Aries and apologies

Do aries apologize or do they just pick up like nothing happened after a fight?

I won't apologize if I was not wrong just to keep the peace as some signs will. I will apologize when and if I realize I was wrong. But that is SO rare. 😉

see I knew it....I get a message today from my aries and I'm like did you not remember that I am irritated at you about something—? Why are you acting like we just spoke yesterday??

stop trying to tip my scales!

I just read your other thread. There's some serious history between the two of you. One thing to know about an Aries, is that we hate being picked at ( nagged). I'm not saying you are but you've got to 'bottom line' issues with an Aries. Get it all in one general point (and make it a dousy!). My Mom's a Libra. I love her but she can drive me crazy with how much she talks and how far she scatters subjects. If you discuss problems that way with your Aries, he may tune you out and get angry even if what you're saying is valid.

Try to formulate what you want in a solid, concise way. Timing is important too. Do it when he seems receptive. If he truly cares, he should listen.

yeah I did...it was kind of long winded but it had 1 point in it and it was.....treat me better or tell me wtf is wrong with you! I think he was just looking for a way to say something to me without addressing what I said.....maybe a I'm going to show you better than I could ever say it thing? I'm not sure. Also he turned the conversation sexual but when I replied back the same way I just got.....silence. I think I shocked him which is soooo un-aries like (from what I've read) I always have to find that one that is sooo outside the norm. ARGH!

"I get a message today from my aries and I'm like did you not remember that I am irritated at you about something—? Why are you acting like we just spoke yesterday??"


You sound very emotionally needy .. him making you irritated isn't really anything for him to apologize about, if when he tries to talk to you in normal fashion .. you would freak out about him acting normal.

thanks p-angel. but emotionally needy is not me! If you had the year I have you'd be a bit unstable too! however I was irritated because I HATE repeating the same issues and to me when you don't address an issue in the relationship there is a higher probability of it repeating than not. and when it repeats it escalates thus the irritation.

That's exactly what it is .. though you cannot see it.

You're unhappy because he won't bend to your standards of what is right and what is wrong .. so, your aim is to change him to satisfy how you feel ... that is being emotionally needy.

You say hate with caps, which indicates you hate it really bad .. yet, continue to attempting to get him to apologize or whatever atonement you deem is appropriate to soothe these feelings of hate for you.

That's being emotionally needy, KrazyLibra ... if once you bite into the apple and find it's bad, then throw it away. If you continue to eat it, then it's YOU who has the issues.

Yes. If they haven't moved on by then.

I have kept my irritation to myself. I'm simply venting....thanks next time I'll keep it to myself. I didn't sit up and say "let's talk about what happened last week" ya da ya da ya da. I simply wanted to know if this was an aries trait because I always apologize when I believe I'm wrong or have irritated someone and it is was mostly my fault. Therefore I wanted to know if it was an aries trait to just brush over the situation, or if they don't say anything and just change the behavior..........however this is the only external place that I have stated this feeling........

That's being emotionally needy, KrazyLibra ... if once you bite into the apple and find it's bad, then throw it away. If you continue to eat it, then it's YOU who has the issues.

Ive bitten enough bad apples and threw them out to know when one is bad, and this one is not. This relationship is different than any relationship either one of us has had so we are both asking questions and stumbling along the way. He tries to figure it out on his own where as I ask what I don't know. And I capitalized HATE because I don't want to lose him thus my fear and dislike for having the issue reappear. I love this man and I thought I would never love again.....that is what you see coming through! Not emotionally needy. I am vulnerable right now when it comes to romantic relationships.

If I were emotionally needy I definately would not be where I am today in life! Also I take offense to people making a generalized assessment of me because I ask for advice. I asked the question so I could find the best way to reach a happy medium or compromise that will allow him to tell me how he feels and vice versa......his feelings count as much as mine! A relationship is 50/50 not 70 women/ 30 man. I hope this clears things up for you!

I don't either....I don't believe in apologizing when I'm not wrong however if I am I will. I was angry/irritated because I got the good old Aries blow up...which put me in the frame of mind of "who does he think he is I know he must be crazy!" So my point in wondering about this is...I hope he doesn't think this type of behavior flies which I told him...just wondering because he never mentioned it 5 days later if he understood that.