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Posted by rampartsThanks 🙂 Me too 🙂
Aww 😢 you guys only have 4 more months together. You're both fighting it because you're afraid what's going to happen when school ends.
I sense that you both really care about each other and I don't think its solely on you to make everything right.
I hope everything works out for you two.
Posted by rampartsah,thanks! 🙂 yeah,it sucks to not be on the same page!I've been struggling with it from our very first year :/Posted by IlovemyaquaYes lol. It probably helps me in love matters. Aries venus isn't afraid to put their heart on the line.Posted by rampartsyou're aries perhaps 'ram'parts? *sigh* how I wish I had those fire guts.I have an Aries Mars but it gives me only the infamous impulsiveness of the fire signs,not the guts to speak out :/
Don't do anything except be yourself. If you remain guarded you'll always wonder how this could have worked out if you would have been emotionally vulnerable. Being vulnerable is scary, yes...but it's necessary.
Aquas seem to appreciate complete honesty more than any other sign.
You're already in a relationship anyway. You just need to communicate better and compromise your relationship needs to each other.
Thanks a lot for the advice though! 🙂
You're sweet. I just noticed your username was "ilovemyaqua" and it's killing my heart. 😠it sucks when the feelings are there but you just can't get on the same pageclick to expand
Posted by IlovemyaquaI have alot of the sames signs as in your chart so I know where you are coming. So personal experience Im telling you, in order to be truly happy, because your goal is to have the last 4 months peaceful RIGHT? You are dealing with someone who is inside of there own head and cant understand thats what you want. He only does what he wants, and hes not a bad guy or trying to hurt you. Its just how his brain is wired up. In turn, you should find someone more compatible to you and your need for a solid connection in these 4 months and talk to Aqua on the side. IM TELLING YOU, as soon as you meet someone else and start getting your need for a solid relationship satisfied, Aqua will appear out of nowhere as a new person and be FULLY interested in you. They love to detach, but love attention and having someone there. You need to make sure you have someone there fulfilling your needs and not waiting on Aqua man to become someone hes not. Once he doesnt have your attention then he will probably dream up some idea that you ve found someone else and start heavily pursuing you, and even if he doesnt it doesnt matter because you have someone else. But if hes like typical Aquas he will appear from nowhere and be fully interested.Posted by virgotruthI know what you're saying.It's just that,uh,this guy! I like him so much and then when I read about Aquarius and detachments I thought,okay,there may still be hope. I realised that maybe I should give him space and then i developed this concept of being selfless when you like someone and thought if II really like him, shouldn't expect anything and like him for who he is.Argh!i don't know what i'm writing.Idk,I just want peaceful 4 months,the last months of college and then we'll both move out of town,perhaps miles apart to our separate job cities.I don't want to be trouble to anyone,that's just how I am.i'll rather suffer alone than bother others because of me.But yes,sometimes i really want to tell him,but then,i just go mute,lol.Also,us Taureans,we stick to one person and always want to make things work. :/
OP should either find somebody who will give her the emotionally commitment she needs. OR if she cant let him go ................ PLAY THE GAME. If she continues to worry, and continue to accept his ways, she will be emotionally drained and hurt in the end. She either should let him go, or play the mental detachment non commitment game with him and gamble on herself winning.click to expand
Posted by Ilovemyaquahonestly, more than one air placement is too much even for ME.Posted by lisabethur8I'm Earth: 28.9% and Air:27.4% so yeah air is close behind.Also,Gemini is my dominant sign so yeah.But idk,he's a little too detached for me.
what i notice is that dominant airy peeps are WITH dominant airy peeps, or those with packed air houses.
personal planets there especially.
and it WORKS.
unless you, OP have alot of air, then you should understand him.
Read Sultrykitty's posts on her aqua, who is dominant air, and sultrykitty is also dominant airy. she and her aqua go at it.click to expand
my own husband has LACK of air.
even my ex's. sure one had aqua Jupiter but that's it. He was mostly water and fire.
but you love who you love you know??
if you can take that kind of energy, which i see that you are into him deeply, (taurus likes to stick to something /attach to it and won't let go. similar to cancer, tenacious!!!!)
then that's probably your gemini dominant which loves all that stellium aqua? Maybe all his aqua are in his 3rd house, so that piques alot of your gemini?
or his aqua stellium in 2nd, which also piques and gravitates to your taurus? not sure how that works. lol
but if you have ARIES. oh dear god...... in heaven.....
it's not a wonder you like aquarius. but so much aquarius ...jeeeeezzzz.
Posted by virgotruthvirgotruth,I'm a commitment phobe myself.I'm not very much into dating.Honestly,all of that drains me.I hate being emotionally vulnerable.So finding someone compatible will altogether be a tedious thing.Also,aPosted by IlovemyaquaI have alot of the sames signs as in your chart so I know where you are coming. So personal experience Im telling you, in order to be truly happy, because your goal is to have the last 4 months peaceful RIGHT? You are dealing with someone who is inside of there own head and cant understand thats what you want. He only does what he wants, and hes not a bad guy or trying to hurt you. Its just how his brain is wired up. In turn, you should find someone more compatible to you and your need for a solid connection in these 4 months and talk to Aqua on the side. IM TELLING YOU, as soon as you meet someone else and start getting your need for a solid relationship satisfied, Aqua will appear out of nowhere as a new person and be FULLY interested in you. They love to detach, but love attention and having someone there. You need to make sure you have someone there fulfilling your needs and not waiting on Aqua man to become someone hes not. Once he doesnt have your attention then he will probably dream up some idea that you ve found someone else and start heavily pursuing you, and even if he doesnt it doesnt matter because you have someone else. But if hes like typical Aquas he will appear from nowhere and be fully interested.Posted by virgotruthI know what you're saying.It's just that,uh,this guy! I like him so much and then when I read about Aquarius and detachments I thought,okay,there may still be hope. I realised that maybe I should give him space and then i developed this concept of being selfless when you like someone and thought if II really like him, shouldn't expect anything and like him for who he is.Argh!i don't know what i'm writing.Idk,I just want peaceful 4 months,the last months of college and then we'll both move out of town,perhaps miles apart to our separate job cities.I don't want to be trouble to anyone,that's just how I am.i'll rather suffer alone than bother others because of me.But yes,sometimes i really want to tell him,but then,i just go mute,lol.Also,us Taureans,we stick to one person and always want to make things work. :/
OP should either find somebody who will give her the emotionally commitment she needs. OR if she cant let him go ................ PLAY THE GAME. If she continues to worry, and continue to accept his ways, she will be emotionally drained and hurt in the end. She either should let him go, or play the mental detachment non commitment game with him and gamble on herself winning.click to expand
aries and libra in charts are lovely as long as both parties are libra dominant whch i notice.. or aries dominant. but mainly libra dominant because libra needs harmony and will get upset and their scales unbalanced drastically if both parties aren't libra dominant.
something i'm noticing in DETAIL with successful couples.
like that of Anne Hathway and her Aries husband. both libra dominant.
aries dominant peeps don't mind rocking the boat and upsetting the harmony cause well, who the fuck cares? maybe that's why....
but if they've got libra dominant in them, they want to FIGHT for that HARMONY.
and will get stomach upsets and ailments/health issues if they dont have it.
there must be something else in your chart that is attracting so much air. and also so much in his chart that he's attracted to you too. cause obviously he wouldnt be with you even though he is detaching all over the place, not commiting.
something i'm noticing in DETAIL with successful couples.
like that of Anne Hathway and her Aries husband. both libra dominant.
aries dominant peeps don't mind rocking the boat and upsetting the harmony cause well, who the fuck cares? maybe that's why....
but if they've got libra dominant in them, they want to FIGHT for that HARMONY.
and will get stomach upsets and ailments/health issues if they dont have it.
there must be something else in your chart that is attracting so much air. and also so much in his chart that he's attracted to you too. cause obviously he wouldnt be with you even though he is detaching all over the place, not commiting.
virgotruth,I'm a commitment phobe myself.I'm not very much into dating.Honestly,all of that drains me.I hate being emotionally vulnerable.So finding someone compatible will altogether be a tedious thing.Also,after these 4 months,I know he'll affect me less and gradually,with lesser contact,all of this will fade.So I'll prefer not finding someone else.I know why you're telling me that but I'll prefer doing something else while he detaches than dating.I know i have to first sort things out in my head.Till the time I'm at my parent's home,all of this doesn't affect me much.However,whenever college restarts,I see more and more of him,we interact more and then if he does something,it affects me all the more.I've joined various other stuff to keep myself occupied do I think less about all of this but yeah,when it does happen,it affects me although now I've become more immune to it and the affect damps gradually...I wish I can become less vulnerable...ah!I never understand why I become vulnerable at times,with all that earth and air,I should tend to be very detached,or maybe,he's more detached than me which I why i find myself comparatively more vulnerable,idk.
omg! you're also a commitment phobe—
no wonder.
no wonder.
Posted by lisabethur8Maybe something else in our charts? His date of birth is 02/10/1994,Delhi,india. Mine is 05/20/1994,Delhi,india.
aries and libra in charts are lovely as long as both parties are libra dominant whch i notice.. or aries dominant. but mainly libra dominant because libra needs harmony and will get upset and their scales unbalanced drastically if both parties aren't libra dominant.
something i'm noticing in DETAIL with successful couples.
like that of Anne Hathway and her Aries husband. both libra dominant.
aries dominant peeps don't mind rocking the boat and upsetting the harmony cause well, who the fuck cares? maybe that's why....
but if they've got libra dominant in them, they want to FIGHT for that HARMONY.
and will get stomach upsets and ailments/health issues if they dont have it.
there must be something else in your chart that is attracting so much air. and also so much in his chart that he's attracted to you too. cause obviously he wouldnt be with you even though he is detaching all over the place, not commiting.
Posted by lisabethur8eh,yeah :/
omg! you're also a commitment phobe—
no wonder.
My Aqua is a 2/11 one. His Mars is Aries though. They like detachment, but also the knowledge that you love them. We get very affectionate but not often. We live together but have quite separate lives. If I want some lovin from him, I have to ask for it.
If I had shown attraction to another guy, he would have walked with no words spoken. End of.
If I had shown attraction to another guy, he would have walked with no words spoken. End of.
Posted by sultrykitty'They like detachment, but also the knowledge that you love them.'
My Aqua is a 2/11 one. His Mars is Aries though. They like detachment, but also the knowledge that you love them. We get very affectionate but not often. We live together but have quite separate lives. If I want some lovin from him, I have to ask for it.
If I had shown attraction to another guy, he would have walked with no words spoken. End of.
That's the tricky part.Just enough balance between giving them space and being affectionate.
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/annie-ashdown/commitment-phobic_b_4218533.html
Top 15 Tips to spotting a CP
1. They love the chase but not the catch.
2. Many CP's have a history of flings and short relationship's yet always make out it is the ex's fault they split.
3. They are charming, seductive and attentive.
4. They play games with your heart as they are in a constant state of emotional conflict.
5. They are not easy to be pinned down. They like to plan last minute and 'go with the flow', and often say 'sounds great'' or 'I will get back to you' and cancel last minute, stand you up or turn up late.
6. They twist things when you confront them by turning nasty, calling you a drama queen or accusing you of being over sensitive.
7. They are often attractive and successful, yet come up with lots of reasons why they haven't been married, lived with anyone or had a long term commitment.
8. If you complain about not seeing them enough - they say you are too clingy or needy.
9. They like to control everything by picking time frames that are convenient for them.
10. They often date people who live a distance or are married, as then when they want 'out' they then have a great excuse to end the relationship.
11. They pull away when you get close and chase you when you pull away.
12. They are often unfaithful and favour affairs and flings over long term relationships.
13. They like to date as they get lonely but get bored easily which is when the text, emails and calls start slowing down.
14. They often compartmentalise elements of their life which is a sure sign you are they are not into you for the long term.
Top 15 Tips to spotting a CP
1. They love the chase but not the catch.
2. Many CP's have a history of flings and short relationship's yet always make out it is the ex's fault they split.
3. They are charming, seductive and attentive.
4. They play games with your heart as they are in a constant state of emotional conflict.
5. They are not easy to be pinned down. They like to plan last minute and 'go with the flow', and often say 'sounds great'' or 'I will get back to you' and cancel last minute, stand you up or turn up late.
6. They twist things when you confront them by turning nasty, calling you a drama queen or accusing you of being over sensitive.
7. They are often attractive and successful, yet come up with lots of reasons why they haven't been married, lived with anyone or had a long term commitment.
8. If you complain about not seeing them enough - they say you are too clingy or needy.
9. They like to control everything by picking time frames that are convenient for them.
10. They often date people who live a distance or are married, as then when they want 'out' they then have a great excuse to end the relationship.
11. They pull away when you get close and chase you when you pull away.
12. They are often unfaithful and favour affairs and flings over long term relationships.
13. They like to date as they get lonely but get bored easily which is when the text, emails and calls start slowing down.
14. They often compartmentalise elements of their life which is a sure sign you are they are not into you for the long term.
15. They often mask their deep unhappiness with empty sex, gambling, drink or drugs.
Run as fast as you can... Many friends and clients, go into 'euphoric recall' - selective memory focusing on the good sex or/and great lifestyle or charm or looks. They minimise, alter or deny the reality and make excuses for the CP. Many fantasise about what they want the relationship to be and live in 'constant hope' rather than getting real about what's in front of them. CPs are lovers, not partners. They will NEVER meet your needs and many try to fix or heal a CP. You didn't break them, you can't fix them.
Never allow a CP to point the finger of blame at you and cause you havoc, confusion, pain and heartache. CPs dislike being busted and become self- righteous, defiant and reactive when their selfish behaviour is flagged up.
If you want marriage and children and/or a commitment and you are dating or living with a CP, I suggest you question yourself as to why you would find it acceptable behaviour and continue on in a relationship with someone who is not showing you the respect, and love you SO deserve?
On the other hand, if, like me you keep attracting CP's - it is surely time to take a look inside and get vigorously honest about why you are attracting CP's?
Run as fast as you can... Many friends and clients, go into 'euphoric recall' - selective memory focusing on the good sex or/and great lifestyle or charm or looks. They minimise, alter or deny the reality and make excuses for the CP. Many fantasise about what they want the relationship to be and live in 'constant hope' rather than getting real about what's in front of them. CPs are lovers, not partners. They will NEVER meet your needs and many try to fix or heal a CP. You didn't break them, you can't fix them.
Never allow a CP to point the finger of blame at you and cause you havoc, confusion, pain and heartache. CPs dislike being busted and become self- righteous, defiant and reactive when their selfish behaviour is flagged up.
If you want marriage and children and/or a commitment and you are dating or living with a CP, I suggest you question yourself as to why you would find it acceptable behaviour and continue on in a relationship with someone who is not showing you the respect, and love you SO deserve?
On the other hand, if, like me you keep attracting CP's - it is surely time to take a look inside and get vigorously honest about why you are attracting CP's?
this woman answered her OWN question...
to attracting commitment phobes...
quote from link: "I couldn't figure out why this kept happening to me. The moment things became serious, they backed off. Several laughed yet looked incredibly uncomfortable and changed the subject when mutual friends would say, "When are you two getting hitched?" I HAD to look at myself.
After starting a journey of self-discovery, it became SO clear: a) I had to stop doubting myself and assuming I had done something wrong or I was not good enough, and b) I had to look within and discover why I kept attracting CPs. "
to attracting commitment phobes...
quote from link: "I couldn't figure out why this kept happening to me. The moment things became serious, they backed off. Several laughed yet looked incredibly uncomfortable and changed the subject when mutual friends would say, "When are you two getting hitched?" I HAD to look at myself.
After starting a journey of self-discovery, it became SO clear: a) I had to stop doubting myself and assuming I had done something wrong or I was not good enough, and b) I had to look within and discover why I kept attracting CPs. "
Posted by IlovemyaquaYup. But he loves it when I climb all over him. I just can't do it all the time. 😄Posted by sultrykitty'They like detachment, but also the knowledge that you love them.'
My Aqua is a 2/11 one. His Mars is Aries though. They like detachment, but also the knowledge that you love them. We get very affectionate but not often. We live together but have quite separate lives. If I want some lovin from him, I have to ask for it.
If I had shown attraction to another guy, he would have walked with no words spoken. End of.
That's the tricky part.Just enough balance between giving them space and being affectionate.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8'many try to fix or heal a CP'
15. They often mask their deep unhappiness with empty sex, gambling, drink or drugs.
Run as fast as you can... Many friends and clients, go into 'euphoric recall' - selective memory focusing on the good sex or/and great lifestyle or charm or looks. They minimise, alter or deny the reality and make excuses for the CP. Many fantasise about what they want the relationship to be and live in 'constant hope' rather than getting real about what's in front of them. CPs are lovers, not partners. They will NEVER meet your needs and many try to fix or heal a CP. You didn't break them, you can't fix them.
Never allow a CP to point the finger of blame at you and cause you havoc, confusion, pain and heartache. CPs dislike being busted and become self- righteous, defiant and reactive when their selfish behaviour is flagged up.
If you want marriage and children and/or a commitment and you are dating or living with a CP, I suggest you question yourself as to why you would find it acceptable behaviour and continue on in a relationship with someone who is not showing you the respect, and love you SO deserve?
On the other hand, if, like me you keep attracting CP's - it is surely time to take a look inside and get vigorously honest about why you are attracting CP's?
^^This! this is what my problem is.i try to 'fix' things.I stick to people with the darkest personalities because I want to be with ppl whom i think are deviated from their path.This is what my problem is.damn!
' love you SO deserve'
^^ 'deserve'. ah!I don't know,the moment i start expecting,I think i'm being selfish,argh! :/
Update:
We hung out today.I couldn't resist and told him I like him a lot.He said he likes me a lot too.He said we may stay in together but since I had to go to college early tomorrow,I refused.We cuddled.Lots of kisses.We didn't make out and I liked it.I find making out more of a sexual thing,cuddling is more of an affectionate thing imo.We decided to talk over the phone tonight.He called me before he was going to sleep.I had to go to a party and hence wasn't able to talk.I asked him if I should call him after I return (that would be late in the night) and he said I should,if he'll be awake,he'll talk.So I called when I returned and it went unanswered.Perhaps he's asleep.Is he coming back?
We hung out today.I couldn't resist and told him I like him a lot.He said he likes me a lot too.He said we may stay in together but since I had to go to college early tomorrow,I refused.We cuddled.Lots of kisses.We didn't make out and I liked it.I find making out more of a sexual thing,cuddling is more of an affectionate thing imo.We decided to talk over the phone tonight.He called me before he was going to sleep.I had to go to a party and hence wasn't able to talk.I asked him if I should call him after I return (that would be late in the night) and he said I should,if he'll be awake,he'll talk.So I called when I returned and it went unanswered.Perhaps he's asleep.Is he coming back?
Posted by IlovemyaquaI have a feeling that this is the relationship that you're going to have until you leave school. Unless one of you decides to shit or get off the pot.
Update:
We hung out today.I couldn't resist and told him I like him a lot.He said he likes me a lot too.He said we may stay in together but since I had to go to college early tomorrow,I refused.We cuddled.Lots of kisses.We didn't make out and I liked it.I find making out more of a sexual thing,cuddling is more of an affectionate thing imo.We decided to talk over the phone tonight.He called me before he was going to sleep.I had to go to a party and hence wasn't able to talk.I asked him if I should call him after I return (that would be late in the night) and he said I should,if he'll be awake,he'll talk.So I called when I returned and it went unanswered.Perhaps he's asleep.Is he coming back?
I predict that it will fizzle out after that...not because you don't care about each other, but because you won't have an opportunity to spend time together.
Anyway, that's what I think.
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