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Honesty is the best policy

Cant say i dont appreciate it. But u dont do that to the person u was calling baby 10 mins ago.

Were Aquarian, we could call a stranger baby, but it don't mean anything if our hearts not in it.

He probably kept it up to keep you calm, most people overreact when we leave em.

Not me though. And if 6 months of all that was with 0 feelings. Dont bother urself.Ill open the door for you to walk out. I wont stop u. I wont beg you. I will not disrespect you. Good bye n take care.

I am just curious.

What would be an acceptable break up scenario for you.

Or hownwould YOU break up with someone?

I would have done the same thing. But i would make sure i let them know that it was coming. I wouldnt invite u over for a movie and end up like this.. I would have told u i would like to see you for a chat that is important to me.

I know you are a Scorpio.

And it seems like you hanged up on him being 'nice' at breaking up point. And frigging movie...

Let's imagine...he broke a leg and inviting you for a coffee. You come and see his leg broken. He didn't tell you so you wouldn't go crazy extra 30min while driving because you will find out anyway but he spared you 30min of your nerves!

Or you are in vacation and your sister is calling you that your parent is sick. Like not life threatening sick. Wouldn't you prefer they keeping it to themselves and take care of parent and let you have your long awaited break at the beach—

To me it is all natural! Don't call me with bad news IF I can't do nothing about it!!!

You as a Scorpio saying - this is how YOU would do it.

He is not YOU - so he did it the way he did. Which isn't nasty or anything. He just didn't tell you 'come for movie and break up!'

And to me it would be a point in his favor.

Though he could dissapear and block you everywhere and then your post would look like 98% of posts here that come up daily.

U asked me how i would do it and i told u how i would do it. I didnt at no point say he should have done it that way.

Am not mad at him.. im just shocked by it as it wasnt what i was expecting.

I understand where u coming from. And i said above i cant say i don't appreciate what he did. It just took be by surprise.

He must care enough to have given me an explanation. N that 0 feels is maybe more about him loosing his father that his heart turned into ice.

Its all still fresh. I will let him take his time. Some people hold on to closest to find strenght. Some cant open up to the one closest to them and run lock themselves in a room nd let it all out and come out like nothing happened.

Im the type that runs in to the room not wanting to be around people. So i understand. If it isnt about me i know he will come back when the phase is over.

All good either way. Like i said my concious is clear.

Yeah...it's weird. However you look at it.

And it's good that you believe in positive outcome. Will you take him back?

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I never let people that i value go that easily. But i dont stay where im not wanted either. If he realizes that i should be involved in his life and comes back and i feel that hes truly sorry ill defo give him a hug.

But

If he is willing to move on to/with other things without me and shows me that he never really valued the times we shared, Then go ahead and be gone. U dont look for me n i dont look for you.

Best of luck.

Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?



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Posted by Capmercury87

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Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

Cant say i dont appreciate it. But u dont do that to the person u was calling baby 10 mins ago.

Were Aquarian, we could call a stranger baby, but it don't mean anything if our hearts not in it.

He probably kept it up to keep you calm, most people overreact when we leave em.

Not me though. And if 6 months of all that was with 0 feelings. Dont bother urself.Ill open the door for you to walk out. I wont stop u. I wont beg you. I will not disrespect you. Good bye n take care.

I am just curious.

What would be an acceptable break up scenario for you.

Or hownwould YOU break up with someone?

I would have done the same thing. But i would make sure i let them know that it was coming. I wouldnt invite u over for a movie and end up like this.. I would have told u i would like to see you for a chat that is important to me.

I know you are a Scorpio.

And it seems like you hanged up on him being 'nice' at breaking up point. And frigging movie...

Let's imagine...he broke a leg and inviting you for a coffee. You come and see his leg broken. He didn't tell you so you wouldn't go crazy extra 30min while driving because you will find out anyway but he spared you 30min of your nerves!

Or you are in vacation and your sister is calling you that your parent is sick. Like not life threatening sick. Wouldn't you prefer they keeping it to themselves and take care of parent and let you have your long awaited break at the beach—

To me it is all natural! Don't call me with bad news IF I can't do nothing about it!!!

You as a Scorpio saying - this is how YOU would do it.

He is not YOU - so he did it the way he did. Which isn't nasty or anything. He just didn't tell you 'come for movie and break up!'

And to me it would be a point in his favor.

Though he could dissapear and block you everywhere and then your post would look like 98% of posts here that come up daily.

U asked me how i would do it and i told u how i would do it. I didnt at no point say he should have done it that way.

Am not mad at him.. im just shocked by it as it wasnt what i was expecting.

I understand where u coming from. And i said above i cant say i don't appreciate what he did. It just took be by surprise.

He must care enough to have given me an explanation. N that 0 feels is maybe more about him loosing his father that his heart turned into ice.

Its all still fresh. I will let him take his time. Some people hold on to closest to find strenght. Some cant open up to the one closest to them and run lock themselves in a room nd let it all out and come out like nothing happened.

Im the type that runs in to the room not wanting to be around people. So i understand. If it isnt about me i know he will come back when the phase is over.

All good either way. Like i said my concious is clear.

Yeah...it's weird. However you look at it.

And it's good that you believe in positive outcome. Will you take him back?

I never let people that i value go that easily. But i dont stay where im not wanted either. If he realizes that i should be involved in his life and comes back and i feel that hes truly sorry ill defo give him a hug.

But

If he is willing to move on to/with other things without me and shows me that he never really valued the times we shared, Then go ahead and be gone. U dont look for me n i dont look for you.

Best of luck.

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I would honestly pay someone to find out why do men do this and it would make me happy to know!

Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?

No. Im posting for the first time about this one.

See i never needed to post during this 6 months. Cuz he never actually made me question anything..

He was attentive and caring. I still dont think the problem here is me or him being bored of the relationship. Time will tell.

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I just don't know how can aquarius peeps be so detached! It could be 3-4 year relationship and they leave you like it's nothing!

About 8 months ago, my aqua friend of 4 years left every single one of their friends!

I'm not talking about her saying goodbye then part ways, she left all of her friends (including me), changed her number, blocked them from all of her previous accounts and made new ones.

I was the closest person to her so that felt weird, we used to skype everyday for hours doing our chores, watching movies together, etc....

I had to ask her colleagues to know that she's alive and well.. I feel so sad sometimes she left us that way. She just disappeared like it doesn't matter.... ?

I decided to do that a couple of weeks ago.

Move on from my friends...i feel like they got stuck in a rut of things that don't take you anywhere. Sometimes I feel like I need to leave everyone behind and take off.

Only bring with me the people who are willing to step it up.

And so he did it to the person that was by his side thru all the good and bad.

This guy was in the army when i met him. His friends of 10 years werent there when i was encouraging him for the better days to come.

He cried on my shoulders when his father passed 2 months ago.

I got pregnant by him and he never ran. It was both our decision to have an abortion. And after all we were having fun hang out with friends goin to beach parties out for drinks for all u can think of. 6 months doesn't sound like a lot. But we had been thru it all.

I cant put my head around it. He had his freedom when he wanted it. No questions asked no nagging no trips.

Ive been cool. Its sad man. That was ice cold.

I had written a long response to this explaining the many reasons he decided to part ways but I deleted it by accident.

My thoughts on this is this,

I'm an Aquarius and our emotions don't unfold the same way as other people's, my voice will speak what my mind thinks rationally, even if im feeling another way but whatever my mind sees the best option is, that's what it will go with.

in terms of emotions sometimes I see as I get delayed feelings, later I'll be overthinking what I did, what I said and I will rationalize taking into account what my feelings are.

I see that his father's passing is probably what is affecting him the most right now. Whatever you did for him in sure he definitely appreciates that you were there and many times we need someone that will help us open our emotions and feelings when we can't and all the partying and going out took his mind away from things and getting into touch with his emotions.

He needs this time alone, he needs to think, feel, balance.

I advice you that he might come back, he might realize that he can have you as part of his life again but right now he needs his time alone.

That's if hes an aqua like me.

I also feel that may play a huge role to his mood being down and maybe he wants to close off n he didnt wanna do it without telling me.. He tried to stand so strong its eating at him. I know. It isnt easy.

If he wants to be alone he can be. Thats why i didnt say a word. I didnt react aggresively. Believe me i could have.. but I know it isnt me and i know it isnt the way the relationship was going that makes.him feel the way he does.

He maybe realisez or not. I have no hard feelings. Im sure the throwing the cup or blaming him and all that kind of tensional reaction wasnt what he was looking for when he told me this

He was looking for understanding. Sometimes its just brutal when it comes out of nowhrre. Thats why im shocked.. suprised.. but not mad. My concious is clear.

I hope he finds his peace. I will leave him to it.

C'mon, how could you not have hard feelings? I would.

He atleast cared enough to give me an explanation.. i cant be mad that. What kind of good is holding a grudge gonna give me?

Were not kids. So many assholes around that would have done it without a word.

Im only upset the way it come out was cold and it hit me unexpectedly.

Well I get that you're in shock so there's only so much I wanted to comment. It's just not the right time for thoughts or talk.

But getting mad is probably going to save way more time for you in terms of not holding a grudge. That's why I saying c'mon.

Plus sultrykitty and JAG might be onto something about how he's avoiding confronting his own feelings in his own life. Not that that should be your concern right now. But I'm just saying if you're shocked that you were dealing with someone who couldn't directly confront or process his own feelings, don't go and then be that very same person yourself. It'll cost you years.

Trust me you cannot bank on your good conscience to get you through something like this - it won't do shit for you. You have to take care of and confront your own feelings just to stay sane. Sorry that the rug got pulled out from under your feet like this.

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Thanks for the insight. Believe me when i say ill know how to handle the situation.

I would defo have things to think of myself as im left with hurt feelings and pride.

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Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?

No. Im posting for the first time about this one.

See i never needed to post during this 6 months. Cuz he never actually made me question anything..

He was attentive and caring. I still dont think the problem here is me or him being bored of the relationship. Time will tell.

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Hmm okay.

Posted by TemporaryKodak

Posted by seezythescorpion
Hi all. My Aqua bf of 6 months just left me out of nowhere.

We talked everyday and seen each other each chance we got. Went to holiday with friends and hang out alot.

It came to me as a surprise cuz this morning he called like he usually does and asked me if i had a good sleep if i had breakfast and all that. Then later in the afternoon he asked to go to his to watch a movie. I went there with a smile on my face he welcomed me and made us coffee and out of nowhere said good that u came i been wanting to talk to u and got into the subject of how he feels nothing for me and that he feels its not fair on me. I couldn't say a word.

I said ok. Im not upset so i left cooffee half full in the sink and took my bag thanked him for it and left.

He wanted me to sit n not go like that that we have mutual friends we gona see each other again. I said im afraid not. And walked away.

Im gutted. Dont know what happened. He didnt make me feel for 1 sec that i wasnt loved. I didnt expect this at all.

Wow...

Hey do you feel he did it the wrong way?

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Not the wrong way. What got to me was that he got me unexpectedly.

I drove to his with nothing like this on mind. And he never made me feel something was wrong so that was a bit shocking to have found out hes been feeling this way.

Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?



i mean



https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/message/?id=7749465

This post was made 6 month ago.

Hmmm

Posted by seezythescorpion

Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?

No. Im posting for the first time about this one.

See i never needed to post during this 6 months. Cuz he never actually made me question anything..

He was attentive and caring. I still dont think the problem here is me or him being bored of the relationship. Time will tell.

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Let me ask. That older post was made 6 months ago.

So you got over an old Virgo in a heartbeat and new one was a rebound?

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?



i mean



https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/message/?id=7749465

This post was made 6 month ago.

Hmmm

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Yea, shes been around for some time and made very similiar threads. Hence my question. But she says it's not the same guy.

As as Aqua i tend to remember the repeaters. 🙂

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?



i mean



https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/message/?id=7749465

This post was made 6 month ago.

Hmmm

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I had another aqua in my life before. That was nothing stable. When i met this one i moved away from the other. Told him not to bother me that i met someone new. Never spoken and seen that one again and been with this aqua ever since.

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by justagirl
Question..

is this the same aqua from 6 months ago and a year ago?



i mean



https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/message/?id=7749465

This post was made 6 month ago.

Hmmm

I had another aqua in my life before. That was nothing stable. When i met this one i moved away from the other. Told him not to bother me that i met someone new. Never spoken and seen that one again and been with this aqua ever since.

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And was there another one a year ago?

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Posted by seezythescorpion
Hi all. My Aqua bf of 6 months just left me out of nowhere.

We talked everyday and seen each other each chance we got. Went to holiday with friends and hang out alot.

It came to me as a surprise cuz this morning he called like he usually does and asked me if i had a good sleep if i had breakfast and all that. Then later in the afternoon he asked to go to his to watch a movie. I went there with a smile on my face he welcomed me and made us coffee and out of nowhere said good that u came i been wanting to talk to u and got into the subject of how he feels nothing for me and that he feels its not fair on me. I couldn't say a word.

I said ok. Im not upset so i left cooffee half full in the sink and took my bag thanked him for it and left.

He wanted me to sit n not go like that that we have mutual friends we gona see each other again. I said im afraid not. And walked away.

Im gutted. Dont know what happened. He didnt make me feel for 1 sec that i wasnt loved. I didnt expect this at all.

Wow...

Hey do you feel he did it the wrong way?

Not the wrong way. What got to me was that he got me unexpectedly.

I drove to his with nothing like this on mind. And he never made me feel something was wrong so that was a bit shocking to have found out hes been feeling this way.

Nah, how unexpectedly could it be?

I saw it coming a mile away....











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Not the same aqua. I met this one when the other was trubulent. That one had so many issues and we never had stable rship. I told that one to leave me alone when i met the aqua im talking about in this posts. And never seen n spoken to him again. I heard from friends he moved back to Australia.

Oh, thought it was the same one. Doesn't change any of my input, except to say that you really don't get to know an aqua for real in less than a couple of years.

Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

but what do you call honesty?

the sky is blue, the table is table, it was yesterday, a year ago, it will be a chair 2 years after...

but emotional truth? feelings truth? there is no honesty, because one day you may feel some way, 2 years later other way... so beeing honest with negative emotions aka "I dont feel anything" is just plain brutal or manipulative or..... its not honesty, honestly 🙂 it is just waiting for a reaction or ego-boosting, revenge...etc (under the cover of: I dont want to hurt you or something... can we talk about it? can we stay friends? etc., the usual bullshit)...

I mean, why would anybody willingly talk about, listen to how the other person doesnt want you? who is a masochist enough to sit throu some unnecessary confessions like this?

I mean, if you dont feel anything, just leave me alone, dont invite me, dont call me and I will get the hint eventually.... dont offend my pride and genuine feelings for you with: we need to talk about it, come for a dinner, can we stay friends? basically: can I talk to you about HOW I DONT LOVE YOU?

I dont think so 🙂

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Posted by justagirl
Aquas are trash.

They have no feelings, they are weak, they will use you and toss you away like snot filled tissue.

Good ridance I say.

OP, listen to this guy...



he said he's an Aquarius.

maybe it will help.

i found him last week!

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I did about 6 months ago. Really liked him!

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Posted by sultrykitty
Damn...I was wondering if you guys were still seeing each other. I hadn't seen you in a while.

Sorry to hear what happened. Have you gotten NO sense that he had lost feelings or what? Were you being so detached that you might have missed something?

What he did was pretty cold. Gotta hand it to Uranus (and Saturn) to cold cock you like that.

Im blown. He talked to me all day everyday. Called me everyday. We go out we have fun we talk about our day it was going smooth Sultrykitty. He never made me sense this chat was coming. Like i was going there to watch a movie.

I cant believe he came up with this.

I've been guilty of this... unfortunately... trying to be ok with everything and enjoying the moment... appreciating the person because I care for them but they somehow haven't made their way into my heart.

Chances are he has his eyes set on someone else and the relationships is progressing.... sorry OP

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I actually asked him that directly

And he assured me that its nothing like that. There is no 3rd party here. Its his inner peace. That hes somewhat in a phase that he feels hes going under depression. He asked me for advice on what we should do even. But it was obvious he needed sometime without me he then proressed to say that also.

I dont think any other person is involved.

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Damn...I was wondering if you guys were still seeing each other. I hadn't seen you in a while.

Sorry to hear what happened. Have you gotten NO sense that he had lost feelings or what? Were you being so detached that you might have missed something?

What he did was pretty cold. Gotta hand it to Uranus (and Saturn) to cold cock you like that.

Im blown. He talked to me all day everyday. Called me everyday. We go out we have fun we talk about our day it was going smooth Sultrykitty. He never made me sense this chat was coming. Like i was going there to watch a movie.

I cant believe he came up with this.

I've been guilty of this... unfortunately... trying to be ok with everything and enjoying the moment... appreciating the person because I care for them but they somehow haven't made their way into my heart.

Chances are he has his eyes set on someone else and the relationships is progressing.... sorry OP

I actually asked him that directly

And he assured me that its nothing like that. There is no 3rd party here. Its his inner peace. That hes somewhat in a phase that he feels hes going under depression. He asked me for advice on what we should do even. But it was obvious he needed sometime without me he then proressed to say that also.

I dont think any other person is involved.

Then he's probably in a self-reflection stage... analyzing and seeing the substance or quality ppl in his life... could be he's contemplating dropping people to start fresh.

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It is very likely. Time will tell.

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I got pregnant by him and he never ran. It was both our decision to have an abortion. .

Have you considered that this could have affected him more than he let on? Not in a moralistic way but on a more emotional level?

It may have. And it has its affects on me too. But it was both our responsibility and i believe we both handled it ok emotionally. None of us seen the other overly upset over it. Eventho i know it may have affected us more individually than we both let on..

Don't be fooled by that poker face... I went through something similar and it took me a while to come to terms with it and it would pop up in the worst unexpected times... so it could be a combinations knof things

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I know what ur saying. I can be like that. We all deal with things differently. If he chooses to handle it this way i cant do anything about it.

Posted by OrGasMe
I drop manipulative people and liars. I also drop people when I feel they are holding me back from my true potential. Always growing, changing, and reinventing.

Another reason I drop someone is when they attempt to control me or the relationship. There's always a reason that I drift away though... I'm not insinuating you did anything wrong. But the Aquas that I know care deeply about people even if they don't admit it. With that being said, use this time for self-reflection. As I'm sure that's what he's doing as well.

I'm sorry that he dropped you though.

We can be very similar in our ways with s couple of things that u mentioned. Thats why i try to be none of what u meantioned above.( liar, manupilative, boring etc) its not in my nature anyway.

Already self reflecting. Thanks a bunch for the input.

Hi, I actually joined this forum because of this topic. I could not read all the messages, but I actually had 2 Aqua boyfriends so I have a strong opinion. First they are the worst. As a half Aquarius myself (born on the cusp plus Venus, Mars in Aqua) I do not give a damn about their cold manipulative ways. I actually go out with Aquas when I want to have a rest after Sagittarius or Scorpio men that drive me crazy. Aquas do not, they cannot. Their aloofness, coldness and ridiculous ways of treating their partner as a friend is simply funny for me, a definite turnoff, but nothing that can bother me. But it will definitely hurt any water sign woman. The only advice I can give: ignore. And ignore even more. The only way to treat an Aquarius man is to ignore the hell out of him. And show that he is a bore, and that he is ordinary, he will do anything to prove the opposite. I actually have my second Aqua man chasing me around. Ha has been doing it for 2 years and would not give up. I treated him like shit in the past (I actually wanted to get rid of him, not make him suffer), but he would not go away. An Aqua can even become clingy when you ignore him. But you have to do it in a funny way. Not from a place where you are hurt or feeling betrayed. Having fun does not help. Aquas do not envy other people's funny life. They envy an intellectual and out of the box life.

I hope that helped, I am not a man whisperer at all, Scorpios are my worst nightmare, I have not got a clue around them. But Aquas and Geminis are not difficult for me. They should not be to anyone else. Sorry for my English, I am not a native speaker.

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Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

but what do you call honesty?

the sky is blue, the table is table, it was yesterday, a year ago, it will be a chair 2 years after...

but emotional truth? feelings truth? there is no honesty, because one day you may feel some way, 2 years later other way... so beeing honest with negative emotions aka "I dont feel anything" is just plain brutal or manipulative or..... its not honesty, honestly 🙂 it is just waiting for a reaction or ego-boosting, revenge...etc (under the cover of: I dont want to hurt you or something... can we talk about it? can we stay friends? etc., the usual bullshit)...

I mean, why would anybody willingly talk about, listen to how the other person doesnt want you? who is a masochist enough to sit throu some unnecessary confessions like this?

I mean, if you dont feel anything, just leave me alone, dont invite me, dont call me and I will get the hint eventually.... dont offend my pride and genuine feelings for you with: we need to talk about it, come for a dinner, can we stay friends? basically: can I talk to you about HOW I DONT LOVE YOU?

I dont think so 🙂

Because the idea of friendship will always be there, unless you can't handle stepping over your human feelings.

Also for you pussies out there that can't handle the truth, guess we should cushion you with a big fat lie that way you can go home and cry about how too many people are liars so you look like a good guy.

Sounds great!

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Capmercury, its not about "cannot handle the truth", I mean, if you dont want me, its okey, no need to tell, to elaborate, just leave me alone, thats it... dont invite me for some "talk", just drop me....I will deal with it (drop me with your actions not actual words) or maybe send me a text: its over and it will be over

I dont understand the reason why people have to break-up face to face.... its enough that somebody doesnt want you and then you supposed to listen to face-to-face for their reasons?

I dont need a closure 🙂

I trust everybody from the beginning, not transferring old bagagge onto new people, I trust them until they break my trust.... I will not stop trusting new people because somebody left me or I have a bad experience

So, bottom line: If you dont love me, okey. Good luck, I am gone. I never ask for closure, I never ask if you love me, I never ask what went wrong, so I dont really see the need to force on me your reasons for the break-up, because it serves only you, if you know what I mean 🙂

PS. the only time when talking about it is justified (in my opinion), if somebody is breaking up with you because you treated them badly or not respected them or somehow humiliated them.... because there you can ask for a second chance, or start to behave better if you want to maintain the relationship..... but if somebody is breaking up with you because they dont feel it, altou you behaved well, then I dont need to hear your reasons and talk about it 🙂

Where did you guys found your aquas. I'm not like this. 😛

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Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

but what do you call honesty?

the sky is blue, the table is table, it was yesterday, a year ago, it will be a chair 2 years after...

but emotional truth? feelings truth? there is no honesty, because one day you may feel some way, 2 years later other way... so beeing honest with negative emotions aka "I dont feel anything" is just plain brutal or manipulative or..... its not honesty, honestly 🙂 it is just waiting for a reaction or ego-boosting, revenge...etc (under the cover of: I dont want to hurt you or something... can we talk about it? can we stay friends? etc., the usual bullshit)...

I mean, why would anybody willingly talk about, listen to how the other person doesnt want you? who is a masochist enough to sit throu some unnecessary confessions like this?

I mean, if you dont feel anything, just leave me alone, dont invite me, dont call me and I will get the hint eventually.... dont offend my pride and genuine feelings for you with: we need to talk about it, come for a dinner, can we stay friends? basically: can I talk to you about HOW I DONT LOVE YOU?

I dont think so 🙂

Because the idea of friendship will always be there, unless you can't handle stepping over your human feelings.

Also for you pussies out there that can't handle the truth, guess we should cushion you with a big fat lie that way you can go home and cry about how too many people are liars so you look like a good guy.

Sounds great!

Capmercury, its not about "cannot handle the truth", I mean, if you dont want me, its okey, no need to tell, to elaborate, just leave me alone, thats it... dont invite me for some "talk", just drop me....I will deal with it (drop me with your actions not actual words) or maybe send me a text: its over and it will be over

I dont understand the reason why people have to break-up face to face.... its enough that somebody doesnt want you and then you supposed to listen to face-to-face for their reasons?

I dont need a closure 🙂

I trust everybody from the beginning, not transferring old bagagge onto new people, I trust them until they break my trust.... I will not stop trusting new people because somebody left me or I have a bad experience

So, bottom line: If you dont love me, okey. Good luck, I am gone. I never ask for closure, I never ask if you love me, I never ask what went wrong, so I dont really see the need to force on me your reasons for the break-up, because it serves only you, if you know what I mean 🙂

PS. the only time when talking about it is justified (in my opinion), if somebody is breaking up with you because you treated them badly or not respected them or somehow humiliated them.... because there you can ask for a second chance, or start to behave better if you want to maintain the relationship..... but if somebody is breaking up with you because they dont feel it, altou you behaved well, then I dont need to hear your reasons and talk about it 🙂

You hate confrontations, got it.

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Capmercury 🙂

I am not sure what you mean by hating confrontations.

If somebody is telling you they dont feel it, how would somebody who doesnt hate confrontations react to this statement?

ask them to elaborate, why they dont feel it? "please please tell me, why you dont love me?" or what? no way🙂

how you would react to this statement?

he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

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Where did you guys found your aquas. I'm not like this. 😛

No you just say it's ok to hit a woman right?

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

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i have an aqua moon so it shouldn't be from the ego. it's about finding out the real truth behind his words and give back 10x lol

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Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

but what do you call honesty?

the sky is blue, the table is table, it was yesterday, a year ago, it will be a chair 2 years after...

but emotional truth? feelings truth? there is no honesty, because one day you may feel some way, 2 years later other way... so beeing honest with negative emotions aka "I dont feel anything" is just plain brutal or manipulative or..... its not honesty, honestly 🙂 it is just waiting for a reaction or ego-boosting, revenge...etc (under the cover of: I dont want to hurt you or something... can we talk about it? can we stay friends? etc., the usual bullshit)...

I mean, why would anybody willingly talk about, listen to how the other person doesnt want you? who is a masochist enough to sit throu some unnecessary confessions like this?

I mean, if you dont feel anything, just leave me alone, dont invite me, dont call me and I will get the hint eventually.... dont offend my pride and genuine feelings for you with: we need to talk about it, come for a dinner, can we stay friends? basically: can I talk to you about HOW I DONT LOVE YOU?

I dont think so 🙂

Because the idea of friendship will always be there, unless you can't handle stepping over your human feelings.

Also for you pussies out there that can't handle the truth, guess we should cushion you with a big fat lie that way you can go home and cry about how too many people are liars so you look like a good guy.

Sounds great!

Capmercury, its not about "cannot handle the truth", I mean, if you dont want me, its okey, no need to tell, to elaborate, just leave me alone, thats it... dont invite me for some "talk", just drop me....I will deal with it (drop me with your actions not actual words) or maybe send me a text: its over and it will be over

I dont understand the reason why people have to break-up face to face.... its enough that somebody doesnt want you and then you supposed to listen to face-to-face for their reasons?

I dont need a closure 🙂

I trust everybody from the beginning, not transferring old bagagge onto new people, I trust them until they break my trust.... I will not stop trusting new people because somebody left me or I have a bad experience

So, bottom line: If you dont love me, okey. Good luck, I am gone. I never ask for closure, I never ask if you love me, I never ask what went wrong, so I dont really see the need to force on me your reasons for the break-up, because it serves only you, if you know what I mean 🙂

PS. the only time when talking about it is justified (in my opinion), if somebody is breaking up with you because you treated them badly or not respected them or somehow humiliated them.... because there you can ask for a second chance, or start to behave better if you want to maintain the relationship..... but if somebody is breaking up with you because they dont feel it, altou you behaved well, then I dont need to hear your reasons and talk about it 🙂

You hate confrontations, got it.

Capmercury 🙂

I am not sure what you mean by hating confrontations.

If somebody is telling you they dont feel it, how would somebody who doesnt hate confrontations react to this statement?

ask them to elaborate, why they dont feel it? "please please tell me, why you dont love me?" or what? no way🙂

how you would react to this statement?

A person who hates confrontation would say things like you said "I don't understand why people have to break up face to face"

Anything in this world should be discussed face to face to be as raw and human as possible, to run from the idea of confrontation signifies some sort of internal problem (or planet placement) that can't handle not getting ones way, or even just understanding another human beings thoughts or emotions with out making it personal..

I would simply say, thanks for your honesty. I can choose to respect that persons feelings because I have a full understanding that I have no control over the persons emotions and two, I understand that I don't always get what I want and it is not my part to throw anger, resentment and other choice made emotions at that person because I did not get my way.

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Capmercury, I think we dont talk about the same thing🙂

anger? resentment? hm? I dont think I or the OP expressed any of those feelings

yes, maybe I am self-absorbed, so if somebody tells me they dont want me, I just vanish

but if I would raise above my emotions, I would stay and ask questions: how do you feel, honey? it must be terrible for you to not feel anything

(I mean, I can see that I would do this, but it would be a manipulation 🙂 🙂 ) I mean, I am there for people, for friends, for boyfriends whenever they want or need emotional support.... so if I support somebody consistently, I dont feel I am petty to walk away if they are breaking up with me 🙂 I just froze.... no anger, no resentment, I am just tired

so... each to is own 🙂 everybody is different and nobody has a perfect reaction to this

(or everybody thinks their reaction is the best way) yeah.... people are different

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

i have an aqua moon so it shouldn't be from the ego. it's about finding out the real truth behind his words and give back 10x lol

ahh isn't that vengeful? hence not a good thing?

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well i'm no gandhi obviously lol

some emotionally selfish people would try everything they can to avoid drama while completely disregard others feelings in the process. don't you think it's cruel and inconsiderate to tell anyone that you have been seeing for months that you feel NOTHING? why is it necessary??

i think he needs to learn a lesson. an emotional tsunami is good for this type once a while lol

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Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

but what do you call honesty?

the sky is blue, the table is table, it was yesterday, a year ago, it will be a chair 2 years after...

but emotional truth? feelings truth? there is no honesty, because one day you may feel some way, 2 years later other way... so beeing honest with negative emotions aka "I dont feel anything" is just plain brutal or manipulative or..... its not honesty, honestly 🙂 it is just waiting for a reaction or ego-boosting, revenge...etc (under the cover of: I dont want to hurt you or something... can we talk about it? can we stay friends? etc., the usual bullshit)...

I mean, why would anybody willingly talk about, listen to how the other person doesnt want you? who is a masochist enough to sit throu some unnecessary confessions like this?

I mean, if you dont feel anything, just leave me alone, dont invite me, dont call me and I will get the hint eventually.... dont offend my pride and genuine feelings for you with: we need to talk about it, come for a dinner, can we stay friends? basically: can I talk to you about HOW I DONT LOVE YOU?

I dont think so 🙂

Because the idea of friendship will always be there, unless you can't handle stepping over your human feelings.

Also for you pussies out there that can't handle the truth, guess we should cushion you with a big fat lie that way you can go home and cry about how too many people are liars so you look like a good guy.

Sounds great!

Capmercury, its not about "cannot handle the truth", I mean, if you dont want me, its okey, no need to tell, to elaborate, just leave me alone, thats it... dont invite me for some "talk", just drop me....I will deal with it (drop me with your actions not actual words) or maybe send me a text: its over and it will be over

I dont understand the reason why people have to break-up face to face.... its enough that somebody doesnt want you and then you supposed to listen to face-to-face for their reasons?

I dont need a closure 🙂

I trust everybody from the beginning, not transferring old bagagge onto new people, I trust them until they break my trust.... I will not stop trusting new people because somebody left me or I have a bad experience

So, bottom line: If you dont love me, okey. Good luck, I am gone. I never ask for closure, I never ask if you love me, I never ask what went wrong, so I dont really see the need to force on me your reasons for the break-up, because it serves only you, if you know what I mean 🙂

PS. the only time when talking about it is justified (in my opinion), if somebody is breaking up with you because you treated them badly or not respected them or somehow humiliated them.... because there you can ask for a second chance, or start to behave better if you want to maintain the relationship..... but if somebody is breaking up with you because they dont feel it, altou you behaved well, then I dont need to hear your reasons and talk about it 🙂

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Yes. Thank you. Thats alot like me.

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

Im alright. I gave him enough with my silence and respect. I am not gona beg anyone to want me in their lives. Ive done nothing wrong. If U let me go that easily, i know im better off.

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Posted by Capmercury87
Honesty is the best policy

but what do you call honesty?

the sky is blue, the table is table, it was yesterday, a year ago, it will be a chair 2 years after...

but emotional truth? feelings truth? there is no honesty, because one day you may feel some way, 2 years later other way... so beeing honest with negative emotions aka "I dont feel anything" is just plain brutal or manipulative or..... its not honesty, honestly 🙂 it is just waiting for a reaction or ego-boosting, revenge...etc (under the cover of: I dont want to hurt you or something... can we talk about it? can we stay friends? etc., the usual bullshit)...

I mean, why would anybody willingly talk about, listen to how the other person doesnt want you? who is a masochist enough to sit throu some unnecessary confessions like this?

I mean, if you dont feel anything, just leave me alone, dont invite me, dont call me and I will get the hint eventually.... dont offend my pride and genuine feelings for you with: we need to talk about it, come for a dinner, can we stay friends? basically: can I talk to you about HOW I DONT LOVE YOU?

I dont think so 🙂

Because the idea of friendship will always be there, unless you can't handle stepping over your human feelings.

Also for you pussies out there that can't handle the truth, guess we should cushion you with a big fat lie that way you can go home and cry about how too many people are liars so you look like a good guy.

Sounds great!

Capmercury, its not about "cannot handle the truth", I mean, if you dont want me, its okey, no need to tell, to elaborate, just leave me alone, thats it... dont invite me for some "talk", just drop me....I will deal with it (drop me with your actions not actual words) or maybe send me a text: its over and it will be over

I dont understand the reason why people have to break-up face to face.... its enough that somebody doesnt want you and then you supposed to listen to face-to-face for their reasons?

I dont need a closure 🙂

I trust everybody from the beginning, not transferring old bagagge onto new people, I trust them until they break my trust.... I will not stop trusting new people because somebody left me or I have a bad experience

So, bottom line: If you dont love me, okey. Good luck, I am gone. I never ask for closure, I never ask if you love me, I never ask what went wrong, so I dont really see the need to force on me your reasons for the break-up, because it serves only you, if you know what I mean 🙂

PS. the only time when talking about it is justified (in my opinion), if somebody is breaking up with you because you treated them badly or not respected them or somehow humiliated them.... because there you can ask for a second chance, or start to behave better if you want to maintain the relationship..... but if somebody is breaking up with you because they dont feel it, altou you behaved well, then I dont need to hear your reasons and talk about it 🙂

You hate confrontations, got it.

Capmercury 🙂

I am not sure what you mean by hating confrontations.

If somebody is telling you they dont feel it, how would somebody who doesnt hate confrontations react to this statement?

ask them to elaborate, why they dont feel it? "please please tell me, why you dont love me?" or what? no way🙂

how you would react to this statement?

A person who hates confrontation would say things like you said "I don't understand why people have to break up face to face"

Anything in this world should be discussed face to face to be as raw and human as possible, to run from the idea of confrontation signifies some sort of internal problem (or planet placement) that can't handle not getting ones way, or even just understanding another human beings thoughts or emotions with out making it personal..

I would simply say, thanks for your honesty. I can choose to respect that persons feelings because I have a full understanding that I have no control over the persons emotions and two, I understand that I don't always get what I want and it is not my part to throw anger, resentment and other choice made emotions at that person because I did not get my way.

Capmercury, I think we dont talk about the same thing🙂

anger? resentment? hm? I dont think I or the OP expressed any of those feelings

yes, maybe I am self-absorbed, so if somebody tells me they dont want me, I just vanish

but if I would raise above my emotions, I would stay and ask questions: how do you feel, honey? it must be terrible for you to not feel anything

(I mean, I can see that I would do this, but it would be a manipulation 🙂 🙂 ) I mean, I am there for people, for friends, for boyfriends whenever they want or need emotional support.... so if I support somebody consistently, I dont feel I am petty to walk away if they are breaking up with me 🙂 I just froze.... no anger, no resentment, I am just tired

so... each to is own 🙂 everybody is different and nobody has a perfect reaction to this

(or everybody thinks their reaction is the best way) yeah.... people are different

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It really feels like its me talking

But i cant put it in words like you do . I feel exactly like that.

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

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He actually said that he was supposed to be feeling ok after he told me but that he feels sad.

When was the last time you all had sex?

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

i have an aqua moon so it shouldn't be from the ego. it's about finding out the real truth behind his words and give back 10x lol

ahh isn't that vengeful? hence not a good thing?

well i'm no gandhi obviously lol

some emotionally selfish people would try everything they can to avoid drama while completely disregard others feelings in the process. don't you think it's cruel and inconsiderate to tell anyone that you have been seeing for months that you feel NOTHING? why is it necessary??

i think he needs to learn a lesson. an emotional tsunami is good for this type once a while lol

Nothing = no desire, passion.

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U wouldnt believe what u were saying if u saw us together.. i wouldnt be so shocked if it was anything like u said.. No passion.?No desire.? Hell no.

Impossible🙂

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When was the last time you all had sex?

It was on Sunday. We went to holiday bunglows with another couple of close mutual friends.

Went early Saturday..got our rooms. sex pool beers laughs food all great. Sunday we checked out at 12 and went to another pool. Then on monday it was a busy day at work and to also have a break we both chilled seperatly resting.. tuesday We met for a coffee again to a cafe with few good friends. i got my period on Tuesday so we didnt have sex till then.

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When was the last time you all had sex?

It was on Sunday. We went to holiday bunglows with another couple of close mutual friends.

Went early Saturday..got our rooms. sex pool beers laughs food all great. Sunday we checked out at 12 and went to another pool. Then on monday it was a busy day at work and to also have a break we both chilled seperatly resting.. tuesday We met for a coffee again to a cafe with few good friends. i got my period on Tuesday so we didnt have sex till then.

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It's weird that everything has been peachy and then this breakup comes out of the blue. Makes me think he met someone else...

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

He actually said that he was supposed to be feeling ok after he told me but that he feels sad.

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that's one reason i think he needs some drama to be able to feel lol. a lot of men would say they don't want drama yada yada yada but the reality is that if you are too easy going and demands nothing as a woman, you don't awake the hidden passion they themselves don't even know exist lol. not telling you to become a drama queen that's also undesirable

anyway, this one is done. he is inconsiderate so no loss there. a considerate person would be very careful of the words they choose when they are breaking up with someone to minimize heartache

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When was the last time you all had sex?

It was on Sunday. We went to holiday bunglows with another couple of close mutual friends.

Went early Saturday..got our rooms. sex pool beers laughs food all great. Sunday we checked out at 12 and went to another pool. Then on monday it was a busy day at work and to also have a break we both chilled seperatly resting.. tuesday We met for a coffee again to a cafe with few good friends. i got my period on Tuesday so we didnt have sex till then.

It's weird that everything has been peachy and then this breakup comes out of the blue. Makes me think he met someone else...

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I highly doubt that. Yes that why its just blown me that he came up with this. So unexpected. God knows. But i think hes just shut down. I honestly dont think/feel it in my gut that he can be so heartless. He wouldn't do that to me. Ive seen the type who would. Not him.

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When was the last time you all had sex?

It was on Sunday. We went to holiday bunglows with another couple of close mutual friends.

Went early Saturday..got our rooms. sex pool beers laughs food all great. Sunday we checked out at 12 and went to another pool. Then on monday it was a busy day at work and to also have a break we both chilled seperatly resting.. tuesday We met for a coffee again to a cafe with few good friends. i got my period on Tuesday so we didnt have sex till then.

It's weird that everything has been peachy and then this breakup comes out of the blue. Makes me think he met someone else...

I highly doubt that. Yes that why its just blown me that he came up with this. So unexpected. God knows. But i think hes just shut down. I honestly dont think/feel it in my gut that he can be so heartless. He wouldn't do that to me. Ive seen the type who would. Not him.

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It's the only thing that makes sense. He's doing the right thing by breaking things off with you before getting involved with her. Maybe.

Idk that would be my guess.

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

He actually said that he was supposed to be feeling ok after he told me but that he feels sad.

that's one reason i think he needs some drama to be able to feel lol. a lot of men would say they don't want drama yada yada yada but the reality is that if you are too easy going and demands nothing as a woman, you don't awake the hidden passion they themselves don't even know exist lol. not telling you to become a drama queen that's also undesirable

anyway, this one is done. he is inconsiderate so no loss there. a considerate person would be very careful of the words they choose when they are breaking up with someone to minimize heartache

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He did tell me that he wasnt sure if hes picking the right words. But the way it came out. That was a hit.

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When was the last time you all had sex?

It was on Sunday. We went to holiday bunglows with another couple of close mutual friends.

Went early Saturday..got our rooms. sex pool beers laughs food all great. Sunday we checked out at 12 and went to another pool. Then on monday it was a busy day at work and to also have a break we both chilled seperatly resting.. tuesday We met for a coffee again to a cafe with few good friends. i got my period on Tuesday so we didnt have sex till then.

It's weird that everything has been peachy and then this breakup comes out of the blue. Makes me think he met someone else...

I highly doubt that. Yes that why its just blown me that he came up with this. So unexpected. God knows. But i think hes just shut down. I honestly dont think/feel it in my gut that he can be so heartless. He wouldn't do that to me. Ive seen the type who would. Not him.

It's the only thing that makes sense. He's doing the right thing by breaking things off with you before getting involved with her. Maybe.

Idk that would be my guess.

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I hope that is not it cause thats just doesnt make sense to me at all. I know what we were like. It makes 0 sense..

I agree with Virtue, who wrote: "I do think it is cruel and inconsiderate to tell someone you have been seeing for months that you feel nothing. But, in this case, I don't think he really means that."

It is somehow strange he would do this... Aqua sun, cancer moon... it just doesnt equal this unnecessary inconsiderate cruelty.... I am aqua sun and cancer moon... (but it can be different for man, how cancer moon would react, generally this pairing (aqua sun = most detached, cancer moon = most attached) is not the best combination to have for a romantic life

Cancer moon can be very very sensitive, so try to think: did you do anything unintentionally, what would warrant such a brutal action from him? is he sure about your feelings?

(My brother is aqua sun cancer moon as well....when he started to go out with his now fiance, I remember his late-night calls to me, something like:

My brother: (after some chit-chat, small talk, suddenly): I think I am going to break up with erica

Me: why? did she have a look at some man from 10 feets afar?

Him: not only a look, but she smiled at him!

(My brother is not insane and nobody would ever guess he feels like this, he is a total poker face and only confides in me, regarding feelings = our aqua suns are ashamed to feel such low emotions, so its a night-time rare confession) but I knew instantly, what was his problem...

so, can he be jelaous? it would explain the abruptness

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I agree with Virtue, who wrote: "I do think it is cruel and inconsiderate to tell someone you have been seeing for months that you feel nothing. But, in this case, I don't think he really means that."

It is somehow strange he would do this... Aqua sun, cancer moon... it just doesnt equal this unnecessary inconsiderate cruelty.... I am aqua sun and cancer moon... (but it can be different for man, how cancer moon would react, generally this pairing (aqua sun = most detached, cancer moon = most attached) is not the best combination to have for a romantic life

Cancer moon can be very very sensitive, so try to think: did you do anything unintentionally, what would warrant such a brutal action from him? is he sure about your feelings?

(My brother is aqua sun cancer moon as well....when he started to go out with his now fiance, I remember his late-night calls to me, something like:

My brother: (after some chit-chat, small talk, suddenly): I think I am going to break up with erica

Me: why? did she have a look at some man from 10 feets afar?

Him: not only a look, but she smiled at him!

(My brother is not insane and nobody would ever guess he feels like this, he is a total poker face and only confides in me, regarding feelings = our aqua suns are ashamed to feel such low emotions, so its a night-time rare confession) but I knew instantly, what was his problem...

so, can he be jelaous? it would explain the abruptness

I havent really seen his jealous side. i also never intentionally provoked his jealousy.

Im a friendly person. But i defo know the difference between friendly and flirty. So i don't know really. Tho im sure my actions were always very clear that he was truly cared for and loved deeply..

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he told you he felt nothing? i'd give him the hell of his life right there so he could feel something. and no. please don't be a friend lol

i don't understand why we have to approach everything from the ego. maybe the person that hurt you is hurting too and just doesn't know how to communicate that.

i have an aqua moon so it shouldn't be from the ego. it's about finding out the real truth behind his words and give back 10x lol

ahh isn't that vengeful? hence not a good thing?

well i'm no gandhi obviously lol

some emotionally selfish people would try everything they can to avoid drama while completely disregard others feelings in the process. don't you think it's cruel and inconsiderate to tell anyone that you have been seeing for months that you feel NOTHING? why is it necessary??

i think he needs to learn a lesson. an emotional tsunami is good for this type once a while lol

I do think it is cruel and inconsiderate to tell someone you have been seeing for months that you feel nothing. But, in this case, I don't think he really means that. I think he's confused. I think that with the emotional trauma of everything that has happened to him - he's shut down. I've heard that Aquas feel everything intensely, so maybe this was his way of exiting the situation to get a better understanding of what hide was feeling inside. Are you an aquarius? I'm thinking maybe he experienced an emotional tsunami already...

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i'd agree to disagree. in my book, it was inconsiderate and cruel. how hard is it to let the person you have been intimate with down easy?? especially when the person has been nice and sweet

and if he is not an inconsiderate person like the op believes, then he may be doing this for a reason that an emotional confrontation may uncover the truth lol

anyway, enough with this. i'd say just drop it like he never existed. why care so much about someone who doesn't care

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I agree with Virtue, who wrote: "I do think it is cruel and inconsiderate to tell someone you have been seeing for months that you feel nothing. But, in this case, I don't think he really means that."

It is somehow strange he would do this... Aqua sun, cancer moon... it just doesnt equal this unnecessary inconsiderate cruelty.... I am aqua sun and cancer moon... (but it can be different for man, how cancer moon would react, generally this pairing (aqua sun = most detached, cancer moon = most attached) is not the best combination to have for a romantic life

Cancer moon can be very very sensitive, so try to think: did you do anything unintentionally, what would warrant such a brutal action from him? is he sure about your feelings?

(My brother is aqua sun cancer moon as well....when he started to go out with his now fiance, I remember his late-night calls to me, something like:

My brother: (after some chit-chat, small talk, suddenly): I think I am going to break up with erica

Me: why? did she have a look at some man from 10 feets afar?

Him: not only a look, but she smiled at him!

(My brother is not insane and nobody would ever guess he feels like this, he is a total poker face and only confides in me, regarding feelings = our aqua suns are ashamed to feel such low emotions, so its a night-time rare confession) but I knew instantly, what was his problem...

so, can he be jelaous? it would explain the abruptness

I havent really seen his jealous side. i also never intentionally provoked his jealousy.

Im a friendly person. But i defo know the difference between friendly and flirty. So i don't know really. Tho im sure my actions were always very clear that he was truly cared for and loved deeply..

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I see... I have only a few personal experience with aqua sun-cancer moon, but a cancer moon is not a rational placement, deep emotions like an ocean, very very sensitive and paired with aqua sun it never shows, what affected them really... so the inner conflict can be very consuming and they (we) hide it really well.... you may think everything is fine, but there is something eating away in them and then suddenly (it can be after 5 months, after 5 years) it "explodes"

maybe he didnt really get over the abortion thing? (even if it was a mutual decision, or even if it had been him to suggest it)

what are his other placements? venus, mars, mercury?

And what are yours?

Posted by exo
sorry about what happened, seezy.

Its gon be fine, Exo. Appreciate it.

Do u all think i did the right thing by not telling him that what he did was f'd up and instead walked away with pride.

I dont know. I didnt see it coming. I wasnt prepared. I didnt know what to do i was kinda frozen. All i knew was that i wasnt gonna let him see the tears in my eyes. It was like a reflex. I wanted to escape cuz i didnt wanna break down in front of him.

I could have said a million things to make him feel something. But i just couldnt open my mouth cuz i just couldnt..

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Posted by seezythescorpion
Do u all think i did the right thing by not telling him that what he did was f'd up and instead walked away with pride.

I dont know. I didnt see it coming. I wasnt prepared. I didnt know what to do i was kinda frozen. All i knew was that i wasnt gonna let him see the tears in my eyes. It was like a reflex. I wanted to escape cuz i didnt wanna break down in front of him.

I could have said a million things to make him feel something. But i just couldnt open my mouth cuz i just couldnt..

I do.

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I do.

Posted by LadyNeptune
When was the last time you all had sex?

You make it sounds like an orgy...