Aries man pissed off and now he's ignoring me.

*ADVICE PLEASE* I'm a Leo, and I've been involved with my Aries guy for 3 1/2 yrs now but we've been exclusive for 7 months. This is the scenario, he has always stated that he want to see the other side of me ( the bad side when a Leo get mad) and I don't understand why because it not good......Fast forward, we had our normal conversation on July 4th and I started joking around like I normally do....he got mad (out the blue) and went off on me and I went off on him in the worst way ever......we have not communicated since we got into that heated argument, I also hung the phone up in his face. As a Leo i'm very stubborn and so is he. I'm wondering how long will he ignore me, being that this was our first big argument .

Ignore him. He'll come around eventually if he really likes/loves you. Plus, that will show if he loves/likes you bc he'll stop being prideful for you.

i'd ignore you too

@ Depressedarian, and LillyBlossom, that's exactly what I have been doing....ignoring him. I know he love me because he has confessed it many many times, but what I don't understand is why did he want to see me get mad or why did he provoke me to that point.....I have been cool as a cucumber for the entire 4 years. I have always given into him when we had our little spats, but this time I absolutely refuse to put my pride aside and let him win again...not this time. @ Housecleaning, thanks for your childish comment. lol

Getting to know you at your worst is knowing the COMPLETE you and that includes when you get angry. In the begining people always put their best foots forward (i.e. they are a bit fake).That doesn't tell you anything about a persons character, what really gives you a sense of someones character is when someone is at their worst. And besides you can not expect to be lovey dovey, no argument, and care-free in the relationship forever. Be real. Plus I've read that relationships with no arguments are not always the best, it means someones not saying how they really feel and thats not good. Arguing is good once and a while and it makes for good make-up sex. I'm sure he was just curious to see ALL of you.

@ Feby, we started out as real good friends because I had just gotten divorce after a almost 22 yr marriage and he is recently divorced, so that's why we've only been exclusive (dating) for 7 months, but we have the most amazing chemistry and passion that either of us has ever experienced in any of our relationships. We were having our normal conversation and I wanted to see him because I hadn't seen him in probably a week or so, because I work and go to school and he also work crazy hours....he said that he was going to spend time with his kids......and I said as a joke (like I always do) " are you going to see another woman, if so I'm gonna get you." We both laughed and agreed that we would see each other later, being that I was going to spend time with my family for the 4th of July. Moments later he got angry and wanted to end the call and started talking very dry to me. I ask him was he mad because i was joking like I always do, and he just went off on me, and I listen for a couple of minutes and I cursed his ass out and told him he was selfish, and very inconsiderate about my feelings and I gave him so other choice words, and then I hung the phone up in his face. I hate to get mad with anyone because I know me and my mouth along with my temper. So that is pretty much it Feby in a nutshell, but Aries men are something serious.....but Leos don't back down from anyone when you make us mad, and we definitely don't take anything back once it's out....Leos will only forgive....but will never apologize....at least I won't.

I don't think you did anything wrong on your part??_ but I'm pretty stubborn too about my way lol. I think your plan of waiting is good. If he's upset and has something to say to you he should so in a mature manner none of this passive aggressive bullshit. Stick to your guns and draw the boundaries. He should know that his behavior was not ok.

@ Feby, well he definitely didn't get the bitchy side, he got the sting-y real insult and hurt side. I hate it had to come down to this, but he kept asking for it, and he kept provoking me until I gave him exactly what he wanted. I don't know how this is going to end, but I know I won't apologize for what I said to him because it needed to be said.

@ Xtina, my thoughts exactly ! I absolutely hate my temper and I hate it more when someone continue to push me to make the vicious Leo come out, because it's no coming back once a person make me angry. 😢

@ Curiousram, that's my plan, normally i'll give into him and take the blame even when I know i'm right, but this time I refuse to let him win, when clearly he was wrong.

@ Feby, yes he's definitely use to me giving in and letting him be right when he clearly know he's wrong. And in my heart my conscience is very clear, and the only thing I regret is allowing him to push me to the point of cursing him out, I have worked hard to keep my temper under control because I know how nasty I can be and my words cut worst than a double edge sword, so that's why I feel so damn bad. I'm also working on trying to be apologetic, however, i'm not one of those Leo's that go in for the kill when I know i'm right..... I guess because my 4 Libra placements in my chart can account for that. lol

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@ Feby, yes he's definitely use to me giving in and letting him be right when he clearly know he's wrong. And in my heart my conscience is very clear, and the only thing I regret is allowing him to push me to the point of cursing him out, I have worked hard to keep my temper under control because I know how nasty I can be and my words cut worst than a double edge sword, so that's why I feel so damn bad. I'm also working on trying to be apologetic, however, i'm not one of those Leo's that go in for the kill when I know i'm right..... I guess because my 4 Libra placements in my chart can account for that. lol

Oh sweetie, I absolutely understand you when it comes to not being as aggressive as your fire sun because of Libra placements lol it can make you give in a little bit more and be more passive. I'm an Aries and I follow what the other person is doing, as others have described in here. However, if I feel I was mistreated and that a man can't handle the intense facets of my personality, then fine. He can marinate in that bruised ego for now. He will be back, trust me. Stand your ground.

@ curiousram, I have learned that, but that's so not cool. I'm so glad that I have as many Libra placements as I do because it makes me overlook a lot of things because I like to keep the peace.
@ Feby, those Libra placements....smh, I tell ya...it can be good when trying to always trying to keep peace and understanding everyone side, but on the flip side once a person tilt my scales and they become off balanced.....it's hell to pay. My Libra placements are my moon, Venus, Jupiter, and Uranus. I actually like my different placement because it make me well rounded. I'm glad I have enough fire in my chart to make me always stand firm in my decision once I have made my mind up on certain matters, so i'll never allow anyone regardless of sign sway me when I've made my mind up, and I'm glad that you've adopted that same mentality.
@ Twodrinkminumum, I totally agree with you, but only to a certain extent , and my reason for that is....I have always given into him and this time I just feel that it's necessary for me to stand firm on what I believe in because the cause of the argument wasn't that serious, in my opinion, he made a mountain out of a molehill, and this time I'm gonna have to sit back and wait until he misses me enough to come to me, even though this is killing me deep down inside. It's a must that I follow through.
@ Xomelindabelle, I've recently started studying the zodiacs because I've always wonder why I would always give in to people most of the time, as well as understanding everyone perspective of any situation, and I guess you know.....I found it was because I have 4 Libra placements is way, so I have learned how to work with them as well my other fire placements.....I believe it's 3 of them. However, I will continue to stand my ground with my Aries guy, even though I want to reach out to him because I know he's missing me as much as I'm missing him. 😢
@ Bmoon8, Exactly, and I know I hurt his feelings when I cursed him out, but I love my big baby !

He will come back. You need to compromosie this time. Put your ego aside and let him taste a victory this time. It´s a small lost, it´s hard for our ego, but it´s a long term victory for you, and both. 3 years, first "fight" only this year? that´s a world record for Aries/leos couples. Must have lots of cancer placements in your chart

...if you love him of course. If not why let down our ego? 😉

@ Leo500, I guess i'll have to be the bigger person this time and put my ego aside (again), just so he can claim the victory, I just think it's so unfair that Aries are so stubborn.....lol, but I can sometimes see myself in him, because he is such a challenge, but he calm me like no one has ever. I actually have 4 Libra placement, so that why I easily give in, but I still let the Leo on in me roar sometimes. I also have Mars in Leo and Sagittarius rising.

Do not back down for the Aries. We are extremely stubborn and we can see everything as a battle in terms of who is going to back down and who is going to win

Our stubbornness is different to the Leo stubbornness - ours can be borne out of anger and Leos can be borne out of "yeah whatever I will just do my own thing"

Idk... If he wanted that side to come out of you maybe he was looking for a bit more passion or emotion coz as u say, u always backed down for him. Maybe he found u a bit one-dimensional. That can be very boring for an Aries.

You need to continue the stand off in order for him to come back. You need to break him lol, break the stubbornness - then you will have no more of these childish battles of wills which you end up having to give in to.

Just go do your own thing, but if he comes back to you, know that this is a big deal, so don't play any games and be sincere. If that's what u want

@ AriesGirl74, thanks for the insight, I will continue to stand my ground because i'm tired of all of this situation, and he know i'm not one to play games, and i'm very sincere.....I just don't get some of this stuff. We should be loving on each other rather than being distant and not communicating. I absolutely hate when a person piss me off because I don't always retract from how i'm feeling being that I'm such a happy go lucky person. He's not going to get off that easy so I'll continue to stand my ground....even though it's killing me inside because I hate to be mean. 🙂

I'm an Aries and I don't get mad easily but when I do it get furious and all I see if red. I'm pretty sure he'll get over it and come back to you.

@ Peter543, I hope he come around soon because this is really taken a toll on me. I hate he kept pushing my buttons. He clearly knows that i'm not a push over. So why do Aries test their mate or potential mates ? Inquiring minds want to know.

He probably just wants to see how bad you can really get and see if you'll both still be compatible. I've never been one to test my mates but I have a Cancer moon so idk if that has anything to do with it.

@ Peter543 , i'm not sure why, all I know is he has consistently said that he wanted to see the other side (the bad side) of me. Well he finally got it after close to 4 yrs, but the only person that it's hurting is me. I have 4 Libra placements that makes me very mild manner, I love peace, I hate confrontation and arguments, but the Leo in me is always cat napping and is not dead, so when people constantly try me and get the reaction the Leo roar , and it's not a pretty site. My Aries guy have a Taurus moon, and Cancer rising.

Posted by Loyal Lioness
*ADVICE PLEASE* I'm a Leo, and I've been involved with my Aries guy for 3 1/2 yrs now but we've been exclusive for 7 months. This is the scenario, he has always stated that he want to see the other side of me ( the bad side when a Leo get mad) and I don't understand why because it not good......Fast forward, we had our normal conversation on July 4th and I started joking around like I normally do....he got mad (out the blue) and went off on me and I went off on him in the worst way ever......we have not communicated since we got into that heated argument, I also hung the phone up in his face. As a Leo i'm very stubborn and so is he. I'm wondering how long will he ignore me, being that this was our first big argument .

"UPDATE" So, my Aries finally called me and we talked, but i'm still so very confused. He stated that he thought I didn't ever want to talk to him again.....WTF was that about ? I asked him why would he think that, when I absolutely love to be around him because he calm me. I told him how I felt and he told me that he was sorry, but he wasn't trying to see the other side of me. He said: " He wonder what the other side was like".....smdh, I told him: " that he consistently stated that " he want to see the other side", and I stood my ground on that was what he said, and he laughed and said ok......why did he laugh ? I really think he is trying to piss me off again. We talked for about 15 minutes, and the conversation was short, neither one of us had much to say....so I honestly don't know how this is going to work out....He texted me later that night and said: "are you busy", I texted back and said "no, what's up, he texted back and said: "nothing nevermind", I texted back and said: "are you ok", he texted back and said: "yea", I texted back and said: "ok". So any insight on what might be going on in his mind would be great because I am so damn confused and I'm missing him like crazy, but I want to give him his space.

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*ADVICE PLEASE* I'm a Leo, and I've been involved with my Aries guy for 3 1/2 yrs now but we've been exclusive for 7 months. This is the scenario, he has always stated that he want to see the other side of me ( the bad side when a Leo get mad) and I don't understand why because it not good......Fast forward, we had our normal conversation on July 4th and I started joking around like I normally do....he got mad (out the blue) and went off on me and I went off on him in the worst way ever......we have not communicated since we got into that heated argument, I also hung the phone up in his face. As a Leo i'm very stubborn and so is he. I'm wondering how long will he ignore me, being that this was our first big argument .

"UPDATE" So, my Aries finally called me and we talked, but i'm still so very confused. He stated that he thought I didn't ever want to talk to him again.....WTF was that about ? I asked him why would he think that, when I absolutely love to be around him because he calm me. I told him how I felt and he told me that he was sorry, but he wasn't trying to see the other side of me. He said: " He wonder what the other side was like".....smdh, I told him: " that he consistently stated that " he want to see the other side", and I stood my ground on that was what he said, and he laughed and said ok......why did he laugh ? I really think he is trying to piss me off again. We talked for about 15 minutes, and the conversation was short, neither one of us had much to say....so I honestly don't know how this is going to work out....He texted me later that night and said: "are you busy", I texted back and said "no, what's up, he texted back and said: "nothing nevermind", I texted back and said: "are you ok", he texted back and said: "yea", I texted back and said: "ok". So any insight on what might be going on in his mind would be great because I am so damn confused and I'm missing him like crazy, but I want to give him his space.

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Dear lord, this sounds JUST like the Aries man I recently dealt with. When I shared my feelings and stated things he did, he either laughed or replied with "lol" constantly. It's infuriating, and it hurts. Trust me, I know how it feels. And Aries can put up a cold front if they really want to. I have t

too many air placements to do that, my Libra moon being much stronger than my Aries sun. So I'm a softy and give in. I can't understand the nonchalant, icy side of Aries when they're upset -- he's still butthurt. Freakin' arrogant, I swear. I'm sorry he's doing this to you, I hope he gets over his strong Arian ego soon!! Don't contact him just yet, let yourself feel your feelings and have your process -- I know you have Libra placements too, so just allow yourself that time to find peace before you talk again, your Libran nature needs it, as well as your Lion heart. I love Leos

@ Xomelindabelle, I have a Libra moon, Venus is in Libra, Jupiter is in Libra and Uranus in Libra. He is really breaking my heart and it seems like he don't even care....I know he love me because he always tell me, so that's why I don't understand this behavior. I'm like the average female because I give him his space and keep myself busy doing my own thing. But it's only so much I can take before I just walk away and 'NEVER LOOK BACK". I'm literally in tears because I don't understand why i'm getting this treatment.......this is so unfair. ;(

Typo ~ I'm NOT like the average female.

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@OP, it's not you, it's him. Aries can be such sons of bitches.

It depends on their placements; I've certainly met some who were missing a sensitivity chip. And I've wanted to bitch slap them. I'm an Aries sun with little to no relation to the sign; my heart and mind bleed my Libran mood and ascendant!

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@ Xomelindabelle, I have a Libra moon, Venus is in Libra, Jupiter is in Libra and Uranus in Libra. He is really breaking my heart and it seems like he don't even care....I know he love me because he always tell me, so that's why I don't understand this behavior. I'm like the average female because I give him his space and keep myself busy doing my own thing. But it's only so much I can take before I just walk away and 'NEVER LOOK BACK". I'm literally in tears because I don't understand why i'm getting this treatment.......this is so unfair. ;(

Wow, yeah you're going to be very open emotionally, so it hurts when a very Arian person acts unaffected. However, it's easy for you to acclimate to someone's need for space. But I know you're probably aching that during that distance. It's crazy, Libras will require and create space, but it still hurts. Especially if we feel a disconnect. At least, for me. it does.
I understand you being in tears, I am a lot 😛 especially over my romantic connections.
Just give it a day or two and then say your piece, if he doesn't listen to you, tell him you're thinking of ending it. You need to be respected.

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I wonder about the content of your joke. If it was at his expense...

LillyBlossom, I always joke with him about not responding back to me when I call / text or leave some type of message.....I say: "you're gonna make me choke you", he, we always laugh about it and that's just the gist of it....he on the other hand decided to state this particular day that....and he said: "do you think i'm talking to someone else". I said: "no, but since you brought it up, are you", we both laughed about it, and then.....5 minutes later he turned cold and started going off on me, and that's when I went back off on him. In addition, I never act overly emotional around him unless he's talking crazy or acting impulsive and even then I tell him to get it together because his kids are depending on him.

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@OP, it's not you, it's him. Aries can be such sons of bitches.

It depends on their placements; I've certainly met some who were missing a sensitivity chip. And I've wanted to bitch slap them. I'm an Aries sun with little to no relation to the sign; my heart and mind bleed my Libran mood and ascendant!

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@ Xomelindabelle, He's a Aries sun, Taurus moon, Cancer rising, Venus is Taurus, Mercury in Aries, and Mars in Pisces. He's actually a very nice guy when he's not going through butter.

Posted by LillyBlossom
I hate passive aggressive jokes rooted in truths. If someone
Is annoyed at me for not responding, just state so instead of disguising it within a "joke" and a repeated joke at that.

LillyBlossom, it's a mutual joke that we always use and have been using for 3 years now, and he has always laughed and never taken offense to it, not to mention he asked me did I think he was talking to someone else....and I said no......I don't understand why he would toss that out there. He know I trust him and know that he's a workaholic. I just don't get why the sudden coldness, but i'm learning and I thank you all for the insight.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
We react weirdly when we're hurt. If we think you're detaching from us especially...we will turn kind of cold towards the situation as a defense mechanism.

He felt you were never gonna talk to him and then you told him how he hurt you and he apologized.

You need to be a little bit more warmer to him so he knows it's okay to come back around. It might seem backwards but that's the only thing that's going to work. He has his tail between his legs. He needs to know you still want him before he tries to fix it.

@ Twodrinkminimum, I really don't know why he felt that I never wanted to talk to him....and I didn't tell him that he hurt my feeling....I just told him how I felt about him provoking me to curse him out after he went off on me. I'm always warm and nurturing to him even when he's cold and detached with me......I always tend to give in and that's not fair to me. He know he's my love at first sight and the love of my life, so he know i'll always try to fix it, but he need to meet me half way. I really don't think that's much to ask for.

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@ Xomelindabelle, I have a Libra moon, Venus is in Libra, Jupiter is in Libra and Uranus in Libra. He is really breaking my heart and it seems like he don't even care....I know he love me because he always tell me, so that's why I don't understand this behavior. I'm like the average female because I give him his space and keep myself busy doing my own thing. But it's only so much I can take before I just walk away and 'NEVER LOOK BACK". I'm literally in tears because I don't understand why i'm getting this treatment.......this is so unfair. ;(

Wow, yeah you're going to be very open emotionally, so it hurts when a very Arian person acts unaffected. However, it's easy for you to acclimate to someone's need for space. But I know you're probably aching that during that distance. It's crazy, Libras will require and create space, but it still hurts. Especially if we feel a disconnect. At least, for me. it does.
I understand you being in tears, I am a lot 😛 especially over my romantic connections.
Just give it a day or two and then say your piece, if he doesn't listen to you, tell him you're thinking of ending it. You need to be respected.

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@ Xomelindabelle, i'm so glad you know how I feel....it's crazy. Sometimes I just want to breakdown and cry in front of him and let him hold me, but I know he'll see that as a sign of weakness, so I just hold it together for peace sake.

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Posted by LillyBlossom
@OP, it's not you, it's him. Aries can be such sons of bitches.

It depends on their placements; I've certainly met some who were missing a sensitivity chip. And I've wanted to bitch slap them. I'm an Aries sun with little to no relation to the sign; my heart and mind bleed my Libran mood and ascendant!

@ Xomelindabelle, He's a Aries sun, Taurus moon, Cancer rising, Venus is Taurus, Mercury in Aries, and Mars in Pisces. He's actually a very nice guy when he's not going through butter.

Mars in Pisces is very passive aggressive. More so than Mars in Cancer. He was probably bothered by your joke over the last 3 years but put it aside for the sake of the relationship as "not important enough to get mad about". However the recent events in your relationship brought it up again to the surface and this time he went off.

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@ Rambunctious76, what you stated about him being passive aggressive make so much sense with my Aries. Heaven knows hurting him is the last thing that I want to do, so I will never say our mutual joke to him again......ever. I hate arguing as well as confrontation of any kind with anybody, being that my Mars is in Leo....lol ! I just pray that we can go back to the way we were from the beginning.....I love him with all of my heart.

You have to communicate your love just as much and with as much passion as you communicate your anger.

It is a logical conclusion that after a blow up, that the relationship is over. In essence, it is over until there is a make up.

I see that the conversation was about time not spent with each other. It appears that for him, work and his children has gotten in the way of time spent with you. After a divorce, there are some major issues involving your children and finances. Your comment, joke about another woman wasn't well received in this context and perhaps that particular day. He may feel pulled in many directions, too many obligations, weary from work. The arguement and your comment was probably the straw that broke the camels back.

Perhaps in his marriage, he failed to explore his wife's dark side. He wants to really get to know who you are. So far, you have stated the you never apologize, you are stubborn, and have a temper.

With all he is having to manage in his life, how would you actually fit in? Another problem to deal with? Or, the delight of his life?

How you manage conflict is an important assessment as well.

He's thinking.... that's what he's doing.

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You have to communicate your love just as much and with as much passion as you communicate your anger.

It is a logical conclusion that after a blow up, that the relationship is over. In essence, it is over until there is a make up.

I see that the conversation was about time not spent with each other. It appears that for him, work and his children has gotten in the way of time spent with you. After a divorce, there are some major issues involving your children and finances. Your comment, joke about another woman wasn't well received in this context and perhaps that particular day. He may feel pulled in many directions, too many obligations, weary from work. The arguement and your comment was probably the straw that broke the camels back.

Perhaps in his marriage, he failed to explore his wife's dark side. He wants to really get to know who you are. So far, you have stated the you never apologize, you are stubborn, and have a temper.

With all he is having to manage in his life, how would you actually fit in? Another problem to deal with? Or, the delight of his life?

How you manage conflict is an important assessment as well.

He's thinking.... that's what he's doing.

@ VenusAquarius, thanks for you insight ! I think I probably over communicate my love to this guy and with great passion. Keep in mind that this was our first argument and he was the one who started it, as well as bringing up about me thinking that he's probably talking to another woman (he said that not me) because honestly, I don't think he's talking to anyone, and never have thought that. I know my place with him and I love the fact that he's a father that spend as much time possible with his kids, he's a great father. I just feel that he should take blame for his own behavior toward me, because I take responsibility for mines. We are both stubborn as hell and both have temper, but I think he have me beat in both areas, because as a Libra with 4 placement in that sign, I am more of the peacemaker. One thing I do know is he love me dearly, so that keeps me going.

I think he just needs a bit of space...rams are like cancers in that sense..we need alone time when we're emotional

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I think he just needs a bit of space...rams are like cancers in that sense..we need alone time when we're emotional

@ Biosynthesis, I give him his alone time and then some. As a Leo, I love my me time too. Thanks for your insight !

"UPDATE ON MY ARIES GUY" PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT HE IS THINKING ! So he texted me the other night and this is how the conversation went..
*Him - Hey Kelli, how are u doing ?
*Me - I'm fine, but seriously missing you.
*Him - So when do you want to talk (in person).
*Me - It doesn't matter to me.
*Him - Well I didn't know how your schedule was.
*Me - Just call me.
So, he call me and we meet up after he get off work, he seems a little stand offish and begin to question me, asking me things like, can you tell me how do you feel about me. So I looked at him and told him that I honestly think that you love and care about me more than you say, I think your more attached to me and don't want me to know it, so that's why you ignore me and often turn from hot and cold, from time to time.... he sat and nodded his head. I also told him that he's very impatient, selfish, loving, and confusing at time. He then turned and asked me to tell him what do I think he think of me.....i'm like HUH....WTF, is that about. I told him he should be telling me what he think about me.....He restated with AUTHORITY, what do you think I think about you. I answered; I said I think you know I love and care about you, I think you think i'm very needy and clingy.....He immediately stopped me and said.....NO I KNOW YOU'RE NOT NEEDY OR CLINGY ......lol, that was funny to me. I said I think you think i'm nosy or interfere a lot, he said he think being nosy is just a woman's thing because we always want to know what's going on in every situation. I told him that's all I could think of. He stated that I was right about what he thinks of me and he will try to work on what I said about him, i'm still VERY CONFUSED about that. He hugged me and told me he love me and that he was attached, then he immediately turned cold again(and was ready to leave), and I haven't heard from him.....SMDH, what should I do being that he haven't responded to the one text that I sent him, he's so damn confusing at times....I do EVERYTHING RIGHT with him, I give him his space, I answer all of his questions, and everything else.....I just really believe that he's still testing me, I don't know why, but that's how I feel. Aries men and women please feel free to give insight .

woah..idk what to say about this. What are his placements, do you know them? If he had any capricorn in his chart I could help explain that.....

Posted by LillyBlossom
That was awkward as heck. The text convo was patient and you definitely came off as standoffish to me.

I remember my Virgo once asked me, "Why do you speak in code?" I could feel myself retreating and I asked, "What do you mean?" "You speak in code. Sometimes you say things or you ask things, and I don't know if it's because it's what you actually think, or if it's because you want to lead me to say something you want to hear." "Why do you think I do that?" "See? You're doing it now...To protect yourself. I think you do it to protect your thoughts." I immediately changed the subject.

I often ask things to help me organize my own thoughts. I often get so lost inside myself, that it's virtually impossible for me to consider another side. By understanding other people's perception, it helps validate or clarify my own. I also often ask things to confirm what I already know. Or I ask things when I feel anxious as a way to push back and divert the focus. I also ask things to distract myself from facing my own feelings, fears, or insecurities. You're smart. You know everyone's got opinions and advice. And you know you don't have to follow any single one.

Cut him off.

@ LillyBlossom, I just don't understand ! He know I love him with all my heart, but I really don't understand why he want to control everything single thing in this relationship...so unfair; he want to control when he respond to my texts and calls, he want to control when we see each other and spend time together, just every damn thing and i'm tired of it, and i'm trying my hardest not to cut him off, but my heart can't take to much more. This is so disrespectful to me, and he seem so oblivious at times to all of it. SMDH, I just don't know.

Posted by biosynthesis
woah..idk what to say about this. What are his placements, do you know them? If he had any capricorn in his chart I could help explain that.....

@ Biosynthesis, here is his chart, I really don't know if it's gonna do any good at this point because the Leo and Libra in me is telling me to pick up my confused and broken heart and walk away. Planetary positions
planet sign degree motion
Sun Aries 23°08'49 in house 10 direct
Moon Taurus 16°08'52 in house 11 direct
Mercury Aries 17°31'53 in house 10 direct
Venus Taurus 29°43'58 in house 11 direct
Mars Pisces 1°27'07 in house 8 direct
Jupiter Aries 6°15'27 in house 9 direct
Saturn Cancer 12°47'02 in house 12 direct
Uranus Scorpio 0°45'58 in house 4 retrograde
Neptune Sagittarius 11°33'09 in house 5 retrograde
Pluto Libra 7°28'16 end of house 3 retrograde
True Node Sagittarius 1°17'30 in house 5 retrograde
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Cancer 20°55'56
2nd House Leo 13°23'05
3rd House Virgo 9°03'38
Imum Coeli Libra 9°50'28
5th House Scorpio 14°47'50
6th House Sagittarius 19°35'32
Descendant Capricorn 20°55'56
8th House Aquarius 13°23'05
9th House Pisces 9°03'38
Medium Coeli Aries 9°50'28
11th House Taurus 14°47'50
12th House Gemini 19°35'32

Major aspects
Sun Conjunction Mercury 5°37
Sun Opposition Uranus 7°37
Sun Square Ascendant 2°13
Moon Sextile Saturn 3°22
Moon Sextile Ascendant 4°47
Mercury Square Saturn 4°45
Mercury Trine Neptune 5°59
Mercury Square Ascendant 3°24
Venus Square Mars 1°43
Venus Quincunx Uranus 1°02
Mars Trine Uranus 0°41
Jupiter Trine Neptune 5°18
Jupiter Opposition Pluto 1°13
Saturn Quincunx Neptune 1°14
Saturn Square Pluto 5°19
Neptune Sextile Pluto 4°05
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).

ohhh ok he has a venus in taurus like me. Let me explain something. When you have this placement, its domicile, BUT, the flip side is we are very very cautious to the point where we have a hard time trusting people. We also have the same mercury, I have a capricorn moon though. I think earth moons need concrete evidence to prove that the other person cares...maybe he misconstrued some of your actions. Also he might actually be more sensitive than he is letting on, and wants to appear "macho" to you. I think the more you question him, the more he suspects or thinks that you actually are thinking of ending it. Don't try and over analyze his actions, he is a straightforward person. He does care for you and vice versa, but I think the misunderstanding here is you showing him that you are confused. I think the confusion to him is equivalent to you thinking about leaving him. Aries are intuitive in terms of energy, and we feel and pick up on what the other person is feeling instantly. I think he feels your nervous energy, but he might be misreading that as you being frustrated. I think the best thing in this case is letting him have his space, and after that openly communicating…..but not curt texts like last time..this time talk for REAL. This is pretty common with Aries men when they realize they truly care for someone, they freak out because they're not used revealing their emotions or being vulnerable in front of people. Don't fret, you guys will be ok. He just wants to make SURE, that this is something in the long run. Take this as a compliment. You're the real deal, so he wants to also make sure he is WORTHY. Another thing, aries people need to feel like they are good enough for their significant other. Again, you will be fine hun, he cares for you. Don’t doubt that.

Posted by feby
Listen. There is some weird standstill going on right now and he's feeling crunchy. I do believe he loves you but he's wants to hear it from you. He might be afraid that you've changed or will change on him especially because you said it's your first fight. He may be very hurt or surprised by what you've brought to his attention....the things you don't like about him.

I.e. You mauled the guy lioness. So just have some really good make up sex and beat your soul to him. He's waiting for you to show him already. That's why he kept asking how you feel. Show him.

@ Feby, he know I love him, I have proven my love to him in more ways than one, and he has not done it for me. He loves on me one minute and then he ignores and treats me cold the next couple of weeks. What about me and my feelings ? It's like he can ask me a million and one question and I answer and he changes the subject when I ask him one. I don't know what to do, because how can you claim to love someone minute and then show them you don't the next. I would never do a person like that and i'm tired of this treatment. Feby, he has bruised this lioness ego, more than once with the aloofness and the constant hot and cold attitude. I have given this man explosive mind blowing sex and has bared my soul for the entire 4 yrs and he continues to treat me in the same manner. It's unfair and this lioness heart can't take it anymore.

Posted by biosynthesis
ohhh ok he has a venus in taurus like me. Let me explain something. When you have this placement, its domicile, BUT, the flip side is we are very very cautious to the point where we have a hard time trusting people. We also have the same mercury, I have a capricorn moon though. I think earth moons need concrete evidence to prove that the other person cares...maybe he misconstrued some of your actions. Also he might actually be more sensitive than he is letting on, and wants to appear "macho" to you. I think the more you question him, the more he suspects or thinks that you actually are thinking of ending it. Don't try and over analyze his actions, he is a straightforward person. He does care for you and vice versa, but I think the misunderstanding here is you showing him that you are confused. I think the confusion to him is equivalent to you thinking about leaving him. Aries are intuitive in terms of energy, and we feel and pick up on what the other person is feeling instantly. I think he feels your nervous energy, but he might be misreading that as you being frustrated. I think the best thing in this case is letting him have his space, and after that openly communicating…..but not curt texts like last time..this time talk for REAL. This is pretty common with Aries men when they realize they truly care for someone, they freak out because they're not used revealing their emotions or being vulnerable in front of people. Don't fret, you guys will be ok. He just wants to make SURE, that this is something in the long run. Take this as a compliment. You're the real deal, so he wants to also make sure he is WORTHY. Another thing, aries people need to feel like they are good enough for their significant other. Again, you will be fine hun, he cares for you. Don’t doubt that.

Thanks Biosynthesis ! But we did actually have that conversation in person, after he got off work, and he was the one asking me ALL OF THE QUESTIONS, but he wouldn't let me ask him any. He know I LOVE HIM DEARLY and I have ALWAYS SHOWN HIM. I always give him his space, I surprise him with gifts (things I hear him mention), I stroke his ego from time to time, I let him be right, even when I know he's wrong. I just don't know what else to do, because my Leo sun and Libra moon heart can't take to much more. I pray it works out for us because i'm about r

Opps, I meant to say: I pray it works out for us because i'm about ready to throw the towel in.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
His moon in Taurus is steady. He's not going to make any sudden movements one way or another. This is really frustrating...trust me, I feel your pain. Coupled with a pisces Mars, making him super passive as well.

If you really have feelings for him I would say stick it out and try to keep your patience with him. His chart doesn't look like one who is going to chase you or make the first moves though. Which goes along with what you've said about always being the one who smooths things over.

If he didn't care, I doubt he'd ask to speak with you. If you have pretty good history with him for 3 years, I don't think he'd just start playing games out of the blue. His weird behavior is after a fight and he's a little bit shaken up about it.

Repeat again:moon in taurus is as slow as molasses but just when you're about ready to give up....they'll take a baby step towards progress. Don't give up.

Thanks Twodrinkmimimum for your insight. I'm so glad that you all were able to shed some light on this guy for me because God knows that I am so tired of going through some of this butter, but I love him and maybe that's why i'm being so patient, and he has thanked me for that in the past as well. I guess, i'll try to wait it out a little while longer. I'll also post my chart and you guys can see if we are truly compatible, which I think we are but here it is below.
Planetary positions
planet sign degree motion
Sun Leo 15°49'29 in house 9 direct
Moon Libra 27°43'59 in house 11 direct
Mercury Virgo 11°59'59 in house 10 direct
Venus Libra 0°25'46 in house 10 direct
Mars Leo 13°48'57 in house 9 direct
Jupiter Libra 29°05'41 in house 11 direct
Saturn Taurus 21°59'24 in house 6 direct
Uranus Libra 6°02'35 in house 10 direct
Neptune Scorpio 28°07'19 in house 12 stationary 🍹
Pluto Virgo 25°43'48 in house 10 direct
True Node Pisces 2°53'25 in house 3 direct

House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Sagittarius 2°14'54
2nd House Capricorn 2°51'00
3rd House Aquarius 6°44'05
Imum Coeli Pisces 11°29'20
5th House Aries 12°57'28
6th House Taurus 9°26'32
Descendant Gemini 2°14'54
8th House Cancer 2°51'00
9th House Leo 6°44'05
Medium Coeli Virgo 11°29'20
11th House Libra 12°57'28
12th House Scorpio 9°26'32

Major aspects
Sun Conjunction Mars 2°01
Sun Square Saturn 6°10
Moon Conju

Here's the rest of MY chart. Feel free to interpret it.

Major aspects
Sun Conjunction Mars 2°01
Sun Square Saturn 6°10
Moon Conjunction Jupiter 1°22
Venus Conjunction Uranus 5°37
Venus Sextile Neptune 2°18
Venus Conjunction Pluto 4°42
Venus Sextile Ascendant 1°49
Saturn Trine Pluto 3°44
Uranus Sextile Ascendant 3°48
Neptune Sextile Pluto 2°24
Neptune Conjunction Ascendant 4°08
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).

I didn't mean actually question him..I mean the way you are doing it now...I think he can feel like you are conflicted and confused, due to his intuitive nature. I think the best thing to do is be patient like twodrink said, and trust that you will be together.