The way to an aqua's heart....

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......and not be yourself?
I'm already like that it is exactly who i am! Aquarius magnet. Shit tons of aqua in my chart.
Oh right, I thought you were giving advice to others to be that way 🙂



Naw it was more like an aha moment! It all clicked..

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It's all good if you are cool with the detachment. I am more of a consuming and warm type, that standing back stuff would drive me mad....
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......and not be yourself?
I'm already like that it is exactly who i am! Aquarius magnet. Shit tons of aqua in my chart.
Oh right, I thought you were giving advice to others to be that way 🙂



Naw it was more like an aha moment! It all clicked..




It's all good if you are cool with the detachment. I am more of a consuming and warm type, that standing back stuff would drive me mad....

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Its weird being a Pisces sun aqua moon cuz even though i feel things deeply i often forget to show it to anyone.. I was a lot worse when i was younger.. But man i can keep a poker face forever I'm sure it can be infuriating at times.
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A perfect similarity will never work, because two aloof people will forget to get emotionally and even physically close to each other.

That's why Aquarius-Aquarius pairs are not the number one choice in astrology in terms of compatiblity. The other two air signs are to be preferred because they understand the aloofness and need of personal space better than other signs and share similar traits in matters of thinking, intelligence, analysis, spontaneity and originality. Anyway, the most difficult period is before commitment, because it requires lots of patience from the partner. Some Aquas become extremely clingy to their partners afterwards and could suffocate them if the other person does not feel the same way. Syncronization is the key and Aquas, especially the ones that were previously hurt, are very slow to commit. But when they finally do it, they become different persons. If the partner does not have both capabilities, to understand the initial detachment and lack of decision from the first stage, and then to be able to respond in the same manner to the tremendous amount of love Aquas can release, the relationship is doomed. These capabilities have to be genuine and not fake, because they backfire quickly and the Aqua will vanish without warning and without looking behind.
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A perfect similarity will never work, because two aloof people will forget to get emotionally and even physically close to each other.

That's why Aquarius-Aquarius pairs are not the number one choice in astrology in terms of compatiblity. ...

I agree with this.

Also Sag and Aqua don't stay together for an enduring relationship. They just have attraction and platonic friendship. And both signs would fall into Cancer's trap.

All aloofness, detachment, independence and busyness aside: people looks for closeness. Either because they know it from the childhood. Or because the hunt the shadow of "set life goals".
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I attracted my ex by just being myself.

I didn't do the whole aloof distance thing. I was just me, happy bubbly positive and funny.

Whatever you do just don't be fake. Irrespective of star signs being fake is just starting off based on a lie. Be yourself!!
You have to be yourself because eventually the real you will always emerge anyway
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......and not be yourself?
I'm already like that it is exactly who i am! Aquarius magnet. Shit tons of aqua in my chart.
Oh right, I thought you were giving advice to others to be that way 🙂



Naw it was more like an aha moment! It all clicked..




It's all good if you are cool with the detachment. I am more of a consuming and warm type, that standing back stuff would drive me mad....

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No, Don't get it wrong. we love warm type of people, loving, passionate but real. not the type who do things that they do with every girl a d it just seems like a game.

The detached part comes when we are away, don't be clingy to call or text every 5 min asking what we are doing, where we are and why and with who ...we hate that to the MAX!!!!

if an aqua is with you is because they really like you. Be yourself is the best way to attract and aqua.
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A perfect similarity will never work, because two aloof people will forget to get emotionally and even physically close to each other.

That's why Aquarius-Aquarius pairs are not the number one choice in astrology in terms of compatiblity. The other two air signs are to be preferred because they understand the aloofness and need of personal space better than other signs and share similar traits in matters of thinking, intelligence, analysis, spontaneity and originality. Anyway, the most difficult period is before commitment, because it requires lots of patience from the partner. Some Aquas become extremely clingy to their partners afterwards and could suffocate them if the other person does not feel the same way. Syncronization is the key and Aquas, especially the ones that were previously hurt, are very slow to commit. But when they finally do it, they become different persons. If the partner does not have both capabilities, to understand the initial detachment and lack of decision from the first stage, and then to be able to respond in the same manner to the tremendous amount of love Aquas can release, the relationship is doomed. These capabilities have to be genuine and not fake, because they backfire quickly and the Aqua will vanish without warning and without looking behind.
Yes yes i feel so much of this... I have enough water in my chart to make it interesting.
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I attracted my ex by just being myself.

I didn't do the whole aloof distance thing. I was just me, happy bubbly positive and funny.

Whatever you do just don't be fake. Irrespective of star signs being fake is just starting off based on a lie. Be yourself!!
Yes. Being happy is always important.. It's the people that are always worried and wondering what the status of the relationship instead of being happy with life that have a harder time.
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I'm the exact opposite of my Aqua in a lot of ways. I'm very demonstrative, expressive, passionate and physically affectionate.

I "lead" for lack of a better word and he follows suit usually. Unless I tell him what to do then he absolutely will not just for the sake of being stubborn ?

I think Aquas will somewhat adopt the behaviors of their lovers. I know they're fixed but they mirror in their own way. If they're loved well, they will love well in return.
True, one thing is showing love, affection, passion another is being insecure, clingy and annoying!

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I'm the exact opposite of my Aqua in a lot of ways. I'm very demonstrative, expressive, passionate and physically affectionate.

I "lead" for lack of a better word and he follows suit usually. Unless I tell him what to do then he absolutely will not just for the sake of being stubborn ?

I think Aquas will somewhat adopt the behaviors of their lovers. I know they're fixed but they mirror in their own way. If they're loved well, they will love well in return.

Agreed! Yea don't be demanding.. They hate that.. So do i
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I'm the exact opposite of my Aqua in a lot of ways. I'm very demonstrative, expressive, passionate and physically affectionate.

I "lead" for lack of a better word and he follows suit usually. Unless I tell him what to do then he absolutely will not just for the sake of being stubborn ?

I think Aquas will somewhat adopt the behaviors of their lovers. I know they're fixed but they mirror in their own way. If they're loved well, they will love well in return.
I'm drawn to passionate and affectionate people. Also I need reassurances and like to talk things through if they're important to me or fucking me up.


That talking things through...is that your libra moon ? My moon does that.


I'm not sure but it's possible. Constantly weighing stuff out just to be sure about my stance even. But usually once im sure im all in. On a semi side note, ive found Aries to be very patient. 🙂

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I hear that. I noticed hes more insecure than he lets on.. It comes out in little ways and when i see it i reassure him immediately so he doesn't get scared. They come off cool and collected but there's so much beneath the surface.
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I'm the exact opposite of my Aqua in a lot of ways. I'm very demonstrative, expressive, passionate and physically affectionate.

I "lead" for lack of a better word and he follows suit usually. Unless I tell him what to do then he absolutely will not just for the sake of being stubborn ?

I think Aquas will somewhat adopt the behaviors of their lovers. I know they're fixed but they mirror in their own way. If they're loved well, they will love well in return.
I'm drawn to passionate and affectionate people. Also I need reassurances and like to talk things through if they're important to me or fucking me up.

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nod me too.
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I think this actually has a lot to deal with your Pisces moon. Pisces seem to enjoy a partner that is almost an identical copy of themselves.

As an Aqua with an Aries moon, I would say that I *DO* love the mysterious aloofness in my love interest, but only enough to make the chase FUN, and so it doesn't end up knocking the air out of me...

I want someone who is outspoken in expressing themselves to me truthfully.

I dated a Gemini sun/Scorpio moon and he tried liking everything I did... it was charming at first, but ultimately I didn't want to date someone that was so quick to throwing what they love away so they could appease me. :/
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I think this actually has a lot to deal with your Pisces moon. Pisces seem to enjoy a partner that is almost an identical copy of themselves.

As an Aqua with an Aries moon, I would say that I *DO* love the mysterious aloofness in my love interest, but only enough to make the chase FUN, and so it doesn't end up knocking the air out of me...

I want someone who is outspoken in expressing themselves to me truthfully.

I dated a Gemini sun/Scorpio moon and he tried liking everything I did... it was charming at first, but ultimately I didn't want to date someone that was so quick to throwing what they love away so they could appease me. :/

Ew yea i dont like people who try to please too much. I love being chased.. I give em just enough... I'm a pisces sun aqua moon. He's super mooshy but tries to hide it..
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oh side note.. Aquas don't have a heart.. soooo good luck



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They do... It's just wrapped up in layer after layer of armor.
Yeah I was being silly. I'm an Aqua myself 🙂

Wouldn't you say it's kinda true though?
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What? That we have no hearts? That we get to the point that we feel nothing? It may be wrapped Iayers... But that it is to protect ourselves. Sadly, many will abuse the good nature of the kindhearted Aquas.. Hell the kind hearted people in general.
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I disagree with this thread,

Just be yourself and come with genuine intentions, I can see right through bs. I've dropped many men because of this.
If you read the thread you'd see that was also mentioned, why i wrote it is cuz that is exactly who i am, so i magically attract aquas.. I just never really looked that far into before. There is nothing i hate more than a phony person.
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oh side note.. Aquas don't have a heart.. soooo good luck



😆
They do... It's just wrapped up in layer after layer of armor.
Yeah I was being silly. I'm an Aqua myself 🙂

Wouldn't you say it's kinda true though?
What? That we have no hearts? That we get to the point that we feel nothing? It may be wrapped Iayers... But that it is to protect ourselves. Sadly, many will abuse the good nature of the kindhearted Aquas.. Hell the kind hearted people in general.
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Took the words outta my mouth! And yes sadly the kind are often exploited. Makes us stronger i guess..
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I disagree with this thread,

Just be yourself and come with genuine intentions, I can see right through bs. I've dropped many men because of this.
If you read the thread you'd see that was also mentioned, why i wrote it is cuz that is exactly who i am, so i magically attract aquas.. I just never really looked that far into before. There is nothing i hate more than a phony person.
I am an Aquarius. This whole thread is try hard.
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I have no fucking clue what yr talking about dude.. For reals.
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I'll tell you like this, if i like you and you know it, ignoring will get you only so far......if you overdo it, it leads to triggering defense mechanisms, brain coming in the thought flow dominated only by heart and gut feelings up to that point.

Brain will say very logical things, "she doesn't like me, she wouldn't ignore me if she did, right?"......after that the next stage is out of sight out of mind and shortly after, death of whatever there was if no further input from your side is given.

See where ignore got you.

Aloof is a commodity with a very short life span when it comes to listing qualities aquas seek in their loved ones and once you've been told of the feels about you, being aloof, too mysterious, giving of hints of not being serious will get you in trouble.

Everything in moderation my friend.. This is in the beginning.... Once you feel more comfortable then you can lay your heart on the line.... But i always keep ppl at arms length til im damn sure they are worthy of my affection. I always wait for them to say the 3magic words though.. I will NEVER say that first.. Only leads to disaster.... Like i said, any insecurity i hear or see in him is immediately reassured cuz i care about the dude! 🙂
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I'll tell you like this, if i like you and you know it, ignoring will get you only so far......if you overdo it, it leads to triggering defense mechanisms, brain coming in the thought flow dominated only by heart and gut feelings up to that point.

Brain will say very logical things, "she doesn't like me, she wouldn't ignore me if she did, right?"......after that the next stage is out of sight out of mind and shortly after, death of whatever there was if no further input from your side is given.

See where ignore got you.

Aloof is a commodity with a very short life span when it comes to listing qualities aquas seek in their loved ones and once you've been told of the feels about you, being aloof, too mysterious, giving of hints of not being serious will get you in trouble.
Yup. But let the non Aquas think this is the way to "win" us lol
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I disagree with this thread,

Just be yourself and come with genuine intentions, I can see right through bs. I've dropped many men because of this.
If you read the thread you'd see that was also mentioned, why i wrote it is cuz that is exactly who i am, so i magically attract aquas.. I just never really looked that far into before. There is nothing i hate more than a phony person.
I am an Aquarius. This whole thread is try hard.

I have no fucking clue what yr talking about dude.. For reals.


Basically you're giving bad advice about how to get into the heart of an aqua.
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Well it works for me and yr the only one stirring up shit.. Is that tryin hard enough for you? I also believe this works for ALL signs. Have a life, don't be clingy, don't let your relationship be the end all be all of everything. Focusing on your new love interest will drive you nuts and ultimately lead to the end of your relationship. If you don't agree you can keep scrolling....no sweat off my balls.
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I'll tell you like this, if i like you and you know it, ignoring will get you only so far......if you overdo it, it leads to triggering defense mechanisms, brain coming in the thought flow dominated only by heart and gut feelings up to that point.

Brain will say very logical things, "she doesn't like me, she wouldn't ignore me if she did, right?"......after that the next stage is out of sight out of mind and shortly after, death of whatever there was if no further input from your side is given.

See where ignore got you.

Aloof is a commodity with a very short life span when it comes to listing qualities aquas seek in their loved ones and once you've been told of the feels about you, being aloof, too mysterious, giving of hints of not being serious will get you in trouble.
Yup. But let the non Aquas think this is the way to "win" us lol
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Yep.

To the OP and other non-Aquas. It's not about YOU being aloof (unless you're naturally that way), but about letting THEM be aloof, and being OK with that. I think they appreciate someone who lays it all out there, they just don't always know what to do with it.
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I'm the exact opposite of my Aqua in a lot of ways. I'm very demonstrative, expressive, passionate and physically affectionate.

I "lead" for lack of a better word and he follows suit usually. Unless I tell him what to do then he absolutely will not just for the sake of being stubborn ?

I think Aquas will somewhat adopt the behaviors of their lovers. I know they're fixed but they mirror in their own way. If they're loved well, they will love well in return.
I'm drawn to passionate and affectionate people. Also I need reassurances and like to talk things through if they're important to me or fucking me up.


That talking things through...is that your libra moon ? My moon does that.


I'm not sure but it's possible. Constantly weighing stuff out just to be sure about my stance even. But usually once im sure im all in. On a semi side note, ive found Aries to be very patient. 🙂

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Aries!? Patient!? On what planet.
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to be fair, if OP is a pisces..she might mean that her aloofness attracted aqua guys and aquas liked that she wasn't clingy and gave them space maybe her traits. however, it shouldn't be used to describe what all aqua are attracted to..her experience being the basis of the method in finding the way to an aqua's heart
Yes this. Also there are always exceptions to every rule.. This is just a generalization.. It worked for ME. and he told me thats why he liked me... The mystique.. My indifference made him crazy for me.. What can i say?!? I also have an aqua moon and more in my chart. I am notoriously unemotional until you know me well... I like dissecting stuff not feeling my way thru it. Thats why i like aquas!!!
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I'm the exact opposite of my Aqua in a lot of ways. I'm very demonstrative, expressive, passionate and physically affectionate.

I "lead" for lack of a better word and he follows suit usually. Unless I tell him what to do then he absolutely will not just for the sake of being stubborn ?

I think Aquas will somewhat adopt the behaviors of their lovers. I know they're fixed but they mirror in their own way. If they're loved well, they will love well in return.
I'm drawn to passionate and affectionate people. Also I need reassurances and like to talk things through if they're important to me or fucking me up.


That talking things through...is that your libra moon ? My moon does that.


I'm not sure but it's possible. Constantly weighing stuff out just to be sure about my stance even. But usually once im sure im all in. On a semi side note, ive found Aries to be very patient. 🙂


Aries!? Patient!? On what planet.
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We can be if we like you and want to stay connected. We can follow the lead. At least I can.