i need aqua translation (Page 2)

Sharon, thats tuff. I am finding myself in kinda of the same situation by distanting myself from my x because he came back but he still doesnt know what he wants so its so hard because I love him, always have but I am way to available to him and I had to take another course of action. Yeah if you push he will run, did he have a bad break up or something before you ?

3 years

Regardless of astro sign...if you let people get away with things constantly, they will continue to do it and not take you seriously at that. You need to give him a wake up call sharon.

Like I said, if he really does love you he will comeback and if not OR of you no longer want him...you both just need to move on.

I agree, its going to be sooooo hard but you need to back away and see what he does. just keep doing you and make your self unavailable. Sometimes they have to lose that person and order to find out what they mean to them.

Starfish, you are so right. It seems like the more you care the more they treat you like shit. for instance I remember my x telling me about this girl he claimed he was so in love with before and after he told me how she treated him i could not understand why he loved her. But I think thats what he thinks love is someone to treat you wrong and make you constantly chase them. she didn't want him and he claimed he was so in love !!!! And see then there is me that loves him so much and doesn't play games and I feel like he gets bored with me sometimes. Thats crazy ! I said one day I hopefully get a chance to bring that to his attention.

i don't think my friend has ever experienced my kinda of love !!!! unconditional !!!!!

"Regardless of astro sign...if you let people get away with things constantly, they will continue to do it and not take you seriously at that. You need to give him a wake up call sharon."

"Like I said, if he really does love you he will comeback"

-this is very true, but how many times can you take someone back? i guess, as many as you let them!!! with aqua men though it seems to be common ground to leave and come back due to confusion/ issues with commitment, etc. so, what is a good approach to take to make them learn their lesson— should you just not be so available when in the relationship? be more independent...what?

you think i should move on and end it with my aqua—
i am starting to feel like it is "aqua bashing" day!!!

this is crazy because it takes so much effort to me with these dudes. Starfish, sometimes I feel like he knows that I am different from the rest and actually told me he has never met anyone like me. but how do get them to realize that what they are looking for is right in front of them. and I feel like old girl broke his ass down so bad that he doesn't know what to do with me.

his friend told me that he thinks my x feels like he doesn't deserve me or that kind of love.

aqua's never feel like they deserve "true" love from someone...
and they always feel that they fuck up everything good in their life.

Starfish is right: "move on, end it for good" and I don't mean specifically for you mooonchild or for aqua men per se...
and as Lady M says: if you let people get away with things too many times, they'll keep on doing it. I think that romantic relationships are just like any other except that we are often so emotionally invested in them that we create a second law for that person that we love and we shouldn't: at least not most of the time. If you have a friend that you are not romantically interested in and this person takes you for granted and comes in and out of your life without accountability, you'll just drop the person cold because their behavior shows that you don't matter to them: same with romantic relationships! In fact, with should even be so much more rigorous in those relationships because the stakes are so much higher...Of course, you give the person a first chance, even a second while expressing your dissapointment but if there's no adjustment on their end it shows they don't give a darn about you no matter what they actually say! Granted it's so much harder with a romantic partner yet time has shown that it is the people (men and women) who are able to do this who are able to form long term stable and secure relationships...I think that a cookiemonster is the woman who stands by this rule, and talking to my hubby and other male friends, they all reiterate that in different words: the women they marry or have long term serious relationships with are these kinds of woman.
example: my current hubby can curse his ex all that he wants, but the bottom line is that even after their breakup he still refers to her as someone he respects and someone to be reckoned with and one of the few women for whom he was willing to drop everything for and build something together! I'm not jealous of her as I know that whatever romantic feelings he had toward her is dead (though it helps that she's not around) but I found myself learning a lot about his needs in a relationship and men listening to him talk about her. Sometimes, the ex does provide valuable clues...

omg that is so true MC ! i really just thought my friend is the only guy on the planet that is so backwards!!!! I had no idea this is just how Aqua men act ! you guys have shed some serious light on these fools for me.

GIRL ! Starfish, tell it girl ! I told you that my x's x treated him like crap and his friends were like man if anybody can straighten him out its you ! I just wonder what in the world is it going to take for him to get it!!!!!! he is so stubborn and can be very cocky. But I have always felt that he feels inadquate inside, I told you he keeps tellng me that he is trying to find a balance. I feel like he is searching for something and what I believe it is is God ! he is catholic and I know he has a relationship with God but I found myself searching for something and that was what was missing. I just hope that he doesn't lose everything to have to realize it and I not just talking about me .

"I think though in certain situations certain ladies are placed in these men's lives to teach them show them real love, true love.."

-ABSOLUTELY!!! that is how i feel about my case...the question is: do they apreciate true love?

yeah, age probaably tells a lot for these guys...i think when they are still in their 20's, it is useless...they are not ready to grow up and commit. but i have a feeling that they start to mature more in to their 30's...just a thought!

Starfish, he is 34 about to be 35 in Feb on the 1st

MC, i don't think they do because they do not know how to deal with it! girl my friend is 34 and he so clueless. I think he knows that he should want me but I always think about the movie Closer when Julia and Jude mess up there relationships because they think they don't deserve to be loved that way and can't apperciate someone that truly adores them. Its like they do things to sabotage thier relationships

I have heard that when they are younger I guess in there 20s that they really don't want emotional attachments but when they get older they do,. But my friend seems like he is scared to death of any emotions. He has a real problem taking responsbility sometimes for his actions and how they affect people. LIKE A CHILD

Starfish, what sign are you ?

well its funny cause I have never had a guy affect me like this. i a sag and I usually like my space alot too. but when i am really into someone I tend to be different.

omg...35!!! ugh, i have a long way to go with my aqua then...he is only 27!!!

i am doomed 😢

and i am a cancer with absolutley no aqua, actually no air at all, in my chart...
i am double doomed!!! LOL...

MC, yeah girl its frustrating !cause I'm so ready to settle down . I will be 33 next month and I was really hoping that he was the one. I want him to be the one, but I know I can't make him see shit !!! he has to see it on his own. Where I live though there are so many women the ration is like 10 to 2 not kidding and these men have commitment issues. its just depressing.

MC, your not doomed. Just always remember to take care of you first !

ok girls, keeping my chin up and looking on the bright side 😉

i think a lot of problems arise in my relationship with my aqua b/c i can have a very negative outlook on things before they even happen and i put bad scenarios in my head all the time. he picks up on my negativity and then there is a bad vibe between us, b/c a lot of the time he will feed off of my moods...

i am not saying it is always my fault...but i am not saying i am an angel in all of this either ...

ok...i have a situation...here goes...

i found a stack of pics in my aqua's room the other morning but they were sitting on a shelf in plain sight, so i did not go sneaking around or anything. i looked through them, and at the very bottom of the stack are pics of him and i together, on top of those were pics of him and the girl he broke up with me for last time (one pic of her laying in his bed where i sleep every night), and on top of those were pics of him and his ex girlfriend and also pics of him and his family, etc.

i have been very disturbed by what i saw and i don't know if i should confornt him about how i feel. and i am starting to think he left them out on purpose b/c htey never used to be out in the open like that...so did he want me to find them and say something— i don't know, but i am bothered by it...should i be?

the ones of him and his ex girlfriends are old (from when they dated)...but they are usually put away, not out in the open.
and the ones of him and the girl he left me for are from over the summer, when they were dating and we were broken up...

so, you think i should not say anything to him? just hold my feelings in—

*ex girlfriend*... sorry

i would say to him the he shouldn't disrespect me by leaving pics of other girls around from his past, as i am now his girlfriend and it bothers me...

so, you two are saying he is probably testing me to see if i am snooping around...—

pluto...what do you think he will do, if he put the pics there on purpose— i don't quite understand... what type of behavior should i watch out for from him—

i mean, don't you think that is pretty messed up if he did put the pics of that girl there on purpose? why would he do that to me? to make me jealous...—

is his testing me kind of his way of sabotaging the relationship? or is it more of a way to just see what my reaction will be?

ladies you are so right. i know he sees other people. it's hard but you are right i have to stop being so available. today was a rough day for me. but how can i really expect things to move in another direction as long as i allow myself to be there all the time. it's tough but i keep reminding myself he is not the last man in the world. i hate to fail. and that's what i feel like. i feel foolish. it's funny how you can lose yourself sometimes. i want to thank everyone of you.