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LeoxGirl
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Hola guys!

Leo woman here.

I've been seeing this Aries guy for almost a year now, and I still can't understand him.

I ignore him, he comes running after me, texting me loads of love declarations "I love you. I miss you. I'll change, I promise. Let me prove it to you. Just give me another chance, I can't get you out of my mind!" I give him the slightest bit of attention, and he'd ask me "Why do you love me?" I'm like "Who the fck told you I love you?" Which he answers by "Everyone knows that". Or "Who are you and what did you do to my girl? Since when have you been so sweet? I liked the old you better, I don't like when shit gets too serious."

It's like he's scared of commitment. But the minute he sees me leave, all of a sudden he's having panick attacks. Oh, and he has everything to say about me and how I live my life. I'm a barmaid (he met me like that) but now, all of a sudden I drink too much, I party too much, I go out too much. I'm too young and I'll probably fuck it up. (im 22, he's 32)

He calls and texts everyday and he always wants to sleep on the phone. He gave me his BMW since my car's in the garage. He opens up a lot more to me now than what he did in the begining, but the minute shit gets too deep, he freaks out and throws a nasty comment to put me back to my place. And when I stop answering him, he calls me saying he's sorry and that I'm too sensitive, borderline paranoid. Really?

How do I get this somewhat lovable prick to get his shit straight?
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later, but once he is committed all that insanity should be gone. It is all about trust with us.
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LeoxGirl
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Ah the eternal loveable prick of sorts. I think it's hot and hilarious when someone is *rude* which yeah it's prob weird.

They do love to chase and they like to prove themselves too.

I think the longer you're together the more he will warm up.


He is impossible to deal with ?

I understand the chasing thing, which is why I do my best to give him and myself a LOT of space, but man is it exausting!!
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!

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I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
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LeoxGirl
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
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I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...

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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...

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Yes he should

I was with one and after 6 months he declared his love for me...he chased for me five years even though we were together

I wouldn't have your patience and you are worth more than this

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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...

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Okay that is intense a full year? and he wants you to wait 3 more years. Yes you are being more mature then him. It is just cruel to hold onto you like that for that long without a commitment. Maybe make it clear either commit or go. He might not like it, and if he decides to go that might mean to cut all ties, because you have to think about yourself and how this will effect you long term.
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...


Okay that is intense a full year? and he wants you to wait 3 more years. Yes you are being more mature then him. It is just cruel to hold onto you like that for that long without a commitment. Maybe make it clear either commit or go. He might not like it, and if he decides to go that might mean to cut all ties, because you have to think about yourself and how this will effect you long term.

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I'm waiting for him to come back from vacation, and it's the first thing I'm going to do. Honestly this whole time I haven't said anything because of my pride. I didn't want to be the one to chase after a commitment. & I was fine with how things were, but right now I just feel like I need more. A year ago I had just got out from a 4 year relationship, so it was out of question for me to jump into another one. Him on the other side, had just got out of a 9 year relationship!! So I can't begin to imagine how he feels about being in one! That's why I gave it time, because we both needed it. Even right now, I feel like I'm gonna rush him..but I want to start thinking about my own emotional needs instead of always thinking of his.

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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...


Yes he should

I was with one and after 6 months he declared his love for me...he chased for me five years even though we were together

I wouldn't have your patience and you are worth more than this



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Honestly, the first 6-8 months, I didnt pay much attention to it. I was thinking of him as way to forget my ex and all the toxic that came from that last relationship. I had just started my job as a barmaid , I was meeting new people and I was creating a whole new life for myself. It's just lately that I found myself thinking more and more about him. I wanted to talk to him all the time, but I would never call. I wanted to be with him all the time but I would refuse to see him 60% of the time. The only times I really open myself to him is because of my jealousy... I don't know how to express myself to him because I know that he's just as messed up as I am. I don't want to be vulnerable to him..?

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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...


Yes he should

I was with one and after 6 months he declared his love for me...he chased for me five years even though we were together

I wouldn't have your patience and you are worth more than this




Honestly, the first 6-8 months, I didnt pay much attention to it. I was thinking of him as way to forget my ex and all the toxic that came from that last relationship. I had just started my job as a barmaid , I was meeting new people and I was creating a whole new life for myself. It's just lately that I found myself thinking more and more about him. I wanted to talk to him all the time, but I would never call. I wanted to be with him all the time but I would refuse to see him 60% of the time. The only times I really open myself to him is because of my jealousy... I don't know how to express myself to him because I know that he's just as messed up as I am. I don't want to be vulnerable to him..?

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THIS! Pride and ego clearly in the way. You can't expect to gain something upfront and real if you are toying with expressing what you want also. You sow what you reap love. Speak to him honestly, put it all out there, put your pride aside. He will appreciate it and you will get to the bottom of the issue either way.
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...


Yes he should

I was with one and after 6 months he declared his love for me...he chased for me five years even though we were together

I wouldn't have your patience and you are worth more than this




Honestly, the first 6-8 months, I didnt pay much attention to it. I was thinking of him as way to forget my ex and all the toxic that came from that last relationship. I had just started my job as a barmaid , I was meeting new people and I was creating a whole new life for myself. It's just lately that I found myself thinking more and more about him. I wanted to talk to him all the time, but I would never call. I wanted to be with him all the time but I would refuse to see him 60% of the time. The only times I really open myself to him is because of my jealousy... I don't know how to express myself to him because I know that he's just as messed up as I am. I don't want to be vulnerable to him..?


THIS! Pride and ego clearly in the way. You can't expect to gain something upfront and real if you are toying with expressing what you want also. You sow what you reap love. Speak to him honestly, put it all out there, put your pride aside. He will appreciate it and you will get to the bottom of the issue either way.
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The moment I show myself being vulnerable to him, he throws it all away. He told me he liked me better "before". Which clearly means he doesn't like me sgowing my emotions to him.. but I guess I have no other choice but to talk to him now. If he doesn't like it, too bad, I guess it'll be time to move on for real this time.

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he always wants to sleep on the phone...


Lol.... What?


I know. Lol.

He calls me everybight before he goes to bed, tells me about his day, and when I want to hang up he tells me he likes hearing me sleep. Lmao. Don't ask.
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Omg the aries I am dating does the same. He likes to sleep with me over the video call. (Sadly may be because we are in long distance relationship But I find it sweet.

If only he could handle shit when it gets serious, it would have been a perfect relationship.

But the more I read about aries man they seem to be the most predictable of all signs and at the same time yet so complicated. Like we know what they want from us still they don't allow us to give it to them.They are their worst enemy..
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I ignore him, he comes running after me


Also, the fact that he's in his early 30s and chasing after you says a lot about is maturity. Guys in their 30s chasing after barely 20 somethings are ones to avoid like the plague

He thinks he can control you because you're at that retard age where you let a dude control you and don't know any better.

Just like how you think sticking around with this loser is the thing to do despite obvious red flags.

Then you post stupid bitch shit like "HE'S playing games." Honey, you're playing just as many silly games because that's what silly party sluts your age do.

Go be a party slut and stay away from dudes in their 30s chasing after barely legal brats like yourself. There's a reason why women their age don't want them. You shouldn't either.
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I ignore him, he comes running after me


Also, the fact that he's in his early 30s and chasing after you says a lot about is maturity. Guys in their 30s chasing after barely 20 somethings are ones to avoid like the plague

He thinks he can control you because you're at that retard age where you let a dude control you and don't know any better.

Just like how you think sticking around with this loser is the thing to do despite obvious red flags.

Then you post stupid bitch shit like "HE'S playing games." Honey, you're playing just as many silly games because that's what silly party sluts your age do.

Go be a party slut and stay away from dudes in their 30s chasing after barely legal brats like yourself. There's a reason why women their age don't want them. You shouldn't either.
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I will say,post, and do whatver the fuck I want and an old hag that's obviously hating her shitty ass life is not gonna make me doubt myself. Now you can go back to the shitwhole you come from and stay the hell away from my thres, because your opinion is neither needed or wanted. Bye, and have a good fkn life 🙂

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he always wants to sleep on the phone...


Lol.... What?


I know. Lol.

He calls me everybight before he goes to bed, tells me about his day, and when I want to hang up he tells me he likes hearing me sleep. Lmao. Don't ask.


Omg the aries I am dating does the same. He likes to sleep with me over the video call. (Sadly may be because we are in long distance relationship But I find it sweet.

If only he could handle shit when it gets serious, it would have been a perfect relationship.

But the more I read about aries man they seem to be the most predictable of all signs and at the same time yet so complicated. Like we know what they want from us still they don't allow us to give it to them.They are their worst enemy..


I know!!!!! I think it's really adorable when he does that.

And it's a 100% true. They're their own ennemi, because I can see how much he wants to show me what he really feels, but something keeps on blocking him. Maybe it's his asian origina too who knows? I know asians come from a very conservative culture where showing emotions equals showing weakness. 😢 it sucks. But I'm gonna have to get it out of him one way or the other. I can be really convicing when I want haha 😄

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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...


Yes he should

I was with one and after 6 months he declared his love for me...he chased for me five years even though we were together

I wouldn't have your patience and you are worth more than this




Honestly, the first 6-8 months, I didnt pay much attention to it. I was thinking of him as way to forget my ex and all the toxic that came from that last relationship. I had just started my job as a barmaid , I was meeting new people and I was creating a whole new life for myself. It's just lately that I found myself thinking more and more about him. I wanted to talk to him all the time, but I would never call. I wanted to be with him all the time but I would refuse to see him 60% of the time. The only times I really open myself to him is because of my jealousy... I don't know how to express myself to him because I know that he's just as messed up as I am. I don't want to be vulnerable to him..?


THIS! Pride and ego clearly in the way. You can't expect to gain something upfront and real if you are toying with expressing what you want also. You sow what you reap love. Speak to him honestly, put it all out there, put your pride aside. He will appreciate it and you will get to the bottom of the issue either way.
The moment I show myself being vulnerable to him, he throws it all away. He told me he liked me better "before". Which clearly means he doesn't like me sgowing my emotions to him.. but I guess I have no other choice but to talk to him now. If he doesn't like it, too bad, I guess it'll be time to move on for real this time.

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Hmmm i'm not sure, maybe you are being too emotional about expressing yourself. Men are very black and white, also know when to approach him and talk about this subject, wait for the right timing. Talk clear and calmly, allow him to open up and say whatever he has to say safe in the knowledge you wont lose it or overreact. Try to stay out of your feelings a little. Lol sorry, this maybe easier for a Cap moon to say.
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I ignore him, he comes running after me


Also, the fact that he's in his early 30s and chasing after you says a lot about is maturity. Guys in their 30s chasing after barely 20 somethings are ones to avoid like the plague

He thinks he can control you because you're at that retard age where you let a dude control you and don't know any better.

Just like how you think sticking around with this loser is the thing to do despite obvious red flags.

Then you post stupid bitch shit like "HE'S playing games." Honey, you're playing just as many silly games because that's what silly party sluts your age do.

Go be a party slut and stay away from dudes in their 30s chasing after barely legal brats like yourself. There's a reason why women their age don't want them. You shouldn't either.
I will say,post, and do whatver the fuck I want and an old hag that's obviously hating her shitty ass life is not gonna make me doubt myself. Now you can go back to the shitwhole you come from and stay the hell away from my thres, because your opinion is neither needed or wanted. Bye, and have a good fkn life 🙂


And she's total trash, ladies and gentlemen. Trash that can't spell. What a shocker.

He's just using your vagina, honey. Get used to the idea because apparently that's all your tacky ass is worth.
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Ok.

I speak 4 languages honey and english is not my first language. 🙂 I really don't feel like wasting my precious time on a pathetic soul like yourself. Are you that lonely? Are you missing that much attention? 😢

Funny how lowlives like you start attacking grammar to justify intruding themselves in a conversation where they were not wanted in the first place

Ciao bitch
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haha, sounds like me sometimes. Although maybe he a little more messed up then me.. Anyway. He has trust issues most likely. We overthink things and start thinking shit man maybe this girl isn't the one, maybe she doesn't like me. That's why he is asking you those questions like I thought you loved me? Because he is doubting weither you even like him. The thing that scares us the most is to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with us, or getting used. but I can't stop thinking about her, and we go all insane about it, because we change are minds 73 times in 25 minutes. So I think what you could do is ask him if he has trust problems. Maybe he will open up about it. Honestly, you need a lot of patience with an Aries because we like the long haul. We don't commit unless we think you're the one... The nasty comment is our way to get you to reject us, because if you do then we know you don't actually like us, and we can move on. So in a way it is a test to you. Although we don't even know we are doing it for that reason when we actually do it.

In a way it is a good thing, because he isn't really actually messing around. It might seem like that to most people, but the doubts are legit concerns to convince ourselves that we are making a good choice. We just have the balls to express it, which from out point of view seems perfectly normal, but to everyone else it makes us look unstable. In a way we are though. People say it is cause we like the chase, but it's much more complicated than that. Some may even think our confidence is gone, and in some ways it is gone, but it comes back 10 minutes later.
I understand his trust issues perfectly, especially with my job. But he's constantly pushing me away and my leo pride is getting bruised a lot. He can go as far as telling me he loves me, but then it's like the next day he forgot all about it and starts playing mind games with me. He doesn't want to show anything! It's tiring!!! When I play his game and start to back off too, he would thrpw nasty comments at me like "do you love me?" No. "Then you can just go around and sleep with just anyone even though you don't love them huh?" I'm gonna end up killing him!


I'm not one to through out the "love" word so fast. Some Aries will He is totally into you, the problem is he isn't convinced you feel the same way. He probably isn't in love yet either he just doesn't know that yet. Thats why, Really what you need is to get him to calm down. Be straight with him. If you like him, just say I like you right now, and tell him to chill out a bit. Take more time to get to know each other. Express to him that his behavior is having a negative effect on you, and he needs to cool it off and allow you both to spend normal time together dinner or whatever. If the response isn't good then maybe better to walk away. Try to be tactful with it. Aries needs that chill pill when we get super into someone lol.

We also hate being ignored. That really messes us up big time.
I don't mind the extra love, after all I'm a leo! I just want him to stick to his words. You like me? Good. Just don't flip out the minute you feel like shit's getting serious. When I try to leave he goes nuts. When I try to get closer to him he starts blabling nonsense over and over again. So many times I told him :

To let me go. To stop running after me when he has no intention of being with me. I want to move on, it's been a year already. "You think it's that easy? he says, I like you you're beautiful, and smart and we have so much fun together. Just wait to be 25. You're too young right now there's a lot of things you still have to get out of life..I want to marry you when you're 25."

I feel like he's just looking for an excuse to keep on being with me without the title. I may be young but so far I've been more mature than him in this whole relationship. I admit I can be really cold to him but that's because he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship. I don't know what to do I'm stuck. It's like I want to move on but he won't let me. Plus there's so many things I like about him. I love how straight forward he is, I love how he gets shit done, how smart and composed he is. And I love that he never really gets mad. Always keeps his calm. I admire his ability to just forgive and forget and not keep a grudge...

But god, this has been dragging on for a year. He should have made up his mind by now...


Yes he should

I was with one and after 6 months he declared his love for me...he chased for me five years even though we were together

I wouldn't have your patience and you are worth more than this




Honestly, the first 6-8 months, I didnt pay much attention to it. I was thinking of him as way to forget my ex and all the toxic that came from that last relationship. I had just started my job as a barmaid , I was meeting new people and I was creating a whole new life for myself. It's just lately that I found myself thinking more and more about him. I wanted to talk to him all the time, but I would never call. I wanted to be with him all the time but I would refuse to see him 60% of the time. The only times I really open myself to him is because of my jealousy... I don't know how to express myself to him because I know that he's just as messed up as I am. I don't want to be vulnerable to him..?


THIS! Pride and ego clearly in the way. You can't expect to gain something upfront and real if you are toying with expressing what you want also. You sow what you reap love. Speak to him honestly, put it all out there, put your pride aside. He will appreciate it and you will get to the bottom of the issue either way.
The moment I show myself being vulnerable to him, he throws it all away. He told me he liked me better "before". Which clearly means he doesn't like me sgowing my emotions to him.. but I guess I have no other choice but to talk to him now. If he doesn't like it, too bad, I guess it'll be time to move on for real this time.


Hmmm i'm not sure, maybe you are being too emotional about expressing yourself. Men are very black and white, also know when to approach him and talk about this subject, wait for the right timing. Talk clear and calmly, allow him to open up and say whatever he has to say safe in the knowledge you wont lose it or overreact. Try to stay out of your feelings a little. Lol sorry, this maybe easier for a Cap moon to say.
I'm actually a cap moon myself. 😛

Thank you for your advice you're absolutely right. Thing is, so far I haven't ever said anything that would freak him out. He's kind of pushing me away before I can even try to get close. He says some things that are just so... harsh! So it kind of gets me scared to make a move. It's really hard to explain. :/ But then when he feels like I'm being distant, he gets clingy and needy. I don't know how or when to have this "talk" '.

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He sounds a bit messed up tbh

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"Aries playing games"

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I ignore him, he comes running after me


Also, the fact that he's in his early 30s and chasing after you says a lot about is maturity. Guys in their 30s chasing after barely 20 somethings are ones to avoid like the plague

He thinks he can control you because you're at that retard age where you let a dude control you and don't know any better.

Just like how you think sticking around with this loser is the thing to do despite obvious red flags.

Then you post stupid bitch shit like "HE'S playing games." Honey, you're playing just as many silly games because that's what silly party sluts your age do.

Go be a party slut and stay away from dudes in their 30s chasing after barely legal brats like yourself. There's a reason why women their age don't want them. You shouldn't either.
I will say,post, and do whatver the fuck I want and an old hag that's obviously hating her shitty ass life is not gonna make me doubt myself. Now you can go back to the shitwhole you come from and stay the hell away from my thres, because your opinion is neither needed or wanted. Bye, and have a good fkn life 🙂


And she's total trash, ladies and gentlemen. Trash that can't spell. What a shocker.

He's just using your vagina, honey. Get used to the idea because apparently that's all your tacky ass is worth.
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Neither can you....spell that is

*says a lot about is maturity*

That should be his



Lol
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Ah, as per usual, here you come, proving how immature you really are, despite the little authoritative vibe you try to have around here, pretending to be oh so wise and mature. I can see right through that facade, you catty cuntbag.

A typo does not equate misspelling.

This sad bitch can't even distinguish between "whole" and "hole" let alone spell it horribly (which is what she's thinking with- the hole between her legs). Or "thread." I'm assuming that's what "thres" is. Even with a typo, it's still spelled incorrectly.

The only reason you're siding with this silly twat is because you got slighted by some crazy Aries dude and you don't like me because I call you out on you moronic shit, therefore, you use this little scenario as an excuse to "defend" her for the sole purpose of finding a way to take a dig at me. A weak one at that.

Stick to your silly herbs and fake medicine because you lack common sense all around, just as much as this stupid 22 year old party slut. So while you take silly bitch digs at me, pretending to be oh so mature and better than I am, you really are at the level of this 22 year old girl here.

Congrats.