Aqua wom + Aries Man, lost

Hi, I am an aqua woman. I'm 31. I got involved with an Aries 49 year who pursed me to be in a relationship with him. I advised him that I wanted to take things slow but we ended up together after his persistence and I ended up really liking him. I did not want him to meet my family as I felt it was too soon but that ended up happening and I also met his family. Basically everything I didn't want to happen ended up happening within a span of 3 months. We spend every day together and he calls me all the time. I have things at his place etc. The thing is he would get upset over the littlest things, I have discovered after being around him so much. He could not figure out my layed back attitude. He would get upset if I did not answer my phone or called him 3 minutes later then I said I would. He even said some of my behavior remind him of his ex wife who cheated on him and shit like that. But if I get upset about an ex that has call his phone he says oh he should have never told me that or been honest with me.If I say something like I was just about to call you he gets upset. He does not believe anything I say to him when expressing myself which is very difficult for me as an aqua to open up to someone. Since I met him everything I have been working on has been put to the side just to tend to him and his needs for my attention. It seems everything I do is not enough and not appreciated and he complains, and complains. I started turning the fences on him making sure he does the things I like and continue to as he has been with me. But he does not seem to like it if I speak up and dissect the stupid shit that comes out his mouth sometimes because he does not think. Anyways guys I am just frustrated because I really like this guy and have accepted all his bad flaws but I dont feel the same from him at times. He will always want to be right. And place the blame on everyone else. Lately he has had issues with work, and money. So he is in this bad mood. He has been extremely short tempered with me. Today he went to an orientation across town and had to stay at a hotel because of the distance. I called him before his class and after 3 times total and he has not returned my call. I am trying to figure if it is because his situation why he is acting like this or if he is just giving me a hint he wants to move one. I don't like to place games and vowed myself I would not go through this type of shit. He has been the strong man I have always wanted and says the same about me. I feel I don't have to be so independent with the world on my shoulders with him. I just don't like when he gets these stupid attitudes and when he gets picky about things. I just feel really sad. The whole time I put my Aquarius F*** it attitude on the back burner. I never became distant with him. When he complain about wanting to see me, I make arrangements to meet his needs. He doesn't understand the things I go through that I am self employed trying to start my own business and create a good life for myself. He doesn't understand where I am coming from. I just don't know if the things he says when we argue are true or not. He always says we are not arguing we are just talking. He always says how much he respects and treats me with respects and things of that nature and does not want anyone else. But there are times when he judges me and my character like I can not get upset or get loud. I have always been soft spoken and he always says I have a sexy voice. But when I get upset he does not like it cause I go the f** off. If I try to enjoy myself to much for example drinking a little to much he gets upset. But when he gets drunk and I see a different side of him, very arrogant, very loud and demanding, picks fights with people, I don't judge him. I accept him and it is not the true him. Those are the sides of him he is trying to change.But I don't throw it in his face to win an argument or come up with an excuse as to why I am mad. I go by facts and the situation at hand.There is a lot of other things that are bringing up red flags to me that I am leaving out but will bring up later on. I just feel if he is trying to break up then I will respect it but I have lots of my stuff at his house which he wanted and don't want be petty and say give me my things. I don't know whats going on. I feel bad and sad for him and don't want to break his man hood by always trying to help him. He basically got injured at work then had to be out for sometime so his money got messed up and they are not paying him so he had to find another job and also he has other financial issues. I know people hand stress different but I just would appreciate him saying hey i'm okay if he needs space. I feel like not ever calling him. I can't figure out his behavior if it is another woman, if he no longer feels he same or if it is just stress. So he finally decided to call me back. after how long and thats not like him. So i just was really nice and played it cool. He lied and said he tried calling me today which is not true. I kind of feel he was trying to get a reaction out of me and his playing a game.I told him I hope he gets his rest for his last day of orientation. Something does not feel right to me after this last conversation especially after he lied and said he tried to call me like that shit is funny. If he ever tried to call me and I did not pick up he would have blown the fuc**** roof off the whole community. I kind of feel really insulted. But I just told him to call me when he is not busy. He was like "when i'm not busy? I said yes when you are done with your orientation and things. He must of thought I would say I would call him later when I am done with work or for him to call me because I work from home so he knows my schedule. I feels so fuck*** stupid letting him into my heart and now he is acting like I don't know what. I started typing this before he called but now that he saying he tried to call me and he did not I see he is playing a game. I will not call him tomorrow at all when he gets back I will not call him either. If he wants to move on with another woman or found him self another hot ass to chase I am like whatever because I know I deserve more than this petty tit for tat or you hurt me so I will hurt your or you didn't call me quick enough so I will not call you. WTF? I am really hurt by this sh***I am not sure what will happen

Posted in Aqua form also...Need some advice Hi, I am an aqua woman. I'm 31. I got involved with an Aries 49 year who pursed me to be in a relationship with him. I advised him that I wanted to take things slow but we ended up together after his persistence and I ended up really liking him. I did not want him to meet my family as I felt it was too soon but that ended up happening and I also met his family. Basically everything I didn't want to happen ended up happening within a span of 3 months. We spend every day together and he calls me all the time. I have things at his place etc. The thing is he would get upset over the littlest things, I have discovered after being around him so much. He could not figure out my layed back attitude. He would get upset if I did not answer my phone or called him 3 minutes later then I said I would. He even said some of my behavior remind him of his ex wife who cheated on him and shit like that. But if I get upset about an ex that has call his phone he says oh he should have never told me that or been honest with me.If I say something like I was just about to call you he gets upset. He does not believe anything I say to him when expressing myself which is very difficult for me as an aqua to open up to someone. Since I met him everything I have been working on has been put to the side just to tend to him and his needs for my attention. It seems everything I do is not enough and not appreciated and he complains, and complains. I started turning the fences on him making sure he does the things I like and continue to as he has been with me. But he does not seem to like it if I speak up and dissect the stupid shit that comes out his mouth sometimes because he does not think. Anyways guys I am just frustrated because I really like this guy and have accepted all his bad flaws but I dont feel the same from him at times. He will always want to be right. And place the blame on everyone else. Lately he has had issues with work, and money. So he is in this bad mood. He has been extremely short tempered with me. Today he went to an orientation across town and had to stay at a hotel because of the distance. I called him before his class and after 3 times total and he has not returned my call. I am trying to figure if it is because his situation why he is acting like this or if he is just giving me a hint he wants to move one. I don't like to place games and vowed myself I would not go through this type of shit. He has been the strong man I have always wanted and says the same about me. I feel I don't have to be so independent with the world on my shoulders with him. I just don't like when he gets these stupid attitudes and when he gets picky about things. I just feel really sad. The whole time I put my Aquarius F*** it attitude on the back burner. I never became distant with him. When he complain about wanting to see me, I make arrangements to meet his needs. He doesn't understand the things I go through that I am self employed trying to start my own business and create a good life for myself. He doesn't understand where I am coming from. I just don't know if the things he says when we argue are true or not. He always says we are not arguing we are just talking. He always says how much he respects and treats me with respects and things of that nature and does not want anyone else. But there are times when he judges me and my character like I can not get upset or get loud. I have always been soft spoken and he always says I have a sexy voice. But when I get upset he does not like it cause I go the f** off. If I try to enjoy myself to much for example drinking a little to much he gets upset. But when he gets drunk and I see a different side of him, very arrogant, very loud and demanding, picks fights with people, I don't judge him. I accept him and it is not the true him. Those are the sides of him he is trying to change.But I don't throw it in his face to win an argument or come up with an excuse as to why I am mad. I go by facts and the situation at hand.There is a lot of other things that are bringing up red flags to me that I am leaving out but will bring up later on. I just feel if he is trying to break up then I will respect it but I have lots of my stuff at his house which he wanted and don't want be petty and say give me my things. I don't know whats going on. I feel bad and sad for him and don't want to break his man hood by always trying to help him. He basically got injured at work then had to be out for sometime so his money got messed up and they are not paying him so he had to find another job and also he has other financial issues. I know people hand stress different but I just would appreciate him saying hey i'm okay if he needs space. I feel like not ever calling him. I can't figure out his behavior if it is another woman, if he no longer feels he same or if it is just stress. So he finally decided to call me back. after how long and thats not like him. So i just was really nice and played it cool. He lied and said he tried calling me today which is not true. I kind of feel he was trying to get a reaction out of me and his playing a game.I told him I hope he gets his rest for his last day of orientation. Something does not feel right to me after this last conversation especially after he lied and said he tried to call me like that shit is funny. If he ever tried to call me and I did not pick up he would have blown the fuc**** roof off the whole community. I kind of feel really insulted. But I just told him to call me when he is not busy. He was like "when i'm not busy? I said yes when you are done with your orientation and things. He must of thought I would say I would call him later when I am done with work or for him to call me because I work from home so he knows my schedule. I feels so fuck*** stupid letting him into my heart and now he is acting like I don't know what. I started typing this before he called but now that he saying he tried to call me and he did not I see he is playing a game. I will not call him tomorrow at all when he gets back I will not call him either. If he wants to move on with another woman or found him self another hot ass to chase I am like whatever because I know I deserve more than this petty tit for tat or you hurt me so I will hurt your or you didn't call me quick enough so I will not call you. WTF? I am really hurt by this sh***I am not sure what will happen

And the thing is he came to my house before leaving and I lent him some money just so he can eat while gone. I understand shi..t happens to and situations happen so I won't judge him, when he has it , it give to me and treats me but the fact he said he called me and I know he did not. That is messing me up right now. Like this is a game and I am feeling bad about his situation but he str8 lied to me and he said he would not do that he would be honest. I have never ever felt he lied to me about anything this whole time. But this time I knew he was lying

Posted in Aqua form also...Need some advice Hi, I am an aqua woman. I'm 31. I got involved with an Aries 49 year who pursed me to be in a relationship with him. I advised him that I wanted to take things slow but we ended up together after his persistence and I ended up really liking him. I did not want him to meet my family as I felt it was too soon but that ended up happening and I also met his family. Basically everything I didn't want to happen ended up happening within a span of 3 months. We spend every day together and he calls me all the time. I have things at his place etc. The thing is he would get upset over the littlest things, I have discovered after being around him so much. He could not figure out my layed back attitude. He would get upset if I did not answer my phone or called him 3 minutes later then I said I would. He even said some of my behavior remind him of his ex wife who cheated on him and butter like that. But if I get upset about an ex that has call his phone he says oh he should have never told me that or been honest with me.If I say something like I was just about to call you he gets upset. He does not believe anything I say to him when expressing myself which is very difficult for me as an aqua to open up to someone. Since I met him everything I have been working on has been put to the side just to tend to him and his needs for my attention. It seems everything I do is not enough and not appreciated and he complains, and complains. I started turning the fences on him making sure he does the things I like and continue to as he has been with me. But he does not seem to like it if I speak up and dissect the stupid butter that comes out his mouth sometimes because he does not think. Anyways guys I am just frustrated because I really like this guy and have accepted all his bad flaws but I dont feel the same from him at times. He will always want to be right. And place the blame on everyone else. Lately he has had issues with work, and money. So he is in this bad mood. He has been extremely short tempered with me. Today he went to an orientation across town and had to stay at a hotel because of the distance. I called him before his class and after 3 times total and he has not returned my call. I am trying to figure if it is because his situation why he is acting like this or if he is just giving me a hint he wants to move one. I don't like to place games and vowed myself I would not go through this type of butter. He has been the strong man I have always wanted and says the same about me. I feel I don't have to be so independent with the world on my shoulders with him. I just don't like when he gets these stupid attitudes and when he gets picky about things. I just feel really sad. The whole time I put my Aquarius F*** it attitude on the back burner. I never became distant with him. When he complain about wanting to see me, I make arrangements to meet his needs. He doesn't understand the things I go through that I am self employed trying to start my own business and create a good life for myself. He doesn't understand where I am coming from. I just don't know if the things he says when we argue are true or not. He always says we are not arguing we are just talking. He always says how much he respects and treats me with respects and things of that nature and does not want anyone else. But there are times when he judges me and my character like I can not get upset or get loud. I have always been soft spoken and he always says I have a sexy voice. But when I get upset he does not like it cause I go the f** off. If I try to enjoy myself to much for example drinking a little to much he gets upset. But when he gets drunk and I see a different side of him, very arrogant, very loud and demanding, picks fights with people, I don't judge him. I accept him and it is not the true him. Those are the sides of him he is trying to change.But I don't throw it in his face to win an argument or come up with an excuse as to why I am mad. I go by facts and the situation at hand.There is a lot of other things that are bringing up red flags to me that I am leaving out but will bring up later on. I just feel if he is trying to break up then I will respect it but I have lots of my stuff at his house which he wanted and don't want be petty and say give me my things. I don't know whats going on. I feel bad and sad for him and don't want to break his man hood by always trying to help him. He basically got injured at work then had to be out for sometime so his money got messed up and they are not paying him so he had to find another job and also he has other financial issues. I know people hand stress different but I just would appreciate him saying hey i'm okay if he needs space. I feel like not ever calling him. I can't figure out his behavior if it is another woman, if he no longer feels he same or if it is just stress. So he finally decided to call me back. after how long and thats not like him. So i just was really nice and played it cool. He lied and said he tried calling me today which is not true. I kind of feel he was trying to get a reaction out of me and his playing a game.I told him I hope he gets his rest for his last day of orientation. Something does not feel right to me after this last conversation especially after he lied and said he tried to call me like that butter is funny. If he ever tried to call me and I did not pick up he would have blown the fuc**** roof off the whole community. I kind of feel really insulted. But I just told him to call me when he is not busy. He was like "when i'm not busy? I said yes when you are done with your orientation and things. He must of thought I would say I would call him later when I am done with work or for him to call me because I work from home so he knows my schedule. I feels so treetrunk*** stupid letting him into my heart and now he is acting like I don't know what. I started typing this before he called but now that he saying he tried to call me and he did not I see he is playing a game. I will not call him tomorrow at all when he gets back I will not call him either. If he wants to move on with another woman or found him self another hot ass to chase I am like whatever because I know I deserve more than this petty tit for tat or you hurt me so I will hurt your or you didn't call me quick enough so I will not call you. WTF? I am really hurt by this sh***I am not sure what will happen

And the thing is he came to my house before leaving and I lent him some money just so he can eat while gone. I understand shi..t happens to and situations happen so I won't judge him, when he has it , it give to me and treats me but the fact he said he called me and I know he did not. That is messing me up right now. Like this is a game and I am feeling bad about his situation but he str8 lied to me and he said he would not do that he would be honest. I have never ever felt he lied to me about anything this whole time. But this time I knew he was lying

So guess what. He called me tonight at the end of my shift. He told me what he was about to do so we spoke just for a small amount of time. Then i told him i was getting ready to take a shower. He said "where am i going" I said to my bed. Then he says yea okay. I said I guess il talk to you tomorrow. then i tried to say goodnight and he hung up im my face. So i called him back like several times and sent 2 text asking if everything was okay. He never responded. I'm convinced that he is trying to provoke me, force a break up, or either is trying to accuse me once again of cheating like i was about to get ready for another man. I'm so hurt. It took everything in me not to drive clear across town to that hotel. I never thought he would do something like this to me. It's disrespectful and childish considering he is older than me and should be more mature. I can't even explain the hurt i am in because I actually gave this man a chance. I am starting to not ever want to be with anyone for the rest of my life because I know I am a damn good woman and I don't deserve that shit. I am trying to hold myself from breaking right now

So guess what. He called me tonight at the end of my shift. He told me what he was about to do so we spoke just for a small amount of time. Then i told him i was getting ready to take a shower. He said "where am i going" I said to my bed. Then he says yea okay. I said I guess il talk to you tomorrow. then i tried to say goodnight and he hung up im my face. So i called him back like several times and sent 2 text asking if everything was okay. He never responded. I'm convinced that he is trying to provoke me, force a break up, or either is trying to accuse me once again of cheating like i was about to get ready for another man. I'm so hurt. It took everything in me not to drive clear across town to that hotel. I never thought he would do something like this to me. It's disrespectful and childish considering he is older than me and should be more mature. I can't even explain the hurt i am in because I actually gave this man a chance. I am starting to not ever want to be with anyone for the rest of my life because I know I am a damn good woman and I don't deserve that shit. I am trying to hold myself from breaking right now

any advice for me?

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

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I can’t read this. Aries prefers short stories, not novels. Give me the short version, then maybe I can help

lol. Yes I realize aries like the short version of everything it seems.

I was trying to type you a short version but I will not waist my time. The details are there. If your attention span can not handle it then I understand. Your advise would have been nice but "it is what it is"

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

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BLL, he says I have a joker laugh that scares him when we first met. I explained to him I grin when I like something I explained this numerous times. Yet he states you are supposed to learn the person you are with, but he his not trying to learn me. Everything is I must learn and understand him and bend to his rules. Apart of me is okay with that because my whole life I just do what I want and as I get older I am trying to live by some type of "law" lol. I like him being stern and putting his foot down it makes me feel I depend on him and he is strong enough especially when he tells me to do things that I know are best for me. But all of that other selfish, attitude, short temper stuff is messing things up. I don't know..

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Posted by Bll

I can’t read this. Aries prefers short stories, not novels. Give me the short version, then maybe I can help

lol. Yes I realize aries like the short version of everything it seems.

I was trying to type you a short version but I will not waist my time. The details are there. If your attention span can not handle it then I understand. Your advise would have been nice but "it is what it is"

If I have time later, and my attention span can handle it, I’ll copy paste it into Word, so I can divide up the text a bit, that should make it easier to read. I may be impatient, but I’m also curious about the story - we’ll see what side of me wins in the end, lol

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Lol, Yea okay. I would appreciate it. Like I said this guy is older than men been married, has more experience and I just expected more maturity I feel I should have just stuck to my guns and taken it slowly at my pace. I appreciate all the wonderful sides of him. He tells me to correct him when he is doing things that are not good for him but in the same breath or when it actually happens he ask me to allow him to "drink" for example because of the stress he is under. Sometimes people need that he says. The other time he says to put my foot down. I can't win for loosing with him. I just don't understand how he can say all these wonderful things about me, say he feels so happy with me one minute and then all of a sudden you just hang up in the face of someone you say you care about. I'm going to try one last time to call him later today to see if that was on purpose me calling him back and not answering. The hang up in the face I can handle because he whatever upset or immature, but the me call and him not picking up I need to understand because that is just way to childish and this is not high school we are adults and he would not allow that behavior from me so why should I allow that shit. It better had been a reception issue or something. I just want vibes to be back as it was in the beginning.

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

BLL, he says I have a joker laugh that scares him when we first met. I explained to him I grin when I like something I explained this numerous times. Yet he states you are supposed to learn the person you are with, but he his not trying to learn me. Everything is I must learn and understand him and bend to his rules. Apart of me is okay with that because my whole life I just do what I want and as I get older I am trying to live by some type of "law" lol. I like him being stern and putting his foot down it makes me feel I depend on him and he is strong enough especially when he tells me to do things that I know are best for me. But all of that other selfish, attitude, short temper stuff is messing things up. I don't know..

Ahh, I kind of have the same problem with my mother (a leo). Her laugh sounds like she’s mocking me imo, so I take it personally. I think with time, he will get used to it and adjust. I would just make sure to mention ‘I’m not laughing at you’ if you see him get offended, that should reassure him.

Also, I would try to have an open conversation about both of your feelings, when he’s calm. I agree that he should learn to understand you as well, but sometimes we’re so caught up in our own ego and feelings that we need a good kick in the head (metaphorically speaking, of course) to be able to see the other’s point of view.

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Okay I understand. I will try to do that. Maybe it is just best to give some space. He said he didn't like space with me. It seems everything I have told him he is realizing he should have listened. Now it's like the tension is so much especially with he financial issues thrown in the mix.

I got it BLL. Thanks 🙂

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

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You're welcome!

Yes, insecurity is the root, unfortunately. And there is nothing you'll be able to do to help him overcome it. My ex-hubby was insecure. He appeared confident but behind closed doors he felt inadequate because of PAST issues. Your man's issues have NOTHING to do with you. Nothing. But, you'll receive the blunt force of it because 1) You're intimate with him and 2) He's not ready to look within. Be warned: Your peace will be tested time and time again. He needs to get therapy WITHOUT you. You may need it SEPARATELY for yourself. Whatever you do, DO NOT marry him before then ❤️

Hoping you can find your peace again much sooner, than later.

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

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Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Girl you could have put it in 2 paragraphs lol

But I get it, you are just upset. Now I don't usually say that but I think he's too old for you and that where his insecurities come from. There's almost 20 years difference, he knows you can do better and he's terrified he might lose you, that's why everything happened so quick, against your will. I don't have any advice for you, I know it's hard. I guess hang in there, hoping things get better.

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Aaaw 😢 It’s not so easy for us sometimes... What sign are you?

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Sagittarius ❤️ I loved him deeply. That was the roughest relationship I've ever endured. It gave me anxiety and panic attacks 😔 He tried to destroy me. Thankful I broke free and divorced his ass. 11 years later and I can say that insecure people are the worst because insecurity opens the door to MANY other struggles.

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I can’t read this. Aries prefers short stories, not novels. Give me the short version, then maybe I can help

lol. Yes I realize aries like the short version of everything it seems.

I was trying to type you a short version but I will not waist my time. The details are there. If your attention span can not handle it then I understand. Your advise would have been nice but "it is what it is"

If I have time later, and my attention span can handle it, I’ll copy paste it into Word, so I can divide up the text a bit, that should make it easier to read. I may be impatient, but I’m also curious about the story - we’ll see what side of me wins in the end, lol

Lol, Yea okay. I would appreciate it. Like I said this guy is older than men been married, has more experience and I just expected more maturity I feel I should have just stuck to my guns and taken it slowly at my pace. I appreciate all the wonderful sides of him. He tells me to correct him when he is doing things that are not good for him but in the same breath or when it actually happens he ask me to allow him to "drink" for example because of the stress he is under. Sometimes people need that he says. The other time he says to put my foot down. I can't win for loosing with him. I just don't understand how he can say all these wonderful things about me, say he feels so happy with me one minute and then all of a sudden you just hang up in the face of someone you say you care about. I'm going to try one last time to call him later today to see if that was on purpose me calling him back and not answering. The hang up in the face I can handle because he whatever upset or immature, but the me call and him not picking up I need to understand because that is just way to childish and this is not high school we are adults and he would not allow that behavior from me so why should I allow that shit. It better had been a reception issue or something. I just want vibes to be back as it was in the beginning.

Oh, aries men never truly grow up. Maybe when they’re 70...

Do you know his chart? He sounds more emotional and dramatic than the average aries, really. Maybe he has a badly aspected water moon or something. I, personally, wouldn’t say I act as hot and cold as he does, so I can’t relate. But I see this behavior with pisces moons.

I will say one thing, though. If he says all these wonderful things about you, they’re most likely true, and his temper tantrums are because of his insecurities. They don’t change how he feels about you. When we give out compliments, we mean every word.

But something must be going on with him, that is the impression I’m getting. Maybe he’s going through something, and that doesn’t need to have anything to do with you. I would ask him, calm, openly and with no judgment, if anything’s bothering him

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I am not sure his chart. All I know he was born 3/25/1970. Sometimes I am not sure about the things he says especially when he is emotional or drunk. I understand he is under stress so that is why i am wondering should i just back off not ask him what is going on or add fuel to the fire about the way he has been acting towards me after I have tried to be supportive. But if I back off me being an Aquarius I will not call you at all. I just don't want him to turn around and say I was not there for him or I am playing games not taking this relationship serious as he has said he does not like distance and he is used to hearing from the person he is with all day. He calls me before work, any small break he gets, at lunch, when he leave work, when he leaves the gym, when he gets home. etc....So that is why i felt odd when I never herd from him at the orientation but then he lied said he called me. I don;t know if it was because of the hotel. But he called and I herd nothing, then he called the house phone and the reception was good. But after that last conversation he hung up in my face I called him like 15 times. and that is not something I do but he pressed my buttons and I tried so hard not to let him push me there. Again I am trying to think positive but I dont want to be naive to his bad behavior.....

So he just called me now after his orientation. I was very kind did not bring up last night him hanging up in my face. He sound so depressed and down. All he is saying is he does not have any money and he needs to see if the workers comp sent him his check and if they paid he yet from his job...so my question is BLL what is this is he using me expecting me to fee him till he gets back on his foot. Was last night just a simple him being insecure why he hung up but its the me call him several times that is bothering me.

He said he would call me when he gets back home so I can come over. I did not say to him we need to talk. Should I bring this up? I don't know what is going on. Is he bipolar like he said he thought he was. Please open my eyes on this.

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

You're welcome!

Yes, insecurity is the root, unfortunately. And there is nothing you'll be able to do to help him overcome it. My ex-hubby was insecure. He appeared confident but behind closed doors he felt inadequate because of PAST issues. Your man's issues have NOTHING to do with you. Nothing. But, you'll receive the blunt force of it because 1) You're intimate with him and 2) He's not ready to look within. Be warned: Your peace will be tested time and time again. He needs to get therapy WITHOUT you. You may need it SEPARATELY for yourself. Whatever you do, DO NOT marry him before then ❤️

Hoping you can find your peace again much sooner, than later.

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Wow! Thank you for that. That is the truth. I feel bad about this whole thing. I feel I can't help. His mother told him the exact you said that he needs therapy. I guess I am just looking for a way to pull him up out of what he is going through but it is affecting me and my happiness I was depressed all day today. And for me like I said I am self employed I have contracts I work on from home and I am working on a business and ways to build my income higher and higher, for me time is money so I have to always stay busy. My brother is sick and he just moved into town and we are not spending enough time together. He has a bad sickness and he is trying to go about it naturally he says he rather die that way than do surgery. So all these things are bothering me I want to be there for everyone yet I can not even be there for myself.

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

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lol 🙂 oh my God. I swear I put my running shoes on a few times but at the very last minute he seems to calm down and we are back to square one. I don't know I don't know lol

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

BLL, he says I have a joker laugh that scares him when we first met. I explained to him I grin when I like something I explained this numerous times. Yet he states you are supposed to learn the person you are with, but he his not trying to learn me. Everything is I must learn and understand him and bend to his rules. Apart of me is okay with that because my whole life I just do what I want and as I get older I am trying to live by some type of "law" lol. I like him being stern and putting his foot down it makes me feel I depend on him and he is strong enough especially when he tells me to do things that I know are best for me. But all of that other selfish, attitude, short temper stuff is messing things up. I don't know..

Ahh, I kind of have the same problem with my mother (a leo). Her laugh sounds like she’s mocking me imo, so I take it personally. I think with time, he will get used to it and adjust. I would just make sure to mention ‘I’m not laughing at you’ if you see him get offended, that should reassure him.

Also, I would try to have an open conversation about both of your feelings, when he’s calm. I agree that he should learn to understand you as well, but sometimes we’re so caught up in our own ego and feelings that we need a good kick in the head (metaphorically speaking, of course) to be able to see the other’s point of view.

Okay I understand. I will try to do that. Maybe it is just best to give some space. He said he didn't like space with me. It seems everything I have told him he is realizing he should have listened. Now it's like the tension is so much especially with he financial issues thrown in the mix.

I got it BLL. Thanks 🙂

I like space sometimes, but that could just be me.

‘It seems everything I have told him he is realizing he should have listened.’ - lol, that is aries in a nutshell. We can be slow like that - or too fast, depends on how you look at it

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Girl you could have put it in 2 paragraphs lol

But I get it, you are just upset. Now I don't usually say that but I think he's too old for you and that where his insecurities come from. There's almost 20 years difference, he knows you can do better and he's terrified he might lose you, that's why everything happened so quick, against your will. I don't have any advice for you, I know it's hard. I guess hang in there, hoping things get better.

LMAO!!! lol you don't have any advice for me. lol 🙂 oh my god. Thank you for your honest input. He probably feels that way. I will try to hang in there. They say when people come into your life they should make it better but sadly like I said I feel everything I have worked on has flipped upside down because of my caring side always wanting to make people happy. He probably feels exactly what you are saying. Wow. Thanks for that. 😢

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Aaaw 😢 It’s not so easy for us sometimes... What sign are you?

Sagittarius ❤️ I loved him deeply. That was the roughest relationship I've ever endured. It gave me anxiety and panic attacks 😔 He tried to destroy me. Thankful I broke free and divorced his ass. 11 years later and I can say that insecure people are the worst because insecurity opens the door to MANY other struggles.

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Sweatpea that is what I am afraid of. Is if this thing gets too deep what other rollercoasters are in store for me. Will he go off the edge mental as he feels everything is bad luck for him and goes against him. What else is in store. I hate this feeling of wanting to end it but at least I will be free

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Aaaw 😢 It’s not so easy for us sometimes... What sign are you?

Sagittarius ❤️ I loved him deeply. That was the roughest relationship I've ever endured. It gave me anxiety and panic attacks 😔 He tried to destroy me. Thankful I broke free and divorced his ass. 11 years later and I can say that insecure people are the worst because insecurity opens the door to MANY other struggles.

I knew it!! I lost a sag friend because I was too sensitive/she was too unrealiable (depends on how you look at it). I think sag/aries can be a challenging match.

Sorry you went through that 😢

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I thought Aries and Saggies was to be the ultimate match. You both are very bold and same in many ways

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I can’t read this. Aries prefers short stories, not novels. Give me the short version, then maybe I can help

lol. Yes I realize aries like the short version of everything it seems.

I was trying to type you a short version but I will not waist my time. The details are there. If your attention span can not handle it then I understand. Your advise would have been nice but "it is what it is"

If I have time later, and my attention span can handle it, I’ll copy paste it into Word, so I can divide up the text a bit, that should make it easier to read. I may be impatient, but I’m also curious about the story - we’ll see what side of me wins in the end, lol

Lol, Yea okay. I would appreciate it. Like I said this guy is older than men been married, has more experience and I just expected more maturity I feel I should have just stuck to my guns and taken it slowly at my pace. I appreciate all the wonderful sides of him. He tells me to correct him when he is doing things that are not good for him but in the same breath or when it actually happens he ask me to allow him to "drink" for example because of the stress he is under. Sometimes people need that he says. The other time he says to put my foot down. I can't win for loosing with him. I just don't understand how he can say all these wonderful things about me, say he feels so happy with me one minute and then all of a sudden you just hang up in the face of someone you say you care about. I'm going to try one last time to call him later today to see if that was on purpose me calling him back and not answering. The hang up in the face I can handle because he whatever upset or immature, but the me call and him not picking up I need to understand because that is just way to childish and this is not high school we are adults and he would not allow that behavior from me so why should I allow that shit. It better had been a reception issue or something. I just want vibes to be back as it was in the beginning.

Oh, aries men never truly grow up. Maybe when they’re 70...

Do you know his chart? He sounds more emotional and dramatic than the average aries, really. Maybe he has a badly aspected water moon or something. I, personally, wouldn’t say I act as hot and cold as he does, so I can’t relate. But I see this behavior with pisces moons.

I will say one thing, though. If he says all these wonderful things about you, they’re most likely true, and his temper tantrums are because of his insecurities. They don’t change how he feels about you. When we give out compliments, we mean every word.

But something must be going on with him, that is the impression I’m getting. Maybe he’s going through something, and that doesn’t need to have anything to do with you. I would ask him, calm, openly and with no judgment, if anything’s bothering him

I am not sure his chart. All I know he was born 3/25/1970. Sometimes I am not sure about the things he says especially when he is emotional or drunk. I understand he is under stress so that is why i am wondering should i just back off not ask him what is going on or add fuel to the fire about the way he has been acting towards me after I have tried to be supportive. But if I back off me being an Aquarius I will not call you at all. I just don't want him to turn around and say I was not there for him or I am playing games not taking this relationship serious as he has said he does not like distance and he is used to hearing from the person he is with all day. He calls me before work, any small break he gets, at lunch, when he leave work, when he leaves the gym, when he gets home. etc....So that is why i felt odd when I never herd from him at the orientation but then he lied said he called me. I don;t know if it was because of the hotel. But he called and I herd nothing, then he called the house phone and the reception was good. But after that last conversation he hung up in my face I called him like 15 times. and that is not something I do but he pressed my buttons and I tried so hard not to let him push me there. Again I am trying to think positive but I dont want to be naive to his bad behavior.....

So he just called me now after his orientation. I was very kind did not bring up last night him hanging up in my face. He sound so depressed and down. All he is saying is he does not have any money and he needs to see if the workers comp sent him his check and if they paid he yet from his job...so my question is BLL what is this is he using me expecting me to fee him till he gets back on his foot. Was last night just a simple him being insecure why he hung up but its the me call him several times that is bothering me.

He said he would call me when he gets back home so I can come over. I did not say to him we need to talk. Should I bring this up? I don't know what is going on. Is he bipolar like he said he thought he was. Please open my eyes on this.

Since I don’t know his birth place or exact birth time, I can’t know for sure, but it looks like he may have a scorpio moon. If so, yes, he is really sensitive.

Yea, I would rather stay close, than to back off, if I were you. Because yes, if people give me too much space, that sometimes makes me think they don’t care.

I really don’t know... I don’t know if he’s trying to use you or not. Aries’ will usually try to handle things themselves in my experience, but we do appreciate some loving support from our dear ones. If he thinks he’s bipolar, then that might be it... It could explain a lot of things imo. Is he getting treatment for that? Some medicine? He should look into that. A friend of mine is bipolar, she’s doing so much better now, she’s taking some kind of medicine

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BLL it seems if you suggest something to him he will think you are judging him. His mother suggested therapy and it did not sit to well with him. I was thinking he had some type of Scorpio also in him. Yes i'm not sure about the using me either I know he is in a very rough spot. I know that he really spoils me when things are good and he treats my family good to. I don't know however long this will last much longer but I am going to try to suggest some type of help when he is back on his foot. Even if I have to drive him my self and wait in the car or something. My biggest thing with him is trying to get him to understand that there is so much more to life then the life he has already had. He doesn't seem to believe in good people. Things that are too good to be true he will argue against. For example if someone quotes him a good price on something he will are that there is a scheme.

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Aaaw 😢 It’s not so easy for us sometimes... What sign are you?

Sagittarius ❤️ I loved him deeply. That was the roughest relationship I've ever endured. It gave me anxiety and panic attacks 😔 He tried to destroy me. Thankful I broke free and divorced his ass. 11 years later and I can say that insecure people are the worst because insecurity opens the door to MANY other struggles.

I knew it!! I lost a sag friend because I was too sensitive/she was too unrealiable (depends on how you look at it). I think sag/aries can be a challenging match.

Sorry you went through that 😢

I thought Aries and Saggies was to be the ultimate match. You both are very bold and same in many ways

It’s great in the beginning, but I generally find sags too unreliable, too blunt, too selfish, and I think they need someone who are more accepting of this. There’s just not room for TWO blunt and selfish bastards in one relationship 😌 I certainly haven’t been able to deal with it in the long run so far. I’ve seen them work better with leos

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Yes I have a friend married to a leo that is Sagg, but he is more home body than her. She wears the pants in the relationship I can tell you that.

Sorry if I missed it, but where's his birth chart?

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Sorry if I missed it, but where's his birth chart?

I don't know it. but he is born 3/25/1970

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I can’t read this. Aries prefers short stories, not novels. Give me the short version, then maybe I can help

lol. Yes I realize aries like the short version of everything it seems.

I was trying to type you a short version but I will not waist my time. The details are there. If your attention span can not handle it then I understand. Your advise would have been nice but "it is what it is"

If I have time later, and my attention span can handle it, I’ll copy paste it into Word, so I can divide up the text a bit, that should make it easier to read. I may be impatient, but I’m also curious about the story - we’ll see what side of me wins in the end, lol

Lol, Yea okay. I would appreciate it. Like I said this guy is older than men been married, has more experience and I just expected more maturity I feel I should have just stuck to my guns and taken it slowly at my pace. I appreciate all the wonderful sides of him. He tells me to correct him when he is doing things that are not good for him but in the same breath or when it actually happens he ask me to allow him to "drink" for example because of the stress he is under. Sometimes people need that he says. The other time he says to put my foot down. I can't win for loosing with him. I just don't understand how he can say all these wonderful things about me, say he feels so happy with me one minute and then all of a sudden you just hang up in the face of someone you say you care about. I'm going to try one last time to call him later today to see if that was on purpose me calling him back and not answering. The hang up in the face I can handle because he whatever upset or immature, but the me call and him not picking up I need to understand because that is just way to childish and this is not high school we are adults and he would not allow that behavior from me so why should I allow that shit. It better had been a reception issue or something. I just want vibes to be back as it was in the beginning.

Oh, aries men never truly grow up. Maybe when they’re 70...

Do you know his chart? He sounds more emotional and dramatic than the average aries, really. Maybe he has a badly aspected water moon or something. I, personally, wouldn’t say I act as hot and cold as he does, so I can’t relate. But I see this behavior with pisces moons.

I will say one thing, though. If he says all these wonderful things about you, they’re most likely true, and his temper tantrums are because of his insecurities. They don’t change how he feels about you. When we give out compliments, we mean every word.

But something must be going on with him, that is the impression I’m getting. Maybe he’s going through something, and that doesn’t need to have anything to do with you. I would ask him, calm, openly and with no judgment, if anything’s bothering him

I am not sure his chart. All I know he was born 3/25/1970. Sometimes I am not sure about the things he says especially when he is emotional or drunk. I understand he is under stress so that is why i am wondering should i just back off not ask him what is going on or add fuel to the fire about the way he has been acting towards me after I have tried to be supportive. But if I back off me being an Aquarius I will not call you at all. I just don't want him to turn around and say I was not there for him or I am playing games not taking this relationship serious as he has said he does not like distance and he is used to hearing from the person he is with all day. He calls me before work, any small break he gets, at lunch, when he leave work, when he leaves the gym, when he gets home. etc....So that is why i felt odd when I never herd from him at the orientation but then he lied said he called me. I don;t know if it was because of the hotel. But he called and I herd nothing, then he called the house phone and the reception was good. But after that last conversation he hung up in my face I called him like 15 times. and that is not something I do but he pressed my buttons and I tried so hard not to let him push me there. Again I am trying to think positive but I dont want to be naive to his bad behavior.....

So he just called me now after his orientation. I was very kind did not bring up last night him hanging up in my face. He sound so depressed and down. All he is saying is he does not have any money and he needs to see if the workers comp sent him his check and if they paid he yet from his job...so my question is BLL what is this is he using me expecting me to fee him till he gets back on his foot. Was last night just a simple him being insecure why he hung up but its the me call him several times that is bothering me.

He said he would call me when he gets back home so I can come over. I did not say to him we need to talk. Should I bring this up? I don't know what is going on. Is he bipolar like he said he thought he was. Please open my eyes on this.

Since I don’t know his birth place or exact birth time, I can’t know for sure, but it looks like he may have a scorpio moon. If so, yes, he is really sensitive.

Yea, I would rather stay close, than to back off, if I were you. Because yes, if people give me too much space, that sometimes makes me think they don’t care.

I really don’t know... I don’t know if he’s trying to use you or not. Aries’ will usually try to handle things themselves in my experience, but we do appreciate some loving support from our dear ones. If he thinks he’s bipolar, then that might be it... It could explain a lot of things imo. Is he getting treatment for that? Some medicine? He should look into that. A friend of mine is bipolar, she’s doing so much better now, she’s taking some kind of medicine

BLL it seems if you suggest something to him he will think you are judging him. His mother suggested therapy and it did not sit to well with him. I was thinking he had some type of Scorpio also in him. Yes i'm not sure about the using me either I know he is in a very rough spot. I know that he really spoils me when things are good and he treats my family good to. I don't know however long this will last much longer but I am going to try to suggest some type of help when he is back on his foot. Even if I have to drive him my self and wait in the car or something. My biggest thing with him is trying to get him to understand that there is so much more to life then the life he has already had. He doesn't seem to believe in good people. Things that are too good to be true he will argue against. For example if someone quotes him a good price on something he will are that there is a scheme.

I’m sure that can be a very difficult process, maybe he’s even in denial a bit. Idk, you know him, I don’t. He sounds like my scorpio moon brother in some ways, though, and he used to have anxiety, so we have gone through a tough process with him. It’s not easy. You seem to have his best interests at heart, though, so he’s lucky to have you! I hope it works out. But make sure to take care of yourself too...

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Yea that is what I am trying to do. Like I said I don't want to break his man hood. I dont want to overstep my boundaries. I am not his wife or anything. I want to help him recover, i just don't know. I am walking on egg shells all the time and I have to be focused on the things that are going on in my life I try not to place my burdens on others. I want to help my self and everyone else too

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

You're welcome!

Yes, insecurity is the root, unfortunately. And there is nothing you'll be able to do to help him overcome it. My ex-hubby was insecure. He appeared confident but behind closed doors he felt inadequate because of PAST issues. Your man's issues have NOTHING to do with you. Nothing. But, you'll receive the blunt force of it because 1) You're intimate with him and 2) He's not ready to look within. Be warned: Your peace will be tested time and time again. He needs to get therapy WITHOUT you. You may need it SEPARATELY for yourself. Whatever you do, DO NOT marry him before then ❤️

Hoping you can find your peace again much sooner, than later.

Wow! Thank you for that. That is the truth. I feel bad about this whole thing. I feel I can't help. His mother told him the exact you said that he needs therapy. I guess I am just looking for a way to pull him up out of what he is going through but it is affecting me and my happiness I was depressed all day today. And for me like I said I am self employed I have contracts I work on from home and I am working on a business and ways to build my income higher and higher, for me time is money so I have to always stay busy. My brother is sick and he just moved into town and we are not spending enough time together. He has a bad sickness and he is trying to go about it naturally he says he rather die that way than do surgery. So all these things are bothering me I want to be there for everyone yet I can not even be there for myself.

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"...but I can't even be there for myself." This is the truth for many. The good thing is, you recognize it. We can't heal something we don't recognize.

Inositol. Powder form. eBay. Buy it. ASAP. It's B-vitamin derived. Look it up. It'll take away the cyclical thoughts causing your depression. Be encouraged ❤️

ElderWisdomCircle.org if you need additional advice ❤️

You are important. Don't allow other people's baggage to become yours while they sleep well at night. You are not his savior. But you can SAVE YOURSELF ❤️

Seek therapy for you. Express to your brother that you're emotionally exhausted and just need some personal time to recoup ❤️

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Sorry if I missed it, but where's his birth chart?

I don't know it. but he is born 3/25/1970

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Any idea of time or place?

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Aaaw 😢 It’s not so easy for us sometimes... What sign are you?

Sagittarius ❤️ I loved him deeply. That was the roughest relationship I've ever endured. It gave me anxiety and panic attacks 😔 He tried to destroy me. Thankful I broke free and divorced his ass. 11 years later and I can say that insecure people are the worst because insecurity opens the door to MANY other struggles.

Sweatpea that is what I am afraid of. Is if this thing gets too deep what other rollercoasters are in store for me. Will he go off the edge mental as he feels everything is bad luck for him and goes against him. What else is in store. I hate this feeling of wanting to end it but at least I will be free

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Seek your peace ❤️ Its priceless. Be free.

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

You're welcome!

Yes, insecurity is the root, unfortunately. And there is nothing you'll be able to do to help him overcome it. My ex-hubby was insecure. He appeared confident but behind closed doors he felt inadequate because of PAST issues. Your man's issues have NOTHING to do with you. Nothing. But, you'll receive the blunt force of it because 1) You're intimate with him and 2) He's not ready to look within. Be warned: Your peace will be tested time and time again. He needs to get therapy WITHOUT you. You may need it SEPARATELY for yourself. Whatever you do, DO NOT marry him before then ❤️

Hoping you can find your peace again much sooner, than later.

Wow! Thank you for that. That is the truth. I feel bad about this whole thing. I feel I can't help. His mother told him the exact you said that he needs therapy. I guess I am just looking for a way to pull him up out of what he is going through but it is affecting me and my happiness I was depressed all day today. And for me like I said I am self employed I have contracts I work on from home and I am working on a business and ways to build my income higher and higher, for me time is money so I have to always stay busy. My brother is sick and he just moved into town and we are not spending enough time together. He has a bad sickness and he is trying to go about it naturally he says he rather die that way than do surgery. So all these things are bothering me I want to be there for everyone yet I can not even be there for myself.

"...but I can't even be there for myself." This is the truth for many. The good thing is, you recognize it. We can't heal something we don't recognize.

Inositol. Powder form. eBay. Buy it. ASAP. It's B-vitamin derived. Look it up. It'll take away the cyclical thoughts causing your depression. Be encouraged ❤️

ElderWisdomCircle.org if you need additional advice ❤️

You are important. Don't allow other people's baggage to become yours while they sleep well at night. You are not his savior. But you can SAVE YOURSELF ❤️

Seek therapy for you. Express to your brother that you're emotionally exhausted and just need some personal time to recoup ❤️

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Yes I need some of that B-12. Thank you for your encouragement, I know I have to keep my self first. I just have to have to. I have such a weakness for helping people. I have to cut that shit out. I was on a good roll for a while and then BOOM here comes Mr. Aries.

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Sorry if I missed it, but where's his birth chart?

I don't know it. but he is born 3/25/1970

Any idea of time or place?

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No idea of the time. place is in North Carolina

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Your man is insecure. That is the ROOT to all of the other issues. He's pretty childish too.

Sweetpea I was hoping that was not the case because he walks around so confident all the time always making people laugh etc. We had an issue once while having sex. He asked me if my goodies was his. Normally i always say yes to him but this time i was very hesitant and closed up because just early we had this huge blow up and he doesnt understand that when he does things like that it closes me back up especially when I have trusted him and open up and try to express my feelings as an Aquarius. Anyways as I as about to say yes it was his..he blew up saying that I hurt his feeling and he knows his cookies is not big enough but he does his best with it. He said I laugh in his face when all I was doing was blushing and looking at him.

I should have kept my damn legs closed from him. You are saying the insecurity is the "ROOT". I will think about that some more. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🙂

I haven’t read the whole story, but yes, aries’ are secretly insecure, even if we walk around all confident. If we get the impression that you’re laughing at us or whatever, it will hurt our feelings, and we’ll set our foot down - ‘no one treats me this way!!’ bla bla bla 🙃

Oh WOW. My ex was born April 11th. What an insecure f***tard he was 🤦 He forced me to stop loving him. He was TOO MUCH work.

Run.

Aaaw 😢 It’s not so easy for us sometimes... What sign are you?

Sagittarius ❤️ I loved him deeply. That was the roughest relationship I've ever endured. It gave me anxiety and panic attacks 😔 He tried to destroy me. Thankful I broke free and divorced his ass. 11 years later and I can say that insecure people are the worst because insecurity opens the door to MANY other struggles.

Sweatpea that is what I am afraid of. Is if this thing gets too deep what other rollercoasters are in store for me. Will he go off the edge mental as he feels everything is bad luck for him and goes against him. What else is in store. I hate this feeling of wanting to end it but at least I will be free

Seek your peace ❤️ Its priceless. Be free.

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Yes it is. I have learned so much about the importance of peace from a Pisces. Would not let anything get in the way of happiness and a peaceful home. I need to continue that path.

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What's your moon, Aqua?

This is what I received. I'm not entirely sure how true. My dob is 1/29/1988 his is 3/25/1970. The time is unknown for both of us but this is what I have for myself

Sun Aquarius 9°01'

Moon Gemini 23°16'

Mercury Aquarius 26°57'

Venus Pisces 17°02'

Mars Sagittarius 14°05'

Jupiter Aries 23°06'

Saturn Sagittarius 28°36'

Uranus Sagittarius 29°16'

Neptune Capricorn 8°51'

Pluto Scorpio 12°31'

Lilith Leo 18°13'

Asc node Pisces 24°08'



if this is true is it bad that my moon is in Gemini...Are Gemini nice people? lol just kidding

lol oh boy. I guess i need to do some research on myself lol. I don't feel like I have 2 personalities 🙂

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lol oh boy. I guess i need to do some research on myself lol. I don't feel like I have 2 personalities 🙂

That's not entirely what having a Gemini moon means though.

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lol oh boy. I guess i need to do some research on myself lol. I don't feel like I have 2 personalities 🙂

That's not entirely what having a Gemini moon means though.

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of course "not entirely" but what does it mean? what are the good things about having a Gemini moon

Well he is back home now. He is just well, depressed. I did not mention anything about yesterday and how I feel about his behavior. I just can see in his eyes and face the depression. Once i'm done with my online activities I will join him in bed. There will be no bedding me tonight I can say that much. I don't want to seem selfish bringing up relationship issues while he is going through this period. He doesn't seem to grumpy just st8 depression. I try to be up lifting but it is only words...i'm waiting for a good moment to bring up yesterday

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Sounds very toxic after reading your OP. His reliance on you is eventually going to wear you down. Doesn't sound like a good relationship at all.

Tell me about it 😢

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You know, I stopped reading your text after that: " I really like this guy and have accepted all his bad flaws...." That's the thing, we always accept people whom we romantically involved, but they never fully accept us. Do You want to live like this?

Nailed it!

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Sorry if I missed it, but where's his birth chart?

Hey! Can you do birth or synastry also? Can you? 🤝