Typical Aqua male..?

Confused by aqua male here. We met. He is the one who does the chasing. Constantly. I went with him on a date. I disappeared after that. He kept trying. Calls, text messages. I didn't respond. He doesn't care. Keeps trying. Finally, I decided to give him a chance. To see what he is all about. Went on a second date. I never denied he is smart and very intelligent. After that second date we are together every other day. For 4 weeks. They say Aquas are not very affectionate. This one is extremely. Keeps holding my hand for dear life. Hugging and kissing and touching, heavy public making out. I have never been with such an affectionate guy. A week a go he tells me he has to go to Washington. Business. He travels a lot. Sure. The day before the trip, I ask him, "When are you coming back?", "Oh, I don't know!", "You don't know?", "No I don't." By all means sir, have a safe trip! That turned ne off. Don't give me the exact day, but give me a time frame..
Next day he leaves for WA. He texted me that he landed. Cool. Two days later, it's his birthday. I call to say happy birthday. He doesn't pick up. I texted later that day: Happy birthday. No response. Sure.. By this time, I'm done with you. 3 days later, text message from him: Thank you. Hi. I don't respond. Then another one: Hi! Um..not this time mister! I don't respond all day. Then a phone call at 2:15am...Of course I don't answer.
What's wrong with this guy? Does he like me? He doesn't like me? I almost never call him. I don't suffocate him. I'm a cool bird, I have my own life. What are your views on this? I'm Libra.

Aren't you done with him? I'd say he likes you if he is chasing. Aquas normally DO NOT chase. It's a pride thing & fear of rejection. So if he is putting himself out there time & time again, then he must be really interested in you. Don't overdo things with him, though, aquas can turn just as cold as they are warm. Ignoring him may etc, may turn up the other side of aqua you don't want to see. He'll be indifferent to you, like you were a nobody. Aquas like fairness just like a libra does, so you should have at least took the call just to hear if he is going to touch the issue or not. I'm sure he knows you're upset, so how is he going to talk things through when you ignore him?

Either you communicate or do you both a favour & leave. Believe me, he'll get tired of trying.

Aqua/libra relationships have a strange way of unfolding in my experience. At first, it's the aqua that's hot & heavy for the libra, but due to some things that libras tend to do to make the aqua give less shits, then the roles reverse. And the libra will wonder what happened to the sweet person they met in the beginning. Plus, another funny twist to this duo is, aqua will never go back to how they were in the beginning & the libra will keep trying to make them like that again. Never take an aqua for granted if you want them to remain sweet & considerate with you.

Thank you for you answer. I don't think that I took this aqua for granted. I don't have a problem with his affections and sweetness. I'm not even furious or mad. He acts hot and heavy and then disappears and reappears.

2:15 am call? He is mad! Sorry, I didn't pay notice to the time lol. But the rest still stands.

It's confusing

Posted by inaa
Thank you for you answer. I don't think that I took this aqua for granted. I don't have a problem with his affections and sweetness. I'm not even furious or mad. He acts hot and heavy and then disappears and reappears.

By for granted I mean the calling & how he is towards you. He is doing his best. Do you know how many women here would wish to have their men unrelenting like that? We are humans as well, we enjoy having the people we love call us every now & then. We don't like to feel like we're doing all the work, which is when the change manifests ime. Once we change we don't go back, remember that.

I was with a libra & I used to call/text him a lot in the beginning. But he'd ignore some of my calls/text, then I stopped it altogether. And he always asked why don't you call me anymore. I got tired of having my communication overlooked. So I stopped, never to do it again...only gave replies. Aquas are very observant & are fans of fairness.

Posted by inaa
It's confusing

What are you confused about? Tell me. You disappeared too by your own admission. What made you vanish the 1st? Were you busy or just not interested enough?

We only had that one date and I was not going to see him again. But then he kept trying and decided to give him a chance. We were together for a month on his insisting. I'm not saying that I didn't enjoy it. He makes me feel like I'm the only girl in the world. I tried calling him here and there just to show him that I am interested this time around. Then he leaves for his trip. I call to wish him happy bday. He is the one that vanished. No reply whatsoever. And then he reappears a few days later.

Posted by inaa
We only had that one date and I was not going to see him again. But then he kept trying and decided to give him a chance. We were together for a month on his insisting. I'm not saying that I didn't enjoy it. He makes me feel like I'm the only girl in the world. I tried calling him here and there just to show him that I am interested this time around. Then he leaves for his trip. I call to wish him happy bday. He is the one that vanished. No reply whatsoever. And then he reappears a few days later.

IDK, maybe he was busy. And besides, this is the 1st time he is doing it, right? I say talk to him, hear his reasons & then see if he does it again. Personally, I don't get pissed over one time events, what bothers me is when a person repeats the same old annoying shit over & over again. That makes me to start not to care. Not care if they stay or go.

Do you really like this guy or are you just passing time. I'm sensing two things here, an air of nonchalance or someone masking their real feelings. I can't decide which. I wonder if he also is struggling with that as well when it comes to you. No being smothering & keeping a healthy distance is good, but be careful not to overdo it to the point where he starts doubting how you feel.

Aqua/libra usually get along just fine, good conversations + chemistry. Best friends too. But the problem usually starts when the libra seems to enjoy being catered to, being chased etc more than trying to make things 50/50. An aqua WILL retire when things aren't equal or when they are constantly being ignored even when they make attempts.

^^ I'm speaking from an aquas pov there lol. We are no angels, so I'm sure libras have some things that they find irritating about us as well.

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Posted by inaa
Confused by aqua male here. We met. He is the one who does the chasing. Constantly. I went with him on a date. I disappeared after that. He kept trying. Calls, text messages. I didn't respond. He doesn't care. Keeps trying.

He sounds EXACTLY like the Aqua guy that I went out with nearly a year ago. We went out on one date, I disappeared (lack of interest). 'Til this day, one year later, he still messages me every other week to make small talk and ask me to hang out. A few days ago, he found out I was sick and offered to deliver me meds and cough drops at 10PM @ night. This guy lives an hour away. I've ignored his texts 4-5X in a row before, but he is VERY persistent and will always come up with something really sweet and thoughtful to say, prompting me to respond. Last night, he texted me: "Hope you're feeling better. Please take care and let me know how you're doing." So of course I felt bad and replied. I keep thinking that if I continue dismissing a majority of his texts and his attempts to meet up, he'll eventually get tired and give up.

Anyway, perhaps your Aqua was preoccupied with work or getting back into the groove of things (having just returned from WA and whatnot), hence the delayed response. He then tried to reach out to you 3 times (probably once everything had settled down and he found some free time) and you ignored him. Have you talked to him since? Your texts to him are very short and cold/impersonal imo, so I wouldn't be surprised if he's sitting at home wondering the same thing about you.

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Just tell your aqua friend to stop. Be very directly. Maybe it's a man thing, because I'll never continue "bothering" someone that either ignores me or seems uninterested. I'd rather walk barefoot on hot coals!

Oh no, since we started spending time together, I have gotten better. I would text him, respond to his texts, I didn't wanted to give him the cold shoulder again, I just wanted him to see that I was interested this time around. He responded good to that. I think he liked it that I didn't disappear. It was kind of weird after spending all that time together, that he wouldn't pick up when I called to say happy birthday. That's all. And then calling me 3 days later.. That never happened before.

inaa,

Aren't you supposed to be the cardinal sign here ^.^? Freaking Aqua doing everything xD

Oh... the typical aqua dude looks just like Patrick Bateman.



I'd like to write a bit more about your case but... y'know... I have to return some videotapes.

NotYourAverageAquarius, he is, he is.. 🙂 He is doing everything right. Great guy! And I'm not playing hard to get. Maybe I was not clear enough. I freaked out after our first date, because he came off too strong. But I have been nothing but good after we got together the second time around. It's just confusing because he is so consistent and then disappears for few days. It's not like him.
Now he is blowing up my phone. I mean why go from one extent to another?