Can someone help me with this Aries man? 🥴

Hi to all,

I have a co-worker; he is working in another department. One day I accidentaly wrote him a message that was intended for another female colleague. He told me that he is not the person I tried to send a message. We had a short conversation via text and thats it. I ve never seen hil in person due to mobile work. About 4 weeks later he texted me and wanted to know if I‘ve also been at the summer party of our company. I said no and asked if he had been looking for me with a smiley face. Then he said: yes, of course I have that 😜😁 We wrote a little together again. One day he suggested we go out to eat together during lunch break. I said we could do that after my vacation. But there were still a few weeks until my vacation. I didn't get in touch and neither did he. Well, last week I got a promotion, which he saw. He wrote to me that day and congratulated me on the promotion. I thanked him and he asked how my vacation was. I said my vacation is only just beginning. Then he said: oh, you said we'd only go out to eat after your vacation. Then we wrote all day again. The problem with our communication is that we have never met in person and so far we have only written. One moment we get along great and then all of a sudden we have discussions with each other and he reacts totally stubborn and like he's right about everything and I'm wrong. He himself is very sensitive to criticism or words that only sound like criticism but aren't. when I tell him where he's wrong he immediately pushes the blame back, which has often resulted in me just not responding.

So my question is: what does this man actually want from me? I've never had such a complicated colleague relationship with a person and if I didn't get along with someone or vice versa, then we didn't write to each other privately or no longer. I have to say that he has often struck me with his words. It is also important to say: when we write, it is not on a business level. We don't have any projects together. Why is he texting me if he doesn't like me anyway? I told him my opinion once and he just replied: I can't help it if you interpret something that isn't there... the statement was based on the fact that I told him that he always blocks discussions and so cold to me

Another piece of information: a colleague of mine told me that he has an affinity for women…

Thank you for your help! 🥴😂

I'm trying to understand why you didn't go out to lunch with him when he asked you. You said you would go after your vacation but your vacay was 2 weeks away. Why didn't you go to lunch sometime during those first 2 weeks? Why do you think he doesn't like you? Aries will make it known if they don't like you. Just because you guys have disagreements in conversation doesn't mean he doesn't like you.

Ask him what he wants from you

you don't sound compatible but maybe okay for a friendship so just like chill. men know how to be friends better than women anyway.

i've habitually lunched with a male co-worker before in a previous workplace and all I can remember was food, playing mario kart on his switch and him giving me a kogoro mouri card.

now we've both got kids and we still talk maybe 2-3 times a year about how genius that guy from pawn stars was for not selling off his pokemon cards to rick. maybe i'd even make him godfather to my kids.

My advice is to reread every single comment before my a again and again until it sinks in.

P.S. Only a fraction of communication is verbal. When you don't know each other there is a lot to be misinterpreted.

Tonality, cultural cues, and body language.

After you get to know and understand someone you can automatically and understand them from just words alone through mental projects of them .

That takes time.

Now go ask him out for lunch already😝

Ask him if he wants to go out for lunch/dinner.

It’s 2023 ~ women are allowed to make the first move…

Imagine living in an era where we had to “wait” to be asked 🥴. My Aries rising would never have survived that 😂

Sigh. I miss the threads where people needed advice after being ghosted after putting out on the first date. My advice to you, is meet for lunch and find out if there is an attraction in person before you start worrying about him liking you when he has never met you.

I feel like you made a mess of someone who’s been very nice tbh.

You over complicated even grabbing lunch.

I don’t think Aries ppl are for you.