my standers a bit. I totally hear what your saying but the truth is relationships are nothing but a gamble in all reality. You just really have to hope for the best and that what you invested in is a good pay off from your best judgment. The future is not for us to know down at 60 years old. I just think if you keep looking for a perfect situation you won't get to live. Sorry, I don't mean to get all philosophical on you, just I have had these very thoughts and this is what helped me sort through them...idk.
My Scorpio cousin said the same thing. She is a sucker for Love so I was critical about her opinion. My best friend is a Taurus, they like the whole ride of romance and stuff. They like this idea of letting chips fall where they may. You are 100% right. If I don’t just try it, I won’t know. And I need to get the feeling while it’s hot 😂😂😂. He may change Juan mind Monday 🤣🤣🤣.click to expand
Exactly! haha
Posted by aquasnozPosted by JuzzWifeyPosted by aquasnozPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquasnoz
all those placements tell me you're not going to listen to anyone's advice already. Or is it reverse psychology?!
There's a handful of aquas that's gone and past on this board that has commitment issues but there's also a lot of us who have no fear of letting ourselves go and 'trust' in others and to be vulnerable.
I guess the real question is how much do you value your freedom vs the reality of ending up feeling lonely if that even becomes a thing. I love my time with my significant others, I didn't have a lot of them but I enjoyed the time together. I never slept with other people but usually it has to do with me being aloof and what not that ends relationships.
So this working on 'me' or 'you' thing. Honestly that doesn't fly at all. It's just how we're built and I haven't really succeeded in changing that part of me. If you feel you'd end up lonely and single maybe it's a strong enough drive for you to consider the alternative but so far I haven't felt the need to connect with another person for a long time and even if I'm with someone there's never a connection on my side.
Who knows right? Maybe you and I are just still waiting for that one person that does it for us. This Gem might be special but perhaps not special enough.
double fixed, even my husband tells me i am stubborn and i am dominant Taurus, with Aqua sun singularity.
but he is more stubborn than me..so FIGHT lol ;p
anyway he always wins.
but yeah, i end up adapting more. still, there are stubborn elements.
and her being double fixed.
I think the gemini is going to be one adapting to YOU, op.
unless he has rising and moon fixed, so there is some problem.. you would both need to adapt somehow
Yeah I'm sure most Aquas are fixed in that way even if my chart is completely mutable there's just that part of me (I've tried mind you) to change to accommodate for others but just never works out and I can't help it.
As for the OP she seems pretty set in her ways while this Gem is probably wondering if she'll ditch him for a Libra again. Gotta love these inner turmoils.
You are so critical... I love it! Hold back no punches. 😂😂😂 what are aquas for though 🤷🏾♀️. He is but he is no longer worried because we buried him Saturday. He was killed by his friend. I haven’t been with the libra in years since 2016. But I was his last and only true girlfriend ever. He had flings before us and after. I was responsible for the funeral. The Gem guy came to support me. Then he thought about us being together finally (I guess seeing a guy in the casket- sparked this notion of life it too short). My thing is, I have been saying that for years. There were periods I wanted more and declined me. So I don’t know if he being real
Or just in a damn state of shock. Whereas, I felt the way he is now feeling. He dragged his feet. Played around. Now screaming a change. I feel like his change (come off as) sincere. But when I look at the bigger picture, I grow cold. I can’t help that it. I have analyze it real good. Maybe it’s just me... that’s a factor to consider too.
Well I meant another Libra a possible other libra (or insert whichever sign).
You know there's a study about the unlikelihood of finding love over a certain age and it all has to do with exactly what you wrote about. People say trust can be made but I say trust just keeps slipping away lol. Look I think you know what SHOULD happen if you don't let this happen now it may never happen again but who knows life tends to have its weird cyclic ways.
Being critical is OKAY imo (not me but our similar outlooks) because it may not bother us that much but I think the major difference between us is that I make that commitment regardless and I'll always try to approach it as a new relationship everytime. Trial and error I guess for me, it's just a shame no 2 people are ever the same so I guess it's more trial and trial.click to expand
Yes I am tired of trials. Lol. I have been running through those “let’s see what happen relationships”. At this point in my life, it’s like we can fling it or let’s get real. Honestly, when I end up in these “trial” relationships they start as flings (which is why he don’t want me to have another one). At the same time, I go in with my head first. It’s truly different with him to the point I freaked out when my heart jumped in first.
Im like wwwwhhhhoooaaaa. Wait a minute. While I still give off that cool demeanor, he can feel the distance in my confusion.
Let me open up a bit more (rare moment)- I do love him and boy I am ready to dive in and just live and love. The irony in life is people play upon that. From my understanding Gems mimic behavior and match you. Which is pretty much what I see. It’s not so obvious to the naked eye. It looks genuine. But he wasn’t this person. My mind say don’t be a fool he figured you out. My heart say, this is beautiful let go an love.
Again, I hate being an aqua because my mind trumps everything lol. You right, life is cynical, I can only go through it not around it. If it don’t work out, I know I can ensure we regain our friendship at minimum. That was my first concern. I love our bond and openness. I asked him not to change it. But of course, he told me what I wanted to hear... he can’t run that on me.
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It my protection talk. Flings are protection from having to actually “feel” anything. I love the great feelings and highs and lows as long as we are together. A breakup- nah I wouldn’t be able to handle it. ** I love the way you explain eveything it makes me understand aqua better. Back to what you have mentioned here, I don’t understand how you say you are together when clear it’s a fling? WHAt happens with go with the flow ? Aqua always tell me to try and go with the flow and live in the moment? as for gem sun, I feel like that’s way too much air for your airy nature whaf his moon. ANd my question is, has he told u he loved you and how long have you felt love for him?
It my protection talk. Flings are protection from having to actually “feel” anything. I love the great feelings and highs and lows as long as we are together. A breakup- nah I wouldn’t be able to handle it. ** I love the way you explain eveything it makes me understand aqua better. Back to what you have mentioned here, I don’t understand how you say you are together when clear it’s a fling? WHAt happens with go with the flow ? Aqua always tell me to try and go with the flow and live in the moment? as for gem sun, I feel like that’s way too much air for your airy nature whaf his moon. ANd my question is, has he told u he loved you and how long have you felt love for him?
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It my protection talk. Flings are protection from having to actually “feel” anything. I love the great feelings and highs and lows as long as we are together. A breakup- nah I wouldn’t be able to handle it. ** I love the way you explain eveything it makes me understand aqua better. Back to what you have mentioned here, I don’t understand how you say you are together when clear it’s a fling? WHAt happens with go with the flow ? Aqua always tell me to try and go with the flow and live in the moment? as for gem sun, I feel like that’s way too much air for your airy nature whaf his moon. ANd my question is, has he told u he loved you and how long have you felt love for him?
It’s a bit complex. In a fling relationship, it’s like practice. I can be in those from months to years honestly. I have love for the person. I like who they are. I will put in effort to see them grow as an individual. However, they really cannot do the same for me. That’s rare. “I know you but you really don’t know me.” And that’s the problem. Granted Aquas are a little weird and difficult to understand but we are attentive to our partner behavior or needs but rarely can anyone do the same. That’s a huge no no for me long term.
The Gem and I were finally in a relationship for the past 4 days at which took years to get there. We love each other in a strong way. Trust me it has been tested repeatedly. He came right out and said it. But his actions showed it first for quite sometime. Everyone knew about me, including his family. He would not allow me to put too much distance between us, EVER. He get upset even when I was in relationships I didn’t call him once a week. He is honest with me (now). He tells me the truth even when it hurts - I didn’t want to lose this within a relationship. I ask for it, I shall receive with him. I just know. However, he didn’t want to settle with me because of his hoeing ways. He told me this several times. So I start dating again and this cycle continued and continued over the years. But this is the first in 6 years, we have attempted any type of relationship. We have been the best of friends.
This is his chart:
Sun Gemini
Moon Aquarius
Venus Taurus
Mercury Taurus
Mars Aries
Saturn Aquarius
Pluto Scorpio
My chart:
Sun Aquarius
Moon Aquarius
Venus Aries
Mercury Aquarius
Mars Sagittarius
Saturn Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Uranus Capricorn
Jupiter Aries
Going with the flow with an Aqua could mean anything, honestly. We like to learn the person. I know personally, during the early phases the person is usually “acting” showing me their best. Reality is, I want to see your worse, rawness, your inner being you try to hide. Sometimes, a person is awesome on the surface and this ugly, bitter, person in the inside. Trust me, I have left guys based on how they have treated others or speaking negatively toward someone else - not wishing them well. Because most aquas are non confrontational, it’s easier to back off and allow you to be. On the opposite side, if you ask me, I will tell you or if I want more with you I would tell you. That totally depends if I feel as if you chose to be a certain way or trained to be a certain way.
I am a DEEP thinker and always researching things etc. So my view points and how I operate is different (that’s most important to an aqua, being different) even from most aquas. I dated one, yes he was loyal, patient, and quiet. But his aqua a-hole hung out often. He could go beyond being blunt to just plain rude. He didn’t care etc. I dealt with it for almost of year and dropped him like a bad habit.
Your chart is too masculine lol
Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by Sag898
What are scared of?
I will repost what I did in the other thread:
To be clear: I was heart broken 15 years ago. Yes that’s along time. Again, I am an aqua so I rather cheap thrills until I know deep down I can settle down and be happy for real. Aquas are highly misunderstood. We understands what it takes to be a great partner and we deliver but... can you reciprocate? I am actual sensitive to the point I rather be cold than to be warm and get hurt. Hint: I am on a forum trying to make sense before diving in.
Yes, I am afraid of commitment. However, more afraid of it being with the wrong person. I feel he is being real and typically without the Magic’s foresight, I want to get some clarity. Relationships are never easy. I have been in a few. I protect, love, and have strong loyalty to my family and friends. I expect that from my partner as I will devote myself to his family as well. The extension of me is hard to get but once he get it... he has to world on a silver platter.
This puts me in vulnerable situation. If anyone has truly loved someone, you understand that vulnerability is a real thing. You let go of egos and expectations and just love. But why dive in head first and get hurt, when you can carefully assess whether it’s worth it. At the same time, this has been a situation between us for years. So for me, this is not a testing ground. This is a man I love, respect, and adore (from afar because I don’t express it). I have a father Gem who once he gets a woman, he destroys them. My mother is a Leo, she does the same thing relentlessly. It actually make me see that people don’t understands truw values for a real long term commitment. That’s what I want from him. Not 6 years but 60. However, he doesn’t think that far. And I was curious because the reputation of Gems is that they are constantly changing their mind. While I have my mind made up, I really don’t want to play with someone who thinks this is how he feels today, living in the moment, then bam when that listful infatuation leaves, it’s like oh a new shiny thing. That’s devotion.
I am well worth it in gold. Not tooting my own horn but I know I am not just going to hand it out. Flings are a great way to keep it simple. That’s it. So it would be nice to know if Gems truly desires thy or is that based on how they Fee today? Is his words only good for a period of time? If not, I will give him the love of his dreams because I don’t get tired of spoiling whoever I love with real love, understanding, and loyalty. That’s why my circle stays small. I am only one person.click to expand
Wow, you are just full of contradictions. “”not just going to hand it out” oh but you will just have sex.. you must mean your heart? 😝Anyway, you are not really into this guy, I mean you want to be but your gut is telling you no. Maybe cool it on the sex and see if actual feelings develop. Heart, mind, body and soul 😎
I can't love anybody if there isn't trust and loyalty...and that's coming from an otherwise foolhardy Sag (with Venus in Aquarius).
The slightest doubt, and nope. My brain has to do the calculus with the facts and history provided and organically arrive at the conclusion they're worthy. It doesn't allow for massaging the data via rationalisation.
Maybe Aqua sun and moon manifest in a more flexible way, but if not, this might be part of what's going on.
The slightest doubt, and nope. My brain has to do the calculus with the facts and history provided and organically arrive at the conclusion they're worthy. It doesn't allow for massaging the data via rationalisation.
Maybe Aqua sun and moon manifest in a more flexible way, but if not, this might be part of what's going on.
Posted by JuzzWifeyPosted by saweetz1988
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It my protection talk. Flings are protection from having to actually “feel” anything. I love the great feelings and highs and lows as long as we are together. A breakup- nah I wouldn’t be able to handle it. ** I love the way you explain eveything it makes me understand aqua better. Back to what you have mentioned here, I don’t understand how you say you are together when clear it’s a fling? WHAt happens with go with the flow ? Aqua always tell me to try and go with the flow and live in the moment? as for gem sun, I feel like that’s way too much air for your airy nature whaf his moon. ANd my question is, has he told u he loved you and how long have you felt love for him?
It’s a bit complex. In a fling relationship, it’s like practice. I can be in those from months to years honestly. I have love for the person. I like who they are. I will put in effort to see them grow as an individual. However, they really cannot do the same for me. That’s rare. “I know you but you really don’t know me.” And that’s the problem. Granted Aquas are a little weird and difficult to understand but we are attentive to our partner behavior or needs but rarely can anyone do the same. That’s a huge no no for me long term.
The Gem and I were finally in a relationship for the past 4 days at which took years to get there. We love each other in a strong way. Trust me it has been tested repeatedly. He came right out and said it. But his actions showed it first for quite sometime. Everyone knew about me, including his family. He would not allow me to put too much distance between us, EVER. He get upset even when I was in relationships I didn’t call him once a week. He is honest with me (now). He tells me the truth even when it hurts - I didn’t want to lose this within a relationship. I ask for it, I shall receive with him. I just know. However, he didn’t want to settle with me because of his hoeing ways. He told me this several times. So I start dating again and this cycle continued and continued over the years. But this is the first in 6 years, we have attempted any type of relationship. We have been the best of friends.
This is his chart:
Sun Gemini
Moon Aquarius
Venus Taurus
Mercury Taurus
Mars Aries
Saturn Aquarius
Pluto Scorpio
My chart:
Sun Aquarius
Moon Aquarius
Venus Aries
Mercury Aquarius
Mars Sagittarius
Saturn Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Uranus Capricorn
Jupiter Aries
Going with the flow with an Aqua could mean anything, honestly. We like to learn the person. I know personally, during the early phases the person is usually “acting” showing me their best. Reality is, I want to see your worse, rawness, your inner being you try to hide. Sometimes, a person is awesome on the surface and this ugly, bitter, person in the inside. Trust me, I have left guys based on how they have treated others or speaking negatively toward someone else - not wishing them well. Because most aquas are non confrontational, it’s easier to back off and allow you to be. On the opposite side, if you ask me, I will tell you or if I want more with you I would tell you. That totally depends if I feel as if you chose to be a certain way or trained to be a certain way.
I am a DEEP thinker and always researching things etc. So my view points and how I operate is different (that’s most important to an aqua, being different) even from most aquas. I dated one, yes he was loyal, patient, and quiet. But his aqua a-hole hung out often. He could go beyond being blunt to just plain rude. He didn’t care etc. I dealt with it for almost of year and dropped him like a bad habit.click to expand
lol you both have Aquarius moon.
I have found that even Aquarius Mars is non-confrontational. They are very similar to Libra mars. lol
(or could be that this person has Aquarius mars to his Jupiter Pisces) lol
I think this is an AIR thing honestly.
i get really frustrated from it. (meaning i want him to CONFront) LOL
i find that Aries/Fire mars in general does not shy from confrontational..
and my Earthy mars has to back down, or is it my mutable moon? I just can't deal. So i run/swim away.
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